hey Tony Gaskins here you know got a question yesterday in the comments I saw you and I've been getting this question a lot but I didn't know how to title this so when you think about this keeping the hope alive dealing with rejection all these is word at different ways all your standards too high I see a lot of women sometimes saying Tony you know these women gonna be single if they take your advice if they listening what you talking about dealing with these guys today they're gonna be single and that's a lot of our problem a lot of us settle we settle for less than what you deserve but I've come to realize that when you set your standards and you refuse to settle for less I got a quote that went viral that's talking about knowing your worth knowing your worth and refusing to settle for Less when you do that life gives you exactly what you set out for so you got to understand this I'm gonna help you understand the science behind a man rejecting you because that's what you gotta realize sometimes as you've heard rejection is protection and you may have to especially women dating today and and be honest with you a lot of men dealing with this as well because society as as a whole is going down in the sense of the Bible talks about being weaker and wiser and to me what it means is what it means is when you have all this technology so you got all this technology you could do so much stuff you got smartphone but smartphones make you dumber people because of all of the apps and all of the things that you have at your disposal you become glue to social media and glue to Netflix Hulu Apple you got Apple TV now Disney Plus everybody named mama gotta streaming then look I'm in and reality shows we got so what happens is we produce this society where everybody wants everything instantly because your news is instant on the popular page on the Twitter feed your news is instant your food is instant due to a microwave and takeout and delivery everything comes fast now because of the desperation in dating a lot of people going to dating apps so now I've never been on one so know if you slight swiping left swiping right up down front backwards but now all you got to do is swipe you sent a message a man could meet 70 women in one week on one of these dating apps I'm I coach so men and women somebody said they own tinder somebody said they own bumbles somebody said they own hands somebody said they I've heard so many dating apps I'm like what in the world but all these people going to in our world one thing's instant instant gratification how fast can I get it so that's what you have to understand the higher your standards that better you are but you got to know the difference between standards and preferences so what I talked about in my video yesterday if you missed it was the title of it I can't remember the title but just go to my main page click on on YouTube click on videos and then look at my most recent select the newest and the one from yesterday I cannot remember that what I was talking about dating oh let him earn you or something like that let them earn your love or something like that listen to that and what you have to realize when you have standards of your not coming in my house we're not sleeping together you're not kissing me you're not feeling and rubbing on me you're not those are standards because it's your body it's your body it's your safety let somebody come in your place you taking precautions so those are standards Nazi preferences is things that have nothing to do with morals values belief system safety personal health preferences oh I wanted to be six foot four or I wanted to earn $100,000 or more or I wanted to have blue eyes oh I wanted to have olive skin or I wanted to have a long beard or I want to have break those all preferences so when you get into preferences now you're gonna be struggling and something for for no reason for no good reason but just standards what you have to realize is when you have standards like it's people I people email me every day about me promoting their product in one of these videos what you see me promoting these videos you see me talking about my mentor not life which is my tech project you see me talk about Tony Gaskins Academy comm you know why are you talking about this other stuff because the stuff they asking me it does not relate to my brand to my audience how y'all even got my email emailing me about this and some are offering $1,500 to just mention song you may say well if it's and I got some good money no I got Stander's because it gotta make sense I ain't doing this for the money yeah I want to be paid for my work but it has to make sense and that's what you gotta realize yeah you want a husband yeah you want a wife but it gotta make sense see when you have standards like for example one of my status is I can't be with no cursing woman how many women curse how many women curse I was on Twitter I don't really read tweet sometimes I just do one little swipe cuz I follow so many people on Twitter because I just did the look follow who following a new thing so I probably follow 50,000 people on Twitter but I seen on when I went to the homepage I seen two tweets back-to-back one was a lady saying my future husband probably out there watching me acha fool on here hey please forgive me I'm just joking coming up baby and then but the tweet right up under it was another woman saying I just talk aggressive ASL which you know y'all know what that mean I just talk aggressive as ASL but that ain't who I really am you know that just how I come off and what I see all the time is women apologizing for a nasty mouth potty potty mouth