Be ready for the test!

hey hey tony guys here popping in when traffic get moving i can't look at the phone but um and y'all got to understand when i'm filming it just like you riding in the car with me my eyes be on the road i'd be completely locked in and focus so understand that right there covered by the blood of jesus over here so i want to talk to you about this because one of the things that i see is you know somebody asked me like tony you know can you talk to the men about not playing a woman like men and women know if what they want to do and letting the woman know if they just want to sleep with them letting the woman know if they don't want to be with them you know can you tell the man that and it's kind of like wouldn't life be so sweet if that's how life worked i mean that life would be so sweet if everybody who came into our life told us their intentions for our life like if people came to me and said hey tony don't really like you feel like you're a little arrogant because i'm insecure and so just really want to partner with you to take advantage of your following and to get a shout out from you so that i can get your people to follow me and buy my products and get them in my funnel and then i'll just badger them and just hit them over the head every week we're just selling selling selling selling selling don't really care about them but just want to get rich so pretending to like your message pretending to like you so we can collaborate like wouldn't life be so sweet if everybody who come to me told me that just straight out so because then what would i do absolutely not get out my face but nobody tells you their real intentions when they come into your life like one out of a million people will tell you their real intentions and so with that being understood you have to be prepared for tests you have to be prepared for somebody to try you and you have to already have the answers for the test and you get the answers by getting knowledge by watching videos talking to people who are knowledgeable in that area reading books going to seminars whatever it may be taking a class you get the knowledge by getting information and so here's the thing men are going to test women because for one or two reasons he doesn't trust women or he doesn't trust himself so if a man has been cheated on if a man has been bamboozled by a woman and when i say bamboozled let's say a man got with a woman and she pretended to be abstinent and he tried to sleep with her and she would not sleep with him because he's a good catch so she pretended to be abstinent to make herself look classy but then he talks to another guy who knows her and that guy's like whoa bro hey you talk to her he's like hey man bro i ain't gonna tell you this man but you know you my dog so i just want to let you know man me and her had a little thing man like oh for real yeah i met her at the club and you know we danced a little bit after the club or whatever walking out i talked to her got a number we linked up you know at danish then i invited over to the crib and you know smashed and really ain't talk to her much after that and the man like what you hit on the first night what man she had me wait three months so now this man have been bamboozled in his mind the young lady could have grown and changed her life but the man gonna take it like oh you bamboozled me plymouth rock ain't laying on i ain't laying on plymouth rock paper rock landed on me kind of been running muck so now the man he does not trust women so now what he's gonna do every woman he meet he gonna put a whole lot of pressure on her try to sleep with on the first night now see the thing about this is if a man could sleep with you quickly which that word quickly is relative because for some men like myself when i was out there quickly meant one night because 99 of the women would sleep with me on the first night or the first date like the first time we're in a place that something like that could happen like u.s apartment and so for me quickly would be one night to three nights another man may think quickly is one week another man may think quickly is one month so it's all relative depending on a man's experiences with women so what you have to understand is a woman could come in and be just like super into this guy she had her none in a while she ready like freddie she need her something and she hop on a pole bless a wide open drop it like a hot all of the above and the man is using that as a test to weep women out now this woman could be a 100 faithful woman in a relationship she could be an amazing support system she could be an amazing wife but she just doesn't put a lot of stock on how soon you sleep with someone and so she sleeps with him based on her pressure the pressure he applies she could also sleep with him because something has happened to her in her past and she has a fear of men and fears that if she doesn't things could get forceful and things could turn ugly and she doesn't want to experience that again so when in the position when in that type of moment she takes and she does what he's asking of her so her reasoning is her reasoning no none of us can say what her reasoning is none of us can really judge her because we don't have her story we don't have her experiences but what's gonna happen is the man that she's dealing with is going to judge her and he is judging her based off of his experiences so that's what we have to understand everybody has had experiences and everybody judges future experiences based off of past experiences [Music] and everybody has a right to their judgment based on their experiences that's what we have to understand so the key is you have to have your own set of standards and you have to [Music] live by the consequences or the rewards of your standards so if you say hey if i'm feeling somebody i'm gonna sleep with them when i get ready to if that's the first night oh well if that's the first week oh well guess what that could work out for you that cannot may not work out for you if that's how you move you got to be okay with getting left by 9 out of 10 people because they feel like you two loose booty and you hop into bed with anybody way too fast you can't be like oh well you should not judge me because i want to sleep with you on the third night you asking me to sleep with you on third night so that mean you'll sleep with people on the first night too so how you gonna judge me when i'm doing the same thing you doing that's their life that's their right that was their test the results is if they test you like that and you sleep with them on the first night for them that is failure on your part they don't consider that failure on their part they move on with their life so is it fair no is life fair no well when life been fair life is hard you got to learn you got to learn how to play the game oh oh tony island i am tired of games i am so sick and tired of the games aren't we all aren't we all don't we all just want everything to be smooth and easy yes absolutely would love stuff to be smooth and easy that's