ladies and gentlemen one second here now okay get that get that kind of pristine hold on a little good light on hold on get the good lotion on my hand real quick like I've been paying and brutally breaking Brit want to pop in do a bonus Q&A you know I just I really have not been feeling like working on the weekend so I shoot my videos in the morning on the weekend but they're live just really ain't been in my spirit so I say you know what let me go ahead do these lives on the weekdays so Monday Wednesday Thursday sometimes Tuesday I'll pop in and do a live so I think nah my life's gonna be on the weekdays the ratio would you be able to ghost write a book about alcoholism as you said you don't drink what are the cost of ghost writing commission-based book sales or a one-time lump-sum I actually retired from ghost writing just cuz I got a lot of work to do myself so I retired from books right and I got one one more book to finish on the ghost writing side and I retired December 31st 2019 but I do have a team of ghost riders I got two or three other ghost writers that can help you with that and it's typically upfront one-time fee my feet was 10,000 on the market you got some coaches I mean some ghost writers charge up to 50,000 so it's not inexpensive thing it is costly and it is hard to you can imagine how hard it is to write your own book so imagine writing somebody else book it is not easy by any stretch of the imagination relationship good but not seeing eat each much too much due to the 19 he keeps saying I deserves better and he'd understand if I need more than he can give Missy in a nice way he trying to let you down in a nice way so he trying to tell you going about your business and move on with your life and he's trying to say it as nice as possible but what he really means is I don't want you and don't want to be with you but I don't want to tell you that because I don't want to crush you so instead I'm telling you that I'm not good enough for you with the hopes that you will listen to me and have the strength to walk away that's what he's trying to say ah actually god bless you no I just wanted to thank you today I've been depressed these days and your message today really uplifting me hey god bless you know I'm glad that helped your arm Jamie Williams a flesh you know I appreciate that a blessing let me see hi Tony why do some men view a woman disliking or not too fond of his cultural food as a sign of disrespect he just yeah it's not a real thing he here he just sensitive Nannette how did you edit your YouTube videos uh I don't edit my YouTube videos so I don't know if you saw a video if you saw a video that's edited like with that that's professionally shot like I'm sitting in my desk and the camera is far away from me and they have you know words coming in or something that was done by a professional but the video that you see me do daily those aren't edited I shoot on my cell phone and I upload it right from my phone so it's just a roll just a raw file it's a one tape I don't do any editing because it take too long because I'm talking for hour then sometimes it might take 20 to 30 minutes to upload because they got a render and all that so it takes a little minute so I don't hit in my video why do some guys feel the need to control the woman then start doing petty things once they realize she's not going to be control that's just a man testing you like I tell y'all all the time almost every man you meet is going to test you he's going to see what you're gonna put up with and to be honest with you most men sorry and so what I mean by that is most men if you let them be if you're let us be a grown boy will be a grown boy if my wife were to let me stay in the streets I would have stayed in the streets if she would have let me yell out I would be yelling at her if she would let me yell out and curse out her and stay in the streets then today I would be yelling out of cursing out of still in the streets hustling and cheating so a man is gonna come because it's human nature you looking for human look for the easy way out 9 out of 10 humans looking for the easy way out what is gonna be the most comfortable the most relaxing that's why you short the work late when you sure to work late if nobody say anything to you you gonna come in there late all the time if you call out sick no repercussions you calling out sick all the time because we selfish and/or lazy and we look for the shortcuts 9 out of 10 times until somebody is there to hold us accountable and to push us to that next level and then we began to want it for ourselves my wife she had to push my son and his schoolwork in the beginning to show him what's expected of him now she don't really have to push him as much I just gave him we did I was just getting 500 all the day they got straight A's no a minuses for the fourth report card get forward four cars a year and I reward them some people say our own reward my kids for doing what they supposed to do I reward cuz life rewards you when you do what you posed to do and so but now we won't have to be on like that same thing every aspect of life you got to come in and set the tone Anderson I'm forgiving if I'm saying your name wrong you have really saved me and give me hope of a real relationship I just want to say thank a God blessing not shaquita Herrick our blessing knocks Akito I see you up there all the time bless you peace and base bless you not bless you Tony your message is making me or feminine Goliath that's probably they're not why does it call and have to be heavy on the heart Tony I believe that when you call to something you're not going to be called something that's weak you're not gonna be called or something that's easy that's the purpose of a calling is to do a mighty work even if it's in small bits and pieces so your calling and your purpose typically is always gonna be greater than you bigger than you and not everybody's gonna appreciate what you're doing so that's also really what makes it even more draining but I came fully at understand why look crystal god bless you now how do you stay motivated when your company is not making any money and you don't have a following well I read a quote one time to say adversity breeds creativity you got to sit down with yourself and you got to just get in silence you got to get in peace and you got to innovate Steve Jobs say the difference between a leader and a follower is innovation so you got to sit there and you got to see what's next in your industry and what can you do to be creative what can you do to go to the next thing and if you don't have something you got to do something about it so if you don't have a following then you got to find out how to build your following so do you like Twitter do you like Facebook do you like Instagram do you like you - you see what I mean and once you find the one that you like it'll start earning you more in a month than you used to earn on your job in a year Kade no bondage god bless bless you Brianna B bless you yes that I dated for three months reached out and made me a very special gift for Mother's Day it's been a year I don't know how to feel about this what should I do oh you shouldn't do anything you only dated three months you just said thank you and keep it keep it moving thank you keep keep going about your business you know don't don't let it trip you up any time you getting ready you're on the brink of destiny you will have a distraction use with them already in the past it only lasted three months go on about your business don't let somebody come in and trip you up life for V bless your night or Miglia partner long-distance love for one year with other women what should I do let them go don't ever hold on to a long-distance relationship that's not bringing life to you Keely bless you now Keely god bless you showing out again I so appreciate you and y'all make sure y'all put the hashtag Q in front of your question hello AG I really like is 31 I'm 32 he treats me right and says he really wants to be with me but it's inconsistent with a job and it's focused on becoming a professional gamer at the same time should I run um yes you should if a man is inconsistent with you and it's early on you got to see and he want to be a professional gamer that's already to distract the industry you know that's already changing the brain wires so much that a lot of time they come off that game and they be a zombie because that gang so stimulating to the brain your conversation gonna be born you know everything you do with him gonna be born just because that game is so stimulating that you you need to be a game or two if you gonna be with a gamer you need I'm a gamer and he already inconsistent it's hard enough being with some with a man who just played games for fun he owned the game for five hours let alone you wanna be with a man that want to be a professional gamer you can be talking to yourself you're gonna be in room talk to your cone so how was your day today oh really okay Wow it looked like your teeth are getting bigger how's everything going this is you gonna be in a room talking to your cone you with that man right now Miriam god bless you're not high Tony is it immature to ignore an ex when he reaches out till he gets the point or should we just tell them up front that we don't want anything to do with them anymore it depends on you if you non-confrontational you could just let them text himself te bored if you don't mind speaking up and saying hey please don't text me again I have moved on with my life and you should move on with church then go ahead and say that it depends it's on you the ratio god bless you now I may may not only be speaking for myself but I have missed the interaction and knowledge with you very helpful and I always forward to D look forward to these lives a bless you I sure appreciate that night Kade no bondage Tony I have a male friend who treats me like a queen shows PDA in front of his family and friends yet has not made a commitment what do I do ignore him or wait it sound like that to fill in a role in his life but that he's not really sure about you and it's not really all the way into you but you're a role player you see what I'm eating so role players gonna get some love you know a role player don't have a career high one night and look like they could be the future of the franchise but really not that just one night next next game we're going back to LeBron okay you had your little 20 all right not going about your business that's what it sounded like what he's doing with you is you fill in a role but if he's a male friend key word friend and then he's showing this PDA but he has not made a commitment okay you were done don't be joined no PDA if you don't want to make no commitment cuz the Ishant PDA and could be blocking your blessing it could be a man who ready looking for a wife ready to make a move and then he see him holding your hand or hugging on your something like that and he blocking your blessings and he said he's not even commitment minded Gina god bless you're not considering the divorce rate is around fifty percent in your opinion what percentage of the ones that remain married do you believe are actually happy well for one you can't really listen to all the statistics just because for one thing spending that much money to gather them statistics throughout all the states - a lot of people don't tell their business when they stay married a lot of people don't fill out a census and then three what you have to realize is that if 50% get divorced then you don't know the percentage of the people who was together and never got married never even got married but yet went through when it went really good or it went really bad so to be honest with you with marriage it really divorced is not indicative of whether those that stayed married are happy or not or those that got a divorce what is it something that really count because sometimes people get married for the wrong reason people get married and they have different belief system and be honest with you nobody really knows love what I've learned as a relationship coach 99.9% of people don't know what real love is so you can't really look at the statistics and what you have to realize is that we'll never really know the true number and and what it is because everything in our society is accepted is accepted today so if people were not happy we will have 90% divorce rates if marriage did not work we'll have 90% divorce rates because people not don't fear divorce today people don't fear the board any worry about it at all hey baby you'll cut Erin sweating like a mouse by Rattrap Oh see see god bless you know those last few answers just bless me thanks for allowing God to use you just listening has