Dating 50 and up!

hey Tony gas is here now I've been getting this question for the longest you know ladies over 55 55 and asking me Tony can you do a video about dating 55 and up and you know I really don't know why y'all ask this question because y'all already know it all and you don't want to argue with people who are younger than you so really don't know why y'all asking that question but I know I continue to see it because people start to watch a video and not realize I've already done a video on this so hopefully you know you can kind of sit with this and realize and just what you have to understand now I've been dealing with and coaching some men here recently Oh 55 and up been paying more attention to that age group ironically a lot of my clients are 50 and older I would say it feels like at least 50% of my clients are 50 and over so it does make sense that sometimes we can be older than a person or younger than a person but they can have more insight in a certain area so I may be older than somebody but if this person does real estate investing and I'm just getting into it that 25 year old can teach me a whole lot even though I'm far his senior and so I get that with relationships but that's what you have to realize is just because you hit 55 doesn't mean that a whole lot changes because that doesn't mean that it's now the Hunger Games that doesn't mean that the rules of standards versus preferences change because what you have to realize is relationships and especially what I teach and love it is rooted in principles principles not you know variables that kind of waver like a blow like a leaf in the wind love is based on principles so principles do not change so a lady the other day was telling me she's like Tony I'm not waiting until marriage to sleep with somebody and it's like okay that's your choice so go go right ahead go right ahead get you some more soul ties in the golden years of your life you know can't get pregnant you know 55 and up most likely unless you just got a special kind of gene but can't get pregnant but you showed catch HIV you show could catch incurable STD you definitely will still get a soul time that you won't even have the wherewithal at 55 to deal with a soul time as you could have dealt with it at 25 or 35 because at 55 now you let you have less time left see if the life expectancy for you is 80 based on your family if it's 80 or let's say is 90 you got less time from 55 or 60 or 65 or 70 then if you were 25 or 35 so a soul tie is actually going to affect you more at that age it's also going to affect you more at 55 and up because you're gonna beat yourself up more cuz you're gonna feel like I should know better I should not be failing by elementary tricks that these men are pulling so that's what you have to understand at 55 years old you need a man if you 55 up you need a man your age or older you need a man your age or older do not fall for it I see it all the time women that's 55 and up dealing with a man that's 35 a man that's 40 a man that's 45 what you have to understand is men are visual creatures men are visual creatures do you look better at 55 then you looked at 35 9 out of 10 times no why because as you age you may get a few more wrinkles your skin may start to you know get whether your skin's starting to change it's not as tight and as fresh and as vibrant as it was in your 30s or 40s now it may be smooth it may be healthy but also it has changed your body may change your metabolism slows down so you might not feel like a whippersnapper like you were at 35 45 if men are visual creatures is a woman that's older or a woman that's younger going to look better to someone who is superficial looking at it visually that right there is common sense now hopefully y'all could bear with me here because sometimes hearing talking about this stuff could be painful just the realities of it because I've dealt with women that's 55 and old that really truly believed it's 35 year old man is into her no no no unfortunately no unfortunately no okay because he is superficial he is visual so when he looked at you and then he looked at a 35 year old woman that's gonna be a different look now unless you got Hollywood on your side like you know when you see these women like angela bassett you know and LisaRaye and you know Halle Berry and they get in today 40s or 50s or 60 or what-have-you look at Oprah she's a billionaire she's a billionaire but still life happens to us all like you know you still could see when someone is aging regardless of their money and so a man that's and then what do you notice all the time with men men they down so when a man gives 50 he starts to look for 35 40 45 year-old sometimes if he's insecure if he's not fulfilled so the fact that you see men date younger it's a whole lot that going to this that I've can say on the YouTube video it'll be really over y'all here I try to walk y'all through the mind of a man but it just it just it too scared if you're being a woman y'all say y'all want the truth but I'll be honest what you can't handle true you can handle it a true drunk trust when I tell you okay just listen to him when I tell me this so understand this a younger man is not into you now here are some reasons a younger man is into you when you 55 and older a younger man may be into you one because he wants that notch in his belt he's immature and he has been with several different type of women and for every