r/AmITheA**hole She Thought I Was A Maid Because I'm Dark-Skinned

welcome to our slash am i the butthole where a father spends all of his money on drugs instead of his daughter's life-saving heart medication am i the butthole for leaving my stepmother out of a mother's day tradition and telling her to get over herself when she confessed to feeling hurt i'm a 29 year old woman and i lost my mom in an accident when i was seven my dad met my stepmother a year later i met her about six months before they got married i think i was like nine i was ten when they got married just for clarity we have an okay relationship she never pushed to be my mom but i always got the sense that she was hurt that i didn't see her as a maternal figure i consider her more like an aunt also i'm not super close to any of my aunts or uncles so it's not the same closest that i have with my dad or that i had with my mom when i became pregnant with my son six years ago i came up with this idea to make a little children's book for my kid about my mom so i made up a story about a brave mother who helped and was there for her daughter even in death and how much she loved and looked out for her and her grandkids i guess you could think of her as like a guardian angel my son loves that story my daughter is still a little bit too young for books but i read it to her too every mother's day since my son was born i take the book out and read it to my kids and we keep it in a special place this year my dad and stepmother decided to stop by for mother's day and my son was telling her about the book and he showed it to her and she got all quiet a while later she pulled me aside and she told me that she felt like she was being left out like how it would have been nice to say the mom sent another lady or mother figure or grandma figure to be there to offer what she couldn't to make everyone happier and how it hurt her feelings that she's not included in the only mother's day tradition that i have with my kids she said that she wished that she could be something more to me that she could be something that i would want to celebrate with my kids on mother's day i told her to get over herself the fact that she gets to be present and my mom doesn't and that she gets to be regarded more of like an aunt figure is more than most people ever get she told me that she was just trying to have a conversation and i was acting like a dick who couldn't respect other people's feelings or even try to empathize with her she told me that i should have tried to make her feel more included instead of feeling more shut out am i the butthole honestly opie yeah you are the butthole like what did your stepmom do wrong here exactly she wants to be a mother figure she cares about you and wants to be involved in your life she cares about her grandkids and wants to be involved in their life too and you're angry at her for some reason i mean you're not really the butthole for leaving her out of the book i think that's fine but when she took you aside and had a very normal adult conversation with you you insulted her for really no reason she came to you saying that she was hurt and your response was to basically say you should feel lucky that i even tolerate you op that's just plain mean i'm giving you two out of five buttholes i'm giving your stepmom zero out of five buttholes am i the butthole for calling a woman crazy and threatening to kidnap her son i'm a 40 year old man and in 2019 my 18 year old son went on a trip with some of his friends one of the kids parents owned a large cabin and all them went there for a weekend it was about 10 boys in total at that time my son had already come out to his friends and he came out to me a few months later yesterday one of the boys from that trip frank made a post about that trip the post was a video of him and my son kissing and making out it had the caption hey remember this apparently on the trip a game of truth or dare got a little intense and this friend was dared to kiss my son normally what the boys post on their social media stays between them but one of the parents saw the video recorded it and started sending it to all the parents it eventually made its way to me and then frank's mom and frank's mom freaked out she immediately called me and asked to speak to me parent-to-parent frank is bi and after he came out she basically begged him not to tell anyone all of frank's friends already knew and after seeing this video she's convinced that my son made him gay she wanted to know what i was going to do about it i was genuinely confused and asked her what she meant and she asked how me and my son intend to help fix frank i called her crazy and told her there was nothing to fix i then told her that if she didn't love frank for who he is i would always make a space for him at my house frank is a close friend of my son and he's around often she then started screaming at me accusing me of trying to kidnap frank and that i was gonna make him fully gay while he's still fixable she's now been telling people that i verbally abused her called her crazy and insane and threatened to come and take away frank i've had a lot of people mostly parents tell me that i'm the butthole for how i treated her and that i shouldn't interfere with things that don't involve me now i know 100 that she's the butthole for the things she said about my son and frank but i'm starting to think that i might also be the butthole for the way that i handled it i probably shouldn't have yelled and i may have just made it worse for frank so am i the butthole op how can you possibly be the butthole for sticking your nose in someone else's business when she called you to complain about your son's relationship with her son if anything she's the one who was sticking her nose in other people's business and on top of that she was implying that being gay is wrong when you have a gay son so she wasn't just insulting her own son she was insulting your son too you had every right to shut down that homophobia also kudos to you for offering frank a place to stay if she ever kicks him out op i'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving her 3 out of 5 buttholes am i the butthole for asking my