The Power Of Being UNBOTHERED

hi hello how are you guys okay yes I am recording from the inside of my car I came out myself this weather is so beautiful and honey the lighting it's working for us okay all right guys so hello long time no see I know but I dig alive on Instagram yesterday so make sure that you are following you on Instagram oh and with that being said my Instagram will be right here of course and also thank you to all of my new subscribers I see all of you guys I do and I do try my absolute best to be as responsive as possible because I love every single one of my angels I know I'm gonna get some questions asking me where I got my hair from guys this is another unit from my friend Dom's line I think it's called hey Queen crowns nonetheless all of the information for this hair will be in the description box below so guys please make sure to check my description box because I get a lot of questions asking me about what makeup I'm wearing and all of the details of pretty much whatever I'm wearing in that specific video is always going to be in my description box so without further ado I want to jump right into the topic guys the power of being unbothered I'm sure you guys have heard me say this in different videos okay this goes without saying that if there's one thing we should all know by now it's that whoever cares the least wins so it's easy to ask how do you become unbothered well you work on yourself you create your own life your own hobbies where you have so much going on for yourself that you eliminate the time wasters and yes there gonna be people that fall through the cracks okay because nobody is invincible but at the same time you want to make sure that you are so fulfilled in your life that whoever you decide to date or whomever decides to date you has to fit themselves into your schedule right so when you were integrating into a relationship or talking to someone dating someone that you're not so consumed or obsessed with what they aren't or what they want to do because you already have your own stuff going on so naturally if you have a lot of things going on in your life it's very easy to be unbothered because you know your schedule you know that you are a very busy person you know you have a lot going for yourself so anyone that fails to meets your standards or fit themselves into your schedule you don't have time for them you don't have time for anything that is subpar and it's just that kind of drying when we as women channel the unbothered energy it draws so much more attention to us it's phenomenal actually to imagine talking to a guy instead of obsessing over him and being easily impressed by his miniscule efforts and flattery you are light and fun carefree and not like typical girls who send a desperate energy that they really want to be in a relationship because remember what I always tell you ladies when guys are first approaching you it is solely based off of physical attraction naturally and honestly that technically kind of goes for both parties guys you know are not thinking immediately oh my god I've got to be with this girl they are attracted to you they're gonna approach you and then the tests begin of if you are worth investing in how much do they need to invest to get a certain something from you how long do they have to wait all of these things you need to have charm sex appeal and coolness to be unbothered this is going to take knowledge and understanding of the fact that leading with anything other than an unbothered energy is going to hurt you why well because what our guys used to guys are always used to girls wanting to be in a relationship they know what it is that's why they have I mean if you think about it it is so II made two men that I don't even think that they consciously realize all the games that they play half the time that doesn't put them in the clear but what I'm saying is it's so natural to them to understand this fact listen to nothing that a man says words are nothing action action action I'm gonna put that under my shirt words are nothing action action action especially with men so it's a guy or typically guys understand that girls always usually want a relationship they're going to naturally take advantage of that that's when the excuses start oh I'm not ready for a girlfriend oh and and guys hate ultimatums but they're the first ones to give you one well I'm not really a ready for a relationship yet and you know that I kind of do see other people so I don't know like what you want to do it's either you've got the real only option that they're giving you is you jump into the rotation and you become mediocre decreasing your value or you walk away with your respect and dignity and it's really not easy to walk away from if you were already involved with this person and you realize hold up skirt I want better for myself I don't want to do this anymore it it is difficult to do but at the end of the day you have to do it because at the end of the day guys will go as far as you let them they actually do like when you call them out on their crap you know because at the end of the day if you don't say anything we'll just keep on going with a narrative you cannot play with somebody that doesn't care you can't play somebody that doesn't care so don't obsess over what a guy isn't doing because first of all it's summertime baby and you should be talking to more than one guy anyways if you're not committed with one person already alright and when I say commitment it needs to be mutual not just on your end because we do too much of that you know I know this is so difficult to do but the older that I've become I've learned that you shouldn't analyze a person's behavior that is doing the least it just doesn't even make any sense a lot of the times we as women we step into relationships not even expecting to like a guy as much as we did or we do and next you know it we're planning our future with this person and they're not even thinking about seeing us the next day the next week that needs to end act like a lady think like a man literally never try to change or control a man never try to change or control anyone because obsessing over that will just leave you resentful and that energy will naturally push him away even further you see what I'm saying because if you really think about it ladies at the end of the day I know I get a lot of questions how do I