different type of woman a man get another notch get another notch in his belt so he wants that that trophy he wants that prize yes slept with a woman that's 60 that's 65 70 you don't have some clients women clients that's in their 70s and you know still young still vibrant still living a lie guess what a 35 40 45 year old man will put her on her back because what's here works the same it's still gonna work the same okay so here puts it out now here's what he's playing on he's playing on your desperation he's playing because you feeling desperate because you're getting older and you want somebody to grow older with you want somebody to ride off in the sunset with he planned on your frustration because you meet a man that's your age and they want a woman that's ten years younger because they're going through their crisis their midlife crisis you know three-quarters of life crisis you know they're going through their situation so that could create some frustration you will be 55 and older as a woman and you will meet men that's 55 and older and they still playing games like they 30 still lost they're confused still ignorant still immature that causes frustration and they're confusing you because you might bump into a man like myself who you listen to and gain some some insight from and you like hold on how is this young man 36 years old telling me stuff and putting me on game that I'm dealing with this guy that's 57 and he seemed like at 57 he don't understand half of what this young man at 36 understand so that's confusing it's frustrating it may injure you it's like what in the world so then you say to yourself you say well if this 57 year old man or the 67 year old man don't get it but this 36 year old sound like he knows what he's talking about and he won't me I'll be with him so yeah emotionally hold on drop a cone I'll drop a call me let me get my beer call me just give a little peace and consolation help me think so emotionally or conversationally that 30-something 40-something year old man may be able to talk with you and he may like that because he may feel enlightened cuz you didn't been here longer than him but physically he's not going to he may think you're beautiful he may think you pretty you know he may not have anything against the way you look but it's just not going to register to him if he's being honest and he's genuine and he's a good man because he understands if he's ten years younger than you he understands that he wants somebody that he can grow all the way with that he can grow older with but if you're gonna check out you know check out of this realm and check in the to the Lord Hotel in the sky to your mansion in the sky you got to go meet your landlord got to get your keys to your mansion in the sky ten fifteen years before him that's not enticing for him so he won't somebody really that's gonna live as long as him or outlive him that's really what he's looking for because he knows that a man cannot be without a woman ninety-nine percent of the time but a woman has shown over and over and over that she can live without a man it ain't too many men that showed you they can live without a woman you product account on one hand if if two fingers men that are completely single and abstinent but you probably could count on hands feet teeth fingers everything toes toenails how many women you know that are completely single it's a difference and so that's what you have to understand that you got to be in your age range when you're dating and I spend a little extra time with that just to really try to soften it up for you because I know something y'all get your feelings hurt when you are oh I'm not attractive to 35 year old it's not that it ain't daddy you might say oh you pretty but not for me okay so just understand that all right now the frustration you dealing with with the men in your age group rightfully so it's rightfully so because what you bumping into you bumping into the old school player so he 55-plus never been married no kids he's just been juggling women playing with women playing his whole like he old school player he might have he might own his business he might make him some good money but he just real ain't into marriage cuz he want to do his thing he want a juggler to eat with him you bump into him being you or you bump into the man that heathen been married one two or three times I don't heard three times something in some in some sessions and so he blaming women he kind of low-key hate women his marriages keep failing it's really largely because of him and he's stuck in his ways and he immature and he's unfaithful but he doesn't want to admit that so he blaming it on them and now here you are got got to roll the dice got to take a gamble on him then you had a man who he's recently divorced but he was with the woman for 18 to 25 years so he's almost kind of you know shell-shocked he don't really want to get married anytime soon but you may have been divorced for five ten years or more I've never been married so you actually ready to meet your life partner to get married so you can ride off into the sunset but he wants to drag his feet and he may need ten years of single life playing the field dating around before he's ready to even consider getting married again now let me tell you let's go back to the young guy you dating a young guy the guy that's younger than you but really I'm gonna be honest with you the reason why he