Love & Relationship Q&A | Tony Gaskins

hey it's on the guys is here at me it's here situated earlier today I posted on my I posted in the community so if you go and you look at hey Kara or Kara thank you so much thank you very much god bless you I don't know that's a USD or that's another currency thank you I posted earlier today in the armed community section where if you had any questions for tonight and I went through it I tried to grab some questions hey CJ share I really appreciate y'all on every Sunday night I'm gonna try to act 9 p.m. Eastern do these lives if I can't make it I'll try to post in there at least like 3 hours in advance that you know I'm tired up if I have to go to one of my you know NBA or NFL clients game sometimes I play on Sundays or fun with the family and we out somewhere but if we home typically we're home during the school year because they ain't bed you know eight o'clock getting ready for Monday but I went through and I grabbed some questions and I'm gonna answer the ones that I was able to get to I tried to just go through the first ten but what you also got to understand is that if you ask me a question and I don't answer it it's because that's not a question for me like if you didn't posted the same question every day and you see out and saw it and I'm not answering it's just not a question for me I'm not just somebody that just speaks on everything trying to be a guru or expert that's not me I speak where the Lord has called me to where I feel like he's gonna be speaking through me giving me wisdom knowledge and understanding on that topic I don't just try to talk on everything under the Sun so understand that some things for a therapist something might just be for another coach that focuses in a from area not everything is is gonna be for me and Carol y'all give Carol a round of applause yes sister Dale got her blessed and highly favored job really god bless you I got a question from Jackie and Jackie thank you for being a member Jackie said could you address the problem with men who have not prepared themselves or their lives to receive a woman or life and they expect us to settle for the poor choices they have made these are men who have nothing of value like owning a home never invested in anything have no business acumen have no vision or goals the sad part is that normally they are good decent men I sent your email weeks ago about this issue hey thank you so much for sending that email please know that I don't get to see all the emails just because of the volume Billie Jean thank you so much to become a member of the Blessed try in the description of this video you'll see a link where it says to become a member or if you just click on my profile then you should see where it says join by subscribe now Jackie addressing this to be honest with you it depends on where you are what demographic your date man and what you have to understand is that that is becoming more and more common with men just because of the way men are being raised you know a lot of men are not being raised they're just growing they're just growing up into adulthood but they're not being raised and I'm gonna do a video on this about mothers marrying your sons so what's happening is a lot of single mothers are being stuck with the child and without having a father who's going to be there to ask some balance because a man knows a man so when a father is in the home a man knows how to balance the love with the the tough love and so me raising two boys I know when to be easy with them and I know when to be tough with them but a lot of times when a woman is left to herself to raise them she's dealing with her own pain her own issue so the last thing she wants to do is be the bad guy is be somebody who her son doesn't like or her son wants to leave her and go stay with his daddy and so a lot of women are marrying their sons and baby and I mean Colin them and giving them everything they need and bailing them out of trouble all the time making excuses for them my 12 year old today my wife just had him doing homework for six hours because he have tests on Thursday it's money it's Sunday his test is on Thursday he just studied for six hours but not everybody's gonna do that not everybody gonna teach their their son how to be responsible and how to invest in themselves and how to be a man and so that's why you're dealing with that issue today on CJ a brother wanted a few brothers who in the blessed tribe who a member a CJ that really really blessed me god bless you for you know supporting like that it's not a lot of men who support my message because it is very challenging because I'm a man giving the message and so when I'm talking I'm talking to myself I'm talking to men and a lot of men just don't want to hear that so I really appreciate you CJ CJ asked hey bro I wanted to know how to date a woman with kids and be able to understand if she's a good mother or not since I've been back in the dating world just about all the women I meet have kids so trying to understand how to date and understand them right away I don't have any kids but since so many that do I'm trying to understand what to look for when dating them good and bad what you have CJ is one thing that it's tough because what you're asking for I know CJ 150 guy last we double Ulysses a bit you way yet well you listen said but on what you have to realize CJ is that when you ask that and you say I want to know if she's a good mother or not it's going to kind of work against you because a good mother she's going to put her children first and she's not going to neglect her children for a date so if her child has a game every Saturday then she's going to that game Christina Jackson god bless you she's going to that game if her daughter has a recital on Friday nights she's going to that recital so you're gonna be sitting there you can be like man we can't ever go on a date we can't ever go on a date and she's like listen my daughter got this on Friday nights you know if I get a sitter if my mom can come over then we can go out to the movies or dinner afterward but if my mom can't then you know it's nothing I can do that's gonna be the sign to where this woman she focus on providing for her kids and then she's focused on speaking into the life of her kids you know she's building her kids Rosanna Garcia god bless you I'm gonna get to your question here in a second and she's focusing on that and so you're gonna come second to those children because you're not her husband and she's not going to so so if you talking to her after school it's in a weekday kids and got out of school and it's 4 p.m. 5 p.m. and she on the phone with you four hours two hours and the kids in the background running around acting crazy hush I'm on the phone hush I'm on the phone that's when you know you got a woman that is not a good mother and she too desperate for a man now she said hey I gotta do some homework for hours so with my kid I gotta get dinner ready and then once after they eat and I get them in the bay you know I'll give you a call back now you know you got a woman who was about her business and she has her priorities in order so that's what you have to look for is she neglecting her real responsibilities for you or is she asking you to understand my situation and what you're coming into and at this time being until we want until we all the way locked in then I gotta have these things place you know in order Rosanna a god bless you thank you so much for your support y'all helping me save up for this new iPhone 11 I'm gonna do that pro because my handing all that ain't got Shaquille O'Neal hands so I might get a rare the iPhone 11 I'm still on his 10 that's why I be able to fuzzy sometimes but y'all best mom I have to go get this iPhone 11 we did a session with you husband leaves repetitively each time I cannot prove he's with someone else but feel he is of course he denies it I really cannot understand why the back and forth it's hard to decipher his lies I tell you what he lying he lined your husband line if a man keep leaving over and over and over and you can't prove he was somebody else to be honest with you can't prove it just because it's easy you know it's easy to cheat it's easy for a man to get away with something like that but what you have to realize is you cannot keep standing still so if a man keeps running in and out your life that means you're standing still and if you're standing still every time he comes back he lose respect for you so you got to love yourself you got to respect yourself and you got to be willing when he walk out the door to say it okay cool I tried it we did coaching with Tony gasping we did coaching with Joe Smith with you know we read this book that book and he still is not trying to work and get this thing together I'm moving on Shana Barnes god bless you no god bless you Shannon I really appreciate you so understand that do not let them keep running in out your life I can understand you have a break one time you're trying to get it together three four years later you have another little two three days situation where y'all kind of separated it you gather but when you say repeatedly he over and over keep leaving he playing too much hey y'all don't pose no question here right yeah okay y'all coming to each other that's cool I got to get through these questions that that somebody the people posted on my post in the community section earlier today fab cat thank you so much for being a member do you guys do guys see it as a red flag when a woman hasn't dated