r/Relationships I Think My Entitled Nephew Is Trying To Murder Me!

welcome to our slash relationship advice where Opie's grandparents walk in on her getting spanked by her boyfriend hi I'm going crazy with this I have a bad feeling in my gut and I'm completely creeped out by my boyfriend's dad but I'm not sure if I'm thinking too much I could be completely wrong and maybe I'm making a big deal out of nothing but please read and tell me what you think please I don't know what else to do I'll write everything down and it might be long but please read I really need some help I don't want to accuse someone for no reason my boyfriend is an essential worker and is not home most of the time my boyfriend is not close to his dad we've been dating for two years and I've never met his dad he grew up with his stepfather and mom and I've only met them his bio dad cheated on his mom multiple times and was absent throughout his childhood his bio dad only contacted him a year ago and has been trying to have a relationship with him since then during quarantine his bio dad insisted that we come live with him for a while because he lives alone it'll be helpful my boyfriend agreed and we've been quarantined with his dad for almost two months now boyfriends dad is a little creepy and he's really scaring me he looked like a decent man at first but lately I'm scared to even go near him especially when my boyfriend's not home his dad has been trying to ask me weird things initially I thought he was just trying to be friendly his questions were normal like how long have you been dating for or how was your relationship with my son what do your parents do etc but over time he started asking weird stuff and making random comments like is my son satisfying you sexually how's your sex life you look like you're very submissive in bed I love submissive girls etc I honestly thought he was joking and I used to nervously laugh and answer him I thought he would stop but he would just laugh along with me and ask more questions he told me that he's really good at pleasing young girls even if they're a bit inexperienced he offered to give me some tips or show me I was able to politely decline but he wouldn't back off he also just stares at me all the time like without blinking it's just as creepy stare I don't know if you know what I'm talking about it scares the bejesus out of me a few days ago I was taking a nap in my room and he just came into my room and sat on the chair when I woke up it was like I was inside a horror movie he was just sitting in the chair staring at me I asked him what he was doing and he said he was looking for a book in my shelf he uses that excuse a lot and comes into my room and rummages through the shelf for no reason I feel like it's just an excuse to talk to me and ask me weird things he never touches me usually but he grabbed my butt jokingly yesterday he laughed and joked I had a nice bud and walked away like it was nothing I had no idea how to react and I just stood there for like 15 minutes because I had no idea what to do and it was so awkward he's getting creepier and creepier as days pass and he keeps making jokes and comments about how he was a very experienced older man and he could teach me a lot of things if I would just cooperate he loudly says that he's very curious about how me and my boyfriend passionately hug he always laughs and I honestly have no idea if he's joking or serious I got really upset at something he said last week something about me and my boyfriend being incompatible I got really angry because I thought he was serious he apologized very quickly and told me it was a joke he would never say something like that it was sarcasm and he looks so remorseful that I felt bad and I apologized I'm so confused and paranoid I have no idea what to do please tell me if this is me taking a joke too literally or if it's really serious I feel so stupid I'm a timid person and I have terrible anxiety and this is really stressing me out I don't want to jump to conclusions and ruin my boyfriend and dad's relationship they seem to be getting along lately and I feel like if I say anything I'll destroy their newly budding relationship Opie you need to listen to me very carefully this is grooming behavior you're being groomed this guy is constantly pushing the boundary to see what you can get away with and every time he pushes it a little bit more you need to get out of this house yesterday run do not walk to the nearest exit and don't look back also your boyfriend definitely needs to know what type of man his father is our next word it post isn't throwaway out writer my 39 year old husband wants to kick her 17 year old son out as soon as he graduates and I'm not so sure I agree our son is a senior at the moment but he's expected to be graduating this year he'll be turning 18 in August and that's when my husband wants to kick him out he's persistent in his beliefs and unwavering that he wants him to spread his wings and handle life on his own that also means we won't be giving him any sort of financial aid etc it's not as if her son is lazy he's a very hard worker and spends most of his time cracking the books or at after school football practice but he wanted to hold off on college just until you can get a good idea of what he wants personally I found it very mature of him to want to do that but my husband disagrees and thinks it's a sign of him being lazy and immature we've been arguing non-stop my argument is as long as he's working and helping out what's the harm in him staying why should one be expected to abandon their kids the moment they've become adults he's our only child our baby I want him to leave when he's ready I push him out so soon I sort of feel that as a mother I failed if I'm abandoning him so soon when he isn't ready down in the comments the scarlet guard made the perfect response I have a close friend whose parents did this to him after his first year of college completely shut off all financial aid or even communication with him saying that it was for his own good four years later someone who used to be the smartest and most hardworking person I knew is working as a pizza delivery