Monday Night Live | 5/11/20

ladies and gentlemen talking Gaskins here I hope I wasn't on here with a hot mic like the politicians because I don't know how's people on here for I got on him I guess they had a waiting screen let me see okay all right there go no vendors very own say oh man I'm ready male or female hi mr. Gaston does a book need to be copy written before submitting it to an editor if you go to somebody you know it's not that big of a deal it's not like you know unless you even wrote the next x-men or spider-man or something like that if it's your personal story came to buy the Riddler you know it don't benefit them to run off on the plug but if it's like a fiction book then you could go to copyright Gulf and copyright it but all copyright mine let me just until it's time to get published you know it's not that not that big of a deal somebody leave the system too strong today for somebody to try to run off with just stuff and build a life with your story make sure you put the hash tag queue in front of your question the divine yep do it the same way do it just like as if you was looking to date somebody what a ways to teach yourself self love wave the black king queen take the on free course ten steps to self law take the free course ten stuff to self law and it's free baby daddy and I got in the argument said a lot of mean stuff um crap yes to him didn't speak for two weeks Mother's Day got me to watch emotional letter and other stuff why y'all gonna have to ask some a little less specific question you know I'll know your baby daddy so really don't know why he'll do all of that you know I'll try to phrase your questions in a way that kind of speaks to multiple people you know so that I can kind of take an angle that when I'm answering your question I'm answering ten people question you know what I mean because if it's too specific being that mean you need a one-on-one session and I can't really you know I don't want to mislead you or say something the wrong way when it's the question is so specific I'll put the hashtag killer in front of your question hi Tony my ex and I broke up two months ago and he still lives with me I know he moved on do you think he's trying to keep me stuff um he may be trying to keep you stuff but you're also keeping yourself stuff you know you keeping yourself stop by allowing him to live with you and and sometimes what you got to do is you gotta take the air if you want to be by yourself you want to move on with your life sometimes you gotta just count it as a loss break the lease and leave otherwise you will be there on the net I already have a podcast it's called a Tony Gaskins show it's over 100 episodes on there but I don't really do it just because it's already 100 episodes over there you know I'm just not really one of them people that just like to run around with the haircut off doing a million things at once so being that now I'm on YouTube this is my podcast so you just listen to it just like you did to a podcast you don't have to look me in the face you know just put on you two out just let the video play so you to build Podcast not but I do have a podcast hall called a Tony Gaston show and it's over 100 episodes on their answering people's questions maybe I say neighbors lef a couple letters out of them fixing my car says it's free after offered to should I pay him regardless I'll be cool has a girl and a coat and a kid with a lady told me about his life but I don't talk much like you instruct us - yes pay on pail anytime a man do something for free a lot of time you coming back for another favor you talk about sometimes you have to start over courting dates etc how does this happen when you're living together for four years and have kids together you still do it the same way you know so go get a babysitter friend or family member go out on the date on Friday night put the kids down for bed and me and my wife do it all the time put our son down to bed then we get us a cheese board you know that they call it shot cooter II I don't know who came up with that name and some people try to say a proper secutiry it's cheese and meat on the board and get your glass of wine if you drink wine me I'd be drinking ginger ale and with a little splash and white make me a drink and we sit and have us a date so you got to be creative it's not about trying to be all fancy and make it comfortable harder than it is put the kids down and y'all sit and have a Netflix until some popcorn chocolate is it possible a woman wouldn't know her husband who her husband is when she meets them the problem is that a lot of women think they know who their husband ills the Bible say a man who finds a wife finds a good thing so the man gonna know you're his wife before you know he's your husband the problem with a lot of ladies is that they think a man is their husband but it's really because they tired and frustrated the desperate they're ready for love and they say God told me that's my husband and be lying on God because God ain't told you that God gonna tell that man that you're his wife then it's gonna be revealed to you it's a man who finds a wife and then you you have to accept him when it's in your spirit when he shown you that he's husband he's husband material he's husband ready that's when you'll get that that piece miss gala no the chat we just leaving questions in the chat just put questions in the chat you know you know you don't have to greet everybody we know you hear god bless you but you got to think about it if there's 600 people on here and 600 people say hey how I'm gonna see a question so the moderators they delete the excess stuff to make it just the question so don't take it personal and if you do we okay all right we we kneel for the self righteousness this is a Q&A for the question put the questions in the chat all the extra y'all leave it out so the people with the questions I could get today questions thank you preciate you for understanding we're just trying to make this easier for those who in need and need to get that question off is there a time period of dating too soon after the breakup for women it depends on how long you were in the relationship so what you gotta realize if you with somebody six months then it's not gonna take as long for you to heal as if you was with somebody for six years years it also depends on how much work you're doing so if you reading a book a week you're gonna be able to heal faster than if you're not reading books if you're watching a video on love and relationships every day you're gonna heal faster than if you just stand away from anything that's gonna teach you something or help you go to the next level so it really determined is determined by the amount of work that you put in but you don't want to just go from and just what this what we do men and women a lot of times we will literally break up with somebody today and we'll be with somebody tomorrow and that's what you don't want to do how to make my favorite daddy understand that I am NOT his woman anymore he thinks because we had a child he has ownership over me and thinks I will be forever stuck he is a grown boy you know the way to make him understand and get the picture you just may not want to go there you may not want to block his number you may not want to get the restraining order you may not want to call the boys in blue you know how to get him to understand but you allowing him the space to stick around and chase you and to be there because you don't really want to take the gloves off but if you really want to leave it's the way you could say it it's the way you can look at him for him to understand so it really comes down to you know you really getting serious about wanting to be done and you know how to get him to get the picture cuz you know him some people you got to use certain vocabulary some people you got to give them a certain look some people you got to have a certain person caller you know how to get them to leave you alone but you leaving that door open and entertaining it is there a time limit to complete the Entrepreneurship with a purpose purchase today a god bless you thank you for getting a entrepreneurship or purpose course um no end of course you get on tawny gases academy.com you have lifetime access - you know golf or beer you know something happen to the website or something like that or you know go off a bit business something happened with business but as long as the website up you have lifetime access if you lose access just email in sometimes people put a typo in their email address and then try to log back in and it's doc con and still calm I gave advice to a male friend of mine he said he needed to process all of what I said and proceeded to be distant for a couple days not sure what this means um that he need the process and it just a friend so you read too deep into it so what you got to ask yourself is do you have feelings for your friend do you like your friend because you should be okay if he needs some time to process that that's just a friend all right but it just means he needs time to process later joy god bless you not know where his are the CA are my first time seeing I don't hear a guy told me that he feels I'm inexperienced to deal with a man like him I told him I wasn't cut out to deal with any but to love and respect one was I wrong no you weren't wrong you weren't wrong and with them abbreviations I really can't tell too much if you were right or wrong but um we gonna say you wasn't wrong we're gonna say he wasn't wrong I'm Elizabeth golf - you know how can I meet good men in low mid-30s when most people who see me you think I am just out of high school I am nearly thirty I even try to dress maturely and try online dating and don't like it things don't worry about online dating stay away from the online dating and the fact that's people thank you just out of high school that's a compliment that's a compliment and and I remember telling another lady on here you may have to go to a image consultant you may have to sign up the image consultant go on my mentor dot life look through the latest pictures find one that's dress adult Lee but looks young and you like her look she might be a brand coach a confidence coach hired that coach and talk and talk with the coach I always tell women change your hairstyle