wants you is because of your stability he wants your Social Security check your pay or your pension check your retirement check because you've lived long enough to where you didn't paid off student loans you didn't paid off credit cards you didn't your house is paid for because you got it when you were 30 it's a 30-year mortgage you pay extra on your mortgage you pay it off in 25 years or at 30 years your house is paid for your car is paid for or or you got your little light Cardinal but you don't really have a whole lot of bills so this younger man who may not be financially stable may not be where he wants to be financially he looks at you he sees that and he says okay if I get with her all her children are grown if she has children so they don't need her financially that much so 55 and over okay boom she can help invest in my gym that I want to open invest in my barbershop that I won't open help me get me I could put it on her break her bike get up my gone because she got this she thinks she's Stella getting her groove back and then pulling my god and then she'll be paying she'll buy me a car you know she'll she'll help me get a car she helped me get a job she'll I have somewhere to stay because I house paid for or her apartment or her condo that she paying rent on she got the money easy because she's still working she might be doing something might have started her own business or she even got into some multi-level marketing company or you know doing Mary Kay something she selling some Avon barricade doing taxes not doing credit repair life coach she into something and she getting a retirement check on Social Security check I think which one of you could 29 62 she getting that check Social Security check so now he just you got extra money so he comes and plays on you and he's not even attracted to you no no no I know somebody say well so you mean to tell me as good as I look cuz I look good for my age yes I'm 65 yes I'm 55 but I look 45 I look 50 okay yeah that's what you want to tell yourself you look your age you look your age that don't mean it look bad but you look your age you look good for your age but you look your age okay so I'm telling you what it is you could get offended and argue with it or you could listen and save yourself some trouble cuz I'm coaching the 55 and all who didn't got duped by a man who they thought was serious I'm seeing this everything all day so some people gonna say oh so you trying to tell me it's no way in the world got a 45 year old man can be genuinely attracted to a 65 year old woman that a 50 year old man could be genuinely attracted to a 65 year old one yeah there's a way in the world one out of a million one out of a million yeah he out there somewhere but a dead what you waiting on you're gonna meet the Lord first you're gonna meet the Lord and you're gonna have to look down on him from heaven and say oh he did oh there he goes I was living over here and I had this view but not even I'm up up here with you Lord I could see he over there he live on the other side of the country in that town right there that got eight people in it oh my cousins he's working on his farm and I just drove from Annapolis or Georgia or Florida or Texas over there the West concept I would have bumped into that man that's 15 years younger than me and genuinely like older women that's not what you want to do you want to trust the rule and stop trying to be the exception because you don't have time to be the exception you got to be very strict and diligent with your life because you came too far to lose all your money yuuna came too far and beat all the STDs they end up 55 the kids are you know herpes at 55 you decaying this far don't follow now because you're getting - because you get frustrated and you want to get on your bike because now genital [Music] transmission of the STDs is at an all-time high because we live in such a promiscuous society so trust me trust and believe that a man that will sleep with a woman that is 10 or more years older than him he's sleeping with everything he's sleeping with everything he's sleeping with everything because he just hopped down so you putting yourself at risk of everything and and what do you mean ado they'll break your back how your hair spinning and they hit you with an amazing idea dad because of the generation you came in you might not fully understand the tech world inside and out but this man hit you with idea oh oh that sound good and you know I follow young man on it oh no you two named Tony Gaskins and he did it my mentor that life and Tony guys in academy.com you know what you remind me of him I'm gonna invest in you and there with your life savings just like that just like that with your 401k dream you mean so what you're gonna have to get to is you're gonna deal with you a man you're gonna deal with your man this and the reason why I spend so much time on that because that's what I deal with the most on each coaching calls women 55 it up or 50 and up in this pew 50 this pretty money go for you too I should say dating 50 and up then dealing with a younger man and then the man that you'd get your age they immature and cuz you like what that's why you still single you but it's stupid this way you're still single you're so immature and so you're dealing with the immature man so what you're gonna have to do is you have to increase your rate of exposure so what I mean is if you go to bingo on Friday