in a long time or is very inexperienced in dating now when you say red flag it could be yes red flag in the sense uh okay got me one got her she's not gonna know what's going on but in the sense of red flag like a negative thing no a man would prefer a woman who's not all that experienced who was not you know been around the block three four five six seven eight nine times and no all every trick in the trade that she's gonna be gaming him you know he would prefer a woman who hasn't dated you're a whole lot because what that does is it allows him to have some first experiences with you it allows him to kind of show you what he knows to learn the natural things that you know and so it's not a bad thing now a dog a grown boy sometimes those men when we are in that space we will a man won't like it because he'll feel you won't know enough tricks in the bed you won't know your way around the bedroom and that's when he'll feel some type of way but a real man who was sure and growing and he's looking for a real bond real connection with a woman didn't know that doesn't matter at all and even if you have been around the block ten times you don't have to tell him that that you didn't rode a bicycle backwards and that you know everything there is that no you still can't just you know ease your way into it without telling all your business so really a really appreciate y'all somebody I don't know Tiffany Johnson I don't know if the green mean that you just joined as a member tonight if that's the case god bless you I really support support all that love that y'all Sean everything flowers say hey Tony thanks for doing this my question is should single with no kids consider dating men with kids if so what are the rules and what should we look out for I am 31 I'm doing pretty well for myself and it seems like everyone has kids I would prefer someone without children but I am not sure if that's a preference or a standard now everything now you and CJ probably to connect CJ is dating women with kids but he doesn't have kids and you datin men with kids and you don't have kids both of y'all members of the blessed tribe sowing a dollar ninety-nine a month so y'all sowing on good ground that mean if y'all come together you might reap a harvest because you got good fruit y'all head on the same so I don't know CJ ebony y'all might be a connection now this is thing it is a lot of people who once you know start to get up there and age you over 18 over 25 over 30 people start to have kids so that is going to be pretty common unless you and CJ connect but what you have to realize that the cost to that situation is if he has baby mama drama if he is not a good man and he's not taking care of his kids and he's not you know doing right by his kids then that's gonna cause some issues when if his child's mother wants to you know get crunk and she want to start some stuff and she in and out and he's dealing with that situation now if he has you know split up with respect and he's handling that situation he's helped her understand he's given her closure he deals with her with respect and he knows how to be a real man about his children then that's a different situation and now his kids may not really affect the relationship in a negative way so you got to understand that as well and but here's the thing when you don't have children and you want somebody who doesn't have children that is a standard that's not a preference a preference is if you want a man who is six foot tall the reason why I say that's a standard is because if you have saved your womb because you are not married or because yeah because you haven't been married then and you want somebody who is the same they have not gone out of had children out of wedlock and they have not been married then that is a standard because those are life choices now it's not to say there's a man who was married and he has kids is a bad man because if he had if he was married had kids in marriage he did it the right way but you don't have to accept everything that comes with that if that's not your lot in life yet so I would say honestly don't compromise that because if you go in and you just compromise now you know you're gonna be and you compromise you're gonna be unhappy because he may be happy to deal with those kids a whole lot and you don't have children and so now you like man we're not on the same page became new a spontaneous date night we can't just up and go to the movies because y'all two different pages same thing with CJ in his situation a for everybody that you know hit that super chat and where you do it Gil for donation god bless you I really really appreciate you Kara I don't know if I'm saying your name right or wrong but god bless you glam Rox makeup posted a question what are some topics I can discuss on a first date been single and abstaining five years I know not to bring that up but on rusty need advice on what not to say or what should I say that's a real good that's a really good question but to be honest with you you're probably gonna need a one-on-one session just because it you know it's a long conversation right there in itself but here's the thing here's the key when you when y'all digging our table you say you listed over the drug that count last week hippie hey you listen I was gonna check with you to make sure you listen and try to do a chargeback trying to you know start for the ladies and then go do a chargeback but I don't know if he did it I don't know I check that but Glen Ross here's the thing the problem with a lot of women what a lot of women do wrong on the first date is a lot of women go and they read their whole resume to a man they read the whole resume they wear their degrees and their accomplishments and their single woman and a single and independent they wear all that on their sleeve a/d bands god bless you i don't know if i'm saying name right or wrong god bless the defense you help them get the iphone 11 thank you and they just you know they're sitting on the date and you know so how do you do with you know meeting these women who they need you to pay for they date you know cuz I'm an independent woman and you know I got a degree I got a mouse agree and I'm honest and I'm gonna be honest which I came here tonight but I don't need a man for nothing I'm beyond with him and so they go into all of this right here and they have all these accolades and the man sitting there and she thinking that it means something but really she's speaking out of insecurity she's speaking out of insecurity because deep down she really upset that she has all these accolades and still single and so she expressing this and it's really coming from her insecurities and a man like Wow whereas if she just sitting there and she talking and she having a conversation and she like so so whatever you you know what have you been up to you know what do you do for fun you know what do you get into are you any or in any of those adult leagues or like fantasy leagues or like the the leagues where you play basketball on Sunday and then he go to talking about itself like you like it as a competitor and then she asking more questions and he telling all the story when he sprained his ankle in the game Wow so it really gets serious you sprained your ankle and he like yeah you know and I had to get some crutches what he was on crutches that league is serious I would love to catch one of those games this the type of woman that now she'd get a man open a April god bless you god bless you April she get a man open and he go to talking and now he wanna talk talk talk so now the more man expresses himself the more he falls in love because what you got to realize a lot of men been told just shut up just shut up be a man you don't get to express yourself you don't get to say anything so when you allow a man to open up and express himself instead of you doing all the talking and trying to read your whole resume read your whole autobiography your whole feeling script and just showing him what role he need to play in your movie then that's when you lose so don't wear all your you ain't got to go through a list of your standards he will see that you're not getting drunk he will see that you don't need to go take a cigarette break he will see that you not cursing like a sailor he will see where you stand you know he will see that you're going to church on Sunday that's gonna come up so he'll get to see your standards and where you stand in this conversation without you having to say I don't drink I don't smoke I don't curse I'm not sleeping with a man I'll tell marriage I'm going to church to the night Bible study winter night Bible Sunday night and you going through the whole list and you're breaking it all down and he liked it okay oh really okay okay you want a cookie and I bring her dessert because she's doing good in life you know and he's sitting out like that because you you read enough and that's what I see most women do is they start winning on the sleeve you know across their forehead and it just it break everything down let me see Roseanna no hey god bless you Rosie god bless you you're gonna be the paid for a session when addressing him leaving us me and the kids not contacting picking up the kids he says I left you not them why does he say that if he doesn't check for his kids I make it easy for him to get them but he does it always excuses now see one thing here is you're trying to make sense of a grown boy and trying to understand a grown boy is gonna be like you know learning rocket science trying to figure