transformed my life a blessed you I appreciate that blessing I be honest which I won't be knowing what I'd be saying on the hill chats I've been answering a question and forget what I'm saying Jim and I god bless you now my son's father not dated in high school Jiri entered my life last year and now we have a three-month-old how can I cut this soul time but still allow him in my son's life he still tells me he loves me and I love him what should I do well yeah it sound like your question coming a little too late but what you're gonna have to do is you're gonna have to go through a process again some new knowledge because what it sounds like to me is you don't understand me and you don't understand relationships you don't understand a woman's influence and so you're gonna have to go into my mentor dot life and book a session with me or another coach like me and start to get this new knowledge so that you can understand the dynamics of love and relationships so you can understand some key steps that you need to take to begin your healing process if coaching not affordable go to Tony castles Academy calm take the soul ties course Tony is the life coach course certified through International coach Federation rays of sunshine that's a good question um the International coach Federation really is not certified themselves or accredited because accreditation is not a thing in life coaching so the reason why you have that impression is because they spend over $600,000 a year in internet marketing so when you google become a life coach they come up at the top but they're a nonprofit organization started by a businessman who was looking to capitalize on the industry he has since passed away and now it's ran by the board but when you nonprofit all of your documents are public records or if you go into their site and you look at their records you will see that they've spent over six hundred thousand dollars a year on their way up site in their marketing and so they really have no power they can't hire you can't fire you can't make you can't break you don't get you a job anything like that so life coaching is an independent your independent agent it's not like becoming a counsellor accreditation accreditation certification really matters when you are becoming a counselor or a therapist because you govern by the state life coaching is it's wide open it for lack of a better term it's to iOS so it's really you do you so you will really be wasting money to pay a whole bunch for a certification that costs 5,000 10,000 12,000 because it's not going to give you any more results than my certification that costs a thousand and you don't need any of us you can go downtown and get you an office if you want to have an office I work from home our coaching my pajamas and so and I am a life coach for professional sports teams which is multi-billion dollar corporations college sports teams high schools elementary middle schools private schools so I coach for all these different organizations and I was not training I'm self-taught and I built success and that's why I train others so when you think about certification and accreditation in coaching you got to look at the Cree either of the course not just always accredited because it don't mean anything in coaching coach rock god bless you not hi Tony I finished writing my first book I got a quote from someone to publish and to edit it and to format it also to do the book cover for 1300 do you think that is a good route to take um that's a fair price you just need to look at their body of work you know look at their body of work you could get it done for a lot cheaper than that so to be honest with you today with fiber being out there fiber that's l 5e e RR fiber comm you could get a cover for $50 editing we got editors in my company if your book 100 pages you're editing maybe 300 to 500 dollars and then publishing you publish yourself make sure you take the birth to your book program so you know that you publish yourself you form your LLC and you publish yourself you'll need nobody to publish you you'll need to pay nobody to publish read it so you might need to take the birth to your book program or taking the invest in a one-on-one session with myself so if you didn't understand everything in the course so you could get the full rundown so you don't spend too much money cuz with that 1,300 you might be you might be $500 over what you can get it get it out there for I don't publish this book for $400 or less shut my boyfriend respond on Queen VV I'll see you right here said my boyfriend respond to anyone outside of business in DMS past friends high school am I wrong fulfill in a way if he feels the need to keep in contact um well it's subjective you know it if he's open with it and you know about it then that's not as bad as if he's doing and he's hiding and he's sneaking but if you know about it that means either he told you or you got his password now if you had to snoop to find out 9 you got a problem and so some people you made respond to because it may be a connection it may be could be something but typically meet myself personally being a merit man I don't respond to DMS on respond to DMS unless I see it's a business move I see it's a certain type of connection you know to where I could see that it could be beneficial brand whiles business-wise but I don't respond in the DMS to people asking for advice for people just saying hey I don't do that because especially to women because you never know what a person motives are so to be safe no he should not be doing that but again every situation could be different and so you have to look into that to see if it really makes sense love I don't bless you know hello Tony and Cherie can't you do a video on divorced couples with children who are getting remarried for example how would they start to date again okay I try to I got a video that's called how to date correctly it will apply to that it's no different rule for somebody who's divorced when it comes to dating you still would date the same way somebody who's never been married with date you know and then when you have children I got a video on that as well so you may have just scrolled through my videos cuz it all applies it's not really instance it's not gonna be that different and if you watch those and you didn't get what you need you probably need a one-on-one session Melissa wednesdaya god bless you no I treated my boyfriend very nice now ex we were shopping and I sat down to try on shoes he pointed his finger at me in the store yelled keep your you-know-what seated and I'll get you shoes to try on why was he mean to me since I since I really don't know I really don't understand it right there don't have clue okay no our crew says don't help flu I get that right there man he pointed Fang at you talking to you like a little puppy sit sit so that right now says let not let's not worry about that that's really X is your X let keep moving all right striving servant of faith Tony thank you for speaking out against the extreme movements of Sun men and women and instead of speaking truth grounded in the remembrance of God balancing reisen's a god bless you not got to keep it real got to keep it real like hell Ross it bless you and the UN first later be blessed and enjoy Mac domes rocks a heard of a video talking about that Mac dog well we got the health nuts and he oh he complains that I don't call enough but yeah he doesn't call every day every other day or two days should I meet him in the middle no you should not a man should be calling you every day he should be initiating and he should be calling you every day and if he's not calling you every day and even he should have a record and a history of calling you every day and then you can call him and initiate some days if he's already consistently initiating and and I call it a three to one ratio so that if he called you minded Tuesday Wednesday you could initiate on Thursday and hit him before he hits you then he may hit you on Friday Saturday Sunday then you hit him Monday now you don't have to be exact with that but it definitely should not be one-to-one because he the man is the one who has to get on one knee and propose so the man should be actively pursuing you and trying to let you know that hey I want you even when you look at the animal kingdom and you see how all the stuff that the different animals are do the male animals are doing it's time to meet God they lose their mind so the same thing with a human man do the same thing when am really wanna woman he's not gonna be going back and forth with you by oh you don't really call me and he called you every other day that's a sign that he does not want you to he's juggling other women he's juggling other women he preoccupied and so you get Monday she get Tuesday another one get Wednesday you get some earthers did she get summer thirsty he juggling women a man that's all about you he's gonna it ain't no reason why he shouldn't call you every day Coco Chanel god bless you now friend tried to hook me up with a 19 year old boy in college I'm 23 turned it down I'm looking for something serious a husband I don't believe a 19 year old is gonna be too serious fresh out of high school we're on different paths friends said I was trippin no I ain't trippin you ain't trippin at all ain't trippin a 19 year old he barely know how I shoes let alone how to treat a woman so you are you 23 - I could see if you was 19 and you got some time to give so y'all could grow together learn together but you don't need to be dating you look stepbrother you see what I mean that's what that's like so you ain't tripping at all can a man be calling and texting every day and still be playing games and talking to other women - absolutely a man could be walking on the moon and calling you and talking to you every day he can have apartment on the moon and keep in touch with you every day nah man could do a whole lot a man could be living with you and have a whole nother relationship with a woman so it ain't nothing a man can't do that he want to do that he put his mind to life will be blessed not now life with me you gonna have to do the other kind of sticker I don't know what you're doing if it's a stick or if it's a super chat I don't know what you're doing but what the one that you did don't do that one no mocha that's how you get Miss coz it goes in a chat you don't go to the top of the thing being approached by a guy but you want his friend you got you're out of luck and the reason why you want his friend and you been approached by a guy is friend I want you so don't worry about it because the one who won't you the most that's what gonna comfort you so if a guy let his friend go get you that's because he feel you won't his friend love with you not on his level so what he won't don't look like you so that's what you got to understand man when me and I and they look at this a that mine that my god I got the one who looked the best and the one who got the most confidence he's gonna go get her if he let look ugly come get you that mean that he feel he's on another level too you know and that's kinda little hard to hear but just understand don't lose no sleep over that if you don't want demand that approach you going back to business but don't try to talk to the man that approach you hoping that one day you could get close to the friend mm-hmm you're gonna end up get hurt Andre oh god bless you're not listen to a woman's influence three times I'm happy to say I'll no longer settle for microwave relationships I only want loving baby a god bless it knock three times powerful now let me see no Vee you got a part two question I only do part one questions I can get to your part one hi Tony what do you why do you think couples are having issues with their relationships with this 19 now in the situation that we have right now it's gonna make or break relationships it's gonna build you closer than you ever been because you getting to spend time and you getting to talk and you're getting a building bond in a different way or it's going Sposi it's gonna break you because now you forced to stay home be with each other and talk to especially for people who can't go to work because a lot of times people could go to work and they get the goal and talk they get to see they work husband they get to see their work wife they get to get that extra you know love energy and people could have a whole work husband or work wife and could be getting it in in the break room and the back seat of the car for they come home but now you ain't got no reason to go out you you posted be safer at home so people staying home and now the person that's doing the dirt is getting frustrated because you got to be home all day and if you step out to go