ARE YOU A PICK ME?

hi angels a long time to see I'm sure that you guys that are already subscribed to me already now that I've been updating you pretty much along this two-week hiatus about what's been going on with me nonetheless all good all better now I want to jump right into this topic guys of are you a pic me but before we do of course do not forget to follow me on Instagram and that will be right here of course and also do not forget to subscribe to this channel and turn on your post notifications so that you are notified every single time that I posts let's jump right into this video angels this video is absolutely not for the faint of heart yes I took a little break I'm back hitting harder than ever because we need this lesson this video may offend but as I always say that is not my intention and I hope that you guys can genuinely receive this all in love and understand that once upon a time we have all fallen short of different things in life with that being said in life we accept the love that we think we deserve right so unfortunately angels it's not about playing fair in an unfair dating world but nonetheless I'm going to give five specific examples of how you may very well potentially be a Pinkney sorry not sorry but if we don't know better we can't do better after this you will know better so that you will do better no excuses number one you love blindly wake up stop thinking that your man is so innocent you're so obsessed with just having him in your life that you take all that he comes with the lies the deceit the manipulation the whole nine that is pick me patty number two this is a huge one right being loyal to single men I am sure all of us even myself included at one point being faithful to someone who is single hold on what is happening here a lot of us girls fall into this instance it's really quite sad and more common than it sounds right dating is not a relationship talking is not a relationship sex is not a relationship remember sex for women is an emotional way of expressing to the guy that we like or we desire I like you so I'm going to give this part of myself to you because I like you sex for men is a physiological and biological need it is not a physiological need for women it's not all right now that you know that fact you gotta stop being loyal to single men sweetie love yourself a little bit more than that a little harder I don't care what he's doing for you okay trips sleepovers you're over there three times a week you might even be there one week in a row straight it doesn't matter don't even fall for how much you think he cares for you are you his girlfriend yes or no there's no maybe if the answer is no more than likely it is that's not your man babe you're a pick me it's harsh I know but we need the truth here stop being loyal to single men that is not your man it's not number three by his affection you think by buying him paint for his dinners buying him all these little gifts showing him that you're super independent is going to win him over we're sending yourself in hopes that a man will see your worth is ineffective it just is and I know a lot of you ladies understand that concept it's very easy for us to play the good girl a lot of the times we are good girls you understand what I'm saying guys want someone that's going to challenge them that's just something that pygmies don't do because they are convenient and they are busy doing the chasing they are busy proving their worth to a man what's happening here proving is his job not yours men are the hunters men do the chasing that is his job that is a man's job that's not our job we are the reciprocate errs we reciprocate the energy the vibe that's been given to us he doesn't talk will babe you better not either right number four we're on a roll here aren't we you let him see other people you have an open relationship you tell yourself that you and him have an understanding and that you don't need the title of a commitment because people that do have commitments are getting cheated on every single day right right sweetie people do get cheated on every day but you're actually giving someone the access and the right to take what belongs to someone in a commitment and you're giving it to them for free for nothing minimal effort making the easiest situation for the guy well he can literally see whoever he wants whenever he wants he understand I'm saying the person that is being cheated on that is in a committed relationship that may very well be true the difference between you and that girl is that she has a right to bring that up to him she has a right to hold him accountable for those things because that's her boyfriend the difference with you is you're relying on the justification that well we don't need a title because people get cheated on every day that doesn't grant you the right to make the situation easy for him and be a low maintenance Meredith because in the end what is your goal right you wasting time with this person that really let's be honest here you really like you probably even love you know the longer you say and this person has no need to be with you there's no incentive and you confuse it in your head because oh well I spend the night over his house every weekend consistently we go out he takes me to nice places all of these things is that your men because you're literally this this man's girlfriend by your definition by his definition you're just a girl that's been in his life that has been very convenient he cares about you by default babe by default because it's convenient and science takes over and it's like hey I do care for this person I mean I had been around them long enough she asserted herself so many times I mean she keeps coming back I care for her you know I want to be with her but I care for her pick me Patti hi I'm gonna wait as long as I can you know hopefully you'll see I'm a good girl one day stop number five you are charmed easily by his words and gas lighting I talked about this briefly before in another video listen ladies this is not some sort of jaded perspective here this is the truth this is reality men understand the power of words us as women don't really understand the power of words because we are the reciprocals of those words being used and it manipulates our mind and it challenges our common sense the more feelings are involved the more that's invested and overly invested on and so a lot of the times you feel short-changed especially as a pic me thinking how could he just do this and he's acting like he doesn't care you never even really gave him the chance to care you made it all too easy men are full of deceit like it or not they are full of deceit men date multiple women naturally anyway it's instinctual to them right it's natural for them to lie lie lie to get whatever it is that they want they are physiologically like I'm pointing out again for eternity chasing the hoo-hah are you picking up when I'm laying down you are a pick me if you're constantly talking yourself out of common sense an effort to keep giving the guy that you like a pass come on this is not uncharted territory here pygmies are mediocre pick Me's are convenient pick Me's make it easy for men to play games when you're a pygmy essentially that person that you're with has trained you to be obedient to his commands susceptible to his lies and deceit and manipulation on a consistent basis so much so so very well that you can't even identify the truth from what actually is because in your head it doesn't really matter because at the end of the day I know that he cares about me all that really matters is our connection really okay well the more time that you waste right your connection isn't taking you to the altar your connection isn't stopping him from getting off those apps right he's on tinder he's on bumble he's on plenty of fish he's on whoo whatever whatever is out there he's on there babe and you think you're doing something special because you're over there all the