5 Guaranteed Ways to Emotionally Detach! (Highly Requested)

hello beautiful how are you my name is Asha very nice to meet you I just want to point out that we are very very close to 10k subscribers this is insane I am so honored and happy this is why I always take my time to respond to all you guys comments because it means so much to me and I'm just so humbled by this whole journey and I did promise you guys that I would release a video about how YouTube changed my life once I hit 10k so once we hit 10k then I will release that video it's a very special video to me it's very emotional and I was documenting my journey to get to the point where I am at right now and it is something that I you know would love to share with you guys so definitely look forward to that another thing before we get into the video of course you guys know the drill by now do not forget to follow me on instagram which will be right here and also do not forget to subscribe to this channel and also click on the bell so that you're notified every single time that I post and without further ado I don't wanna hold you guys any longer so let's just jump right into the video so as you guys can see from the title this is how to emotionally detach is a very highly requested video this is a question that I get so many times these are things that I had to learn based off my own experience based off of things I've seen things I've heard yada yada yada so we're gonna jump right into tip number one and that is think with your head not with your heart this is so important because we have to understand the fact that despite what we're looking for we can't jump into this thinking oh my god this guy's the one even if we may suspect that that may be the case you can't act on it because that's when you start leading with emotion and as you guys know we don't do that until it's earned and then you're already starting to go backwards because in your head you start conditioning yourself naturally as a woman to accept certain things or overlook certain signs because you're just thinking oh my gosh this guy is the one for me so if I have to deal with X X and X and it's really not that bad because at least I get him no lead with your head not your heart and if you think about it guys do that naturally all the time they're very logical when it comes to dating let's do the same tip number two as I've mentioned before do not ever date just one person at a time this is coming from someone like myself who always used to just date one person at a time and based upon that experience I've quickly learned that why would I do something like that all it did was make me focus on that one person and that one person was not only focused on me so it made them naturally of course way less attached they had more options all of these things and all it did was make me sad if I felt like they pulled away I would draw closer we all do this come on ladies let's not act like we don't and it's just a recipe for disaster and also you don't want to pour so much into one thing when you don't even know if that is the thing and nine times out of ten he's definitely seeing other people so you need to keep your options open as well this is a major component in emotionally detaching because there is no way that you were out of the three people that you're dating or five people that you're dating that you are emotionally attached to all of them it's just not possible and if you are someone that is smart and you are playing the game which you should be you're not going to allow yourself to have emotion for people that have not proven anything to you yet why am I having a motion with you you don't have any emotions to meet with me you don't have any emotion with me so why am I giving you that it's so easy for us as women to get emotionally detached so wait till he gets there don't don't get there before he gets there when he gets there we just synchronize that's usually how it goes it takes nothing for us to do that so don't just offer that up because that's when they pounce on that vulnerability and they do whatever they want to do because they know that they have you do not date just one person whereas I've said in my other videos have a roster tip number three is keep yourself busy and I mean legitimately busy okay perhaps to have a life and the more confident you are in having a life and actually having a life whether that's you know hang out with your girlfriend taking some sort of fitness class kickboxing whatever it is actually having hobbies and things to do this will make you less available at all times and one thing I've also learned is never cancel your plans for a guy continue on about your day if you have something legitimate to do do not cancel and make way for him I don't think so he can see you another time continue on with your day this also will make him want to see you again because it's like oh dang I really wanted to see this girl today but she had something to do I'll see what she's doing later on this week don't be upset thinking oh my gosh the fact that I just you know that I told him I had something to do now he's not gonna want to see me anymore no that's not how it works you said I'm saying and I'm guilty of this to where I used to just make myself available all the time and I feel like guys can easily sense that and they're just like every single time that I ask this person out they are always available for me it's not always translating to them as wow she really likes me she's always available it seems to translate to them as she must not have that much to do and then all of a sudden you take a back seat in their roster because they know okay option a is always available so let me bring in option B because I know that at the end of day more than likely option a is always available so then they start rotating other people have had a head of you because they know that you're always no matter what pretty much gonna say yes and be there no I don't think so have your own life have your own activities to do and also even if you are someone that's in a relationship men don't always want you up under them so have your own things to do have your own life this also makes you more attractive because it's like wow she has her own thing going on she takes this yoga class or Pilates class and whatever she does like with her girlfriends you know I'm talking about legitimate things I'm not talking about only going out and partying all day and this adds value to you and it shows Wow like that's very attractive to know that you're not just waiting on me to just come home or you're not waiting on me to call you and ask you out on a date you understand what I'm saying which either way you shouldn't be waiting on him to ask you out on a date anyway because you have a roster remember okay tip number four to help you get emotionally detached is to literally remember all the times that you made the mistake of becoming emotionally attached too soon and how that ended up how'd that end up for you babe it didn't end well right start reflecting on how it felt to be taken advantage of to have that feeling of giving more than you actually got there was no reciprocity it's important to remember that feeling that enough should be motivation to not allow something like that to happen again do not surrender your control to somebody like that again especially so soon and this is why all of these tips are very important because they all synchronize with one another so far we've gone through one through four if you don't think with your head you're more than likely not gonna have a roster because you're attaching yourself to one person who isn't even giving you that commitment at least not yet if you date just one person well then you're just you're emotionally attaching yourself setting yourself up for heartbreak and over sharing and spilling your feelings getting emotionally attached to someone for no reason and if you date just one person then you're not following step one which was to think with your head and not with your heart you're just ruining things for yourself babe you're working backwards if you're not doing tip number three keeping yourself busy then you're always gonna be available which how is that even possible that would insinuate that you weren't following the previous tips well you shouldn't be making yourself available for just one person only you have to follow all of these see how they all just go together if you reflect on how you were treated when you didn't follow these rules it would make it a lot easier to get attached to someone that isn't giving you the same thing don't do it and lastly tip number five the take-home until you get a commitment associate emotions with surrendering your control and that is what you don't want to do so if you associate emotions with earning your control you're less prone to do it because think about it let's say you went on a date with a guy right this is a extreme example and he said to you oh um how about you drive my car and when you were driving his car he goes okay now let me just steer the wheel you just sit there you'd have to of course surrender your control of the wheel and trust the fact that he's not going to crash the car while you are in the driver's seat how does that work I don't think you'd really do that especially with someone of course that you don't even know that well you would need to put yourself in that position so same goes for dating you do not surrender your control when you don't know this person you don't have trust in this person vice versa you don't do it you don't have a commitment to this person you have no reason to actually just take every single thing that they're saying you know at face value you don't have a reason to does that make sense that was a really good example by the way so guys those are just five quick tips on how to emotionally detach I really hope that you guys actually implement these things and let me know how it goes when you do because these are legitimate rules that I personally follow myself by now at this point to me it's second nature so it's a lot easier for me given the fact that I have been implementing these for a while now but that being said guys if you have any suggestions of any other videos that you would like me to do any other topics that you would like me to cover do not hesitate to let me know in the comment section below and of course if you haven't subscribed already subscribe and if you haven't clicked abella ready click the valve become a part of the 18 we would love to have you for growing at such a exponential rate I just it's just exciting and it's so mind-blowing and I'm so grateful and I don't want you guys to forget that I love you and God loves you and I'll see you guys in my next video

Channel: Asha Christina

Views: 1,115,337

Rating: 4.9040198 out of 5

Keywords: emotionally detach, level up, sheraseven1, annabey, school of affluence, thegame, the pink pill

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Length: 12min 8sec (728 seconds)

Published: Wed Jan 30 2019