Interracial Love from Tinder | Talks with Tony

hey tony guys here popping in y'all gotta forgive my just yawn um i just finished doing a two-hour instagram live and i said to myself i said okay i'm gonna get off you know around two hours and uh it went two hours i just got finished talking two hours so i'm a little tired a little windy um but i need to get this here done so you know i got to be serious by this serving if you're gonna serve you got to be serious man and then you get some rest but i gotta pick up my sons and i need to be leaving the house around about 2 p.m so i don't only for this video only got 53 minutes as of right now so i 220 i got i got a little longer but i i think i could do my whole hour if needed and we're going to get through as many as we can oh oh no oh wow ooh oh no wow come on sister this is the hell need a coaching session so bad this one here was long this one hit long this one here is long i'm not even going to remember everything by the time i finish reading it so y'all forgive me this right here this this will get you to working back hello mr gaskins hope to find you and your family in good health my story might want you to pray for my stupidity because i had done every possible thing you asked us not to do before i started watching you i am an indian medical student now her title is interracial situation made to feel like dirt incredibly important to a naive 21 year old i am an indian medical student living in poland and attending university i installed tinder last year after a bad breakup of a non-toxic relationship a non-toxic relationship a hungarian working in my city texted me he seemed good looking with a good job and a sweet personality we had a good date and then he coincidentally were flying to sweden at the same time and no we had a good day and then coincidentally were flying to sweden at the same time for different reasons he asked me to see him in sweden knowing that we would see each other in poland anyway so i thought he is genuinely interested in me i politely declined as i was seeing my friends after i came back to my city we had plenty of conversations over text and somehow he convinced me to cook indian food for him for the second date yes i know i am an idiot he came over and then a friend of mine came to pick up something from my room it's a dorm and as and as soon as he left the guy this guy i was dating said you know all guys want to sleep with their female friends right i was like um no my friendships are absolutely platonic since years we had a very good time and it started raining outside very heavily he did not have a car so i let him stay over another mistake we ended up kissing the whole night and now we started seeing each other we had really good dates in the first month somehow he never invited me over during this time he always came we went from movies to restaurants and sports events he even said on the fourth date that he has never taken a girl home and it might be me after a little over a month together he even said that if we keep seeing each other we can celebrate new year's together with his friends i was very happy he never asked me to be his girlfriend but being very stupid i assumed i was because he upgraded his netflix to a two-person account especially for me without me even asking for it and told me not to watch certain movies as they were only reserved for our time together [Music] this man could never offer this man would never offer to pay the bill and we always split it but i was conflicted as he was so nice otherwise i introduced him to friends at an indian festival celebration and my best friend even pointed out that this guy is a little too mean with his jokes but i ignored the warning he even called me the next day for the first time before flying to just randomly talk he even called me the next day for the first time before flying to just randomly talk after a month when i was joking about other handsome men he said keep searching if i am not good enough for you i gave him reassurance this man would kiss me in my sleep and on my forehead in public [Music] he said i love you to me at the six week mark i asked him what did he just say and he repeated it again i was very skeptical but i said it back as soon as i said it he said he doesn't love me we continue having more dates and he says that his friends are coming to see him from hungary he disappears on me for two straight days at a time at this time text me again then i give him the silent treatment which i break myself by texting him the next day he apologizes and asks me out on a hockey game for the weekend we have another good date during one of these amazing dates when i was mentioning my plans for aerosmith erasmus aerosmith rasmus let me see what this is [Music] now if this was the right word aerosmith's program is a european union student exchange program established in 1987. if i don't know if that's what you're talking about aerosmith or if it's autocorrect for christmas but i don't think y'all got cr i don't know if y'all got christmas over there [Music] okay mobility nope erasmus stands for european community action scheme for the mobility of university students basically it's a chance for universities and students across 33 countries to mingle learn new skills and expand their horizons over 2 million students have done erasmus since eris miss since it first started in 1987. okay we're going some since you're a med student that's what that that is that one where the students get the mingle when i was mentioning my plans for erasmus and forgiven if i'm saying it's wrong it's my first time ever seeing that word in my life after two years from that point he said he won't be he said we won't be seeing each other by then i asked him does he not trust me and have no faith in me he said he does but knows himself very well then he said just kidding and passed it off as a joke suddenly he flips literally flips he did a backflip does he put flips in all