driver and other odd jobs just to make ends meet he lives in a sucky apartment in the worst part of town this is a guy who was the top of his class and voted most likely to become successful if you want your son to have a good life help him that spreading his wings philosophy is BS and in my opinion something that lazy parents used to get rid of their kids children are a lifelong commitment and investment not something to be discarded after 18 years yeah I agree trying to survive on your own as an 18 year old is harder now than it's ever been so I can definitely understand what your husband is trying to accomplish and that you want to keep him happy but he's just absolute lutely wrong here I'm a 25 year old female and my grandparents walked in on me getting spanked by my 28 year old boyfriend I was raised by my grandparents and gave them a key to my place for emergencies well my grandma gets really worried if you don't reply to her text in an hour this specific day was the first day I saw my boyfriend in weeks because he had to go abroad for work and we wanted a bit of alone time we put our phones on silent so we wouldn't be disturbed apparently my grandma wanted me to pick something up for her and got worried when I didn't pick up the phone or respond to her text messages for a few hours she decided to come over to my apartment with my grandpa and she was worried and used the emergency key when they walked in i was splayed over my boyfriend's lap and we were both buck naked since we're the only people that live in the apartment we do whatever we want whenever we want this time on the couch which meant that my boyfriend's hand hovering over my bare butt was the first thing my grandparents saw when they walked in I've never seen two people back out of an apartment so quickly in my life my grandma still giggles nervously when she talks to me and my grandpa won't make eye contact with me when we FaceTime how do I make this less awkward a talk about my passionate hugging preferences is not one that I want to have with the people that raised me yeah Opie I wouldn't worry about it I feel like most people have had someone walk in on them it's embarrassing it's awkward but eventually you just get over it alternatively you could start barging in on your grandparents to catch them in the act and even the scores definitely not advice I would personally recommend but hey it's an option I'm a 20 year old girl and I think my 30 year old brother's kid who's 13 is a psychopath or something I'm staying with my parents for quarantine I live alone eight hours away and I don't have many friends I'm asthmatic and I don't have anyone to help me in case of emergencies so I'm back with my parents for the pandemic my brother was a teen dad and he's been married for about six years they have two children together one is 13 and the other is a six-year-old girl my brother and sister-in-law are here too and I'm beginning to suspect that my brother's kid is a psychopath I'm exaggerating maybe not a psychopath but something is definitely wrong with him my brother is not a bad person but he changed since he met my sister-in-law's so we don't see them often these days my sister-in-law doesn't like us especially me I'm bisexual and I have a girlfriend and sister-in-law is against it she constantly makes comments about it and he's usually caddy towards me her daughter is lovely and we get along well when sister-in-law isn't looking she doesn't let her daughter come near me in case I rape her because I like girls whatever I don't particularly like kids anyway but I have to say her daughter is a smart little girl I honestly wonder if she's adopted sometimes because she's not at all like her parents and brother anyway back to the topic my brother's 13 year old son is rude obnoxious and weird he constantly parades into my room and rubbed jizz through my things he stole my underwear and bra and doesn't listen to me he came into my room and actually cut my hair while I was sleeping I woke up to see my head looking like a rat ate it it wasn't much but he cut my bangs and I look like an idiot I got so angry and I cried so hard and sister-in-law made a comment that I was overreacting it's quarantine no one will see it it'll grow back f that he came into my room and cut my hair with scissors doesn't that make her worry as his mother the kid steals a lot he sold my earphones clothes my painting supplies etc and when I confront him about it he says he didn't take it when I searched his room and find it he says it's his and not mine how can a woman's bra be his that's right it's his girlfriend's there's always some excuse the kid is always rude to me and constantly makes homophobic and mean comments about me and my girlfriend I can't even come out of my room without hearing something hurtful he's always asking me if I know what a real man's member feels like his comments are always weirdly sexual but I feel like he's just repeating sister-in-laws words I'm sick and tired of fighting about this with my sister-in-law and brother my brother always has some kind of excuse he's a kid he's mature he's young boys will be boys I've heard it all the truth is his mother is a monster the kid is also rude to his sister he steals her food and shoves her when he's angry but I've only seen it once or twice as I've mentioned above I'm asthmatic I have two inhalers in case I ever lose one my attacks aren't that frequent but it does happen I've used my inhaler in front of him a few times and I know that he knows what it's used for he actually stole my inhalers he stole my new inhaler and went through my things and stole the second inhaler as well when I had an asthma attack I couldn't find my inhaler anywhere I freaked out and I was literally gasping for breath my mom had to search his room for my inhaler I finally got it but he didn't even look remorseful he called me a freak went back to playing video games like it was nothing my mom yelled at him but my sister-in-law said God was punishing me for my sins what the f it was her son not God what is wrong with her what's wrong with her son she just misses everything her son does to me as it's God's Way of punishing you