My dad and stepmom want me to donate my eggs to them

[Music] am i va for not donating my eggs to my dad and stepmom also going no contact with stepmum my dad 58 divorced my mom 58 - ten years ago she got custody of me 24 female course she made more money and is able to provide a stable home for me mom never remarried he remarried my stepmom forty-four two years ago and she's a very nice woman they're very much in love and there are no hard feelings on any side of the family at the beginning of the year my stepmom called me to tell me that she's heartbroken cause she can't have the O children she and dad have been trying but they couldn't conceive because she was infertile after many doctor's visits I think she didn't want to accept that news so she went to others to have someone tell her that the tests are wrong while I'm close with them I'm not comfortable with knowing that type of intimate detail stepmum told me that she's looking into in-vitro and she's always wanted a child like me I don't consider myself special but she wants me to be a mold for a biological child she asked if I could consider donating my eggs to her and whose dad's sperm to make a child with the closest DNA match to them I don't understand her logic that is obviously against it and so his mom but stepmum doesn't think it's wrong because it's not like we are ducking this dropped on me after a week of back-and-forth between us she wouldn't let it go and wants me to reconsider I was super uncomfortable when she mentioned using my eggs and that sperm then it reached inappropriate when she insinuated that s even crossed her mind she roped my dad's side of the family in the matter their religious old beliefs and believe in patriarchal dad doesn't have an heir to take the family name because they don't see me as worthy of being the head of the household they've been bombarding me with messages and calls for my selfishness saying I'm depriving a good woman of a chance to be a mother denying my father's right to have an heir mom and dad agreed to one child the family is accusing mom of shoving her West and independence view on me when I was a child I've since cut contact with that side of the family and Steadman I'm too sickened by the thought of it things are awkward between dad and me so I went low contact with him now I'm starting to think if I'm making a big deal out of it she's right we are not doing anything I NCES asterisk you owe us I know I have the right to say no but really guilty for crushing stepmoms heart but am I overreacting by blocking step none to lay it on me winded I built a thick skin from dads family it'll hurt differently from objective strangers but I needed a Maivia hole info many of you mentioned the legality issue my stepmom is from the same country as my dad she shares similar beliefs with his family's religion I'm not aware of a lot of the details of her plan she only asked me to donate a shoulder put in that she wants the child to have her country's citizenship not the you point at citizenship she has access to IVF in our homeland but I didn't think it would raise many comments about legality it's why I mentioned my dad's family's patriarchal beliefs dad Stedman and his side of the family only have green cards they have access to their country's health care but she's not letting go of the possibility of me I don't know the laws of their mother country I was born here and I never stepped foot in the other country I couldn't put the info and due to the character limit I'm so sorry for the missing information how I screwed my stepmom over the moment I had the legal option to do so when I was about nine to ten my parents got a separation later a divorce where my dad forced my mom to sell my childhood home and my mom got main custody with my dad having us they had me and my four years younger sister over every other weekend plus every other holiday he moved out only to immediately move in with a stepmonster and her three kids the youngest was two years younger than me and a boy the middle a year older than me and female and sure about the oldest age that she was also female I never interacted much with her in an ideal world us four kids would have gotten along great played together and whatnot or at least ignored the existence of the others sadly it's not an ideal world in that didn't happen my sister got along with them just fine I didn't maybe it was my then still undiagnosed Asperger's syndrome maybe it was me not instantly going yeh new family but the step siblings didn't like me they started me me and my little sister joined in cause she adored her new snip family and she was just seven at the time over the first six months that Bea got worse and worse until I broke and tried to call home and get picked up at which point my dad decided to start confiscating my phone as the first thing he did when picking us up the be escalated even more there was nothing I could do the stepmonster defended her precious demence for calling me a liar and saying things like my kids said they didn't whatever they did or said to hurt me that day or she's just lying for attention during the next year I would try to run away from my dad's place a few more times to go to family they lived less than 40 minutes walk away from an aunt and about 1 comma 5 hours from my grandparents then my dad in the stepmonster moved over 2 hours by car away from where my mom lived things got so bad that I dreaded going to see my dad sitting at every dinner the only time I would see my dad at that point between pick up and drop off listening to my dad calling my momma Ref greedy Pig and other evil things hurt at 12 to 13 I was none since I would only see the stepmonster mostly when she told me to get the heck out and play or something just get out of the house I tried telling her that I wanted to die that I didn't want to keep living like this anymore a response I don't care get the duck outside already if you're going to kill yourself do it outside not long after that I had a meltdown at school crying for hours and unleashing the whole nasty tail onto them since my school was a good one that teacher contacted CPS who talked with me Ransome tests and sent me to a psychologist at some point they contacted my dad with their concerns for my mental and emotional well-being my dad dealt with it by calling me saying since you feel the need to lie like that you shouldn't come visit anymore stay with your mom I don't care that was my last conversation with him although I heard a lot about him and the stepmonster from my sister now for my revenge ten years or so later I get a phone call from my dad's sister about him passing car accident and funeral I went and I met the stepmonster again obviously widowed now and my half-brother for the first time during the funeral and following wake she proceeds to insult me my