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you too Tony Gaskins here let me make sure my internet is working a little slow on my yeah you know hold on real quick let me get this together didn't know if I was gonna come on here tonight just because I'm you know wasn't feeling all that looked tired let my wife working out yesterday and today and that was a mistake because she you know she thinks she a personal trainer she used to actually be a look trainer but um that'll work my earlier today and I'm still tired so I wasn't gonna make it on here but I need to do a bonus live cuz I didn't do one yesterday I normally do some on Wednesdays so won't do a bonus live everybody thank you all for making it in I'm a Tish one of the moderators okay y'all okay I'm glad you made it you've been missing okay somebody say tester what is that oh mama Tish in there alright it we got our first question we finna get going hey thank you for getting the woman's influence I appreciate that I'm often told I'm too independent is there such a thing and can it push a man away yeah there is such a thing and yes it can't push a man away and what I mean by that is in the sense of I had a client years ago tell me a story about going with a man of her dreams and they went to a store and she bought a vacuum cleaner and she bought a CD you know that you put in to play music and she checked out she paid for after she paid for it she grabbed the vacuum cleaner I mean she grabbed a CD no she grabbed the vacuum cleaner and get a man the CD and it just upset him he was so hurt so upset about that hey Tony how long do you think it will take to become a successful life coach oh it took me by 4 years but it was a different date we didn't have all the social media that we have now coaches at the level that I met I've been doing it 13 years so coaches at the level that I met just coaching alone may make anywhere from 15 to 30 thousand a month it ranges so it is a full-time living if you stick with it and you continue to build some coaches what make way more just because they charge a whole lot more and they do a lot more sessions me I only do two sessions a day two to four sessions a day and my feet my fee is half of what my market value is so I could earn more but I rather do do it the way I'm doing it a cool god bless you thank you Tony god bless thank you bless you bless you actually Beverly god bless you thank you do you think it would be a good idea to possibly move to a new location to have a better dating pool I'm 26 years old you young enough to move you're young enough to move it don't necessarily guarantee relationship success so you I wouldn't make that the only reason you move if it's other if it's better job opportunities by the city that make more sense I wouldn't move just to meet have a better dating pool but you're young enough to move cuz shake god bless you why do some men leave their child's mother after they have a baby together only for them to try to be with the child mother while they have a girlfriend what it really means is that he really doesn't want the responsibility the day-to-day responsibility of being a father and really doesn't want that woman as his main woman he really wasn't ready to settle down but he was doing the things that a settled down person does and you know it it backfire and then he want to go and find the woman that he really wants want to keep the baby mama on the roster so that she maybe won't put him on child support so it's kind of just you know a game some men play now y'all make sure y'all put that hashtag Q in front of your question how do you politely turn down friends and associates when they ask for free coaching sessions on to be honest with you if you're a new coach I wouldn't turn them down you know our coach I would have one or two people that you coaching for free just so that you can you know be building LaToya god bless you thanks for that blessing Latoya just so that you could bill it'll it'll help you actually so it's people that I get on the phone still today you know and I've been coaching professionally since 2007 so 13 years in it's people that I still coach for free today you know just get on fine just no more I met up some kind of way you know and so it keep you sharp and it's also like paying your ties it's like giving back so for the coaches that you coach for the people you coach for free that may end up blessing you with five clients you know hey Tony is toxic relationships a coaching niche um you could just put relationships and it's kind of understood that a person coming to you because something is off in their relationship so you could just select relationships on on my mentor got life when you sign up you can just select relationships or love you know but yes it is a lane but you don't have to necessarily call it that verónica god bless you during this quarantine I've decided to cut out my soul time time to let God restore my soul and not go back Thank You Tommy hey bless you bless you bless you can you add college students has a topic on my mentor if it's not like oh I sent an email in to in photo at my mentor dot life and I'll let the developer know and he'll shoot me an email and I let him know that's cool cuz I probably forget black diamond god bless you what Tony what does it mean when a man that you have been avoiding text your phone says he's reaching out because he has a peace offering it could mean anything but it sounded like to me he just saying he wants to have closure and he wants to just kind of say his last piece speak his last piece and maybe offer just to be friends it more so sound like he won't be friends with benefits but you never know Sarek our pleasure thoughts on a these differences I'm talking to a man 12 years older I'm 26 he's 38 I'm a single mom and he has no kids I don't recommend it that's definitely a big gamble I don't recommend anything over 10 years older than you really five years is the sweet spot so with 12 years what you running to is a man who think he your daddy and think he want he could rephrase you and think you don't know nothing cuz you sold young you like a baby to him and then also gonna want to be daddy to your child and want to do things his way Keshawn god bless you Tony what does it really mean when a man says if I can't have you no one will it really mean what it sound like how can no one else have you what do what do that mean okay that's what it means so what that means when you hear that you need to be leaving for five minutes later you need to be gone cuz you stay there and you play with that you're gonna make that that'll be a self-fulfilling prophecy that'll be the last thing he say to me he follows you hey Tony I have a guy friend he has stated he is not ready for a relationship I realized he shot his shot but I didn't take the bait should I stop talking to them all together yes you should stop talking to him all together if you want a relationship if you want a relationship never deal with a guy who says he's not ready for a relationship because what's gonna happen you're gonna end up friends with benefits so I wouldn't I wouldn't deal with that does a man have to be financially stable before marriage that seems to be a thing in today's time excuse men who are 35 and older um it's an excuse that Bianca's his excuse it's something man say to buy time because truthfully a man who wants marriage he wants to really build his financial life with a woman he wants to know that you're gonna be there on while he's on the ground while he's building he's pursuing so if he already got it then you really don't he really only general then that should you get an LLC before you coach or get the course before well you definitely I would take the course first not Debra I'll take the course now the last day is the day of the last day to get the course with the coupon cold at the rate that is that it's still gonna be available next month but it's just gonna be worth less so and it's a surprise what it's worth so don't y'all tell nobody for those y'all who already signed up because it might be the change so don't tell nobody was work but make sure you enter the coupon code my mentor what's the difference between dating gathering data and courtship well dating like what you say you just kind of talking y'all was just friends you just going on a date when when you start courting it's very similar but now it's really the man saying I'm interested in you I want to be with you and he starts leading with love my friend is separated from his wife he's 37 and the wife is 21 she wants to get back together but moved to Georgia he left because she's immature and bad with money do you think he should try again nope that's exactly the problem right there that's what happened a lot of time when you dealing with somebody who in a whole another generation you know he old enough to be our daddy literally he's 16 years older than her a lot of me and star haven't had it for a child at 16 so he is married to a daughter and that's what he get you know sealed Milenio CI own she own tik-tok doing the revenge or the savage or the ravage or whatever they don't she I hear Instagram stories and twerking it's like that you know he dating his daughter I'll marry his daughter Ciara god bless you do you feel that women should be open with me about how many men they're dating opposed to making a man feel like he's the only one you're dating no don't ever tell a man how many men you date don't ever tell a man how many men you date coming you tell him that it's all like it's all like war because now it's gonna be a competition he let you thank you the only woman you let him think he's the only man because again y'all just dating y'all not in a relationship so when y'all become exclusive and he said will you be my girlfriend and you cut off all of men at that point anyways i watch a video about making a man earn you is there hope to start the relationship over again if you realize that too much happened too soon and we broke up due to it I don't want to chase no let it go let it go going back to building Tony my daughter's boyfriend got her on the bike got her on the bike okay maybe you mean hurt her back nicey-nice all problem alien but I don't know if you mean real bike cuz you