Mother in law thinks I cheated on my husband because we are having a girl (Part II)

[Music] mother-in-law thinks I cheated on my husband because we are having a girl part - so brief of my original OHS I have two daughters husband side of the family hadn't had a girl born in generations milk came to the conclusion that I must have cheated on dear husband as he can't make girls she'd enemy while almost nine months pregnant with our second daughter dear husband accidentally injures his mom while trying to protect me hospital calls police and we file a report his mom files her own report but it soon is clear that dear husband didn't do anything intentionally just protecting me baby does end up being alright in the end even after Miller handful of times while I was on the ground the doctors explained it to me as imagine putting an egg inside of a water balloon then slapping it several times it's hard to make contact with the actual egg and crack it but still a scary situation yeah that comparison didn't ease my mind at all but they monitored me and baby for a few days and I was released and put on rest until she arrived so this is where it turns for the worst we are home and dear husband has been a rock very supportive and comforting to me the whole time we went and see with milind Phil and I genuinely thought he was on my side I had come up with the idea to do paternity tests on our girls and send them to Miller's to get back at her and it seemed like a great idea we got in contact with a lawyer and he suggested that we take the paternity test through the court so we have it as evidence and then the results couldn't be contested as fraudulent fake that sounded great right well over the next few days dear husband got more and more depressed he started trying to get me to entertain the idea of minimizing Mills actions and choking up her behavior to old age while I'm aware that she's older she's pretty sound minded I told him that she will be getting full screenings for her mental health when we go to court and that while yes she's old she doesn't get to a me and accuse me of horrible things and use her age as an excuse if she's found to have some mental issue is going on then I can deal with that but that doesn't mean I ever want to be around her or had her around my kids a few days go by and I'm nearing my induction day because baby girl isn't making her entrance and I find out that dear husband has been talking with Phil and mill behind my back we get in a big fight and he tells me that he still wants his mom to meet her granddaughter and that we can put this aside until the baby is here then afterwards once she's gotten to meet her we can resume the legal issues I'm crying at this point as I thought he was supporting me through this but in reality he caved in no less than four days to his mom I reminded him that we have put in for a restraining order and no contact order and that he has now broken it by contacting them his response well the no contact order is issued to you not me and the restraining order hasn't been approved yet sir mill can come meet baby girl number two before we get approved without breaking any rules all I could do will shake my head and cry I put my foot down and said absolutely not and I couldn't believe he'd let his mom around me or the baby after what she did to us he said that I was overeating as the baby was not injured and she wasn't actually trying to hurt the baby just me what she came I very pregnant belly repeatedly after she threw us no globe at my head we got in a huge fight about me not forgiving her and holding grudges and being unreasonable and eventually he just left where'd he go yep his mom's house a few hours away he then called me sobbing and told me that if I could see his mom right now I'd understand apparently when he pushed her while she was a me he indeed broke two of her fingers and she sprained her neck when she fell back into a shelving unit she's laid up on a sofa in her living room can't walk and in a severe depression I should feel awful according to him the least I could do is let her meet her new grandchild and then figure out where to go from there I'm so infuriated at this point because not only has he retreated to his mom's house he left me alone with our oldest daughter who is 2 while I'm supposed to be in bed rest with stitches in my head and pound baby and my uterus who refuses to come out and I'm so exhausted he doesn't come home for the next four days until I'm supposed to check into the hospital for my scheduled induction my sister comes to watch my oldest daughter and dear husband takes me to the hospital and D for the induction we get set up and they are poking me with things shoving arms up where they don't belong pumping me with pitterson and waiting to see if baby will come he mostly sat in the room on his tablet as I was admittedly pretty cold grumpy with him still and wasn't acknowledging him very much finally I started making progress with labor and things were going well baby was starting to move down and I was nearing the point where I needed to push he did end up putting his tablet away and trying to get more involved and at this point I wasn't going to push the support