Dealing with rejection (and more!)

hey Tony guys in here I want to talk to you now about dealing with rejection I saw had that on my list of questions that somebody submitted on the comment section but I also got that question last night from someone asking for their friend now you got to think about this and it really applies to every area of life you have to understand when you look at rejection for one you cannot take it personal because you don't really understand what's on the other side of what you were pursuing so when it comes down to a relationship if a person does not choose you and whether it's a woman not choosing a man or man not choosing a woman what you have to realize is what that means is that person is saying I don't have the capacity to love you I don't have the maturity to love you I don't have the understanding to love you if I accept you if I get with you I will hurt you I will mistreat you I will waste your time so when the person rejects you what you call rejection that is really your protection your redirection and like I said last night when I hit you with that it is not your reflection see a lot of times we look at it and we take it personal and we say oh it must be something wrong with me no there's nothing wrong for you but you have to understand is that not everybody is for you not everybody is for you all the time I get calls about being on TV shows hey Tony we want to interview you to consider you for this show this show gonna be on ABC or NBC and we want you to be one of the coaches on there one of the life coaches on there Oh dating coaches on there and I talked to him and I listened to him and I may do the interview and I may never hear back and guess what when I first started doing it the first couple times I would take that personal oh man onto country Oh to dawn always cuz I don't have you know a college degree but then I started to recognize and realize and I shift my mindset I started to say you know what I ask God that if it's for me let it be and if it's not let it slip through my grasp and give me the power not to worry about it the peace not to worry about it so I started to realize is that not every space is large enough for me not every space is on the level that I'm on and so to be honest with you I shift my mindset to say you know what they realize that I need my own show not to be one of for 105 coach I need my own show they realized that if they bring me on there I'm finna break the budget because they don't have to come out the pocket way more than that twenty five hundred dollars that they want to pay they won't have to break bread they realized that if I come on there it's gonna be mine you hit me so I had to shift my mind setting yeah you got the big yourself up yeah you got you talking to yourself nah you know cuz I'm telling you but I'm telling you what you got to be able to say to yourself when it comes down to a relationship job promotion a friendship anything you have to understand that you are not being rejected you're being protected and you're being redirected but you are not being rejected you can't accept that as rejection because someone does not need or want the value that you bring I can't even say that they don't see the value that you bring because they can see your value but they may feel unworthy of it and I remember one time a guy casting director he told me say man I'm be honest with you I'ma be honest with you man you we really need to be looking to see about getting you your own show he said because they got your name on the list as one of the date coaches but you way bigger than the main star they got on the show and he was like so I really understand this he said I hadn't heard of you until now but not that I'm looking at it I'm like they need to be giving you the show instead of the woman they're giving the show you know that's essentially what he said and I say you know okay yeah all right and I basically let him know like I real ain't no sidekick my real ain't no sidekick especially somebody who ain't proven I didn't feel like I am I kind of let him know that like yeah you're gonna have a problem on the set with me if you got the person right here they don't know what they talking about they give him bad advice on love and relationships you're gonna hear from me so I pretty much let him know that's what you got to understand if certain spaces the reason why a man turned down certain women it's because he sense and he realized this woman ain't gonna be with that foolishness this woman here if I step on line she gonna check me this woman here she's gonna be woman enough to leave me this woman here I can marry her we can have a home together we can have kids together all of that but when I cheat on her she taking half she up out of there a lot of times a man will pass on a woman like that because he realizes that she is not gonna put up with his crown she is not gonna put up with the bull and so what happens is a woman will look at another woman and say well how did she get a man hi is she married you don't know what she signed up for you don't know what she did him with you don't know what that man putting her through so if you know that woman and you know that she's not classy and you know that she airs more on the side of trashy then classy but yet she got hung yet she got a man you could be he could be in there doing all kind of stuff to her and she's dealing with it she putting up with it and that's why he chose them because he know that he could lay on the couch play video games while she get up and go work 40 to 60 hours a week and she take care all the bills while he talking about he want to be a basement rapper he know that he knows that he could drive her car he could get into apartment or house on her name on her credit he knows that but see when it comes down to you he know that you're gonna require that a man man up that a man be a real man that a man is a grown man not a grown boy that a man has ambition that a man gets a job and keeps the job and if he lose the job he get another job the next day and that you gonna require that he talk to you with