spelt like a bike okay alienating her from me what do I do he's making her think I'm not good for her life oh you weren't stepping that strong you guys definite strong you got to let her know show him my videos now when you say got her on the bike okay now one that you wanted the people that think when I say stay off your bike that think I'd be talking about a bicycle versus staying off your back we'll see when I say stay off your bite I'm saying BAC BAC K but uh if you saying bike like he riding off somewhere you know I get what you're saying but um yeah remember I told you I heard a pastor say alienation before or isolation before annihilation or isolationism violation um that's what he trying to do he getting them way up there so that she can't hear in it so nobody could hear her scream and you got to let her know that and be very real with her Oh Loretta god bless you I hit gold Lorenz I heart brother Tony where's the Chicago PD friend from cuz I'm feeling like he may live in my city but by way of somewhere else the guys here are savage and only want a woman to run and get on her back mmm-hmm oh it got I live in Florida I'm talking 208 I'll talk to him today ask him some question what we was talking about it is the way women portrayed a self online and we was talking about like a woman you know twerking to one of them nasty songs and I was asking him does that remove her from being wife Metiria if you see a woman twerking on her page to want to be nasty songs and he was he said he laughed about it he was like but he said let's put like this that's not an example I want my daughter to see and I see mm-hmm now while I was trying to tell my client today Kiara god bless you what in her life why when I was dealing with nonsense from this guy everyone was cheering me on to work it out I moved on God is blessing me with much better and now the friends left who was encouraging the nonsense why I'm hurt well that's show you that everybody don't want to see you happy everybody don't want to see you win and it's also God removing people out your life that need to be gone don't question that just thank God for that what's the coupon code the coupon code is my mentor and we have more people today that did not know how to apply the coupon code now y'all listen going YouTube and YouTube how to apply a coupon code oh my lord is it that hard I mean one lady went to the site went to the life coach certification page you got the hit by ok when you hit by bu Y then it goes to another page you'll final checkout page where you either log into your PayPal or you in a credit card information right there is where you click view account summary or you click have a coupon code the woman click buy again and then email in and say I didn't want the course I just was clicked I just will click and buy cuz I want to see what the coupon was worth so we say you wants to refine the difference no refund all of it ain't mean to do that I retire today I retired I'm finna take the course down I said what and this other thing Holly videos I do is you don't put a coupon code in you need to be right in and say hey mister guys that's a blessing you know all the videos you don't that's a blessing just to keep I made a mistake then put coupon code in a so some people will say look we'll add more courses to your account but I just I said Lord come on y'all ain't ever checked out online Darnell God blessed night I'm a new my mentor dot life coach and I'm thankful for the opportunity this platform is awesome time a god bless you Darnell a god bless you now y'all go look darn near that say darn it y'all go look at Darnell now on my mentor somebody book a session with Darnell it's down like a brother but I don't know if that's one cuz sometimes one name could be Darnell - now y'all go find Darnell Coco god bless you why do men good and bad swear by the bro code even when it's toxic like turning their heads when their friends are wrong it example cheating deadbeat ISM okay new or new word deadbeat ISM etcetera they never hold each other accountable that's the question right there other ages you hit me Coco that's a question write down if we could get the answer to that question if we could get the answer to that question we will that one else will create world peace you me but I honestly I just I don't get it you know I don't get it I don't get I feel like at some point a man I get tired of seeing your own kind like this another human this is a woman this is a part of the human race like these women are valuable to the reproduction of the world to the stability of the world to the growth in you know the health of the world of society you would think that you'll get to a point where you say we need the women and we need them to be healthy whole confident nurtured and blessed so that they can help us raise these children you would think man I think about that but for some reason it just it just don't click I don't know what it is now I miss somebody Hill Britney Moses I love your videos Thank You Britney god bless I learned a lot and get lots of laughs thank you for all the advice to us ladies a god bless you Black Diamond Tony I've come to the realization that we are making it too easy for me and we really have to apply pressure a you ain't telling no lie and you said it you said a mouthful listen to me Natasha's talk our blessing Natasha I'd be seeing your name huh god bless you just want to drop a blessing Jacqueline god bless you not what I know like hi Tony I'm 25 years old and a pastor's daughter okay I read a little excerpt from a woman's influence to my dad and he said you better listen to that man he knows what he's talking about I read the book twice a god blessing till real I said what's up and I tell real I said thank you for that a relative stump me tell real I said thank you Oh Sheila meal god bless you know what I'm like thank you for your last few videos on exes they were confirmation to what God dropped in my spirit be blessed and safe thank you thank you Tony my friend has a boyfriend my friend has a boyfriend has a male friend who contacts her and always talks down to her but it's really interested in her love life try to date it didn't work out what is his problem everything under the Sun everything under the Sun he just you know a mess he just saw he's still hurting from childhood that's all she need to run your friend ought to be smarter than that your friend ought to be smarting that Bob buy a bottle of baby powder and just in joy what to do with it she need to slap myself in the face with a handful of baby powder so and every birthday say little Mikey give you a bang a baby powder till you leave this sorry friend alone somebody slap Miss Candis question I don't know what Candis at now wavy black queen god bless you could you possibly do a video on men who have mommy issues who have been their mother emotional husbands let me see if I could remember that one I hate my look look car for write down these video topics [Applause] okay specimen y'all send a blessing with y'all see it later who send a blessing the other day I did her video the next day so that when y'all send that blessing with it then let me know y'all serious by that thing not somebody said I miss somebody question hey ty jones god bless you ty John god bless you now hold on now I wonder was that a payee question I miss because it feels far all they'd probably let it disappear I'll see you Tasha right now todd Jones god bless you I'll see you Brittany Coko yeah somebody's at MIT somebody question but I don't see nobody Candace okay I'll see Candace right here nah nah I told y'all when y'all come in with them amounts right there you to get you on the father though I don't know what to do y'all like that god bless you Candace is it a red flag if a guy keeps buying you things earlier in the courting phase like shoes and clothes we have been dating for a month you know what he might think a woman could be bald and to be honest which a lot of women can't be bought so you know I'll tell you that down so it ain't necessarily a red flag but you just got to make sure he won't start expecting something in return for what he doing you need God bless you how do you how do men feel about ghosting he cheated she's pregnant I just disappeared we were together for one year I feel like damage was done no need to talk yeah you probably don't like it but he expected probably don't like it but he expected you you did the right thing and talked about going about your business me baka god bless you know what in their life and what stays in a relationship do you make major changes example moving to a different state around the Year mark around that after the after you didn't win twelve twelve months is it's time to really start talking about that thing if y'all or if you get engaged and it feels strong now if you get engaged in you and a struggle engagement you got a struggle fiance stay where you at but if you got a blessed and bountiful and abundant and you happy fiance then that's when y'all could see hooking up and move and it should be the person with the least to lose who ain't really leaving that much behind in the city they end it only got it necessarily be the wanting move to the man the man could move you if the man got less to leave behind a one figures already married but separated one year I refuse to settle I feel a lot of his issues in our marriage stem from verbal damage from mother and father being absent consistent trying to get back home what to do what's he that's married so it's not dating so if there's only a second chance marriage is worthless second chance as long as it's not you know to Sears of that day that you're dealing with a Buse as long as it's not too serious then marriages work for second chance after I walked away he takes for not responding to your text you ignore my existence wanted to work something out but since we haven't been able to make it happen let's not stress it why only London fully understand that we're done now but just sounded like the ego hurt sound like his feelings hurt but you know it's not too deep how does the warmer prevent a just William situation how can a woman tell if she's to hold me down wife or supportive to her husband that's a good situation now now