out the rotations of the moon and how you get to the moon and back in an hour when you're trying to figure out a grown boy a grown boy is never gonna make sense to you because a grown boy doesn't even make sense to himself he doesn't even know what he's doing and why he's doing it so you cannot make sense of insanity you cannot make sense of immaturity irresponsibility it just is what it is he was not raised he just grew he does not know how to be a man he is not ready to be a man he's ready to be a husband he's not ready to be a father and that's why he playing all the games and you just won't be able to understand that like you'll be literally banging your head up against the wall you know up all night trying to understand something has no rhyme or reason any of that and so I want you to understand that you can't really sit in and wrack your brain you got to understand that he is lost he's hurting man like that a lot of times dealing with abuse from their childhood sexual abuse physical abuse verbal abuse abandonment being bullied all different type of things they coach rod I really appreciate your coach thank you so much bless you for that down and and so that's what's going on with a man in that space and he said I didn't leave them I left you that's that's just you it's an excuse it don't even make any sense if you leave your woman and you're not coming to get your kids that means you left your kids too if he leaves you but he called them every day he on FaceTime with them he come and picked them up take them out on they look kid date on the weekend then he didn't leave them but technically he still love him but if he's active then but if he's not answering the phone he's not picking them up then he lying somebody said he he lying to herself yeah and I said that's exactly what it is he lied to everybody in the description of this video you'll see I just added a new course it's called this is my year I want you to pre-order it because what it's going to be is the first 14 days of 2020 you're gonna be able to watch a video in the morning before you get you get going start your day it's gonna be a short video three four minutes two to four minutes and it's going to have a prompt you know for you for your journal for your workbook or for whatever so go to the description and then click that link and sign up for the course is called this is my year and it's 14 rules for a great year and I want you to get in there because I I just made it $25 which is already 75% off so make sure you sign up for that somebody say they already pre-order and then for the members other channel two people with this little green sign which I'll sign color gonna change after you go to your second month third month fourth month and so on you know that little sign change colors that show how long you've been a member but for the members I'm gonna take the video from the course and to make it easier for you because you're on my youtube I'm gonna put them in a private playlist just for members only who have signed up you know for the course Jessie J wrote a question said hey Toni any advice for a single mom I have a ten-year-old daughter when I get into a relationship how long after do I introduce my daughter and how do I set up the meeting I've never introduced her to a man I need a little advice that's a great question I'm glad you have not introduced her to a man and I want you to see I want you to understand that 10 year old daughter and you're dealing with men and not fully understanding men and the bestiality of some men that you will meet not all men but some men you meet will have a dark side and they could be just really going through a lot personally and your 10 year old daughter has to be protected from these men now this may sound kind of crazy to you but honestly I don't recommend introducing a man sir your daughter inside of 12 months and the reason being is that 12 months should be the time around the time that he's getting ready to propose to you so when he and he tells you he wants to marry you then that's when you can introduce your daughter to him when it's been 12 months or more and y'all are talking marriage and understanding get beyond all the fairytales it don't have to be renting a plane putting a sign on the back of it flying through the air saying will you marry me this day and age you could sit down and have a grown folks conversation and say like where do we go from here you know what do you think about marriage it don't have to be all these elaborate proposals and all of that just sit down and talk and and at that point when you know that it's serious that's when you can say well I want you to meet my daughter because I really you know love you I'm filling you and your daughter what you got to understand she is a kid so she don't understand love anyways so all she care about is that her mom is happy and so if he's truly a good dude then and you love him she's gonna love because she loves you and she wants to see you happy she don't want to see you lonely stress and I you know going through when she see a lot of her friends mama whipped with them a man and so kids gonna be okay you don't anything like you got to go ask for permission because your child might be bad and just and selfish and tell you no just for the sake of it and you know what I mean and don't even really mean it don't even know what they saying so it ain't about asking your child for permission and all of that it's about protecting your child you doing the vetting you getting to know this man you can even sign up for a coaching session with a man like myself and then do an individual session and get some feedback from honest man about this man his energy so that a man is reading him - if your father is not in your life or your brother and any man in your life you just need to be a sound minded man with some wisdom and knowledge understand and you can't just go to any man who maybe a grown boy getting high and getting drunk and then asking him for advice about a man because people speak from where they are ah tiara a god bless you god bless your power in the name UT are rich and with that with that gift you bless me with I see that last name meaning something I ran until my ex's friend not how long did you ask because I thought I saw this question in the thing I saw the question somewhere else maybe what you asked me this question that I had this only oh I ran it something I don't try to know chargeback cuz I already saw this question somewhere else I thought I thought I might have had it on here but thank you for your question I ran into my ex's friend because of you I was able to be cordial and we had a small conversation do you think he told my ex oh yeah yeah he told your ex he absolutely told your ex and he wanted to talk to you and he won't talk to you because one thing about men is men are most men nasty and when I say nasty I just mean horny so a most men have a crush on a friend girlfriend just because the weight of the mind works me and I like that with a friend mama with a friend's sister with a friend female cousins so yeah your ex-boyfriend his friend will touch you and wanna and probably want to touchy and that's why he hopped over in your line to start this conversation but yes he also gonna tell your ex that he saw you and the fact that you asked that question just is I'm gonna operate on that not to make you feel bad or anything but that's the kind of questions I want y'all to get beyond y'all ladies because y'all ask those kind of questions which you shouldn't be asking those kind of questions you got a I want y'all to get to the place to where your X is your X and you ain't worrying about what he done where he had who he talking to what he's seen what he hearing I talked to his friend cool we chatted up I'm moving on about my life you know but cuz when you entertain it you give your X power and so not you I wouldn't want to accept your $15 at night and then gonna hit no refund on it but I'm saying did your ex just cost you $15 you know you gave a donation of $15 god bless your heart but that ain't the way I want to receive it you know I want to receive because you saying hey Tony out a lot of work you doing it just helps you get that iPhone the letter stop being cheap and that's probably what you said it from but I'm just asking to everybody how much sleep is your ex costing you how much time how much energy how many thoughts is your ex costing you and you gotta try to make sure that you get beyond thinking about it entertaining your ex we all do it and so ain't judge your coming down on you I'm just saying that's a point that I want you to be working on so that the next time it happened you say look ain't giving this no brain matter I'm gonna keep it moving is what it is Makayla ain't god bless you now y'all y'all y'all I've seen some interesting spellings of y'all name so I'm just trying to infer what I think how it's pronounced and I'm a little country so y'all forgive me if I say it wrong but god bless you if I'm 50 fine and so a blessing he left me for another woman three months ago now he is coming back and he's fit now see if you did a typo cuz they say he's 50 I'm 26 now if you're not a member it probably would you will probably have to give another nation don't want you to do that don't do that but I'm hoping that's a typo but it's a he's 51 of the other man I've been dating is spending holidays with my family no you got all kind of man Makayla you here juggling me a lot Sonny women struggling trying to find one man you before I get