put your red lip on they say everybody can't wear red listen I've seen some everybody would read lip on you right it don't look good on everybody but take you out that you know high school category does a rave want god bless you X was not communicating in a way that brought me a sense of comfort and security try it twice and I left both times he contacted on Mother's Day with warm wishes I did not respond should I know you should not yes your ex you tried twice already you didn't feel comfortable he didn't communicate in a way that made you feel comfortable he is a man he know how to talk to the screen when the football game on he know how to talk to his boys he knows how to talk to you but didn't wanna try to talk to you that's one thing women have to understand about men man knows how to communicate but he'll play dumb and he'll have a poker face if you're gonna fall for it but he'd know how to say what he need to say cuz you know a seven-year-old tell you could tell you what he need to tell you so you know a grown man could tell you what he need to tell you let me see is it possible to run someone away that truly wants to be your husband absolutely because what you have to realize in the four levels of love which I don't know if I put this in one of my books yet but this this my four levels are love lust like love self-love see in this law of stage is where we could love someone and they don't love us back and we'll stay but when you step into self-love that means you can love someone selflessly but you also love yourself enough to walk away if they aren't hating the law so just because you can meet your husband and if you're not ready to meet your husband and you still broken you still hurt and you still got attitude issues and all of this yes you can run your husband off by not being ready because if he is truly tapped into self-love he gonna let you go love you from a distance he gonna say listen I refuse to be belittled talk down to disrespective I'm out of here and you're gonna move on by this business oh yeah you can run anybody else you know just because somebody meant to be your husband don't mean that they meant to put up with all your issues that you refused to address and he'll son and god bless you now Tony if famiry familiarity breeds contempt what advice would you then give to married couples to keep things fresh and interesting especially since you mentioned before that men like variety to be honest with you when it comes out in a marriage and a relationship staying fresh that man really gotta be all the way in a woman you could do cartwheels in your thumb you could get you a pole you could slide on that pole do 360s on that pole you could get the pole ice cold and lick it get your tongue stuck on now wrap your legs around now flip upside down if that man is not into the relationship it's not gonna work so it really honestly for a relationship to work it take that man being all the way committee and so in order for a man to be committed what he has to realize is that he has to keep dating and courting his woman so he got to keep pushing the bar what I do is I look at my wife love languages and I speak them all so last night every night she lay down and she she sleep that way I sleep that way I go to bed later than her so when she lay down I sit up on the bed and I massage her back with this hill hand I might be on phone studying with this other hand but with this hill hand I'm massaging her back the day you know she'll have some shoes coming in next week it'll be a shirt come in we'll leave at night we'll go right to the door take out and we'll get the takeout sit in the car and have a takeout date in the car so the man has to be able to lead with love be consistent and keep trying to win you every morning I'm still sending my wife hey love hey baby miss you love you because she got the bed before I might to be here so that's what the man has to do that then when the man does that the woman receives and then reciprocate and so you know speaking his love languages my one of my love language is acts of service so I'm sitting here today I've been in my office all day working and coaching clients then I'm just kind of in here relaxing while my wife doing her thing I'm watching YouTube by playing a little xbox I'm really not a gamer I'm in here getting torched on the X bar playing against the computer but I just do it just to relax my mind my wife brought me breakfast she brought me lunch in here and she brought me dinner in here acts of service is one of my love languages so where I just spoke her love language physical touch quality time you know gifts words of affirmation she speak my love language so that's what it has to be that's what a marriage is mama Tish telling y'all no comments in the tent y'all just put questions in the chat so I could just scroll through here and see all the hashtag Q hashtag Q and I'm gonna try to okay lady joy god bless you Zara's South Africa I just joined in okay we're gonna South Africa I was talking to DJ Spooky at a date in Johannesburg he was the first guy him and Nikko and luanda booked me to speak in South Africa in 2013 made me an intercontinental speaker when I was 29 years old paid me the most I had ever been paid I think to that date so I love South African I don't know what part of Africa but I also spoke in Nairobi Kenya to then brothers dump bless me brought me over there to speak in Nairobi young brothers 22 years old and acquaintance and I had a conversation about her ex a couple of years ago fast for two years later her ex reached out to me I didn't realize it was him she found out now she is pedo P oh I won't say that P word justice I said sound nasty to me sound like cuss word to me but yeah yeah yeah she see she don't believe that you don't know who he is honestly I don't believe you don't know who he is cuz women women watch me on this hill women recognise me by the back of my neck they'll see the now you see the nap on my neck they'll see the nap on my neck then wanna swim move Toni gasket toni is that you I'm like how in the world did you know this was me from the back of my neck I just thought that was you I mean they have I have 10 10 dark is this he'll they'll see me through the tent Toni gasket so women so good with men faces and names and memory that your homegirl she don't believe that you don't know that that's her ex-boyfriend when he hit you up cuz she told you his name she's probably showed you his picture so that's why she ticked off so you gonna have to really pass that a lot of type of test to let her know I honestly had no clue that it was him cuz you didn't tell me his name or you didn't showed me his face you have to have that kind of evidence if she told you his name and if you saw his face give it up seeing on bleed out ain't nobody gonna believe it Shanice god bless you know bless you should need ya ro1 bless you know hey Tony I broke up with my ex I one week of being together now I want them back I know he loves me but he does not want to have that conversation with me how can I get him back thank you um you broke up with your ex after one week of being together okay yeah now I want him back I know he loves me yeah yeah I think you played yourself on that one to be honest with you because to get a cup of things straight for one y'all was together one week so he does not love you he does not love you it take a man about a year before he starts to feel loved and it takes a man about three to five years to fall in love so one week y'all were together he don't love you another thing he lets you get away another thing is you left him so if so if you had to leave him in one week y'all ain't meant to be together y'all ain't meant to be y'all didn't even have a honeymoon phase y'all went straight to war zone y'all not meant to be together so I will let that go and move on with your life y'all not meant to be together in tight you break up in one week y'all y'all you wasting your time miss low-key god bless you what does it take for a man to develop character and integrity and is integrity a turn-off for a grown boy and is integrity a turn-off for a grown boy I'm such a fan of yours miss low-key god bless you um now for a man to develop character it first take a desire he has to have a desire to develop his character but then also he needs accountability so if it's not a friend then it's typically gonna be the woman in his life holding him accountable so if he's doing stuff and you not holding them accountable then he's not going to grow and unless a friend or mom or somebody else hold him accountable but it first takes that desire and integrity is not a turn-off to a grown boy it's the turn-on but he just is not ready to grow so he respects it but he just can't get on your level but it don't turn them off and just more so pushes him off um okay I asked that one Kent Moreno god bless you talking to a guy talking to a guy with girlfriend six months told him I don't do messy stop communicating he came back with all ties cook with the girlfriend and no loose ends good or bad um for one you don't know if all ties is cut so he could tell you all ties is cut he may be on a break right now he could be on a two week break month break coming and secure you lock you in once he get you comfortable go back to her so whatever you do in this situation it's a gamble so you're gonna have to be able to keep your eyes open ears to the street crossing T's dotting eyes really on your P's and Q's to make sure that if you didn't with him there's no signs of an ex you won't have to really be locked in paying attention boom bakers god bless him nine ten year relationship I didn't want marriage we just got back from vacation he wants to try again I forgive but don't forget I'll bring up the past if situations resembles how to address past issues and move forward um it's gonna be a choice so anything you do in life so when you address the past issues you talk about it he tells you what he did why he did he give you an explanation then you have to receive or reject point blank period is that simple you receive or reject and if you're going to move forward it's just you making a choice it's not a potion that you put in a bottle it's just you saying okay I choose to forgive and to forget what forget means is that you forgive the