loose booty you know no manners being ignorant arrogant immature I see when apologizing all day my man probably my future husband dear future husband watching me and I'm acting like a thought I'm acting a mess but this ain't who I really am come get to know me and I'm like just if I was in the dating world me not drinking getting drunk smoking cursing I want to do things god way man I be single as a dollar bill you hear me because it's so everybody name mama curse a lot of the Women's Day on hocus all along hookah black and milds we smoking like a chimney drinking like a fish and then a lot of women today if if a man don't want to sleep within nah all of a sudden and he gave me very much like me or he won't this girl he must be and so that's the women men talented a so so even out here a good man can't even find a good woman because people have different standards so a good one man maybe a woman may think she a good woman I remember hearing I remember so many women telling me you don't be on a coaching session and just talking talking talking and you know this way back in 2010 2011 when I first started to blow up on Twitter and all these different celebrities and like influencers and people like that started hiring me and I remember talking to so many women in that industry and I would hear all the time I know I'm a good catch I know I'm a good catch like catching what so catching some ball like a first baseman what are you catching because if from what I'm hearing you didn't catching nothing but bats and balls so who is looking for that hey you sleeping with somebody every week what it where do good catch come in but it's so many people walking around thinking they a good catch and I'm like ain't nobody trying to catch that what you passing out and that's what you have to realize is is people with standards who is waiting to meet somebody with standards but because of the masses because of what's going on in the world because of the microwave society because of instant gratification guess what people are struggling so but you have to embrace it you got to enjoy it I had to shift my mind I enjoy turning down these companies coming to me with they advertise on offers I enjoy I get 50 million oh my they fit their day coming have I'm saying can you advertise on your Facebook then other ones saying can you advertise on your YouTube ultimate saying can you advertise on your Instagram and nope nope nope nope nope nope just you got to have standards and what you have to realize about these standards is it is never rejection it's never rejection its you are not choosing them the the later who wrote the comment she was saying how you know she mentioned like three different guys and like one guy she told him he can't come to her place another guy she told him he can't she can't go to his place another guy she told him she can't sleep with him and each one of the guys kind of went off on a caller immature told us he acting like a high school all this right there guess what a man who does that you got to be happy about that you can't you can't get down on that you gotta be like yes yes you you got to be happy to see let me see how fast I can run this man off let me see how fast I can run this woman off you need to be if you could get them gone in a day eh you win it you win it because now you're not wasting your time with bombs now you're not wasting your time with grown boys and grown girls not you able to just keep it moving like don't ever consider lowering your standards it was a lady I delete old raggedy comment because she talked about oh you know these women gonna be out here single listening to you because I was with a man he I slept with him at the three months and he wanted marry me after three months and then we got together and then he then we broke up so I'm she telling her whole story hush ain't nobody finna be out here on a bike because they scare or losing somebody that ain't mean what I'm pushing no you stay off your back and if he won't if he wanna leave let him leave if she wanna leave she think you like me is cuz you wanna sleepwalk literally yeah you tell them I bought you a pair of open-toed sandals so you could kick rocks in them that's how you got to do these people you cannot calm down offer your standards for somebody else impatience because guess what they only want you for one thing if if somebody will leave you because you don't want to have because you have decency and self-respect and you take precautions like not letting a stranger come in your house or not going to a stranger house if they want to leave you for that all they wanted you for is to have you on your back that's all they wanted the hell you own your bike and you gotta understand that and clap it up yes got rid of another one yes I'm see how fast its next one going and and it's soon they asked you to do this do that no unfortunately I cannot I don't feel comfortable coming to someone's house this early you don't have to say we need to go on ten days before I come to your house that's just a you know barometer that just look guideline I gave you for you to have in the back of your mind you don't have to list that out but you simply could say I don't feel comfortable coming to somebody house this song I don't feel comfortable having somebody in my house this early and let them say what they want oh you an amateur oh my goodness so we went up we don't went on five dates already you oughta know me y'all know me better than that nah it's like uh excuse me sir it it takes some people a year two years to show their true colors you know a serial killer ain't showed his colors right away his teachers