Why doesn’t he want a good woman?

hey Tony gas is here answering a very important question why doesn't he want a good woman now I hear this all the time first I need you to understand that me explaining men is not excusing men I'm just trying to bring some clarity to some of the strange things that men do now understand this women come in all the time and they say look I got a good job I'm ambitious I take care of myself I got my own car I got my own house you know I love God or whatever it may be is just like this list of all of these good qualities and I look around as a man and I see it and I have a lot of clients that fall into those same categories but women are wondering why doesn't he want a good woman and you look up and you've heard the term be winning Hof be winning you heard the term and you may see sometimes and you may feel like that you may see this woman get married who you know she's been all around the block up and down left and right maybe somebody you went to school with or it could be a celebrity you see online and you like how are these women getting married and I'm still single or I got a man who doesn't even want to do right by me or I'm going through divorce after divorce let me help you understand this from the male perspective so when you look at a relationship you have to remember that love is a moral Act so what that means is a man has to have a high level of morals but not just for a year this is when you get married you have to have high morals for a lifetime some men may already have a plan that they're gonna get a divorce at some point 10 years 15 20 years some men go in knowing that they're not going to do this for life what they're doing is for that season of the life it sounds crazy it is crazy I'm not excusing it but what you have to realize is that when a man looks over the course of his future he says you know what I hope to live 30 more years 40 more years 50 more years so if I get married that means that I'm expected to be with that woman until death does us part but then he asked himself the question can I be with one woman for the rest of my life and for a man who has been sexually active and he's been promiscuous and he's been with more than one woman already that is a tough question to ask especially if he does not draw on some strength from other places so me I've drawn the strength in my belief in God me being a Christian me living by those values I draw him that not every man has that same belief system so he may feel alone and he's dependent on himself and when he has to answer that question it's hard for him to imagine being able to say yes to the question of can I be with one woman for the rest of my life so what you have to realize is that a good woman is also a strong woman a good woman is a strong woman who has morals and values she has standards she has self-respect she has class so with this woman this woman is going to require that a man bring his best to the table just like she is doing so if she is feeding her mind body and spirit in a healthy way you want to make sure that that man is doing the same if you as a woman are going to go into a relationship with the intention of being 100% faithful you want that man we'll be 100% faithful if you aren't gonna be yelling and cursing him out then you don't want him yelling and cursing you out so what happens is so many men today are immature because they have not been raised they've just grown up so because so many men are immature so many men lacked a good father figure so many men lacked a strong mother who raised him to be a king who raised him to be an upstanding man so many men had mothers who pampered them because the mom was afraid to offend the son because she didn't want him to run away from her to go live with his dad that she kissed his butt she pampered him she spoiled him gave him any and everything he wanted gave him his way so he was raised to believe that women are his footstool that women are there for his disposal so this man is this what you have to realize because a lot of times you look at him like how is this man choosing that woman what you have to realize is that just because he's tall dark and handsome just because he has a good job just because he went to a good school just because he's a doctor or a lawyer or a millionaire or successful does not mean that he is a real man so you have to understand that when you see a man with a woman that is not a good woman that means that is not a good man and when you understand that you will stop feeling like you're losing out on something they know that you say our winning are not winning I wrote a whole chapter about that in my book make it work they are not winning just because you get married don't mean that you've won a prize what's going on behind the scenes so when you see this one who doesn't respect her body doesn't carry herself with class she is just everything the opposite of what you are or what you would raise your daughter to be and she has a husband and it looks like on the outside they're doing amazing remember you cannot see what's going on behind closed doors and that the reason why he doesn't want a good woman is because he doesn't want to be held accountable think about this now if a woman standards have been stripped if her self-worth have been stripped then guess what when he cheese she is going to forgive when he cheats again she is going to forgive when he cheats again she is going to propose that instead of him cheating they just bring the other woman into their relationship guess what that is a grown boys dream so that is why you see these men today choosing women who you would say is not a good woman is not a classy woman is not worth the ring those same women