who's she asking by is the brother who got up at the BT Awards I think it was and gave his speech and he is a light-skinned brother for those who can't really picture him sometimes you remember a person face and I think he in Grey's Anatomy see somebody say who just wait I think he and Grey's Anatomy Oh somebody TV show and not his wife you know strong woman they went through a divorce and then he got in a new relationship with a new woman who you know looked totally different then his wife so it ain't like he had that was his tight so we can't really understand why he left his wife we don't know the behind the scenes okay but it's hard to tell when you that type of woman and a lot of time which I'll have to realize you kind of got to ask yourself you know is this your tight like the dis man like you and then you got to ask yourself what does he bring to the table what you bringing to the table so if you paying bills so he could chase his fantasy chase his dream you could very well be a hold me down and then when he get on his feet then he gonna leave you so you should never be bringing the table to the table and the man bringing a fork and an appetite if he worked he should be working just like you he should be making what you making or more or very close to it and he should be just as ambitious you shouldn't have to carry him so he could pursue his dreams and he living off your hard-earned income that's typically when you're holding down Fitness mom queens and curls question god bless you when a man that you are interested in and likes a lot of your pics on IG should i DM him await him wait on him don't ever approach a man way don't help don't ever approach a man he liking you so that you could see him and so that you know he's watching and I mean he just getting you ready and that he coming he gonna come in the deal or he may want to see if you're gonna DM him but if you didn't him then that mean you is loose booty 901 and he's gonna see you differently so he trying to see if you lose but if you wait he gonna DM you if he's available or he might be mu and be taking on so you got to be careful black diamond god bless you why do men continue to date knowing they aren't healed from their past and end up hurting the future woman vice versa men and women you know a lot of things don't make sense black down nothing don't make sense okay lot of things don't make sense but a man doing that the reason why I mandate when they hurt is because he using the next woman as his band-aid same thing with a woman I don't coach women who they break up with a man in the next week they're like Tony I need a boyfriend I'm like you ain't gonna give yourself time to heal you know you just got punched in the eye last week yeah I still got cut around it like give yourself some time to heal like had you read a book have you going to a seminar like I need a man i need a man and then man they're on the show to talk about it like that but they just go get the next woman and the next person is the band-aid now do you notice me and my wife was just talking about this on our date we had our date earlier today so I was able to do this at 9:00 got home 8:50 and let y'all know at 8:50 to our coming on live okay my wife when I was a date riding around the city you know in this Hill lockdown but we were just talking about I said ain't it something how he women get pregnant on the rebound you know how like Cassie left Diddy didn't that thing you know boom pregnant and that's on my lip rating right now that we just seen somebody up pregnant and just left for relationship not too long ago Oh Iggy Azalea Iggy Azalea was with the basketball player Nick Young and did not she having somebody baby I'm like boy y'all don't take no time door don't get right to the next and get hop right on the pole and get inseminated and ready to go so that's what happens a lot of people use the next situation as a rebound as a band-aid and end up getting caught up Tina Carson go up there's your hi Tony I'm a coach on my mentor I haven't booked my first client yet but I look forward to it I purchased your book a woman's influence thanks for being a blessing to me now somebody find Tina on my mentor dot life 9 and book T no session and God got your Tina thank you for getting the book and make sure you got a good head shot on there Tina you got to have a good head shot I see some people on there got pictures and they taking a selfie in the car you know some people picture blur you can't see their face so it's like ain't nobody gonna spend their hard-earned money if they can't look at you so make sure you got a good head shot and write three blog posts write three blog posts I'm special god bless you thank you brought in their life Mara God today on my wall we talked about the Bible it was a good conversation we exchanged numbers should I wait for him to contact me first is it okay to send him a link to a pastor I think he would like now that's an interesting night y'all using the Lord as an icebreaker now that's that's it now that's a little new to me okay the idea I'm not you really used to people using the Lord as an icebreaker that's a little new tenant but I will wait on the man to contact you wait on him to contact you cuz he could have been out there on the run and got a girlfriend at the house you know so you contacted him and she's looking at the phone like what's going on he got you in the phone is Bobby so we don't him the contact you and see if he's still talking about the Lord or if he's talking about you getting on your bike so you wait on him not way don't hear me don't get to don't hold back this hill talking about Lord not because a lot of men are talking about the Lord talk about the Bible just to drop your guards so don't get caught up trying to exchange Bible notes from Bible study and sending links to bypasses that man you trying to hear about that their main trying to hear about that so so don't don't don't get your feelings going oh yes I was on walking myth and admit the god-sent man let him bring up the Lord next time and then what you do is show him that you really walk with the Lord by keeping your legs closed deedy god bless you dated for eight months then got engaged had history a drinking problem he's willing to take counseling for drinking how long after improvement should we get married you will have to think on that or not you won't have to take your time on that do not rush that when you hit me do not rush that one because one thing when somebody got a vice-like that is you verse that vice and advice do something for him that you can't do for him so you got to be very careful with that make sure he get that counseling and then make sure he could go a good long period of time you know six months to 12 months clean sober and what I've been noticing what I've been hearing a lot of lately there's a lot of easy men getting women married they marry and in that first week of second week they showing it behind they showing it behind and the woman is feeling stuck because she just sent out all the invitations they right now in the midst of this here 19 you have to send out invitations for them to watch your own zone but women sending out invitation you didn't pay all this food you don't had all these dances so you did all of this everybody happy for you clapping for you you laughing at your haters who ain't married yet and then soon as they demand marry you he got you in there like this he'll and then you feeling stuck because you like wow I just told all my friends and family about this you know man how amazing he was and that's what me and doing the date night so be careful Jacqueline god bless you are you thinking of hosting a seminar in Houston Texas when this here ends any time in the future I would love to go god bless you on your family no Jackie I don't know if I'm gonna be going back out life the contrary to what y'all presidents and that the the people saying this thing gonna be round and it's gonna pop back up in the all so I'm being small groups my relationship seminar sometimes old have 300 400 700 people in them so with all this shaking hands and all that coughing somebody coughing out and then coughed at 19 and then I'm on the state inhaling I'm gonna be virtual I'm gonna be right here doing these right here so what I may do is do some live teachings to where I'm talking where I'm teaching a lesson versus answering questions but it just sold many questions as y'all could see I really don't be wanting to just get on here and just talk I'd rather talk about what you want to hear about instead of me just talking on the topic like I do every day on my video Jay Bella god bless you my fiance leaves the house without telling me where he's going he'll say he's going to the car real quick and going to the store but he's gone for hours he always has an answer until after he gets home or if I text him J Bella you heard that you heard what I say it to you just sit down silent for a little bit J Bella and get you out so come on now come on now come on nan de bello come on come on now come on now that need to be your ex-fiancee ain't your fiance the O fiance T on you Jimmy your fiancee cheating on you with everything up the screen around the corner you hit me hey you need to come up with a new plan if y'all got a date you need to be counseling that date ain't no way in the world man go leave and not tell you where he's going to be going for hours what are you doing working on the car what is he doing Oh cuz Senor god bless you no no we're PLN PLN where is that it hello Tony I found this channel by accident and I just want to thank you you speak to every culture reader from Poland okay Poland okay god bless you're not cuz senior god bless you and I our audiography class where I went in school was not the best so I couldn't tell you where polling at but I so thank you for where you at in for the blessing that you sing god bless you see Benicia hi Tony just moved and a man I used to talk to live here I have a non-profit and want to have a toy giveaway he is involved in the community do I contact him not you that's between you and God so still you gonna have to really ask yourself do you really want his help because he involved in the community or do you want to rekindle what