offense and then forget means you don't remind him of the offense so if you keep bringing it up and you got to keep bringing up Tama situations resemble so you got to bring it up that means that you have not forgiven and that means that you cannot be in that relationship it means you wasting your time so I've done things to my wife she's done things to me we don't talk about that today we don't bring up our past mistakes we don't bring that up because we have forgiven and we've forgotten what I mean by forgot I still remember everything she still remember everything any lie any disrespect you still remember it but you don't bring it up that's what forgiveness is and if you cannot do that that means a relationship over the other part of this is y'all been together 10 years y'all relationship been over nine years ago so now you got a friend with benefits that you going on vacation with but you blocking all your blessings he blocking all his blessings cuz y'all dealing with each other out of a soul time and y'all not even meant to be together because when you've been together ten years and you didn't want marriage it's a reason you didn't want marriage and that's your system trying to tell you this is not your husband but you're wasting your time and you wit him out of fear of being alone and having to start all over that's what the issue with Coco God bless your boyfriend just got a car that he can't afford and will start school on loans ask him if moving out his mom's house is going to happen and he says yes am I wrong to feel like he won't be able to provide anytime soon no you ain't wrong game room you don't need talk they'd rather to tell you that suze orman to tell you that and you ain't wrong no broke man living with his mama got her call he can't afford Anthony gets too long he don't need a relationship he need a budget book you and me you need it by him find out the piece you need to get him saying it gives him the credit karma out of the fight go out that man no you upside down so ya going about to like that man have that mana be selling your shoes and dresses at the swap meet they're trying to make money to pay that car no that's like my cousin you just steal my I'm on ensure my brother tell me to go get a ensure my cousin the stole all the insurer sending in the streets stole the booths stole addresses selling in the streets that's what that man would be doing to you now when you see somebody financial literacy is not there and you're trying to grow just just gone part ways because that'll be the one thing right there that it turned into everything she no kind of stuff I've gone a beauty god blessed night Tony both me and x-23 with him for five years okay since eighteen recently found God and decided that I wish to be abstinent he says we are not on the same page spiritually as such he broke up with me thoughts let him go let him go then I'm going by the business I'm going by the business he did you a favor God trying to spare you let him go don't chase them don't let them come back Danielle God let's just had my first coaching session how long does this process usually take willing to do the work just curious all my relationships have been toxic every individual is different I can't give you you know a certain time every individual is different so you know it might take you it might take you four months it might take you four years it depends on how the depth of that relationship it also depends on your coach cuz on your name I don't know if your name sound for me to me so different coaches got different styles so you know that's one thing you got to fill out do you feel you got some some type of movement in the session if not then you might need to try another coach ladies say so god bless your hide Tony should women balance dating multiple men while not having the dating multiple men energy in order to attract the right man no you shouldn't no you should and you asked that question the same way out an answered it befo as if you didn't hurt me answered before and you asking me just because you want me to say it directly to you if you have not heard me answered before you spot-on because that's the way I answer the question is it's okay to date more than one man if you're just dating meaning going on dates talking as friends and you're not in an exclusive relationship a man has not asked you to be in an exclusive relationship and you're not sleeping with the man but if you don't feel like you have the energy and that's not what you feel comfortable doing talking to Tom Dick and Harry then just talk to Tom and you just got to be strict with Tom and then when tom acke up and show you he's not husband material then you could just talk to dick when he acted up then you could just talk to Harry but some women aren't built in a way that they could go on three days not sleep with any of them none of the men asked her to be exclusive and she don't mix up and confuse they name and she just see it as these are potential love interests who've shown some interest I'm a brand I'm an entity and I'm doing my interview process and then i'ma choose which one I want to deal with and so some women comfortable with that and if you're not then don't try cuz you gonna disrupt your spirit and block your blessings amber god bless you hi Tony I've been dating someone for a little over two months and he has not asked to be exclusive we speak for an hour a day no sleeping together should I ask him how he feels about us or just assume he's not interested in more he's 36 oh it's not time yet it's only been two months so you give it one more month you need one more money you take a man about three months before he knows he feeling yeah he talked to you every hour a day so he giving you a good time it's a good investment he trying not to rush it try not to spook you out he might not want to come off like a creep he might be all the way in and ready but just trying to give it a reasonable amount of time he might be sneaking and he might if he owned you to Lee might know who he might have heard what I didn't see it so you still got time you got about another month to fill it i age' god bless you not broke up with a guy who was pessimistic and unstable with jobs no car sleeping on friend's sofa 8:32 man of integrity treated me like a queen tried to make it work but two turned off was I wrong to leave now this all the same man this this sound like two different men not cuz a man of integrity who treated you like a queen but he pessimistic and unstable with jobs no car sleeping on the friend's sofa that sound like two different men and the fact that it sounded like two different men no you weren't wrong the lead you were not wrong the lead you can't deal with no pessimistic man sleeping on the couch man you need to have all the hope in the world you need to be optimistic as you could be sleeping on somebody couch you need to be listening to Martin Luther King speech every day you sleeping on somebody couch you got room to be pessimistic on somebody couch so no no you weren't wrong they leave that Shanice god bless you glad to be a part of the blessed trial blessing a God bless your night and I could've swore I saw two of them blew things up there and YouTube done deleted one okay here goes simply Robin I see you so if I stay even though we both weren't equally yoked does that mean God tried to spare me and I messed up yup yep if you stayed and y'all want to equally yoke you messed up you drop the ball now y'all let me scroll up a kind of high here let me see okay I see Gina I'm is Gina question get Gina Gina I caught you now Gina Gina we're ready to get hot do you know without selling I ready to get blocked by Cheryl caramel kisses hi Tony can you give a little as to how men feel about and deal with their wives aging if a man is in love should if a man is in love should the wife be anxious Gina god bless you thank you for that blessing the be honest with you when a man in love the wife is like wine see my wife like wine see now that I look at my wife as she age she love Bella every year when I look at her high school pictures I'm like you cute but not you fine see she liked wine when a man not in love a woman is like a soda that the top been left for it so it's a beautiful thing the age with a woman you in love with coz just that you know that skin get richer you know and that body you know that their weight start to set that might a little start to slow down you hit me that road to get back down you get you some you feel me sunny skies on back though and stuff get better with age if a man is in love when he's not in love he ready to cheap toy boy god bless you're not part in your life Sony's Pinkston golf lesson on Shanice I saw your name earlier god bless you now yes gamma credit card you drop the bag on me tonight not God blessed night no I I've been Shanice over that got people credit card let me blessed time with mighty car let me bless Tony with my uncle car whatever you doing over that sneeze God blessing nice they say stay safe keep your head on straight part in our life Lord why do some guys have multiple baby mamas sometimes too with the same woman and then add more to the plate opinions it just lost and confused it's just a man who he he's looking but he don't know what he's looking for and he grew but he was not raised so he come up kind of cold come up kind of rough raised itself and so really didn't know what really a wife looks like and he's doing the thing that he no grown folks do but not really considering the consequences because that's not how he was raised to think like that he just lived in the moment cuz he survival mode and he looking for whoever gonna be there to give him a sense of peace in that moment and you know you know skied nothing that woman gives him a sense of peace and consolation to forget about his pain and his issues and his failures in life then that's what he doing he just living in the moment so that's that type of man is when he's young now he can grow and change and mature and start to have foresight start to have vision you know starting to have a sense of purpose but when a man is kind of hurting and lost and just kind of trying to find himself that's that's what he does he uses women as a teddy bear but see ya teddy bear that he had when he was six he couldn't get