get takeout that ain't enough time to really really get it in and then if your partner that love you your partner want to step out with you and then you got to try to come up with why you don't want your partner to step out with you and so now you're gonna get caught up and so guys or women who cheating and not doing right in this situation that getting exposed because the other person that didn't know they was in a relationship wondering why did not hear from when all we got is time what they wondering why they hearing from so inconsistent and then the person that's doing the dirt day in the bathroom trying to voice a local voice and so I just yeah and so they're in the bathroom whispering to the side man or woman trying to make them think David came down with the 19 and that's why they laid down and I so they're getting all this sympathy text and all of this but you know that's what you got to understand um next god bless you now now make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question do grown boys look down on women who leave when they are disrespected no they don't look down on you they look up to you a man always gonna respect a woman who's strong enough to walk away even if he knows that he's not ready to grow to be with her he's gonna respect her for being strong enough to walk away when you stand up for yourself and you walk away you always gonna get respect regardless of what come out of his mouth he might not let you know he respects you by what comes out of his but you always get in respect when you walk away from a man for your self-worth to yourself respect ex-husband is married he texts and says inappropriate things to me should I let his wife know I blocked him we have to co-parent would rather go through his wife you in a tough situation right there I wouldn't be petty you know I wouldn't be petty and let his wife know you know him that was your ex-husband so either you leaving a door open and you entertaining it and you not telling him so you should have to tell his wife you could tell him directly and he ought to know what tone and what voice you used that is serious cuz he know you so he's doing it because he knows you and so you entertaining it so you sounded strong in the comment section but you know you entertaining that cuz if you let him know the way you know how to let him know hey listen here if you come at me sideways again I'm gonna tell your wife what you're saying not try me and I see a man know when his ex woman or his woman is serious he know you plan he know you think he's cute he know you is feeding your ego and that you get to ask the question about it and he know you really nice ears so you got to let him know you serious and you deal with him cuz wife ain't got nothing to do with it that's him cuz he you go tell her and then now she could thank you just hating and you just jealous and you just want your husband back and then now she caught nine you send your child over there and she dumped me a child in the head she dumped your child in the head she she gave she burning the food and when she cooking dinner she burned in the food not eat I got to eat burnt food you see what I'm saying so don't be petty and try to go get her in it you deal with him you deal with him directly and you get him in line and if you don't get in line then don't beat up for the phone don't even answer the phone what if his friend approached me before he had the chance to it all happened so fast but you're right I will move on no everything organized with man ain't nobody approaching nobody and if the friend saw you and you really ain't done no what this man y'all and stuff together y'all really done that the friend in the ghost a man let me help man you don't even know how you only won't honey you know that mo my style and and the friend said alright yo you go I let him know that what guys do gods ain't God ain't like women when it come to that you know a woman could talk to a man for half hour and then her friend like that man and that woman will hate her friend for the rest of her life if her friend end up talking to that man that's not how men are man known to and pass and pass a man will gladly pass you to his friend cuz that's just how men built so if the friend don't ain't came to you and don't want you ain't talking to you it's already done they're gonna move on back to business we broke up he stopped talking to me for the second time so I'm done with it three days later he's texting me about $30 he owes me that he's going to give give it to me so that I let him keep it in move on yes absolutely that's just a way to get back in your life just a way to get a response you don't don't don't shift your energy over $30 now I feel $3,000 if it was even $300 but third call them if it was $90 I might think about $30 god bless your time is it wrong the whole fellow Christians accountable not judging for smoking weed daily who may not see it as sinful do you feel that it's a sin and that it grieves the Holy Spirit well the thing about it is is the Bible said obey the laws of land and if it's not helping your body and if it's illegal then it's a sin so if it's illegal it's a sin it could be legal and that don't mean that it's right either but if the Bible telling you not to be a drunkard and not to do things and X that could be a hindrance to your brethren the Bob also tell you not to be a hindrance to your brethren so you you might feel like a Kurtz cursing is not a sin but if that hinders your Brethren's growth or your sister now you're in the wrong so yes smoking weed is wrong because it's not right for you it's not healthy for your body and also it's a hindrance because it is an addiction so when you get addicted to something now you cannot focus on the things that really matter in its fullness and its entirety a lot of people don't believe that because what's wrong has been made normal but if it's harming your body if it ain't add years to your life if it's still making your lungs black if it's still affecting your esophagus if it's changing your your mental chemistry and I used to be in the streets hustling and there's one thing I could tell you about that deal is everybody changes people try to say it's innocent and it's harmless no it's a drug and it affect you like a drug it changes you because I see people who was cool and not in got me then got a little hit now they gotta add a tool they snapping on you what me yeah I told you yeah Oh get on her and it's all Kidane had they look so if it changes your chemistry you're gonna be a hindrance to your brethren you're gonna be unfocused you're gonna be out of character and if this illegal you breaking the law so yes but this is the other thing that you got to realize about holding somebody accountable is just like in Hollywood they don't accept unsolicited materials so if you write a script and you send it to Sony they're gonna send it right back to you unopened it's gonna it's gonna have a sticker that say this was not open and then return to sender they don't accept unsolicited material the same thing happened with your advice if this not your friend or your family member or even if it is somebody wrote in the date on the comment the date I me on the email today trying to give me a spiritual advice or Christian advice unlike if you don't get out my inbox dang nobody asked you for your opinion the Bible say don't be so hip or heavenly mind that you know earthly good I mean talking about something so petty and I say if you don't get out of hell Pharisee so people don't Excel unsolicited advice so you got to make sure you have a relationship with the person before you just have advice or you put your advice in a public space and then they come to your advice are you posted on your Facebook and they see it and then convicted a spirit so understand that done not a macaque blessed not dated a divorced man who didn't want a commitment he wanted to stay hanging out and spend time together I told him not and will not wait for him thought you did the right thing you did the right thing there neck god bless you I decided to share my story on YouTube and make a channel because of you Tony you changed my life I'm forever grateful a god bless you keep going keep going hey y'all only put questions in the chat I only put questions in the chat we don't really have room for the comments and you know answering other people questions and all that just put questions in the chat so I could keep it clear so I can see quickly and easily the questions SJ taking your life coaching course a blessing now how can I incorporate a faith-based platform please advise I want to encourage restoration you can put it in in your bio that you a faith-based coach you can select that as your category that you a faith-based coach so it's not hard it just really calmed down to just writing it I'm just writing it in your bio that you're a faith-based coach the only thing about that is then you only reach people of faith and those people may not necessarily need you because they already got faith so you limit yourself from reaching people who may be on the fence or who may not want to hire a faith-based coach but they may actually be open to hearing the principles and the teachings of your faith or just interacting with you they can see your heart and your spirit and say you know how did you become this way and then you're able to share your faith so sometimes when what we do wrong as people of faith is we write it on our forehead and we walk around personal faith personal faith personal faith and we care in the Bible's round you know a personal faith a personal faith eight you said I mean and now you can't reach people like that so you got to be like the Bible say wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove when you're trying to win souls so be mindful on just your wording as you see I'm a devout Christian and I speak on my faith and I teach on my faith but it's not in my bio it's not in my title you know you just it might be a totally different message that pulls you in it's people who are atheist people who are Muslim people who are different denominations they find me because of a message and then they learn about my faith and they say hey I learned about your faith and that made me look deeper or that made me get closer in my faith or become more whatever spiritual whatever but they were brought in by something else so you got to be you know wise on how you word it and how you use it gyah god bless you now can you explain what respect looks like coming from a grown boy all the way I walked away from my ex eight months and he recently got hired at a job he tries to flirt but I don't entertain him I don't know a grown boy is not gonna have any respect so respect is not gonna come from a grown boy God is God blessed not good evening Tony just broke up with this man after two years due to inconsistency and behavior slash boundaries being broken now he consistently called from various numbers asking for a final chance thoughts you got to ask yourself if you got a final chance Guil because remember if you give that chance and then he do right for a year and then go right back to it saying wait he's not you in lost year so you gotta ask yourself are you okay taking that chance knowing that you could lose again and if you feel like if he leads you on and you lose again it's gonna break you beyond repair and you may never trust men again then don't give him another chance if you feel like you can give him another chance and if he does wrong you still can heal and start all over again and love as if you've never been hurt before then it's okay to give them a chance you also need to have some stipulations in place before you give them a chance so what I mean by stipulation is you may say hey let's read this book together and see if he bought it hey let's read this book after that see if he bought it hey you need to do four sessions of coaching you need to go to my mentor dot life and book a coach and do at least four sessions and put some stipulations in place to see if he's willing to do the work I coached the gentlemen the day that that's what he's doing he's doing the work the show his lady that he won't be that he's serious about his change Coco Chanel god bless you not Tiffany do you think older women should lower their standards not preferences because of their age absolutely not absolutely not you can't ever operate from desperation Tim Henderson or Henson god bless you're not one of my cousin dark skin but some of the guys she liked don't like dark-skinned women if shrunk her self-esteem can you speak to this I don't want her to hate black men what can I do why are men like that well what your cousin has to understand and everybody in that situation