or Wednesday or Tuesday you need to be at Starbucks or the internet cafe on Saturday so every Saturday you need to be at Starbucks working on your book working on your nonprofit working on your business from 10:00 a.m. to 12:00 if come twelve o'clock you hit you the caramel macchiato and you feel good and you can stay the tool you got to a slot where you could plug your computer and plug in computing you all right stand up scratch go to the bathroom come on back I said spend that time right now you out of the house go to the mall walk around the mall for hour walking around the mall for hour then what you want to do is look in your city small business association Rotary Club you know I don't know if the Rotary Club you know is against whatever certain religion me anything like that but I've been I just had to speak at a couple of them it's a lot of Christians in stuff a lot of Muslims in there too all religions eight days in there too Rotary Club because guess what that man who has been focused on business he building his dentist practice he building his doctor practice medical doctor practice he building his construction company and relationship just have not worked out for him but now he's successful it's generating great money hundreds of thousands or even millions it got legs it could run on its own it could stand on his own and he ready to finally settle down and focus and meet his wife guess what he and the Chamber of Commerce Club that little group you know he's in the Rotary Club he has a membership to the gym not look cheap gym with all the look you know South Beach bodies at the expensive gym he had the expensive gym and he goes five days a week the man that's gonna be serious and faithful and ready and focused he goes five days a week to the gym you need a gym membership you need to be going three to seven days a week know your fans and bustled body you need to get on meetup.com don't get on internet dating yet you need to do a coaching session before you go to my mentor that life click on browse coaches or find a coach you'll see me book your session before you get online dating get on meetup.com meetup.com is not a dating site meetup.com got different groups or your city may have another networking networking site in your city google that networking site near me or networking events near me meet up.com got different groups he got a group for piano player as a group for entrepreneurs a group for doctors a group for lawyers a group for authors a group for podcasters a group for life coaches you said I mean so you get on meetup.com and you join the groups in your interests they may meet on once a month you might be in three four groups guess what your husband's gonna be any one of them groups you at Starbucks or or you at the gym three to seven times a week your husband in the gym you going to church your husband at church he in one of these places you got to increase your rate of exposure you can't just be sitting at home because you don't have to work or because you work from home or if you still go out and work you can't just go to work and come home you gotta have you a routine that you stick to that you out and about every Friday night you add a lounge you get you one girlfriend and you go to a lounge and you sit there and you listen to the live jazz that's a little egg and eat your love rice shrimp and you learn it the shrimp eat some asparagus and how you stink pee but you said now and you you out down my how you look girlfriend and guess what your man he in there - he ain't it the rap one Heenan trapped lounge here at the Jazz lounge so you just got to increase your reign increase your rate of visibility your last case scenario would be online dating but listen if you're gonna do online dating you need to hire a dating coach you need to hire you need to go on my mentor dot like for hire a dating coach I'll be here for you if my rate is out of range then it is this other people that charge less than me but you need a dating coach and this and here's some rules and hopefully that if you know you of age you over fit you got a good attendance pan on you here's some rules no sleeping together no sleeping to go cuz guess what eight still lockdown HIV still lockdown live and well kickin no sleeping together you honestly today with the 19 out here that man cuff on you you might go meet the Lord because your immune system can slow down a little bit yes I understand that you each little beats and you kale juice in the morning I understand that you thank you healthy it don't matter your metabolism to slow down your immune and got a little bit weaker and man caught on you with that nineteen on his breath you might go meet the Lord so understand you're dating need to be social distancing especially right now with this hill situation going on but more so than that even when we come through this guess what you still need to date men from a distance what I mean by that is don't feel like just because you didn't wrote a bicycle a thousand times that you just could get on your bike no stay off your bike stay off your bike because guess what the older that this man here the more serious he should be the more ready he should be if he's not serious and ready looking for a wife that he could ride off in the sunset you would know that within the first three to six months you will know that he will make that known I don't know if I'm ready I don't know if I want to be