Dating Under 25!

hey hey Tony Gaskins here hey gonna try to keep this video a little shorter today because this is a smaller part of my audience and that is those are you under 25 you're not a big percentage of my audience but some of you have been asking me can I do a video for you so I'm take this Saturday where our normally don't do videos and then I'm gonna do another video dating over 55 and hopefully I could drop that later today and so it'll be two videos a day Lord willing now for the under 25 when you're dating under 25 what I want you to understand now 95 or 94 percent of my YouTube audience is women you know that other five to six six percent or men it's like five point seven percent of what you two told me so it's mostly women on here now we got some men on here just a few just a few that's under 25 here's what you gotta realize is you can have your eyes open for your life partner you can have your eyes open for them and you may meet your life partner under the age of 25 I married my wife at 23 I had just turned 23 so basically you know 22 into 22 I had just turned 23 I had only been 23 for three weeks so I was still young I met her at 21 at 21 when I met her a 2 or 3 months and I ran her off and we were apart for six months she called it a break but I think really she was done we just so happened to link back up 6 months later now guess this is what happened at 21 years old I knew nothing really about healthy love and healthy relationships when I met my wife I came out of a two-year toxic relationship in every sense of the word toxic you're me and then when I got with my wife I still was toxic she had been dealing with grown boys and she was looking for some a little more mature so I'm a little more on her level somebody who know how to talk communicate conversate treat people give love and receive love that's what she was looking for but the man she had been meeting and the man she had been dating they weren't on that level they still wanted to play around they still wanted to sleep around guess what when she met me so did I I still was immature I still want it to have wandering eyes I still wanted to lie I still want it I wanted to be toxic so I wanted to control I wanted to be jealous and insecure I wanted to do things my way why because a woman can be ready for marriage a woman can be ready under the age of 25 and that's just special women because it's a whole lot of women that are not ready for marriage under the age of 25 and so where your focus really needs to be under 25 you really should not be looking for love love need to find you men and women meaning to the fellows if you happen to be at Starbucks and this woman jazz you look at her and you feel like so much energy you feel your wife and you gotta shoot your shot okay if you're not ready to settle down if you're not ready to be in love then don't make it a romantic thing don't go out sleeping around because you are wearing yourself down you spreading your Wild Oats but you farm in soul ties you hurting yourself and it's going to mess up your vision for your wife it's going to you're gonna be jaded you're gonna be scarred it's going to hinder you when you actually bump into your wife so save yourself save yourself the headache and focus on getting your education if you get an education if you go into college if you're not gonna go to college then focus on your business focus on building your business focus on taking the courses taking the classes doing what you got to do to get the knowledge you need to master business and to grow if you're going to school focus on school do not focus on a relationship saying to the ladies your focus should be on you developing you as a person and as a professional if you're in college then go to college go to college if you're in college go to college what I mean by that is focus on college focus on your schoolwork focus on getting the apps focus on getting straight A's focus on graduating valedictorian or whatever y'all call this all Macomb Lodi and all it is he got body yes so Macomb Lodi so if you get your bachelor's then and you want your masters go and get your masters or if you finish and then it's time for med school or law school going go through that get through that law school you might be twenty-five twenty-six med school twenty-five twenty-six get you if you're not gonna do college you doing an online boutique you a personal trainer your hairstylist you do nails your life coach whatever it is mentor you mentor you know teenagers as a life coach you start a non-profit to help the homeless or to help you know troubled teens focus on that up until the 25-year that's really just a period of building you you only given yourself seven years from 18 to 25 to get your stuff in order and the reason why you need to be in order is because when you bring somebody in your life everything changes your focus changes because now you got a balance so imagine being able to do homework for four hours straight well if you get out of school you know two or three o'clock and then you got to go work your job and then you go work your job from 3:00 to 8:00 p.m. when you get home you might need to study from 8 p.m. to 10:00 or from 8:00 to midnight or from 8 the - if you're in a science major or engineering major something that's hard you might have to study from that 8 the two 8 the midnight but guess what if you in a relationship this person now this person they want to talk to you they want to hang out with you they want to come over there so now you're trying to study but you can't really study because you're biting your lip trying to look cute while you reading your textbook you can't even study and then if this man or this one they might not even care about school if they a communications major which is the major that all the pro athletes that's in college but they going pro they do communications because I guess I might have told them that's the easiest major I don't know if that's true or not so forgive me if you do communications and it's hard but one thing I know about being a college athlete if that's what they tell you to take if you're trying to go pro so excuse me forgive me don't go off in the comments but you love major but in a biomedical science I know that okay criminology I was a criminology major it was it was not hard to me I might have been heart you but I just didn't care nothing by school so guess what my criminology homework I'm dog that in our my wife she's biomedical science so guess what seems and she's in the library she had to close down the library the workers had to kick her out