respect that he's thorough that he's faithful trustworthy honest you can communicate all of the above so when he sat down and he looked at you and he felt your energy he felt your vibe well he had a date with you or y'all talked for three months six months a year and then he sabotage the relationship you were not rejected he realized that you were on another level that he just cannot get on he's not ready to be on that level that's totally different see if you didn't cheat on the person and do them bad and they move on what they like they move on from you that's not rejection that's not that's not rejection now see what if you cheated on them and they have a reason to leave now that's rejection they rejecting you because you a cheater because you a liar because you're controlling now you being rejected because you immature and you not only level but when you've done nothing wrong to hurt this person to dog them out mistreating them and they leave that is not rejection so you got to reframe your mind you got to look at this thing differently it's essentially them saying listen I can't handle all that you bring to the table I don't have room in my life to fit you in my life because you command so much authority and so much space in the heart that I can't bear to be with you I need somebody who gonna be a little less I need somebody who gonna put up with more have a little less self-esteem a little less self-respect a little less dignity that's when that's what's happening when a lot of times we say oh I've been rejected and and I hear it all the time for women me and of course not and not really going to talk about it and a lot of times when a man you know gets rejected he more so may understand why it's because he lied because he cheated you know because he did something and a woman finds a strength to walk away and sometimes it may be because he feels like he's unattractive to her and she wants a man that's more attractive or taller or something like that but even in that case that man has to understand that's not rejection because that woman would have been who has those type of standards and stipulations oh you need to look like this for me you need to have this height if she would have got with him she would have been savage Hardy with him she would have treated him in a way that would have been unbecoming and it would have broke him down even more and turning him into a monster for her and the same thing what a woman has to realize a man may have a preference and he says okay like on the question I got on the live Q&A the person asks you know I said hey my friend is dark-skinned but the man she liked liked women that's light-skinned and now that was the question and so and she feels rejected because of that and I say you know if a man has a preference that is based on skin complexion inside of the same race or what have you then that man is so lost and immature that that woman was actually just protected from idiot so when who's who says I won't like skin instead of dark skin now if he said I want to be with a black woman instead of a white woman and he is a black man then he could be thinking about societal issues like I don't want my children to be called names or to have to deal with a different type that type of racism or I don't want you know the social implications that come with the ramifications from society but if you're talking about inside the same race or ethnicity or what-have-you and he says I want a light skin instead of a dark skin that is a preference and that is stupid because that does not make a person how they're born they don't get to choose that so it don't make a person even when outside of a race that doesn't make a person now it could be other you know implications so if there is a difference if you date outside of your race you can get some discrimination and some treatment that you will not get if you're dating in your race but you're dating a dark-skinned woman instead of a light-skinned woman or a light-skinned woman instead of a dark-skinned woman you're not gonna be mistreated based on think about this you know the Ku Klux Klan they're not mad at you if you black if you a black man and your wife is a darker skinned black woman or if your wife is a light-skinned black woman the Ku Klux Klan ain't mad at you about that now you go get as a black man and you get your white woman now the supremacist and all that not I got a different issue with the both of y'all you see what I mean so when a man has a preference that is baseless that is senseless that has no ramifications and he's just choosing off of a preference that is because when he looks in the mirror he doesn't like his color he when he looks in the mirror he doesn't like his race he don't like his own skin color and he has been programmed to believe that this particular skin color inside of this race is less than but less attractive then that's when he is a victim of that societal programming and that's when he when he accepts that mindset he is ignorant he is immature so to be passed up on by man because he says oh I want a woman who was this weight instead of that weight I want a woman who is this complexion instead of that complexion this height instead of that height he missing the whole point he lost and confused he's immature that man gonna take you through so much if you did end up with them he'll take you through so much drama in pain you would a wish you wish you would never matter so so you got to understand what you sitting in you take as rejection saying oh I'm not you know fit enough I'm not light enough I'm not dark enough I'm not tall enough I'm not short enough I'm not successful enough you taking that as rejection and not realizing that you actually just dodged a bullet that you actually just dodged someone who would have been if an addictive controlling dominating domineering manipulative all of those things because of their ignorant mindset they're looking for a toy they're not looking for you know the prize they're not looking for the person that's gonna love them and hold them accountable they're looking for a toy that's why