to your question I wanted to say thank you to Simon Yaman boy Simon I don't know if that's your name and I don't want to say your name wrong but god bless you Yaman Zalman examine I really appreciate you I really do but I'm gonna tell you this right here and I spoke on this before when a man leave you now if a man leaves you if he left you it's all the way over it's all the way over and I try to use this analogy at one time and I had to argue with a woman I didn't argue with it in the comments but I saw it I argue it in my mind and she was because I said a man does not walk away from his dream job a man does not walk away from his dream car I'm not going to give away a Rolls Royce you know unless I'm getting another car that just is nice or better but I ain't gonna give it away and a lady try safe Latonia haven't seen me give away they they nice cause because they fell on hard times I said Lord this way we take stuff too literal that's not what I was talking about but my point is is that if a man sees you as his wife he's never going to leave you la see God bless you I love if y'all put y'all the name on and so he's not gonna leave you when a man leaves you and if you say he is 50 listen you gotta run you gotta take off running take off running you hear me and he ain't gonna be able to catch either because he 50 you 26 you got to keep it going oh okay so McKenna you became a member okay my current boyfriend is 51 and I'm 26 and we haven't slept together been dating for six months and he bought me a car I feel like he is trying to buy me he is coming over for the holidays though Michaela I'm trying to see your picture I don't one of my gifts is being able to read people body picture but I can't really see your picture and I don't want to come too close to the camera because I want people all in my flaws and stuff but it did you meet that man on sugar daddy doc calm because I've been hearing about this because I just don't understand why or how this sounded like a sugar daddy got call Michaela and I'm not judging you but and I'm not literally saying y'all met on the site but that's what this here is because for one boyfriend and 51 does not go together because 51 years old should not be even having a girlfriend unless she's in her 50s or late 40s but when a 51 is getting with a 26 year old that is a end-of-life crisis yeah I can't call it a midlife crisis because that would say he live in 102 years but when you 51 and you single you have not lived you're not living a healthy lifestyle as a man so that's coming to the end of the life crisis and with the 26 year old that's what he will see his pretty hot in tempting pretty a pretty young thing and so what he's doing is he's getting his groove back how Stella got her groove back he's getting his groove back and that's dangerous that is dangerous and because 51 you got to look at it like this you 26 you still a baby so your prime might be in your forties so when you forty that might be your prime where you want to see the whole world so that's 46 that's 20 years from now he's 71 71 he's not trying to travel the world he at the most you know what else I'm 71 want to travel the world but 71 women in their forties is still getting it in still very vibrant got a lot going on 71 year old man is not breaking nobody back he is not getting a whole lot of action at that point he riding off into the sunset and so what you have to realize is that it's been six months and he's bought you a car and yeah that's a sugar daddy and he is trying to buy you and you plan yourself so you got to ask yourself you know what's going on that a man buying you a car in six months black Hollywood natural god bless you told you hilarious you know what that just means you got a good spirit cuz I don't be telling you all the jokes that mean you got a good spirit I don't be telling jokes when you find something left the Queen seven is online dating safe I got a video on online dating and no it's not safe I know you're gonna hear some people say they met the husband on there and all of that but everybody that met the husband it was on it was a thousand women got scammed so it's just it does not say I told the lady other day keep that same energy you get online on the online date with and go outside with that same energy and she was like what home I have no energy I just get on there and I just do me I don't chase them that's the same energy I'm talking about to go outside with the same confidence that same laid-back chill vibe go outside with it and stay offline it do not do online dating I'm telling y'all I was I had signed a deal with the online dating site and that deal was gonna make me probably four million dollars a year and I backed out the deal just cuz my heart didn't sit well with it and if I was anybody else and just bought that money I would've did it you know Steve Harvey did a deal black blackpeoplemeet.com and it seemed cool it looked cool but as I got in the trenches in coaching I don't believe in their online their only way I'll do online dating I promote online dating if I create the site myself and I have some things in there to vent people to where you got to do certain things go through certain steps to get you know able to make matches and gonna share it all cuz people be created my help Ayana thank you so much god bless you he doesn't want a relationship but continues to pursue what that means is he wants friends with benefits I mean he want friends with benefits - Sean I see you up there you popped in I almost miss you god bless you put your words to the test about online dating found that soul men and men online have many many emotional issues it's almost scary why god bless you right after I just got done talking about that I want y'all to understand a you know Angela you should create one for the people that have taken all your courses now if you want to help put up some money Angela we would do that okay but I don't believe it crowdfunding really so when I make me some money I'm gonna do that don't do that but on the day now but - Sean thank you so much for for saying that and y'all just gonna keep trying the online date even though I'm telling y'all stop doing this online date stop doing this online dating y'all gonna keep trying online dating till somebody come up missing and it just is not worth it I'm telling y'all it's not worth it and I could get y'all the whole game but when I do that women say oh that's doing too much that's doing too much ain't got all that time I am NOT going to be doing all of that and so I've been trying to help but then y'all don't wanna hear what it takes and so it's like I'm kind of left helpless and I can't really help you but what I'm trying to get y'all to understand is if you take care of your brain your brand and your body you focus on you you work on you if that takes six months if it take 12 months you're working on your energy you're working on your mind and you just walk outside and everything is aligned with your energy a lot of women say they ready but they're not actually ready they actually bitter on the inside they actually upset on the inside they actually not really happy and that shows in the energy but when you truly feed in your mind in the description make sure you look at the links in the description I put courses in them a lot of women don't want you know to really do the work a lot of men - don't humans don't want to do the work we've asked the question because it make us feel good about it that it make us feel like oh I just did something cuz I asked the question but we don't really want to do the work of really learning and getting the knowledge and my own cyber security guard cher cher H she wrote to somebody today she wrote in commerce he said look to answer all these questions y'all in listening and share one line she one line but we a lot of times really don't want to listen but I'm telling y'all if you do the work and you just step outside it might be your mailman gonna be hollering at you and get to the red like somebody gonna be hollering at you you go in Starbucks get you a coffee somebody holler at you you had a job your co-workers gonna be hot and after you go to church the Deacons gonna be hollering at you like when you truly do the work not just watching TV complaining you know skipping the hard stuff buffeting your body your mind your soul your spirit do the real world and you're gonna see me and I'll start jumping it's gonna be Batman too but they're gonna be jumping out the Woodworks and to Shawn to answer your question about why that's the case is because it's a special type of man that gets online to do online dating a man that is confident that his hole that is healthy that is pure he's not going to do online dating other than an experiment just to go in there and see what's on there and get some knowledge about justice just to say he looked into it that's the only reason he's gonna have he's gonna get on there and have maybe one experience and did he offer there because a man who was truly a real man he's going he wants to approach a woman in person and speak to her and ask her her name he don't want to sit behind a computer screen or on her phone sending messages through a paid app trying to get to know a woman he just a man who was ready so that's why you have the men who are they introverts the sociopaths in the y'all favorite word right now narcissus men who all those things means that they go online to do online dating because they know when a woman gets on there it's because she's not having any luck in the