Why does he come back? | Talks With Tony

hey hey tony gaskins here now today i got to sit back a little bit from the camera just because uh i had a facial today did my hydra facial today so you see my face glowing and just i i'm trying to wipe this off but it don't come off of that it's just really just what it is after they do this hill facial but wife got me on the skin routine trying to get my cells back trying to get my skin cells back because you know a lot of times as men sometimes we don't do the best uh got this email in uh talks with tony now if y'all's not these be real emails okay i covered up the name right there these be real emails all right now i have not read this at all so hopefully this able to become a video i don't have that much time today i know y'all get tired of hearing me say that but my oldest son got a soccer game here in uh an hour and a half so i got leaving wow hey tony i recently aligned myself to be a part of your tribe i have watched and re-watched all your videos okay watched and re-watched and you still had your question okay not only do i thank you for your gift but i am proud for my power of discernment and well on my way to healing question i began a relationship long distance over a year ago it was not abuse and no cheating that i'm aware of but simply put he really didn't love me nor was he trying to make me his wife things were good in the beginning and things just started not feeling right in a relationship long distance over a year ago okay i realized i was definitely dating his representative and that he was in fact a 45 year old grown boy i'm 44 and that not much of what we had going on served me much purpose i am done questioning myself and trying to figure out anything out but and trying to figure anything out but here recently i decided i was done with the shenanigans and asked him to just come get his things and that i was ready to move on we made those arrangements and he played the mind game i just don't want to leave i wish we could basically kiss and try to get me on my back and get back to the way things were i wasn't having it first because there seemed to be a total lack of accountability on his part he was waiting on a butt kissing the part she put this in parentheses uh the part of making me feel like i am crazy that you always talk about that he just was not going to get from me he was waiting on a butt kissing that he just was not going to get from me luckily i had already checked out of the situation and had been ready for it all to just be over he flew back home and a couple of days had passed and he sent me a text and picture of a watch i had just got him a month prior saying i just wanted to i just wanted you to see the fit seemed quite childish especially after he had nothing to offer me during what i considered his last time ever seeing me and a time that i was even possibly opening open to listening to him i waited about two days and forwarded him your grown man vs grown boy video nah don't be bringing me in there okay because the man come over here all right he gonna have some real problem i know it seemed petty but that's just where i was at with it lol and he text back be blessed by the time i hit send to forward grown boy tactics you finna send you enough you seen another video grown boy he had blocked me now see uh not that i was not not that i was not overjoyed by that and decided to just block him too so in six months after some woman potentially drug him he wouldn't come fixing his fingers to call me but why do men block and play grown boy games and then have the nerve to return i've been working on my block game with male friends as well as i continue to grow and get this lesson and now they call from different numbers asking was it that bad why do men do that and how do you explain to a man that point blank period you are not serving me purpose or serving my purpose maybe men not that they care or need the explanation but sometimes they do in some cases i want to be able to tell a man that you are just not part of my purpose another video i would like to see is why men are in a relationship with women and the woman has to foot her own bill vacations and such dinners can pass but those big ticket items what is the deal with a man who stands in that position and looks for a woman to cover herself most of the time i know it's the easy route but i need some clarity lol um okay i'm not really to 100 sure on this here question that y'all was long distance over a year ago and and you know he's still on your mind you writing about it no abuse no cheating he came back at your life you realize it was his representative and so you wonder why a man blocks you or leaves you and then comes back and why grown boys keep coming back now here's now first you sent them a video grown boy versus grown man then you see them grown boy tactics come on nah it like the man wanna fight me ain't gonna lose that and so but that is funny that he blocked you but here's what you gotta realize with me and see here in his 40s what you got to realize about men is a man is always looking for his absolute best match but men don't like to be alone and so just like how you said this was over a year ago that you was in this situation with him now you say you proud for your for my power of discernment and well on my way to healing so you did leave them so you discerned that he was a bomb now you say he wanted to basically kiss and try to get me on my back and get back to the way things were so he said i just don't want to leave i wish we