they wanted the look the want the person to look a certain way and be a certain way and they put so much emphasis on that because they're looking for a trophy or arm piece a plate toy then they could do what they want to do with and that's what you have to realize and understand so look at every aspect like you know look at your relationship when somebody the past on you and I could remember you know being out there in the dating field and seeing certain women you know I'm 510 so it's certain women they want six foot of taller but guess what if a woman has a requirement of six foot of taller then she's small-minded because a 510 man a fine man five eight men could love you down below if you like to treat you like a queen hiked on mountain you lay down y'all saying height you still could make baby still could raise kids so a woman who has a height requirement she's small-minded she thinking about a preference that has nothing to do with anything so a man that six six and and the woman five three five eight five nine okay he could look down on you and guess what he also can do because he get mo angle he got more angle on you yeah that's what he could do to guess what he also could do it's so many small-minded women that it's thinking well he gotta be six foot or taller so guess what that mean those men have the pick of the litter they could have as many women as they want to so wow that woman is chasing a preference guess what she running to she running to damage she running to look double she running to a man who could have any woman he wants to so guess what he does he juggle it all so you ask a lot of the women who had a preference oh I wanted man six for the total nine out of ten Owen got cheated on about old men today was chasing oh I want a man who makes six figures or more nine out of ten on got cheated on because they were chasing a preference instead of looking at character instead of realizing that this 510 man look hot on fire ten look how I treat my wife my wife five eight so when she put on heels he 511 512 yeah I know at six foot 512 you hit mean go put her arm on my shoulder could put her or caress her arm she look at the top of my scalp see with my hat thinning that and but guess what she all right she fine with it she still put her heels on and and I used to as I said man you know I know you got a problem with me being shorter than you cuz I felt insecure about it because always hearing women calling a 510 man short who you short and the woman to be five three so I'm looking down at latency time I owe you short and so that started to make a man insecure and so I used to so yeah and it's a lot of women who say oh well I just don't want a man that's shorter than me or a man that's not six-foot cuz man might not even be shorter I'm not shorter than my wife and told him away but some women want a man that's X amount of inches taller than them and because they say that represents security I don't even feel right being taller than a man I don't feel secure I feel like if we get into a fight out in public I gotta fight for him and listen to that you know listen to that yes sir does is one of the most ignorant things you ever heard because you know you look at Floyd Mayweather greatest boxer one of the great boss elderly man five eight you look at Bruce Lee good man look like he probably five eight I'm the greatest martial arts fighters in the world so what you think Bruce Lee gonna do to your six bar boyfriend so you can't judge a man by that by his height you can't judge a man by his money because you chasing money you won't six figures but then he treats you like a dog he treats you like a prostitute off the street because he got nine other women just like you they wanted the same thing a man with six feet so guess what he gonna take all y'all he got to pick up a little but if you got that man who he honest and he's faithful to his job he he but he got ambition he got character then guess what he making thirty thousand cuz he's a schoolteacher but he working he's still working he got dreams of being principally gonna be making 120,000 get and you pass up on him because he's making thirty thirty five thousand and did him five ten years later you hurting and crying broke busted and disgusted looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him and the man that you passed up on because he went making the money you wanted him to make not making six figures but the man that you went and got your six figure man been beating on you and cheating on you since the day you got with him now you're walking around looking like a raccoon and going through and stressing and crying and you know your eye so dark up under there cuz you're crying all night you can hardly sleep so nine and then you look at the man that you passed up the man with character that man with ambition guess what not Heda made it not even made now he debated I remember being in high school ninth grade and I remember you know one this girl trying to date this girl but she wanted her thing was older me she wanted older me she end up cheating and dealing with the older man older guys I remember the older guy I went over to guy house one time older guy who was sleeping with her gave me a picture of my girlfriend a hero a pitch that your girlfriend I know that she girlfriend he was doing that real out of disrespect by a he go on ahead her I know did anything what I hadn't slept with I probably still was a virgin and I'm great at that time and that's what she wanted she wanted older man guess what her life ended up taking off she'd known getting cheated on getting beat on getting used she ended up on drugs and stripping end up on drugs and stripping the older men that she wanted older guys ended up in prison and not look at me today and the way I treat my wife and the man that she got and earning in the life that we have the peace blessings love prosperity look at that now you see what I'm saying so not every single woman that looked at me and said oh he too short oh he might say may each I want a man five years older me ten years older me every woman that had that attitude