real world so that means subconsciously her guards are dropping she's getting she's getting a little more desperate because she's not having success in the real world so she coming online so he knows he can get away with more he and that's why it's men who literally going to prison now because they don't got millions of dollars from women through online dating and finally got caught hold on I think I I missed some of y'all god bless you Keanu hey Tony should women take me in serious who are under 25 same for women should she focused on herself until 25 should we friendzone down lol bless you now you asked me that question cuz you have seen I'll answer that question on what's called right I'm thinking on the Instagram Q&A but you absolutely correct I don't even think people should be dating before 25 you cannot take a man seriously for 25 unless he smell like Jesus unless you can sniff the Spirit of the Lord on him and I mean literally like you feel anointing Ozon not that man then I'd his pores and just his aura feel anointed then you can't take a man serious under the age of 25 and as y'all looking at y'all experiences what y'all gonna see is some of y'all noticing that you can't really take a man serious at 30 35 so 25 he had to be extremely exceptional his mind gonna be different so you got to understand that so in the same as a woman yes 100% focus on you a Leela or Leila god bless you thank you so much what are your thoughts on serial baby mamas on the good side he could be a hopeless romantic on the bass I hear irresponsible and so what you have to do to see which one he is is you got to look at who he is today if he's still toxic if he's still getting high he's still getting drunk if he's still clubbing then he's he is toxic and he is irresponsible he's an irresponsible man I can't even say lover he responsible but if he's a good dude that he's doing right then he's a hopeless romantic and he was looking for love but didn't know what he was looking for I didn't know how to identify I didn't know how to find him Jim free wish I found you years ago early 40 years old divorced for four years no kids I wasted time with my ex single and still yearn for a husband and children well if you're Jim free that the men definitely be in there and to I it's sad but the number one thing for men versus physical attraction so if you taking care of you and you start to glow and you had a glow and you have the energy you have that aura you have that confidence that's gonna start to attract men in your life so you got to make sure that everything else going in your mind is aligning with what you say you want and you can't mix the posit you can't mix the sacred with the profane meaning you can't mix the negative with the positive you can't be working out and doing good but then speaking negativity over your life speaking doubt over your life michaela god bless you're not McKenna this is yeah this your mind that this that sixty oh man my your man and then drop the bag on you huh you got all kind of donation money god bless you god bless you oh you might need to stay with that sixty yo he's gonna be having you in this kind of place unless this this your ability not god bless you really and you did the fact that you gave eleven eleven that's that might be a sign to me there's time for me to get this iPhone 11 but ain't quite dead yet I'm hoping I'll get it for Christmas thanks Tony this other man I met in person he's 53 we love going to museums dining he is very busy at work but makes time for me it's been two months when will he ask me to be serious with him Michaela do you live in old folks homes you'll get one of those 55 and up senior communities I just really not understanding where are you meeting these elderly not elder not elderly don't I'm not saying elderly because well yeah well this one I'm saying it's about me so y'all ladies in your fifties don't take offense but a 50-plus year old man is different than a 50 plus year old woman because man we put a lot more miles on us when I was 22 years old I had mote miles on me then a 70 toolbox Chevy and I need you to understand that that a 50 year old man is equivalent to like a hundred and fifty year old woman and so that's why I say where are you meeting these elderly men she say see in Seattle because you you know you 26 you 26 and if you like I'm older I would say shoot for your 35 soup for your 35 and the reason why age is important is because you want to be able to experience life together you know you want to want to ride a roller coaster and you can't ride a roller coaster with a man in his 50s and 60s because he will have a heart attack and you you want you gonna want to surfboard like Beyonce was talking about and I'm being real with you on other areas and he's not gonna be able to keep up with you and so you really got to think about this thing and and here's what I'm sensing and it's probably better for therapists but what I'm sensing is that you had you there's some daddy wounds here if some daddy wounds here is some it's some childhood situations here to where you moreso seeking a father that you could sleep with instead of a husband you're looking for security you want a security blanket you want a covering which can come from any man but some I said maybe she old soul no you know old soul mm no but to me molded me and got a bag on him and so if you and see how they molded me and probably driving a nice car got some good money and one thing I find financial security means a lot to a woman but I really would recommend dating a little closer to your age just I mean just to be honest with you unless you want some other stuff but I don't think you will be here if you wanted those life insurance chasers your way you're trying to get married and you know let them die off and you give to me not a life insurance policy I don't you don't strike me as that type of person to be here your own blessing me if you don't want the real honest truth but if that just happened away if that's the way the Mach flops and the cookie crumbles for you and you just happen to keep me and man 50-plus then you know that's your lot in life I get it you have to make the best of it but I just would make sure that you're not overlooking the men in their 30s that's good man and just being accustomed to these older men because they represent some type of security financial security and they get you addicted to you know the expense of dates and expensive trips because all that stuff is is stimulating Lexi Lexi little god bless you god bless you it's not showing me everybody so if you if you sent a blessing in on the mainline the night and I miss you justice Gregory god bless you boyfriend brought me a diamond ring bought me a diamond ring and the necklace for my bday I'm a wonder if you had you probably had another pulse-width that but that's that's nice oh that's nice of diamond ring necklace for my bday that's real nice / VJ Wilcox thank you so much bless you M Robbins their online dating is dangerous had a stalker for six months hey I'm trying to tell y'all Michaela now you might need your session so we could talk about these seasoned men that you that you're dating but and and the thing about it is I know us some women who they season and they upset with you taking a little bit of season and they got left in a in a forties and fifties and they want them numb old man and and you got a whole roster of them diamond l what ways can I show I'm approachable in public from the little picture I could see you got on yellow that's a great start right there and it looks you know that's vibrant its inviting it says that I'm cool I'm confident I'm calm I'm here and the key is walking at a normal pace not having your head down not being on your phone searching through your phone not being on the phone talking to nobody talking to your girlfriend your mom and your sister and have your head up having your head on a swivel making eye contact you're not teasing ear to ear so you're not walking around just like [Music] but you're walking you're walking around and you got a pleasant look a pleasant look to where you're just a love perking oh thank you very much I might hold it oh thank you very much you're in the elevator how you doing today just like that you're just pleasant and your energy is good what happened is a lot of women beating themselves up so bad on the pillow at night cursing God Matt with God scrolling Instagram getting jealous let everybody else Instagram love and Instagram you know relationships and they so mad that is turning their energy upside down and so when they go out and public they might be dressed right they might be doing some of the stuff but the energy bad and so they look at me because they're angry because now they're getting desperate or not it getting frustrated and they're telling themselves all these sorry no good many men ain't worth nothing you're sorry man you can't meet nothing these days I mean just many work two-cent ain't worth the linen his pocket and i Hickel your husband he come and he was in a walk right past you and not he walking right past you but because you just been you've been cursing man out every day when you look at him you look out in life and you don't even realize that you just looked at him and he looked at you and he was thinking like man she look good and then he get up on you and he's getting ready to shoot his shot but then he look at you up close and you look at him and you don't even process it because it's what you're telling yourself what's going on in your