capital letters i will just mention a list of things he did in this particular order one hey bae if you need some uh come holla at me because i'm shooting the video so i seen your text but if i click it it'll cut the video off i hope my wife could hear me one comes home from a business trip and tells me that we should do a threesome i was a virgin at this point though i had sung on the microphone but still it was horrible okay so she watched my videos now y'all know singing on the microphone mean um when the lady i don't know for the for the new people singing on the microphone me or what all right he asked me for my type and women so he can find a girl knowing very well very well i am straight i sharply refused number two he said i am too emotionally attached to him he really likes he really really likes me but doesn't love me yet he did this the week i called him called him up to ask him why does he feel so cold and distant tells me that he is very busy blah blah blah but tells me that i am important for him number three he was flying to amsterdam so i asked him for a very simple dutch chocolate i really really like his response if it's anything more than five dollars don't expect anything from me he didn't even ask me the name of the chocolate and got some random one and when i said oh that's so sweet he said you asked me to get it that's why i got it very rudely the receptionist accidentally made him pay guest charges for staying the night in my room one time [Music] okay what kind of room this is all right interesting it was about five dollars he came he came up to me straight in the kitchen and says to me that he isn't going to come to my dorm if he has to pay number four takes my virginity completely consensual and no pressure and makes a joke don't you want to keep the used condom as a memoir and hang it somewhere number five laughs on my face when i tell him about a very hurtful racist thing that a friend said to me showed absolutely no remorse number six when i showed him a picture of my volunteering work he instead of appreciating me like in the beginning asked me if the skinny girl in the pic is me i said no i am a decently shapely girl not overweight or obese in any manner he makes jokes yeah you're not skinny i said but you love my body seeing how much he was into it in the bedroom he said that he never said that he loves my face but not my body in the beginning he would write you're beautiful on my whiteboard when i was not looking [Music] i might turn this into the smithsonian so they could study this he might be the definition of what y'all be throwing around in the in the comments number seven we went to the science museum together after spending a wonderful night with each other wrapped in each other's arms he called me fat and told me to not sit on a y'all got forgiven huh this man he'll get out of hand i'm like what because she caught my guard now she said they wrapped in each other's arms then the next thing wow y'all gotta forgive now because it ain't funny what he said it just caught it yeah i was funny how he switched gears on her like that like she said at first i thought often read a poem by nicholas sparks on just this beautiful night and then boom next thing you know cletus and what's it called on the clampers we went to a science museum together after spending a wonderful night with each other wrapped in each other's arms he called me fat and told me to not sit on a particular machine in front of everybody then we tied ourselves to anxiety detectors to make me feel like s she said the cuss word s word he says a a is like number one like the first thing he said now this old med student now she got this thing written not good not too long now she wrote a dissertation but to make me feel like s he says hey you know what i told my friends that my girlfriend is brown and she's indian and they were like yuck why are you seeing her then when he won the round by elevating my anxiety he said he was just joking b for round two he asked me how would i feel if he replaced me with a hot polish girl i told him that i would not give a f and block him everywhere and forget that he exists my anxiety was zero he even said how is that possible his anxiety was very high and i won this round i wasn't talking to him on the way to the burger place so he kept pushing my leg and annoying me in the burger place there were some guys that were looking at me and laughing because i was being very goofy with my sweater he asked me if they have bigger muscles than him i asked him why is he asking this question he said only i can make fun of you no one else number eight he was going home from office and i jokingly said then why aren't you coming to me then his response was home is where the heart is not where the d.i is home is where the heart is not where the d is mr tony i am still broken i am still broken over this sentence and the most i am still broken over this sentence the most and my pain cannot be expressed in words when he realized i am angry he sent kisses and when he saw i am not responsive he said if you have a problem with me then you can tell me no need of playing this stupid game with me then he gave a fake apology for his stupid joke number nine made fun of my country calling it a third world country during an inappropriate time and saying he would never fly there reason he hates flying but actually has willingly taken a job that makes him fly all the time number 10 doesn't stop and keeps walking when i am taking a picture with him unlike early days when he would kiss me secretively to make the photo cuter says i am very beautiful says i am very beautiful when i was singing on the microphone of course the night before number 11 yells at me for dropping my cutlery in a restaurant accidentally number 12 when i wanted to show him something romantic in hungarian but couldn't find it in my phone bef he before knowing what it would be says i hope it's not some cheesy romantic thing number 