dad why he thinks his drugs are more important than mine i'm a 17 year old girl and i have a heart condition that requires medication that isn't cheap it's just me and my dad at home my dad earns well the bills are always paid and i have what i need but he's gotten expensive drug habits usually he makes sure that he buys my medication first but i guess this month he forgot yesterday i asked him how he was going to get my medication after realizing how overboard he went and he said he didn't know and that it was time that i figured it out i reminded him that i'm 17 with no job and this could turn into a life or death thing fast he repeated that it's time for me to find a way this went back and forth for a while and eventually i could see the guilt in his face so i snapped so why in god's name do you think that your drugs are more important than mine do you just not given f whether i live or die at this point i felt really bad about this so i left to stay with a friend my dad texted me this morning and apologized for the way he acted in the problem he caused but he said that i'm the butthole for the things that i said to him last night he thinks i should have been more considerate towards his issues and not think so selfishly am i the butthole alright op oh my god so i don't know what drugs you're talking about with your dad i i assume pot i hope it's pot because at least pot is legal in a lot of places and pot's not too bad if it's not pot then this post is absolutely horrifying this means that your dad literally risking his daughter's life so he can shoot up or whatever it literally doesn't matter there's not a thing on earth that this guy could spend money on that would justify the purpose because if he doesn't spend his money on your heart medication his own flesh and blood daughter could die of what a heart attack heart failure i don't know this is making me flustered and angry because i have a daughter and i can't even imagine what i would want to buy instead of saving my daughter's life what what what the [ __ ] am i reading op you get zero out of five buttholes i'm very very deeply sorry that this happened to you you absolutely don't deserve it but i want to be clear to you op this story very very clearly shows that your father is not a fit parent you're 17 and you don't have a job i hate to say this but the reality is that you have to go find a job immediately because you clearly can't rely on your father anymore you just can't uh i feel bad saying this because it seems from the post that you still love your father so i don't want to turn you away from this advice op you have a medical condition you need this medication you've relied on your father to get this medication for you and your father has dropped the ball hopefully that's a one-time event but are you willing to bet your life that it's only a one-time mistake if you are then hopefully your dad fixes this mistake if you aren't then please go get a job because if your dad can't afford this medication then you have to unfortunately op you get zero out of five buttholes your dad gets five out of five buttholes am i the butthole for abandoning a grieving friend after she tried to charge me rent my friend is a recent widow it's been a long time coming but that hardly makes it easier her husband passed away at the end of february and she's been understandably distraught since i've tried my best to support her through this even though i can't possibly understand what she's going through at the beginning of march she asked me if i'd stay over during the night because she couldn't stand sleeping alone in an empty house i obliged and temporarily moved in once i was sure that my husband was okay with it she hasn't been taking care of herself so i've been doing 100 of the household chores and taking care of her as well as working full-time well last week she sprang on me how much you'll be expecting in rent from here on out she heavily implied that i was trying to take advantage of her and her grief by trying to live in her house for free and that she expects me to back pay her rent for the two months that i'd already been there i told her i was extremely insulted by this and i told her that i'd transfer her the money that she wanted but i was going to be moving back to my own house where i am also paying rent i got my stuff and i was gone within a couple of hours she's since asked me to come back but i've refused i told her that i'd still do her shopping and i'd come over to help her with a few bits but i am not spending another night in that house am i the butthole nah opie based on this story you've been acting like a model friend you basically put your whole life on hold so you could care for your friends and then she thinks that you're trying to take advantage of her by living there rent free i mean sure you are living there rent free but you have another place where you can live with your husband also the fact that she asked you to stay there and then demanded rent is extremely exploitative op i'm giving you zero out of five buttholes i'm giving your friend two out of five buttholes am i the butthole for telling a parent that it's their kid's own fault for being mistreated i'm a 27 year old woman who's a preschool teacher i have this one student conor if someone sits three inches from where they're supposed to sit connor who's six years old runs up to me to report it if someone spills a drop of milk on the table he tells on them if someone happens to brush past him he says that other student just pushed me and threw me to the ground when someone almost ran into him on a bike he says that they rode over his toes on purpose and he's in incredible pain when a girl was painting next to connor and picked up a pin conor started crying and said she took a pin that i was thinking of using soon if someone was playing with a toy that he wanted he would throw a tantrum until they got fed up and gave it to him conor's behavior has led to the other kids keeping their distance from him they've even stopped playing with him outside of school we've tried to get him to be included during school hours and we've had multiple talks with them but to no avail the other kids tell us that they