that teddy bear pregnant but when this woman is the human teddy bear is consequences with that kind of consolation how do I prepare while single not to be so sensitive I really don't know I really don't know it's just human nature you know you gonna have to be sensitive feel the sensitivity and then what you want to do do the opposite you want to snap don't say anything and you and get your tests on your job and get your test in traffic get your test when you're talking to your best friend you sign up for coaching with me and you liable to get your feelings hurt but a lot of my clients they know Tony he's gonna talk to you gonna get to your blood roll but it's out of love and they keep signing up for most sessions today no I'm not gonna lie to on so you deal with your friends or whoever you dinner with to get your thick skin because it really comes down to it's not about being sensitive because we all sensitive it's about the emotional intelligence what you do when you feel preached okay I see you should need me to come back in here with the bag hello well I've been missing for a while just showing my appreciation god bless and east engage three total nation in the night nine you two need to have us give a Hall of Fame cuz it's a few of y'all that really be bless me curls god bless you now boyfriend six years and two kids his mom hated me from the start claims bad vibes and could it be the reason why he waited so long for marriage why he is waiting so long for marriage he now wants to but I fear monster-in-law super toxic and he won't set boundaries love him and gonna tell you what to do but that's gonna be that's gonna be painful she could very well be the reason he didn't waited so long when it's been six years and not he ready to get married so what you gonna have to do it you're gonna have to sit down and talk to him you're gonna have to sit down to talk to him and let him know that he gonna have to set boundaries with us with his mama you gonna have to you know let him know he gonna have to set boundaries and he gonna have to get things in order but that's uh that's gonna be something he gotta do and if he can't do that then you might be signing up for something that's gonna be real painful cause if a man can you know take that I did mouth from his mama and get where they need to be then that's gonna be kind of painful The Pianist been asked to marry three times soon after soon after we end up breaking up very limited intimacy I'm tired you're thought I knew they weren't right for me well you got learned what you haven't learned know what you don't know and you got to keep getting knowledge so what you're gonna have to do is it sounds like to me you're going from relationship to relationship but you're not watching the game film so when you watch it when you play a game after the game you watch the film you watch the film to learn what you did wrong so you're going from relationship to relationship but have you sat down with a professional and looked at that relationship to identify the red flags the things you miss what you did right what you did wrong and then learn from it before moving forward it sounded like that's what you're gonna have to do simply robbing god bless you miss mr. Tony what do I do now I'm 23 not afraid to say I messed up because now we live together we both go to church today serve together his family and I are getting close but it's kind of confusing well you don't put the cart before the horse y'all living together and y'all going to church now one thing you didn't I say that I feel like you would have said is if it was the the situation I feel like you would have said we don't sleep together you would have put no SES you didn't put that so if y'all living together and sleeping together and y'all going to church serving night you all the way wrong are you playing with God and what the Good Book tell you is that it would be better for you to not know the Lord then for you to know the Lord and choose to do wrong I think the Good Book said to be better the ty stone round your neck and dive into the deep ocean then to know the Lord and do wrong spit in his face so now the question is are y'all sleeping together if you're all sleeping together you all the way wrong and you need to correct the situation toyboy god bless you I've been with a man for 10 years he has different women at his house nightly he was honest he wanted to sleep with me with no commitment I accept it I want more he says he doesn't want exclusive should I let him go toi I'm read never reads question again let me read your question again okay I've been with a man for 10 years 10 yo in a tent okay that's a 10 okay make sure that n say 110 years he has different women at his apartment at his house nightly okay different women not yet okay what I'm reading is STD soul ties he was honest and said he wanted to sleep with me with no commitment okay told you he wanted to be friends with benefits wanna flip in toast you s OD okay I accept it okay so you thought you were gonna play him and end up playing yourself I want more he says he doesn't want exclusive should I let him go okay he don't want you but you're wondering if you should let him go okay I want to read your question again make sure I want missing nothing toy um yes you should let them go you should let them go get a hundred percent absolutely because what you playing with you playing with your life you're gonna end up with hilf okay here this HIV okay he got a lot of soul ties you getting sexually transmitted diseases distractions seasons diseases demons everything start with a D you get me transmitted to you okay debt everything Dogma dogs died Lucien everything start with a D you getting a trance to you Adam STDs and it's been 10 years come on now you is somebody waiting to love you but you first got to love you you gotta love yourself first okay mommy and me god bless you I'm in the dating scene and men tend to stop communicating with me is there a way to set boundaries without pushing the man away yes there is but if you if your boundaries push a man away that means that's not the man for you if anything you do in life what you're gonna realize is you got to go through a bunch of knows before you get to it yes if you're looking for a car if you're looking for apartment and you're looking for a house if you're looking for a new pair of shoes anything you looking for in life you got to go through a bunch of knows before you get to the yes so don't question your boundaries and your standards if you know you operating from a good place you be an honest fair person and all of that and men aren't falling off if you know that you're doing the right thing then it's not you it's just that the caliber that you own you're going through growing boys to get to the grown man I read god bless you not if a man has everything you are looking for but he is not a spiritual would you continue with the situation I read my Bible all day he says he wants to be more spiritual um what's he the question what you gotta ask is not about his spiritual level but is he doing the right thing so if he's living in opposition to the Holy Bible then you move on with your life but if he's not necessarily doing wrong but he just don't read his Bible the way you read his Bible then he's somebody you can still deal with and grow with because everybody you always gonna meet people that's on a different spiritual level you're not necessarily gonna meet anybody that read a Bible just as much as you read your Bible or talk to God the same way you talk to God or have the same relationship you have with God that's that's really gonna happen lady joy god bless you hey Tony what if loose booty 901 is my mom launch the book busy with my PhD legs clothes healed and doing me but she tells me to relax my standards well you just don't listen to her you know sometimes you got to realize that your mama dealing with things that you're not dealing with and your mom wouldn't Bend through things to get you where you at so for time god bless you now I see your blessing right there in the chat so you just got to understand that you don't have to listen Vesey I see your blessing right there those gifts you got your wife for amazing I was smiling as I was watching I'm sure she was happy and grateful she deserved him and more hey God that she show her happy she was like baby thank you for making me feel so special on Mother's Day hi Tony what is equally yoked oh that's a Christian term from the Holy Bible that just basically mean that y'all fit that you same beliefs you know that you on the same page that you meant to be you know in the Bible it also could imply being from the same country or you know having the same belief system things like that so it's kind of like you unequally yoked if your belief system your foundational beliefs are different but to the mama question you just got love mom and Jess okay mommy just smile and nod and go and do what you know that is right don't dishonor her don't disrespect the don't call or loose booty 9 or 1 just smiling on okay yeah I'm on you right I do need to you know lower my standards let me hold on let me see who that was and no Trina Pete god bless you're not look crystal styles I have been hurt badly and past relationships too due to being left while pregnant at 17 I have deep pain I pushed down I noticed I sabotage and destroy relationships how do I heal from this you're gonna have to do work see when the pain go back like that you're gonna need therapy and then when you feel you got to handle the therapy and your therapist feels you got the handle then you may need to go to coaching to where you start to turn the pain in the purpose whether that's writing a book whether that's mentor young girls whether that's learning the ways of men learning what a real man is what a real relationship is getting a specific relationship coaching but you will have to do the work on another level than what you're doing so being here this is a good start but when it's like that you got to be one-on-one you got to go a lot deeper my mentor not life that's not life not calm my mentor not life love I am god bless if a man asked me what kind of movies I like it always seems like they try to agree with everything I'm saying yep that's what a lot of men do that's what a lot