the library so so if you in school and you're dealing with somebody that their major is not as hard as yours guess what they sitting over there you trying to study they plan in your hair they grab a little booty they kissing on your neck you think it's funny you think it's cute they think it's funny they think it's cute next thing you know you're in college and you're pregnant that's is that what happened to me and my wife I didn't have goals that she had so I became a distraction and guess what because she wanted love because she wanted that male energy in her life she didn't grow up with her father in the home so she wanted that male energy in her life and although she had standards and although she was strong and although I saw she was wife material she still was not perfect she still was not invincible so I was able to break through I was able to get it into bed and got a pregnant and so now she had to finish a biomedical science major and go on to get a masters in medical sciences as a mother can you imagine how hard that was and then she had to make a decision oh do I go to med school and uproot my husband and my son who is you know needs a lot of care because he was born two and a half months early very very bad allergies and asthma and just issues going on with him - like do I want to get in med school and try to be in med school and taking care of my son who needs all of me and then ask my husband who doesn't have a college degree to have to go with me and find a job to take care of me and my son while I'm in med school so just by the simple choice of her choosing to get in a relationship it changed the trajectory of her life now guess what she came to peace with it she had struggles with it at times it's like should I have done this should I have gone all the way and I tell all the time we went to her sister's medical school graduation and it was a lady who was 40 years old or older her sister was like 25 at the time graduating from medical school and this lady was graduating from medical school at 40 or 44 this lady had went to become a mother she became a mother of four kids then she went and became a lawyer then left law and went and became a doctor so I told my wife I said baby listen we was derailed the devil was on my back I got on your back had you on your back and derail your life I apologize if you ever if you want to go back and do med school and go be a doctor we'll move with you gotta move you take whatever class you gotta take but God gave her a piece that said this is my life this is what I want and she said you know I'm happy I'm happy because yeah I wanted to be a doctor but I had to ask myself was I doing that for me I was out doing it for my parents because she come from Jamaica they come to Jamaica to come to America from Jamaica and you know when somebody come from another country it's serious it's by business listen you ain't come over here the Twitter your thumb like these American kids you come over here to make some of yourself so she had ask yourself you know how bad that I really wanted that I wanted for me or am I happy in this space than I'm in in businesses that we created businesses that we built ourselves and I can set my own hours and she had to point now to where she could make six figures but she don't have to work 60 hours shouldn't had to work 80 hours chilling work 40 hours she don't even work 20 hours so and so she able to be at every recital every play everything at school so her life took a different path but guess what it worked out for her that's an exception to the rule that's an exception to the rule your person that you dealing with they might not God might not have a calling on their life like he had on mine so they might derail your path and it may not be any recourse for that you just got a derail path you you you end up the single mother single father you end up in etosha relationship so that's why I don't recommend doing what me and my wife did a lot of time people say well Tony you and your wife did is so why you telling us not to do it because what me and my wife did is like driving into a tree at 90 miles an hour and we live that was stupid because I was young and Dawn I was stupid look she had been prepared on how to succeed in school but she had been prepared on how to deal with me and that's why I do what I do teaching the game because I realized no women really understand how to deal with me it's very few women who understand the tests and the tricks of the enemy that the man gonna bring to your life and how to handle it and I tell people all the time you go to school you get all these degrees you get all these degrees you get all the master's doctorate bachelors but if you don't know love if you don't understand love and relationships you can lose it all you could lose it all now when my sons go to college I don't know my wife may say hey I want to go back I got a master's in medical sciences I want to go back I want to do a refresh a year get another master's and something and then I want to go and go to nursing school become you know are in a nurse practitioner physician's assistant just to have the skill just to prove myself that I did if she do that hey I'm be all cool well we got to go we got living in London we got living Islands we got living California Tennessee whatever I'm down because I'd help derail her and I thank God now that I'm able to restore her in it and that she has a piece she's not unhappy she's not unhappy I told her several times look whatever you want to do anything you want to go work a job you want to go work in the hospital you want to go back to school you want to go on to med school because I've seen other people do it so understand is yeah you might get the opportunity to come back around and fix your life you might be able to meet somebody get married at 21 22 23 and y'all ride off into the sunset and things go well but not on ten times that anyone's gonna happen and I'm gonna tell you as a man the reason why it's not gonna happen is because nine out of ten times men under 25 don't have a clue who they are don't have a clue what they want in life don't have a clue where they going they're going with the motion they're going through the motions they trying to put one foot in front of the other but they just lost in the sauce they lost like an upside down GPS just doing like this don't have a clue and using women for notches in the belt using women for some consolation for for some peace for some relaxation for release for release okay just using women for that to deal with his confusion to deal with his pain to deal