not what happened not worried at what they doing you see I'm saying so that wasn't rejection that one rejection that was protection because what God was saying listen this one right here to have these ridiculous preferences inside of that woman is a drug addict and a stripper that's not what I have for you now okay we judge uh-huh with drug and in stripping that's her life meaning judging but that ain't what I got for you my son because I'm gonna use you in a mighty way I'm gonna use you in a mighty way so I need you to open your mind stop chasing women that don't want you stop chasing women that got all these height requirements and money requirements complexion requirements body type requirements stop chasing women who so focused on me only preferences and you got to see a woman the way I see her look at her heart is she kind is she honest is she faithful is she trustworthy is she diligent is she ambitious and and understand this son she might not have every look humped and bump you won't on okay her Buddha might not be the size you want it to be her stomach might not be as flat as you want it to be she might not be the exact height you would prefer her to be but look at her heart judge hurd away I judge her by her heart because I'm her father God I don't care what her complexion is I don't care what her Heidi is I don't care what her weight is I don't care what her in come here I'm looking at her heart so if you asking me for your wife if you asking me for your husband you got to look at them by their heart because if you asking me for your husband or your wife but you judging them the way man judges them the way human judges them then you're gonna miss who I have for you because I'm not judging them based on height and weight in income I'm judging them based on their heart because I could see their future that's what God saying I could see where they'd gone so my wife could have said hey i'm 5-8 you fire 10 anything on work hey I'm a biomedical science majors I'm going on to touch hundreds of caves you're you're a criminal justice major you're gonna be you're gonna be lucky if you make 60 cake this ain't gonna work she could have said that my wife could've said hey I'm lighter complected you know you daughter you darker complected this ain't gonna work I could've looked at my wife and said hey I'm from the south you know you ain't got a booty that you know the women I'm used to having this ain't gonna work I could have said hey on fire ten you five eight when you put on heels you're gonna be an inch taller than me this ain't gonna work I could have said hey I'm darker complected you lighter complected this ain't gonna work but we looked at the heart we looked at the heart and now guess what there was there was me and I'm sure who looked at my wife and said oh my stomach ain't flat as I wanted to be her booty ain't big as I want it to be all this ain't this ain't this ain't good her eyes ain't color I wanted to be there was stupid man with stupid preferences who passed up on the Queen there was stupid women with stupid preferences who passed up on the King but because we came together we saw each other so that's what you got to realize don't worry about who passing up on you just be focused on who gonna see you be focused on who sees you and make sure when you meet somebody who sees you that you see them make don't cheat don't what happens is you get quote-unquote rejected as you call really you've been protected but we're gonna say reject because you calling it rejected you get rejected and then you have the nerve the audacity to meet somebody else and then reject them for the very reason you were rejected so you get rejected and I'm gonna tell you I be honest with you today you know grown boys and I it's d grown boys they stay single if so many grown boys and I don't use that as a disrespectful term what I mean is that they just in with the adult but they immature in their mind they think like a boy like a teenage boy because they don't understand what a wife is they don't understand what makes up a wife so the e grown boys out here I literally ain't nothin talk to him and they would literally say well yeah I'm looking for my wife but she gotta be like a you know exotic look and she gotta have long black hair and so her skin has to kind of be like that in between all of I call the olive you know and she she has to like racially ambiguous and the way you know she Hispanic you don't know she black and white you don't know if she mix with other stuff you name in in black and Mexican you don't know what she'll and cuz she'd be anything with that color and she gotta have long black hair and I really her stomach has to be flat all the way flat nice round but she needs to be between the heights of five six and five nine and guys literally and her eyes need to be green and she need to have an accent and a foreign accent like European or something I literally hear God say that hey she gotta be like five six and she gotta be light-skinned woman whether that's Hispanic or light-skinned black woman or mixed woman she gotta have long hair you know I needed to be built like a star volleyball player you know that but them kind of dies flashed on me and it's literally and that's literally what they looking for so guess what they end up single because when they meet that woman they realized this woman might be annoying this woman might be ignorant this woman might have her own set of standards because she been you know look back for her body and her looks her whole life they didn't turn her into a savage because she realized that's all me and seeing her so she's like if y'all gonna judge me by my looks I'm a judge out by your looks and y'all hiding your money what can you do for me you think I'm sayin so it's kind of like this and that's what a lot of people don't understand you will you look out here you could look in the celebrity world you can look in the celebrity world where you'll see grown men grown boys and they want this type of woman that's light-skinned green eyes long hair the certain type of look but that woman because she know that's