r/Relationships Should I Get My Entitled Niece Arrested?

welcome to our slash relationship advice where Opie overhears her boyfriend's parents saying incredibly racist things about her my boyfriend displayed my nudes on a wall of women he and his friends have slept with I feel like my life is ruined this all just happened one hour ago so I'm really shaken sorry if it's too long my boyfriend and I have been together for two years and four months we've met at the college we go to my parents live in the same city where our school is but my boyfriend lives about 6 hours away when school is in session we both live on campus I haven't been able to see him since it closed due to Kovan and we had to go home some background my boyfriend has a group of friends in his hometown that I've never liked they've been friends since high school and believe me when I say that they still belong in high school two of them are brothers from a rich family who don't work or go to school they spend their days smoking weed and playing video games one of the other friends is in the military and the last two friends as well as my boyfriend are in college but all go to different schools it's pretty rare that they're all home at the same time especially with one being in the military so he's away a lot my boyfriend is really protective of the time they have together I've spent a lot of time with these guys because every time I visit my boyfriend's hometown I see at least the two brothers you may be wondering why I don't like these friends for one they don't believe in girlfriends my boyfriend is the only one in the group who's been in a relationship for longer than a few months they think women are good for passionate hugging and not much else I am not putting words in their mouths one of them literally told me that to my face I am very outspoken so they hate me because I called him out on their BS it goes without saying that it's basically their mission to convince my boyfriend to dump me whenever there's an issue between his friends and I he just tries to stay out of it he doesn't stand up for me I hate who he becomes when he's trying to impress these douchebags the majority of our arguments has been a result of him allowing his friends to treat me like garbage they've been rude or blatantly ignored me my boyfriend is the calmest sweetest most wonderful person or so I thought I never understood why he kept him around when it was so clear to me he had outgrown them it appeared that they had pretty much nothing in common I see now how alike they are after all further record I knew I should have held him more responsible for his friends however it was just too easy to put them out of my mind they were only ever an issue if they were outwardly rude to me during one of the few weeks per year I hung out with them the rest of the time he was a really great boyfriend I never imagined him hurting me this way back to this story the two brothers live in a house that's detached from the main one their parents live in it's where they all usually hang out I've been there many times it has its own kitchen and everything it's literally a smaller house they also have a basement that I've only seen a couple of times because it's their mancave I never cared to enter anyway I had no idea but apparently down there all the friends had this wall that has their names on it and pictures of the women that they've each passionately hugged apparently not all the pictures are sexual but most of them are nude because they had this sick point system like it's a game and they get more point if the picture is a nude I guess all the pictures look like they were taken with the knowledge of the woman in the photo but I doubt any of them knew it was going to be a being tacked up on display they had been doing this for years I'm disgusted and horrified and devastated because I had no idea this is the type of man I was with I found out because I'm friends with a sister of the two brothers and she saw the wall herself she reached out only to me because I'm the only one she knows personally she said that my boyfriend had the least amount of pictures by his name she showed me the picture of me he had tacked on the wall it was a full-body nude I'd sent over a year ago thankfully it doesn't have my face in it but I have a tattoo on my thigh that makes it very obvious the woman in the picture is me I would never consent to let those guys see my body that way I let my boyfriend because I trusted him I feel shocked embarrassed betrayed violated objectified and a little frightened I called my boyfriend I admit in hysterics it took many attempts before he was able to understand what I was saying he at first denied the existence of the wall then he admitted it exists but he didn't use a real picture of me he used a picture of someone else and pretended it was me I told him I had seen the picture and knew it was me then he started sobbing hysterically begging for forgiveness then he was annoyed at me for being so upset and asked what's the big deal since I'm hot anyway I just hung up because I can't talk to him I can't look at him I feel physically nauseous thinking about what he did how he could not only share my news with his friends who look down on me who treat me badly for being a woman he allowed those men to have access to my body I've never been so wrong about a person I could never forgive him I think I may wanna press charges if I can get the sister to send me more pictures at the wall but I'm sure my boyfriend has alerted his friends so they could be taking it down as I typed this I am heartbroken I don't know what I'm gonna tell my family because they're very conservative they don't even know about my tattoo I am so ashamed I don't know what to do Opie this is a pretty huge violation of trust and you shouldn't feel ashamed at all this is a clear-cut deal-breaker in my book and in my opinion you should definitely dump um and more than that yeah I would definitely press charges not only do you and all those other girls deserve justice for what they're doing but on top of that it's the most reliable way to safely destroy that picture of you I strongly encourage you to look up the