of men do well he could good like what you like but you know that's what a man he wanna be a conversationalist he want to create chemistry that's why I was trying to tell y'all about how some men know how to create chemistry but if you feel that he just saying that and that's when you know he trying to create chemistry alexandria may is God bless you I am dating a guy who said I am too proved because I changed the subject if it ends on sleeping together we did not sleep together yet should I lighten up to make it spicy nope no a man telling you that you to prude is a compliment because you don't want to hear you too loose so it's better to hear you too proved in you to loose so when you do that you shown yourself to be wife material cuz you showing him like this and playboy don't come talking to me but no sleeping together by you're not se yet when you don't even know me like that homeboy like chill I calm down get your life together so when you check him on that you let him know I'm a queen I'm royalty I'm a wife talk to me with respect don't be talking to me like you talk to loose booty 901 you go chop it up by all that with loose booty 901 when you come over here the royalty how your purple and gold ready and talk to me with some royal conversation so that's what you're telling him and so a man will call you a name oh you mean oh you rule oh you prove a man will call you that with the hopes that you'll take it personally and that you will feel disrespected and that you'll do what you're doing right now should i lighten it up to make it spicy absolutely not because you get a spicy that's gonna mess around and get hot and it get hot okay then you're gonna be dropping it like it's hot then you drop it like it's hot then you finna be popping it out hot pregnant all right with a baby daddy instead of a husband so don't make it spicy you keep it mild you keep it mild you keep it cold and you keep it proved and then says he stepped up and he show up and he become a man that's gonna turn the heat up in the kitchen the more manly he showed that he is having to be god bless how does a man know he found the one um he will know just because it'll sit with his spirit there's no formula toward its nose it's not no man could really put that into words because no one can fully describe love if somebody could fully describe love they don't know what it is so love is his pure love is God we can't fully describe God like people call God the universe the spirit all these different names but a man won't be able to just put it into words so he will know and you would know it's that's a--that's a spiritual connection that's not something that is for articulation that's spiritual so you'll know you'll be wrapped up in it you'll be swept off your feet and you won't have to ask somebody a question and a man who found his wife he's gonna be very intense and direct and he gonna be trying to lock that situation down you see a God bless you been entertaining old boy for five months and he's 14 years older than me he is childish you go days without talking when he's mad and has not taken me on a date he Gamble's every weekend so he says do you think his coz I won't give it up oh no it has nothing to do with you and then so many red flags you got a you got a fire truck you got so many red flags and now so it's been five months and he has not taken you on a date and y'all go days without talking when he's mad what do he have to be mad about within five months he don't even know you he barely know your middle name don't even know where you were raised that it's only been five months and then he 14 years older than you so you 14 years older and you getting mad inside of five months that go days without talking he playing you like a Parker brother game boy you hit me he old an immature old Methuselah and immature and the reason why I say that is because when you 14 years old even if that's 34 on you 20 when you 14 years older somebody you get mad and giving silent treatment and you gamble on the weekend that's a grown boy that's a grown boy you you wasting every second of your time that you stay with him you wasting a second on your life that you're not gonna get back and one day you're gonna be on your deathbed and you're gonna say I wish I could trade that five months in that do something else so listen to me nine and make make make make a new decision um J god bless you not from cooking Canada okay broke up with kids father last week four years no commitment I recently moved two hours away he calls once a day I don't answer would you say he's truly interested is there anything I could to make him commit after this long you're gonna need quote you're gonna need coaching you're gonna need coach you really ain't gonna be able to pull something off like that but to be honest which I don't think you want if a man and put kids in you and he still don't want you after four years and not the fact that you two hours away now he called you you got to remember this 24 hours in a day so the card you wanted they don't mean nothing what would have meant something if he would have showed up and done what he had to do so that you wouldn't have had to break up with him what would have meant something is about a two-year mark he would have married you being at you the mother his children that would have meant something not that you go and he calling you he's trying to keep you stuck cuz he don't want his children calling another man daddy because of his ego is in the way that's the only reason why he calling you but he'll want you because if a man won't you he's not gonna be with you longer than three years and not marry you now y'all gonna hit me say that over and over on this hill channel if y'all along here but please hit him on that right that night I'm saying that with love you got to move on I don't know how counted alert but I'll be sending that child support I'll be sending that chanceplay a bus the Canadian dollars you mean because you know play around for four years wasted time the heck here toss for I call my leader god bless you now for that blessing now y'all hold on now let me go ahead and see if I miss anybody in this hair chat because it's a chat filling up in y'all forgive me the VIP line got thick and I was trying to get them in the club before 11:00 and Trina P I don't know if I saw your God bless you sandy Mendez god bless you no dating for months got into an argument about social media he took phone from me and insisted he look at all my messages I said no but he still took the phone broke up but was I wrong to say no to giving him my phone no you were not wrong because y'all only been together four months and your phone is something for your husband not for your boyfriend if you voluntarily give want to show somebody your phone to show transparency and they want to do the same thing then that's fine because that's not a form of abuse if y'all voluntarily agree but when somebody's sneaking in your phone and y'all not married or somebody taking your phone and y'all not married if you stay with that person in marriage that's gonna turn into that right there okay that's that's a precursor you hit me so that's what you have to understand about a situation like that so youyou were not wrong for breaking up and you were not wrong saying no to giving him your phone not I told my wife I'm gonna be on here hour I'm gonna see y'all don't send no more blessings up there to the VIP line let me go right here in the regular chat and answer some of the questions in the regular chat okay stephanie was coming in right at the same time all right Stephanie god bless you hi Tony dating someone for a few months exclusive he is one year divorced married two times before I have never been married he is a business owner very busy we talk daily see once a week get along fine he says he wouldn't marry again but I don't know that's a complicated situation Stephanie what you gonna have to ask yourself is what has he done to change since them two marriages or does he talk about his life coach does he talk about his therapist does he talk about the books he's reading does he sound like an intellectual that is learning and growing if the answer is no then you will probably be marrying the same man and the last two women had a divorce and y'all talking and stuff is pretty regular but that don't mean nothing because you could be a band-aid you could be a rebound so it don't mean nothing okay I say don't y'all sing no more blessing but a that way the Bible Satan I press down running together and shaking over y'all Oh still gonna bless me and then here go see law it goes see laws see love is a is a VIP night because she really be blessing me she really be blessing me Oh Roxie Witherspoon I'm blessing to you and the first lady Starbucks on me this week a god bless she's not at that $35 mine now with my wife at 35 might last a day I had to buy stocks at Starbucks I don't weigh the boss thoughts at Starbucks my wife be drinking an iced caramel macchiato hey thank you so much i'ma show tell her you sent that blessing jacqueline Thompson god bless you now okay not a Canadian not been thinking about moving up that account I heard y'all got free healthcare and I like the way that true true who else Trudeau or whatever that man name is that y'all have up in Canada that be talking and he looked like a movie star he made me feel better than who I be listening to over here in America I ain't gonna say no name but I've been thinkin about movin that old Canada give me some of their free health care good good night mr. Gaskins I have received an email about entrepreneurship course I'm interested in starting my food service business would your course suit my line of business I am in Canada um no it would not it now it'll give you some fundamentals and the fact that the course is not that expensive it won't hurt you but entrepreneurship with purpose is more so it's not just like a business course it's really for people who want to be like you know you want to do something in the purpose-based space like serving or like if you open a soup kitchen you know it's talking about turning pain in the purpose of mess into a message your venture is more so entrepreneurial just like business so what what I would recommend is let me see food service business I probably got