time on a consistent basis with no commitment do you hear yourself get over it and get over him on to the next bait it's about to be summertime it's an entire litigation remember this men never seem to forget how many women there are in the world all right remind yourself that why is it that you think that this one person is where it all starts and begins it's not when you really look at the hard core solid facts this person doesn't really value you because if they did they would take you off the market he's not taking you off the market despite having love for you despite caring about you so deeply despite you know being there for you when you kind of need to that is called a situation ship and that's all that picked me settled for because they think that's the best that they can get they don't think it's gonna get any better than what they already have and if that's the case sweetheart then that's gonna be your truth or your focus goes your energy flows let it marinate here's the take home right until a discussion about monogamy is had and the end result is you to being a committed relationship exclusive on both ends right we're going outside of those bounds makes both of you accountable that guy can no longer say you're not even my girlfriend's that guy can't say I'm sorry it was just one time I cheated he's accountable now that is your boyfriend he sees value in you enough to take you off the market that is the real end goal here ladies for guys to actually see our value by taking us off the market that is how you know he's serious if he's not doing that you already have your answer how are you good enough to care for and to be there for but and give yourself to this person but not good enough for that person to actually take you off the market make you unavailable to other guys if you really sit and think about that trust me you'll move differently this is not about a blame game right this is about taking ownership and responsibility for your actions your parts in this in situations like this if it happens to you babe it happened don't do it again if it's happening to you babe well you're watching this now you know better now there's only one solution right and it's up to you and sometimes we just search and search and search and look for different ways to support the what if in our heads when the reality is babe it's been six months it's been three months it's been seven years all this time has elapsed and you are still single and messing with this one guy men make time for what they want right and it's very tricky and it gets murky when you can no longer differentiate that because you already gave and you're giving your all so naturally when when the slightest bit of reciprocation and minimal effort is shown to you you trick yourself and say oh wow he really does care like I told you men compartmentalize very well that's what makes them able to do the things that they do so effortlessly you got to be smarter because after a certain while the victim mentality it gets old it gets boring now the narrative needs to shift it needs to change at some point you have to just do better right every guy can't keep on wrong in you and you're getting hurt in the same exact way every single time baby I'm teaching you the game men work for what they want stop over selling yourself being overly available watch his actions I can guarantee you this every single girl that's watching this right now remember how you first started talking to a guy right and he was all over you and the second you let's say got with this person or the second you started reciprocating the same amount of attention so soon to this person he started backing away it's almost innate to us that when one person it you know shows their interest and it's so obvious one person pulls away right and remember how I was talking to you ladies about the unequal balance that he needs to love you a little bit more than you love him or maybe even a lot of it right yeah that matters that matters in efforts keeping your power and being in control of the narrative you have to be in control of the narrative don't fall for gaslighting terms men will say anything anything anything call you baby call you babe anything even use the word love I love you I care for you so much I really really miss you listen you know I'm busy on this day please forgive me be s lies lies lies and you know it and you're going to reward this person by being at their beckoning call showing up giving yourself it takes a lot of effort to even beat a woman in general right don't waste your efforts on some lame who doesn't see your value that's really what the case is here babe words for men hold zero merit that's why men understand this concept [Music] that's why you can go to a guy and say you know I really am not like that I really don't sleep with guys um this soon but you like this guy's so much and that may very well be true you don't move like that but with this person you did all their thinking is yeah okay I'm gonna try anyway come on you guys know how this goes you know guys understand that action speaks louder than words ever can or could and that's why they you know compliment us to death Gaslight us tell us how much they care what does care mean what does that even mean are you my boyfriend okay so you care by your definition not mine okay we're on two different pages here I'm out I'm gone you're wasting my time don't get Tristan Thompson don't be a Chloe oops right don't be always tell yourself right if this person cares for you so deeply if this person has love for you if this person really just wants to be with you but not right now why not men don't operate that way if they really actually want it to be with you they would simple no if ands or buts about it it's mixi for a reason sweetie if you're a pick me pick me Patti it's okay I forgive you but we don't repeat our mistakes on this channel we know better we do better let's today this second this hour this day be the last day that you are it picked me don't be so lonely that you forget your worth you need to understand amends agenda right there always is one whether you see it or not don't go with the flow of anything dead fish go with the flow of things men know the power of words like I said before now you do words don't mean anything with men program your mind and tell yourself and repeat after me words do not mean anything with men action action action sticking around will not get you to win first place it doesn't work like that you don't build with him you get with some what that's going to build for you men are only as faithful as their options right so the percentage of women who win by sticking around probably means he ran out of options but if those options never run out he will go pursue someone that he actually does want if that's what he wants and I can guarantee you it will be you you made it too easy where's the fun in that right so if you're in a situation like that understand baby he only cares by default really it's not that special you can miss him babe but not one hand back and it's okay you go through the process of whatever that is but you keep it moving but you keep it pushing okay angels that is the end of this video I really hope that this resonated with you ladies because I know for a fact that a lot of us have fallen into this position or are currently in this position pick me Patti never wins with that being said I love you and God loves you and I'll see you angels in my next video [Music]

Channel: Asha Christina

Views: 146,899

Rating: 4.9172869 out of 5

Keywords: level up, relationships, relationship advice, advice, beauty, pick me, pick me patty, pickmesha, classy, class, the game, male psychology, dating psychology, the art of seduction, robert greene, power, sherasevel1, shallonlester, breeny, self love, women empowerment, love yourself

Id: IU2hUmuvud0

Length: 21min 29sec (1289 seconds)

Published: Sat Apr 27 2019

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