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tony gaskins here popping in now did a video last night called stop depending on a man and now i've done a video called never give a man money because a lot of women want to say well man depending on women now so i got a video on that make sure you see that video and and a lot of times when you watch a video and you want to suggest another video i probably got over 200 close to 300 videos so just search the title or click on my videos and scroll through it and you might see a video on that other topic that you're wondering about but now this is what i want to touch on today because this what i see really going on right now and a lot of people don't get this a lot of people don't understand that you have to because see we always want to do something and then when it doesn't work out in our favor then we want to blame the other person but what you got to do is you got to look at who you sleeping with who you sleeping with right now and what i mean by that is both ways physically sleeping with somebody okay or if you uh is hold on right quitting clown wonder or if you not physically sleeping with somebody or you going to sleep and you in a relationship meaning y'all in a relationship and y'all sleep at night either way you want to put it whether you abstinent or whether you in fornication who are you sleeping with who are you with see you need to understand that an ounce of prevention weighs more than a pound of cure now where else do you know an ounce weighing more than a pound because see a pound is 16 ounces but when it comes to prevention and the cure the ounce of prevention weighs more than the pound of cure and when you understand that what i mean by that is if you want to see if you want to know if you want to see the future and know if you're going to be a single mother look at the man you sleeping with if he is already and this thing oh he's a deadbeat dad he's no good he was no good when you met him he was no good when you were sleeping with him so why are you shocked and appalled that he don't want to come see his child for the last four months why are you shocked and appalled that he's not giving you any money he was sorry when you was sleeping well he won amazing prince charming when you were sleeping with him and if he was amazing prince charming when did you sleep with him you slept with him in the first month you sleeping with his representative you slept with him in the third month you sleep with his representative you slept with him inside of six months in the first six months you were sleeping with his representative you were sleeping with him so that's on you you said i mean we want to look at a situation and we want to say oh well these men got to be held accountable they got to be held responsible the best you could do is go and apply for child support that's the best you could do ain't nothing else you're gonna be able to do i can't hold him responsible he don't know me and he's not gonna listen to this video but you know how you hold a man responsible by paying attention to who he is when you get on your bike when you get on your back and you look up who are you looking at you ain't looking at the lord you're not laying on your bike looking up at the lord in supplication and prayer you laying on your back in fornication looking up at a mere man who is flawed to the high heavens flawed from the left to the right top to the bottom he's smoking weed he again drunk he cursed like like a sailor he liked to watch nasty movies he liked to go to the club he liked to go to the script club he liked to gamble he liked to hang out with his boys they gambling shooting dice they want to go on a vacation together to cancun him and the boy they want to go to vegas together he don't like to work he's stealing from the job if he do work or he keep talking he got laid off but really he quitting he playing video games three four hours a day he doing fraud scamming or selling drugs doing something illegal all them now see everything that i just listed out what i want you to understand it could it if one if he doing one of those things if he doing one of them you got a problem see see i know a lot of y'all you listening you like oh well he'll do all that well yeah he watched moves and he goes real close but he'll play video games so oh i got a little good man in him maybe he'll do all and i i'm not saying all of that together any one of those things can derail his life and it'll derail your life and i saw somebody say somebody said um just cause a man smokes doesn't mean he cheats and that's and that's and there was a man who said because he probably smoked like a chimney and see that's what you got to realize is that's what these things all these little vices all these little things they have implications and so this little bit of leaven leaving it the whole lump just it's the small fox that spoiled the vine it's the small fox that's for the vine so what you got to realize is this little thing so if he gambles and i don't went through this again but everybody don't watch every video so i don't talk about it i got to go through it again if he gambles what does that mean he is compulsive it means he is irresponsible it means that he takes ill-advised chances it means that he's willing to risk his financial security his financial freedom he's willing to put it on the line to lose it