could get back to the things back to the way things were see now when you said he basically you put it in parentheses saying that what he said he want to do with you basically meant kiss and get you on your back and then you say back to the way things were okay so he had you on your back and when a man is looking for the one most men and i agree why i'm saying men and not just grown boys because this is also a male trait most men are looking for a woman who she will take him out of the game meaning that he likes her personality and her style and the way she carries herself so much that he wants to retire from the game most men that's what they're looking for so what you have to understand is that anytime you meet a man and see the thing about this is y'all were long distance long distance is not real because you can't see him you could trust a man as far as you could see him until you really really know him and you know his belief system how he lives his life how he carries himself so it's like now my wife could trust me but she still don't give me 100 trust because she knows that i'm a human so a lot of time we say oh 100 trust you still have to use common sense and know that you dealing with a human so my wife's still not gonna let me go spend the night with another woman still not gonna let me be buddy buddy buddy with another woman still ain't gonna be okay with that because she know i'm a human and although i may pass the test although i make it get through it how many times can i get through it you see what i mean my wife still does not put anything past me even if i'm talking to a woman and it's a business situation and this woman is outside of the scope of what my wife feels like i would be attracted to she still realizes and she still believes that there could be a chance that i could like that woman or that woman could like me so she still got her eyes open and that's how you have to be with humans now see when you're dealing with this man and y'all are long distance your relationship is not real everybody who alone relates to long-distance relationship they get mad when i say that but i just hate to tell you it and it's always women who say it oh i know it's real we long distance we are so happy together it is so amazing we are so perfect okay congratulations is that what you want to believe okay all right y'all might be guess what i ain't never seen it i do this every day all day not just in your relationship but in thousands of relationships i ain't never seen no 100 percent happy and healthy and faithful long-distance relationship point-blank period somebody need to make a move somebody need to make a move i'm just telling you i'm just i hate to break it to you so for one you need to have no relationship y'all with long distance that's a situation and you say things were good in the beginning and then just started not feeling right you know why i wasn't feeling right he started cheating you say it's no cheating that you aware of but it wasn't feeling right reason why i wasn't feeling right you say i realized i was definitely dating his representative that he was in fact a 45 year old grown boy and that not much of what we had going on served me much purpose so see that's the thing that look when you sense grown boy grown boy stems from him being from him cheating from him entertaining other women that's why you sensed grown boy that's why you felt grown boy now see the next thing is is you got fed up you want him to come get his stuff he said oh no i don't want to leave i want us to um go ahead and get down to it so he wanted to get you on your back and you say you weren't having it first because there seemed to be a lack a total lack of response accountability on his part he was waiting on a butt kissing that he wasn't going to get from me luckily i had already checked out of the situation and been ready for it all to just be over he flew back home and a couple of days had passed and he sent me a text and a picture of a watch i had just got him a month prior and said i just wanted you to see the fit so she listened he flew back home so see what now when i say long distance i mean y'all live far enough apart that y'all can't see each other every day that if you wanted to see each other every day y'all live too far apart to work a job and see each other every day that's long distance somebody said describe long this this man got on a plane he got on a plane and flew back home that's definitely all the way nacho nacho man he ain't nowhere near your masculine i had a real tag got his new shirt i got um from the uh barbecue place in charleston south carolina and so listen this definitely not your man you hit me because he had to get back on the plane so he wanted you man he was you and a couple other women man and now you sent him the video that was petty you was a little mad he felt it that's why he told you be blessed because he said oh okay you own gang you own gang i might let you go this who you listening to did what you listening to oh you got me pegged all the way be blessed and then that's why he blocked you because what you sent him offended his spirit it upset his spirit it hurt his spirit and i guarantee he watched every message and he probably wanted the accounts i had the blog he probably one of the accounts i didn't had the block probably came in here faking and this i've seen a couple of men come in here and comment and now i realize they come in the comment because one of y'all just sent him the video so i had to go off on a couple of men and tell