how she looked and she know that's what men want from her she got her requirement and her main thing might be money her main thing might be money like look I don't care how early he is I don't care how big his lip sells I don't care how deep their mustaches with them big lips I don't care if he got fake teeth dentures do he does he make tens of millions if you make tens of millions okay cool we'll do it and you know my level looks wide but he make tens a million what she might be like okay I look like this right here this man want me because I look like this right here I need him to have millions of dollars on care if he five foot four on keV he the same color if he looked like 12:01 a.m. midnight o'clock on keV that's his skin skin tone I don't care if he not funny does he got money he ain't got to be funny if he got money and that's what she look at and so guess what he had his ignorant preferences she had her ignorant preference so so then guess what they get together and they are disaster made in you hit me and it's a it's a disaster waiting to happen next thing you know you hearing by cheating you hear about these scandals you hear about this you hear about that you're hearing about all this going on and the reason why is because they chose based on just their preferences so understand that this video of multiple videos in one there's a lesson on preferences and standards this lesson on how to pick your partner but in it's also a lesson on dealing with rejection so you just have to reframe your mind you got to look at it in a different way you got to shift your perspective and you got to look and you got to realize I was not rejected I was protected because if I would have got what I thought I wanted it would have been a disaster and that's oftentimes what happens when people chase after what they want instead of what they need you need to be praying for what you need not for what you want and when you get what you need then you're gonna appreciate and you don't start to want what you got when you get what you need you're gonna fall in love cuz your needs are met and then you're gonna appreciate what you got because everybody gonna make everybody who done got in relationship a healthy and happy relationship made some concessions they had to compromise some of their preferences 99% of the time they had to compromise some of their preferences but that is growth that is maturity because preferences do not your preferences those things don't define a person yeah it might be cute yeah it might be nice but well you got to look at the root of it who told you that was good who told you that was nice that's what society did so but society and got to living your house society don't care nothin bout you getting the voice society don't care nothing by you getting beat on cheated on and disrespects guy don't care no about that so they chose what you're looking for your preferences they chose that look to go in a movie cuz that's entertainment that's Hollywood that's faith that's a character in a movie that's so that's a model in a magazine that's not a mate for life that character don't come to life you see what I'm saying and so we start to look at a certain heights weight shapes and incomes because we see that praised and promoted online and in the media and the movies and the magazines and so we become attracted to that but that's not that's a character that's the image that's a celebrity that's that's amused that's not somebody for you to marry because that person in real life is different than what you see in the movies in the magazines and I remember and I remember with coach one of my celebrity clients and I've been a celebrity coach since 2010 now so it been a decade that I've been dealing on that other side of the that in that in that world it's a different world but I remember coaching one of my celebrity clients and she said Tony you know man love the idea of me the fantasy of me but then they can't handle the reality of me so they see me from the magazines and the movies in the TV screens but then when they get with me a real person in real life I'm a real person I'm a real woman that do real things and that's different than their fantasy and I'm like wow and that's and that's why so many relationships break down that's why so many relationships don't have a real connection because you choose your preferences based off of the media and the music and the movies you choose your preferences based off of that because that is shown to you as this is attractive this is successful this is where you need to be this is what you want so you choose your preferences based off of that not realizing that you trying to dictate your reality based off of a fantasy you trying to dictate real life Bay stall for fiction Nessie art imitates life life should not imitate art so that art that movie that magazine all of this right here that you see tall dark and handsome or you know slim is sexy whatever it bakes maybe that's art that's the movies that's the models that's the magazines that's the music videos that's art you should not try to write rewrite your life based on the art that you watching listen to it think about it get down to it get down to it who come up with your preferences who come up with your preferences when I'm coming up I was young certain type of booty certain shape of a booty if a woman got a flat back it almost makes me throw up in the mouth but then I had to realize whether this shape of the Buddha come from that that make me like that it's because looked up to the rappers I looked up to the rappers dold were the cool guys with the swag rappers have videos videos had big booty video vixen in bathing suits Menelik with drill so they they praised the big buddha that cook so as the rest of the world the rest of the men that wanna be that man because he got all the money he got all the girls they get in our head this you can't do that what you wanna then they started the rapper started taking the racially ambiguous women they went use you know no no sister with this hair color that this hip color they start taking a woman that you don't