with his low self-esteem he just dumping himself into a woman because that gives him a release from his brain that calms him down for a few seconds her company keeps him calm because it's like being with mama you know having that that feminine energy to rub your head massage your back hug on your kiss on you it just releases them endorphins into the body that helps him forget about his confusion helps him forget about his fears his worries his insecurities and so but he doesn't know what a real husband is he doesn't know what a real man is so 9 out of 10 times a man that's 25 under he's gonna run a woman life in the ground it's gonna derail your life and you might not be able to get back on track I thank God my wife and I were able to get back on track but we went through a whole life we went through a whole lot of poverty we went through a whole lot of struggle and had it not been for God had it not been for our relationship with God and living a Christian lifestyle and living by the Holy Bible and implementing those principles and not that mindset those laws and teachings into our life we would not be here today we would be broke busted and disgusted still on government support like we once were we will still be there and it's a lot of people who are still there who are our age in a 30s and been there since they 20s and still there so listen to me focus on your life whether that's with college or without college focus on building you don't worry about a relationship don't even look for no relationship if a relationship finds you guess what make sure you got the wisdom and the knowledge make sure that children took the classes outside of school so you in school or if you died in school make sure you then went on Tony Gaston academy.com and unit oook the love and relationship courses so that if a relationship find you make sure why you like to read make sure you didn't read make it work make sure you know read a woman's influence so you have relationship knowledge and I remember talking to my wife and she would say you know I was like baby you know you such a classy one man you know you're so classy and you're respectable and you strong I said why did you you know let me sleep with you unprotected and she said it be honest with you I had no clue she said I had never been allowed to date in high school could not go on a single date entire high school she said my mom never had a conversation with me about guys never said if you sleep with a guy this is a contraceptive this is a condom this is what you're supposed to you she's like yeah of course you probably hear of it and you know that it's out there but you're just thinking this what you do in a relationship and I could rely I could tell when I met her that to the ways of men just like the nuances that she was naive to it I could tell it now she was strong in the sense of you're not gonna do nothing with me that I'm not ready to do you're not gonna yell at me you're not gonna curse at me you're not gonna come in here anytime you get ready but once you get past those standards I could tell that inside of the relationship she wasn't experienced you know she wasn't experiencing nobody bedroom she weren't experiencing all of that of light the nuances of it so me being ruthless me being immature man I'm looking to get was for me in the process I fell in love with her but guess what before her it was several women that the same way and I did not fall in love with them so guess what they got the rule they were a part of the rule those situation ships were a part of the rule my wife and what happened with us was the exception so that's what you got to realize that if you don't have a knowledge you could bump into who you think is your life partner but if you know what you're doing it ain't just about wearing a condom and sex if you don't understand behavior if you don't understand the test that's gonna come if you don't understand that you shouldn't even be on your back that that you need to be waiting if you don't understand every little caveat and nuance guess what you're gonna get caught up and you don't get burned you're gonna get burned you're gonna get hurt you're gonna get a scar and then by the time you are of age and you ready you damaged you jaded your perception askew you damaged you hurt you're upset you got bitterness you got pain and it's because you were doing too much when you didn't know enough that's what happens so if you under 25 focus on your your money meaning your education or your business focus on getting knowledge learn what it is to be a person of character of high character morals values develop your belief system your faith learn about finances learn about how to build your life you need to go through the school of life any courses any books any YouTube videos that's what you need to be focusing on do not focus on love and relationships now if you are a parent watching this and you happen to watch this because you got somebody who is between 18 and 25 sending this video don't send the video they're not going to sit down beside them and let them watch it and listen I'm telling you I know you think you grown I know you think you're grown I know you think you ready for love I know somebody told you that you posed to meet your husband or your wife in college I know you get bored I know you get lonely I know you want some some energy from the opposite sex I know you wanna you know how you look some cute and cuddly I know all your friends might be doing guess what if you bump into it just be ready for it so if you bump into it then and you ready for it meaning that you got the knowledge you got the wisdom you have the standards you have your morals and values you have your do's and dont's I'm not gonna sleep with this person I'm not going to let this person stay at night at my house I'm not loaning any money to this person I'm not doing anything oral or normal intercourse and you may not be wanting to wait til marriage but you need at least need to have some stipulation to say I'm not doing anything inside of six months inside of three months now I'm not condoning that but I can't tell everybody how to living like yes you should be waiting until marriage but for the bible thumpers out there that get mad at me for not hitting people across the head with the Bible oh he shouldn't be telling them that uh you sent me and Ava out you need that priest her I got everybody's gonna believe in God and you're not gonna make somebody believe in God by hitting across the head with a Bible everybody's gonna believe in waiting until marriage and you're not