didn't know that it took him 25 sometimes thirty forty years before that came out of him and he's been the same person his whole but he wait till now and where he want to go on him a spree come on hey don't rush nothing you hit me and that's what you have to realize I remember and I'm shattered from my side of the business for what I do on business so many people come to me promoted promoted promoted different I said no no to everybody and didn't here go one finally one came everybody been off me fifteen hundred three thousand five thousand Lister finally one came and said we want you to be in this campaign and you know what they said what they end up they said ten thousand dollars a day it's gonna be a two days shoot I said nah twenty thousand now let's start at 40 they came back and say okay we're gonna do seventy-five thousand for the same twenty thousand that it was about to pay me to be a part of this campaign they said we're gonna do 75,000 that's what that's what happens standards if I didn't have any standards Oh ten thousand dollars day for the for the video shoot for the commercial $10,000 okay yeah but if I have standards know what you got to understand you getting a brand what you got to understand you can influence you got that you getting somebody who take their self serious ain't working online okay when I told people certain people listen because they know ain't backing games you hear me I'm not a snake oil salesman so you could pay the snake oil salesman that but you're gonna have to come you're gonna have to come better if you coming to me that's the same energy you got to have in the dating world but you got to realize when you going to this day more what you got to realize is your brand you got to realize you bringing more to the table you got to realize that if a person gonna be with you they don't have to elevate their game you can't go in and stoop to somebody level just out of desperation frustration thinking scarcity mind it no you gotta go in there say listen it's Who I am this what I bring to the take you can bring a table to my table or we're not gonna be able to sit down and converse because you're not coming to my table with no appetite they have me on my back and you ain't broke nothing to the table so that's what you have to understand and that's the energy you got to have because here's the thing men men men sleep and I'm gonna speak from a male perspective man when we are grown boys we going out there and a grown boy is posing as a grown man he dressed like a grown man he drive like a grown man he talked like a grown man he looked like a grown man but you have to really listen to his mindset you got to hear his motives so to know if that he's a wrong boy so when he's talking about a you know let me come over to your place and we could just cook in cook in you know hanging inside it and it cook and on the first date second date third date I don't know you mean you could be Ted Bundy nephew man you could what I don't know you find a man on the moon and you talk about coming coming in my place where I live that's when you know here grown boy because a grown man not even expecting that a grown man is trying to give you your space and trying to help you protect your headquarters because he wants you to have a peace of mind a wrong boy don't even want to look like no look predator he don't want to look like he's preying on you he a grown man I mean a grown man don't want to look like he's praying he a grown man want you to feel like he's praying for you not preying on you you hit me but see the grown boy he gonna try to rush you to get in to do what he do he trying to rush you to get to where he wants you to be at so eight let me come on in there and hey let's listen you call you come to my place he trying to kiss you on the first date he trying to grab food on the second date he trying to get you on your bike on the third day the reason why is because he's empty see what you got to realize it's more empty men than it is full of man so what you have to understand with everything though if you go on indeed if you're looking for a job and you go on indeed.com death and that's not a habit I'm just saying cuz that's why I post my job offerings when I'm looking for somebody and speaking of speaking oh let's say I'm looking for the heart somebody man listen here I put an application on IndyCar I will give 400 applicants do you hear me and after going through the first 50 undrained cuz it be the applicants you know they could do voice memos and they could do little interviews on there that you could put in there and I'm listening to the interview yeah you know I know you're looking for a computer you know for online computer assistant well you know I have cataract in both eyes so I can't see the screen but if you give me an opportunity I'll be the best computer reader you ever known and then the next one well yeah I'm on a fenders list and uh you know I was a woman I'm a man this is merely but uh you know and yeah I got a long rap sheet but if you get my opportunity you know I'll show you what I could do and then what time I heard a lady and panel later I think ten dollars our burden from home just getting emails from offline you know I say go to all these different sites already different schools I need the email athletic directors so just get me the emails or the athletic directors from different each different conference you know because I got I got a thing called character University calm for college athletes because I work with college team so I'm paying late $10 I'll see doing that you sitting at home going on computer going to yourself doc dot