know if she Hispanic she whatever so then a lot of men started looking at that and saying okay if that's what the rapper with the Bentley in the mosque right in the all this he'll rolls-royce if that's what he got that's what I want so real ain't even Amanda man is not racist or anything like that he's just looking up to who he wanna be and that's what's getting the love in the music videos and and that's what's getting the love in the movies you remember like Denzel and um what's her name rosie old Arsenal rosie old Perez or Paula Patton you got Paula Patton Rosie yo somebody you got JLo P did it made JLo so then look right there okay so when you look at these movies you had to start roll but then you had this woman who may be racially ambiguous now Hollywood did it because they say listen because she is color the Asians the Asians who could be you know prejudiced sometimes to ward darker skin people just like what we see they doing in China right now putting signs up on the wall saying black people can't come in so because the agent can be prejudiced because his Spanish could be prejudiced because blacks could be prejudiced because White's gonna be President let's get this look of a woman who you don't know if she have white you don't know if she Hispanic you don't know if she have Asian racially ambiguous so they started bringing in a man now if it certain role they want you to play a light-skinned black woman think I'll play a light-skinned black woman certain role they want you to play a Hispanic woman to have her play a Hispanic one certain role they want you to play a half asian woman they can have a plan half asian woman you should I mean but they started to do that so man saying this is the star role so then they like okay that's what I want then a woman she watching she's looking at the TV and they the camera angle make everybody look tall so all the men essentially looked six to 264 when in real life they might be five six two five ten so women start saying I want a tall man then you look at who got the most money who got the most clap who world renowned Michael Jordan world renowned six foot six she world-renowned seven foot seven flat one LeBron James world-renowned six foot eight Kevin Durant world-renowned six foot ten six foot eleven God rest his soul Kobe Bryant we're all right now six foot six so you see what I mean so women starting to see this and then they start to see okay tall then they start to see money so when you look at your preferences what you're gonna realize is that your preferences is rooted your preferences is rooted in what you saw on the music and television that's not a biological preference that's not a biological preference now yes we could try to say this all this and y'all which all whatever words I'll be using hedonism no hybrid gammy which is basically hedonism I only know I need one of them me but it's foolish just what I'm trying to say so that but that's not biological and then some people oh you know women always pursue the most powerful man the most it wasn't that a woman just gonna pursue the most powerful man it's that she saw the man with the power got the money and got to say so and not what she attracted to him but the man with no money and no societal power no political power no status in the community to break down and fold that man who got older who got the power in the money could protect you way more and then with that woman's support that man could go on and produce to be the greatest and that's what a lot of times we don't realize lot of time we don't realize and we knock dating potential we've not dating potential and people and see this the thing we based our life based on for me so somebody saying dating potential guess what if a person on got potential then what you what is you dating what is you dating if somebody ready-made and they don't need you you need to be dating potential but what you got to understand is what potential means you got to understand what potential means see potential will produce it's not potential if a person got some in them but name about it they don't have work ethic they don't have ambition they're not trying to be better that's not that's not potential people talking people say I owned a potential and they talking about somebody who will not work won't stop cheating won't grow up won't mature that's not potential they'd already chose to be sorry see potentially somebody who they got character they got class they got ambition but they just may not be where they want to be they may be only wait he may be the schoolteacher but he want to be the principal but he doing everything he's not going out getting drunk getting DUI he's studying he working he getting his mouse is gonna get his doctorate he want to be the principal he has potential ain't nothing wrong with dating potential if potential is producing see if potential is not producing then it's no longer potential understand that not understand it I went over that went over that might win over somebody here you got to rewind you gotta understand gon stop basing your life off of memes and movies stop basing your decision that you're making in life offer memes and movies and then calling it your philosophy calling the philosophy and calling it biological biological biology calling it oh this been in since the beginning of time you wait where'd you read that in a book you read that in a book that told you that's the natural selection of humans that's the natural selection in the animal kingdom you read that in a book you don't know that you live doctor you weren't in Jungle Book you live out there with the animals you don't know how they select you watching National Geographic and then Karen was telling you a story you don't know why that female lion chose the male lion you don't know what they did but you're going off based on what you read so then you come in your life and say hey this even happening in an animal king the woman the female animal trying to choose the most powerful most successful male animals so this natural I'm a mammal and I'm a human so I want to choose the most successful man