not life that's not life you have to be prepared nobody is coming to save you nobody is giving you a memo hey i'm getting ready to play you get ready nobody is doing that you have to have your standards so you have to be able to look and say okay what's the standard that i can live with [Music] three months before sleeping with somebody okay if i make a man wait there's a woman talking if i make a man wait to three month mark 50 of them gonna see me as wife material 50 of them gonna see me as easy can i live with 50 of them judging me as easy if the answer is no then you say okay six month mark six month mark if i make a man wait until the six month mark there's a woman talking now somebody be clipping this and trying to make like i'm talking about a man from my perspective seventy percent of men gonna see you as wife material thirty percent see you as easy you have to ask yourself if that's how the numbers fall am i okay with that wow what is going on what is going on what is going on but it but it would have got that bloody got some jean underwears on buddy got a jean short song rolled up like briefs my boy got on gene underwear with a rocker shirt with wristbands all up and down your arm and lead but say he hitting on something bruh what say he read thee i hear street walking and a lady i got him on the phone interviewing him ma'am man now you're wrong for that man now you know that man is a law so now listen to [Music] so then you say okay can i live with that if the answer is no no i can't i can't have nobody thinking i'm easy cause i'm not easy i'm just doing what i think is reasonable inside of a relationship when i know somebody so then you say okay i'm gonna wait at least a year to get to know somebody to see if they last that long and if i wait a year before i sleep with somebody when i'm dating them i'm wheating out 90 of clowns and so you say that okay a year then if you wait a year the odds would be ninety percent of men will see a woman as wife material 10 will see her as another woman he don't put any stock on when a woman sleep with him can you live with that are you willing to take that chance if the answer is yes then okay if the answer is no okay then your standard need to be i'm waiting until marriage or you could say engagement i'm waiting until we engage before i sleep with them 95 of men will see her as wife material 5 will just treat her like another woman wait until engaged and so then can you live with that if the answer is like no no i ain't willing to take that risk i'm not willing to be with somebody date in a year two years get engaged sleep with them and then they leave because they got the prize and they feel like you know game over i ain't willing to lose that right there even one time okay then wait till marriage so if you wait till marriage guess what a hundred percent of the time the man sees you as wife material what i mean by this is the man who gets to sleep with you he became your husband that does not mean the marriage is going to last but if you can live with the man who gets to sleep with you became your husband in order to sleep with you so that if your relationship fall apart you can live with that because he had to go all the way through the finish line before he got the prize if you could if that's the only thing you could live with then that needs to be your standard you cannot and this is what i see women doing because men test women a lot so what i see women doing are failing the test and then getting mad that the man tested them failing the man test but getting mad that he didn't tell them this is the test i'm getting ready to test you with this is what you need to do in order to pass it and that's just not life so that's why i say you have to have your standards for yourself you have to know who you are what you want and how you gonna live your life that's what you got to know and if you're not there then it's like live by die by your standards however you feel whatever you want to do live by die divine and whatever come with it so if i say okay my speaking fee is ten thousand dollars i may have to turn down i may miss out on ten events in a row because the their pay is eight thousand their pay is nine thousand if i say my fee is ten thousand then everything nine thousand nine hundred and nine and under i gotta say no to because that's my standard the moment i say 8 000 then that event planner tells a friend who does events say hey i book such and such for eight thousand so then when they write in and then the speaker says my fee is ten thousand they're like uh um they book you for eight so what you mean so you ate all i could do is eight but now because you didn't accept the eight you didn't accept the eight thousand now that eight thousand paid a lot of bills so technically you like a eight thousand hey what's really the difference between eight thousand and ten thousand so now your fee is eight thousand see whatever your standard is you got to be willing to live by die by and when i say die by all mean literally i mean you got to stick with the consequences you got to be okay with the consequence because the consequences might not be what you want them to be and you got to be able to say you know what i'm fine with that i'm fine with that i pass like right like right now i don't do interviews i don't do all interviews that i get asked to do and i don't one of the type of interviews i don't do is instagram instagram live interviews a lot of people doing those right now i don't do instagram live interview because that's not my style and i don't want to lend my whole audience on instagram to somebody to somebody uh podcast and because it took me years and years to build that blood sweat and tears and i'm not going to introduce somebody to my audience that i don't know who they are and how they literally like so i'm not going to do no instagram interview so that's my standard lil by and if i make an exception it got to be on something that it's also going to be beneficial to me so if the person got a viral audience and i would like to reach their audience and their audience bigger than mine or the same size as mine okay now that's more that's a win-win but if somebody audience smaller than mine and they want to interview me on my instagram live on instagram live so my audience see i'm on live and my audience bigger than theirs then that's a lose win you see what i mean so that's a standard and that's what i mean have your standards [Music] and when you have those standards a people have to get rid of to get going so hey there tony guys y'all want to talk to you about that just to remind you set your standards and be okay with what come with that be okay walking away be okay with people who can't meet you at your level of living at your level of standard they can't meet you there okay oscar lavista god bless you have a nice life see you later and it's on again god bless you get on off the hill phone starting to rain we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 19min 58sec (1198 seconds)

Published: Wed Sep 15 2021