all it means that he has an addictive personality so now you take all of that how does that equate to a relationship if he's willing to gamble his life away his money away what does that mean he will gamble by taking a chance to sleep with another woman when he's with you let's say he play video games four hours a day that means that he has not tapped into his purpose unless the video games is mentoring to mint and his non-profit where he mentoring at-risk teens and he playing with them while they at his mentor facility at his whatever community center and he talking to them as they plan and he bonding with them unless he is gaming and he's being paid to gain and that's how he earns a living then guess what it is a distraction i can understand an hour i i can understand our day max i give you two hours a day now if you do four hours one time a week just on saturday okay that's different but what i'm saying is these you got men that's playing video games three to four hours a day seven days a week in the game and paying them a dime guess what that is that is a man who is running from his pain that's a man who has not tapped into his purpose because see when you tap into purpose this is what i'm doing for our day i'm trying to change lives i'm trying to change the world this hour that i'm giving you i could be playing video games you see what i'm saying after i finished doing this for an hour i got a one-on-one call for a whole hour with a client after i finished doing that for an hour a couple hours later i got another one-on-one call for a whole hour with a client after i finished doing that for an hour a couple hours later i got another one-on-one for a whole hour with a client so my hour doing this and then three hours today talking to clients what is that that's four hours what i just said four hours on a video game that's four hours i could have gave to a video game but instead it's four hours that i'm trying to change the world so when a man did it to a gang that means he has not found his purpose i'm not talking about pain playing an hour a day let's understand this and you have to use inference what that means is read between the lines so don't don't just take what i say and hold it down to the letter you gotta spirit and in truth that's what just like the bible say serve god in spirit and in truth you gotta use common sense so you can't just say well tony said four hours my man pays three hours and this is what i see people will literally say oh you said if he played four hours a day well he plays two hours and 55 minutes a day so if that means i'm safe lord god bless you god bless you okay god bless you what tony you said if he gamble smoke get drunk and play video game well he gamble smoke and play video game but he don't get drunk so does that mean i'm safe no well tony he doesn't drink he doesn't smoke he doesn't curse but he does fraud he scam credit card so does that mean i'm safe no listen to me if this man got any advice give me he got any advice i'm gonna tell you what my advice is right now what's my advice my advice is my purpose serving the world trying to change lives that's my advice that's my advice right now so that's what you got to look at device and you got the weight of vice if his advice is working at the community center mentoring at risk youth that that that's a good advice to have the balance with let me tell you what my other advice is i had to pop out last night sweet and honey chicken i got to hit mr papa once a month at least once a month i got him some popeyes i'm doing better because i used to hit popeye about two times a week three times a week sometimes at least once a month i got to hit me some pop-up that's my advice you see what i'm saying i don't watch nasty movies i don't deal with angela i don't gamble i don't smoke i don't get drunk i don't curse i don't go to the club you see what i'm saying so devices that could that's really detrimental that i really can't wouldn't be able to balance or control all that right now ain't none of that in my life so guess what what my wife got to worry about what my wife got to worry about the only thing that'll give her contention in her spirit is me serving you me sitting here with you for an hour and if i don't give her equal or greater time give her a hour it's some days that you might get an hour from me and she might get 30 minutes so that's when i have to say hey i can't say the whole world and lose my own you hear me so you'll see me take breaks so next month i'm off next month september i'll be one hour a day on youtube but the rest of my day free so me and my wife will be parlaying you hear me we're going to be at the at lunch spot we're going to be working not together i'm taking a whole month off from one-on-one coaching except for vip sessions where people they have to get in and they pay that vip price so i'm gonna find that balance you have to look at the person the man you dealing with if you're a man then just invert this okay but just like the bible say he he he is talking to women too but it's a he so just y'all need to understand just because i'm addressing one sex does not mean i mean talking to both of you just invert the information so that it applies to you so this what you got to understand now this man you have to look at him and you got to see what are his vices and then what you have to realize anything that shows he doesn't