mind I told my wife I said let him be done in our now I'm being off here now she looked at me like I just looked at like I just looked at y'all huh she said no take your time take now see you now see you i'ma go with Nasir god bless you god bless you original name beautiful name I'm a little country forgive me if I'm saying it wrong if husband has the potential in his job to contribute more but he complains about he is doing his best for two years you been giving 70% and you've been given 70% how should you proceed there was no more emotional connection well I would like to know what part of the world or the country you are in and to where you give a 70% but that sounded look odd and he has the potential to contribute more but saying he's doing his best he sounded like he lied and you're not with a man you're not with a man and so what this is what that means is that when a man the way this should look and I'm gonna help y'all understand this the way this should look when you in a relationship with a man with your husband not your boyfriend y'all gotta stop expecting so much from a boyfriend cuz boyfriend don't owe you nothing okay it's a lot of women getting out of pocket thing and a boyfriend proposed to be paying a bill paying a car note and all that note that's what a husband is does so blessed brown beautiful any advice on YouTube channels will have some business q and A's on other days maybe on the Saturday or something like that we'll do some business Q&A where i answer y'all entrepreneur questions but i don't really want to mix both i'm up but when your husband is not providing when he's not putting up his money to pay all the bills what a man ought to be doing is paying every bill that his check will allow him to pay and then after he's exhausted his check then it's your check that y'all you know go to the movies on and y'all you know live life and travel and stuff like that all the money should go into one pot and it shouldn't be you know he make this I make this no we make this and then we pay the bills out of this and then we live do the fun stuff out of this and we save out of this it shouldn't be Oh 50 of this mind a hundred of this heels no 150 you want and when you marry and that's your husband but when a man is not contributing what he should what that says to me as a man is that he getting rid of the lead he's saving his coins so that he got some coin to fall back on when he leave you brown sugar glamour y'all go have my wife think I'm in her cheating on her with the name and I got me calling y'all brown sugar beautiful beauty I a god bless you for that I really appreciate your support hi Tony I'm hammer can you talk more about men at the gym is it just lust when a guy shows interest snaring working out near you their friends smirking lol should it be taken seriously yes you could take it seriously but it's nothing for you to do I mean it's nothing for you to do you keep doing you but you be open you know in the sense of in my gym we got a cafe so that's what a conversations go down with the single man that were they really trying to shoot they shot or walking to the cars and a parking lot is shooting a shot there you know so you be open like you be present so you walking at a normal pace when you leaving and you really don't pay him any attention you could look at him and just like you know look at them in come on just like that ain't no cheesing so don't don't go to flirt and shooting eyes because that's when you start looking a little and a lot of times men have experienced that and didn't that woman end up sleeping with him on the first night so if you over there and y'all in the gym and why are you doing your squats you know and you looking over there you doing all that then guess what he's gonna be like yes he ready she ready and and he gonna come try it and if you didn't gave that away and made him feel that way and you really already in the sense of you okay with sleeping with a man just cuz the chemistry strong now you lose at all so instead be pleasant nice little Pleasant look how you doing are you using this weight and and you taking the weight that twenty pound that he using and now you doing your dumbbell presses and then you put it thank you six cues me just like that just cordial you know classy comfortable and you can meet you can meet your husband in the gym you really can Cassie Gabriel where do I find real men like Caleb curl and you know I'll tell you it's a lot of men out there it's not lying it's not a lot but they are there that the problem is though is he's going to look like he may look like herckel and your influence makes him Stefan he may look like Clark Kent and your influence makes him Superman and so what I'm saying is a man like my wife didn't find me like this well my wife found me I was winning the deke shorts big old shirt I had six gold teeth I have on the top - on the bottom I had a long goatee I was just wanna be gone but I had the same mind I had the same wisdom but I was packaged different I had faith diamond necklaces I had two cellphones I had an Impala on 20 tools and I was dealing dabbling in the streets but I had the same wisdom but our package different and so that's what I mean like you you not gonna meet a ready-made man he's going to he gonna have the character like it's kind of like the late great Nipsey Hussle you know this is and I use him example God rest his soul but I use that to paint a picture of how you see men even like to pop God rest his soul you see these men who when you look at them you may say master oh this is going or this this something this this something now you know but you got a look at the character and so what my wife did with me if she saw me and she saw the goals in my mouth and she saw you know the goatee she saw all this and she said to me she got to know me and she said to me she said that ain't you nothing to you ain't no thug you ain't no gun you know you different you better than that you're smarter than that and I'm like wow get pulling my car you told me I'm on your friend and that's what helped me change my life and so that's what you got to realize based on your coaching morning thank you so much for your blessing based on your coaching experience what usually happens when someone dates a fellow church member I've never tried it but I know I will be asked out it I cannot remember a situation where it worked out good dating the church the devil be in the terms working there are some success stories I'm sure but a lot of them turn out bad and so you got to be very very careful very very diligent you really got to take your time don't even call it dating don't even call it date you know if you meet this man and you got to watch this man if he say something to you and he won't talk to you just watch him at the singles meet in watch him on the curb or you know watch him around the church and just try to read everything you can about him before you dive in because what I'm dealing with the most in coaching is people happen to leave their church because they don't broke up with this person and it did not work out and now the the the boy he lying on her to other members he gone getting the pastor and the Deacons on his side she got to lead the church because people looking at her crazy because he didn't got everybody on his side thinking she had Jezebel spirit and she lured him and baited him in so I just don't recommend it unless God truly truly speak your spirit about this man Gloria thank you so much god bless you thank you for your support not this thing what people is donating that's called a super chat and and I don't understand it fully it just shows me and I really don't know when and how and where I'm gonna get that it don't come to me like that's not going right to me or nothing like that I'm guessing it come when you to pay you which adds but I just think y'all god bless you because YouTube put ads on some of your videos if they're able to it for advertisers want to put their stuff on your videos and you make like you know some cents on the dollar and then it add up and it get more and more and more and so I really think y'all and this I think is in addition to that so hopefully this time January I had an iPhone 11 cuz y'all really supporting you I really appreciate it lawyers say I'm 43 no kids some men shy away from dating me because I don't have kids it's not that you don't have kids so it's something else in there it's something with just the the energy the perception that we don't have the gift to see ourselves through the eyes of others and that's why I come in as a life coach as a relationship coach and with all of my women clients female clients however words you y'all go by use that male/female men women when I'm coaching a woman I will ask her and she's single and she's looking I would say look send me a picture of you so I could put a face with a name and I'm gonna give you feedback from the male perspective of what your energy says to me it's gonna say different a little different in person and I will look at the picture and I'll tell her what I'm feeling from her and she'll say wow that's crazy it sounded like you grew up with me I hire in the world you see all that in the picture that's just one of my gifts I wanna stand maybe because I grew up almost like a mute I didn't really talk to people unless it was just my friend group I was really quiet and shy and I just observed people and I learned all the time that our personality is shaped based on how we show up in the world how we look essentially because how