some food service people that could do some consultations with you that would be good to talk to I'm trying to think if I know somebody in arm and in Canada Sabrina god bless you now but I would write in to support and see let me see full service we might have somebody in full service that's a poach on my mentor that life that can help you out but entrepreneurship a purpose if you got a coupon code from the email today it won't hurt you because it does talk about and it could give you ideas on how to take that profit and give the profit purpose like where you gonna donate your non profit that you're gonna start and things like that Krystle God blessing not okay okay now y'all let me get a few of these heal questions inhale and I'm gonna look for certain type of questions not that I can answer that could feed everybody um mismanagement sent an email into support and uh we'll have somebody audit you your page on my mentor dot life and give you some feedback my kids father and read in the vault I got every way that you can make the page better I got blogs in the coaches vault so when you log in at the top of the page you'll see vault click on vault and read those blog posts to tell you how to make your page better Kela crawford god bless you now i have a blessed evening god bless aquiline god that's not kidding okay okay now y'all alright y'all going on keep on hitting up there okay ten hours god bless are there any exceptions so if he doesn't call you every day he does want you if he under the sea with Nemo if he's under the sea ten hours or he is deployed in Iraq Afghanistan Abu Dhabi's IVA Roby if he is somewhere to where he don't have phone reception phone service he get locked up he's in the jailhouse and he need to use his one phone call to call his mama to get it didn't get him bailed out those are exceptions to the rule but if the man is in the free world and he living up there you know he living over there and he in the free world then that's all it's no excuse for him not to call you every day if a man won't you he's gonna call you on Nicole Nicole want this question he'll ask Nicole it just they just they they feel like your family's kind of feel like you a hot mess and they just ready for you to get married they just want to see you marry cuz they your family feel like you don't have enough room to be picky so you have to sit down and talk to them and say why do y'all keep telling me I'm too hard on man what are you trying to say to me are you trying to say that um looks challenged are you trying to say that I'm not worthy and why would you say that if you my family and you love me your family trying to say listen child you ain't got enough room to be as picky as you been your aunt Glenda you see how she looked and she had to get and she didn't got married to that cheating man so what do I hear doing thinking that your stuff don't stain that's how family could be sometimes so you got to sit down and check family talk to them let them know they throwing your energy off and it being disrespectful but a lot of time family Jess they trying to love you but they just don't always do it the right way how often should you see someone work schedule make it complicated to see each other sometimes more than once you only need to see somebody once a week so if your work schedule mean you can't see each other twice a week then that's okay okay now y'all still sending blessings up here denying all argue with you now I think you know how people be like man I can't accept that man ain't gonna be the self that man why you give it is money I don't want this money you know how people be when you're trying to bless them that's how y'all do me and when I say hey I'll hold on super chats up there and y'all keep bless me so I say lower okay let's do what you do roles god bless you now sorry Tony you mentioned that most relationships end because of cheating do you think this is because of men having grown boy tendencies or was it a matter of them not marrying their wife but rather they're placeholder like you say um it's a mixture of both because even a grown man still is tempted so I'm a grown man and I married my wife but see the adversary the devil or whatever you call it it's still gonna tempt you because he gonna tell worthy soldiers that's in the battle so the devil still send temptress is to me but so it don't mean that I didn't marry my wife just because people temptations still showing up knocking saying hey here I go here I go but the man when he goes from being a grown boy to being a grown man for me I'm gonna tell you what it is for me is I tapped into my purpose so a man kind of have to have like a trifold defense to where you got God you got love in love and you have purpose that's what really what a man has Cardell is a long term relationship better than marriage a long term marriage is better than a long term let I see a long-term relationship could be 10 years but then you just go walk off with no consequences but when you get married and you wanna walk off its consequences alimony and spousal support divorce lawyer divorce court splitting assets you got to really know you want to leave when you sign that dotted line and so what I was saying about the man being faithful is a man has to have and I tell my wife I just tell my wife all the time I said baby I'm not just faithful to you I'm faithful to God because I could cheat easily I could t easily and not get caught because you could be on the road it's so easy for a man of T but I'm faithful because I know God watching me 24 hours a day and I know my blessings come from on high my wife ain't blessing me you see I'm saying y'all giving me blessing right now but that comes from the favor of God that's some nerds in your spirits a man bless him with this bless him with that so I know my blessings come from God now would you want to listen to me if you know I was a cheater if you know I'm cheating on my wife and I'm in a full-fledge affair right now if I was if I'm doing a full affair the Flair affair and I'm on here giving relationship everybody you won't want to listen to me you won't want to send me no blessing so it's also my purpose that keep me faithful because I know that it's people counting on me so that's why when a man become a coach in the community he know them kids counting on when he a schoolteacher when he a president when he a supervisor when he got purpose people counting on him that helped him stay faithful when he has love when he's in love that helped him stay faithful and then when he has fear and reverence for his Creator that helps him stay faithful so I got that trifold defense and that's what keeps me faithful but temptations still gonna tell everybody everybody gonna be tended and what happened with the temptation is it get greater and greater and greater the devil know not to come at me with loose booty 9 or 1 that does not attract me the devil know not to come out me with a woman that shoot her shot at me that don't attract me so that I read it all up in my mouth if a woman come trying to holla at me because I'm a I'm a real man a real man pursues so what he gonna do what he gonna send a classy respectful well-dressed woman who ain't sending no vibes but yeah she looked good everything so I'm two steps ahead I say okay finna send this kind of test when I meet that woman and I passed that test all right he finishing this kind of test my ultimate test probably gonna be somebody like if Beyonce and jay-z break up and she come to me for coaching and she intercession and she say man if I just only had a man like you and in the next day I catch my wife in a lie but see the Bible say wherever there is temptation there's a way of escape so the Lord already showed me that not to say that it'll be that specific person but Norton already showed me the scenario that's gonna happen this how you gonna get tested be ready for it here's your way of escape because God temps no man that's the adversary that tempts you so see that's what that's what you have to realize is where a man mind is because he you could talk you could meet a man and he could be all this pan-african mess and all this Simon Lovell and third eye and peniel blend and topping all this deep stuff but if it ain't dealing with his purpose and if it ain't dealing with a fear and reverence for God that he understand how things work with character and integrity then keep it moving because he gonna chi chi god bless it ex who I still care about text me saying he missed me and asked if I still love him two weeks later he tacked some girl in a Facebook post calling her baby dog or normal behavior since we're not together he a dog you know he had all here at all all the way dog killed all he nasty he spit on people grey that's kind of man he spit on people grey that's kind of man he still people flowers he go out there the cemetery see his family he still so my family's off Dayton's don't put on his family tonestar you got to block him you got a block yard they eat and ask for that come and get your harsh get your heart confuse got you paying $10 submit a question got you tired up learning about him and then he going like the other woman on Facebook call her baby and he didn't come and got to stuff Rose still wondering what in the world he doing he come and seeing you a mixed signal the up and all your momentum and then go call another one baby here though mismanagement god bless you know I appreciate all you do to help us out I know you often repeat yourself but please be patient with us god bless you and your family a god bless you're not thank you for recognizing that that I be getting a lot of the same questions trying to ask them in a different way I really thank you for recognizing that grandma god bless your not not do that mean like your glamorous grandma yeah mom now that's what that mean that's real creative now be love and I oppose be going 16 minutes ago now I'm gonna be on your by five two more minutes I just try to I'm trying on some of y'all question in the regular chat now hey mister Gaskin all along I sent some questions regular chat and somebody hit my across the head with a blessing Jennifer let me grab your question right here hey mister gas on how to stand firm in your non-negotiable when it comes to your faith and waiting till marriage when people