have self-control so let's say he cursed like a sailor if he cursed like a sailor that means that he is immature it means that he is also lacking intelligence to express what's on his mind it also means that he won't be able to go in every room because you if you curse you can't if you curse like a sailor you can't sit down and have a productive conversation with a child you can't sit down and have a productive conversation with a priest or a pope or pastor if you curse like a sailor you limited in your interactions you're going to be offending people stepping on people's toes alienating ostracizing and he does not have the wherewithal the emotional intelligence to articulate himself like an adult when he uses countless curse words so guess what that means curse words are attached to foolishness ignorance or anger so what does that mean if he curses like a sailor when he gets angry those curse words will become the antecedent behavior to physical [Music] violence okay so that is the implication now when you look at he's into nasty movies okay nasty movie all right got a lot going on nasty so if he's into nasty movies that means that his spirit is perverted that means that he cannot control and tame his lust that means his lust has taken over his life and he is living out of bounds so that means that his lust will start to seep out and overflow so that means he will be attracted to your teenage daughter that you're bringing into his life he as the you coming to him for him to be step daddy but he into nasty movies he will be envisioning sleeping with your doctor if he watch man oh man nasty movies he will be envisioning your son sleeping with him okay yeah we going there now this ain't this ain't no hey it's like no kidding no we going now we going we all the way there now so hear what i'm trying to tell you this is what a lot of y'all do not understand if he spoke we all right a lot of y'all somebody said oh some people you eat from additional perk we're not talking about models on a program when you talk about medicinal purpose so what they got to do with this all right and the only time persons need to be smoking weed is if it's truly dr prescribed like they have cancer and a lot of time that cancer is terminal and it's they need to ease the pain glycoma whatever that is we've heard that it's uh migraines something like this right here but guess what you really got to think about this thing now how is one illness made better by creating another illness because what does smoking do it makes your lungs black it corrodes your esophagus it promotes cancer in the body it changes your brain matter smoking it will eventually affect smoking we eventually affect your memory because it's altering the chemicals that's released from your brain into your body that makes you calm and relaxed that is altering your brain pattern that's altering the chemistry of your body so you are you cannot smoke daily and not have a an adverse reaction not have a reaction to what you're doing you got to understand it i'ma tell you right here i used to sell it so i was industry selling us my clients was the fiends i never once smoked it never once i never i have never once smoked weed and i used to have it sitting by me in bulk and i was selling you know i never smoked it because i saw what it do it's a gateway it is a gateway and it changes you anything that you are addicted to is unhealthy for your life anything that you are addicted to it is unhealthy for your life then and now i'm gonna give you an example something that we know is very very good is the holy bible but if you are addicted to it guess what will happen you will become too heavenly minded to be any earthly good you will be looking down your nose and everybody thinking that you walking on water and they in uh quicksand you will be thinking that you jesus next to ken and you're gonna be on the left-hand side of the lord while jesus on the right-hand side of the law and everybody else is a heathen you see what i'm saying everything has to be taken in doses and you have to have control over it if it controls you especially an illegal substance which is becoming legal but you know why it's becoming legal it's becoming legal because if they could sell it that's going to add billions of dollars in tax revenue in every state so if there is going to be a money play because it's like okay if we got it illegal we get no money off of it we ain't making nothing and the best we get to do is throw people in jail and that and and now the place is overcrowded so hey we got to change this we got to change this and then the other thing why it's becoming legal is because the lawmakers hitting it they own that g35 government issues yeah we gotta pass this bill come on in here kamala i need you to pass this bill you said i'm saying you from oakland girl pass this [ __ ] hey you pass it bill come along so that's another reason why i become a leader now let's go this right here when you got to look at this let's say he had two baby moon if he got two baby bombs that lets you know that he has some immaturity and some irresponsibility i got a lot of homeboys with multiple baby mamas if they being real with me if they being real with themselves if they being real with you they will tell you i was a grown boy i was a dog i was a liar i was a cheater they will tell you that now this is what you have to realize if he got