them like is because they came and commented probably because one of y'all sent them the video and so listen my video is not for you to forward to the man unless you done with him like you did the way he could get that truth and he could he could sit with that it might change his life my videos is for you to have the knowledge so that you could spit gain to him so you could let him know that right they ain't gonna fly because i already know what this here what this hillbot i already know what you're up to i already know what you're doing huh ain't gonna fly and he confused as to how you know this but you don't let the man know about your secret weapon this ain't to you because you were done with them just to other people and y'all have to also forgive me i'm have to spell stuff out cause when i don't spell stuff out somebody in the comments and the one thing that i thought was common sense that everybody understood it's a strand of people that missed everything so now i got the s-p-e-l-l everything i okay y'all forgive me but just some people just everybody ain't all the way there with relationships and this is a whole new world for some people some of y'all have been through enough relationships you kind of understand what i'll be talking about without me having to sound remedial but for some people this is just completely new to them and i don't want to leave them in the dark because i'm here for everybody not just the smart discernment educated all that i want to reach everybody who watch these videos i don't want to leave nobody hanging so understand that now see this thing so right now a lot of women in their feelings why is long distance not real long distance is not real because you're dealing with a man you're not dealing with god you're not dating jesus you're dating a man a man is a visual creature if this man is not a virgin that means that he is actively seeking okay and if you not there to give it to him or if you're not giving it to him because you're abstaining like you should be until marriage he's going to get it from somewhere else that is why long distance is not real even if he's just getting it from a two dollar quick wham-bound thank you mount practical on the side of the street he's getting it from somewhere else unless he is abstaining and he is a devout man of god if that's not the case you being cheated on 99.9 percent of the time out of 199.9 out of 100. i hate to put that on you but if you love this man somebody need to make a move you need to move to him or he need to move to you point blank period now this here's the thing what i was going back to explaining y'all let me hurry up let me hurry up 17 minutes okay let me hear up what i'm going to explain to y'all when the world of mecca i might go back doing seminars and it'll be whole day workshops too cause we'll go all the way in have a whole two hour q a answering everybody question you talk too much we're gonna have a broom they cut the music on and snatched the mic from you you hit me and listen so y'all get ready in the world get back normal again i might go ahead and just hold because see how i could talk for an hour easy i'll be saying hey ain't got ain't got that much time then i've been here 45 minutes an hour that just because it's so much in here okay in here so now listen what i'm telling y'all about a man do what you got to understand do what you got to understand listen to me now a man is always on a journey looking for his match okay he but this is the thing the average man does not want to the man you gonna meet when i say average man don't think that you are an exception to the rule and you only find to meet amazing above average men no you're going to meet these men that i'm talking about listen he does not want to be alone if he's not a virgin or abstaining until marriage as a born-again virgin then he is going to want to get you on your back but here's the thing a lot goes into it if y'all sleep together and you sleep together before six months you just went from wife material to maybe if so probably maybe not material if it's under three months you went to is slim to none in under two months and under one month absolutely not now some of y'all say we slept together in a month and we happened together i hate to break that tell you sometimes you don't know the man that you with it take a woman about 10 years to know a man because just men don't show all the cards so a lot of y'all that is 12 swear y'all apart or the exception to the rule it just ain't been long enough for you to see so stay off your back and if you got on your bike listen it might be some stuff getting ready to surface pay attention watch out now now see listen so he own this pathway when he gets you anytime you date a man you have to realize that you could be just a wrong in the ladder that you could just be a stepping stone that you could just be a pit stop on the way to where he's actually going so with that in mind what you have to realize is what do what you got to ask yourself what do i want to give this man if i'm just a pit stop are you going to tell him all your secrets are you going to give him your body are you going to do all of this extra with him singing on the microphone on your bike riding a surfboard all of this here extra with him if you're just a pit stop now how long how do you know you're not just a pit stop what is a pit stop you just stopping in to get some maintenance and then you back on the road to destiny you back in the race if a man is with you for a year and you have not slept