mom and the rest of dad's family then she starts complaining about how his name is on everything they had together and how is she going to keep the house it was paid down the taxes and whatnot now she never worked a day in her life and such thing which is where my revenge comes to play see in my country the children of the deceased have a right to claim a minimum of one hundred and fifteen thousand dollars each if there is that much money or value and good left behind and there is no will stating otherwise normally this claim comes after the deceased spouse also dies or when they try to sell the property worth of money whichever comes first normally see legally the children can claim it at any time they just can't cause decency and pity for the widow too bad I hate her guts and both the youngest step sidings as it so happens my dad in the stepmonster own summer wood winning show dogs the house and land and a car the stepmonster also got some insurance money plus she will get a sum of about 60% of what my dad would earn if he was still alive every month if my dad had a will she could have kept all of that for herself or my half-brother he didn't and by that time my sister also hated her guts so I talked to her and did the only thing I could think of we took her to court to claim our inheritance sure we got many looks of disgust and mutters of greediness but in the end we won and I got my share of the money my sister got hers and her half-brother gagas locked in a trust fund for when he turns 18 this meant that the house dogs and car had to be sold the insurance money also got split so us kids each got around one hundred and fifteen thousand dollars each in a trust fund for my half-brother as for the stepmonster she got around $1,000 on the monthly sum of around three thousand seven hundred dollars she was livid started screaming venomous saying I should have killed myself when I was considering and how is she going to live now she have no house and how dare you force me to sell Grimer obviously fake name for my half-brother s childhood home and calling me a B and other such things the judge had to threaten her with contempt of court and get her escorted out before she stopped am i the eighth for blowing up at my stepsister at her comments about my lost weight my stepsister twenty female and i twenty-four male have never gotten the law her mom and my dad got married when we were six and ten so we've known each other for a long time in my stepmoms eyes she could do no wrong and anything bad that happened was pinned on me my dad is a complete pushover so he would always fall over to whatever my stepmom would say when I was about 15 I started gaining weight my girlfriend broke up with me woohoo highschool romance I started failing some of my classes and I quit baseball I started to stress eat and ballooned up from 125 pounds to 162 I guess at that point she decided she was cooler than I was and started mocking me and making fun of me calling me names like fattest and chubster I would constantly go to my stepmom about it and she would tell me she's just teasing she's so much younger why are you getting upset I got pissed off to the point where I just started avoiding her and locking myself upstairs in my room with a bag of chips at 22 I had 270 pounds and I knew I had gone too far I was way past my weight limit and bordering on OB so as a New Year's resolution I decided to start losing weight I cut out all junk food and started hitting the gym around this time my stepsister started to overeat - I don't really know why that she gained over 30 pounds she still was constantly belittling me about my weight which admittedly was way over hers by the end of this year I lost 120 lbs it felt amazing my step sister now weighed more than me over Christmas dinner all the aunts and uncles and cousins were complimenting me on my weight loss telling me how I looked so much better my step sister just sat there smoldering every time someone said something she dad he's still pretty big well he didn't get rid of that face roundness maybe lose a little more around that cut it was infuriating and I was getting angrier now here's where I might be the a finally at her last little snide look you know you'll just put it all back on why do you even bother I flipped out I yelled why can't you just be happy for me instead of getting on me for every little thing she said back to me defense of much oh I'm sorry did I hurt your 200 pound feelings I asked her I probably should have stopped there that I kept going calling me a fascist look at your plate you've eaten half the table fatty she started crying and left the table my stepmom screamed at me saying just because I was insecure I can't take it out on everyone I said oh so now you're talking not in the past ten years of constant fatty and lard ass and porker but you're way older she whined I left the table too and went home I woke up today to a thousand messages from my stepmom my dad and my stepsister they were saying I wasn't welcome to their house until apologized I'm not going to a my VA I guess I won but at the cost of my whole family I'm super pregnant I'm in my last trimester now and we waited until I was twenty two weeks to tell my family due to complications we are fine but we've been spending all this time building our nursery and being excited to be parents my D H worked on the nursery himself without my overbearing family and is known about it he is a very proud dad and it's helped him bond immensely with our baby who isn't even here yet my family full of just nose is split in two my dad's family isn't involved in this success I'm fighting them on another front but they took the news of the completed nursery very well my mother's family specifically might just know aren't in justone cowson aunt is GC for my step grandmother and grandfather and cousin is the GGC for them as well didn't take it well but they were relieved I only wanted books from them for the babies library Jim Kelton has been in competition with me since she was a child I don't know why she's the GGC and got everything she always wanted I ignored her my whole life and never competed which I think made it worse she has repeatedly told our grandparents internal that I'm a thief she claims I've always taken her things called her rude names and she always manages to get everyone worked up about it it's always been disproven her things are always found but the family always buys it it hurts so much the last time that I refused to be around cousin without a second witness to our interactions so no drama for three years because D H was always with me after hearing I'd gotten married eloped in a ceremony abroad at a destination honeymoon and was now having a baby I think she snapped I'm having the first great grandchild for both families which is a big deal from my cultural