married again I don't know if I want to ever be married I don't know he will say that and if his actions back that up with inconsistency in maturity get going get going listen a man in general well he 25 55 75 a man in general will tell you what he wants he will tell you what he thinks he will tell you where he's at the reason being is because men lack the cognitive skills that women possess so in a man's mind when it comes to communication is a to be a woman can go from A to G to Z the imminent elope e and back to be a man got to go from A to B it's very few of us males that can go on but make a point I'm one of them but that's a special gifting and I exercise it every single day the man you meet he's not doing an hour video every day on YouTube so he may not be as articulate or able to communicate he's going to say to you and this work you got to be listening to him and not listening to your fears listening to your doubts listening to your insecurities listen to your frustration listen to your worries listen to your desperation you got to be listening to him he's going to say to you I'm not sure about marriage because I've already been down that road and I just don't know if it's necessary he's gonna say that or he's gonna say I really don't believe in marriage because I feel like it's a construct of the government to trap us and trick us when you could just have love he's gonna say that or he's gonna say be honest with you at this stage in my life I'm looking for my wife somebody that I could marry do it the right way get it right and grow old with he's gonna say that he's going to tell you most likely within the first thirty days where he is at in his life and in his mind and what he wants when he says it you have to listen when he says it you have to listen now let me help you understand this if you 50 or older and definitely 55 or older I was googling last night because something y'all say is senior citizen is 65 it may be different depending on the states but here in Florida is say it's 55 you say that restaurants and business places of business start to offer their senior discounts to people who are 55 years or older so in a lot of places 55 is considered a senior citizen that should not be your negative thing you know it just isn't like a senior senior in high school senior in college it just mean that you're in that fourth quarter of life so okay the first quarter second quarter third quarter fourth quarter you a senior that's all let me all right and whether that's 55 to 105 or 55 to 95 or 55 to 85 you in that fourth quarter okay abundant you might be fifty four to forty you know might be third quarter thirty-nine you know the 25 the 20 might be second quarter you know I ever break down so understand this right here men already are more immature than women women mature faster than me so what once you hit 50 you should never be dating a man young you never the man need to be your age or older and then I know your question is well what about the men that want younger women that's just not your man that's not your man that man has issues meaning confidence issues insecurity issues he want a woman he could raise he want a daughter he could sleep with he nasty that's what he's looking for a mature man wants a woman that's his age that's in his same generation a mature man who was healthy and whole and he'll he will want a woman that's in his generation once he hit the age of 50 now if he met a younger woman before the age of 50 okay that's something different once he hit age of 50 he's gonna want a woman that's in his generation that you know fit the 50 he's not going to want no younger one so of you 50/50 old man that's mature he wants you you 55 a 55 year old man that's mature he wants you so that's what you got to understand take me other men out the picture now if you happen to meet a exception to the rule it's going to hit you across the head so hard that you will know it without a shadow of a doubt that this man is an exception to the rule he five years younger than me he 10 years younger than me whatever you saying to yourself but he is clearly an exception to the rule he's going to be consistent and he's not gonna need anything from you so if you date younger he cannot need you for anything if he need help with a job he's not the one if he need help getting a car he's not the one if he needs somewhere to stay he's not the one if y'all date a year and he loses his job within that year he already knew the end was coming and that's why he got with you for stability he's not the one he will be established he will be stable and he will have everything he needs and all he needs you for is love that's it that's it and so from that point forward now from your age and up just nothing you don't when you day in 50 and older 55 and older whatever I name this video I don't know you cannot be with a man that's more than 10 years older than you and the reason being is because y'all man life expectancy is shorter than a woman and yes man one woman that's gonna outlive him but you don't want to be alone that long you don't want to marry this man and then he leave 15 years before you done before you leave so you want a man that's within 10 years of your age if he is 10 years older than you or younger between your age and 10 years older then he may be right at your material your maturity level so if you 55 and you get with a man that is 74 won at 70 unless he got a