with him or done anything sexual with him you're not a pit stop if he with you for six months and you've done nothing sexual you're not a pit stop like he's literally taking you seriously and because you're not on your back you have clarity and because you have clarity now you can truly discern his spirit that he's operating from and so that's the space that you want to be in and so now what you want to realize is that he is when a man get with you and everything goes perfect and then he flipped the script it's because he was actively dating while he was with you and so when he flips the script it's because he met somebody who he feels brings something different to the table i i used to say more to the table and technically it is more it just it may be less to you so you may if you saw this woman you may say she's not as attractive as me but you're biased because you're talking about yourself you may say she doesn't make the money that i make but see he may not care about your money so it depends on what he's looking for which he's not going to spell out to you because he doesn't want you to change for him he wants to see if you are the woman for him without him having to manipulate you into becoming the woman for him so here's the thing it can be something so simple as she likes to cook and his mom either cooked all the time so he want a woman that loves to cook or his mom never cooked and he wants a woman that loves to cook because he resent that his mom did not cook you don't even realize that and you don't cook but she cooks now it could be he wants a woman who he feels is a hustler a grinder a go-getter because that he's attracted to that and you may be the type that you comfortable in your job and you really ready to get married and have children and then leave your job and be a homemaker a housewife and he doesn't like that when he found that out he doesn't like that attribute about you but this woman over here she's starting business at the business and they flourish and she's building them and he's attracted to that it's different strokes for different folks so what you have to realize you have to always assume that you are a pit stop and it in in knowing that you could be a pit stop you have to reserve some of you for you the problem with what women do is you give all of yourself to this man and you give all of yourself to this man but so he takes all of you he has you in every way imaginable sexually mentally emotionally physically and then he meets somebody else that he thinks is better than you and then he leaves you and you're feeling drained and you're like what everything was perfect no everything was perfect for you because he was playing a role you were dating his representative but you didn't know what he was looking for and you're never going to know until he put a ring on it and he walked you down the aisle or y'all stand up on the arch at the courthouse and get married because he's not going to tell you so that's what you have to understand and that's why i tell y'all stay off your back and everybody who write in me i ain't seen an email yet let's say you know i'm standing for marriage i saw one somebody say she was standing for two years but see i definitely tell y'all stay off your back because he just passing through he passing through unless he's make this stop and he like whoa you know what i'ma turn this house into a home i think i'm gonna stay here other than that he's just passing through so don't let him pass through with your parents don't let him pass through with your money don't let him pass through with all these experiences that you can gave him don't let him do that when he's come to stop in your life make sure that when he stopped he get his hands to working meaning that he's courting you he trying to make love to your mind not your body he's trying to make love to your mind he's trying to prove himself to you he's being chivalrous trying to show you that he's a man he's he's giving you quality time here's the thing another thing he's being consistent he's being consistent to show you that he is the man for you see y'all let a man come in your life and then you go to working for the man and you go to cooking you go to cleaning you go to doing laundry you go to getting on your bike sucking and ducking okay y'all thought off in the cuts on cuss all right so here you will sing it all on the microphone here he got you front bite upside down in the library in the backseat so he having his feel of you and this not your husband you don't even know this man he just passing through he don't even want you but he had to show you his representative to get you comfortable so you could drop your guard and see that's what you got to understand and then this is what y'all say well if i ain't giving it to him he's going to get it from somewhere else if he get it from someone else he's not the man for you the man for you gonna wait on you i remember coaching a man and he said listen my wife is a virgin we've been together three years we're getting ready to get married i want to know do you think i should sleep around before we get married just to get that out of my system i said absolutely not you got a queen she's saving herself until marriage you sleep around ain't gonna get nothing out your system it's just gonna wake you up crank you up you feed that monster you feed that lust now you're gonna want to keep doing it while you're married you see what i'm saying and so guess what boom this man was used to having women ladies man and he is with this woman