KNOW YOUR POWER!

hello angels welcome back to my channel for those of you that are new hello my name is Asia it's very nice to meet you and I'm sure you're all here because you want to just jump right into this video so you guys know the routine by now be sure to follow me on Instagram which will be right here of course and also do not forget to subscribe to this channel if you have not already and to also turn on your post notifications so that you're notified every single time that I post and let's just jump right into this video so this video is going to be just a heart-to-heart chit chat that I want to have with you angels and as you can see from the title this video is about knowing your power and I really hope that this video resignate s-- with you guys and I hope that you are able to find clarity and the things that I mentioning and that you all are able to receive this in love so here are the cold hard facts guys in a relationship there needs to be some what of an unequal balance and I know that's a bit of an oxymoron because balance and then unequal you get the point but that basically means the person who cares the most ends up getting hurt and the person who cares the least is actually the person that has the control and wins I know that probably sounds really bad but unfortunately that's the reality of the situation now that that's not the way in order to know your power you have to acknowledge who the person is that you're dating not who you want him to be who you see him as being who you wish he would be potential will always remain potential it is not your job to fix any one especially any man it's not your job you're not his mom think about this right now if you are incapable of accepting him as is right now then you already see where the issue lies and I want you guys to know that I completely get it I understand when you invest time and energy into someone and you have such strong feelings for them you don't even have to be in love with them acids women our emotion alone can make us do a bunch of different things you know some call it crazy other think it's justifiable whatever that reasoning may be it's normally based off of emotion but if you're incapable of accepting that man as he is that's not your job to stick around hoping and wishing on a gamble that he may or may not want what you want in the end you need to be the prize the quality Queen that I know is inside of all of you you need to be that this means that you need to be a woman that he feels like he could potentially lose to another men why is that well that's because if he feels like he may lose you to someone else or that potential of losing you to someone else the thought of losing you to someone else hurts him he's going to put his best foot forward because he doesn't want to lose you and also just as a sidebar guys often times really want to lock that one girl down when they feel like okay I do not want anyone else to have this girl I need to have this girl and I'm willing to drop anyone anything for this girl and case in point even in reference to my last video Cassie and Colton he dropped those girls like it was I don't want to say like it was nothing because it definitely wasn't easy but he was willing to sacrifice that just on the gamble that Cassie would take him back yeah if a guy feels like you're the independent variable in the situation meaning you are complacent you were not going anywhere he sees no thrill in pursuing you or keeping you around for that matter you know there's one thing I learned I definitely have learned that when certain things are done to us sometimes it's hard to believe that it's not done intentionally and that's not to take away from anyone who has dealt with situations where things have been done intentionally to them but I think throughout my life I've learned that a lot of the things that us as women do is we manufacture things in our heads and we may see glimpses of the truth ignoring her intuition along the way and when things don't turn out exactly how we intended it to be or how we expected or even assumed we get upset with the guy when not all the time our guys being completely dishonest they're mainly just going with the flow of things being a guy and you chose to ignore certain signs you know it's a combination of that type of situation that is just tumultuous sometimes it's human nature that we tend to draw closer to things that we feel like are out of our reach or that are pulling away from us so if you think about it from that perspective if in a man's nature it's to chase and they love challenges and he feels like he already conquered you then what's left where's the throw does that make sense and I know it kind of sucks and you guys are probably like oh I don't understand why we have to do things this way or think this way because I mean Wow take it from me I used to think well let me just prove that I'm you know a good girlfriend let me prove that I'm worthy you know of being with and it's like that doesn't really help because one who you are so you are if someone is incapable of seeing that value in you or maybe that person is capable of seeing the value in you but they're just not where you are they can't meet you at that place because they're just not there yet and it doesn't matter how good you are when you're good to the wrong person the person that just isn't right for you it doesn't matter and forcing them to see the value in you is not going to do anything it's just wasting energy so you have to know your power the reality is in knowing your power is a man has to feel like he's earning you not like you need him you can't be codependent on him he can't feel especially like you were codependent on him you need to exude a humble