special kind of pill things starting to slow down they ain't starting to slow down okay 55 you still live and will you live and kicking you ready hit you hit me you redditor then yield you like come on he'll beat daddy but he if he's 70 things starting to slow down now he could be an exception to the rule but and if if if you 55 and he's 60 okay he still might be able to go he might be able to get get it on in but then guess what you gonna hit 70 he gonna be 75 so you might say look I ain't ready to slow down too long 80 till I'm 75 you know so that's why you want to be as close to your range as possible as close to your age possible so that y'all can experience life together at the same time you don't want one person to be you don't want to be in your summer and your husband in his winter you see what I mean you want to be able to in the same age group so that you can go through the seasons of life together and what you're gonna have to realize is the older a man is if he's mature the faster he should be pulling the trigger so what I mean by this is when you 55 and older this man will know about a six-month mark if you're his wife see when you under when a man is young when a man 40 and under it's gonna take him a year some men take them up to three years I tell women not to give a man more than 12 months to know if she's his wife or not if you don't know about 12 months mark if this man is getting ready to engage to ask you to marry him go much of business but when you 55 and older he has seen life he's been through life he's had numerous girlfriends even if he's never been married he may have been married a time or two he's gonna know about a six-month mark so guess what you got enough time at that age to keep your legs closed for six months and then know if he is your husband or not if you're trying to get on your back nah I still even 55 and over don't condone sex before marriage why because the STDs and because of soul ties and if you of the Christian faith also because of fornication you blocking your blessings you're blocking your blessings if you in fornication the libidinous you running or business you're trying to start it's gonna fail if you Christian and you're in fornication now if you're not Christian now I know who laws you did it on what system you own that's between you and yours okay this is a Christian Channel all sewed up between you and yours but so outside of that faith then I just still recommend keeping your legs closed for at least six months so that you know what he's about you getting to talk to him to get spend time with him get to see where he's at okay and some women who are 55 and over had just flat-out told me Tony I never want to be married again if you don't want to be married again but you want to be sleeping with a man then I'm not talking to you you're not in my demographic cuz I'm a Christian so I believe in marriage and I believe in saving yourself until marriage anything you do outside of that that's on you but I cannot condone it I cannot preach that and teach that and tell you hey go do that if you do that that's on you deal with the repercussions that come but listen a man gets to know more and more as he grows as he gets older he gets wiser and wiser he should so if you meet a man 55 and old and he's still immature you got to run as fast as you can you got to run as fast as you can what they're saying say that a fool at 40 is a fool indeed come on now you got to run as fast as you can if you meet a man that he 57 and still immature he 50 and still immature he's 60 and still immature you got to be calm I'm telling you listen to me you got to be cool pull a hamstring you going so fast you mean so guess what if 30 year old man know a woman is their wife within three months he can tell if this woman is wife he wife material and then he ready to propose by month 12 between month 12 and 18 a 30 year old man is ready to propose if he's serious and he's mature then a 55 and up man he's going to know really quickly he's gonna know really quickly just think about anything like anything like if you an accountant once you've been doing accounting for 10 years when you look at somebody books you could tell and in your first sweep through them books if these books is a mess of day and order if you English teacher educator got a degree you understand grammar and punctuation you could read one paragraph and tell if this book or this paper is well written anything you do anything that you do once you've been doing it for some time you could real quick so these men they've been sleeping around if he 55 he gets a possibility he'd been he'd been sleeping around for 40 years if he lost his virginity at 15 like me he'd been sleeping around for 40 years if he 55 he has been dating around for 40 years if he's 55 he knows his wife when he sees her when he said gotta talk to you in the first three months he's gonna know so keep your legs closed so that you don't add another body to your list and you don't add another soul time to your spirit and so that you avoid contracted any STDs at this age of your life when you if you didn't beat the system if you happen to have contracted an STD already in your life and you live and with it then you don't need to add a second or third so the point still goals don't say well Tony what I'd already contracted something you know in my thirties or 20s or forties so I might we'll just sleep with him no no it's still