too bad moment that's in the past so what you have to do is look at his present you have to see how has he changed so if he has multiple baby mamas but he still curses like a sailor he still smote like a chimney he still drank like a fish he still club like a disco like a dj then guess what that's that same immaturity that had him go raw dog into them women impregnate them and then sabotage the relationship so that now he's no longer with them and but he doing all this other stuff in his life that means he's still immature so understand that that means he's still immature so now what you now if he has baby mamas if he has a record convicted felon if he has a past stuff that it comes from his past but in the present he has removed the vices from his life so he's not smoking like a chimney he might smoke a cigar on his birthday when they win the championship when you know it's a it's a wedding it's a special occasion and it's a cigar okay that right there is different he may drink but it's one drink he had him one wind down drink at night two if he heavy set or tall and so he got mo you know body to soak up that alcohol now he turned it by three four five six seven eight a night or he drinking something strong and he hitting two three glasses up he doing five shots for that hit and then he again slur speech you see his judgment change you see the gate in his walk change he that's a vice he got a problem okay so when you look at this man if he has a past you have to evaluate the president so if he got multiple baby mamas if he'll convicted felon if he's a former drug dealer if he used to curse like a sailor if he used to do something but in the present he's living right he's focused he has integrity he has character he has ambition then guess what he has made a change but this is the thing you gotta take your time you gotta take your time so you cannot judge him for three months and say this is who i have you cannot judge him for six months and say this is who i have you if he's been perfect for three months go to six he been perfect for six months go to nine if he's been perfect for nine months go to 12 he's been perfect for 12 months go to 15. you see what i'm saying and when i say perfect i don't mean the literal sense of the word perfect i mean when i when i say perfect i mean he has no real vices that are eating him up distracting him and ruining his life i'm not saying y'all don't have a misunderstanding y'all don't have a disagreement what i'm saying is he's not verbally abused he's not physically of you he's not emotionally abused he's not financially abusive he's not socially of you you see what i mean he's not um socially when i say social abuse i mean keeping you from your friends and your family when i say financially i mean taking all your money borrowing money consistently borrowing money from you getting money from you or controlling you with money not letting you spend your money telling you how to spend your money or you know if y'all together and joint the situation finances and he can do what he want to do and you got to ask him for permission before you do anything that's financially abused okay or he won't let you work that's right now so understand that right there so when you look at this this this the ounce of prevention because i have you know i have family family members say to me well my child's father doesn't do anything won't even give a single dime and i'm struggling and i'm a single mother and i'm like okay now let me ask you a question let me ask you a question okay i'm gonna magically all right okay come on come on put poise put your chat to my dad okay man now the man that you talking about what did he do when you was dating him well well he's so weak oh okay okay now let me okay now how did he treat you like did he curse at you yeah when he get mad he'll curse me out okay did he ever put hands on you well that's i don't even want to go there like whoo like no no let's go to tell me so what what did he what what did he do well one time he choked until i passed out and i blacked out okay okay mm-hmm is that all well another time he picked me up and body slammed me and my neck hit the ground before any other part of my body and i thought i broke my neck i couldn't walk for three days oh okay okay so he sold uh he beat on you did he have a cheat on you well yeah a few times i caught him with other women and he but it mostly was with his other um child's mother that he was sleeping with okay all right so he's oh now he's so we okay did he smoke it too yeah he smoked it too anything else that well sometimes he did pills too okay now was he snorting anything well rumor has it that every now and then he was snort powder but i never seen it with my own eyes okay so all right so he sold uh he did peel every night then laced it boom boom what y'all call it boom where you from um he beat on him he cheated on him he didn't have a real job didn't start his own company he didn't have no car he drove your car he lived on in your apartment that's in your name okay now this the person that you complaining about not paying child support and not giving you a dime for your child but this who you were sleeping with now let me ask you now when you slept with him did he draw you slip something in your drink no okay did he hold you down and make you no oh okay did he pay you for it like was you working in the streets no okay