away as I was literally trying to push a baby out of me with no drugs finally the baby started to crown an dear husband looks at the baby's head looks at the nurse standing next to the doctor and asks when do you do the paternity test I stop mid Porsche looked at my husband and screamed what the doc the nurse was silent looking back and forth between me and dear husband the doctor then looks at dear husband and says sir we are here to deliver and take care of babies if you have other personal relationship issues you need to figure that out afterwards we focus on baby and mom this is not the place to ask questions like that I immediately start crying hysterically and babbling stuff like it's not like that it's his baby his mom is psycho and stuff I'm so ducking mortified at the thought that these nurses and doctor now think there's a chance my baby isn't my husband's and there's no way I can explain the situation to them I immediately felt judged by the nurse and couldn't help but feel like I had been robbed of a beautiful moment my mind completely shut down and the short time between crowing and when baby comes out ended up taking an extremely long time because of how distraught I was I was so angry at dear husband I asked him how could he do that to me how could he ask that in front of the doctor and nurses when he knows it's his daughter and it was my idea to do the tests in the first place after the baby came out I just held her and she was beautiful and perfect but I was so distraught I couldn't look at dear husband and I hate to admit this but I wouldn't let him hold her I was just so angry he left and when he came back about an hour later he said that his mom wanted pictures of the baby and he took out his firm and I smacked it out of his hand he got angry and left my sister had to pick us up from the hospital and took us home two days later in my state you have to take the baby back in two days after being home to do tests and a checkup to make sure baby is maintaining weight and that there's no obvious signs on neglect so we took her in for the check and then went to a clinic to do the paternity test the same day the next few days at home were awful I can't even look at him and he has avoided being around me or the baby for days he barely has even looked at her and is practically ignoring our oldest daughter we got in a fight because I was trying to breastfeed the baby and my oldest daughter was crying because Netflix wasn't working and I started crying because I was so overwhelmed and he just looked at our daughter and said mommy didn't pay the Netflix bill because she's mad at Grandma yelled at him to not say crap like that to a child he said he just thought I didn't pay it because his mom uses our account at her house I just forgot to pay it it had nothing to do with that he made several comments to our daughter over the next few days like that is going to go see grandma you can't come because mommy hates grandma then leave me with the hysterical two-year-old and a newborn I'm not going to lie I know that I'm dealing with crazy hormones and this is a horrible batch but I seriously considered telling him I wanted a divorce right there and then he left I tried my best to cool off but I couldn't I have actually convinced myself that I want a divorce over his behavior am I going crazy is this enough to seriously consider leaving him we got the results for the paternity test three days later and for anyone who ever doubted me you'll can't ride with milta crazy town he's the father he cried and told me he never doubted it and that he knew he was the dad I told him that we would do a second test on our oldest daughter and that I was going to start packing out stuff and I was going to go move in with my sister he bowled and bawled and said he didn't need one for our oldest daughter I demanded we take one as I would want it as proof for Court whenever we get to have my case heard I told him that I never cheated on anyone in my life including him and how much it hurt me that he said that in the hospital room and made the nurses and doctors think he doubted our daughter at all he tried to apologize and hug me that I pushed him away and told him he should leave while I packed up some things my oldest daughter my baby and myself are now staying at my sister's house and he has told me that he refuses to take the second paternity test for our oldest daughter and is going to make his mom write out a very long apology letter to me he wants me to come home but I just can't even look at him the same I feel like all the love I had for him has been ripped away and I feel so angry towards him I'm just trying to take care of our girls but he won't stop calling me I told him he can see the girls anytime he wants but he can't take them near his mom and she is not allowed to be around them at all I'm going to give myself a few weeks to sort out my feelings but is this not enough to justify divorce I don't exactly want to go through with a divorce but I really just can't even look at him the same and I don't know how I could ever get past this

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Length: 10min 34sec (634 seconds)

Published: Mon Apr 13 2020