what you have to understand is that everybody has their own preferences and everybody has their own prejudices so whenever somebody does not want to that's not a knock against you it just means that you too great to fit into that mediocre space you got to understand that rejection is your protection that's not your reflection see when you realize that when somebody pushes you away and I just made that up right done now whoo what I said rejection is your protection not your reflection so when the guys say oh I don't like dark-skinned women it may be a inner-self hate it may be systemic racism it may be if he dark skin then you know it self hate you know it's something that he's been taught that his color is unattractive if he's not dark-skinned then you know it is something that he's been programmed with through society to believe that that color is unattractive so you got to understand that that's his problem and so you never want somebody to you never want to have to convince somebody to allow you in their space or allow you in their life and so understand that youyou got to appreciate that and respect that man anything that does not serve you it's not for you and once you realize that you bet off and you're gonna be able to move forward and really be blessed because eventually she may meet a guy that she likes who was totally fine with her complexion black diamond god bless you now a yacht nun don't y'all get offended when your message in the chat get deleted they doing that just so I could get to the questions easier when I get down to about the last 15 minutes I let the moderators stop removing the messages and you know you're be able to talk is as normal black diamond bless you now hello mr. Gaston's why don't men say they pull away because they are catching feelings and our scare I call it BS am i correct yep you are absolutely correct a lot of times men don't like to tell you the real reason and because a lot of men don't want to hurt your feelings or crush you just like these men who didn't like the sister complexion they let her know that she found out about that and it's it crushed her so a lot of times a man will try to come up with an excuse a roundabout way to you that you're not the one for him but he may try to put it on something else so whatever excuse he give you you just gotta accept it and move on with your life don't don't try to dig deeper and get the real reason just say okay whatever you telling me why are you telling me this basically you telling me you don't want me so I'm gonna move on with my life god bless you MJ Cooper bless you now can you please give advice on someone who threatens your life and the police do nothing even after scene no I cannot but God bless you keep calling keep calling them Foley but I can't speak on stuff like that death to my liability god blessing I'll be praying for you loving and living bless you not Tony you said most men know whether you are their wife pretty early on what then are your tips for having a great first date and leaving a good first impression just be yourself you see you can't think about how you need to impress somebody you just got to be yourself like right now I'm just being myself I'm talking in my accent so that mean I'm gonna leave the into some words off on my say certain words the wrong way put too much emphasis on certain levels but I'm just being myself Everett some people are gonna pop in here and say Oh who this old boat down the country man I'm here talking and then some people gonna pop in here and say okay I'd like to do like a relate this do we sound relatable so people gonna judge you but that's on them you can't worry about that so don't worry about a first impression just go in there and just be yourself and that's the one mistake the same question that you just asked a lot of women asked axing them themselves that question and so sometimes I meet a woman at an event and she putting too much sauce on it she putting too much sauce on her personality she trying to talk a certain way trying to be funny trying to be extra and it's kind of like Oh will you hush and get out my face and then the person who just come up and just be natural be normal they might even be quiet they I mean one time later came with me to take a picture and I went to shake her hand she said shaking me in hand I like wow she could have faked it she could have faked it and went on shot my hand and some hand sanitizer on them she's on shake me in hand I said okay hey I respect that she said my dad always told me not checking man hey I said I don't know exactly why he told you that I said not a reason he told you that I don't do that but I still understand and respect that god bless you you said I mean she doubled being herself Rhonda Samson God that's you're not watering your life Kimberly bless you I'm really clicking with a guy but he is always talking about his friends who are girls I'm annoyed some are childhood friends but I'm rolling my eyes I started distant seeing myself thought you did the right thing you did the right thing he might be in love with one of those friends and just not able to make the move she may be taking or he may be waiting for her to be single and so what a man talk about that's really what his heart is that outside of you so wave any people talking about other women to you that's a red flag because even if they are his friend and he liked them he cool with them every man knows that you need to make your woman feel like she the only woman in the world you know my wife might ask me about another woman and she might look at a woman so she's a pretty she's a pretty lady she ain't prettier than me she imprinted to me cuz my wife the only woman in my world she imprinted me I don't care who said she looked good the other woman don't look good she ain't got nothing on you and that's just how I shift my mind and that's what a man gonna do when he really want a woman and he loved that woman an artery or god bless you now oh okay your favorite rapper okay that a oneness influence is a book that I didn't know I needed purchased the audio to support finished in one day exactly what I needed during this season buy it it will bless you take what resonates disregard what doesn't he's a vessel to say the least a god bless you're not she talking about this book right here if you have not gotten the woman's influence make sure you get our thing get it for free on audible if you sign up for a free trial but I don't know how that works not it might charge out the thirty day Libra God is God bless you not my male close friend of four years has a girlfriend but doesn't mention her and I never met her we're in contact a lot he insists via text phone FaceTime DMS no over the line but it's a strong soul time yeah he loves you he loves you he might not want to be with you but he loved you and that's dangerous because eventually he's gonna try to move you from friends or friends with benefits you will be a great you know six man what I mean you know the six men in basketball you got five the guy who come off the bench at six or the one who come off the bench at six he'll put you right there in that role so you got to be careful with that when a man got a woman you got to go on about your business you got to move on on the way because now you're just tangling your heart up and you blocking your blessings he taking a ball of your feminine energy he's soaking it all up like a sponge so that when you go out you drive when you in public you ain't got that feminine whoo-whoo-whoo that pull me in in cuz he done soaked it all up from you on FaceTime with you so you actually go out with a taken persona your your aura is taken because your male friend of four years that got a girlfriend that he liked that he's sleeping with that he's dealing with and using you for your aura and your energy because he being greedy no play what you got a girlfriend stay off my line because I need to have my line open for who I'm trying to attract that's what you got to let him know in your own words Tania Jordan god passing nine you know broke up over a month ago still still has large stuff of mine in his garage garage is mostly empty and I know he goes in there for garbage cans and truck hasn't reached out to me about getting it yet why he might want to keep it and he might be waiting on you to reach out to him or it might be in the trash you really don't know not so if you want your stuff gonna reach out and say hey I'm a single mom over there my see my cousin over there to get my stuff let me know when you gonna be home and just gonna get your mediator going get your stuff I'm gonna get your stuff night you waiting on him to tell you you stop gonna be at the junkyard boat let God bless you come on now telling you Tony tell us why are you not supposed to shake a man's hand ie that what the lady told me not y'all remember when I told you about nine hands alone okay that's probably why her dad had told her that because he no man be dealing with hands alone and he don't want be nasty meeting hands dealing with Angela cuz this man could be dealing with Angela and he might have something on okay that is incurable so imagine if a man just got done handling himself and then he come check your hand you catch him more than the 19 so that's how her daddy thinking not yeah he's been a little extra he probably hurt or bought her some good sanitizer that out to see shake hand she could get put it on him cuz the man she go to meet Barack Obama I don't shake man hand man she go to get a new job and the CEO of this fortune 500 companies you know I own shake man hand they're gonna look at like okay yeah she got mental issues going here oh yeah did this interview over thank you for coming by you see I'm saying he would have been better off just getting us some hand sanitizer to put on a keychain didn't tell her that but that's really why he told her that um crystal god bless you why does it seem like that I keep attracting the same type of man I thought that I have took the proper steps to heal is it something that I'm still doing wrong to attract these type of man well see you got to realize that a flag on approach boo-boo and the flight going approach sugar so you're gonna attract all kind of man you gonna track negative man even when you positive because even a garbage can wants us take and even a garbage can gets a stake every nine then so that trash man is he won't a stake he coming to get his state you came it's not about who approaches you and anybody who walked up to you and shoot they shot it's about who you settle down with that's a reflection of you who you settle down with who approaches you you got to take that all in stride it's all a compliment and y'all hold on cuz sometimes he fold ninety-nines I'd be missing londonlove he says he wants me to be his wife one day he barely texts or calls works 12 hours a day said he doesn't like using the phone only calls to see me he take him he take it from experience Muslim women don't shake the hands of man hey god bless you didn't want no Muslim what I'm talking about there wasn't no Muslim hello okay Jay pretty to you god bless you thank you Tony for the wisdom and knowledge I took your advice and I'm no longer on the dating apps turn 31 in March and been fasting from social media since January no desire to reactivate do you think it'll be different to meet or difficult to meet mr. right if you're not on social media it definitely limits your chances but it's not a whole lot of real that's you know connections on social media so it's not the end of the world but yes there's a lot of people meeting people in the DM but it you know nine out of ten might be trash connection so it's not the end of the world don't do anything that's going to file your spirit don't do anything that's gonna disrupt your your peace so if social media calls you you know anxiety stressed and stay off of it don't get on there for the sake of a man now if you could learn how to manage it and compartmentalize it to where it doesn't disrupt you or make you feel a certain way then it's totally fine you know then you should be on there because you can meet somebody who in the next county over or what have you Briana god bless in my ex reached out to me to apologize so I heard them out but I don't want to get back with him he was controlling an obsessive when we dated how do I verbalize this to someone who won't let me go he'll let you go now he will let you go you just got to find the words to go on say it but he we don't let you go and sometimes we just don't want to say it the way to say hey listen you really we really don't have a chance you know you ever seen a snowball in the devil's house in 80 mm that's the amount of chance that we have we tried it didn't