who's a virgin he said whoa you different you rare and he said i'ma wait on you and he waited and so that's what you got to understand when a man meets the one if you are the one for him he will change and upend everything in his life nothing that you knew to be true will be true because he will become the exception to the rule and when he becomes the exception to the rule you won't need me or nobody else to confirm that he's an exception to the rule because you will feel it in every fiber of your body and that's what you got to understand that's what you got to understand if you have to worry he's not the one if you have to wonder he's not the one if you got to question it and come ask me about him he's not the one he's not the one i'm here to tell you because your intuition is strong so pay attention now see the man is on a journey i got to get going now i'm running out of i'm running i thought too the man is on a journey and so here's what it is okay boom he on the jerk okay boom he meet this woman okay um we get she could charge them up she charging them up this phone charge she charging um oh that worked good everything fun okay boom get a chart he's still looking why he with you he peeping out around you you hear me he peeping out around you he looking he's looking he's looking for other women but look he's seeing one okay uh tall glass of water woo okay um let me get a drink he get hydrated this one he'll see listen you charge them up but you can hydrate them you see what i'm saying he see this hydration okay boom then as he going um receipt this means she got money this woman here this mean that now he said oh she got money she got receipts that mean she can go half with me on a house her credit is 800 her job or her business is paying her so now instead of having to get a house in just his name he say get a house in both our name because it's going to be better to get it and her income with my income boom stood us getting a 250 dollar house we get a 500 house you see what i'm saying he liked that so he dating her he dated her then he looked he said oh boom he meet her uh he meet this one he educated she put him on game she got knowledge so she's speaking to his mind she's making love in his mind so now he like her you see what i mean so but see what happens is this why he come back he liked her because she educated his mind she articulate she know a lot about stocks she know a lot about bonds she know a lot about cryptocurrency she know a lot about business so he's so enlightened he's so enamored but then guess what uh oh she giving them all these here jewels but uh he don't forg he running out of battery he need to come get charged up so he come back to you to come get charged y'all break up in another six months he come back to her to come get hydrated he come bite to her to go half on a nice vacation in turks and caicos he come bite to her to figure out what's going to be his next stock investment and then boom next thing you know he meet a woman she got it all everything just on a a she got it all she got she got a brainiac she got all everything right here in this one woman he want to get hydrated boom he could order water from amazon.com he want to get charged up boom he can order the charger boom apple.com he want to read boom he got ibooks see she is everything all in one so then that is when he gets married that's when he get married and and and the marriage may end the marriage still could end because he get in there and then he like oh she don't know how to make love oh my goodness but this one over here will hear me aquafina so man she got everything but one thing and see this the thing if this man has not matured to the place that he could be hungry and content at the same time he will bounce from woman to woman so what my wife cannot give me i am completed by god god gives me the peace to deal with what my wife is lacking in my mind see she may not be lacking in the sight of god but see humans are selfish because she has matured what i'm lacking in her sight god completes her and completes me by giving us the mindset to appreciate the flaws to understand that his or her flaws is what makes him or her perfect so what my wife may not do that another woman does does not outweigh the things my wife does because what she does is what matters the most so on a scale of not one to ten if she does a lot of things that's a 10 and then she do a couple of things that's a five but that 10 could be much heavier like raising children the right way as a good role model preaching the importance of an education to the children being a strong backbone in the household being able to be the ceo of a household that weighs heavy but she may not cook the woman may not cook five days out the week she may cook one day out of the seven days this woman over here she cooked six days out of the seven days but she liked to have her booty out when she go to the school house so now everybody looking at her like they could smell her booty the girls in the man's son class looking at her so now what weighs most the good role model for the children the ceo of home the strong backbone who make this she may dress like plain jane this woman over here dressing like luke booty 901 and she cooked six out of seven days so is the man who is completed by god going to value the character or the cooking you see what i mean but a man who is empty a man who is vain a man who is a grown boy he will be torn and go to this woman for the cooking this woman for the hydration this woman for the receipts