okay all right okay all right now now listen now i took y'all through that whole scenario cause this is a real conversation this is a real conversation that i have with a family member this is a real conversation and i ain't worried about her seeing this because she don't watch video because it's too real for too much truth for people don't want to hear the truth they won't live in a mess but i took you through that whole thing because that's what i want you to do that's what i want you to do for yourself if you can't do it for yourself then you come to me you can find them on mymentor.life see that website mymentor.life if if i'm not available it's another coach it's other coaches on there we got several coaches on there there's hundreds of coaches on there to be specific so you get your coach and you talk to them about the man you dealing with and say well i want to talk i want to talk to you about the man that i'm dealing with and just you know want to see if you think he a good man anybody going to be able to tell you rachel can tell you and he can't see him helen keller could tell you and she and she can't hear him uh the lord could tell you and you can't hear him audibly anybody the jack in the box could tell you that little elf that you bring out at christmas that move around the house that you got to move around the house to tell you anybody can tell you if the man you're dealing with is worth your time so that scenario what i just took you through i want you to take yourself through that to evaluate who you dealing with evaluate who you dating who you sleeping with who you engage to evaluate who you married to if you marry see when you evaluate this the person that you could see you might not be dealing with nobody right now but you might meet them next week you might meet them next month and and this a thing y'all you know when you get desperate when you get lonely it's so many women that cry at night because they're alone and we could assume that humans were not intended to be alone and that's why when god made adam he later made eve because he did not intend for man to be alone when i say man i mean mankind not just males not just men he did not intend for mankind to be alone so i will attribute the crying and the frustration and the angry with god to the fact that your heart your spirit your body is yearning for companionship as humans if we don't have companionship we will die and when i say companionship i mean somebody to talk to i don't necessarily have to be a lover but it's kind of like in the prison system what they why they put people in solitary confinement because that is punishing to the human mind that punishes that annihilates the human mind it it will send a person it will make a person literally lose their mind that confinement that solitary confinement so we need friends associates companions what have you and it is a lot of women who are crying because they're alone it's not men are not crying because a man could go get the presence of a woman that easy it's so easy it's not as easy it's it's as easy for a woman but it's not in the average woman's nature it's in some women nature but it's not in the average woman's nature to go up and approach a man and to shoot her shot and to strike up a conversation to strike up a friendship just for the sake of companionship friendship you know to have somebody to talk to that's not in the average woman's nature that's that is in the average man's nature whether that be from that nature be designed by society or whether it's innate um the jury is still out on it and so but society plays a huge role in that so think about this you are desperate you lonely okay you you you desperate and you lonely hold on quick god sent in my eye you desperate and you lonely and you tired if your body doesn't experienced what that pole feel like you yearning the house of polling you you ready you missing it you want you something and so you yearning for it cause you you want that fix the reason why you want that fix is because when you get it you get a release you've heard of dopamine serotonin oxytocin you get a release from your brain that release changes your chemistry in your body it changes the way you feel you feel uh maxwell you feel that so if you felt that you start to miss it you start to yearn for it that's why a lot of y'all is trying to get me to condone y'all toys and i'm cursing y'all toys that's the the devil with the battery in his back so stay away from them toys and focus on the lord pray if you need to drink prune juice if you need to have your bottle of olive oil to put on your forehead every night when you lay down you need to turn the the preaching channel on turn the gospel music channel on so that way if you go to reach and grab that toy you hear that never would have made it and you like oh lord let me put this down and you just the lord will call you right on into his presence and you leave that toy right well where is that but see you missing all of this if you had you a man with a muscle and you used to ruin that old shoulder use the massage to move that old neck that old thick neck he had used to roar that bite you missing it used to feel it beard rub up against your chin your cheek when he hugged you you missing the touch and the feel and the smell and the presence of a man you need to change your tire you need to go get a oil chain your car needs washing