Should I take him back? | Talks with Tony

hey hey tony guys here popping in another quick video for you today now i'm gonna try to start keeping these talks with tony's to 30 minutes that's gonna be my goal nah some of y'all happy about that some of y'all upset about that i see i see it both ways but i'ma try to do 30 minutes unless it's just a whole lot of meat in there and i just got to keep going you know because it's so many points so if he got a good amount of meat and potatoes then i got to get through it but some of these you know it's some of it could be light and so we'll try to keep the 30 minutes and the reason why i say that is so that i can answer more of them because i my goal i would like to answer two of them a day have one go up in midday round noon one o'clock something like that before 4 p.m and then another one go up around like 9 00 p.m it's eastern time florida time so google what time is it in florida right now if you're not in florida so that way on the east coast then so that way you'll know what time i'll be shooting for no promises on that but just what i'm shooting for dear tony gaskins i do not know what's going on with my relationship so here we go my boyfriend 26 and i 21 have been together for one year and eight months three months after we started dating i found out that he had been texting his ex of four years trying to get back with her they broke up because he decided to take a cruise with his baby mama we got past that but over the time we have been together i found out that he was on four to five dating apps not only texting women but in communication with a couple trying to arrange a threesome also i saw that on the app he texted someone named derek hey but the person never responded i have asked him if he is gay or is into both genders and he responded no we recently broke up for a month because of his best friend who he describes as a transgender his best friend is still trying to figure herself out however i see it as just another female best friend this is his second female best friend since we have been together his current best friend has been getting a lot of his time and attention ever since they met each other he claims that he has to be there for her because of his friend she has anxiety and she has had three suicide attempts since they have been friends 2020 makes it one year since they have been friends i try to be understanding but i constantly feel like he's emotionally cheating with her and i feel he cares for her because last year he and his best friend was pulled over by an officer and he took the charge for her because he said his best friend won't have last in jail so i had put up 900 and she put up 100 to bail him out because that was all she had she has told him plenty of times that she loves him and is texting him all day and night not to mention they work together 40 plus hours a week i have mentioned to him plenty of times that i find these texts to be inappropriate but he said that he talked to her about it yet nothing changed i broke up with him last month when he packed all his things and left after an argument his female friend she is only into women informed me that he had told her months ago that he had sex with his best friend and when i asked him was that true he just said people are trying to ruin his happiness because they're miserable i then found out that in the past he had been getting hotel rooms with his best friend but he said that they were never alone and that his brother always stayed with him his whole circle has met and chilled with his best friend including his son and he has met slash chilled with all his best friend family members they love him and often invite him over recently i ran into his best friend and she asked to talk to me for a minute but my lyft driver had a ride my car in the shop so i could not talk to her it's been a week since i messaged his best friend asking what she wanted to talk about yet i haven't received a response i'm nervous because i just got back with him after 30 days of him constantly texting and calling me pleading for us to work out now we're back together it's like i have to constantly ask for him to spend time with me and i can't chill with him because he is sleeping on the couch of his brother's ex-girlfriend's house our relationship is a mess can this be fixed and is it even worth it i don't know if i'm being stupid or if this part of the process because a lot of relationships are worse oh are they well uh susan well i'll tell you what i read these every day almost and it ain't too many out of red worse than this it is not i'm you probably in the top five for several reasons for several reasons oh so all right okay all right my goodness oh my goodness now now the interesting thing is is that um y'all be having questions don't you y'all be having questions like you know sometimes just to me just on the outside looking in i'd be like you confused about that but i get it you know i get it when you on the inside you can't really see it you can't really see it but from the outside looking in i'm uh okay so what we'll do [Music] you know i'm gonna take it easy on you because you're 21 years old so that mean you still a baby wet behind the ears still got simmer like on your mouth you know spring chicken 21 years old the first red flag here is he 26 he's five years older than you you don't need a man five years older than even though it's inside of the age range but to be five years older than you and you going through all this right here that's a huge red flag y'all been together one year in eight months three months after y'all started dating you found out he had been texting his ex of four years trying to get back with her so right there that sentence we'll go through this sentence by sentence and hopefully we'll be done by 30 minutes right there what that says is he does not want you did not want you you were a rebound you are a rebound relationship and that's why he was texting his ex of four years he never intended to be with you never intended to love you never intended to treat