background she tried after our announcement to take over my baby shower which I told the family I wasn't having because we already got everything we needed I have tons of clothes furniture etc I asked for books dinner went great with the whole side of the family being excited cousin had major CBF and I knew something was my way because I'd refused her generous offer thus not giving her any attention she texts me several days later she shouldn't have had my number in hindsight and told me she'd be coming by my house to drop off gifts for my baby I told her no thanks we weren't taking gifts she tells me she's coming via text time and I told her I'd be out even if I was home I'm not taking them and I'm not having any discussions with her about my pregnancy / baby well she showed up anyways she was apparently banging and screaming at my door I have video footage from my Waze camera so much that my neighbor called the police they showed up in surprise she has a warrant for unpaid traffic citations and was driving under a suspended license so she goes to jail between my appointment and her emergency visit to the hospital blood work issues we wanted to confirm baby was okay she'd managed to tell my family a different story I'd apparently opened the door called her horrible names and called her gifts chief kicked her when she tried to take them back and then slammed the door in her face with the gifts I then apparently called the police told them she had a warrant and lied telling them she dassault admit then went to lockup and was treated horribly by the police I thought for sure my family had to know she was full of [ __ ] I was in the hospital for my baby but they believed her they came at me with texts calls voicemails and all of it nasty they didn't believe me my mother and Bo grandmother did and tried to set the family straight I decided I was done I'm not defending myself why should I I sent out a message to everyone that if they were going to believe cousin they were no longer allowed me in my family I would disown them all I had proof she was lying they didn't believe me and kept up the nastiness I blocked them all three weeks later the church leaders at my work they attend my step grandmother's church told me that the whole family was talking ugly about me to the whole small I showed them the texts and video since they were so shocked about what my family was saying once they saw the video and my pictures from the hospital I made a video for myself of me watching my baby's heart rate and the clock so it kind of proves where I was they were horrified they stopped bothering me and it got quiet I guess a week ago my cousin's story fell apart when my grandfather and uncle ran into the cop that arrested her one of the church ladies relatives also the church leaders in the cop backed my story up and cousin crumbled when she was confronted the family is horrified June and John Carson are on the outs they found out she also had drugs in her car so she's lost her GGC status my whole family has been trying to come by my house to discover my neighborhood has a new keycode gate my mother called me today to ask what she should do grandfather came by her house sobbing about the whole thing I told her it wasn't my issue and I was sorry for her being caught up in it but I'm not budging I disowned them I removed my family name from my hyphenated last name and just took my husband's I deleted my FAFSA book I changed my number we are listed privately by one as sad as it is because they are now facing the consequences of their actions and I'm sad I want my family that they need to stay away I can never give them another chance what if they hurt me or god forbid my child next time with the toxic behaviors I'm at a loss my mother says they want to send a letter but do I even read it edit thank you guys so much for the support I actually spoke to my husband and showed him this thread I had a good cry over the amount of support I received and my husband has decided to file a C / D on my grandfather get in row against my cousin and step up our security my mother has effectively told the entire family I want to be left alone she will not be passing any messages on to me from this point further and that any more contact would involve our attorney it got very quiet today and I'm quite relieved about it I had my husband block everyone's number and sent my lovely church leaders who me food and visits sometimes a message to telling that I was too stressed to hear about my ex family anymore I ask that we drop that uncomfortable subject when they visit and they were happy to oblige we had a small visit today and all we talked about was my nursery for the baby going forward I've decided to stick by my NC I'm not giving these people any more real estate in my mind thank you guys so much the cease and desist letters were received we got the signed receipts from certified mail we promptly had a visit from our local police a following day due to a concerned person grandparents pastor that I hadn't been seen in a while apparently my grandparents have their pastor convinced I'm in an a marriage the police looked around for about two minutes saw my husband massaging my very swollen feet looked at our copies of the cease desist letter and receipts and left they said there's nothing to report the pastor will get a very stern warning that he's helping my grandparents go around my wishes of no contact and they were truly sorry to bother Russ did not end there I hopped in the tub to relax and heard something that sounded like someone banging on our front door husband left to the store so I pulled up our camera feed lo and behold there is my channel tangent step grandmother Jean aunt is my mother's half-sister and step grandmother's only child on our porch so I called the police didn't even answer didn't turn on the audio nothing police handled it our lawyer is handling it they followed a neighbor in through the gate and that neighbor called the police too we talked about moving closer to his family and nearer his work my mother would be only 30 minutes away if we did and it's now looking like we could afford it our house is paid off as well as professional movers lawyer suggested setting up an LLC and my grandparents would never get a forwarding address because we could just get a Pio box anyone have any experience moving and buying a home this late into a pregnancy husband swears he'd do mostly everything and take some time off work his boss agreed and said they could make a low-key work party out of unpacking home to help hold us infecting it I'm 30 plus 6 and just tired I don't want to go looking at houses when I'm supposed to be on bed rest but I'm not against it I'm just tired and can't think logistics [Music] you

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Published: Sun Jun 07 2020