e-d-u clicking on athletics clicking on athletic director copy and pasting the email it's public knowledge but you're just doing the leg works so I could save me some time she write me after one day at work yeah you know I really feel like I've been amazing worker and would love to go to 20 dollars an hour look for me that was a microcosm of the dating world that's what you're gonna experience in the dating world you gonna let you out there it's like you got an application on the market when you ready to meet your husband or your wife but what you have to realize with anything you got to go through 100 no to find one yes that's with anything so you have to expect that you can't take each one so personal you can't take rejection personal I have a quote that says let your Leno's be your vitamin you know a nose nose in old nights how might you know old I know in country y'all got let your nose be a vitamin I'm not talking about you know let knows the word you know let no be your vitamin so that every time you got to tell somebody no every time you hear no it's a vitamin it's making you stronger because unless you can manage what you call rejection and go from rejection to rejection without losing enthusiasm you got a long road so you got the relish in it you got to relish in those those rejections you got to be like yes thank you you got to shift your mindset instead of being like I'm never gonna meet anybody man what's wrong with me like oh my goodness like this is so hard like man why doesn't anybody want me I just because I don't want to sleep with them they don't want me man that lady in Tony's comments was right I'm gonna be single forever because I don't want to sleep with a man inside of six months or because I'm saving myself until marriage so I gotta be single oh my goodness like Lord why has thou forsaken me I'm reading about Apostle Paul and I know he was single and it's unfair that this day and age now you want me to be Apostle inna Paulina oh my goodness wait where's my husband and you sit down you getting stressed and you getting worried and you breaking down your immune system you snotty-nosed people think you got the 19 because you sniffing and coughing because you're not sleeping well because you your mind broke because you're breaking your body down with your weak mind because you internalizing a grown boy walking off on you that's a grown boy he don't know his left from his right he walk around with two left shoes on and you man that a man with two left shoes on leaving you you man that a man that can't walk and chew bubblegum at the same time leaving you you man with a man that don't know his left from the right he don't know it hid from him behind and you taking that as a rich oh my getting this like you know he just ghosted me and that's how y'all be he just ghost it look that was a woman boy you got to shift your mindset and be like thank you God thank you lord thank you for removing on Lord thank you for removing them expeditiously thank you for removing them expediting the process Lord thank you for in expedient in this hill dating process and getting them up out of here in a week or less lord thank you lord thank you for that I didn't waste three months on my time Lord like I didn't wait six months of my time lord thank you anyways five 10 years like somebody's women lord thank you then after one date after one date or one phone call and I first time I tell him no ain't got to hear from him no more oh you need to be shifting your mindset to where when he cursed you out without customers and you know how men know how to do that you know what I think that is very very childish and to be honest with you it would be hard for me to look in the mirror if I was that childish I don't even understand how you look in the mirror being so immature you're gonna be single for the rest of your life you say a single cuss word but you feel this this because how big you feel you feel this big that man ain't say a singer' curse when somebody curse you out without using curse words you got to get to the point where you can laugh about that you can call your best friend and say oh oh my girl you girl he will be mad girly man was so mad girl hit man told me I'm gonna be single as a splinter in the zoom oh my goodness not only know what that mean but you have to be able to laugh at it and pick yourself up and not internalize that and take that as rejection when they say rejection is protection if that applies to anything it applies to a situation where a man leaves you ghost you or walks off on you for you having standards if it applies to anything it applies to that you cannot be mad but no sorry groan musty spanking man walking out on your life because you won't sleep with him because you won't kiss him in the mouth when it 19i here because you won't let him come in your dwelling place you won't go behind closed doors at his place because you won't come over to his mama house and y'all got the city living room while she's locked up in the bedroom because he's still staying with her talking about she staying with him because you have standards because he don't have a job and all he want to do is walk around the lake because he came forward bite your burger from Steak N Shake so he had delete and you didn't burnt all five pounds on the first two days because y'all don't walk nine miles round the lake because he don't have a job and so if you don't want to be with a man who does not have a job and he want to get mad about that and he's not looking for no job that's his problem that's his problem see people gonna have to realize that in order to get somebody you got the