you right you literally are a band-aid and a rebound okay make that understand very clear they broke up because he decided to take a cruise with his baby mama okay he had a woman for four years and wasted four years of her life and could not do her right because he still had a soul tie with his baby mama he's also a taker and he a fiend for the money his baby mama was taking a cruise and offered to have him go with her he could not afford to miss that vacation so he gave his girlfriend a four years his behind two kiss and told her i'm going on a vacation with my baby mama the fact that his baby mama knew he was in a full-fledged relationship because it's been four years that he was with that woman the fact that his baby mama knew he was in a relationship and wanted to take him on the cruise then that lets you know his baby mama is low class then this woman of four years she let him waste four years of her time and he was probably the same man the whole time and him going on that cruise was the straw that broke the camel's back so he has a type that he likes to pick he likes to pick women that don't know any better you fall in line with that because all that you putting up with and a million red flags and you ignoring them and you getting back with him he liked to pick y'all who he could tell don't know anything about love and relationships it ain't your fault if you you don't have anybody to teach you but that's what he like to sniff out and once he find that he wants you we got past that but over time we've been together i found out that he was on four to five dating apps not only texting women but in communication with a couple trying to arrange a threesome also i saw that on the app he texted someone named derek now let's stop on this first part now listen to he wasn't on one out one on two outs one on three outs was on four to five alps and he trying to arrange a threesome but who is the reason why because you had to find out that he was on the out so if the reason was supposed to be with you you would already know he on the alps fishing and throwing the line out there trying to hook y'all something to bring on into y'all bedroom but the fact that you surprised that he was on the fortified apps it's like you didn't approve the threesome and the three one for you because if you cool with that and that's what you about to be a part of then that would be the next play okay so you cool with it cool so i'm gonna get on the alps plenty of sharks dumble and all this right here i'm gonna get on the out so that we can find us something you shocked and surprised to heal now so that let me so that right there says to me that he owned out and he cheating on you full fledge he full-fledged cheating on you also i saw that on the app he text someone named derek hey but the person never responded now listen i don't think i don't met a woman named derek now i know everybody you might know one some of y'all might know one listen i've been living my whole life and don't know a single woman named there so that right there okay he all right how you on a dating app as a man and you messaging me all right okay now all right i have asked him if he is a or into both genders and he responded no now i'm gonna tell right here if you ask a 100 percent heterosexual man is he gay that is uh that is what a man does what a woman and what a man does what a with a man is two totally different things so a man who only likes women is not going to just simply say no no no no no a man who just like women that ain't the answer you going to get if you ask him are you gay for you to get just that simple no and he messaged derek on the app [Music] we recently broke up for a month because of his best friend who he describes as a transgender his best friend is still trying to figure herself out now it's who he described as that a lot of people don't know the terminologies and what they really mean now for him to describe her as that what that mean to me and the fact that he messaged there and the fact that he's trying to set up a reason that you didn't know nothing about because you would have knew he was on the apps if you approve the reason and he messaged derek so him and derek was going to be with the friend however i see it as just another female best friend not if she got a dangling if she got a dangling that is a man that is a man and she may call herself a woman and it sounds like to me she still got a dang lane because you said she's still trying to figure herself out if she got no alien and she then went through the procedure then he wouldn't have to describe her as a transgender she would be a transgender and she would still be trying to figure herself out if the anger ain't were gone so context clues let me know she at an angle your boyfriend on the app messaging derek for a reason with the friend her who got a a lane [Music] you got a lot going on in here now you got a lot going on in here and this and you mentioned not a thing about abstinence so you allowing him to put that that he had now with all of this here going on you allow him to put that into you testing testing casting then can you hear me now verizon att can you hear me now [Music] sprint next tail black bear can you hear me now come on now come on now oh my goodness [Music] and uh honestly i would think this is a fake letter but this is a real email and this is a real young lady right here i see her picture right there if you got a gmail account you put a picture they allow you to upload a picture i'm looking right here at a picture now it is just a little bitty circle that be on gmail so when i be looking at y'all picture i can't really see much but this here picture look like very similar to the late great uh god rest hustle allele the style and all the way down to the complexion and 21 years old so still a baby and you got this here man oh my goodness oh well look here i often shoot two of these today i don't know if i'm gonna be able to shoot no because this right here sister everything ain't coming i know they say everything ain't common meaning this ain't