y'all used to have and use your nonprofit as the way in so that's something you got to be honest with yourself about okay but it's other people active in the community you could reach out to if you don't want to rekindle or start a soul time why is he god bless you baby that got me thinking I'm ungrateful he bought me food Victoria's Secret shows nice dinner for my bday won't commit commit I told him I just want him to commit and love me am I wrong feeling guilty and sad are you wrong for wasting your time and waiting waiting around on him that's what you're wrong for you know don't don't be begging a man to commit to you if he don't want you if a man don't want you you shouldn't want him you can't want somebody that don't want you sister so you got to go on about your business tea apple god bless you somebody say is the self-love retreat and still on yeah but that's not till August and that's a small group that's that's under 50 people that's a small group neat good evening Tony watch you all the time god bless you thank you for that down Thank You Jocelyn Oh better thank you Tony bless you now I feel like I missed somebody up down who was up there in the VIP line felt like I missed somebody yeah but you got to let that man go when a man don't want you going about your business going about your business you you cannot want somebody that does not want you Beverly bless you bless you I'll see your blessing write down I have missed that man this thing's going fast on me now y'all gotta forgive me Sheila Johnson I'll see you say he retracted your message I don't know what that mean did a charge by in did a chart by cohn already can you speak on how men view a beautiful women my friend thinks she can hit her husband and he shouldn't retaliate and should forgive her because women are emotional all right now coach Chris you need to talk to your friend because one day she's gonna be the hit that man the wrong way cuz it's something when you hear somebody may expect that his coming one day she's gonna be like oh to see how I caught myself in the neck one day is he gonna catching the wrong way and before he know it she gonna be flying through the air so you need to talk to no you know I remember my daddy taught my sister that when we were growing up she hit my head I bite and she went and telling me I'm a dad I say listen daughter don't ever hit nobody and get mad if they hit you back harder so you got you better talk to Beverly okay I'll see your question here I love my husband because he has an attachment to his ex but he still keeps asking me for help you left your husband because he was attached to his ass Wow he got married and still was attached to it okay you got two eating on you got eating on building let him ask you for help and that's the thing what a lot of time y'all don't realize he's dead sometimes a lot of time y'all don't realize what the thing is is sometimes a man will see you as a helper you know a man to see you is you know somebody who he just can go to for help so you play that role but then he may want her as his woman and so a lot of times a man are trying to fill out a roster he got the woman s the the care person he got a woman s the money person he got the woman s the nurturer got the woman that's to cook and a lot of times women to let all them roles be there and they were playing them roles it's definitely Lopez god bless her hi Tony caught my sisters man cheating in 2015 they're still together with three kids not married she's away on military orders I watch the kids sometimes lost his job gets high am I wrong to question his motives went away you're not rolling the questioning motor but you just wasting your brain energy you could be reading a book why are you questioning his motives you see with Herman she know what she got she knows she got a doll she knowing he ha she knows she got that working paying the bill he didn't lose his job he quit his job and said he lost his job so so he can live off her military money she know what she got and it's like if you tell her the truth about him she'll be done cut you all and nice you don't have no Ally so that's sometimes you kind of got to speak to people you know but let them go through what they're going through and support them through it and let them know and ask some question do you really think this is what you want do you really think this is the best thing for you you know you just ask questions and see what the answers are sometimes they may let you know that they won't out and they need help and don't know how to get out and then that's when you know it's your time to really help her carmelita god bless hello brother Tony I bought a few of your books what daddy never told his little girl was one of them is it appropriate for my ten year old dog no it's not appropriate in your dog see what daddy's gonna totally little girl is not talking about a little girl he's talking about a grown woman who her daddy didn't tell her what he should have told her while he was raising her so that's what that's talking about but New York ten you all to be she'll be mommy what is this you'll be enough she'll be at the school talk to the teacher yeah my mom gave me a book and it said it was talking about 69 and I was wondering what is that I just learned math you know not that that's in there but it's really it's grown folks information in there so definitely read that read that that she probably not ready for that till 16 and that'll be you put it in your words Oh Kyle god bless you hi guy I was seeing didn't contact me for three weeks okay he sent a text apologizing he then takes this morning asking how I was doing i text if you really care you would be calling me at not texting he'd never called was I wrong no you weren't wrong but you need to let that be your last text so you don't jump back and then be back talking to him tomorrow you see what I mean so you didn't jump back nah nah let that be your last text going about your business if a man trying to call herself courting you and don't reach out to you for three weeks he don't want you he don't want you here in a whole nother situation he got a whole nother one so going back to business now you didn't text that right now don't go to feeling sorry for him tomorrow and say hey I apologize for the way I responded I send the did that and that's what y'all be doing and then a man lose all respect for you right now he respect you he like whoa okay they want my hair strong the Phoenix god bless you not the Phoenix cartel Turner to LA a fitness model glad you saw that I want that two dollar question cuz he wasn't to talk what they put them in in the chat so I don't see that cuz y'all see the moderators checking people and keeping them in order so all them everything filling up in now should a woman pursue a man if she likes him now we don't answer this question three times a night okay we didn't answer this question three times a night okay y'all trying be unemotionally intelligent absolutely not never pursue a man I wanna pursue and a man is like a gazelle walking up to a lion that's what I need y'all to understand I don't care who I hear telling y'all that I remember when I watching me and our matchmaker I say hi see him ass ain't got no hood she told a woman to go in the bar walk up to the man and put your hand on his shoulder I said Lord this is wrong what reality TV right here these people on TV and don't know what they talking about the woman told the woman that going in the bar walk up to the man and put her hand on the man's shoulder doesn't like a gazelle walking up to a lion you know what a lion eat for lunch because they else a woman should never approach a man because the man is the one who got to get on one knee and propose so if he the one got to get on one knee and propose he need to be one doing the pursuing so that you know he sees you as a wife when you pursue a man you don't know how he see you he could see you like a meal ticket he could see you like lunch but you think you go on up there cuz you like him guess what he don't like you because he already saw you he know you exist and he didn't approach you cuz he don't want you or because he but when you walk up to him he said okay since you're coming over here alright off in the gun knock you right on off says you want to come over here then i'ma going about my business so he will take what you given him and then go get who he won't because a man always pursues what he wants that's why you see me and be coming be announced me and now worry now because a man gonna pursue what he won't you need not approach a man if he wants you understand me now listen to me not tightly god bless my child father sister call me family and invited me over to stay would I go still call me family if you got no no man if you ain't got no no man and you know ain't nothin wrong going over there but if you got to you got to little situation you working on you know because she could be put up by her brother the call you over there they keep you stuck to keep you in a family situation going on so that you can't have nobody else knew so when you cut off the man you got to cut off his family too because it's not gonna be a man that wanna be with you then if you still cool with your ex family and you hanging out with them so it just depends on if you happy being single and you cool you looking for nobody getting ready for nothing and you and her gonna kick it in you know it's a personal choice but it's gonna eventually cost you something you gonna have to come to a fork in the road to make a god bless you I miss the part about not dating with a child under five I have a three-year-old should I stop dating if so why okay just sort of the video um it's not necessarily that you shouldn't be dating but you shouldn't be introducing nobody to your child you shouldn't be having nobody in your house around your child it shouldn't be spending all night you shouldn't be in a relationship but you carry your child and your child jomama you know why you out on the date that's different but you want to make sure that your child is fully confident and well-spoken before you bring somebody around them because a lot of people be doing stuff and if your child can't speak for their self articulately and