say your standards are too high they told Jesus his stems were too high they told Apostle Paul his stands were too high they told Pharaoh told Moses are you asking for too much Joseph brothers told him you not finna be runnin no country you got not finish don't you we've been told you in this ditch boy didn't we finna sell you you see what I mean nobody will see your vision that God gave you anybody gonna understand what you waitin on and what you see you've gone and get them your vision because loose booty 901 she ready get on her back so she don't believe what you waiting on so she's gonna tell you abstain hi cuz she stay on her bike but you know you waitin on the real deal you know you got a woman's influence and you know what you deserve so that's what you're gonna get and then when you get it everybody who told you one gonna get it gonna be sitting there jealous of you buying a things crystal I mean Cynthia blames God blessing now how to help younger sister but not overstep form soul ties with grown boys drug dealers manipulators etc currently dating a mama's boy I don't think she knows her work that close to home for me that's how my little sister isn't you see what I do you see what I do full-time my sisters to go through the same thing your looses to go through but what you got to do is you just gotta support her you got a supporter because one day she is set on learning the hard way and one day she's gonna be broken but not all the way and she's gonna be ready to listen to you and if you turn your back on her before she hit rock bottom you'll never get to reach her so you love her and you support her you never condone what she doing every time she talk to you she need to hear a little bit of your disdain for her situation but just know that one day she gonna be in a place and she ready to listen wild flavors and ecstasy make some one wife and let me say that seem like wow flavor wasn't SDC why after leaving a talker relationship the family keep reaching out left my ex and his stepdad keeps contacting me through different account see now you got some caveats and nuances in now when you say step daddy see that ain't his daddy see that's his step daddy step daddy to touch you yeah you know what I mean by touch you step daddy I'll touch you okay so stepdad it could be reaching out cuz he said man my stepson foolish but this thing he'll even let go woo did want me look good I'm finna get an employment and boss on this Facebook and see if she but do some strength for a piece of change the other side of that feels he could be telling his step daddy to hit you up just to keep you stuck keep you confused see how you asking this question the plan working so it keep you stuck it keep you confused to keep you wondering you just got to cut all time block his step daddy block everybody move on with your life okay that was Cynthia I saw Cynthia message right down down mom bless me yeah I got 10 more minutes I got a golden eye let me on somebody question my kids father do not call or support the kids his mother does not hold him accountable but once the children estate for the summer me and her have a decent relationship what do I do if they have a good time and they like their grandma and they like being over there let them go you know if y'all decent and you know and whatnot and as long as they're not going in a bad environment okay let me see you here crystal I see you god bless a man wants to rap at 30 grown boy or live out dream nah it don't matter if he wanted route as long as he want to pay for a studio time with his job if he wants you to pay for his studio time or he want to do illegal activity to pay for the studio time do you need to go on about your business if he want a rap smoke smoke weed they're going about your business because the difference between a dream and a fantasy see a dream is rooted in purpose a dream rooted in purpose and reality see a fantasy that's rooted in pleasure you won't cloud you want a ball you want to be a boss you want to be in a club making it rain that's a fantasy a dream is if he want to be a rapper to get a platform to start a nonprofit organization that helped put kids through college you see what I mean that's a dream so you got to determine the disa dreaming for fantasy and if it's a dream he's gonna work to make it happen he ain't gonna be wanting to live off you or Dewey take shortcuts to get there when you want to take shortcuts to get there you chase on a fantasy whoo okay now y'all got me tired now Kate and y'all sending the blessings up there all right hold on now hold on let me catch up now I'm gonna let been an 11-year relationship before we had before we had my hold on before we winds did then in 11-year relationship before we I asked him to be honest before we we're okay we're okay forgive me I'm thinking before Wednesday I asked him to be honest before we we're on countries so we got hired weird and any relay in my vocabulary like that we where he lied and told me after two years of marriage he told me God told him to tell me the truth about several infidelities I left was it a mistake nowhere when a mistake suster because you left after 11 years the mistake is 10 years you wasted you give a man one year one year your time if he don't know what he doing with his life in your life by that's way on my mark it's time to make move the mistake was in 10 years what you just did it right now that was the right but you gave him ten years too many can't Juarez god bless I have been doing better and feeling better during this quarantine but just a few days ago I started feeling lonely again and I'm afraid this feeling is coming back how do I overcome this you're gonna have to intensify the word you might have to work one-on-one with a coach get that work in you're gonna have to create a day schedule so it's never lack of time it's a lack of direction it's never that you bore you just not inspire meaning you don't have purpose and direction so in this here situation start your company what's your logo look like what color do your website see what I mean get going take life coach certification join my mentor that life start helping other people speaking in today life serve your purpose Romans 8:28 god bless you now now I've seen somebody disappear up there on the chat now I'm gonna try to go find you because I saw somebody look that disappear winter god bless you have a good night Tony you mentioned a woman having standards and being classy his wife material but what else makes a woman just then that's all that's all cuz you got to realize what standards encompass everything standards and classy that encompass everything that mean that you emotionally intelligent you got great temperament you ambitious when you got standards you humble when you classy you're respectful you're loving you're kind when you classy so being standards and class standards you got a relationship with God you know your faith so those two things really encompass everything now y'all hold on somebody has sent a blessing up there that was of a lesser amount and they deleted it miss low-key hirako react reflecting on your previous response I don't trust a man who does not have a godly wisdom it's highly that he will give in on those temptations right you absolutely right you absolutely right me personally I've never seen a man be faithful on his own strength if so me personally okay toy coy asked a question to a man who sleeps with a different woman each night is he's just greedy or have mommy issues it ain't about greed okay cuz he trying to catch his II okay trying to kick that heel back down so he got issues and it ain't necessarily mommy issues it could be daddy issues it could be all kind of issues but he got issue a point blank period I read in a woman's I read a woman's influence Danielle god bless it now and now mrs. wright oarlocks attractive to men they weren't mentioned in the hairstyle their long and well maintained if they long and they well-maintained see what's the try to demand as cleanliness so whether you got locks whether a letter told me today i deleted a message though cuz ain't like toner that that it ain't called dress see well phone we called it dread we call the dreadlocks and this how people get all into the trying to be she said and read it called locks and so like what you say it locks because she said dread means something else listen well on front we call it a dress okay I don't know y'all want to be fancy which locks but a man by cleanliness you have ball head you have a ball you have a Larry you have Tonya you have a lace front you have whatever kind of hair style you want if it's clean then and it's to kill a man gonna be alright with it because it different styles you know for different different man all Dobbs I see that toy koi ain't miss I just answered your question but see using junk Tony you skipped my question here for God's leash with different woman each night is he greed or how mommy issues so not even bless me twice being impatient when you see all the other questions up there you can make it bite you Tony I see you got a hundred other questions out there but you skip my question y'all see how some of y'all could be y'all women so now you're gonna bless me twice now ain't mad at you and they don't go doing no charge back don't call your cart tum mai OE mean to do that other one that was right oh do don't charge back not since you said you was impatient but I answered your question cuz see what happened is when you put that amount when you put a fight all of the less you to they give it a time limit and they are deleted so while I'm answering one of the other ones your question are disappear and go back into the chat and I'm looking up top up here let me see so y'all y'all hold on let me see if I've missed any more of them other question that disappeared on me I think I've got oh yeah mom okay alright now I got time for by two more questions I got to go I'll pose be on here owl man yo came in here hit me like that thank you to the person that sent me a cash out god bless you that right duck god bless you're not what do you think of a man who portrays to be godly but it's still watching their movies and sleeping around now for those y'all ain't been here what she talking about the movies she told my turn okay P ORM but we don't say