r/AmITheA**hole I Sued My YouTuber Ex-Girlfriend!

welcome to our /m I the butthole where we get to judge strangers on the Internet am I the butthole for grilling my son's new girlfriend and telling him I don't approve my son who's 20 has been dating a girl he goes to university with for about six months now she's an international student from New Zealand but his family here so is staying with them during copan 19 due to lock down restrictions and such we hadn't met her until a couple of nights ago when I invited her over for dinner with my family we had bass timed a few times but not spoken a lot my husband and I are very Catholic and traditional but spent a lot of our 20s traveling the world including New Zealand we visited her hometown so we asked her a few questions about it which he happily answered but when I asked her about her Maori heritage and family she became quite uncomfortable and said she didn't know a whole lot about it which I find hard to believe we asked if she was religious she laughed and said no we asked her about her degree which she seemed very passionate about but it's a fashion degree which isn't exactly going to get her very far in comparison to my son who's a law student it's clear she loves my son and it's mutual and my other children adored her but I don't think she's the right fit for my son her parents were both 16 when they had her and she's very open with the fact that they have a strong dislike for each other and haven't spoken since she was 6 months old she also seems to have a bizarre relationship with each of her parents after dinner she wouldn't play Monopoly with my daughters and sons and made a couple crude jokes as well as laughing at my son her boyfriend when he lost my son asked me if she could stay and I said she could stay as long as she slept in a separate room which he said was ridiculous as they're both 20 and living together next year she decided to leave as she didn't feel welcome after she left I told my son I didn't approve and that I could set him up with a nice girl from my church if he preferred but he said that he loves her and was furious I would even suggest it my other son who's 16 heard me and said he really liked her my husband said that even if I felt like that I shouldn't vocalize it because it's clear my son loves her I understand that but he should be with someone more suit for our family in my opinion am i the butthole Opie I'm just gonna call like I see it on this story you're coming off as pretty judgmental and kind of racist and if I can give you a word of advice you really need to readjust your attitudes about this girl because if you keep this up then don't be surprised if your son never comes around your house anymore if a guy has to choose between a woman he loves and his mom most guys would choose the woman they love so I'm giving you three out of five buttholes Opie am I the butthole for seeing my ex so I dated a youtuber and before people go crazy in the comments no this is not my ex we went out for about a year and it was alright but they were so emotionally invested in their channel that they constantly neglected me and made me feel like I wasn't a priority not really important why we broke up but we broke up then I got a bunch of messages from their friends about three months later telling me to go to their channel I'm pretty much done with them but I do and I realized they made a video about me where they claimed that I was emotionally abusive I continued to get messages from strangers telling me how awful a person I was and how they hoped I died through various means so I sued my ex it ruined them I knew they were financially in a bad spot and they likely couldn't afford court fees but the case dragged they made a video about not being able to afford court costs and such and how it was going to ruin them after which a bunch of friends started telling me to just let it go and move on but I had sunk money into the case as well it wasn't cheap for me either so I didn't just let it go eventually the judge ruled in my favor and I received a total of nothing from my ex but it meant that I could link to the result in the comment section of every video where she tried to frame me as the bad guy because in our state court proceedings are public record suddenly her viewership dropped and she blamed me for ruining her life a bunch of my friends said I went too far and should have just taken the court when and left her alone was I the butthole down in the comments I couldn't agree more with Nozick not the butthole actions have consequences her content could have ruined your life but nobody thinks about that huh and as a professional content creator I can say that this other youtuber grossly misused her power I mean there's a reason we're called influencers we have the power to influence people attempting to destroy someone's life just to get YouTube views is a pretty low blow and what's more you're legally determined to not be the butthole in this situation a judge or a jury or whatever the case may be legally determined that you were the victim here so Noah P you could 0 out of 5 buttholes your ex gets 4 out of 5 buttholes am I the butthole for bringing my garden with me when I moved I'm a 25 year old female and I've been running a house since I was 18 when I moved in the backyard was a large piece of dirt no lawn or anything just a decently big backyard with a fence all around it was a cheap but not great house but I signed because I wanted the backyard space over the past few years I erected a small garden shed greenhouse and pizza oven planted lots of veggie gardens in big transportable garden beds and put down some nice papers an