understand the difference between good touch and bad touch then you'll need to have nobody around your child cakra god bless you rekindle with a guy I was dating I realize day one of hanging out that he hasn't changed so I told him I won't be seeing him again and that he needs to grow up is it okay to say that to a man what you just said it not you said not if it wasn't okay but yes okay you spoke your mind you call them out a name you ain't call them you know anything other than a child of God so I mean do no wrong you got to speak your mind let me know what you feeling um rainbow lemo god bless you now rainbow on multiple occasions y'all know what that rainbow means that's something new from tik-tok or something I caught my ex cruising for opposite sex in public he is my ex for many reasons but he keeps my family and friends on his social media and refused to remove them in the past okay all right all right that was a question but I tell you what you're gonna have to tell your family to remove him all right and you're gonna have to stop worrying about your ex I did a video yesterday or the day before about your ex you need to watch that video and sit with that video okay J belicoff that sure how can I get him to confess to cheating with out no evidence it ain't it ain't gonna work it is not gonna work ain't gonna confess to that and if he do confess to it that means he done anyways he'll wanna be with you don't care about what you know so if he do confess you need to be going anyways but if you know he cheating but you don't have any evidence but you know he cheating why you still with him but you playing yourself because he already know you know so you playing yourself so you got to sit down with yourself on that one got talked to yourself on that one take them Swift car bless your heart Tony it's a guy that reconnected with me we never actually dated I told him I'm not ready to date due to a recent two-month break up he contacts daily is this ok being that I'm not ready to date if you're not ready to date and he reconnected that mean you really liked him the first time y'all connected not even reconnected and the signals still weak because you saying you need time to heal from a recent two-month break up so what that means is he's not your husband cuz he when you meet your husband you no matter what you have been through just look at him and his eyes gonna wipe away all the pain you're gonna see healing in his face and his eyes you're gonna feel healing in his voice so when you meet a man are you able to tell that man I don't want to date you right now because I'm healing what that mean is that's not your husband so you need to keep going anyway cuz you'll be wasting your time to be dealing with Danny s god bless your thoughts on a grown man getting high every day we like I did it blames it on his childhood / anxiety when I address it almost three years of trying to help him with his lifestyle stay distant huh distant you need to be all the way going Danny you need to be all the way going like I say you cannot go up against a man vice you ain't never be the man advise whatever that man doing what his bite is you're gonna lose every day and twice on Sunday so if that's what he owned and you're not on that if you don't smoke - you should have been gone you didn't wasted three years of your life sooner you find out that's what that's what his name was and that's not your thing every day after that you don't waste it you can't help a man change because you stayin what's gonna help him change when you leave because when you state you are reinforcing the behavior jasmine god bless your whining your light not wanting a live Lord let me get this one he'll cut it fold 99 I be gone this question is for glam Rox she wants to know if being too blunt can affect her ability to be a life coach boss later god bless you now god bless you oh yeah my rock one of the moderators not Glen Ross no you know I'm up here trying to get this VIP line together not but yes being too blunt can affect you until you get to a position where you could be blunt you know when I when I first started out being blunt you can't really do that you kind of got to ask questions get people to answer their own questions and people start to hear how stupid they sound when they answering their own question so so in coaching what you got to do is you ask the next question that's gonna have them give the answer that you know that you want them to hear so he's cheated on you three times and you've never cheated on him and you're wondering if you should stay it did I hear you correctly well yeah well actually now that you just said it like that you know what I know I feel stupid I don't even know why I'm on this call you know what I know what I need to do I know what I need to do and so there you didn't even have to say nothing to them you just asked the next question that led them right to the answer that's how you life coach okay I'm trying to tell you not me at the position that I'm in and my life today because I don't build my brand when I get on the phone that client know what to expect they know when I finish talking to you you're gonna cry in the car because I'm gonna get to your blood roll you hear me so they expecting that if they don't have a body of work from you on YouTube but what have you then you got to maneuver in a different way Elena see God blessed not God that supported in a life in your dating correctly video you say when exclusive or engage to continue living separately no sleeping together pay your own bills etc till marriage but other women say for that they can stay single on the market not have sex and have different men pay the bills okay Elena I see you've been listening to loose booty 901 on YouTube so if I want me to tell you that if she not gonna live with a man and not gonna sleep with him she could stay single and on the market and how different man pay her bills that's loose booty 901 and it's a lot of them on here on YouTube making video trying to teach women how to be thoughts and how to be flipped and tossed and passed around but you're not going to be having me and pay your bills and he ain't getting nothing from it if he paying your bill he gonna he gonna get something in return or that's gonna be the last bill he paid so to date correctly means you are independent you are independent until you're interdependent you interdependent in marriage you don't expect nothing from a man but love time and respect before marriage don't expect no money cuz that's not your husband don'tyou shouldn't be in a position of what you need a man help you pay bills if you need a man to help you pay bills before he your husband then you need to be dating you need to be working on your bag you need to be getting your grind instead of worrying about a man see that's the thing like my brother used to say give me what got you here what me and gives me meaning have your handout begging is what got you to the place you in and anything a man pay for he gonna feel like he own so you need to come with your own so that he don't feel like he owned you but already loose booty women out here running a mouth phone line trying to make money off of some YouTube ads and giving up the bad advice because they've been thought of body all day life and they have not confronted their pain so they teaching women how to operate from a Jezebel spirit instead of teaching women how to have character and class and integrity and how your own and then you coming to a relationship and you end up interdependent and then that man your husband could say hey you could sit down so understand that right done there and then some of y'all question by their sparkles I had to gone tell it along on that now yeah that Canadian 279 that ain't gonna last I know they're gonna disappear in the chat you to friend to get you right on the part of they forgive him I see you down there but I got this right here more faith on drill I just want to say you're very informative and honest I appreciate that also you're entertaining bless you your voice uh-huh keep it coming a God blessed blessed on drill Kimberly P can you explain and give an example of a grown man view on general privacy versus secrecy god bless oh now see privacy a grown man who's serious about to hear the word about privacy privacy really mean when you not marry don't be checking his phone secrecy is when he don't tell nobody that he with you so that's the difference but a grown man who's serious by marriage once he feel like you his wife that maybe the six-month mark maybe the 12 month mark he gonna start posting online cuz he's serious about you he gonna keep you a secret oh three clary god bless you not I've had several men tell me that I don't seem interested enough in them because I don't reach out to them first however you say women shouldn't reach out to a man first what are your thoughts well that's just because a man trying to get you he on he listened to the men on the movements on the mir town and it reappear all the movements he these men and so he wants you to flip you on your back he wants you to come in in a weak position he wants you to be broke down he wants you to meet him he want you to pursue him does that mean you not thirsty that means you dehydrated and you need a Gatorade so that's the place he wants you to be in so that you need him for life and you need him for oxygen so when he say that that's a grown boy Dan you know grown man that's a grown boy Nick I'm a cop - is it possible to receive a copy of your life coaching certificate course from four years ago if so is it possible to certify as a life coach after completion email support at tony Gaskin comm nikka god bless you email support at telling guys not kind and so you can write your whole question I see what you're saying what if you took the course already if we could verify that you took it because four years ago we still have a have a payment plan and some of y'all used to default on your payment plan and I just didn't feel like being a bill collector but if we could verify that you took the course and finish your payments then yeah we could issue a new certificate but if we can't do that then you're probably gonna have to do it over but it's not expensive it's not that