13 when i went over how much longer y'all hey hey listen we in this thing together all right we 15 minutes in her little still going okay we're in the thing together tonight all right like just got to be here for the good and the bad all right the long and short okay so listen this i'm bringing y'all into my into my world into my job okay so you get to understand a little bit number 13 when i went over to his place the second or third time at this point he said now you must be feeling like you're coming home don't you my response home is where the heart is not where the d is my resentment had been too high at this point he asked me when we went out for lunch will you sleep with other people when we break up i was shocked she put wind in all caps when we break up i was shocked she put that in all caps i said why should i be thinking of a breakup and asked him won't he be disappointed and ask him won't he be disappointed if i was sleeping around he says i won't be disappointed just surprised after all who would want to sleep with you yes mr gaskins he said that to my face and i could not understand his abuse number 14 suddenly started referring to our intimacy as casual as he uh number 15 i took a flower and perfume for him as a christmas gift assuming that obviously in all caps he would get me something flour and perfume okay so y'all huh you get a man of flower and perfume what well y'all do some different kind of gifts over that nine i took a flower and perfume for him as a christmas gift assuming that obviously he would get me something he did it of course and offered to buy me dinner he did when we were in the christmas market he made so much drama over kissing me under the mistletoe saying he hates annoying the public with such drama annoying the public with such drama kisses me very rudely next day while making love he asked me to squeeze tighter saying that my lady parts are like a cave and then said he is just joking [Music] in the past when i made a joke about his very small man parts which is very very true if you must believe me in response to him body shaming me he retaliated refused to hold my hand in the mall saying we are not a couple in all caps then laughed i was heartbroken i asked him if i am his girlfriend and he said yes in all caps and asked me why am i asking this question again and again oh so nah it sounds like she said she was serious about that nah she said he told her lady parts her lady part like a cave and then she said he was just joking in the past when i made a joke about his very small man parts which is very very true if you must believe me in response okay so i know look a little man all right that bring a lot into perspective now bring a lot in perspective when when he looked to a virgin because you would think the body will be con you know contoured to fit him being that he was the first but he i know he's got the flashlight out in their thing so it sounds like he [Music] and that down that right there system everything right here you'll find your answer you're gonna find your answer right now in the middle of the level we ain't got to read no further that right now that'll do it every time that will do it every time that'll make a man a monster give me so when you meet these monster men i hear they're just nasty the women now it's someone who ain't like that that's still nasty but for sure if they like this nine or ten times it's gonna be nasty nine out of ten times number 16 somewhere around two months when i asked him to delete tinder he said he doesn't use it anyway i was not comfortable with the app being on his phone and he pouted heavily and removed it acting as if he is doing me a favor number 17 didn't wish me on christmas when he went home asked me when christmas was over how was christmas with a smiley face when he went home wouldn't text me for two days straight knowing how much this behavior hurts me and when we spoke he literally sent me a pic where he was taking his where he was taking his underwear off and asked me for breast pictures which i didn't send sent pictures in my shirt and of course he didn't compliment me at all number 18 was liking pictures of loose booty baby mamas i know i am loose booty too but this was next level you're actually not loose bullying man and you beating up yourself a whole lot of health which i don't know if that's your med school tactic for me not to get on you or if you just don't love yourself like that but this is this can you pretty sad and here's something you need to stop beating yourself up like that random girls and pass flings but stop liking my pictures number 19 comes back after christmas says he really likes me loves spending time with me and misses me when i am not around but i am too emotionally attached to him and he does not want to use me he wants a short break tells me that he has that he has had only one proper relationship in his whole life and maybe he is like this because he spent too much time alone also says we should have known each other better before getting physical which is true because had i known i would not let him near me anyway he is willing to try to make things work between us but uninvites in all caps me from his new year's party saying considering we are having problems it's better to not involve friends now i went home and called him and dumped him saying i want a man who is sure of me he asked me thrice and i ain't heard that the bible he asked me thrice that we should try to make things work and i flat out said no i don't want to force you to be with me he says that he doesn't feel forced and wants to try i said no and he said what am i gonna do without him i said i know you since a few months i know you since a few months my life will be just how it was before he said that he is very sad and said that i must be sad too i said no i am happy and he went in a fit of rage saying how can you be happy i soothe him down saying i am completely fine and i love myself way more than