other ones out there and you don't want to mix them so keep your legs closed date this man okay get to know him and listen now here's the thing at this age 55 and off really 50 and up this man need to have everything he need to have everything okay now understand understand alright it's not about the amount of money that he makes he need to have a good job a consistent job now listen he may be a janitor at a at a high school making $20,000 a year what if he used to work in construction and he used to do all this other stuff he got a savings he got a 401k from his other work his other job he got a good saving he he has and he's just working at this place just the past time he technically could be retired if he had the age of retirement my dad retired at 50 and get a retirement check not as much as he would have got if he would have retired at 62 or 65 but he'd get a nice retirement check after working on the job for I think 17 years working for the city so okay here you have it he needs to have everything if his mom was still living because he could be 55 his momma could be 75 or 73 or his momma could be he 55 his momma could be 70 if she had him at 15 you know my my you know my niece my sister had her at 16 so when she's 60 her momma gonna be 76 so if he 55 and his momma is 70 75 85 and he live in his momma house you gotta run you have got to run you have got the wrong if you go meet mom and mom is walking talking so you don't have Alzheimer's she doesn't have dementia and he's living with her you have got to run so my point here being is this man needs to be stable and establish he had he has had too long to get it together if he needs you for a car if he need you for an apartment for a house for long for somewhere to stay if he need you for anything other than love you have got to run because that is a representation of his mindset and his character and his choices so although he might not be in an industry that is lucrative and that makes a lot of money if he's had that job and he's been consistent and he's been faithful and he's a man of character the dollar amount he makes does not matter because he could get with you and you say hey you know you've been a janitor for the last 20 years what made you do this and he said well you know I was in high school and my parents needed some help so I dropped out in the tenth grade and I went in did one young man doing I was in the streets and I was making good money but then I got cold so I went to prison for five years when I came out I just had a GED that I got in prison I didn't want to go back to the streets so I just started working service jobs after a while I got tired of doing construction because it was too hot so I work at this high school as a janitor and I liked it you know I clean up and I'm the best janitor in the country and so you may say you know what you know what when y'all get married you see he got a good character here man of God he don't he don't get drunk hit on curse get on smoke you know him into the nasty movies he's a good man but he's overlooked by so many when because he's 55 and he's a janitor he's 60 and he's a janitor so women turned a nose about so you say you know what you a good man you got what really matters you saying this to yourself he courting you he bringing you a flower every Friday he taking you out to eat he spending his little money he got him a nice little small apartment he got him a nice you know pickup truck and he living off some of his savings and money he didn't have his kids are grown maybe he was married and for 15 years and got a divorce they grew apart maybe he cheated on but not even he'll he didn't groan he didn't change he ready to meet his wife but don't nobody want him because of the amount of money he made but see this is what you have to understand if he has character and he has ambition he has a stable job he hadn't been on the job he got all the drum in the mess out of his life his children wrong if he 55 or older his children need to be grown children need to be grown all right if your children ain't growing they need to be at least 15 years old today in 15 okay you got a rolling stone on your hand cuz he's seen no way he should be making kids after 40 steel after 45 so you got a rolling stone on your hand so be very careful if you're gonna move forward so here's the thing you might say to this man boom we married you might have been a lawyer you may have been a six-figure earner in your business the company you started you may have made fifty thousand or more every year your life since you started working since you got your degree your savings might be a hundred K he doesn't know that your credit might be 750 he doesn't know that all he know about you is that you okay you ain't flaunting you ain't showing it off you ain't bragging about how much money you got he don't know what you got in the bank but y'all get married and you say you know what let's start a cleanness service to where jack-and-jill cleaning service and let's put it in the classifieds let's get us a website let's go to this young man I know on YouTube named Tony gasps can learn how to do some internet marketing and let's get the contract for all the banks in our city let's get all the banks let's get the corporate offices let's get the high schools you already got your high school on long get down so instead of it just being janitors we hire the janitors generals come work for us and