aquaponic setup and generally made the backyard a really green and beautiful place to be it became the green oasis all my friends gathered at a few months ago my landlords let me know they were planning to sell and my final move out date was a week ago when I left I brought my garden with me to the new place nothing in my backyard was directly plans into the ground and nothing was permanent I dismantled the sheds in green house loaded up all the pots and garden bids onto a truck and cleared the backyard in three days with lots of help my former landlords are furious over this and demand that I return the backyard to the former estate apparently they'd listed the house for sale with pictures of the backyard and potential buyers were walking away from the house when they saw the barren backyard they were accusing me of stealing their plants and wrecking the backyard legally I'm buying my contract said I could garden and I have photos from the first real estate walkthrough before I moved in that show the backyard was in the same state as I first found it although with more fertile soil now probably the same real estate agent signed off my final inspection and I got my deposit back I've received mixed responses though because I saw the landlord's taking pictures of my backyard before I left but didn't make the connection because in my opinion when pictures of a house have furniture in it you don't expect to also get free furniture some of my co-workers suggested that I'm the butthole because the house valuation certainly has fallen dramatically because I didn't tell them I was taking my garden with me so they couldn't plan to landscape before lockdown hit o P this is clear as day you get zero out of five buttholes if your landlord wanted that garden from you so desperately they could have offered to buy your property because let's be clear that was all your property and they had zero right to it this is just yet another case of landlords trying to screw tenants out of money am i the butthole for asking my boyfriend to stop wearing suits outside of work I know this sounds weird but here goes I'm a 47 year old female and I've been dating my 52 year old boyfriend for two years we met in a grief counseling group after losing our spouses everything in this relationship has been great our kids get along great I even got a Mother's Day card from his son thanking me for making his dad smile again it was sweet my 19 year old daughter adores my boyfriend I was surprised how fast they hit it off because she's very shy but I didn't want to question it so I let it go but as time went on things got weird on Valentine's Day he got me a bouquet and a rose for her and she still has it hanging in her room she gets up early every morning to make him a latte and every night when he gets home she's waiting in the kitchen with a beer and a sandwich for him he has back problems so she bought him a computer chair with massaging rollers on it which pisses me off because I'm a masseuse I can take care of this man's back just fine I refuse to be replaced by an effing chair I asked my daughter why she keeps doing this stuff and she said she just likes him I asked why to see if I could get more and she started listing things he's nice smart funny blah blah blah but what stuck out was when she said she loves the way he dresses my boyfriend is a funeral director so he always wears black suits when I first started dating him my daughter would always call him a sharp-dressed man saying things like are you gonna go see that sharp dressed man again or when do I get to meet your sharp dressed man mom my daughter's always said that she wants to marry a man in a suit so I assumed this was her way of showing approval but now I'm starting to wonder if there's more I've been wanting to suggest that he stops wearing suits outside of work but he loves his suits we just bought a house together and I know he's been looking at rings this man is a chess champion who speaks six languages yet doesn't know how to close his laptop when going to the bathroom alone so I'm invested in this relationship I love this man and I want to marry him but I'm afraid if I tell him what's on my mind he'll kick my daughter out this all came to a head last night when we were watching a movie and my daughter went up to get drinks when she came back she handed my boyfriend his beer and then tried to sit in his lap I say tried because my boyfriend pushed her off and angrily told her that what she did was inappropriate he stormed up to our bedroom and I followed him up to talk to him he started saying that my daughter should start looking elsewhere to stay but I told him about the sue thing and that maybe if he just wore normal clothes outside of work she wouldn't act so weird he told me I was being ridiculous and we went to bed I made him breakfast this morning but he left to go eat instead he says he's in the McDonald's parking lot now but we're gonna have a serious talk when he gets home I don't know what to think am i the butthole down in the comments I've got to agree with bubblegum 2070 you're the butthole you sound like one of those people that say it's the way the person was dressed was why they were assaulted it's your daughter's fault not his clothes and beneath that a lot of people are saying that there's probably more information that Opie doesn't know about and then Opie posted an update well it turns out some of you were right and there was a lot that I didn't know about a lot in fact my boyfriend showed me several disturbing text messages no actual propositioning or anything just weird stuff like I miss you and are you awake at 2:00 a.m. etc and apparently my daughter had