i love him and this needs to end he keeps asking me what happened to me and i said nothing he was not keeping the receiver down despite my multiple he was not keeping the receiver down despite my multiple attempts to cut the call and then finally i had to repeatedly say bye and we hung up when i tried to take my stuff from him a week later he acted like a gentleman giving me my things and trying to make small conversation and asking if we can stay friends my stupid spirit said yes but we never spoke after that five days later he was back on the dating site and in a month's time i see a polish girl with a rose in her hand in her profile picture commenting on his marathon picture that she is proud of him it was a new girl as he had just started following her two weeks earlier i was extremely hurt to see him move on so fast and blocked him from everywhere for my healing i got a follow request from a very fake sketchy looking id of a polish of a polish name a few months later i suspect it was him or his girl i could tell by the credentials and profile info this id would see everything i posted but not accept my follow request back when i asked if it's him the message was left on scene while the stalking activity continued i blocked this id too and now it has been 11 months since we last met 11 months 11 months my heart is in so much pain mr gaskins had i not met your channel i would have probably met the lord due to my pain i was dreaming of a snake with blue eyes biting me and i was sucking my own poison out literally a month before i met this man i wish i believed my spiritual instincts do you have any answers to what happened to me any answers absolutely was i just used for my body and thrown away or was i suddenly ugly in his eyes or did he have a girlfriend all the while or did he actually suffer from a mental problem please guide me i am never going to break no contact but i seek answers please help me other important facts number one he said he is going to die early and at least thrice in the four months we were together other important facts all right let me read it again now y'all gotta forgive now i'm a little tired now but hey you know everybody matters everybody matters okay yeah yeah i know the letter yeah i know i know the letter is long everybody matters okay so we've got treated everybody equally you notice our indian sister from pola poland is that a place where they used to ask you when you was a kid that you want to be uh something or a pollock or that's something different that's somewhere else that's very disrespectful if that's what they used to be talking about because the sister in poland is that what they used to talk about yeah i see living in poland attending university i don't know if that's the same thing that people use actually like in grade school you want to be this or something else number one he said he is going to die early at at least thrice in the four months we were together a very fit man swimmer gym person good job number two he said that he is terrible once number three cynically asked me to do better in the bedroom when i was making some kamasutra jokes number four was hurt by a mexican woman in the past during his study abroad days reason they were having casual and she decided to sleep with other men behind his back which is not technically a betrayal as they were not together but he was hurt because he had known he would try sleeping with other because he if he had known he would try sleeping with other women too number five was seeing an italian italian i know y'all say italian i'd be saying italian and then it won't be at home why say italian that just i say it uh number five was seeing an italian persian girl italian persian girl before me who wasn't willing to go all the way and he was continuously wondering during our time together if she found a new guy number six was texting a random girl in an english-speaking forum for our city who needs swimming lessons saying that he would be very happy to teach her in exchange for some polish gave me no info about this when i confronted him he said that he was going to ask me to go with him as i am a swimmer too number seven his biological father left his mom when he was born his mom got pregnant by another guy and later married him now that man is his stepdad he has a half brother as well i i wasn't told any stories of domestic number eight he met his biological dad once for some very important work and his dad did not care this info was given to me on the second date number nine forgot all important dates including my birthday and wasn't even apologetic or ashamed when i remembered his number 10 never stopped me from seeing friends but was low key critical of my closeness with my parents saying that he does not discuss any of his issues with his parents only with his friends never stopped me from seeing friends but was low-key critical of my closeness with my parents because daddy number 11 said that our kids would be stunning looking after accusing me of being cheesy and emotional for looking at him with dreamy eyes when he said he would want to adopt a child when he said he would want to adopt a child his bipolarity surprises me to this day number 12 clearly lied about the rent he pays for his far away tiny apartment with no proper heating also he mentioned his salary on the fourth date without me even asking for it number 13 mention that he skipped a grade in school because he was too smart i find this too hard to believe for some reason number 14 said you need at esee knowing he is my first and emotions are more important to me he also said fun is better than emotional i am attaching a picture of us for you to decide if we are really looks incompatible all right that's the end of oh my goodness 31 minutes now you know what it's actually more like a coaching session because coaching sessions the client you know talks 30 to 45 minutes you know while i listen and take notes but when this went i had to read