common knowledge this is obviously not common knowledge if all of this right here going on and you don't have sirens going off in your head 24 hours a day with all these red flags right here sister you shouldn't be able to sleep with all these red flags it should just be alarms going off in your head all day like you sitting in a firehouse and an alarm that went off it it just that's what your head ought to sound like with just with just this first look few sentences right here come on man come on now this is his second female best friend since we have been together his current best friend has been getting a lot of his time and attention ever since they met he claims that he has to be there for his friend because she had anxiety and she had three uh uh attempts since they have been friends 2020 makes it one year since they have been friends i try to be understanding but i constantly feel like he's emotionally cheating with her and i feel he cares for her because last year he and his best friend were pulled over by an officer and he took the charge because his best friend wouldn't have lasted in jail [Music] see that right there that person right there is who he need to be in a relationship with that's who he in relationship he's not in a relationship with you he's in a relationship with her you don't take no charge for no friend of a year he in a relationship with her you is the side piece see you to cover up and i remember i remember when i was in the streets i met a man like this right here i was in the streets i met a man like this and this man he you know he was dark skinned he had he probably was my height he probably was an inch or two shorter than me he had braids he had braids in his hair he looked it like you know like a man like like like a street dude almost he looked like street dude almost and um he would always be with this little crew and the one what he went on was like a guy who was flamboyantly you know gay and just the kind of guy that you know do a little mouth noise and flipping the hands and just oh and so he the guy i don't know where i met him at could have been at the gas station or somewhere and you know i just had it you know that that gas i used to just put it in people knows hey oh yeah i got it and so i was out there hustling and um i don't know how i met a guy really i can't remember but one on was this guy who was a gay guy the other one was a tall um light skinned tranjana okay but that surgery is not cheap so i know the person ain't having no surgery because i just tell about a car they riding in and all of that i i and i don't know what the surgery calls but i just know ain't nothing cheap in no medical office when you're going from a uh a lane to this okay when you switch it from a hot dog to a taco bell them doctors gonna charge so i know that this here other person and they look click was a man but dressed like a woman had a little stubble on the chin a little stubble on the chin out of apple that was a man and then you know the guy was my client he looked it like it there was no signs with him like you know sometimes you have men who like men and they'll they will kind of show these signs and kind of just they'll talk like a woman and even though they're a man they'll talk like a woman and have mannerisms and stuff like a woman and so you say okay all right i get where you're going with that they'll play what but this guy here he just he didn't have any kind of ways about him and one day i'm sitting at my apartment and i always just kind of confused by the little click and then everybody would hang out everybody was like that like everybody was like swapping genders or something and they used to all be together and they used you know buy from me for their little hangout for their little party and one day i'm sitting there and i'm sitting now i'm having to be out by myself an apartment and i ain't saying a lot i was sitting on the taller school i'm sitting down and we used to have a flip phone back then so i got my phone flipped and you know i'm texting i get a text message from the gentleman it's say hey [Music] um it says something i can't remember how it led into it but what i remember it said i want to know if i could give you it yeah [Music] singing on the microphone i want to know if i could get you and i i dropped my phone my phone dropped out by hand i was like whoa what did i just read you me and i picked up the phone and you know i'm not a nasty guy i'm not a rude guy nothing like that and i say brother you know i really don't i don't get down i don't move like that whatever the word was back then you know i don't mind selling to y'all you and your crew but i don't move like that and then the response was i promise you it'll be better than you've ever received from any girl and you will never want another girl again that's what the response was i said again bro that is not me i do not play around like that then the person said oh then the guy said oh i'm sorry um oh i'm sorry i'm i'm drunk i'm at my mama house and i'm drunk and i ain't mean to send that i'd never heard from the guy again because that was i guess he was so embarrassed because he probably was like man i'm gonna shoot this hill shot and i used to get that a lot different times because my eyes were lighter my eyes i had a lighter color eyes and it's kind of like guys get put in a box so if you look like a oh gorilla don't nobody question your sexuality but if something is off about you you got a lighter color eyes or you light skin or something like that men go get i was just listening to a rapper he said i'm light skinned so i had to toughen up like i had to learn how to fight on the um soundtrack of the movie the black panther movie that just came out they got a soundtrack i was listening to one of the songs in the rapper named uh g herbal he said that then he saw him light-skinned so i had to toughen up and i was like man well he ain't lying because when you just some on you that a guy look at you and say oh um yeah you don't look like the back of a 57 chevy so you must like me that's how