expensive Renae Fletcher god bless your heart preciate you a god now some of y'all questions I missed it now i'ma tell you that now it's all two of them so I'm gonna have to go through this chat and scroll up later heat TV god bless you can a good man who did not have a good relationship with his father growing up did not see healthy love at home and who has little experience with women ever truly understand and appreciate the value of a quality woman yes it is possible but is it probable probably not but it is possible MJ Cooper god bless you thanks Tony you helped me focus every day bless MJ tardy so what you got to realize about that sometimes a man could want to be the opposite of what his dad was and he knows how to treat a woman because how you treat somebody in human decency that's common sense so a man know how to treat a woman he just chooses if he want to operate from his childhood painting you that as an excuse or if he wants to create a new legacy and be better than his father was and so he make a choice Tyrel Descartes best hi Tony I just want to say thank you God bless you and your family you helped me get out of all the tower relationship save me from a growing boy god bless it down Renee Fletch I saw you god bless you his neck Coco Chanel Oh Kate and take a woman whole name god bless in 9x always brought up how pricey something was when I wanted something he had or he referred me to something example don't think it's just ten dollars it's a little pricey though tease me about not having iPhone all the time just to break you down a man I do that to break you down to make you feel inadequate make you feel like you need him that's all that is just a mine tree y'all be knowing the answers y'all be asked by a I appreciate y'all asking I appreciate the blessing you know that you sent it winning night y'all know the answer not Christian God bless you hello Tony when you first meet a guy met a guy and or you are dating and the guy asked what are you looking for some of yall already know this else y'all already heard me on since what should be the response I'm looking for a relationship to be married nope you tell him I know it when I see it I don't I know it when I see it that's what you tell him because when a man ask you what you're looking for and you tell him that's when he Fenton going he friend to be Denzel Washington you hear me he friend play that role to what T ain't Cong ain't got nothing on me he friended be in that relationship just been doing everything he could do it he gonna get you exactly what you say you looking for and then when he give you that and you don't get him what he thought he was gonna get then he gonna say man how you doing it why you ain't doing everything you said you wanted but that's why he was doing it barks god bless you just want to bless you you have been a true light and bless you on your family hey god bless you hey y'all hold on a second here and let me see if I could find them for do give meet you hey god bless you and forgive me if I said your name wrong bless you for that blessing now but it looked like I said for Duke and meet you Missy cakra god bless it can you speak on a woman with princess syndrome not as somebody else time okay so I got my terms but if it ain't my term I don't know what it means so you really have to ask the person who made that's that up or what that mean because I've never heard of it ma'am I tell you people make up turns I make up my own and people make up their own so I don't I've never heard princess Centron I can kind of guess what it mean but I don't want to lead you astray I only talk about what I know by for do kumicho okay I did how your name right now see god that's a guy watches all my moves but has yet to make a move he's in med school so I just watch him to been knowing him since I was 16 what to do don't do nothing don't do nothing and stop watching him start watching somebody else because he'd been gnawing you sent 16 he don't want you even knowing since then saying I want you so so don't don't don't anywhere if I stop watching Sheriff thank you for helping somebody get that question ahead not from Cristina what is the right time to have intercourse if a woman is not waiting for marriage what's the I tell you this right here if you're not waiting for marry you wrong pay cuz I'm saying st. if Idaho to go feel so I can't tell you when asleep with a man before merit cuz I don't condone that I made that mistake I got the sole time to prove it you hear me but the Lord renewed me so I can't get you a time to sleep with a man cuz I don't say it's ain't find a hole to go feel ok so I can't give advice that's contrary to the Word of God not but if you're gonna do what you want to do then eh that's up to you but that ain't some you know I didn't try to coach people living in sin and then why Christians get on oh I cannot believe you men of God you should have not told her dad she could be living with that man cuz I remember I got a question one time and lady said you know I'm living with my boyfriend or what have you and we sleeping together and I want to know if I'm wrong and I was trying to explain to her the sin is not living together people think shacking up mean living together shacking up mean you have fornication that's what shacking up is you could be you in fornication if y'all living together y'all and sleeping together that means that y'all are roommates so it ain't us and live together it's not smart because you put an undue temptation unnecessary temptation on yourself but the sin is not living together the sin is being in fornication you sleeping again long before marriage so yeah I can't I can't get you know timeline on that one because I'll be honest with you anything before marriage it ain't safe even when people who don't wait a tail marriage it still sometimes don't work out so I understand that doesn't know it ain't safe so it ain't really by sleeping with somebody it's about evaluating a heart that character your integrity how they treat the waitress at the restaurant how do you talk to people okay read I find your question right here from Canada god bless you broke up ask for my money back 1k was I wrong no you weren't wrong what but you were wrong to give it to him you shouldn't never never never this to me now y'all listen to me now don't ever give a man money never money that you can't afford to lose so going back to business cuz you asked for that one cake keeper connection it keep at I just just say I pay 1k for a relationship lesson when I could have went the Tony Gaskins academy.com and for forty seven dollars took the whole school now you know pay one cake from for a lesson from a grown boy you could have took like old certification to time you said I'm saying don't ever give a man money paradise princess God blessing not your question disappears so see I'm trying to get back to him just wanted to say thank you to Sharif for the example she is through your stories I thought I was weird but now know my standards are worth to eight god that's not keep them standard Tiffany RI filed your question to see I'm finding y'all question that disappeared now you two don't like no $4.99 question did they delete on hey Tony those birds of a feather flock together go for me and as well example a laid-back man having a wild boy as a best friend oh that's personalities sea birds old feather really mean what you do because he you gonna have turkeys they got all the same fella but it's one wild turkey and it's one calm turkey but they still birds of a feather so it come down to what you do see a Turk ain't gonna hang with a eagle so the thing is is I could have a loud wild guy but he could be a faithful man and a Christian you see what I'm saying but he just loud you feel me but then if I got a loud guy friend and he cheat on his wife now he a bird of a different feather and you're gonna be like what you'd be a God is faithful god bless you now I tried to scroll up there I scrolled out long as I could scroll up and uh I don't know if I got everybody how they voice influence hi everyone please hit the like button we're being fair with them thanks Tony hey god bless your night yeah people will be on here and don't think twice by their like button you hit me but it don't matter to me honestly I know a lot of youtubers say that I'll hit smash the like button and hit the subscribe but I don't care what you do just get the message I don't care about all that algorithm stuff I'm gonna do what I do and God got me broke off the engagement with ministry partner but everyone thinks we're a couple he says don't worry what they think and persists coming to church and calling me listen if you broke it off then you need to make it known so tomorrow your morning post need to be this single life is such a blessing I thank the Lord for being single and at peace like Apostle Paul that need to be your post tomorrow and you need to cut him all the way on don't play with it when you cut somebody off don't play with it go on about your bidding now Jennifer young god bless you god say hey y'all I got by 17 more minutes 9 God said he loves me okay no I'm just telling my god I don't see it God did say God bless you not Jennifer God said he loves me but it's clear he doesn't know what love is most people don't if I meet another guy and doesn't know should I immediately check out go on about your business that's like going dealing with somebody who don't know law it's like going to a surgeon who don't know how to do surgery going to somebody who don't know how to do surgery and you finna go under the night that's what it's like when you know that somebody don't know love but you putting your heart and a hand you never let somebody play with your heart once you know better do better misty rock off because she's speaking of giving a man money my dad was never a true provider / father - child support he talked down on me now I'm doing well ask for money during the pandemic did give it to him am I wrong now see I don't know if you meant didn't or if you meant you did but that's your daddy and if you got it - Gill if he talked down on you and all of that it's really because he a grown boy he lost he broken he hurt him you don't know what you're better than went through you