it and also i just got finished talking two hours on my instagram live so if you missed that one and you get bored and you ride you'll catch that because i think it's on ig tv so i think it'll stay there now um sister okay i see your picture here and i see his picture um y'all on the same level looks wise but y'all are not compatible y'all not looks compatible and so yeah so now see now personally this is a thing you know you can't say everything that you see you know i can't say everything that i see but the telltale sign with y'all is that y'all on this hill tender because that is a very um dumb app to be on it's very terrible nobody in the world especially if you watch any of my videos should you be on tinder that is the dumbest thing in the world and forgive me for saying that but yeah that is very dumb you need to meet people in person need to meet people when you walk around when you're doing whatever you're doing that's what you need to meet people not on no day now not on all day night y'all stay off the day now unless you over the age of 50 and you haven't seen it all it hurt at all but when you young like this here like y'all and and think about it little sister you is a mad school student like you shouldn't even be worried about no relationship like you can't have no relationship my sister-in-law daughter she is in her residency now but she went through you know school and med school no boyfriend no boyfriend not only you are in you a medical student you say i am an indian medical student living in poland and attending university boys should be the last thing on your mind and use a virgin so now come on now now you beat yourself up a lot in here but the thing about it is is that's all the front because you actually smart you're actually very smart you actually very knowledgeable you know what's going on you can see you know right from wrong you seen that he is terrible but you see yourself you have low self-esteem and you see yourself as less attractive you see yourself as unattractive you see yourself as you know not fitting into societal norms of you know what a beautiful woman is that's how you see yourself and that's how you carry yourself and that's how you treat yourself that's how you talk about yourself you beat yourself up you talk down on yourself when a lot of people even in this same situation would think they was all in the right and they would have been lifting themselves up you tearing yourself down so what you have to understand is that people treat you how they see you treat them yourself people treat you the way they see you treat yourself don't nobody disrespect me unless i disrespect myself if i call myself dumb and i play stupid then people gonna try me like i'm dumb and stupid if i come in intelligent articulate and like i'm on my game people gonna come correct like i'm on my game and a lot of times i play dumb and then that's how i create a riff because i play dumb and then somebody tried to play me and now i got to call them out and now they embarrassed because they got called out now i can create this confrontation now it makes it awkward now they don't want to you know deal with me and it's really just because i put a mirror in their face and so you coming in and you coming in as you coming in insecure low self-esteem self-hating and so the man says okay because a man has experience he could tell a self-loving woman and a self-hating woman and so you got to understand that and you got to get to a place to where every single person man male and female man and woman has to get to a place to where you can love yourself and you carry yourself with respect and with standards and with love when you know who you are and you have to convince yourself of this you got to tell yourself every day all day if you need to write it down write it down first and then read it to yourself every day all day write it down and read it to yourself and when you do that when you take and do that then now what happens is your brain starts to believe what you're telling yourself but when you're telling yourself that you unattractive or you less than or you need to date nap to meet a man and you know that you naive that you're gullible you're a virgin you don't know what you're doing you telling yourself that then guess what that's exactly what the man gonna treat you like and so this man here he he is he had to be diagnosed by a doctor like he a classic he is a classic something in the classic not a good classic a negative a bad kind of classic but it's still to that to that low one a little man he got down now that's a part of it his daddy leaving his mama when he was born that's a part of it him being uh unattractive to women or you know not cool enough or not manly enough or not tall enough whatever it is um and then to it go to show you what what what i want every woman to understand about this because a lot of times women go to date out day race and thinking that that's what's going to be the prize you know so this is a indian woman and she dating a white man from hungary so you know hungary i'm i don't know if you call that a race or a nationality i call it a nationality he looked like a white man like a you know normal white guy i see walking around here hey y'all gotta forgive it i'm getting tired now how are you getting tired why are you talking but i'm draining today not and this young lady you know she don't look like a traditional indian woman that i see she kind of look indian and kind of look mixed with white almost or you know mixed with something else you know almost kind of how like a mexican and a black person look when somebody mixed mexican and black you know her indian is is not her skin not as um dark brown as what i'm used to seeing in you know people from india um it's a little lighter in her face it could be the temperature where they add not enough you know sun or it could be genetic now on the other picture that she has she looked more you know like a traditional