confidence that says I choose to be in a relationship with you or I choose to date you but I don't need you there's definitely a difference because naturally if you if you know that somebody needs you and they can't move without you you're not really going to care to cater to that person that much you're it's gonna get old really quickly and you're just gonna think well whatever this person is like obsessed with me anyway so like let me just do whatever I want you know what I'm saying no your power by remaining neutral and I just I have to stress that remain neutral because then you're able to think logically and clearly and your perspective shifts where you have that mindset of this is a choice I'm making this is someone I'm accepting into my life or that I want to be in a potential relationship with I'm choosing this person that has to earn me I'm not being codependent on this person if you choose to not take my advice and to not be neutral and to not think of things logically then what are you gonna do you're gonna end up obsessing over someone and certain things that you simply cannot control and having that sort of mentality will drive you nuts I'm telling you I mean take it from me it will drive you nuts and all it really does is build a hostile environment where you have an attitude now and the way you perceive things are all negative because you're building up this animosity and this resentment towards this guy for whatever reason that you have because you feel like oh my gosh it's been X amount of time and he has done this yet or how many times is he gonna string me along and it's like we have to stop even accepting behavior like that from the get-go that's why when you enter into a situation you need to know the person that you're with that's why I said in the beginning of the video acknowledge who the man is recognize who he is first before you try to jump into anything if you're incapable of accepting him as is right now you already have your answer do not go forward if you do proceed with caution and I also think it's important to know in a part of knowing your power it's about having self-control as well right if you focus on all the things you don't want I genuinely believe that we just tend to manifest everything that we want by focusing solely on what it is that we don't want whether that's in life or whether that's even in a relationship if you move out of anger out of fear resentment hostility any sort of negative emotion at all you're wasting energy and you will become resentful and defensive over everything and in turn what that will do is just push him away a little further or make him just disappear period so know your power comes from within you cannot be happy or place your happiness on or in a person or in a relationship because I'm telling you unhealed trauma will always manifest and bleed into different areas of your life if you are not loving yourself valuing yourself understanding your worth that will determine how much nonsense and trash you're willing to put up with in your relationship and in turn when we look back after all the lessons that we learn in life in life sometimes we just think man I wish I knew this a lot sooner well yeah that's true but that's why I talk about these things with you ladies that's why I stress the issues that I stress because I don't want you guys to have to endure or go through certain if I can help it there is so much freedom in simply liking or even loving someone without being codependent on them for happiness and fulfillment so don't be the person the woman that likes someone so much that as soon as you're with anyone all of your common sense goes out the window and then unfortunately people that live like that and think like that over and over and over again I tend to think or victims you step into things you don't acknowledge the red flags you see certain things and you still stick around and then you get mad in turn at what someone's blatantly doing you're not believing the story that they're painting you're not accepting them as who they are you're not acknowledging him as he is you're just choosing to stick around because is you see potential or whatever that reason may be or you're using this person to fill a certain void it's gonna manifest on heal trauma unhealed situations they will manifest throughout your life babe and they will affect all your relationships and I can guarantee that okay babes so in conclusion as we come to a close no your power make the decision to remain a challenge make the decision to remain logical and neutral as best as you can because at the end of the day we still are women and emotions do run high I do understand that but as best as you can always try to keep these things in the back of your mind honestly in the front of your mind keep them in mind period be a challenge know that you choose who you let into your life and that person that man that you're choosing he needs to earn you every day choose you every day and in every way love yourself value yourself I believe in you you got this angels and I have faith that you guys will find those successful relationships that you desire that you will have healthy relationships in your life I know that you can and I know that you will have a healthy relationship with yourself because that's where it all starts right so guys I love you and God loves you and I'll see you guys in my next video mmm

Channel: Asha Christina

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Keywords: level up, relationships, relationship advice, advice, beauty, know your power, power of the p, karen king, chit chat, asha c

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Length: 13min 41sec (821 seconds)

Published: Fri Mar 15 2019