the word work or YouTube like though hit you talk where god bless at night no chargebacks all right now chart back a man who say he God and he's still watching Pam you got the wrong you hit me I get from around him cuz you know how when people used to be said man lemme get from round you for the lightning strike you remember what I told you the worst type of person you could deal with is somebody that say they know God and they in willful sin that's a word kind of person I want my sin to be an accident I want to stumble upon the sin if somebody sitting up plotting how do you finish sin and they tell my dad no Lord I'm finna get from round you you hit me coz when the wrath for the Lord hit you I don't want to be no one near you because whatever that's been to look like because see when you playing with God the heads or protection get taken from around you so that means you get robbed at any moment you get in a car wreck in a moment you can get scrub by lightning in real life people get scrub by lighting in real life the deer cut a cue a bear anything can happen to you when go out take that hedge of protection from around you cuz you keep playing with his name I don't want to be nowhere near you I'm getting away from you and I'm gonna be praying that you get your sense together so never deal with somebody that say they know the Lord going to church read a Bible quote in Scripture and then in willful sin meaning they plotting and they planning how they fit us in no cause ain't nothing good coming to him Queen V god bless and I started dating boss a year ago I got to go I am 27 he is 47 I never invited him over only went to his house only went to his house recently find out about new woman he said he wanted us to figure out a way of being together I called and told her the truth okay so now y'all got all kind of drama going on over there so you datin your daddy well your step daddy he's 20 years older than you so what you too young to understand is a lot of time too boss sleep with the employees and he able to sleep with you cuz he the boss so you job scare so you feel like if I turn him down I'm gonna lose my job so it's not you need to be in the me to movement the other thing is you feel like well if he the boss he got a bag so if I put this thing on him I'm finna have a bag and I'm fitting to be the co-owner and I can fire this chick over here that keep looking at me sideways so see you have ulterior motives you didn't think that that just was random love that just came up because somebody who old enough to be your step daddy you know that man is too old for you so you got to think about this this situation right here you played yourself and then when you played yourself you called a new woman to tell her the truth she doing the same thing she trying to come up on the bag cuz he a business owner and so what you got to do you got to cut him off but you you're gonna have to change jobs you had to change on for that job right now I got a ceiling on you you got a ceiling on you you might need to find your purpose and step into your purpose but they got a sitting on you and if you're going through a divorce does it make sense to give remarry after your divorce after your divorce and after you to heal oh yeah it made sense if not what the Lord got for you the Lord might call you to be up pasa parley know you know Apostle Paul was single the Lord might call you to be Apostle Paul II know and start ministering the women that's going through a divorce me interfering the women you know what you might be called to see love god bless you now for the laugh you can have a Larry that was hilarious okay and I see loan you know what you're talking about but eh oh you tell my when I said you can have a ball you can have a Larry I just figured a hairstyle called Larry since y'all called one on the ball I know what the Bob bill Sharon god bless you're not okay in Canada okay three Canadians on here thanks for the peace of mind when I tuned in just a bit of Trudeau stem stimulus from being on the front line thanks to heat Tony okay yeah so that's his name Trudeau Trudeau Oh Trudeau I'll be watching them i watch them live on YouTube and I'd be like man I wish we had somebody like that in America that's poised you know got his natural skin color not in the tent spray a young fit vibrant I'd be looking at counter the like Mac at y'all and one of y'all illegals oh yeah Britta Nicole carp lesson night only love your content do you believe in getting hitched in under a year no I don't if a man knows that you're his wife he would know in under a year but just for the sake of safety because of man who cuckoo for cocoa puffs he will want to marry you in under a year to trap you okay so just out of for your safety you want to give yourself at least 12 months to be dating this man on a daily basis meaning y'all talk an hour a day and y'all see each other at least once a week for a to two for our date so y'all spending seven no eight to [Music] eight ten hours a week eight to ten hours a week talking or spending time together that's every day cuz that mean consider see that mean that you all in 24 hours in a day if you can't make one hour for the person that you claim you wanna marry then you shouldn't be dating so every day y'all talking and then y'all see each other once a week so yes that means if it's long distance meaning what it means Richard god bless you Toni you mentioned temptation as being the hardest thing for a man but if you being a faithful man of God struggle with this doesn't it then become near impossible yes it's near impossible but see this what you got to realize that's the power of Jesus Christ oh whoa that's what you got to realize see everything impossible without price see with Christ you become a new creature see that's what God getting the glory see everybody gonna be listen to this cuz they don't understand see that's what God get the glory see if you could do it on your own ain't no need for God if you could do it on your own ain't no glory for God ain't no glory in your story if you could do it on your own power but see the the level of growth that you need see a woman might be able to be faithful without God but can she be healed without God can she be whole without God can't she be confident and emotionally intelligent without God see a man may be emotionally intelligent he may be whole he may be confident but can he be faithful without God see me personally I don't believe a man could be faithful without God if a man come telling me he don't need God to be faithful getting around me cuz you a liar cuz are you crazy getting around me bro because you're gonna get struck you don't want to deal with you because you leave any women on a bike one day one I'm gonna come wait at work and I want to be with you at the club playing the video game when she come to pop off to get her episode on snapped get her episode on Lifetime movie network I got to go so I hang around faithful man you hear me because indeed man that faithful guess what every man I know that's faithful that that could tell me he's faithful or he asked Annette I could look at me his eyes and know whether he lying or not and the man who faithful guess who they got g.o.d so that's what you got to realize you know ain't meant to be easy it ain't meant to be easy cuz that's what the devil job built it makes the hard on you Martin accomplishing not asking a question for Kim Richards and Kim Wriston as husband drinking 13 years living apart he's in a 8 but still calls drunk once a month divorce yeah it sounds like that but you're gonna need coaching Oh Lydia preach pastor Tony god bless it not Lydia you're gonna need coach and see the qat not really for marriage the qat for dating and simple questions in marriage but when the Q&A not for divorce I say that you can ask marriage questions but when it comes to divorce you gotta make sure you turn over every stone you got you came you can't leave nothing on terms so you need to do coaching and you need to do counseling you need to read the books you can afford you need to take the sessions I mean watch all the videos one of these days when I get the time I don't have more than an hour a day to shoot a YouTube video but one of the day when I get the time i'ma just do a relationship series a marriage series and i'ma just post all the videos in one day y'all look like what a whirl Tony doing and I'm gonna just put them in a play list for the mayor of people because reason why I can't do a lot of marriages because 70% of my audience is single so that's that's obviously who God called me to to help people be prepared for marriage so that made marriage collab whereas for those you already married it's marriage channels this marriage coaches I can help you now my book can help you but I'm really called to the ounce of prevention instead of the pound of cure so for those who marry you can apply a lot of this stuff but if you had a verge of divorce you're gonna have to sign up for one-on-one coaching with me so we really could work through this he'll thing hey god bless y'all I got to go now I got to go Lydia god bless you gnight I really appreciate y'all for the love and support now I did live the day because yesterday was Mother's Day and I couldn't do our normal Sunday live so the day was the makeup and then I probably what I'm gonna try to do is make my live days Sunday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday coz I've been doing Friday's but that's been too much for them and then Saturday's you know that's another chill day so I've been doing Saturday lives but it just don't feel right with my spirit so I'm thinking I'm gonna make live Sunday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday that's what I'm gonna try to do but my schedule is fluid so I may have to change that so if I'm going live I posted 30 minutes to an hour before I go live I posted on the community page but a god bless y'all I really appreciate you thank you for all the blessings love and support you sent me and we'll be back tomorrow with my normal daily video y'all take care now oh I have a wife and a closet behind me talking to my song let's see how I turn it ain't changin this up oh you too

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 102min 46sec (6166 seconds)

Published: Mon May 11 2020