indian which you know a traditional indian some you know with the dark black hair long hair um [Music] i don't know what it is indians not necessarily built like africans you know sometimes when you see somebody with strong african jeans like on a woman the woman arm you may see a cut in it like a like a muscle or it may be like this slim and then you have like african-american who you know sometimes because our eating and our genetics you may see a woman with a bigger arm you know so a man look at that and determine like if she in shape or what have you you know um this young lady like she said she said in her letter she's nowhere near obese but that she kind of curvy or that she kind of shapely so you know her arm is like a woman with some meat on her bones you know one with some meat on the bones and i can't see there's a full body it's not a full body picture but you you assume okay if your arms is like this then your arms got some meat on the bones then maybe you got some meat on your bones on your on your hips or on your thighs or what have you and so but i can't see your whole body now typically white men don't typically don't really like curvaceous or voluptuous or women with anything more than skin and bones a lot of times white men liked a woman to be stick skinny you know real thin and if you notice that's a trend with a lot of you know caucasian women especially ones that can afford to go to the gym or to stay home and work out that they really big on a lot of caucasian women really big on being as thin as possible and then some just a genetics you know so it's not a one size fits all but that's why this guy made that joke about what would you do if i leave you for this hot you know polish woman um or whatever he said you know skinny polish woman a slim polish woman and and so yes what this was what this was right here is this was a man who he is insecure he hates himself he hates his life he hates his manhood he doesn't feel like he's a man he doesn't feel successful he doesn't feel worthy he doesn't feel loved and if he was a boy he would want a raggedy and teddy bear to rip apart every week when he's feeling down and abandoned and lost and hurt and then he would go to his mom and ask her to sew it back together being a grown man he doesn't want to have a teddy bear to rip apart so he finds women that he feels he can get so he felt like he could get you and he was right he got you he felt like that he looks better than you i believe you as a woman felt that way too and that's why you put up with so much for so long i don't believe that it was you felt naive and gullible i believe you felt that he was a prize that you got this white man you indian you know it's color lines you know it's racism obviously so because you got a friend that made a racist joke that hurt you really bad and this your quote unquote what you call a friend and then he tells you he tells his friends that his girlfriend is brown and they say yuck this is a white man now this what i try to tell y'all to anybody who trying to date outside of their right their race there are color lines in every race when you come to the black race the white woman is called a snow bunny that is a derogatory term the white man is called a criker or a honky those are derogatory terms when you go to the white race the blight is called uh ni that is a derogatory term seen as more derogatory than the other terms because they have take and they made cracker in the cracker barrel but black people use it in a derogatory way but we don't have the end barrel you see what i mean so the word is it is not the same but it's still both are used by the opposite race as weaponry and so this man tell this woman that she brown and she yucky his friends probably didn't even say that or they could have said that but the fact that he told her that that means he feel the same way so he literally picked out this brown woman to beat up on her to use her beat up on her words to use her to abuse her to sleep with her to experience her this is one lesson that i want women to understand that just because a man will sleep with you does not mean he likes you just because a man will sleep with you does not mean he's not racist does not mean he's not prejudiced just because a man will talk to you and talk to you like a queen of a man of another race in the beginning does not mean that he is a prize and that he thinks you are a prize a lot of times we think that the answer to our problems in our race is to go to another race where we're going to be appreciated not realizing that there still will be color lines there still will be prejudice that person you go to of that other race still going to have family members that don't agree with a decision about being with you and don't like them and go off on them and when they talk to them is bold enough to call you out your name and call you a derogatory name even talking to their family member oh you still with that end so you're in lover huh man i'm ashamed of my brother i thought he raised a son better than you um so you're in lover and that's how they'll talk to him then you come you come to the blight race [Music] and somebody got a uh a white woman like where you snowboarding at waste nobody you ain't pranking today hey now what this hey i know why you will trust me trust me i know why you will because she's spending that money on you she paying them bills ain't you and and i know they got all down down ain't it so now the woman over there might think she just the accepted and loved and appreciated and just getting talked about like trash and vice versa there are color lines in every race there are color lines and when you try to go into racial you're gonna have to deal with some prejudice if not from your partner from somebody in a family somebody in a friend group and you got to be prepared for that it ain't it this ain't no utopian world where just everything is perfect and we just all blend together anybody