know you don't know what your dad even went through he could it and you know put somebody could have did something him when he was young and so a lot of times people act out from what they didn't been through so you can't really get caught up on that if you got it in you you got it to give then the blessing don't come from your daddy it come from God so that's what you got to understand so is it right for someone who's been married and divorced to the same person two times to wait for him to show his change before you decide to even entertain the idea of getting back together or marriage now you sound like a woman I met on Twitter a long time ago wrote a book time merit my ex-husband some dating left hook and I said can you be a fool if you want to but listen what you just said now you have been with you didn't been married this man two times and he's still ain't right so you want to wait for a third time they give three strikes in baseball but that's a game you live to see another day you give a human three strikes you might not make it out so I'm out of them I'm out of that me personally me myself personally that's uh you know God is faithful god bless is it wise for a woman to date a man who sir 26 years in prison for a non-violent crime that's a personal choice you know what I mean guys can rehabilitate I got an uncle in there doing 40 years for non-violent and seemed like a good guy you know I I always normally be a good guy but you gotta judge a person by the present by the character integrity so don't let them move in your house don't be paying their bills okay if you can't get out and get you a job then hey we ain't gonna be able to both be independent so if he can't get out of get on his feet and be independent then going back to business but if he can get out a little right and do the right thing and be independent and he's showing character integrity okay you may have something how did you handle having to continue to see someone every day at work if you're no longer talking to them anymore me personally I'm asked for a transfer I'm asked for a transfer y'all forgive on the wine country tongue slipped on my mask boy transfer and I'm getting on out of there so me personally or I'm coming through the back door I'm coming through the back door mask for my desk to be moved you know I'm doing something different if I was dealing with somebody and got a soul tie with them and keep seeing them so I'm trying to get out of that but that's that's a personal choice but some of y'all is you know I understand the word job scared a lot of people be job scared you know and don't want to ask for nothing don't want to move don't want to get a new job I get down not insecure thanks for the gyms Toni god bless you hey god bless you I got by 13 minutes left Toni he flipped when I didn't say hi and kept it moving but he ghosted me plenty said he wanted to work something out but now he's saying don't stress it since we couldn't make it happen why that's just uh that's a no answer question you can't you can't understand why a grown boy does what he does you know what makes sense to you just going on about your business going back to me he don't mean anything it don't mean nothing it doesn't mean he's just doing it he's just going in circles see how this child do you see how this child do this all he doing in his life it don't mean nothing you can't sit there and lose sleep trying to figure out a grown boy his ways Natasha Jacob like a guy is asking me out but just found out after him and his child's mother broke up he had to move back in with his parents do I communicate that things cannot go forward until he gets his own place um yeah yeah yeah um that's a tough one to communicate that's that's gonna hurt that's gonna hurt yeah he's gonna cry in the car but that's something that yeah you got to see it just trying to see it you know as nice as you can but you got to just gonna tell them like this and you know why you live with your parents I just you know it I just don't feel comfortable with that you know so I would I really think that being in relationship is not really the focus right now it shouldn't be the focus you know I would rather you work on you know your goals and your job and just be able to get on your own two feet and then if things happen to work out if you're still single I'm still single okay we can revisit things but in the time being I just don't think it's wise I think you need time to heal you know and just work on you and I don't want to interfere with that Sharon god there's a sharing part in her life you know I I tell them something like that right there because remember you need to be independent before trying to be interdependent Nessa law god bless you what do you say to a man when he breaks up with you you don't say nothing talk to God cry on your pillow talk to God you never let a man see you sweat you say you know what if you got to say anything say thank you because he just spared you he just saved you some time Latoya bless you great for the grateful for the book of oneness and for bless you not let me see it now because some of y'all putting them blessings in his hair Chad and I caught those last two but I feel like I could have missed some mom I got 10 more minutes now I hit my wife behind me moving around seeing a closet closet behind my connected some office wall right down all right I think I got all alumni let me see those Knicks thoughts of dating someone in freemason group I'm a Christian if he's not a Christian then going about your business because you're your religion what you believe your faith that's your foundation so if you don't believe what you believe I don't know you know I know of them but I don't know what they believe and how they believe but ain't hurting and good I mean at the low levels they do charity but the higher you go things get a look foggy so and some men never get that high so that all they know of it is community service and charity but as it go up things change a little bit so if you don't believe like you believe I might the door MJ cool gosh I got the audio books like and listen every night eight blessing 9 y'all make sure y'all get a woman's influence if you ain't got it make sure you get it not I ain't got no big following so it ought to be a lot of people get the books but if you see it it's gonna bless you our man serious about relationship if girlfriend tells him to delete female Facebook friends he dealt with and he deletes them cheated on cheated on and off relationship pretty black guy real own fully understand but for one you don't know who all he dealt with so that's kind of a useless and baseless you know you said it but it really don't mean nothing because he could have told you about some that he don't care about it could have been one-night stands or what have you and he deleted them but then the one that he really got a soul type for he never said her name cuz he'd want to be able to watch her moves on Facebook so that's something you can't really check out can you make a video on how to set boundaries and how to conveyed them to a man when he starts to press an issue like intercourse I already got a video on that it might be in on how to date correctly maybe somebody else know the name but it's probably on how to date correctly Freemasonry in Greek life awesome idolatry and gonna argue with him guy I'm dating told me why do you think you weren't chosen because something could be wrong with your package can you elaborate guy I'm dating told me why do you think you weren't chosen because something could be wrong with your package can you elaborate that need to be y'all last date cuz if a man come say that that's that's a shot right for your hair he trying to take all your self-esteem all yourself worth all yourself love he wants you just in the mirror crying you hit me he wants you to just be questioning yourself so much that you just be begging him for a relationship what to do when the father of your teen is more focused on himself rather than pouring wisdom in his to his son you got to find other resources I got a course on Tony gasps Academy called raising young man ages 13 to 18 somebody say pretty black I answered your question pretty black don't know if you posted it that's old hi Tony what do you mean by a guy is looking for himself I have heard you use this terminology before maybe make a video clarifying this not Sabrina you need clarification on that you don't you ain't never heard somebody say somebody looking for this self and I come on nah Sabrina y'all I'd be like eight this pin is black and y'all be like hey Tony you said a pin black can't you clarify what do you mean by that is that the reflection of the light is that why I listen okay a man looking for himself that mean that he loves you look for wasn't love that mean he loves he's confused he hurt he's a grown boy he's immature that's what that means it means actly what it sounded like but see sometimes y'all don't really y'all want the answer to be deeper than what it is and the reason why y'all want to be deeper than what yeah it's a Montblanc pen no no don't look this ain't this ain't it that's a knockoff they're from a hotel now this Hill it's the Blanc Pinot why you got me this hit you see it got my name and now why I got it I got got my name in it bought me to help Lana I've been here right and I can't open it up I got brand secrecy no people beating stop the video paused it zoomed in read all my business Janelle Monae god bless a long-distance relationship three years ago he had to move back to j8 I'm guessing that Jamaica forgive me in fits Japan we remain friends reconnected recently I've always saw him as a husband and still do advice I'm 23 him 27 safe to assume we don't want long-distance again you saw him as a husband but he has not saw you as a wife so that's the difference there so when a man got to move and he left things fall apart he move on by the business that mean that he really don't see you as a wife or that he has a future which is in that way I'm Chelsea god bless hey y'all I got two and a half minutes left I broke up with the ex because I was immature he loves me but why does he still hold on to the past I'm leaving everything in the hands of God now see that's one