confided in him about a close friendship she had with her basketball coach right after her dad died my boyfriend said he'd kept it a secret because she begged him not to tell me and he didn't want to break her trust I of course was incredibly hurt to hear this but at the same time I understand why he didn't tell me apparently he's the only person she's ever talked to about this it turns out my daughter has basically been treating my boyfriend like a private therapist for the past several months and he didn't tell me because he wanted to help her he chalked up all the favors to her just showing gratitude for lending an ear and didn't realize how she might have felt differently before last night he apologized for insisting on kicking around and I apologized for the stupid comments about his suits it was a comment I made out of being in denial and now I realized she needs therapy when I first started grief counseling I did ask my kids if they wanted counselling they both said no and I didn't want to force it on them when I set my daughter down to talk about the boundary issue she burst into tears and started apologizing I had an extremely uncomfortable but necessary conversation with her and I told her that I'm gonna start looking for a therapist I didn't tell her that I know about the basketball coach because I didn't want her to feel betrayed and I'm hoping a professional will be able to get it out of her in a more sensitive and controlled manner but so help me God if that mother ever ever shows his face in my hometown again and she asked me why I'm in jail I guess I'll have to tell her I know about it then but for now her healing from the past is my main priority because it really does seem like her dad screwed her up far worse than I thought my boyfriend and I have made up and no one is getting kicked out but things are still pretty awkward she's basically quarantined herself in the basement for now we all just need some space and my boyfriend has already helped me find some good therapists in our area the daughter is 19 and they've been dating for two years so presumably the father died before they started dating which means the daughter was what 17 maybe maybe younger when she started sleeping with the coach oh my god okay so Opie your daughter is exhibiting some unusual behavior but it sounds like that might be in part because she was exploited by someone much older than her who had no business doing it I'm glad that you're taking her to see a therapist because that would have been my number one suggestion um hi the butthole for babying my wife at the expense of my children the wording in the title is exactly how my 14 year old daughter phrased it not necessarily my opinion so I've been married to Laci for 18 years we have a great marriage and two daughters the 16 year old isn't relevant in this and we'll call the 14 year old Madison Madison Laci have been clashing a lot lately and that's what inspired this post so I absolutely love my wife but she's ridiculous and vain and still my favorite person in the world Laci cares excessively about appearance and dresses very feminine she has a hard time with the fact that Madison is developing her own style and she can get controlling for example they had a big fight over an ugly pair of vans though Lacey did buy them in the end well I came home from work the other day and Lacey and Madison were fighting because Madison cut and dyed her own hair now I think it looks ridiculous she gave herself screwed up bangs and there's a red streak but at the end of the day Lacey doesn't have to go out looking like that well Lacey started crying and Madison said that she doesn't want to be a pepid trophy wife Barbie like her mom I grounded her for that but said that I'm on her side with the hair I'm the biggest pushover for Lacey though she kept crying about how the kids don't appreciate her and she doesn't know who Madison is anymore and when Lacey gets upset she gets hysterical well I told the girls they can fix their own dinner there are plenty of leftovers and Lacey cooks every day and I hung out in the bedroom with Lacey gave her like an hour long foot massage and helped her relax Madison told me this morning that she thinks like coddle her mom and she blames me for the situation as well so am i a butthole for trying to be a good husband yes Opie I think you are actually being a butthole for trying to be a good husband because you're trying to be a good husband at the expense of being a good father I mean it seems like your wife and your kid have been fighting but only the kid gets punished and only the wife gets coddled doesn't your daughter deserve some comforting there too I kind of feel like this is in everyone sucks here situation because the whole family is being a little erratic and overly emotional about this Opie you need to understand the supporting your kids doesn't also mean that you aren't supporting your wife your wife needs to chill out and let your daughter become her own person and finally your daughter has no business saying those types of things about her own mother so I'll give you all I don't know maybe one point five out of five buttholes because it sounds like just kind of a normal family fight but the important thing is that you guys start treating each other like family members and not like enemies that was our /m hai the butthole and if you like this content then check out my patreon where I publish extra videos that I can't publish on YouTube because they get too monetized also hit that subscribe button because I put out new reddit 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Length: 16min 41sec (1001 seconds)

Published: Tue Jul 07 2020