we look determines how people treat us and then how people treat us determines how we feel about ourselves and how we feel about ourselves determines how we show up in the world what we give off when we step out and so when this happens this is how a man is reading you so based on what's going on between your ears it'll determine how you showing up in the world and a man is reading you like a novel because a man's gift is to read people in a moment because men are also the Warriors men aren't the hunter so men have an ability to read what's in front of them very quickly because men have a killer instinct a hunting instinct because God knew we will be going to going to war and going to hunt to bring home food for the family so when a man reads you is totally different than when a woman reads you and that reading comes from what's going on in your mind and a a woman coach can't even tell you this because she a woman would never be able to look at you the way a man looks at you to see you the way a man sees you because we made totally different hey I'm only here to talk for two months so I got to go in five minutes I don't like to do these thing more than an hour and 20 I bought into a dude on life the other day and man say he was on line five hours I said one day one day I had one day but look here you know what I had a couple of if I could get through this I saw Angela Rey in here ask a question Nicosia Nicosia or nakusha ELISA your picture is too small so I can't I can't see you right now but you look like a handful that little picture right doc I see you look like you're cut a man looked like he'll cut a man nakusha I'm dating my boyfriend he's talking about marriage after three months the first month he wanted to be exclusive it's been almost seven months thanks to you I've been doing pretty much everything you've said I've learned so much from all your books and videos my problem is my past marriage fatherless and bad relationship with mom I have some insecurities and don't want to run this man off please guide me with answers on insecurities how to love him wholeheartedly you are so right about everything especially how a man knows when he first meets you if you're his wife thank you so much you've been my greatest inspiration for the past two years hey thank you so much for sharing that now you may have to talk about this and a little deeper fashion because when I read this is a couple of red flags to me and so the couple red flags is that our doorman knows quickly if you his wife he doesn't necessarily move that quickly so he may know it but that doesn't mean that he's talking about marriage after three months it also does not mean that he wants to be exclusive after one month now that is also can be true when he knows I want to be exclusive right away with my wife and by marriage I want talking marriage and you know I've know three months and I knew she was my wife after our first six hour conversation and most men who get married can say that that they knew she was the one rather quickly but that doesn't mean he moves as quickly so what you got to do is you've got to kind of pump the brakes so don't focus on loving him wholeheartedly and all of that in a case like this your insecurities actually serve you because it helps you to slow down it helps you to kind of chill a little bit so don't worry about that that's that's serving you right now where insecurities hurt you is when you blame a man or you accuse a man for something that he has not done and you accusing him just because of your past so you may think something you may feel something just don't let it come out your mouth don't let it come out your mouth and then it's not damaging you but that's actually protecting you right now because he's moving very very fast and it's just not it's just not normal so here's the question that I would ask you is does he need you does he need you for a place to stay does he need you financially do you earn more than him did he just come out of a relationship and you are rebound so he needs some emotional he needs a band-aid you're his band-aid does he need citizenship wherever you live is he does he need to get married to speed up the process of his own his citizenship so you got to ask question does he need me for anything other than love and if the answer is yes then all this is a red flag if the answer is no den okay it could be the real deal but you still just kind of pump your brakes don't sleep with them don't go to serving them don't go to cooking his meals don't go to doing his laundry don't move in together you just date strictly date for 12 months strictly date um somebody say hi sign up for coaching you have to email now coaching is one-on-one so do not email in and then email them back Oh ain't know it house people be writing in for coaching I'm like you think I'm on the phone with people one-on-one for free in this and I got a fan whole family to feed and I got to be with my family that I'm just on the phone with a thousand people so understanding that y'all understand coaching coach you also got to understand a beginning coach a coach just starting charged fifty dollars an hour to a hundred dollars an hour I'm 12 years in and I'm a celebrity coach so that means that I'm on call that means that my pay scale is look different I I do keep things affordable if you got a credit card or savings or you make a a decent living so correct so my coaching is $200 an hour and in 2020 it has to it has to go up because I have to move it up with the demand because I only try to coach ten people a week so if 40 people need coaching and all 40 can sign up that let me know that it's time for me to go to the next scale and so right now in 20 19 coaching is $200 for a one-on-one session which is very inexpensive considering people who have my brand size are at $500 an hour $1,000 oh I saw a guy today who he private his brand probably half the size and he has not done 20% of what I've done in my career and he charged $1,000 an hour and so I try not to get ridiculous but at the same time you know I just don't want y'all to be misled so one on one coaching you have to email support at Tony Gaskins comm support at Tony Gaskins calm that's the email I saw somebody pensee not see I'm trying to get off the hill but y'all got me like a dance on the pole now y'all y'all throw that had donation on there I go to seeing the iPhone 11 and I said I got a key a another song that came on I got to stay up here but no I'm just playing just playing no forgive me ball forgive me if you dance I Lord forgive him I'm not making light of that stress of your career please forgive me pants II dated a guy for three months took a vacation together when I voiced my concerns things change no contact for a week he reached out but still hasn't explained why he went mi e he's mi again he said he loved a god bless you god bless you thank you so much for your support you probably weren't on here earlier when I said um so I'm gonna say it again because I know you weren't on here when a guy goes mi and you didn't cheat on him you didn't beat on him you didn't steal from him like he just disappears because you questioned him because you held him accountable because you check him for something you express your concerns and he went in my that means he's trying to train you so what he is doing is he saying to you listen here don't question me be happy that I'm here in your life that I'm even dealing with you and don't question me don't ask me nothing about nothing just shut up and be happy that I'm here that's what he's saying when he goes am I after you didn't check him after you to say something and when he and if a man does that over and over and over that's abuse and that's not your man that is not your man you are a placeholder for another woman that know how to whip him in the shade because you're not whipping whipping him in the shape because you're not his wife you're not the one that's meant for him a man will grow and change for the woman that he's intended for if a man is not growing and changing for the better of your relationship then you holding somebody else husband hostage so you got to release him so you can attract yo your husband the man that's gonna love you and respect you and be his best self for you let's see Lu a thank you even came back god bless I say oh I see you say you got to get you a question in because I feel like last time you you sent my blessing you just sent my blessing but I appreciate you for posting a question and I don't nobody else donate please don't nobody else donate so when I get done with this here I could go on get on off hill and cuz y'all working midnight now so I really appreciate y'all thank y'all so much for the love and support not a beauty about YouTube is they don't cut you off Instagram raggedy but they cut you off at our you to let me still talk see you to YouTube and and this right here these donation you to get a percentage I think thirty percent thirty or forty percent so you to know what they doing now that YouTube now hey I'm here if a man offers to pay for my coffee is hard for me want to get past that past emotional abuse issues pay for everything let them pay for your coffee but see here's the thing is is you have to have a balance as a woman so where you get to the place the way you get to the place where no - Bella let them keep on blessing midnight honestly I'm doing what I love I'll be here 10 hours for free I've been ten forever I want to do a 24-hour marathon for charity or something but I really love