who act like that is is is not paying attention to what's really out here what's really happening it's color lines and so this man is on this hill out the nasty sorry offender that's what out need to be called offender not ten need to be called offender because that's what they own they're trying to do and he's looking for women that he think have low self-esteem and see if see a man gonna read you and he's looking to the world and so he's gonna look at your he gonna look at your face and he's gonna look and he's gonna say okay her nose is smaller or bigger or wider or thinner or longer or shorter so she's insecure about her nose he's going to look at your cheeks or her cheeks are puffier or thinner you know no cheeks or lower or too high she insecure about her cheese he gonna look at your forehead or her forehead is too little or too big she insecure about it or her hair her hair is too thin or it's too thick or it's too coarse or it's too dry or is too wet or too short she insecure about that he's going to look at your teeth or her teeth are too small or her teeth are too big her gap is too big or too small they're too yellow they're too this short sharp overbite she insecure you're gonna look at your lips he gonna look at your ear he's gonna look at your arms he's gonna look at your your breasts he gonna look at your stomach he gonna look at your butt he's gonna look at your waist your hips your thighs your calves your feet and he's going to analyze you from head to toe a grown boy on these dating apps he gonna analyze you from head to toe and he gonna see where can he see somewhere that you may be insecure and how can he attack that insecurity and so that's why you have to love yourself speak life into yourself you got to know who you are and then you also have to be real with yourself too so if you looking at yourself and you know how looks are compatible and you see somebody that is not in your compatibility zone because their look is never attracted to your look then you can't go into the mindset of feeling like a prize and thinking that you don't got you one because you're seeking the approval of someone that you think looks better than you [Music] who you end up with you need to think they look good it's okay to think that they look good and to want somebody that's attractive but don't desire or chase somebody that you have to look up to that you put them on a pedestal and say this person is better than me because nine or ten times when you put somebody on a pedestal they're going to look down on you nine out of 10 times when you think somebody look better than you they're gonna treat you like they look better than you and that right there is exactly what happened in this situation and so this is the thing you got to go and deal with somebody that understands your race that understand the dynamics of your culture that understand you as a person and that loves and appreciates your genetics your race your culture your traditions you know your people your ways like and they they value that and they see you being traditional and or or untraditional non-traditional whichever word it is they see that as being unique and special and blessed about you not like they coming in with all the preconceived notions and all the stereotypes that you've been suffering from your whole life about you so it's kind of like if if a white woman go date a black man and he cut in the black man come in that old white women love to do oral uh and that they so amazing at it and that's all they want to do and they love to give money and loan money and invest in a man financially and that they shut up and they listen and they do all the stereotypes that we've been given if a black man go into that situation with that white woman and that's how he doing her and she happened to be an exception she happened to she happened to not fall into the stereotype their relationship is going to be terrible because of how he viewing her and then she fighting every day for this new image same with a black woman who goes into a relationship with a man of another race when this man of another race white man hispanic whatever is hearing black men tell black women that they too loud they too rambunctious they got too much you know spunk and they they doing too much talking and they turning their neck too much and pointing their hands too much and that black women need to take a chill pill and need to learn how to talk to a man and learn how to be in a place when you got when this man of another race hearing black men telling black women that then he coming in like this woman is loud and rambunctious and she gonna be aggressive and assertive and disrespectful and rude and unclassy so now if he come in with that preconceived notion of her that perception of her that every day she's fighting to change his perception because he didn't put her in a box because he doesn't live with her race he don't know her race because he come from a different race whereas somebody of your own race and of your own culture it's it's gonna be easier because they understand your race and your culture so for example i got krump with a man last week he was a white man that man was scared for his life had i been talking the same as that way to a black man he would he would have understood me he would have understood my anger and he wouldn't have been afraid because he would have knew that it looked totally different when a black man really really mad and about to really put hands on you it looked totally different he would have understood that it wouldn't even been no talking if you're offended to be by action but a man who don't understand me because he come from a different race from a different culture he'll look at me and because media has portrayed black men as villains as monsters he'll be scared so it's kind of like the thing where you see with the police and just going off on a whole nother situation because you know her situation is what it is it's absolutely