house standards do not listen to me now listen to me now listen to do not listen to these old loose booty women in these comments do not listen to the old desperate lonely women in the comments do not listen to the old sorry no good wrong boys any comments cuz the men gonna be in there oh what's honing you know you giving the women a recipe for singleness ain't no man gonna ain't no man going on ten dates with no woman and he ain't and he can't kissing them I ain't no man I ain't going no ten dates and he can't come over to her house he can't pick her up from IHOP ain't no man about to do that listen to him man gonna do whatever you tell him to do if that's your husband if that's your husband and you wanna see can't do a cartwheel good he gonna be outdone do you mean when it's your husband he's going to jump through hoops for you that's what you got to understand the man for you and don't do nothing the man I mean the man that's not for you he's not gonna do anything he ain't gonna tie his laces good for you so you can't be said when a man walk out of your life ghost you whatever y'all calling it today Casper the Friendly Ghost whatever it is today you cannot be upset about that so this what I need you to do sit down and become one with your standards know what your standards are and know the difference between standards and preferences understand that not know the difference between standards and preferences and you all this right here hehe need to be a man of God that's a standard I mean what like talk like I need to feel the spirit that's a standard he need to have a job that's a standard he came he came courage like a sailor now if he stomped his toe and say the D word you might say you gonna forget it okay but he cursing like a sailor elf word yes we're all that everybody's every cynic okay he can't curse like a sailor that's a standard cuz you don't want y'all cheering and be cursing like that in kindergarten cussing out the teacher I used to be a substitute teacher on the scene so that's a standard he can't smoke that's a stamp you'd only be tongue kissing on a straight you licking up a whole bunch of ashes why after you kiss them and it literally tastes like you didn't went to the ashtray and yeah yeah if you don't want to do that that's the standard you can't smoke I don't know I'm just thinking you know my whitewall turning yellow cuz cuz you sitting in here smoking clothes and so 9 you holding I knew morning and all debated pours full of your weed 9 because it's coming out your pores going into the baby pores if you don't know it's mine smoke ker smoke get drank like a fish don't stand ERDs ok if you don't want to sleep with somebody before marriage that's the standard if you don't want somebody in your house that's the standard if you don't want to be in somebody else house that's a standard if you don't want to live together before marriage that's a standard anything to have do with morals values your belief system your personal safety your personal health those are all standards your your future your financial health that's a standard so some of y'all if you say listen and I get it I always tell y'all don't judge a man by his about how much money he made judge him by his character and his ambition because if he has character ambition and ambition he's gonna earn money eventually if he has character and ambition but then some some women say and rightfully so I get it but I'm not talking to this situation when I'm talking about this some women say what tone I'm 45 what song I'm 50 man making $30,000 yeah they enough me ain't nothing me and what does it say about him if he 45 50 years old still make $30,000 a year okay in that case that is a standard because if you say listen there ain't no money to live in my city and what does it say to me about that man if he still at an entry-level position at 45 50 and I don't climb the ranks and I'm a business owner or I'm a manager or supervisor I want somebody on my level so that they understand cuz that's gonna show me we got the same amount of character integrity and ambition okay that can be a standard if you if it's some other associating things in there that shows that his that you feel like his income is a direct you don't is directly related to his integrity or his character and if you look within on a date or two and that's true then that is a standard but if it just happens to be let me give you another example if he runs a nonprofit organization and it's a Innocence Project helping people who were wrongly convicted and he has to raise money to pay the attorney it's too filed emotions for these individuals and this is something passionate about because his father his brother his uncle was wrongfully convicted and so he's 45 years old and he pays himself from his non profit he pays himself 30,000 because he doesn't want to take too much of their $100,000 budget a year see now that's character that's integrity and that's purpose so that's why you can't just have a standard as a set dollar amount because it may not be you know a clear representation of who he is as a man or who she is as a woman so you got to understand that so fear knowing this now when you hear me and understand and understand some I was at the door that you if you set your standards stick by your standards because guess what think about this the higher your standards are the better you're going to get think about if you win think about if and god forbid that 19 jump on you okay and you go to the doctor if the medical field didn't have standards then guess what Tom Dick Harry right off the street corner of being in a white coat yeah yeah what you