we got the contract with Bank of America we got the contract with Wells Fargo you take your business knowledge working in HR accounting whatever you've been doing all your life you put it with Hills boom you turn his twenty thousand a year in the two hundred thousand a year that's what a lot of women don't understand how a woman actually is a catalyst demand he just need the character and the integrity and the ambition but he may not have the mindset that you have he may not think out of the box the way you think out of the box so if you see he's gonna love you right and treat you right everything else could be worked on if he has character and ambition now if he living off his mama he stupid got a roommate he's still borrowing money no take off running but if he got stuck in order whether he making thirty thousand or whether he making three hundred thousand you could turn his three hundred thousand in a three million which old mindset with the peace that you bring to his life with the focus with the favor everything gonna go up so listen till my fifties and up fifty five it up stay off your back don't think that just cuz you older you could do what you want to do and you could get on your back cuz i'ma tell you one thing I learned as a man is that women get easier the older they get that a woman in her 20s how you jumping through fiery hoops and a woman in her thirties forties fifties be on her bike for she could blink our eyes she knows she's gonna cheat on sprained her bike getting on a bike so fast and that thing just really confused me as I was coming up as a young man and I'm like why am i 20 and I could get women that's 35 40 45 easier then I could get women that's 20 why did he's older women spoke easy and it really was because of their desperation their loneliness their frustration they just want somebody to love them don't be that woman you got class you're okay it's men in your age range that's out there you got to increase your visibility increase your rate of exposure get into some clubs get into some groups get into some networking get out of the house if you if you got to go somewhere everyday if you got a different club a different meeting every day then fine do it you only got one life to live get out the house leo the more you have the more people you're gonna meet the more men that you meet the higher your chances are meeting the love of your life and being able to ride off into the sunset use a lot of social media tool is the men on there too on Facebook or Instagram I'm dealing there too they'll shoot your deal you might meet them do that you don't have to do online dating get out the house and get on social media you never know when you're gonna meet your man somebody asked me I need to start a dating service a day now for 55 and up hey y'all want to put up the money outside sitting up now I get it built now I get a bill I'm gonna need by mm I'm probably gonna need by 10 investors at ten thousand apiece I get it set up okay you get ten people ten dollar bill yeah I bill you look 55 an updated site I didn't watch it be 90 women on there and 10 men and y'all 911 fighting over ten men but if you get out of the house you getting your little groups you hiding about you moving Monday night boom bingo Tuesday night this your podcast means tonight you at Bible study Thursday night you and your networking group Friday night you at the jazz lounge Sunday I mean Saturday you at the internet cafe and then you go into the mall Sundy you at church after church then you at the Olive Garden Golden Corral you know with your bowling team you said I mean get out the house and get busy and you're gonna meet the love of your life stay off your bike and you give them six months max six months you don't feel absolutely strong you don't feel absolutely good I'm looking at my wife she just give him a little smile you don't feel absolutely good hey baby look at me one more time I didn't want to look at you one more time I didn't want to look at you one more time so don't why can you understand accent hey so this video dawn you know I you know listen to again everything I say and and I spent more time on certain areas and the reason why I did that is because y'all finicky and y'all like to argue in the age group y'all like to argue ain't got time to be arguing with you so listen to the video two or three times you need to and yeah I know you ain't gonna like what I said cuz I told you that that man ten years younger you don't really like you and he just want you for your stability I know you ain't gon like that but that is the truth I'm not hit a lot to you now if you meet a man at ten years younger than you and he got money you know he set up he's straight and he ain't trying to get you on your bike he really caught in you dating you and then he engaged you bring him bring me to meet him invite me to the wedding I want to shake his hand I want to tell him brother you are an exception to the rule and I want to interview him on this hair channel so people could see so women 55 and up can see yes you might get you a young tall dark and handsome hunk of a man who want you for you but until then play by the rules hey by the rules to protect yourself and not get used it is Tony gasolin god bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

Views: 184,934

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Length: 57min 35sec (3455 seconds)

Published: Sat May 23 2020