you need to change the light in the ceiling this stuff that your ex-boyfriend used to do for you and now you get down there and you going to put air in your tire and you stick it on there and the thing pop off of them and the air shooting around and you next thing you know you down at the why am i low and you going through you calling on the lord and it's literally women who have just bust out in tears when they doing something that they would have had a man do for them and they mess up on it or it's not working out or they can't figure it out they'll break out in tears so guess what you go through that and that is why when you meet this man who has these vices that's why you overlook it because you're not happy alone you have not done the work alone you have not read the books you have not gotten the coaching you have not started the business or built the business or invested in the business you have not done the work so therefore you are operating from angst from fear from frustration from desperation from low self-esteem from loneliness you operating from every place but self-love so when you get this man when you get this man i'm getting tired we on long stretch not whoo how do you take a breath oh lord i'm getting tired now i'm trying ay we trying to go tonight hold on y'all give me look a little longer hey i need to usher bring me more napkin bring more more low listen you tired so when you meet this man when you meet this man guess what you overlook devices you say oh well he he he smokey but like that's like illegal in 39 states like i mean legal it's legalized now in 39 states and so it's like what's the big deal and it's like god made the ground and the soil and this is a leaf that grows it's not made in a lab by evil men dr jekyll and mr hyde this was created by god he is smoking from god's garden like what's the big deal tony gaskins give me a break and then the other issue is that you might smoke so because you smoke you think there ain't nothing wrong with it because you functioning fine because you are a functioning junkie that's what we call it all right now now you're offended i know you oh i'm logging off it get me out this video you trying to exit you trying to get out this video so fast no i'm telling you what the service what the hustlers when i was in the street hustling you smoke what we call you a functioning junkie because me and my my plug my connect which was my cousin we didn't smoke we didn't smoke my cousin spent 20 years in the streets heavy 10 toes down did not smoke did not smoke and used to always say don't get high on your own supply and told me he said cool i know they say we didn't harmless but i ain't never seen one client stay the same and i had the same observation and i was unlocked up five years i had the same observation so because you might be smoking see this is the thing that's the problem with a lot of women today is that women used to be the backbone women used to be the stabilizer women used to be the prayer warrior and in some cases that is the case but today because of the influences on women because you got women out here just talking nasty about whop and just showing all this stuff and just being nasty and you got women like on beyonce level that's putting up with cheating and making songs about it praising the cheating making money off the cheating oh you cheated album tour on the run tour tour money millions hey do you want to cheat again with becky with a good half of what we just made 80 million whoa where are you gonna cheat again hurry up and cheat again cuz that was lemonade next time finna do uh cd called coca-cola go whoa that's gonna sell so now beyonce want jay-z to cheat again so now she can make coca-cola she already did lemonade now she getting ready to do fruit punch so because of these influences women saying well if beyonce getting cheated on i would give him a hall pass here go cheat because i do not because listen i don't have the energy to be writing music and all that my back hurt so here just go cheat because if this man cheated on beyonce i ain't got a chance in the world hallelujah got cheated on yeah who else go get two girlfriends she got cheated around too you know what just invite your girlfriend to the bedroom and we'll just do threesome folsom like will and the entanglement just come on we'll just just just entangle men i'm tired so today that's what's happening with women today so nine women smoking like a chimney women drinking like a fish women sliding down a pole women inviting the girlfriend in women okay in the cheating so today what used to be the stabilizer what used to be the backbone satan that took him broke it same trying to break the backbone because he say already know these men shout out i already know they lost they might already know these men ain't gonna do right unless the woman do right so you know what i'm gonna attack the one so what i'm gonna do i'm gonna make her feel i'm gonna make her have disdain for the man i'm going to make her say she need to think like a man she need to act like a man i'm going to make her cheat too i'm going to make her i'm going to convince her that she need to cheat before he cheats i'm going to convince her that she need to allow him to cheat does she need to invite other women in the relationship because i'm gonna put so much fear in her and so much anxiety in her that she gonna tell him to invite