that I could choose that's ignorant so on inside on either side if you're a man or if you're a woman if you have been rejected as y'all will call it by someone don't lose no sleep change your mindset change your perspective and say you know what I was not rejected I was just redirected and protected and I'm glad that that person didn't choose me because they don't deserve me and that's basically what they were telling me that they too ignorant to see my value or they don't have a capacity to deal with my value they table ain't big enough for me to sit at a table because they too small-minded too trivial to petty you have them saying you got to change your mindset now because when you understand it's not this when you write and you doing right this when you're a good person good-hearted treat people with respect and you doing right it's rejection when somebody leaves you because you ignorant you rule you nasty you're a liar you're a cheater that's when you get rid of rejection when you're not a good person and somebody leave you because you're not a good person when somebody leaves you because of one of their preferences that's not rejection so a I hope that makes sense to you I try to say it a million different ways of world look you people find when I'm so Toni yeah what you were saying about the animal kingdom then actually is true in animal kingdom according to National Geographic and the study of such and such and it's like listen the video not about that okay the video about rejection oh yeah Tony what you were saying about scoliosis in the back listen the video not about that okay hey I begin some of the crazy and then some people is going to my website to email me they argument so yeah right here at minute 17:08 you said it's like if you won't get out my emboss with in foolishness and take your butts on well and get the meaning of the message I said Wow a so for y'all who listen and try to understand and try to you know true to me spit out the bones get was for you was not for you let it go thank you so much thank you you just don't understand how much you are appreciated I appreciate you cuz your contemporaries adversaries or whatever they may be who be trying to hurt my nerve a lady when I was telling my video where I say grown boys looking for Oh son that REM money and the reason why I said REM money because when you come from the hood all lot of women they go if they want to make it and be successful they trying to be a re n so you be a CNA and you build LPN and you try to be a RN so grown boys have heard are in so grown boys going for the RN because they didn't hurt like a grown boy thing oh that's the pinnacle a grown boy don't know what a nurse practitioner is a grown boy don't know what a physician's assistant is not a grown boy from from where I'm from now I grown boy I've done it come from another area he knows what that is and that's what he's looking for he's looking for or he's looking for the surgeon he's looking for the dog so it was so men and women got butthurt because they are LPN and I say a grown boy looking for are in money not LPN money a LPN want to keep working nine he want to are in clearly sarcasm clearly a joke but because we sensitive because we live in the age of outrage now all the RS found it funny they probably would have been mad if there was an LPN all the LPNs emailing me oh oh you know what do not respect you talking about LPN when it should have been you should have been happy to be like yes wrong but looking for RN good congratulations I might stay a LPN a little longer I might get LPN the rest of my life then it's and then LPN want to flex a paycheck I make $50 an hour it's like really are you competing for the attention of the grown boy I'm saying the grown boy going after are in for her money and her money only and you mad that you were LPN and you not seen as enough money for the grown boy listen to yourself that's what you got hung up on that's what you got hung up on how they say don't miss the forest for the trees it's like come on man y'all come on nine come on that well you see somebody out here with a heart of service trying to get a game and you let the devil get in you that's what you got to understand the attack other enemy see when you get this a message in your spirit it's gonna break chains it's gonna break chains in your life it's gonna set you free so you got to understand the attack of the enemy what the enemy want to do is get you hung up on one thing that did not mean nothing so that you can miss the rest of the message and then get you so burned up in your spirit that you're going and emailing in body so you didn't took mo time macho day when you could have been going from being an LPN to RN with the time that you spent to send an email with the time that you sent to get in the comments you could have been studying for that next test you want to take okay cuz I know young you don't want to be complacent I know you want to keep climbing up climbing a ladder I know lady who was a RN and she went on to be a nurse practitioner and you know furs and into a physician's assistant or what have you went from the 40 60 80 of LPN no over RN climb to the top of that and then went on up physician's assistant or nurse practitioner wonder and now I'm making well over 100 move to a prestigious hospital so why you why are you sending the email outraged about a joke you could have been studying you see I'm saying don't let one thing that step on your toes that step on your toe make you miss the whole message not had to address that and hit use the rest of my little time so some of y'all on a certain select people gonna get to this point and I ironically the people who looking to critique watch more the video then the people who bully agree that the people who fully agree they get what they getting Mike gone by they bidding the people who looking for took her teeth and that's just a sad world we live in and that's what a lot of times y'all don't understand about creators and when you are trying to serve and you're trying to give the devil don't send so many people the devil don't sent so