a lot of guys are and so this guy he probably just assumed that you know because i looked at different than him then that i had to be like that and i remember my mama was used to raise me she was she when my mom raised me she say stuff like that she'll say son you and i be hey i'm like mom what are you talking about and then she said one time she said this my mom and i she said all the fine men be gay and you real handsome and all of them look at your cousins and such and such and she talking about my cousins like he was so handsome all the girls wanted him and not here so it was a lot of you know like tension in the black race with that where i come from i don't know about where y'all come from but a lot of men so the men like your boyfriend he probably where he from if he feel like that he can't even come out he can't even come out and so that honestly it made me like myself growing up if you get tried like that just because something different about you and so for me i was like one of two guys out of the whole school the whole city with hazel or gray or orange you know your eyes turn colors with the seasons and everybody used to make fun of it and talk about that and you know i had a headband on one time and one of my teammates on the football team like man tony's so pretty if he had hell he'll look like a girl they'll say stuff like that so god like me we had to become very hardened to where we had to become almost like what what they call um what you call it uh what y'all call that word [Music] phobia homophobic that's what people would almost kind of call you because you had to distance yourself i remember a young lady was at my home warehouse and i went over there he was making music she's sitting over there and she's like oh yeah you his own boy y'all seen you on facebook um hey that was she said to me she thought i said what she said i looked at your picture i'm like i said so what made you think that she said your eyes i said i said do you realize these not i don't have color contact like this i was born so this i was born so just because somebody a black man can't have something that's different about him a certain skin color a certain eye color without being accused of being with a man and that's just how i was so this right here he sounds like he actually is into that lifestyle but because of where he come from that's not accepted and so he didn't got you as his cover-up because birds are a fella flock together so it's not about hating somebody or you know whatever but you don't typically see heterosexual men having a transgender best friend that's not the norm it ain't not it could happen but that ain't the norm so from what i'm reading right here so it sounds like you're a man like him some men and you give him that little cover-up and then he picking best friends who are into a different lifestyle because just like this other best friend that you say she's only into women a lot of times when women who are only into women they also have friends like who are men who into men or they have something because they form a community because they feel different and they could be in certain communities could be ostracized could be alienated in certain countries come up missing you see what i mean in certain communities come up missing so in those individuals in certain areas they'll click up together and that's why when i used to be selling to that man his whole crew was like that and i was like this is really interesting because i did not see that he didn't show any kind of sound like it sounded like your guy don't really show no you know flagrant signs to where he just out there and you could say oh this man is real feminine and he like me he may like me like you ain't saying that obviously because you wit him but now here's the thing you asked him you said i have asked him if he is hey listen listen this to everyone listen and the reason why i'm kind of touching on this because it it's honestly it's kind of it's really it's crazy and it's kind of sad but this is what's happening that a lot of men today are into men but yet they sleeping with women and a lot of women are catching stds and utis and all kind of stuff because the way a lot of men move if you got a brother if you got a brother or a son or whatever it's a lot of men don't like the babies like that a lot of men don't take baths like that to take showers on the regular like that so a lot of these man this man here he with these here people he hanging with he taking that thing out of them and coming home and putting in you and it ain't had no wash and this happening a lot more it's a lot it's happening a lot and especially a lot of these bigger cities too you know everybody already know you know certain big cities that it's happening a lot that these men they are going a different way and now i hate this midtown man going there oh wait look what way y'all what did y'all talk about and i've been hearing a lot of women saying that too a lot of women saying what i find is that these men who hate women and mistreat women typically are down low brother and i remember one time i was on black planet way back in the day in on college i'm on black planet and i'm looking for women on now and i remember i was in west virginia and i remember i was talking to a young lady in georgia and while i'm on there and i'm looking for different women i'm trying to connect because i was in the middle of nowhere in west virginia and buckhan in west virginia playing college football and one day i get a message from a guy like yo boyfriend i get a message and the message said it said hey what that's like that's the kind of message he sent now he'll just say hey the mess i got it said hey i am a dl and wanted to know if you are too [Music] i say lord now this was before the other incident this was i was in college in west virginia this other incident was after that when i came home to florida i got kicked out of college kicked off my football team i came home and i was full of time in the streets so it's a few times in my life that i don't have men try to