another woman in a relationship so that way i'm gonna destroy the home because when they children look up to them they don't look so lost and so confused they tears are gonna be raising themselves so not a children going to be having at 12 years old because they see what mama and daddy doing they see daddy and gay mama black out they see mom on the bus daddy in the head daddy leaking blood out the head now they grow up they punching their friend in the nose at school now they on the bus look give me something up they hunting on the bus they riding the bus to their friend house where they mama worked until midnight and they over there getting a train ran on the door oh yeah all that's happening this happened when i was coming up so can you imagine what's happening today can you imagine what's happened in the day when i was coming up in middle school it was sixth graders it was a girl in a sick raid yeah and had a mama and daddy but the world was raising them she was for the streets and had a mama and daddy and you know why it's because mama shout out dad is shout out i don't mean addicted to drugs sometimes that's the case but i mean you so focused on your loneliness you so focused on your brokenness you're so focused and when i say focus on your brokenness i mean you operating from broken not trying to fix it you're so focused on your desperation you so focus on your sexual needs that you can't even be a strong mother or father for your children that's the issue right now with this world that's what's going on so you got to evaluate who you with and then the thing about it is if the stuff i mentioned you doing you got to evaluate yourself why are you smoking who introduced you to it who introduced you to it when y'all did it why did you do it did the doctor tell you smoke this smoke this is gonna save your life smoke this you're gonna live longer someone that you're gonna you're gonna have just undeniable happiness for the rest of your life is that what a doctor told you no then why are you smoking who's who's [ __ ] oh your ex boyfriend got you into it oh okay oh you're homegirl i got you into it oh little dude you're sleeping oh that's what got you into oh oh you trying to be cool are you trying to fit in oh and now you're addicted oh okay okay now you're dead and now you get mad when people tell you that you're wasting your life away that you corrode your esophagus that your lungs getting black that you that you alter in the chemistry of your brain now you get mad oh now you want to argue oh so so now you going on google to find articles to stake your claim that this right here what you smoking harm oh okay all right go ahead all right go ahead you can have that you ain't fooling nobody ain't full of nobody so why you drink like a fish when i say drink like a fish i mean get drunk i don't mean drink socially understand that i mean you get drunk you you drink it to wash your sorrows away to wash your words away the wash the curb your anxiety or whatever it is you know depression whatever you feeling that's why you drink why you do that who started you who who introduced you to it what what happened in your life what legitory was it grief was it loneliness was it ignorance was it immaturity was it adolescent behavior what what led you to it all right see we might have to go a little longer today i don't know i'm gonna have to go across an hour today i don't know i'm on phone probably getting ready to die but um so see you got to evaluate the person you went then if the issue with you evaluate you because see it ain't always the other person now and see i mentioned all these vices but in addition to those vices you got anger issues you got uh communication issues so you got some other things that's not necessarily uh not necessarily advice it's not a vice but it's a personality issue it's a character issue it's a maturity issue and if the person that you with or that you're getting with or that you dating or whoever married to or whatever if they have it that issue or if they don't have it and you have it then you got to evaluate you so see this the thing is that a lot of women who have their vices a lot of women want to watch nasty movies because they was exposed to it at a young age or they was put on to it by a friend or a boyfriend in their past and they got addicted to it and so now they love it and they need it it's a fix it's an issue and so because they are headed to it now they okay in a relationship with the man but what a lot of women don't understand is that there's different reactions there's different reactions to these stimuli so [Music] a man is gonna smoking is gonna do something different to a man than it does to a woman there will be some similarities but it's gonna be different gambling will be different will do something different to a man than it does to a woman there will be some similarities and there will be some women who react the same way as a man but it'll be a lot of women who like for example my wife has no interest no interest whatsoever in playing the lotto or doing a scratch off my wife has never bought a lotto ticket or a scratch off when that make a million when that make a million across 400 million [Music] i'll be right in the lobby in that line i said well what about going through to talk about lotto and this is how we'll do the bible now the bible talk the bible speaks against gambling in in