need uh yeah what you need okay yeah let me yeah let me know huh let me check your pulse and you you had a doctor let me check your pulse okay yeah okay I feel your pulse guess what it's standards so because it's standards you got to have you a bachelor's you need to have you got to go to med school after med school you got to go to residency after that I don't know if it's a fellowship then after that in you come in here checking on me telling me what to do you see what I'm saying the higher the standards the better you get so the higher your standards the better options you're gonna have if you come in and say well well you know if if we come on a date and you know he pays for the date and it was filete McNown with a lobster tail yes I think after that he can get it okay so that means take mine didn't f you take money himself that mean Flavor Flav that means anybody anybody can get you and what they could do take you I sure wine you and dine you give you some wine and a nice meal and and you won't you bite you on your back because you don't have standards you say okay well I'm gonna do the 90-day rule now I created the 90-day rule in 2007 it was called a three-month rule in 2007 in 2009 Steve came out with a book and with the 90-day rule in it okay how'd it happen I'm not sure maybe we both had this great idea but for me the 90-day rule meant that if take you that if a man will and this was in my very first book that I wrote when I was 22 years old called what daddy never told his little girl the 90-day rule what this meant is that if a man will talk to you every day for 90 days without trying to sleep with you and when I'm trying to have you I choke compass on doing what he wants you to do instead of what you want to do and in this 90 days he talked to you every day that that is a real [ __ ] that is somebody that you could take seriously be a player is only going to wait 30 days a real bona fide player is not going to wait longer than 30 days talking to you every day now I can understand its caveats and nuances and he'll not a t-shirt might be up under the video now understand what I'm telling you now and this way y'all go wrong see your standard needs to be daily communication because if you okay we're talking every other day every three days four days once a week if you okay with that then you will be entertaining a womaniser a player a liar deceiver manipulator and then what happen is y'all talking Monday Wednesday Friday you don't even hear from one weekend and you think because he driving truck cuz he busy you'll hear from on the weekend cuz that's when his woman in town okay but y'all talking Monday Wednesday and Friday on Tuesday Thursday Saturday Sunday you thinking about him 80% of the day so now you giving him credit for stuff he didn't even do and you saying you doing the 90-day rule so at day 91 date 91 you spread eagle and but guess what he only put in 30 days because you was okay talking to him every other day oh hi over that work guy 45 days cuz you was okay talking to him every other day because you didn't have your standards in place so now you give him something that he didn't even work for because in when he went talking to you he was talking to his other women because if you okay with him talking to you every other day meaning he called you today tomorrow he just text you to death then he called you the next day then the next day he just texting today and then every night that him just texted out for two days but you still think y'all got something going on you ain't got nothing going on that's a pen pal that's not that's not a potential husband that is a pen pal and you need to understand that and so this is the mistake that so many women making is you don't have standards because you getting desperate and you lonely and you frustrated and you're going from thirsty to dehydrated and now that you dehydrated now you're willing to put up anything Tom Dick Harry ready to give you so he come in here and he does reverse psychology oh so you really believe that in 2020 a man is going to wait until marriage to sleep with you no no I don't know do you honestly believe that like now I'm asking one more time do you really believe that in 2020 a man is going to wait until marriage now I'm a good man I treat with more respect my mom raised me the right way but I find that hard to believe that at your age you've bought into that did you listen to those relationship guys online or something so he's coming in and he gonna hit you with that reverse psychology and you lying and now you start a question you're something used and not you thinking about loose booty loose booty 901 that you saw in the comments that's it Oh Tony it is 2020 there are no man that's gonna be waiting until marriage to the date you Leaney women are straight and and that comment for a little butene I don't want pop up and you did you see her screen name you see a look picture or her look fat booty picture and you and you just picture on her and then you pics and hold her man will hug down on walking down an aisle getting married and now you're starting to sweat and and then you go talk to the guy well well well well yes I believe it but you know I didn't say that beliefs can't change like I'm not that naive like I didn't say that you can't have amazing chemistry and you go there sooner I'm just saying that that is what I would like to do but I didn't say that people can't evolve and change their mind I mean we all have a brain BR AI n in my nd that we can change like okay duh yes I understand that so now you talk to yourself off you can talk yourself down at your standards because he just played