what can I do in the situation what can I do to survive the rest of quarantine with him he's turning into a criminal or robber or a murderer I don't know I'm sorry for the ran I am angry and baffled I have to deal with this kid and listen to homophobic garbage every day and also suffer without seeing my girlfriend I feel like I'm losing my sanity please give me any advice you can thank you Opie let me be clear about this your number one priority is to get out of the house this is not a safe environment and if he keeps stealing your inhaler you could actually die if you can't leave because of the quarantine or whatever circumstances then your second priority needs to be putting a lock on your bedroom door ASAP make sure it's a lock with only one key that you have on your person at all times and now that we've got the important thing out of the way I don't think the kids a psychopath I think he's just an entitled kid his parents don't punish him so he just does whatever he wants and on top of that I would bet my youtube-channel that his mother is active encouraging it behind her back I wouldn't be surprised if she actively tells him what to do and then rewards him for it afterwards so overall I think the best thing you can do is to cut your sister-in-law and nephew out of your life go live with your girlfriend or get an apartment by yourself or something because you're just not safe there our next reddit posts from throw away seaweed so I'm a 22 year old girl living independently before I get into it I just want to give a bit of backstory I was adopted as a baby by my adoptive parents and raised believing that my bio dad abandoned me when he found out my bio mom was pregnant and that my bio mom gave me up because she was too young for a baby I had a hard childhood as my parents never wanted to discuss my adoption and would get very uncomfortable if I brought it up and sometimes very angry and start shouting if I talked about finding out more about my biological family and would always say things like aren't we enough they abandoned you and we raised you my adoptive dad also struggled with anger issues and would yell at me a lot so we have a strained relationship but he tries to stay close my adoptive mom is always calling me and wanting to stay in my life as well they're nice but can be angry and guilt trip me a lot into doing what they want now when I was 18 I decided I want to find out more about my biological family and I searched for them using some documents I found plus the help of my aunt I did find my biological dad which confused me as they said he abandoned me and didn't want anything to do with me I told my parents and they screamed at me and scared me so much and told me that my bio mom put whatever name she could think of on my birth certificate and that he did abandon me and that I was horrible for doing this behind their backs and that they should be enough they made me promise to never reach out and that he wasn't my bio dad I did what they said and didn't contact him as I believed them well when I was 20 I decided to look him up again and found his Facebook and saw that he posted birthday post on my birthday wishing his daughter a happy birthday and a few other posts about birth parents this felt like enough information plus his pictures that it was him and I reached out he was overjoyed and very excited and emotional to talk after texting back and forth with him skirting questions about the adoption we decided meet in person as he didn't live that far away when we met up it was very emotional and we talked for hours he eventually told me that he wasn't told he had a child and that he found out that he did after the adoption he petitioned for a paternity test and it was positive but they didn't give him custody as I was 13 months old at that point he was heartbroken and tried to set up visitation but my adoptive parents denied him and that was that I felt so betrayed and discuss it with my adoptive parents and feel like they kept me from my bio dad I don't know how to move past this I also found out who my bio mom is but she passed away a few years ago due to suicide my bio dad said that she was forced into the adoption by her parents and that she would have loved to keep me I've been so upset and heartbroken ever since finding all this out I decided to confront my parents with this information and they at first denied it and told me he just wanted money he never asked me for money and all he wants is a relationship but eventually my mom broke and said that they raised me first and that they wanted a baby for so long after dealing with infertility and they didn't want to lose me they also aren't supportive of the relationship with my bio dad I am unsure now how to move forward I've met my bio dad's wife and their two kids 13 and ten-year-old boys who have embraced me into their family and are both lovely people my adoptive parents are constantly calling and leaving either rude messages are guilting me and making me feel bad for doing this I don't know what to do I can't get over all these feelings of being taken and kidnapped and denied a relationship with my bio dad my extended adoptive family have reached out to call me names and tell me what a horrible person I am as well Oh P your adoptive family sounds really really toxic and abusive they deceived you for your entire life and are now emotionally manipulating you regardless of what you decide in this whether you decide to go with your bio family or your adoptive family you need to take steps to protect yourself from their abusive behavior that being said I think it's totally normal to want to know your biological parents there's absolutely nothing wrong with it no matter how much your adoptive family is trying to make you think otherwise also down in the comments a couple of people have suggested getting a counselor who specializes in adoption and I strongly agree with this but that was our slash relationship advice and if you like this video then hit that subscribe button because I put on your edit videos every single day

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Length: 18min 3sec (1083 seconds)

Published: Fri May 29 2020