work out so for us to talk you will be wasting your time I'll be wasting my time you see what I'm saying cool calm and collected but you see the choice of words Hugo he gonna let you go but when you okay well alright well great talking to you alright you that's how you talking he's not gonna let you go well I don't really know I just really don't know how I feel you know we went through a lot but I I don't know that's how you talking he's not gonna let you go but when you direct and you let him know he's gonna go on about his business um teas like god bless your night thank you for your guidance and insight question why do men filter scrip on women once you have called out the immature behavior he had the audacity to say I am insecure it's just you know a common tactic when a man is caught when a man get caught up in a situation he embarrassed on what what doctor said you know what we hear about reverse psychology what have you the Jedi mind trick he just wanna you know deflect put it on you because he knows that is powering words so he says you ain't secure a lot of women five out of ten women they're gonna believe that and they're gonna question himself to say you know what maybe I am insecure so a man has seen that that has worked and that's why he tried it but when you sent it right back to him and let him know man get out of here you full of it man don't try me like that then he knows that you not behind it now he know he just caught red-handed and he's gonna have to you know eat that plate Eileen god bless you now you say it's okay to be quiet but he gets uncomfortable about it and makes me feel like something is wrong with me or I'm lacking something is it possible to become more talkative I talk but I guess not enough well yeah you got a question you you have to look at why are you so quiet so if you don't want to talk to somebody that might mean you don't want to be around that person because being quiet is not an excuse to not talk to somebody that you're building with so that's some internal issues because you know how to articulate yourself because you just wrote a whole message without any typos and misspellings really going on internally with you have do you need to confront your insecurities do you need to confront your pain because there's one thing of being shy and being quiet and there's a whole nother thing when you are socially awkward because of you know something that's going on in your mind that you haven't confronted and address and got past so what you got to realize is that being able to articulate is a part of growth it's a part of maturity I'm very quiet and shy but look what I'm doing right now and a lot of people don't believe that I'm quiet and shy based on what I'm what I do but I'm very quiet and shocked but this is a part of my growth this is a part of my maturity this is a part of me doing what needs to be done not what feels comfortable so a communicate communication in a relationship is like oxygen to life so if you want to have a relationship you have to learn how to communicate better and you can't just rely on the excuse of I'm quiet I'm shy because to be quiet means that it don't mean that you don't talk when you whit somebody and y'all posed to be talking and building quite being quiet means that when you go into a room you trying to be the life of the party when you sitting at a table of five six people you ain't talking over here by the you ain't butting in you wait to somebody pass it to you and say hey what do you think about that I mean so you have to understand really where and when and you know how to be quiet versus allowing that you know limiting thought to box you in and make you socially awkward or rude or unrelatable and isengard pleasure now I recently broke up with a guy who changed and made me feel uncomfortable I broke it off and asked him why did he treat me that way his answer was he didn't mistreat me he didn't give me the attention I wanted whatever his answer was just know that you broke it off and you gotta move on you know a lot of time he he's not accepting responsibility so you can't really worry about that there's you know how he made you feel black diamond god bless you not me again I'm a store manager and I have build anxiety in my position and sometimes feel overwhelmed should I stick it out or run three years well you got to get the growth from it when you're going through something like that you could come up with a plan of action sometimes you got to balance your dream with your job until your dream becomes your job you may see a bridge of escape eventually happens so start working on your side job or your dream job on the side and then use your job you got to shift your mind and instead of making letting it make you anxious you got to say you know what this paid training this training me for my next level so you just got a shift the way you're looking at it and get something different out of it instead of allowing it to be you know what it is right now so for heart god bless you Tony please talk a little bit about a king's perspective and what he desires in a partner you know what it's not really rocket science all a man is looking for is a and human being it's not like you know a man is coming in and he's saying okay you know I need her to have three Inch Nails I need her to have caramel skin I need her to shower two times a day I need to her have a face routine he's just looking for a decent human being meaning that a woman who was going to be respectful she's not calling him I of his name she's not yelling and cursing and taking her past paying out on him she's going to be honest she's gonna be trustworthy she's gonna be faithful just a decent human being and then of course a man may have a preference but a real man he under he understands the difference between preferences and standards he knows what really matters her character so it honestly you hear people talking about you know hey what's the prayer you prayed for your husband hey what's this what's that just be a good person just be a good person work on yourself consistently in every area of your life life love and business and you want to track the person for you Kathy god bless you not now y'all hold on I might have missed a couple of Rachel K put up message and it disappeared ladies I can help you my mentor dot life for slash Rachel kid let book me as your coach on my mentor dot life so he got Rachel Caden on she a coach on my mentor how can women do lovely roles is I see you right here how can women do most of the listening on a date without appearing uninterested you're not going to appear uninterested if you listening you appear uninterested when you're doing too much talking because I mean you just care about yourself but when you listening and you like what you live and so did will happen now he's talking a whole hour but you look very interested cuz you listening being dating a guy for three weeks good communication last night he when was the last time I had my peach cobbler eating I cut him off dolls um three weeks yeah you did the right thing he nasty you did the right thing he nasty gonna be cheating all up and down Sunset Boulevard he's nasty Marcia god bless her God meant wants a relationship with me but I just got out of a relationship that lasted for a month but he doesn't want to feel like a rebound thumbs well for one you shouldn't even mention a relationship that lasted a month a month that wasn't even a relationship that wasn't even a friendship that was like a you know hey and by a month you can register that you can't arrested that so now you you might be pushing away a real man because you given credit to a month that somebody who was a month in your life so that's that's what a mistake you went wrong it stopped telling all your business stop telling all your past you know you sat down to have a conversation with a man and y'all talk for six hours and then next week you told me you had a relationship last week everything can't be called friendship everything can't be called relationship so you got to set new boundaries what's your relationship when a man come to you and he's been consistent and he says will you be my woman can we be exclusive and then y'all go and y'all go up to a year that's a relationship anything under under a year you can count that you're not in conversation you might know it but you don't take that and add it to your resume they don't count that nullified Oh star Lena Trainor now listen if y'all did a $4.99 or $5.99 of stay stationary but on my end it gets deleted after that time ago I start leaning flesh you're not I'm dating a man who was 15 years older than me last night he told me he is the prize because he is a straight black man earn six figures and his lawyer well I tell you what I saw how much a prize healed by walking off on it but cuz a man who come out his mouth to tell you he the prize because he is straight black man earn six figure and a lawyer he slapped crazy cuz somebody who really surprised and got to tell you later prior that you gonna know that the prize he got to tell you but somebody who didn't labor they sell the prize and he like a jack-in-the-box and yeah yeah me out of nowhere you like happen I thought I had the prize know you got the curse no you got the you know how did a clown jump out at you sold up what you got to realize man say that by yourself got to go and then up the other thing is that's your father you Dane your father 15 years older than you it's man that's the age different what they don't so that's what you got to understand MJ Cooper Tony what if he slaps you and says he'll never love you like he loves his ex and then you try to leave and he threatened to take your life and anybody who you get with hey sis when you're in a situation like that you on the wrong place okay you need to be on the police hotline alright on the DV hotline you don't need to be in the chat talking to me somebody like that doing all that up oh yes hello oh yes I'd be the office over here immediately retina and I just saw a thing another big tits are they would like to pretend like you call like you ordering a pizza do whatever you got to do you hit me but don't play around with a man like that because you can't play with situation like that you got to be serious about your life not because of you because because you just hearing in the chat talking about it come on night you're gonna have to you you could little standing up well go out on your knees but one way about it is you gonna have to love yourself first and what you got to realize with a man like that here pump but the longer you reinforce them the more emboldened he gets but when you're dealing with a pump you got to get them boys and blue and and and when they on their way he gonna be crying MJ I seen your little chat down down the police did nothing well if they didn't do nothing didn't that mean you need to do something meaning you need lead you need to be gone so if you stay in that situation at the end of the day you got to answer to yourself so they're gonna do something I don't know what you live in it I don't know you live in third world country but I ain't never seen no police get called out of somebody to slap you and they don't do nothing and if they don't do nothing call them again and call them again you mean but yeah you you might need a get some you know grief counselling or work with a council on that one nirisha MacLeod thank you brother for the golden nuggets you dropped this evening thank you ladies for the wonderful questions you have asked a god bless you and I appreciate you and all y'all hold on now I miss some of the probably miss a couple of things in here and you may god bless you no I appreciate that Pleasant let me see let me make sure I might have missed a cup of them yes MJ coop I am writing another book Shannon amber hey Tony I have a friend that calls me every day conversation is two hours minimum every time he has never flirted what does he want that mean that he really respects you and that he feel he has to work hard for you and so he ease in his way in you know he's taking his time Stephanie see god bless you know that's all it is needs Nitza ba Rica I'm Puerto Rico and lived in a 90% Puerto Rico area so only dated Porter recommend moved now I'm in mainly white / black city being off my back for four years to grow does your advice carry to all men no matter race well if you went they in Puerto Rican then you probably extremely trained okay that's like going to you know the Special Ops which is the hardest training in the army and then you come out of there cuz the important recommend there handful of nine any time you're dealing with Hispanic men their hand for their handful in the streets they some of the most fear