on your desperation if not he just found out you ain't committed to what you said you were committed to so guess what so guess what I'm about to do now this was going on in his mind this main dish this what he's making guess what I'm about to do Little Miss little Missy somebody wine you dine you and then I'm gonna be flipping you and tossing you and when I flip me and Tasha then I'm finna Casper negotiate you know why that you try to play me like a sucker you're gonna try to tell me that you went to marriage and you ain't really about that life so it was a good man if I was a real man I would have set up here and waiting on your sorry butt until merit but you ain't even about that light evening built like that because I ask you three questions in three different ways and you know change your whole story so yes ma'am you better pay for it and you know what he's gonna do just that you going to the steak house if you won't eat meat you going to the vegetarian how you can have you a nice glass of Pinot Grigio you can have you some chocolate-covered strawberry if you're learning chuckling getting a headache he fainted get some some cheese and crackers on us a tutor abort and right after that keep diving on him now and he gonna do you want he gonna do you one he gonna do your favor he gonna ask you this how you gonna get you this high C he got to him why are you dying why are you dying him talk to head off and share all his hopes and all his dreams and because he felt that a little bit of doubt about your standards that you thought you believed that you thought you lived by because he felt that a little bit of doubt he showed you his representative he gonna do everything right okay and this how you gonna get you he's gonna ask you Kenny eat some peach cobbler oh yeah that's what he gonna do to you oh yeah he's gonna started kissing their neck little oh you're gonna work it away to that peach cobbler and and and hear you you thinking oh he wanna please meet oh he want to serve me and eat peach cobbler well now you hearing a video well toy did not say that he can't eat peach cobbler he said do not be on your back for intercourse but he didn't mention this yeah you ain't supposed to be doing nothing nothing in that area nothing sexual at all you posed to be away from now but say that's how so many men get y'all he come and make you think he wanna serve you so you thinking oh wow he subservient oh wow he's a giver oh wow he's a lover oh he offering net well ain't nothing wrong with a little bit of but then guess what he knows that's gonna get you right where he needs you to being and then I'm gonna put his Superman cape on and finna do what he do and then fin the fly right on not to life why because you didn't have your standards in place because you let loose booty now no one talked you out of your standards in the comments because she didn't have no standards and she married but what she don't know is her love might be cheating on her what she don't know if she could be the exception to the rule and in this day in time at this day and time you need to have most honest in a little bit you need to have most standards in a little bit you hear me because these some tough times this just cuz 9 okay it was just you weren't about catching mono then after that you weren't about catching the H the hurt then you weren't about kissing the heel okay Ratna it's the state's high enough men trying to be asthmatic and catch that 19 because he out here kissing everything because he out here with no social distance men trying to be as many because and you don't want to a standard you want to be in his house he want to be in your house and we post be quarantine we posted be social distance but because you let loose booty now no one coming to comment tell you that you crazy for listening to me trying to help you reinforce some standards you by to risk it all for what for a grown boy let me help you understand this in closing huh in closing piano get my look I'm a little son now this is the benediction there's any closer now listen to me let me understand something a grown man he want to take his time give me a grown man want to take his time a grown man want to get you the point the way you want to ask him for the microphone then he got to tell you my phone ain't in service right now I'm saving is for I thought wedding ceremony then you could say in karaoke but until then it's unplug that's what a grown man want a grown man he want to respect your space so that you know he's not preying on you but instead he's praying for you a grown man he wants you to feel comfortable he wants you to feel secure a grown McKnight now granted they ain't growing on trees now demand that I speak of is not growing on trees now he ain't gonna be nine out of ten men it gonna be one out of ten okay depending on where you live he might be one out of 25 okay so that's why you have to let rejection be your protection let know be your vitamin and you have you cannot lose enthusiasm from one man to the next man you gotta go that next man you gotta have that same pep in your step that same pep in your step that same bubbling your voice you got to have that from man to man and cuz you don't want to go from man to man and you're going groan both groan both groan both groan both groan both groan boy and then you come to grown man husband and then you get a husband and now your demeanor is what you thought oh that's cute aha ah yeah oh you're a pharmacist yeah so basically you're a drug dealer mm-hmm and he like huh oh I'm a pharmacist I own a pharmacy and oh yeah Street pharmacist okay yeah I've heard this one yep continue that's