who else this woman who could write division this woman who who got the brains and he'd just be bouncing around because he's not complete and whole as a man and he's looking for someone else to complete him but no human is perfect so no woman can complete him and that is why grown boys leave and come back leave and come back leave and come back because when he left you for this other woman when he switched it up on you and forced you to leave him it was because he was being entertained by this other woman what he thought was an upgrade turned out to be a downgrade so he acts funny with her so that she will break up with him then he comes back to you because he misses your supply what you could do you see what i mean everybody something different so a grown boy until he meets the one he may go from this woman who does who has colored eyes this woman got a nice butt this woman has an amazing job this woman has an amazing mind this woman can cook her behind off and so he's juggling because he's a grown boy he's insecure he's unsure he's looking to be completed he doesn't understand that he needs to be whole in himself and where he's empty god gotta fill him up and this woman is not gonna be perfect but her flaws will make her perfect and that what has to be perfect is not her but his perception of her that's where the perfection comes in so guess what my wife is perfect because i say she is perfect she does not do every single thing that every other woman or that another woman may do but that other woman don't do what she does so i found peace and i found happiness in her qualities because the quality she has outweighs the attributes she may choose not to carry not that she's incapable is that she's made a decision not to do those things so but what she has decided to do means a lot to her and in the grand scheme of things they mean a lot to me so where i could look at this woman and see what this woman does this guess what i came lust after that 20 when i got 80 percent that i can see as 100 so it's perception that grown boys lack that they is is how they look at a woman and they say she's not everything but what he doesn't do is look in the mirror and realize that he's not everything he ain't half a thing you see what i mean and so that's why he's always discontent and unhappy with every woman he gets with because he's looking for her to be perfect in every sense of his imagination and not perfect through his perception based on what really matters in a relationship so what really matters is the woman god fearing yes is the woman trustworthy yes is the woman honest yes is the woman capable of standing on her own two feet if she has to yes so if she is all of those things she's perfect does the woman cook no does she clean regularly no clean the house ain't talking her body does she flip and toss in the bed like a paid worker in the bedroom no do these three things matter in the grand scheme of things no because if she does all of these but she don't do those and guess what ain't no woman gonna do it all ain't no man gonna do it all and if you will doing it all is because life ain't all the way hit you you're not raising young children and married but you're not going to work 40 hours a week be an amazing outstanding mom and a amazing sex machine in the bedroom something gonna have to give because if you work in 40 and you working with your children in school for two to four hours a day and then they got practice so you driving two three hours a day to and fro schooling back working back practicing back how much energy you gonna have on your bank at night with your husband when you get on your bike you ready to snow now if you get to sleep in on saturday don't have to do work only got to go to the game then when you come home that night now you may have a little more energy why because you human i got to go in 14 minutes so i got to get dressed so i got to wrap this on up so understand this in conclusion you're just a pit stop until you're not you have to assume you are a pit stop keep your legs closed keep half of your business to yourself don't tell a man every weak point don't tell him every experience you had in life don't tell him all your business that he can weaponize that against you okay and put him through the ringer make him stand the test of time by keeping your legs closed and force him to open your mind not your leg and if he can't stimulate your mind if he don't have a key to your mind then he don't have the key to your heart and that's what you got to realize and as soon as you figure that out cut your losses and go going about your business order in the court going about your business and good the good thing about it is when you have to cut your losses when you have to cut your loss i'll pick my arm i want to see what muscle looking like when you have to cut your losses guess what if you have not given your body to him yeah you really lost nothing if you ain't told him all your business when somebody somebody say okay if you got herpes that need to be a first date conversation no it should not because if y'all don't make it past three days now this man on facebook spreading all your business now this man in the neighborhood spreading all your business so when you tell him something that is really important to you it needs to be because your legs have been closed so it don't even matter if you carrying something a virus or infection because your leg has been closed so you ain't even put him at risk but when you tell him it's because you're past his representative