gonna make them believe in waiting in marriage by hitting them across the head with a scripture that they don't even care and they don't even respect so you got to talk to people where they yeah so if you're not gonna wait to a marriage if you can't wait till marriage you at least need to have stipulation don't be no one-night stand don't be no first nighter and I'm gonna tell you this right here the key number is you have to talk to this person every single day for at least six months the know if it's real every single day you got to talk to this person on the phone or in person every single day for at least six months if you give your body to somebody inside of six months you lost getting lost you know lost you got a 90 percent chance of failure if you give your body away inside of six months your mouth mm-hmm sing it on the microphone eating peach cobbler mm-hmm or your mouth or your body if you give your body away inside of six months you got a 90 percent chance that a relationship failing you might have a 99% chance me and my wife we both were young and all we are an exception to the rule we are exception to the rule when it comes to dating in college getting married in college we got married in college had a child in college we're exception to the rule that's why I do the work that I do you might not be called to this so God might not spare you the same way you might have another lesson coming to you god spare me and allow me to do it the wrong way I did it the wrong way under the influence under the wrong influence but God turned what was meant for evil turned it into good so that I can use my story to help hundreds of thousands millions of people I've helped millions of people in my career millions so that's why I was spared to do this work you might not get the same grace everybody great saying the same different people get different lessons it's some people that the first time they slept with somebody they caught a a disease that is incurable I've coached people that the very first time they slept with somebody they caught a disease that is incurable and they'll have for the rest of their life is it fair no it's not fair but that's their lot in life that's their lesson everybody grace everybody life everybody lessons is not the same so listen to him you want to be smart you want to be fast you want to be mannish you want to be fresh you want to be grown you want to be loose booty guess what you're gonna end up paying a price that you can afford so save yourself get your chips together get your coins together get your business in line so you ought to be either graduating and going to higher learning you know graduate school or you need to be graduating and going and getting your job or start your company if you ain't going to college you need to be starting your company and your focus need to be taking marketing classes business classes entrepreneurship classes reading all the blogs reading all the articles reading all the books watching all the YouTube videos the bill and scale your business build your brand personal brand and scale it that's where your focus need to be that's where your focus need to be you cannot be focused on a love relationship trying to have your booty open and I hear ya I know it sound nasty but that's how you look nasty when you ain't even got your life together when you too young they even really understand anything about love relationships and you weren't about kissing somebody in the mouth you weren't about having your boyfriend or girlfriend you worried about the wrong thing and that's gonna cost you get your knowledge get your stuff together my sister-in-law she say no and she in residency she a doctor so she getting paid and she getting a practice in her field and she ain't got no boyfriend my other sister-in-law she got a little boyfriend but he know his place he know what he fit in it he ain't trying to be no distraction he stay out the way he just he support and she's a lawyer she just finished law school neither one of them in a serious relationship need one in a minute serious relationship they was able to look at the older sister and they were able to get lessons from her life they were able to get lessons from her life whether they may say that or not they were able to learn that okay hey I'm glad it worked out but if I can avoid going through what you had to go through I'm gonna do it this way and things work dying but don't do something because it worked not for somebody else when you could take an easier route an easier path and make it work for you make it work for you because guess what's gonna happen when you build yourself and you get that stuff in order when you get ready to date at 26 27 28 now you more attractive anyways because you got your own apartment you got your own car you got your own money coming in you completely independent you completely dependent independent you're not dependent on student loans you're not dependent on your parents income you completely independent so if you were a six now you were eight or a nine on the look scale if the person who is perceiving you what would have saw you as a seven in college or before you got your own place own car own job own money if they would've saw you as a seven now they don't see you as a nine because you're completely independent so listen focus on you focus on you let love find you let love find you and then for a man what I mean by that is you're gonna bump into your wife you're gonna bump into her and you're gonna know that it's her you're gonna notice her you're gonna feel it you're gonna know and for the woman you're gonna bump it to your husband he gonna know that issue he's gonna approach you you gonna have to approach him he's gonna approach you you're gonna be able to go on few days and you're gonna be able to tell you're gonna be able to start dating him in the first three to six months you're gonna be able to tell if that's your husband if it's not he's a distraction before destiny sometimes when you pursuing destiny you'll be sent a distraction that looked like destiny you'll be able to tell the difference especially if you're getting in knowledge so if your mom or your dad is sent this video to you make sure you subscribe and you keep getting this knowledge before you get out there in the field and be a loose booty hey that's Tony god bless you my video for dating 55 and up I have not been 55 I have been 25 I have not been 55 but i'ma talk to y'all in another video god bless you

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 31min 54sec (1914 seconds)

Published: Sat May 23 2020