in the streets they what you call like demands man a lot unlike the arch the eyebrows but they don't mean that they saw so when you gotten training with them and you've been through that yeah you shouldn't have no problem with white men and black men but yeah all men is the same a lot of time we try to say that there are all menacing it might be a slight difference but they got things swinging between they let their the same hot dog god bless you now reach me down your flesh and I've been been in a on-and-off relationship for eight years they mister them to read this again never even been in an on-and-off relationship for eight years never even let me see their home been in an on and off relationship for eight years we live together and on a business we're only 24 and he says he's waiting for more financial stability to get married but how long is too long to be honest with you as for a man you he hadn't even really started yet a man don't really get going to 25 you already been with him you know eight eight years that's already too long it's already too long because by the time 18 20 22 he cut a marriage he could have married now he say you waiting for financial stability but there's no such thing as finance stability you never financially stable because one pandemic you could be broke yeah all your savings could be gone all your stocks could be 50 percent on it's no really no such thing as long as you working and you got ambition then you as financially stable is your gonna be point blank period it could be a lawsuit morrow that shut Amazon down it could be a lot of that change in five years in the whole landscape or Amazon chain and then you will see Basil's net worth even go down and so it's me now it's go broke every day be now is go broke every day so when me and say I'm waiting on financial stability that's the excuse that's that really means I'm waiting to see if it's somebody better than you out there and if I find them I'm gonna drop you like a bad habit and going about my business a moderators you don't have to delete now unless it's inappropriate y'all could take a little break now somebody say something crazy is going to leave it now I'm gonna tell y'all the truth now I can't really keep up with all these blessings y'all send y'all sending me after I'm missing them so y'all please forgive me not blame my head not my heart but let my eyes not my heart I'm trying to keep up with you now be a blessing not a blessing I don't know that I appreciate it but someone nice escaping me sink quit god bless you thank you Tony this is like the advice I was supposed to get growing up from a father uncle a god bless your number now y'all hold on 9 crystal just got a woman's influence on me excited 8 blessing now then y'all hold on now Andreea bless you now sending their blessing to get you a little laugh-in crystal yes there are a couple sessions on my mentor um you could select couples when you click on browse coaches it's a button that says filter you click that filter then you select the topic or the subject I can't remember what it's called but it's a drop-down menu of all the subjects you can select couples and then all the coaches who coach on couples it'll come up MJ Cooper god bless you not for your puppet let me see Dion Addison my ex-boyfriend bless you gnight is a truck driver on the road I don't know what Oh T are mean he has a altitude attitude short convo when we do talk et cetera there was no affection really from him before he went on the road so I put him out was I wrong for doing this without warning no you weren't wrong he knew what he was doing and why he was doing it MJ bless you now now y'all hold on don't let me see something see if I could I got about 10 more minutes on ya Cochet music blessing I want to thank you your videos helped me through a hard situation I'm on the path to healing self-love and pursuing my passion okay Reese I see you Oh CJ you've spending all your money tonight nah no don't say no bless I mean MJ Cooper don't send me no more blessing on you you gonna be on phone with you to tomorrow yeah that was fraudulent I have no clue who had my car the only you following you to doing all kind of chargebacks MJ Cooper I've seen your name like a million time y'all hold on now y'all sent a lot of messages and somebody say I miss this but Marcia I see modest and mindful God flex not Tony thank you for the wonderful advice also side note men and women of faith such as Orthodox Muslim and Jewish women do not shake hands of men do today I'm warning to practice modesty and shyness hey god bless you I don't know why y'all send a blessing to give us them random facts but I really appreciate y'all giving them random facts that's what women is is something special y'all live the we'll spend money to give us that random fact but bless you bless you Asia will more if I miss your question and post your question again instead of posting that I miss your question they post your question again and I might see you age the blessing on should you be honest with a guy that you are getting to know that you are keeping your options open if he asks no you should not aysia no you should not you don't volunteer that information and if he asks you you still don't have to tell them say well you know I'm just dating probably just like you you know when a man who wants me he will say to me hey will you be my woman and then I'll know that it's time to make a decision to come off the market or you know you don't have to just tell a guy well I'm actually keeping my options open your option number three right now if you call me a little bit more text me you could be option number two now to be option number one you said I mean you don't ever let your left hand know what your right hand doing that's not your husband so you don't owe him anything and what you got to know about men is a man never telling you his business anytime a man telling his business and there's something like about other women he's trying to hurt you or he trying to train you he trying to put you in a place definitely god bless you now Tony beche I have a question if a man you are getting to know ask you to send a photo of yourself what does it mean is he using it for hands alone where depends on what that photo is like you know what kind of photo he asking for and it could very well be for hands alone it could very well be seal of God blessing now god bless you y'all hold on Rachel past year are you able to work through past traumas in a relationship with someone who's also willing to do the inner work or should you do this separately yeah you can work on it together y'all can help each other you do individual coaching sessions that person does individual coaching sessions and then y'all can read the books together Miriam I see you because I saw you said I missed your question what do men think about woman that post sexy pics on IG not showing skin but tight clothes and if and if you answer to me and comments it sounded like you're thirst-trapping-- to mean a man typically don't think a woman thirst-trapping-- and if she posted you know pictures and tight clothes unless you a fashion blogger and you don't outfit of the day then it's like what else you posting the picture in the tight clothes for so if it's other than to just seek attention and get likes and for people to say oh you look good whoo that looked good from men and women it's like what else is it for then you need to show the new exclusive shoes so it's like you're gonna post selfies and showing your clothes and your outfit then you need to become a fashion blogger so you get paid for it otherwise it look like you just casting yourself like there's bait for compliments and fishing for compliments and that's typically what all self is really mean because it's like what is the point of a selfie because everybody like we know what you look like so why are you posting a selfie in that in a selfie do not go with that caption so really what it does it make you look like you thirsty for likes and attention and compliments because the selfie serves no purpose now if you serve a selfie now if you post a surfeit selfie and you say hey you know just want to show you about this new foundation I've had some breakouts and some blemishes in my skin so to all the ladies they're struggling with your skin or don't acne that I've gone through that tool and this foundation I got on is such-and-such now that selfie serve a purpose otherwise it's like you try and show somebody where your clothes come from so they can go get it too and all women do this all women do this pretty much not all women when some women do it ridiculously too much and it just it makes you look vain it makes you look insecure like you need to be patted on the back so make your posts mean something you know make it to where if you pose yourself it's because that's what you do you want to show people you know where they could get these jeans from the sale that you got but I'd be saying women posting picture from the side angle trying to show their booty and they got a Mahatma Gandhi quote in there in the caption and I'm like no what do this got to do with one another and so it just made me and kind of laugh at you and me and just kind of shake the head and just kind of be like Lord blossom she needs somebody to hug her but instead be creative post what you reading poet you could post your healthy meal you could post your selfie but space and I you got doing everything moderators y'all y'all could take y'all a rest y'all could go on rest we bought hit we bought down here now um Jennifer rolls hey mr gassiaux entrepreneurship course encouraged me to step out on creating faith-based digital artwork should I make a website or a blog yeah you can do both really with like WordPress you've had a website and a blog now if I miss your question I post you questioning now now I might catch it if you sent a blessing if you pay money and I miss your question just put it in enough I paid and put your question see cuz I might have missed one or two of Monica Porter god bless you can you elaborate on how me and train you um that's really a full session we bought coming to the end of this hill now getting tired but what you got to think about is anything a man does that is a maladaptive behavior so if a man yell at two if a man curse at you if a man say I'm gonna call you at nine and he don't call you if a man say hey I'm gonna pop over I'm gonna come in and I'm gonna come over there tonight he don't show up if a man does anything that is a undesirable behavior or behavior that you don't want to see repeated he's testing you and he's training you he training you to deal with it so that if you don't respond to it and call him mine he training you on how to deal with that if you call him I and then he goes silent and he give you a silent treatment and then he popped back up three or four days later or you call him three or four days later because you wondering where he had and why he went silent he did that to train you and what that means is don't question me don't check me if I'm call you deal with it so he may go ghost and then when you go chasing him he said up got her she trained come on here Betty here you go better hit oh yeah Jill he listen these little treats for my family dog I got the new adult leave the treats this what he do to you after heat and did something wrong to you and then he go ghost on you here you go they go Betty cookie is that good girl good girl that's what he do to you is he trying to show you that you don't matter than him and so you go chasing him and then he he does that not let's celebrate Tasha to Mentor got my second client today god bless you know I'm assuming you own my mentor that life not y'all see it work not you get your life coach certification you start earning back that little investment that you made and reason why I say little investment is because some courses out there five thousand eight thousand one of my clients told me she paying $12,000 for her life certification and with mine you use the coupon code my mentor it's gonna give you a look blessing now it's gonna decrease in value jacket on June 1st so if you want to be a life coach or a mentor you're going get get your life together the pursuit of peace Tony you mentioned before a blessed night men rarely date just one woman at a time and will keep dating until they feel as though they met their wife and so what makes a woman stand out well when a woman stands out it's typically an authentic woman who was comfortable look at joy you say my client booked another session who was comfortable with herself meaning that she knows who she is she's authentic she classes she confident she cool she calm she collected she humbles she's kind you see