quick riches trying to come up come up it's trying to come up the bible talk about if you sprout up fast you it's gonna wither away you're gonna lose it fast so if you take shortcuts and get get money fast you're gonna lose it fast bob will talk about that that's why we say as christian that's why we say the lotto and gambling and stuff like that is a sin the bible does talk about it you don't but see but see how we do as christian we we looking lotto lotto lotto lotto lotto lotto don't see lotto lotto go on google lotto is lotto in the bible no lotto is not in the box okay all right give me five of them make a million tickets and so i remember one time uh it was years ago i bought me fifty five dollars for work for uh mega million tickets lord forgiveness and i said lord nah i don't know if they're right or wrong but my mother-in-law being now speaking in tongues and anointing and praying and she played lotto so lord maybe you gave her a revelation that did a lot in the wrong a lot of i heard a pastor play lotto i saw a christian lloyd i saw a christian on the news i literally saw chris on the news she won 27 million dollars and someone she's gonna get 10 percent to her church i say wow so christian is condoning a lot all night so i went and got me first right off i went every night in i get me a scratch off now it's been a long time but i used to get me a little scratch off look hey give me five dollars from one dollar scratch off my wife has no interest in that that's the difference between a man and a woman men like to take chances men like the gamble men like to bet on themselves men get a high out of competition you see michael jordan michael jordan the greatest basketball player to ever play the game when you watch a documentary or you study michael jordan one thing you're gonna see that was synonymous with his basketball was gambling [Music] yeah them athletes yeah you hear me uh look here i'm talking about millions but guess what the pro-women athletes are not doing that you might have some a couple but they're not doing that why men and women are different so just because as a woman it's a lot of women who are seen as classy women who will be faithful women and they curse oh hold on somebody don't know i'll yeah right back hold on see i might have signs [Music] all right thank you all right thank you [Music] all right hey i'm biting now hold on why are we ordering stuff that need a signature you know when you order certain stuff from certain places they need a sick now what i was saying was a lot of women do things that men do so it's a lot of women that i'll be talking bad about cursing because it's just potty mouth it's filthy and then i will be coaching a woman who has everything going for her and she cursed like a sailor if this i was like what the f i'd be like now me i don't curse so when i hear a woman curse it it seemed like shock waves down my spine so i eat this it make me throw up in my mouth a little bit but i don't judge people i said okay all right i'm one of them all right one of those curses okay god bless all right but it's a lot of women curse but it just that's where they come from it's who they hang around it's just everybody curse it make the senate sound better and make the sentence a little funnier i guess you know but y'all notice i don't say a single curse word and do you get your laugh on these videos i don't know i ain't telling you no jokes but i don't curse and so but guess what so a woman cursing has total different implications than a man cursing because when men curse women possess the cognitive skills that men that most men lack so a woman is articulate and able to express herself so whereas a woman may insert a curse word intentionally for effect a man may insert a curse word because he doesn't know another word to go there and where a woman may curse and be completely calm a man if he's cursing and he's if she's cursing when she's angry she still can curse and be angry without committing assault a man if he's cursing when he's angry an assault is about to ensue you see what i mean because men and women are different now you will have some overlapping you have some women that they go off the same way men do and you have some men who can stay calm the same way a lot of women can so you have some overlapping but it's different so when you look at this man that you dealing with you gotta evaluate his vices evaluate his personality evaluate his choices if he has some things that are not good but you do the same thing evaluate yourself and change and if you do something that you know you need to work on that you know ain't all the way right it doesn't excuse him doing it instead get yourself right before you get in a relationship and you change and you grow so that you can require change and growth from him so you stop smoking you stop cursing like a sailor you stop smoking like a chimney you stop drinking like a fish you stop clubbing like a dj you start gambling like a casino you stop doing you start watching nasty movies you stop and you change so that when you get with him you can require the same because if he has those vices it has total different implications in most cases and it will derail your relationship and that's how you end up a single mama that's how you end up broke busted and discussing gotta go

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Published: Tue Aug 18 2020