shoot they shot and now that time right there i got the second time i'm thinking about money so i'm like man listen that's uh you live that lifestyle right now and i was trying to in my head tell myself man don't be home like don't you know what i'm saying and and don't this man it's guys that when they get out it they'll shoot they'll shoot now because they don't want nobody to really know so when he told me that i'm like oh now i know i hope he don't think that i'm gonna out i'm on facebook or what have you so i'm trying to de-escalate the situation like listen now when y'all trying to smoke now hey i eat that money but i don't get down like that nah when i talked to my daddy i called my daddy because it was another time i can't remember what time it happened but i called my dad and i said daddy i say mandy man i is crazy i say it's that's me saying stuff oh i was on twitter now this after i built my brand this is after i built my brand i'm on twitter and i probably got a hundred thousand followers on now and i'm going off script oh man we paying 35 minutes y'all see what i've been trying to tell you i i be wanting to do 30 minutes and i just i be having too much the the touch on so i'm on twitter and i get a message from a blogger that is a big blogger had a good amount of followers and the message said wow that man ain't watching my video today the message said hey no the message said i will suck the skin off yo and swallow them [Music] i'll try not to because i'm like whoa so now i'm like this was before the me too movement i had to join the metoo movement i'm like i actually should have started the me too movement because of the man that was coming to my dm that happened on twitter and then it happened later on instagram and i'm like that's why i called my daddy because i'm like man this right here it's kind of traumatized like and it helped me realize i understand like can you imagine what women go through [Music] from heterosexual men from men who coming on to them i'm like i'm a grown man like i'm growing enough but i could take your life knock your teeth out your mouth and you try me like this i'm like man look that soul that's what i call my daddy i'm like this kind of messes i'm getting i say nah i said part of me i want to respond and say something like why don't you ever disrespect me like that in your life well i'm not the mess at you yeah and because i was getting fed up because it had been happening not now it didn't happen over the years numerous times and i'm just i'm at that point in the world like man y'all gonna stop trying me like this because if that's how you wanna live okay live that way if you don't see somebody and you don't see nobody post no that little flag that they use or put that in a bio like but don't be just sitting don't mess it don't be just sending me no message about that so i called that he said son listen don't even respond he said the best way to handle that right there do not even respond because if you respond and so in the past it was like i ain't know what was going on i'm like and then but and i had a cousin that was like that but he had girlfriends and then it came out he was with me and then it later came out he had full blown aids i don't know if the clinical term is full-blown but well from that's what we call it full-blown aids and i was like man that's for that all right yeah that's that's tough you know and he's still living though he's still living so you know they could live you know with that but and y'all remember back in the 80s when they started talking about that's where them aids was they were saying that's where the aid comes from and all the stuff about always from monkeys or from africa or from this and that and so all this stuff right here this video was taking a whole another turn but the reason why i'm touching on this is because this is becoming more and more prevalent there's more and more men out here who are down low men who are using women as a cover-up and the reason why they doing that is because still in a lot of communities and it ain't just a black community it's a hispanic community uh african community jew making puerto rica it's a lot of places in the world that that lifestyle for a man is not acceptable and so what's happening is a lot of women today have a boyfriend that like men's and i haven't seen it i done seen it i i could tell it when cuz see men know men now not always some men or will catch you off guard but on average a man know a man and so i just i was in the store one time and i seen this young lady and i could just tell and then i seen her man and he had and died as hell blonde this was a black man and he had a look you know look look like love fro he hadn't dyed it blonde and his shorts was extra a little too tight and it was a little too short and he was walking with a little switch in his hips and they had a kid [Music] but the woman i could tell that she is the type of woman that she's ostracized by america her look is not praised in the movies and the media so typically what these men are trying to do is what i'm noticing they'll get somebody that's young like this sister here that that they feel is young and dumb he feels she young and dumb this is the guy this is all the red flags that everybody watching this video to her and it's like these flags ain't read enough for her so to god bless you ah god bless you just listen you need to run you need to run cause this man gonna beat him come and put some in your body okay he's gonna catch something in one of the hill escapades he haven't and he's gonna come deposit it right in you since you need to run since you need all this right here red flag like i can break this whole thing down line by line but this here and the reason why i'm touching on this is because this happened a lot now and it angers me because it's like i understand the heart i understand the heart of a human and also and and more specifically the heart of a woman and how most women are just looking for love just want to be loved and you get a man that's going to show you a little bit of