what I mean a decent human being when you've been raised right and if you want a raise right when you learn how to be right that's when you get better that's when a man says you know what this woman here pure she has balance because some women they're gonna come in they're gonna be too loud they're gonna be too loud and too boisterous because they're operating from insecurity inadequacy some women they're gonna come in they're gonna be too snappy to they debate him they want to debate they want to argue because they operating from pain they operating from frustration so you gotta evaluate what you operate in front when you operate from self-love you can pull calm and collected you're gonna be humble you're gonna be happy you're gonna be kind and that's what separates a man when I chose my wife it was because she was balanced she was even killed she went to loud she went to quiet you know she went to nice she went to me when I met her I was dealing with three or four other women so when I met her one woman she liked argA too much another one she didn't she ain't fit in my preferences she were too slim and she didn't do squats and she didn't shave her legs another one she was too young another one she was too tall so see sometimes gonna be preferences sometimes it's gonna but see all of that wouldn't have mattered in preferences to slim to tall you know to this to that it wasn't a matter if they had the same character none I'm really professed a faithful or or they over profess their faith my wife she just lived it she just felt like a Christian she wasn't preaching she wasn't quoting scripture but she just felt like the love of Christ you see what I mean so it really calmed to just being centered with yourself male God bless you not win over time right now I'm trying to get through your questions uphill male god bless you've been with my husband for 16 years but I think he has issues with his sexuality found mill turn on his phone more than once is it wrong to assume he has these interests militants it's been 16 yield mill and you found me I'll turn on well see system hold on I quit clownin commercial break okay we back live so the Melton I hold on not let me see this one more time with my husband for 16 years but I think he has issues with his sexuality fine male on his phone more than once is it wrong to assume he has these interest now i'ma tell you this male i'ma tell you this a hetero sexual man will never in his life in 1 million years if he live a million years have man old man in his phone a hetero sexual man will never in his life now I'm gonna tell you like right hip nah he's gonna be he only gonna be watching that for so long he might already be ok dip in the peanut butter stick then he's gonna brain that peanut butter and put it right back in your jelly and that's your halt in the six years so that mean y'all aren't pretending so he training in dirty peanut butter putting in your jelly so now if you look back over these 16 year if you ever had a UTI okay that's a sign if you had a UTI okay if you didn't have multiple you're never tracking in fact oh okay now y'all don't be coming on your later husband now but you what you got to realize you got listed that woman's intuition you got to lead the ones intuition is rarely wrong it made you come here and ask that question because it already know the answer me personally got to go got to go you negated 16 years and then you find him watch man oh man you got to go you hit me because if you don't have health already hilf okay HIV if you don't have him already that's what's gonna come cuz while he keep dipping dipping that sticking that peanut butter hit me and eventually he gonna be the run up on her recompensed in his body and he gonna be bringing it home to you and then to oh I'm sorry Oh forgive me no brother I got that dope so understand that tonight might be the night that you spare you me ethical at a car d9 y'all hold on nah y'all let me get through the last little couple of questions and I got to go out of Corti I've been dating a guy for six months and recently we had our first fight now god bless her for that blessing now he hung up on me to avoid an argument and I text him and call him out call him out his name he said it's over and will not call me should I move on or keep trying Malone move on move on with your life okay cuz I think you said recently yeah been six month nah it ain't really over now he probably won't come back but and y'all might could work it out but that right there y'all have to come to a resolution you got to know you can't ever call him out his name again and he got to know he can never hang up the phone again y'all got to talk like adults and get through the situation and talk through and if you can't talk through situations without hanging up or calling names y'all lingo never work it ain't meant to be you can never go there you can never go there for 25 moaning god bless tonight I just watched your how to move on video but in my case he was a great man he just didn't feel the same about me from one day to another I'm confused you move on the same way you move on the same way you still got to block them or cut them off still got to go on back to business it means that he just does not what he does not know what he wants and he don't know what he wants or he doesn't want you so either way it's the same thing and so you just have to you know hey you know you cool but I got to go got to go night night y'all for giving up Shanice I see you god bless you know let me do a quick scroll through here and see MJ Cooper still empty not her bank account and help flashing I am take who and put some in him look blessing enough they're gonna be on that phone tomorrow line up story YouTube Oh somebody stole my car Tony what are the top things growing me and look for in a woman happy and fulfill that also besides being yourself what are your tips for dating yeah oh yeah oh yeah won't really be blowing me Oh Tony okay now when I still do you want me to put all five toes on the ground or just four of them nah it's nothing outside of that anything outside of it have been fulfilled okay when I say Roman look for in a woman announcer that 9 times a night so you might have to watch the video back again also besides being yourself what are your tips for dating just be yourself that encompasses everything now I got a video called how to date correctly where basically I'm just telling you keep your legs closed keep your lips to yourself and just build just calm and say get know one another but it is it's honestly y'all it's not rocket science it ain't it's just you've been a decent human being and you literally saying does it make sense to let somebody put their lips on mine they can have the 19 they can have HS one right now with a little break guy they can have mono does it make sense for me to let somebody put their lips on mine and I don't know them doesn't make sense for me to give my body to someone get on my bike give my body to someone and I don't know them we ditched not my husband you see what I mean you just take yourself through just your common sense the detector does it make sense to let this man come into my house and I just met him this only our second date and I don't know if this Ted Bundy nephew does it make sense for me to loan this man money we're not even in a relationship I met him on plentyoffish of humble and not he got this crisis and he needs some money but we only been talking three months does this make sense you said I mean you go through it and you can never let frustration speak for you you can never let desperation speak for you you got to understand that now let me do this last role and it's a lot of messes and hey while we be having people delete the message I told them take take them a little break let me go up here to the top real quick and there nothing to get on up out of hell okay I'm at the top ok I think I got my Geordi alright I got 20% battery love somebody get on going now I'm gonna tell y'all you know really think with your heart don't don't make this don't make this rocket science don't make this like like you playing a video game you know what we are talking about what I be talking about it's common sense but I just may go a little in-depth on it but it's really you know the ants in your heart you got all the answers in your heart I may confirm or deny but really ask yourself and all the way ask yourself does this make sense and then the other thing what you got to realize is you Overlord what hands see I'm pushing on my screen scrolling on the phone ooh and it's sitting on the stand so I pushed it it went to fall but I just you know like Bruce Lee Hardy catch that fly with the off chopsticks I still got it and I ain't really realized I got it like that but I so I was able to catch it but y'all you copy Blake bless you and whatever hands still up the date I'll be trying to tell y'all that my hands up to date so come up and jump froggy let your boyfriend wanna come up and jump froggy I've been on cotton with a two-piece night for he could blink let me see now all right I think I if I miss your message hey you know y'all forgive me y'all forgive me but I really really appreciate y'all for the blessings you sing I try to go through here and catch on but I just don't get to see them all on my end like y'all get to see them so please forgive me and it's and it's only it have to be a certain dollar amount for them to put it at the top and leave it up there for a little bit so I'm looking now what I was saying fold for the devil tried to blow my phone over is you got to set your standards you got to set your standards and you have non-negotiables so understand what a non-negotiable is what that means is you not negotiate with anybody about that you're not going back and forth so I needed a Christian woman that's non-negotiable for me I don't want no woman who curse that's a non-negotiable for me on one one who get drunk now understands the difference between getting drunk and drinking she might drink you know havelis to wine have a little drink a little mojito or what-have-you but if she getting gone I didn't want that if she cursed I didn't want that reason why cuz got to raise kids and I don't want my son in kindergarten cussing out the teacher cuz he had mama curse all the time and I don't Kurt I don't cur you know not about what she eat know that no matter to me you want to eat pork okay you want to eat Mike don't okay what's your spirit like know any worry about what you eat how much you work I ain't worried about that what your spirit is like do you love the Lord do you know the Lord I'm still looking through these have questions I let me see Victoria Harris God does not talk to a guy for two weeks until he sent a deep it I stopped communication he's still calling should I explain or block him he already know what he did it wrong system he already know what he did wrong so y'all understand you had your non-negotiables not see a lot of women they may say to me right now how I'm spending my non-negotiables they may say well man I was looking for me a man who gonna be faithful and who gonna you know be honest with me but I curse I smoke you know this what the woman saying woman may say she curse they said it may say she spoke may say she get drunk on Saturdays because she need to relax for the weekend guess what all of that right now would have x2 off my list women say she atheist xed off my list a different religion okay you could serve what you want to serve you can serve what you want to serve now but I'd need somebody we're gonna be able to share the same word without with my children if you tell them children by Buddha and all this and I'm trying to talk about Jesus Christ we're not on the same page so it's not my chopper fuse and he not a head Buddha Christ you see what I'm saying Buddha Chris because he confused so that's why I say not y'all let me turn this hello chat off let me turn this chat off for a little minute cuz y'all y'all because you can't listen in and read at the same time the mind don't do that but let me help you understand this well you have these non-negotiables that's what you're going to attract that's what you're going to track because what happens is is when you set this so guess what I said I don't want a woman that get drunk I don't want to warm in that curse I don't want to warn me that smoke I want a woman that's a woman of God I got all that in my wife those that's the foundation because if she's smoking she gonna die early she's gonna kids long counsel some kind of counts you're gonna die early if she getting drunk she gonna end up getting the wreck she don't end up hurting herself hurt somebody else getting a DUI she gonna be a bad example for my children