many people to try to nitpick and try to attack you verbally and try to cause rifts and cause confusion and try to be Petty and try to you know make an issue out of nothing because some step on their toes because something offended you know he's gonna send so many people like that because with each person is it's draining it's draining and then with the audience the audience says I'll pay it no mind but you ain't got to deal with it oh don't ignore the haters don't address haters don't address it but you ain't got to deal with it so it's easy to say in the comment what not do when you don't have a platform when you haven't tried to build a platform and you don't know what it's like to be given from your heart and then to be attacked over petty nonsense so an easier to say ignore the haters people always say that but I respect the people that speak on it and that's why I speak on it because when you speak on it you releasing it and you letting them know hey I see you ain't scared of you ain't changing I'm finna do me you're gonna get this work over and over and over you're gonna get this work so I'm here so when people say don't address it essentially what you're telling that person is to internalize it so now when they internalize it it eats them up and it corrodes they spirit no I'm a call that I Satan get thee behind me like Jesus dear to you could have just listened to what Peter said or whoever that was and just internalize just swallowed it oh yeah you know he right I really I really don't have to do this I really don't have to go give my life for the people you know he got a point Jesus could've did that but he said Satan get thee behind me he called it out so me I'm calling it out I'm called it up give me i'ma call I'm gonna call it out until you stop me in petty stop being Petty and getting a message stop trying to people get so focused looking for the mistake that they miss the whole message that's the world we live in and we live in the age outrage miss the whole message looking for mistake looking for somewhere you can ratite looking for something to get offended by because you don't want to get this truth but you don't want to get this word you're looking for something to get offended by oh well I am a 5-10 woman so I need a 6 6 man because I'm 510 no you don't know you don't what is his height don't do for you is that gonna is his height don't love you it's his height going pregnant you is his height gonna be a good father is his height gonna provide no he's hiding got nothing to do with him as a man you have a fire two men and still hello still reproduce still have a good father still have a good husband hiding got nothing to do with it that's your preference point-blank period point-blank period I don't care if you seven foot point-blank period that's your preference that he'll what it is see we look for stuff to get offended by because the truth hurt cut the truth hurt so the LPNs that got upset it's because that made them feel inadequate that the grown boy want to are in so now it's a nightlight once again I'm inadequate even a grown boy doesn't want me he wants to are in for her money so that's how she felt so then she wanna lash out you know what I do not respect you for attacking LP and do not attack the opinions we aren't the only ones out here doing the work we are in here sweating we are taking care of these Kobe patients we are doing all the work we deserve more praise we deserve to be desired by the Rome boy do not look down on us because a grown boy wants an RN and not us and I'm like now ma'am that was one sentence out of 1000 sentences in a 60-minute video and that's what you got hung up on you got to learn how to laugh at yourself so see when you get into the right place in your heart when somebody coming with a pure heart and they say something you are not looking for it to offend you because you know the messenger because you know where it's coming from because you able to say well I know the person ain't trying to hurt me or be disrespectful because of what they do and how much they give so let me understand what does it mean so then when your heart is in the right place then you gonna be like eh okay all right you wanna already go right ahead on the air pH my bill paid I'm Blaine trying to come over here and live off of me go ahead hey our instance the 80 congratulations with your old boy a grown man gonna see my value whoo you see what I'm saying when your heart in the right place you could laugh at yourself but when you still operating from pain when you still operating from bitterness when you still operating from your own set of preferences when you still operating from immaturity oh my goodness note that he did not just disrespect LPNs and the hard work that we do and the sacrifices we make in this situation but his pandemic and all the work that we're doing and he wants to praise our ends oh my goodness you said I'm saying come online you gotta check yourself you got to check yourself you got to get over yourself you got to get past that you got to stop taking offense to everything and anybody even talking to you about you you don't tell you cuz when you operating like that you're gonna be blocking your blessings you're gonna be blocking your blessing and I see me it's different because you come to me bringing to my doorstep see ain't when I said that ain't say your name ain't talking about you what you bringing to my doorstep to my comments to my email so now you can win actual way to get offended and then try to bring some correction - sarcasm - something had nothing to do with you and y'all think about this not holistically this video here touched on a lot today touched on a lot today if you got at this point put in the comment be blessed I made it I just want to know who just the three fold people that's getting a full of message cuz on if he enough people getting not here to this point I'm gonna start doing seven minute video ten minute video save me some time hey this Tony gasps and God bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 59min 45sec (3585 seconds)

Published: Tue May 19 2020