Why do men always come back?

talk to you about why men come back you know I was I got a question from someone through my inbox at Tony Gaskins calm the email for my podcast and ask me why do men always come back why do men keep coming back and you see this a lot you deal with it a lot and in a lot of relationships and most relationships you see people dealing with the same person off and on for years at a time and in a lot of these cases is either a man getting left and he keeps coming back or a man continuously leaving and he keeps coming back the reason why so many men keep coming back is because men don't heal men don't focus on healing men sleep around so a man will leave a woman or get left by a woman and instead of going and reading a book to get new knowledge to understand things he did not know instead of in going and getting relationship coaching instead of going to a retreat or to a seminar I did a self-love retreat last year in California in the mountains and it was 22 women not a single man I did a singles workshop in Atlanta it was all women not a single man now mind you it's hundreds of thousands of men who see my videos and my posts and they know that help is available but men most men do not seek growth in the space of relationships now men will go to conferences about making money real estate flipping you know things like that they do all the real estate stuff they do all the the trading the day trading do all the social media to recourses do all of the courses about making money but most men will not work on themselves relationally and the reason being is because most women reinforce a lack of self-development by men so men come back and run in and out of a woman's life because those men don't heal and what happens is the brain when you are interacting with someone you receive chemical releases into your bloodstream and it in acts it activates your your stuff what's inside of you what I mean by this is your pain your insecurities your weakness whatever you are dealing with so let's say a man is dealing with a woman who he can yell at and he can curse at and he can mistreat he can talk down to he can disrespect verbally or physically well when he does that it gives him a release because he was bullied by his dad he was abused by his mom or his brother or life whether it is the world at large and so that pain and that insecurity as you heard hurt people hurt people so when this man is toxic and abusive in any form of abuse to this woman he gets a release that makes him feel a momentary pleasure of power of control if a man has no control over his lust over his self over his choices and decisions if he is reckless in his own life but he can tell this woman how to dress who to talk to who not to talk to where she can he can't go what she can and can't do it gives him a sense of power and control so what happens is eventually he leaves that woman or he gets left but he keeps coming back and he's coming back because the brain is only activated you know in a certain amount of ways in our day-to-day experiences and so when your brain is activated and you get that release into your bloodstream and you have a feeling and you enjoy that feeling that feeling becomes addicting so when you try to leave that woman and you go and have other experiences but the reaction that your brain is having to those experienced don't give you the same feeling that that woman gave you even if it was toxic a toxic relationship then guess what you go back to that woman to get that feeling again and so a lot of times you know women are always asking the question why does he keep coming back why does he keep coming back why does he keep coming back it's not because he loves you it's because he's addicted to the feeling he gets from the drama the chaos the toxicity the the pain that anguish whatever it is that you all have going on the the intercourse the intimacy it is an addiction to that feeling it's not love when this happens multiple times if it happens one time okay because what you have to understand about love is that a man does not leave a woman that he truly loves nor does he do things that makes the womanly him when a man truly loves a woman and he is in love he will stand and he will stand the test of time and he will get stronger he will get wiser and he will get better speaking from experience here but when a man is in and out of your life like this you know revolving door that is addiction not love so understand that he keeps coming back because you're still standing still if you make a move and you work on yourself and you grow and you learn and you close the door then he'll stop coming back but if every time he looks back you're standing still still broke busted and disgusted still miserable still refusing to activate your purpose and to live your dreams you still have the door open you still answer his texts you still answer his calls you still allow him to have access to your life then it's like why not because both of you are stagnant both of you are lost both of you are hurting both of you are confused and misery loves company that is not love that self-hate so eight understand why a man has left and come back three four five times that's not love it's addiction to the drama he's addicted to the drama he's addicted to the chaos he's addicted to the uncertainty he's addicted to the control he's addicted to the power he's addicted to the chase he's addicted to something that has nothing to do with real love understand that close the door open your mind get new knowledge and move on with your life and to the man do the work he'll stop running from the pain and run through it get new lessons become a real man heal your heart learn what you did wrong and learn how to be a real man learn what a husband is learn what a good father is and then do the work read the books go to the seminars have the coaching sessions to become a real man and if you know that you can't be the man that that woman needs let her live her life and flourish and get your life together and move on grow so that you can one day make someone a happy woman it is Tony Gaskins god bless y'all we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

Views: 552,287

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Keywords: why does he keep coming back, why does he leave and come back, why does my boyfriend keep leaving me, why do men leave a woman, how do men think, tony gaskins, life coach, relationship coach, the reason men breakup with a woman

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Length: 9min 29sec (569 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 30 2019