make my ex want me back how do I do this how do I do that I can suggest a whole bunch of things but the problem is aside from everything being circumstantial is that if somebody simply does not want you or want you in the way that you want them then that is it the only other choice is to move on be unbothered force yourself to be unbothered you will inevitably leur a guy in like this especially if this is a brand new guy because guys are so used to the narrative of women always proving themselves that they're the good girls and molding themselves to be whatever the guy of their interests wants them to be you don't need to do that you need to be your authentic self because inevitably whoever you're going to be is going to come out regardless so don't try to force yourself to like the activities that he likes and you genuinely don't like that because once you do that to get the guy and then you got them and then all of a sudden you're having issues cuz you pretended to like golfing you know the entire year that you guys were together and you hate golfing you're gonna set of sake little things like that right that would matter to a guy thinking wow we have this huge you know interest and hobby in common but you really don't now that you've settled with this person you got the guy he's feeling like you've changed you did you pretended to like something that you didn't like and this was a big part of this guy's life okay then loving yourself so hard focusing on you I promise you will draw so much more to you so I want to end this video saying this we will be cancelling the following ladies caring more than we are cared for not receiving plans that are set in stone you know slash last-minute dates Netflix and chilling in 2019 especially if you were over the age of 25 cut it out cut it out alright Netflix and chill only means one thing okay and I can go do that with my girlfriends I don't need to do that with a man committing to single men what's happening here chasing men and lastly entertaining inconsistent behavior if a man can go hours without texting you or returning your text message or answering you or calling you there is no you have to train yourself ladies to be disinterested in inconsistent behavior train your mind to be turned off by someone that could even treat you like that I've trained myself to be like this I'm not attracted to people that make me question my value people that make me feel like I have to figure out what they're thinking I don't care I just don't I don't care I can't care more than I'm cared for I just don't operate that way I'm sorry actually I have another one that we're canceling lowering your standards so that the guy you desire meets your standards and you know what let's add another one on top of that sharing men it's over babe it's done because I know that you don't really want to do that I know that deep down not even really deep down girl on the surface you don't want to share the person that you actually really like or that you love you don't wanna share them and you know what while you're doing that he's not gonna be complaining cuz he's getting it from you and her and her and her and her you know her all the way in the back he doesn't care but in the meantime you're doing this because you like this person you love this person and he is not even valuing you in fact your value went down he doesn't necessarily have to pretend like it did but it did he doesn't actually really value you the only value you can actually gain is by walking away with your dignity not even an explanation because the older that you become you will understand that not everything deserves an explanation it's just you're done and you're out simple these things that I talked about are non-negotiable period this must be enforced the game is changing right few of us know spread this knowledge spread this message and listen and understand you know not everyone will be receptive it's very hard to face yourself and be self aware okay it's not an easy process to really look within yourself and flex and say why do I do this why does this bother me why do I get upset at this why am i accepting this that's a part of the process honey that's a part of healing that's a part of knowing you loving you so hard so that another person of a relationship a guy cannot dictate to you who you are you know or your value someone's lack and in capability of seeing your value has no effect on your actual value does that make sense so with that being said I want you ladies to remember this the less I care the happier I am be balanced and understand where to put your energy and focus because it's all too easy all too common to obsess over the guy that isn't doing what we want him to do and there are way too many people on this planet men on this earth to worry about why one isn't doing what he's supposed to do rejection is direction so if you look at it like that from a positive standpoint instead of trying to fix something that's already broken and trying to show this person that you are worthy of being with drop them okay you want to leave me okay you don't you don't see my value okay another person will and believe that and you will manifest that exact thing I promise you okay ladies thank you guys so much for watching this video do not forget to subscribe to this channel if you haven't already I think that we can hit 100k by August maybe before August I don't know but I genuinely believe we can do it guys we have currently over 57,000 angels this is mind boggling I'm so blown away I'm so grateful every single day I just thank God like I cannot believe that this is really happening all my dreams are coming true all because of you guys and your support and your love okay and also I will be working on getting my instinct go set up for you angels we can talk one-on-one that will be up and running this week for sure and with that being said I love you and God loves you and I'll see you guys next [Music]

Channel: Asha Christina

Views: 330,507

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Keywords: level up, relationships, relationship advice, advice, beauty, unbothered, sheraseven1, annabey, anna bey, school of affluence, class, classy, ladies, sophistication, dating, situationships, love, games, matthew hussey

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Length: 15min 51sec (951 seconds)

Published: Wed May 22 2019