tension show you a little love you fall head over heels from and then he could be using you as a cover-up and he like me so i'm gonna tell you like right here if you have to ask a man if you have to ask a man are you hey and the reason why i'm saying the word like that is because some work and everything could be you know they might think it's some hate speed learning type of speech on here they might think i'm talking bad about people or something like that so understand that when i be muffling my word so but if if you have to ask a man this right here question go about your business just say yourself the headache because a man who is 100 heterosexual he's not going to give you any vibe when he in person with you and you around him you talking to him you see how he moved he ain't gonna give you no vibe that he possibly could want him a man so if you have to ask a man and maybe you just ask him because he messaged derek on that out nah but even that that's too much that is too much like because bro what you on the out messaging there well what you been asked there what you hey yeah i just want to ask you how your experience been on the out you been able to find you anything you have you been able to find you ain't a woman for the three small hill there no that's not he's gonna because he would have put that out hey what up bro man i i seen you on here did we go to high school together oh man you still single too hey god bless you but have fun hope you let me know if you meet your wife he would have spelled the message out he not feeling just right no man hey it ain't say what up bruh like did we go to high school together like no extra context on that he just said hey but see i don't now see i don't know that that could be i remember watching the movie was it a tyler perry movie or somebody moving they was in the movie and said like them guys when they talking to each other it had look little words in the movie and it was like you got some dust in your eye looked like you got some dust in your eye and the man was walking in the bathroom and said that to the man look like you got some dust in your eye not not honestly got me thinking now if like if if it's been several other times that a man has said something to me that was a code word that was that they don't put on reddit or put on a blog somewhere if you in that lifestyle because now i'm trying now i'm sitting here trying to thank you for man and can't what me and said hey your shoes on time hey your hat on backwards well it's a cold world to me that i was like what's wrong my shoes are tired i ain't got no laces what's on mine oh never mind oh nevermind i thought you had laces now why now i'm trying to think back to see if i didn't heard the code word so but i'm telling y'all right here this is the hill i've been bit shouldn't have been bit by the man he don't like no one the man like no women and and see this thing his friends that he picking they probably in the got the connects and they bring him his little situations when he go to hang out with them and partying with them and all that and catching charges like kind of charged obviously has some alcohol and or drugs someone else and so he uh they're taking charges like he taking that charge because she feeding him that's why he taking that charge because she bring him his him in okay all right you better listen to me now i'm reading all into this hill and now this nine this right here what tip that all this what tipped that off recently i ran into his best friend [Music] and she asked to talk to me for a minute but my lyft driver had arrived my car in the shop i could not talk to her it's been a week since i messaged her friend his friend asking her what she want to talk about yet i haven't received a response oh no it's a ball that night boy that she is only into women informed me that he had told her months ago that he had with his best friend and when i asked him was this true he just said that people are trying to ruin his happiness because they're miserable so now okay now right here right now come on all right okay okay i i keep forgetting that 221 okay i keep forgetting that 221 all right now listen okay this right here this friend this quote unquote best friend who who you said is only into women she not only into women if she into women then she into by that's what she into men and women which also could explain him trying to find somebody on the five apps for a rhythm a woman who is only into women and is a man's best friend is not going to tell his girlfriend that he told her some months ago that he had uh with his best friend his other best friend who you mentioned two best friends the other best friend you said is who he describes as a an inner so if that other best friend that he quote unquote that uh procedure done because you said she's still trying to figure herself out whether she want to keep it or let it go so it sounds like she still [Music] got mr johnson out of swinging if the other best friend coming to tell you that he didn't slept with other best friends that mean he had [Music] okay [Music] oh [Music] him and the best friend that he supposedly they sport fighting they swore fight and so and then the best friend that told you that she's the one that's been writing him telling him he loved she loved him so he told you she and the women so that you'll drop your guard she ain't in women she had two men that's why she tells you love him and that's why she came to tell you that trying to get you out the way and then what he said they trying to ruin his happiness now she's trying to ruin his games that he playing with all of y'all because she like he playing all three of us he's sleeping with this one over here who [Music] sleeping with you and sleeping with that other and then the top this all off system and i prayed that since you wrote this email to me you caught no disease i pray you ain't contracted nothing god bless you i'm praying for you that you find the strength to walk away the strength to walk away it's just come on now i'm trying not to say nothing too direct