revenge porn laws in your state because this sounds like a clear-cut violation our next reddit post system throw away 89 my boyfriend's a 25 year old male and I'm a 23 year old female we've been dating for a year now to give a bit more context he's white and a hundred percent Canadian and I was born in Kenya I moved to Canada when I was one I had never met his parents because they lived three hours away from us and he's not super close to them anyway when lockdown started in both of our jobs closed he asked if I wanted to spend a few weeks with them so I could meet them and visit his hometown I said sure sounds fun we drove there on a Friday night and when my boyfriend introduced me to his parents they were super nice we were talking laughing all that good stuff when it was getting late my boyfriend and I decided to prepare for bed and went upstairs when he was already in bed he realized he forgot his charger downstairs and asked me if I could please go get it when I was walking down the stairs I heard his they're still at the kitchen table mentioned my name so being nosy I stopped and listened they said I was nice and I was happy to hear that but then his father said it's a shame she's an n-word though his mother answered as long as he doesn't marry her it's fine and he won't he knows we would be disappointed I kind of froze up waited for them to change the subject got my boyfriend's charger and went upstairs I don't know how to feel and I still don't I'm lucky enough to have never dealt with this kind of racism so I'm a bit lost on what to do what his mother said implies my boyfriend knows his parents are not happy with him being with me is this why he's waited so long to introduce him to me and why didn't he warn me that his parents don't want him dating a black girl do I even talk to him about it I don't want to cause more drama but at the same time I'm mad and also sad I know we're not there yet but what his parents disapproval stopped him from marrying me and if we have kids with her grandparents hate them because they're not wide enough I love my boyfriend so much and I know he loves me but I don't know what to do and how to go about this and then Opie posted an update I decided to tell my boyfriend what happened I told him last night at 2:00 a.m. he was livid I barely had time to finish the story before he started packing our bags he kept on apologizing for the situation he put me in and I could see how horrible he felt about all of this he told me he wanted to talk to his parents about what they said and asked if I wanted to be part of the conversation or if I'd rather wait in the car not being a person who likes confrontation at all I hesitated but ultimately said I wanted to be there I just didn't want to actively participate in the conversation I was too uncomfortable he woke his parents up sat them down and told them what I'd heard they were clearly extremely uncomfortable and kind of just stared at him like they couldn't believe he was doing this he told them it was unacceptable and how ashamed he was of them he also told them that when and if we would decide to speak to them again they'd better be ready to sincerely apologize and do better because he wouldn't tolerate anything else he also mentioned that their opinion would have no impact on who he would decide to marry his mom looked like she wanted to say something but he didn't let her he got up and we left we were quite shaken up on the ride home but he took the time to explain to me why his parents behaved this way basically he remembers his parents making racist remarks here and there when he was little not just about black people but people of color in general he didn't really know it was wrong until he got out of his hometown and realized his parents were very wrong in their views with time he saw his parents less and less because their views regarding race and other issues just didn't align with his at all anymore and it would create animosity every time he visited them when he met me even before we came a couple and we're just friends he would often post pictures of us on Facebook and his parents would see them they never mentioned anything when they learned that we were a couple they said they wanted to meet me and he wasn't sure of their sincerity he said they talked about me when they would call him and for a whole year my boyfriend basically tried to make sure that they were actually okay with our relationship his parents kept saying not to worry that they'd learned from their past mistakes asking him to trust them after a year he finally believed them and that's when he decided to introduce us he was so happy to see how nice and accepting they were towards me he said it himself he was too naive he was pretty much crying telling me this but I could tell he tried not to because he felt responsible and didn't want to make it about himself maybe it makes me dumb but I don't blame him I know him and he wouldn't put me in a situation like that on purpose I believe him when he says he truly thought they changed he apologized numerous times and told me I never had to see them again and that he wouldn't either for a very long while he already wasn't close with them and this situation didn't help at all he made it a point to say that what his mother said about him wasn't true that he wouldn't marry me because he knows they would disapprove we talked about it a lot last night we barely slept and I decided I do want to stay with him a big majority of the comments under my last post told me that my best option was to leave him and a lot of it coming from persons of color and I understand why but I do love him very much and I really don't want to leave him because his parents hate our relationship I think I would regret it I'm not saying it'll be easy and maybe I'm making a mistake but I want to be with him maybe it's disappointing to a lot of you but it's my decision Opie I don't think you're disappointing anybody by saying you're gonna stick with your boyfriend your boyfriend sounds like a total catch to be honest he handled that situation perfectly and I can't think of a single thing I would have rather had him do differently our next reddit post is