what you don't want to happen you don't want to come to your husband and now you didn't let all the wrong boys steal your energy steal your enthusiasm now hear the man for you because you got to go through a bunch of nose to get to them yes not a man for you yoni want to hear what he got to say because you dealt with so many grown boys that not you thinking ain't no good man no it's good man out there but what you got to understand anything worth having it's gonna take some time is you don't have to work for and that's in any industry in in when if you recruiting in in corporate in sports if you're trying to hire if you're trying to get hired you're trying to get a job you're trying to get a sponsorship it is commonplace to go through a bunch of knows a bunch of rejection before the one yes listen what I'm telling you listen what I'm telling you so you got to get used to that and you're gonna have to rinse wash rinse dry yourself off get right back in the mix of things and go back right to the next to that next situation to the next man with the same energy oh yeah okay great yeah yeah I love oh yeah wow that's amazing and so what did you think about that you need to have the same energy from man to man and then guess what it's a padlock on me you hit me I did pop my wrist it's a padlock on them so that any man he trying to get in there because he trying to get you know he there like this brother and guess what it's what are you gonna do and you just see yeah okay Lord hmm save this another one okay we back at it and then you get right on back out yeah and that's what you got to do you cannot lose enthusiasm you can't get beat down I broke down and be hurting because you meeting grown boy after growing boy so listen sit down write your standards now if you go to Rhino status and you got a short book okay you doing the most okay you doing the most its need to be like 10 or less things that it could be internalized and in your spirit okay these are principle base moral value base okay health and hygiene base these are your standards that's not you don't go too deep if you got you an e-book by the time you finish writing your standard you're doing the most okay stop doing the most but how do you some standards internalizing getting in your spirit so you got to take your list with you when you're going on your date after we come through this here so you whipping out your list okay let me see okay oh yes do you smoke okay okay I guess do you get drunk okay dealing with your mom okay you don't want to have your list it need to be in your heart where you can have a normal conversation to where when you sit down so yeah are you ready for the NBA to be back yeah you know but it's like some time I get ready to watch the game a mom she watching her stories so now normal conversation you did learn a little with a mom you see what I'm saying still have an accent so do you live alone you'd have to ask him that you just have a normal conversation he's gonna let you know well yeah but since I'm a roommate I love the MBA but sometime in the roommate be fighting over TV okay yeah they got room it's like a true maid okay well how old is how old is he you know that why is he acting so immature oh well actually you know it's a she and she does she love to watch that new show on Netflix and oh it's a she okay that's me that's interesting um co-ed roommate well well yeah actually we got three kids together and just she just ain't got nowhere to live right now so I'm letting her and um stay with me so I mean you know idea oh yeah I know how it is yeah and so normal conversation he gonna tell you everything you need to know and you don't have to interrogate him you ain't got to pull out your list because you know your standards and you cool calm and collect that you have not lost enthusiasm you're gonna hear everything you got to hear and when you figure out that it's not for you you got to be a boss about it when you go to a big job and you ask for that Ray unfortunately at this time we aren't offering raises but you know keep working hard we we we know that's in your future thanks care to tell you ain't be right no bush with you so that's how you got to be with a man hey great to hear from you you know I was thinking and you know I just don't think this is gonna work and I don't want to waste your time you know I don't want to waste my time and it's just a lot going on out here and I just need some I just need to resent her and just be to myself and I just it's not gonna be a fit and I don't want to block anything on your end or on my end in case you know things change tomorrow but it was great knowing you you know and I wish you the best honestly and then he gonna be like okay alright now he might curse you out without cursing he might curse you out wit curse word or he might say or he might hang up on you or he might say okay alright you have a nice one now he's gonna cry in the car but you can't worry about that you you on your mission and that's all and this vice versa tell us if you listen to see if else they'll do a video for me same thing go for the man just invert it's just ninety five percent of my listeners are women so just like the Bible say he is say that because it's talking to mankind and got me Adam first so I say he it don't keep saying he or she so y'all hush with that and just invert the information and use it for you two fellas okay hey this Tony guys and God bless y'all y'all stay safe I hear you got to this point put be blessed in the comments or put be blessed I made it because some of y'all get point be blessed for the video even start it god bless you we'll talk soon