terrible i really can't waste my time on stuff like that because that's just absolutely terrible it's just like you know clear day and y'all be knowing the answers but y'all really just be on the event y'all really just be on the vent about what you did that you feel is stupid and like what she said her first line you know you're gonna wanna you you might wanna pray for my stupidity um and so it's like you already know what you need to do but just kind of like this right here when you're doing this here interracial and she again and she named her her email interracial situation when you name it in a racial situation that lets you know you already feel us a way about it because if you feel like we won people and we all won you wouldn't even say interracial and so this is like i see the video of like you know the black boy gets stopped the black boy gets stopped he gets you know flustered or whatever he get to get ready to jump out the car and take off running the white police follows him and shoots him in the back and kills him then you watch another story of the white guy pull a knife out waving the knife at the police nobody shoot him to kill him they literally apprehend him take him down put do all the moves that they learned in training take him down safely put him in put him in the car the difference is a level of hate a level of prejudice stereotypes and preconceived notion this man who was sprinting away from me he thinking he could be running to this bush or to his home or to somewhere to grab a gun to come out and kill me so let me shoot him in the back and kill him whereas this man over here who's a white man if this a white cop waving this knife yelling screaming fighting swinging brooms i've seen all different kind of videos oh he's not gonna hurt me the reason being is billy grew up with billy so he feel like he'd know and understand billy billy didn't grow up with jamal so he is scared the death of jamal and he may also hate jamal or have stereotypes against jamal because of what the media has shown him of robbers and criminals and what the movies and all this and shown he feel totally different about jamal than he does about dave you see what i mean and so that's what happens to any interracial situation this man coming in as a white hungarian you coming in as an indian polish person he already feel like he's above you and and you less than him and he looking down on you and brown is yucky he already feeling like that so that's why he wants to pimp you out tomorrow we need to do threesome you know we need to do this we need to do that how you gonna feel when i break up with you we not in a couple so he literally came for the experience in his mind what he come to do is say let me experience this brown woman and to be honest with you that's what almost every man do that's what almost every man do i did it every man i know did it is men like variety and experiences when we grown boys so we want the brown we want the white we want the the yellow we want the tan we want the we want the pail we want the dark we want the mix we want the this we want the that is like a flavor of the rainbow life skills and then who he settled down with depends on where his heart at how he views himself how he views you know that woman and if he's healthy and he's pure and he's mature then that union be it interracial or whatever intergenerational if he's healthy and mature and pure that connection is pure even if it's interracial even if it's intergenerational meaning he 10 years younger or he's 10 years older if he healthy mature and pure if he's immature grown boy wherever he's whoever he settle down with is based on his insecurities his prejudices his preconceived notions and his desire to control and be over a woman and to use a woman as a disposable piece of meat that's what it's going to be so hey stay out there online dating please i'm trying to tell y'all and then y'all keep hollering about the panda and how you gonna beat people walk your butt outside go outside you're gonna meet people and if you don't meet nobody it ain't time for you to meet nobody it ain't meant for you to meet nobody right now you sound good like come on but i'm telling you did right there that online is where men go to hunt so if you're a woman and you argue with me it's because you don't understand why men on there you might be on there with a pure heart and you're a great person that's not why men on there good man with a pure heart is not online it's one out of a thousand it is one out of a thousand the good man with a pure heart that's on there listen he is the minority he won out of a thousand i'm telling to tell you i'm a man i'm around man i know men i know man ain't nobody ain't no man i know to take himself serious in that space in his life that ain't just looking for something random just looking for somebody to talk to ain't now one of them on no line dating because you can meet a woman you don't have to pay for an app or download a dating app you can meet on instagram if you want to meet online you can meet on facebook you know you're not going to sign up for no dating out unless you you lost confused or you looking to pray on somebody not pray for somebody to pray on somebody so understand that stay off that line love yourself set new standards walk up right do what you're supposed to do use your common sense don't let your desperation keep talking about your common sense and be who you know you call to be and you're going to attract what's for you keep working on you and loving you and doing what you're supposed to do and you're going to attract who for you and when you find out he's a fraud be gone and stop suffering at the hands of this man because you gave your virginity because you slept with them because you spent money with them get going about your business hey there's tony guys god bless you

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 60min 3sec (3603 seconds)

Published: Tue May 18 2021