feel like they have to walk on eggshells around him and it's tiring we've had countless meetings with his parents as well who just dismiss our concerns he's been evaluated and he doesn't have any diagnoses disabilities or anything the main issue arose when another student sarah had a birthday party and everyone in the class was invited except for connor he was understandably upset and crying as expected conor's mom was there the next day fuming she told us we had to force sarah to invite her son by any means possible when we said that we have no control over what happens after school and that no we can't call a meeting with all the parents and tell them that they have to make their kids spend time with connor she was furious she even tried to approach sarah but we blocked her and said that she is not allowed to talk to her the poor girl was really scared the next day sarah's mom who's a wonderful woman told us that connor's mom had called her and shouted at her for not inviting him she didn't know if she should just invite connor but sarah and a few of her friends had specifically asked for him to not be there i told sarah's mom that we would support and respect her wishes well the party was last night and conor was not invited conor's mom showed up the next day and we stepped away to talk well i talked she shouted i was pretty fed up and i was wondering if i should call security she kept screaming and blaming everything and everyone but when she called us useless and competent teachers who do nothing while her completely innocent kid was being emotionally abused i had enough i told her that conor wasn't completely innocent though because we had many talks and he was excluded because of his own behavior towards others and based on what we'd seen and heard it was pretty understandable well she started shouting and shrieking and told me that i was going to lose my job i decided to call security after all so i want to know did i go too far by saying that it was conor's own fault for not being invited what you can't force kids to be friends if sarah doesn't want to be friends with conor what are you supposed to do about it also like you said o.p you have no control over conor's birthday party that's a private completely separate affair from your daycare op you get 0 out of 5 buttholes if anything connor and his mother could really use a dose of reality conor gets 1 out of 5 buttholes and conor's mom gets 2.5 out of five buttholes i think i'm starting to see where conor gets his behavior from am i the butthole for embarrassing my brother's friend's parent when she thought that i was the house maid i'm a 16 year old girl and i have no idea how genetics work but my maternal grandmother had dark skin while my grandfather had fair skin my mother was born relatively fair and so was my father but i ended up the same dark skin as my grandmother my two brothers are fair-skinned too which makes me stand out a little so what happened was my little brother had just turned five and my parents invited four of his friends and their parents to our house for a small party i was cleaning things in the kitchen while my mother went upstairs that's when i was approached by one of the parents who passed me some plates to wash and asked if i could speak english to which i replied yes as a second language that's not a lie because it's true for me and my whole family she then proceeded to ask me about how long i've been staying there how's my family etc by that time it was clear to me that she thought that i was the house maid instead of correcting her i decided to entertain myself by playing along i started to refer to my parents as sir and madam and i cooked up a whole load of bs to answer her questions about my life when i was done cleaning i went back to the hall with my parents and mischievously called my brother young master which confused him and then my mother came downstairs and i called her madam to which she immediately realized what had happened and told me to stop it then my mom told the parent that i'm her daughter the sister of the birthday boy i have to admit everyone laughed at the misunderstanding but the parent who made the assumption instead of laughing it off they became very red in the face she apologized then she took her kid and left the party just like that it was kind of awkward for a while but the party went on without them since there are still three more kids with my brother my parents told me after the party that i had taken it too far by embarrassing the parents and they wanted me to apologize to her the next time we meet if there is a next time i refuse to because i think she kind of asked for it i couldn't stop myself from having a little fun and who the heck just assumed someone to be the housemaid and get all nosy about their life am i the butthole for embarrassing her no op that parent's reaction was strange why did she automatically assume that you were a maid instead of you know something like an adopted kid or something the fact that she just assumed that you're the house made because you have dark skin oh my god it's no wonder she left the party after that i would have done the exact same thing uh let me clarify i would have done the exact same thing as in i would have left the party i would not have done the exact same thing as in i would not have assumed that the 16 year old dark-skinned girl is the house maid that's very racist very ignorant and very disrespectful a couple of people are trying to say that opie's the butthole because she could have just corrected the mistake instead of lying but yeah it seemed kind of weak to me a teenager playing a slightly embarrassing prank on a parent is not the same thing as a stranger walking into your home and assuming that you're the help because of your dark skin color op i'm giving the parent three out of five buttholes i'm giving you 0.5 out of 5 buttholes that was our slash invite the butthole and if you like this content check out my patreon where i publish extra episodes also hit that subscribe button because i put out new reddit videos every single day

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Length: 17min 58sec (1078 seconds)

Published: Mon May 24 2021