if she curses she's gonna have a potty mouth did my children will have a potty mouth you said I'm sayin so I looked at the non-negotiables then I say I want somebody that won't a family I want somebody that wants marriage if she don't believe in marriage in for me so you got to have your foundation set with your non-negotiable so that way when you set that guess what you're going to attract that because as you go out when you talk to somebody now boom if I'm talking to a woman our first conversation she say the F word I got to go now if she noticed or we talk in the second time she noticed I don't curse and yet she continued to curse and then she says why don't you curse and I said well I just don't like using profanity you know it just sounds unintelligent to me and then she continues Deker now I know that's not the woman for me actually when I met my wife she cursed she Justin cursed at me because it was no need to use a curse word and then in talking she learned that I didn't curse so when she learned it courage guess what I've never heard us say another country I heard to say one curse word on accident and now because she was driving talking to me on the phone and somebody all I ran into her and it sounded like I heard the f-word and then she hung up the phone and she probably hung up the phone right away because she realized that look hurt worse slip die and that when we had first met now I could have been wrong I could have been hearing thing but it sounded like effort to me I ain't using no curse words but from that day I've never heard of curse again and so that may seem like something that's trivial but guess what my son all his teammates curse he thirteen years old he don't curse and I talked to him about it we overhear a conversation he being on the game talking loud the way you curve you did that were gonna come out with you on that game he don't curse I check him on it I know when he lying I could tell he's not lying and he'll tell me everybody that cursed if you curse you ain't gonna tell on your friends who curse if you curse you see what I'm saying but he doesn't because of he don't hear us doing it and that's what I wanted for my kids so everybody come they said man your kids respectful man your kids so well-mannered why because of a momma because they mama clean she does the right she raised in with respect because that's the type of woman that I knew I needed to choose cuz I know what I want to raise so that's what you got to think about when you had your non-negotiables I wanted a woman that has ambition now I set my wife down I set my wife down she works in our company she works in our companies and she earned six figures she was going to be a doctor but she changed her mind once we started her family and she went a different direction now she still earned what doctors earner but she could work from the comfort of our own home but I still wanted a woman who had ambition she is different than wanting the woman who have ambition and and being okay if she decides to sit down because she want to be a full-time mom because you know she got ambition the fact that she was a biomedical science major and then she got a master's in medical sciences and she used to study for 16 hours in a day that let me know she had him be now she just coming up trying to look pretty and she just all dolled up and you know one trying to go to nobody school one trying to work no job but she was studying sixteen hours in a day and she working a full-time job that let me know this one is full of ambition so now that our companies could pay her six figures I'm totally fine with that I'm totally fine with that and she might work five hours ten hours a week I'm totally fine with that because I know she didn't work she didn't showed herself she even let me know that she in it I wanted a woman also there's a part of your non-negotiables who could see me for who I am and not just what I have so not looking to say oh you don't have this kind of major you don't have this kind of degree I can't deal with you but look at character look at character look at attitude look at my energy and so she was with me and understand is we was in the project not necessarily a project but we were living in basically the hood and I got robbed got the whole car got stolen we have no furniture we need had no furniture in the living room we had a look TV that came from her dorm room and we had a bed so my water was with me when I was on the grind when I had just my faith my ambition and my character and my desire to want to be a better man so now that we're in a whole nother place she deserves at all so see a lot of times what a man is looking for it's intangible it's about a woman's attitude it's about her outlook on life I wanted to go and do stuff to make extra money and even now it's stuff I could do that could make extra money and my wife like no don't do that it ain't it that's not right that ain't it ain't time for that it ain't you don't need to do that so let me know she's not money focused she want to make sure her emotional and spiritual is right that the love is right so understand that and set your non-negotiables and realize that you got to have things that you unwilling to compromise and then when it comes to love relationship you gotta use comments you just got to use common sense to ask yourself because you have a barometer with inside of you that you can say does this feel right does this feel right does this look right and you know right from wrong but the problem is is you operating from insecurity and when you operate from insecurity it makes you do things that you wouldn't have otherwise done you operating from desperation you're operating from dehydration so you know went from thirsty to dehydrated and that's when you start to make decisions and you start to deal with people that you shouldn't be dealing with and that's what you got a real yourself back in and say okay what are my standards what are my belief system what's my foundation and when you get that in order that's when you're gonna track what's for you and understand this right here this last thing I'm a little leave with you everybody out here looking for somebody that's ready-made don't nobody want anybody don't nobody want to be with somebody that's ready-made that got it all together meaning that you just trying to get put on you want to be able to build with somebody that's why I tell you know people single people don't go buy a house if marriage is your goal because now when you if you expect them to be married you expecting to meet your spouse within a year or two now you got to be trying to sell your house or you don't know if this person coming to you for your house or for your love so what is you owning a house gonna do for you instead keep written and if you want to own a house buy your rental property and have that but the person you meet don't even got to know that you got that rental property and you got that side income coming in so if marriage is your goal be intentional about your life but also know what you're looking for and when and when you look at what you're looking for you got to go down your list so you got to go down your list and take off the numbers don't get so focused on height on weight on income on lint lint okay don't get so focused on just numbers and you got to look at intangibles you got to look at the standards who is this person and and this one thing that women never understand and I get all kind of excuses any time I bring this up but uh when you met your wife you was twenty years old I'm fifty he need to be making steady $5,000 a year listen you have to let a man's character be his currency and one woman she's still trying to say oh well I made this right here he need to make this and I'm like listen this man could be a schoolteacher a schoolteacher not gonna make seventy five thousand dollars a year keep making thirty five thousand dollars a year for a fool if he's lucky and if he's somewhere in California okay he might touch sixty or seventy but the cost of living so how he's still tight but what is his character what's his character you're gonna tell you what's his character see when my wife told me she chose character because even though I was 20 she still could have said let me look at your major my major was criminal justice so what I'm getting ready to do as a criminal justice major I'm getting ready to be a detention deputy which max out at forty four thousand a year well I'm getting ready to be a police which is start out at forty two thousand a year and max out at sixty or sixty-five so sixty six five thousand oh okay you can live on foot if you put it together with somebody but you gonna be all that comfortable you could live off of it now but you ain't gonna be all that you're not gonna be in the lap of luxury so my wife could have looked at me and say he a criminal justice major and I'm a biomedical science major she's a biomedical science major so she came ready to go make 250 K oh honey K depending on what she's doing so she could've looked at me and said what you gonna build attention everybody you know did not cross your hair and then you got to be out on unemployment cuz you gotta hit crop head by one of the inmates she could have said that but she said no let me see his character let me see your character do you love the Lord do you know what you're going do you have ambition can you treat me like a queen how you talk to me how you spent time with me so see you got to look at what really matters when you're looking for a man and I had to look at what really matters when I'm looking for a woman cuz I could've said Oh what you don't have a shape but that I want or ceiling you got the the height that I want she only got ten percent of battery left now get ready to go now y'all let me don't bring this on home but it's the number one thing that keep messing people look is you looking for your preferences instead of for your standards and you got all kind of excuses man can't find a way because they want a woman that built like JLo but what you don't realize is JLo probably spend ten to twenty thousand dollars a month on her maintenance literally literally not I live in a normal city I don't live in Orlando or LA I live in a normal city and it's women that my wife know that spend $3,000 a month to six thousand a month on maintenance you hit me until my all the he'll Botox shots all up in here all around here all around here all kind of stuff going on all kind of stuff you hit me so me and looking for a woman that built like JLo guess what if the women that you in your dating pool had the money to do two three training sessions a day when they want to then they buddy to look like that if they had the money to get all them treatments on that CoolSculpting all done Botox collagen it'll look like that but then you're working on that budget so they're not likely they Jen might be broke but does she have a heart for God does she know where she's going does she have ambition she she gonna get down she gonna get down and on the flip side women looking for a man that's financially stable that's a man that in and different to say I want a man that's financially secure so I said okay well what does that mean is that thirty thousand thirty thousand I don't know he could Ford a hamburger with $30 male I might be okay with fifty but I'd be honest which is 75 $125 you know the average income over men $45,000 yeah and so what a lot of women don't understand is that you are the catalyst like when he'd meet you that's acting on his income go up when I met my wife making $20,000 a year $20,000 a year it went long into our marriage before I was making $20,000 a month we was under the age of 30 but when I locked in with my queen not I had focused I had Drive and we literally went from 20,000 a year they're making 20,000 a month before I was even 30 you said I'm saying I can't tell you - no but not good you might open your mouth you didn't want to tell you what I'm telling you is that it she saw character she saw vision she saw ambition and her main thing is is you're gonna treat me right and worry about where your money yet or what your degree gonna do how you gonna treat me and do you have ambition because if you got character and you got ambition and you got standards you rich you're already rich it's just a matter of time the check on the way till you the check on the wait till you're the blessings on the way to you you got the focus on the intangibles and the things that really matter hey I went way over I went 30 minutes over tonight so god bless y'all my phone by the die got to cut it off because the phone cut it off for it die it won't upload in the archives or you could watch it later hey god bless we'll talk soon