thing man don't do me and rarely forgive man worse at that than women a man rarely gonna forgive not a man rarely gonna forgive so that you got to understand that now now let me see and I see that what I was saying is sometimes y'all want these answers to be deeper than what there is but be honest question rocket science it's not it sound just like it mean what it sounds like and y'all know the answer so what you have to do is you got to sit down and you're gonna have to ask that question to yourself three four times and I'm trying to you know get y'all to understand and once you start listening to your intuition and always said is I said a woman's intuition has never been wrong about me if she same Monday that's how a lot of y'all that's how a lot of y'all could look at me and you know that I'm real and that I live what I preach because you could tell about amount of game I give away and so you could say oh I think he really living that but then you know how you could hear somebody and you like something and no cuz he giving her a relationship advice but he no show his wife I ain't never really heard his wife oh he now posted pics over one he twit so how he got all this relationship advice that's your intuition letting you know something the same thing happened in a relationship your intuition lets you know so what you got to do is you got to listen to your intuition lonely you know you smoking and dragging in you know you ain't got no history with your mind being off then listen to your intuition it's telling you what you need to do but the thing about it is is the truth may hurt and see the truth requires change that's why we don't want to embrace the truth because when you hear the truth once you hear the truth it stretches your mind like Oliver Wendell Holmes says once the - stretched to a new dimension it never returns to its original form so a lot of times we try to run from the truth and ignore the truth because once you hear it now you gotta affect change in your life and that's why we don't want to listen to it I did my last question on somebody saying the blood I don't see no more money and I don't see no more money on said no more blessing I I got to go and hit um Tony you said your wife doesn't fart in front of you only likes saying a word and I ain't say that word I said she don't pay a gas well from we said pad yeah is it okay to pass gas after a few years it's not good to hold it in sometime right well my wife in Mara 13 years he not so she might be passing it somewhere but ceiling passing in front of me I don't tell her that she came but that's just one of her ladylike rules now she do Bert she do Bert what some of y'all with you from a called belch so to me it's the same thing it just coming out one way verse the other me I'm not no Belcher okay a burp oh but she drank a lot of hot tea so I don't know but that says she's got certain thing that she just don't do I ain't never seen my wife end up at gas my machine they'll try to pick her nose thought she had a hang-glider scene they'll try to pick her nose she just don't do search thought she never told me hey I got to go number two she never said that to me and I ain't never heard and they ain't never smelled it ain't never seen I don't know how she do what she do you know it's a lot of men that we we a lot some man be by 21 for we know women got all the bodily functions that we got cuz it's just some women just kind of carry themselves a little different no Sabrina god bless now just said don't say no more blessing and then y'all gon sent y'all going god bless not God but when I tell you God I say when you give it'll be giving back to you pressed down shaken together and running over and y'all proved that Scripture write to me over and over Sabrina there are god bless you there are sometimes caveats and nuances wanted to see if that was the circumstance with men who are looking for themselves I get what you're saying Sabrina I get what you're saying god bless you okay that's how y'all women be see what women could do y'all could ask a man the same question in 10 different ways 10 different languages and y'all really be expect and ten different answers that's how to won the mine I work so I get you Sabrina ain't mad at you no ain't managed and hopefully I hurt your feeling with my ounces but y'all really be doing me like that now Tony you said when a man leave let him go now does that mean don't hurt his shirt when he going out the door or does that mean let him go to the store and come back tomorrow but it's just y'all mind trying to get that understanding trying to see exactly what you could do I later wrote me today and said Tony can you do a video that lists out the top 20 questions to ask a man on a date I say what the top 20 questions ain't got 20 questions oh I don't know like if you see y'all want to go to a date and be like okay so do you have kids okay all right does your mom love you okay on a scale of one to ten how much did you love your mom okay how often do you call her okay do you have a house okay what is your car note okay what is your credit score okay that's how y'all be willing to do and I'd be like they're saying y'all just got to go with the flow just talk just deal with the man right just as a normal just have a normal conversation you're gonna hear everything you need to hear if you ask a question and you just listen and then you listen to the answer and the answer gonna tell you the next question ad you got to be like Oprah when she asking questions okay now what y'all got to do now and I miss the question cuz somebody disappears so let me get this and get this don't see no more question now please I got to go I just seen a white walking to my son's room tuck him in yeah he getting my older get stay late for this you know at the house working from the how she down more Nate when we separate I was at fault but it was based on a situation out of both of our control do the same rules apply I can't remember your last question Chanel I can't remember your lack well I'm answering so many question I can't hold the questions in my mind or the person who acts did or the name I can't remember your last question now but the same rule probably do apply when you let us go going by to visit but I literally cannot I'm trying with everything I can't remember your last question I can't remember that last question see which all got real I'm doing this on top of my head so y'all ask a question I'm just leaning on the Lord to give me an answer right down MJ Cooper killed me too it's very uncomfortable I wanted to die with the other question out that that I that was in no no it was another one at the top I was a foe tonight at nine okay Briana co-op that should be on any one mission I don't take nobody blessing lightly I know everybody you blessing me that come out your hard-earned money and I just want to acknowledge you for that so god bless you my phone just a notifiable 20% left so I gotta get going thank you Tony for teaching us the game and not sugarcoating it god bless you and your family hey god bless y'all I typically do a live on Friday night so I see how my body feeling tomorrow my wife you know she my trainer right now while we on this yet situation and you know I just tell my wife I said man it's the one thing here that could cause us a divorce I said I tried to go up here and work out what you trying to bond and then you trying to kid him for the life insurance I'm like can't you take your work out and then cut it in half but she take me through this Navy SEAL work guy and I'm like baby you know you know I got to go got to go coach wake you up here blooming like this I'm finna counsel my life insurance but so let me see how I'm feeling tomorrow after I do her work out and if I'm feeling up to it I had drank milk caramel macchiatos a day I had to go to Starbucks and get my ice tall caramel macchiato and I don't even train Coffee only like coffee like that but I had to get that so I get on this live so god bless y'all thank you for the support a bless you God and remember the date of last date on Tony Gaskins academy.com the link probably should be in the description Tony gasps academy.com if you're ready to become a life coach make sure you use the coupon code my mentor take your time you're gonna go to the page you're gonna read the description you're gonna watch my video about what is a life coach when you hit by is then gonna take you to the checkout page on the checkout page you got a clip ground everything you could click severe account summary or have a coupon click everything you could click if you and your cell phone scroll the phone up and down left and right the final drop down menu and enter my mentor then you click apply then you're gonna see the price drop then you hit confirm purchase okay because y'all is just it's stressing me where people not put in the coupon code and then me and my wife got to be doing all this customer service I try to create son that was simple and smooth and people and and it hit somebody hit me with it again a day hurry up sending money back into my night I got a baby red mark that people are like why is you on there hitting by if you don't have any money you see what it calls wait to the Lord moving your life before you go click and buy because now you've messing up my business because when you do that guess what I get a negative mark on my business credit with the with the process because they like he got the issue 2 min a refund then on top of that when you call your bank line top of my it was fraudulent charge knowing you took your but on them and hit purchase not that Bank right the processor then the process let's say we charge you $15 so not only we sent in the money back booth in the charging $15 for yo person making a mistake come on don't do me like that cuz you've messed up your own you block your own blessings so y'all forgive me for going on that rant it's too late but I just had to spread that from a business on there trying to be a blessing to people like and I if I do customer service Chronicles but that'll be a hit sitcom hey god bless you I got to go

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Length: 99min 50sec (5990 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 30 2020