and you see him as the one you see him as a real man and he and he sees you as the one he's treating you like a wife and it has been six months or more three months or more depending on how fast y'all moving it's caveats and nuance too it's not one size fits all so don't just apply this to your situation without doing a coaching session if you know you got some intricacies that need to be discussed this this ain't this gent this general because it's talking to a lot of people at one time so understand that right though so this was a not so good um question because it won a lot of details but i was still able to teach on it so we made it work because i'm not i was not finished start all over stop this video and read another letter and start all over and i don't read the letter before i get on here but i want my reaction to be pure because i'm not an actor so if i read the whole letter my reaction's not going to be real cause i'm gonna have to reenact it and i can't do that so hey listen to them i'm not setting anymore letters y'all still emailing in because y'all watch the video where i said the email address so don't ask for the email address because the inbox is already flooded it's over 1600 questions in there if i do a question a day it's 365 days in a year and it's holidays so i'm not gonna do every and i got a life so i'm not gonna be able to do it every day so imagine i got right now i got four five years worth of questions you see what i mean if i do two questions a day i still got two three years worth of questions so hey we just gonna have to ride this on and then if i if the question get too old and i got to bump up to another month then i invite new questions you know but i'm trying to you know hit hit the people don't and if you hit a email address on one of the older videos don't send me no question don't send me no question now you see i got all these questions now unless you know your question that amazing and then don't send me no general question you know like we got today why do men leave and come back come on don't send me no general question send me specific questions with joe's situation with a lot of details of what you dealing with going through this right here didn't have that much substance in the question but we still was able to make a video out of it pray be to the lord so understand this this is what i want you to walk away with keep your legs closed you heard that from me a million times keep your legs closed know that you are a pit stop until you are not another thing i want you to take away from this if a man leave you let him stay gone if he lead you if he switch up on you and you have to leave him because he switched up on you he switched it up on you and he of age especially grown 40s late 30s if he make you leave him or he leaves you going about your business only time you entertain a man is if you left him that's the only time you entertain him is if you left him because you needed to send him a message and you just feel like he was being a grown boy but it was just a season and then he come back and he looking like smelling like walking like talking like jesus then you maybe could give him a second chance but it's an allotment you you doing three months and you're watching them very closely here on probation you're doing six months you but you're watching very closely any little thing boom you're going again and you're going for good so and i say that to be realistic because it's very rare that you break up and you stay broken up most people going to give it a second chance so i understand that's a part of life but even with that second chance you got to have stipulations so it has to be a timeline just can't go in going with the flow no it got to be directed it got to be real you know and things got to be moving boom boom and another thing uh what the another thing oh understand this right here men always looking for the upgrade until he find the one so understand that that's just the nature of men so nine out of 10 times when you meet a man you're one of three women nine out of 10 times you're one of three women understand that so when you get on your bike understand that it's typically at least two other women he's sleeping with too whatever you doing with him understand that typically it's two other women he's doing that and that answers your last question about why men want a woman the foot half of the bill like on the big ticket items it's because you're not the only woman he's dating so if you were the only one he's dating he could pay for your trip to jamaica but he going to jamaica with you on each on spring break he going to jamaica with her on the fourth of july he going to jamaica with the next one on thanksgiving he going to do making with the next one on christmas so he would be a broke man if he paid the full ticket so when a man wants you to go half that is a clear indication that you are one of several one of a few one of many you're not the only one but a real man will pay the bill all the bill every bill if he is into you and you are the one now if he got buku money it don't mean anything if he fought the bill because he can afford them four different vacations with four different women because he got that much money but when you know he don't got that much money and he asked you to go have that's a clear sign that's a red flag that you're one of many hey this tony gaskins god bless you hope this gets to you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 48min 48sec (2928 seconds)

Published: Thu Nov 19 2020