from throw away nice police should I a 40 year old female report my niece who's 17 to the police my parents are going away for Christmas so before they did they hosted an early Christmas party at their home which my whole family went to including me my husband and our 16 year old daughter Laura my sister and her daughter Rachel were there too she's a year older than Laura and they don't get along in fact we try to avoid them as much as we can due to the amount of times that Rachel was upset and tormented Laura rachel is naturally very smart and as always top of her class and it's also very pretty while I've been happy for and wished her the best these things have constantly been used to excuse her my sister even went as far as to accuse Laura of lying because she's jealous of Rachel's looks and talents Laura took up boxing last year and has progressed really well she's going to compete at a higher level next year and her coach is extremely proud of her my sister has insisted that the boxing is nothing more than a phase and has gone out of her way to downplay it in favor of her daughter's academic stuff at my parents place Laura went to sort out some presents under the tree and Rachel followed her she was wearing stiletto high heels and when Laura had her hand on the floor Rachel stomped on it she was in agony we went to the hospital and after a follow-up visit to the doctor today Laura needs extensive physio and will not be able to box for an indefinite period she's in floods of tears because of this I was raging at my sister who's so deluded that she insists that it was an accident I'm sorry but after years of calling Laura ugly stupid fat and any anything else she could think of do you really expect me to believe that this was an innocent mistake Rachel for her part put on the crocodile tears for everyone and only her parents believed it my husband wants to call the police and I do too I warned my sister about this and she broke down crying to saying that her daughter's teachers have encouraged her to apply to the top universities because they think she has a good chance of getting in and that if she ends up with a criminal record then that will be ruined no sympathy for me frankly Rachel took something that my daughter loves away from her and left her in huge amounts of pain she shouldn't just have her chances ruined she should get locked up I know it sounds awful of me but she did an awful thing and needs to face the consequences laura is utterly heartbroken and Rachel's parents won't punish her yeah Opie you can call the cops but my guess is that they probably aren't gonna do anything about it I mean yeah sure father report it's just that's probably as far as it's gonna go I think your best bet is to just cut your sisters family out of your lives entirely your niece is toxic and abusive to your daughter and your sister is an enabler as much as I would love for that abusive nice to get a dose of justice my guess is that her parents and the cops aren't gonna give it to her so your best bet is to just protect your daughter and keep her away from that woman our next reddit post is from throw away spicy robot I'm a 31 year old male and my wife is also 31 we've been married for two and a half years she's very close with her sister and sometimes stays over for movie nights Girl Talk etc I have no problem with it lately her sisters been having problems at work and drama with her other siblings due to the stress she's been asking my wife to spend the night more often this has been annoying my wife since she says she's unable to have any time to herself this week my wife has stayed over three times including tonight which is a little odd on the way home from hanging with a friend I became paranoid and made the decision to drive by and check if she was really there it was dark out but it looked like her car wasn't there shortly after I texted her that I made it home she said that she was getting ready to leave her sister's place we've been having issues with intimacy for a while and she's made a promise to work on it these issues are starting to make me feel that she may be looking outside of our marriage to have her needs met I want to confront her about her not being at her sisters but I'm worried that I may be wrong also we're planning on attending a fireworks show with friends and Memorial Day and don't want to make things awkward would I be wrong to confront her and then Opie posted an update the morning when she got home her phone received a notification when she was sleeping the messages were from an old college crush apparently she's been meeting him for passion hugging instead of visiting her sister this has been going on for over a year she's met him at his place and our place they were all so emotionally involved she asked him for more passionate hugging than she did with me for our entire marriage she managed to meet with him whenever I was away at work or with my friends I confronted her and she tried to lie about everything I backed her into a corner with evidence and she eventually came clean she cried and tried apologizing several times but I left the house I had small suspicions over the years but I thought I was just being paranoid we haven't passionately hugged since we've been married and have been through counseling everything was great in our relationship otherwise there was nothing wrong with her libido she just enjoyed passionate hugging with the other guy and coming home to paid bills I'm so depressed and angry I did everything I could to be a great husband I didn't deserve any of this this will most likely cause trust issues in my future relationships Opie that's rough buddy but I might have some good news for you in a lot of locations a marriage that hasn't been consummated is typically grounds for annulment so I recommend talking to a lawyer because you might be able to get out of that marriage super easily that was our slash relationship advice and if you liked this video then hit that subscribe button because I put out new reddit videos every single day

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Length: 17min 17sec (1037 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 10 2020