helping people and it's just a blessing that YouTube and created this for servants for helpers like myself that's a blessing but on to answer your question is you have to learn how to accept your blessings but then call it out when you realize it's a snare so what I mean by this is every woman has to get to the place to where you have a balance to where just like a man has to learn the balance between the lion and the lamb a woman has to learn her balance you know between your lying and your lioness to where you get to the place to where you can be nice and you can accept him paying for dinner you can accept him buying you something and being nice to you and doing for you you can accept it but and when he come and he thinks that he gets something in return for that when he comes in he shows that he did not do that from the right place of his heart then that's when you gotta check him and let him know that's when you gotta be oh hold on hold on hold on brother I'm not sleeping with you you you thought that because you paid for dinner dad we were gonna be sleeping together no no brother that's not how that works and he may leave you he made ghosts he may be gone by you got a free meal and don't feel guilty about that eat that meal good whatever he buy you whatever now what one thing a lot of men do is they say well give me everything I bought you give you everything I bought you give me all the purse back guess what don't get attached to anything a man buys ooh that's not your husband even if it is your hood don't get attached to anything you go every purse you ever bought every pair of shoes every everything a lot of women they get attached to it and want to run off on the plug they want to keep the rain you want to keep the bag they want to keep no give it all back to them let them know that you came by me let them know that material things don't move me they don't know that I'm a boss and I get to my own bag that's what I got to do I'm not a woman on the street calling that you think you could throw percent or a fancy dinner and then all of a sudden I'm opposed being off on my back spread-eagle no you got to let a man know that only thing gonna move your meter is his heart and his energy his love not not his money so let a man buy your coffee just watch him so he don't slip nothing in the coffee but let him buy the coffee long as you got your eyes on but let him do it because as a real man that what a real man gonna want to do anyways real man is not going Dutch well if his money ain't right he going Dutch but if he got money he's gonna pay for the demo and he's gonna he going everyday I'm looking for something I could get my wife even if it's a twelve dollar shirt from Target Front RJ yeah it stars a if I'm feeling but every day I'm looking for something just cuz dad is a love language and so I'm doing that but then I'm also massaging her back I'm also playing in a house I'm getting up ten o'clock at night not to go to Starbucks and get all hot nonfat chai tea latte that she loved so I'm every day when you become a real man you looking for ways to please your woman so let a man do all that and when he and that's one one thing my wife me and how she got me hey jasmine Watson god bless you God bless you jasmine god bless you again Jasmine and I don't know which one you're clicking but one of them that you clicked you could ask a question now Jasmine if you got a question or you just trying to bless your brother god bless you one thing my wife taught me is that she tolling there's been an hour and 30 minutes Glen Ross hey you still here wit my heart you still here rocking with me if you could be here with me for island thirty-minute then Who am I did not be here you know because I y'all if you have to go to somebody job tomorrow then y'all y'all could watch the playback fortunately I work for you so I don't have to I'm not going to nobody job tomorrow but y'all could scroll to this point and watch the playback but um one thing my wife told me is that she was so nice she was so nice she was so fun her conversation was so amazing her energy was so pure she did not argue she did not debate like when we were getting to know each other she didn't take no time to go back and forth because she was like this is um I'm getting notice man like I'm not finna be stressing myself trying to argue about something I disagree with so she just let me talk and then she talked look to ask you a question look two little ones a lot one is a lot of time post your questions I'll keep an eye out for you if you post it earlier I'm not reading question while I'm talking so if you post a while I'm talking I would not see it so y'all got a week top finish talking then pop the question in now but my wife I she was so friendly and so nice I was like okay so I probably could touch huh I probably could touch so let me see what we can make happen and so when she let me spend the night I'm thinking okay cuz he been so nice and friendly and when I tried to make my move and it was too early she kicked me right on up you mean I mean I saw a whole nother side of I'm like whoa you've been so nice April goodnight god bless you you've been so nice and kind with the world but it's kind of fun but she showed me that she got a balance she showed me that I'm peaceful and and I'm loving and I'm kind but I'm a real one I'm a real one DW god bless you somebody said coach Ross say if his money ain't right he don't need to be dating a real man love paying for a date with the right intention its insult that man go dutch with a woman I feel you I'm feeling cold rock I'll fit you 100% 100% I used to be a grown boy like that they not take somebody else being at $67 on that state with wrong intention and be mad hey god bless y'all I need to go with Ben it's been an hour and a half I got he likes on he likes long and make me sweat oh man I told that little lady who had a question I told I look for a question answer a question and you know I'm running off on the plug now see one thing people do to me even on the Q&A nah look to 1031 let - you say can you please answer one question for me and but I don't see your question so don't be mad if I'm if I got the golden eye okay I find your question why is it that a man says he all of a sudden isn't a texture when he used to do it before and why do guys like IG female picks and get mad at your likes and comments you know one one of the themes on my channel what I've been doing if y'all noticed I'm kind of trying to do why do men why do me and why do men a lot of my videos say why men do this why men do that and the reason why was because I get so many and why do men do this and to be honest which is the hardest thing in the world to answer because when some at certain points in our life as men we don't make sense to ourselves like we don't understand why we're doing some of the stuff we're doing so we trying to articulate it is extremely hard and then the answer that you give it does not make sense to a lot of women and sold women oh you make excuses for a man not the reason why he's telling you he's not a texter the question is is he a talker so if he's not texting is he replacing the text with a phone conversation if the answer is no then that means that he's too busy texting other women and don't want to be texting you because you taking up text time and he can't spell that good to be typing between you and somebody else or you texting while he on the phone with her so that's what that is now if he said don't text me but he calling you and y'all talking for an hour two hour then he trying to mature the relationship and go to the next level if that's not what's happening then he getting ready to to meet somebody else and move on and the part about guys like an IgE female picks and get mad the reason why men get mad at your likes and your comments is because he knows what those likes and those comments mean and the reason the same thing he accusing you of which Oh likes and comments that is exactly what he's doing with his likes and comments the only way we the only way a man only like a woman picture on Instagram to get her attention to say um I'm here I'm looking at you and I hope you know that I'm looking at you unless it's like a friend or true friend family member or something like that then you know if it's to get her attention to Shawn said go to bed Tony and get that off on the left thank you for your wisdom and for helping so many of us become wiser women a thank you Tucson and you and you can bless me again god bless everybody that that bless me all of you guys members and all of you that that are not members but you did a gift tonight hey thank you so much I'm really praying that God pour out over your life and then he just opened up the windows of heaven and bless you so much that is pressed down running together shaken together and running over how they say in a good book and I really really mean that from the bottom of my heart because you know you being here with me and talking with me and sending these questions and allowing me to fulfill my purpose you don't have to do it you don't have to do it and for you to support me you don't have to do it you know and I just thank you for that so eight hey thank you for receiving it god bless y'all and we will talk soon we did an hour-and-a-half one day I'm gonna do like the guy see another day did five hours but my voice already about to become a I feel god bless y'all we'll talk

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 97min 40sec (5860 seconds)

Published: Sun Dec 15 2019