guess what they're just like the man they were not raised they just grew they just grew up into adult bodies but they were not raised they were not tall and they don't have the same standards and values and morals and belief system about life so what happens is this woman and you can't blame the woman because she's lost hurting confused and just looking for love so you can't we can't look down on her and talk bad about her and then with the man because I could say you can't blame the man because he wasn't raised right and all of those things but it comes a point for the man because we are the one who have to get on one knee we have to be responsible with our choices and with who we are as a man it comes a point as a man that even if you weren't raised right you still know right because you've seen enough of it around you but these men get to the place to where they don't want any accountability they don't want any authority they don't want anybody to tell them what they can and cannot do so to say you can't sleep with other women they're not trying to hear that to say you can't take out your anger on me you can't be cursing me out and beating on me and and you know verbally abusive and emotionally abusive they don't want to hear that and so that is why those type of men choose those type of women even if those men appear to be good man because it's a lot of times women from the outside say oh this guy over here this is a good man I know a good man he's and he chose a no-good woman so it that ain't the only reason ain't no reason why man don't want a good woman there it is the reason and you just don't know that man because you haven't had to lie down with him and live with him and be with him 24/7 but that man is lost hurting and confused and you attract what you are so just because he have a has a good job but he may look good to the eye does not mean his inner man has been worked on and has been fixed and that is why he chooses the type of women that he chooses and that man will get married to that woman because really he's getting married for the look because marriage makes us appear complete it does I'm not saying that's what it means but it makes us come up here complete even like in recruiting in professional sports like they look and they want to know if the athlete is married because it represents it represents stability in the industry in in actors and public figures a lot of them get married have you ever seen a president that's not marry because marriage represents stability even in our own minds it does not mean that that's what it makes you because it's a lot of people who unstable and married but it represents that so that's why a lot of men go get married but those men who don't have character and integrity and they don't want to be held accountable they marry a woman that looks good or she may not look good but they that man knows on the inside she won't hold him accountable she won't make him be faithful or expect for him to be faithful she will deal will deal with what he gives her put up with what he gives her and that's why he chooses her so the whole purpose of this message is for you to understand if you are woman watching this I want you to understand that if you are not married right now to a good man don't feel like something is wrong with you just because you see other women getting married who you feel are not good women now you're gonna see good women that get married and they just met their husband happened to be in the right place right time your time is coming too but when you see women who you see have their own their class and self respect out the window getting married don't feel like something is wrong with you and that you got to do what they're doing meaning giving your body on the first night you know dropping your standards giving up everything that you know and love about yourself don't feel like you got to change that just because you see these other women getting married understand that those women that you would say are not good women are not marrying a real man those women are marrying grown boys and they are going through a whole lot behind closed doors that you would never imagine or that you may have imagined but you won't allow yourself to believe but me I'm on the other side and eventually one thing happens eventually those women who appear to be winning wake up and realize that they're losing and then they come to find people like me life coaches relationship coaches and they share those stories and behind closed doors the stuff that goes on you would never believe it you would never believe it because of that man's image in the public but he thought he had one thing and then sometimes those women find themselves along the way and realize that they've been bamboozled that their kindness has been taken for weakness and that their insecurities and their pain and everything that they're struggling with has been preyed upon by a weak insecure loss hurting and Confused broken man who was trying to find somebody that is more broke than he is so that he can take advantage and continue to wallow in his ignorance immaturity and insecurity so a I hope that helps answer that question to the young lady that sent that to me thank you so much I'm gonna start reading some of these email from inbox at Tony Gaskins calm that's the email address inbox at Tony Gaskins calm you can send a question there if you have a basic question or if it's a longer question but don't send it if you want if you don't want me to read it on a video the email address is inbox at Tony Gaskins calm hey god bless you we'll talk soon

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Length: 14min 30sec (870 seconds)

Published: Tue Nov 12 2019