because i can't say that you acting dumb because well no you said that no you said that you said i don't know if i'm being stupid i didn't say it you said that so i'mma let you know yes that's exactly what you been that's exactly what you've been oh you said or if this is part of the process because a lot of relationships knows no they ain't worse they ain't worse yeah you got you a few out there that's worse but um well all this right here this man this man got too much going on he got a friend just a best friend he got another best friend he taking charges for and she supposedly only and women but that friend coming to you and telling you that heating up with his other best friend that is supposedly being trained and still trying to figure herself out then best friend getting invited him over to the house the best friend whole family like him his son met the best friend and they hanging out having a good time like it sounds like y'all boring like y'all and he don't do nothing but just talk to you it's like he's doing all the hanging out with them he i bonnie and clyde with the best friend catching charges why are you sitting at the house emailing me while he on the couch of not his family not his brother couch he on his brother ex-girlfriend couch that's the closest couch he got to him and his brother ex-girlfriend so his brother ain't got nowhere to stay brother ain't got nowhere to stay he ain't got nowhere to stay but he got all the time to be riding around catching charges and then he catch a charge i forgot to hit on this and you put up 900 dollars [Music] y'all see why i'm trying to retire from one-on-one coaching because if i had to talk to you one on one about this here and this here can't help save a hundred other women from a man who like me i'd be highly upset so i'm glad you sent us her email in so that this could help every other woman who got a suspicion that they man like might like men because i'm here to tell you he do if you got that suspicion he do he do yeah a woman intuition you are a woman so that is the feminine when you with a man who is a man you're gonna feel the masculine when you have to look him in his face and ask him do he like me so stop it's time to run it's time to run because a masculine man ain't gonna be laying down with you and being around you and you have any inclination that he like me a man that's that is into women only a man that is into me he going to similar flag he gonna send a little smoke signal that says that he go more than one way okay and that right there is dangerous and it's unfair to you because if you didn't sign up to be with a man who want to lay down with men and lay down with women then that's unfair to you but if you sense that and then you got other stuff like this popping up because you only you know this house i don't well you don't even know the answer because you really he you just know what he tell you so with the right and who you say trying to figure herself out i don't know how you where you get that from he told you he's still trying she's whoever's trying to figure their self out they are trying to figure out themselves uh that's what he told you because i don't know i don't know if that's the case or if that friend had made a choice that gonna keep that gonna keep that but dress like one walk like a woman talk like a woman so now he for him he get to have all what he wanna have he got somebody who looked like a woman under the guise of being a best friend which you broke up with him for 30 days over that person so let me tell you something in closing do you see how and it's the everybody who's listening do you see how this young lady here who's still a baby 21 you grown now you're wrong but young still very young do you see how her intuition is screaming do you see how her intuition is screaming now i don't know necessarily the word to put it in other than you need the league going about your business right now a stop immediately the reason why he writing you 30 days constantly texting you and calling you pleading for us to work out because he need his cover up you are his cover-up he don't want to face the music or coming out that closet so he is trapped in that closet without killing them eisley brothers because he do not want to come out that closet so he is begging and pleading you please come on bite cause i need it to come up because i need to still be over there with my friend who ain't figuring herself out and still got that thing that when i go hang out with her he up down there and then coming back to you he going sword fighting with her and then coming back to you uh them because i don't know what you know the proper term what what that individual would refer to themselves as so you say they still trying to figure their self out so we'll let that be that but what you need to do you need to take care of you so you left you left him over that friend and then you asked him do he like men's you caught him on five different apps you caught him talking begging and pleading his excellent four years you see he lost the s for four years for cheating on her with it baby mom he hanging out with the other friend family introducing his child to that other friend family they like him they invite him over they love him listen he trying to build up the courage to come on out that closet but until then he wants you to be his cover-up and i'm telling you know the men for y'all men out here living that lifestyle man you need to get stuff together and you need to go make a decision and go to god and don't be making nobody else a victim to your spiritual warfare when you got this woman leading this woman alone dragging up about her heart strings and then juggling your other little situations out here come on ladies y'all stop playing yourself stop playing yourself you sense stuff like this by the man and you got all these red flags don't let me have to tell you go about your business go about your business it is tony gaston god bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 59min 50sec (3590 seconds)

Published: Tue Feb 23 2021