6 ways guy test women | How some guys decide if they’re going to respect you

what's good youtube this video is going to be about six ways that guys test women to see if they have power over them or leverage well if you haven't please go check out my cafe talks live channel o'neil talk about a bunch of life topics that affect everybody ideas that we all have to at some point reconcile within ourselves so please go check that channel out i think you'll get a lot from it now i want to preface this by saying that any guy who's actually testing you in these ways uh with the intent to try to gain leverage probably can't be trusted with that leverage in the first place but again not every guy has that intention sometimes i talk to women who experience such overtly rebellious behavior from guys they just be thinking to themselves what the hell is he thinking is this a test is he serious he must be testing me they usually tell me though like kevin you wouldn't believe what he did but don't worry though i played it cool and then i asked them why they say why what i say why'd you play it cool letting [ __ ] slide will only lead to more undesirable behavior either correct them or make an exit but don't play it cool they say well i didn't want to show that it bothered me or come off emotional listen ladies you don't have to be emotional to correct a man say what you have to say in a low voice with a straight face and then let the awkward silence ring like a siren you can show you're serious without raising your voice or spilling feelings all over the place so again either correct them or confront them or move on from them but don't play it cool don't endure undesirable behaviors in order to impress them you'll be doing it forever so with that said in no particular order let's get into the first test number one they say rude or critical things to see if you stand up for yourself or correct them if you don't appear to have a temper or you just laugh off every insensitive or inappropriate comment that he makes you're showing him that you're willing to endure anything to be in his company and that you like him way too much to show your anger a man who's insulting or rude from the very beginning may be trying to acclimate you to light verbal abuse and manipulation a man who chooses not to watch his tongue or has no control over his mouth has to see if you're compatible with his abrasive methods of communication don't go for it or it will become the culture of your relationship if you get that far a man also knows that if a woman lets him talk down to her then she likes him way too much to stop his sexual advances so moving on the second thing that guys do to test you is they don't text back or they go missing to see how you respond abandonment is generally indicative of someone's indifference toward you but sometimes it's strategic sometimes your reaction or your obvious relief after not hearing from a guy when he contacts you tells him all he needs to know about who's holding the cards many women panic or they get frustrated or they send a barrage of text messages when they haven't heard from a guy or they think they've been fired from the relationship the power to piss a woman off in the first place has always been used as an indicator of attachment for men the fears of additional and future abandonments make some women much easier to control from that point they then make themselves fun and convenient in order to keep a guy interested they break their own rules because they felt his rejection before and they didn't like it some would do anything to close the gap anything don't be that girl moving on the third sign the guy may be testing you to see how much leverage he has over you is they try to order you around or make you do things telling a woman what to do is an easy way to measure her eagerness to please women actually do this with guys as well when a man is granted authority by you that he didn't earn he knows that he's the prize in the relationship and he knows that you're willing to chase him some guys start treating their women like cadets or new fraternity pledges just to see how well she follows orders if a man seems to be barking at you or finessing orders to you early in the dating phase he's trying to test your ability to be ruled over or controlled other times a guy just wants an easy sex toy assistant of sorts you know a woman who does favors at his request sexual and otherwise if you get tested in this way it's best to just fail the damn test you're looking for love not a job and he's looking for an employee so with that said the fourth sign that a guy may be trying to test his leverage over you is they invite you to their house instead of a real date for the first date or they always try to make you come to them i've spoken to far too many women who spent their first date with the guy they met from tinder on some couch when i speak to them about the men they're saying many of them have gotten off to a really bad start i say how many dates have you been on they'd be like three or four i'd be like tell me about them how were they they'd be like well he just asked me to come over to his house and we just hung out most of the time i'd be like every time they'd like yeah so i say he just tells you to come over and you just do it and they say yeah has he ever made any effort on a date and they say no he hasn't even wasted a quarter to take a gas on these days i say you do this even though he's done nothing to show you a good time other than pull his pants down and he's gone through no trouble to court you properly they say yeah from that point and so many words i go on to tell them that they should probably stop letting him treat them like some kind of [ __ ] delivery girl again this is often a test of leverage and control and it's an effort to acclimate you to his minimal effort so again don't be that girl so with that said the fifth sign that a guy may be trying to test his leverage with you is they say something very explicit to gauge your reaction and your openness to sex this one is super common a guy may say something really inappropriate for your level of acquaintance it's usually followed by just kidding if you're in person or a playful emoji if he's texting you guys be thinking i bet i can hit it let me say something nasty and see what she says while you're trying to be cute and play it cool he's trying to gauge what your required level of respect is he's trying to see where your boundaries are a non-response may give an idea of acceptance or positivity toward whatever just fell out of his mouth it could even be taken as a quiet willingness to fulfill whatever explicit desire he just expressed so if you don't react you're bound to get another inappropriate comment you just asked for one so many women put on a brave face so they don't get seen as [ __ ] who take themselves too seriously but [ __ ] get respect if a man realizes that nothing is required to be inside of you then nothing is what you'll get if a man realizes that nothing is required to get inside of you then nothing is what you'll get if a man realizes that nothing is required to get inside of you then nothing is what you'll get moving on the sixth sign that a guy may be testing you for leverage is they ask you for pictures or they send pictures of a particular nature when the guy asks you for a picture the type of picture you send will be seen as an indicator for your level of attraction or eagerness to date him or impress him it will help him gauge your level of sexual attraction or your level of conservatism and or your intent to take things slow a picture can say anything from sir you're gonna have to wait to is going down as soon as possible the effort that you put into taking that picture in some cases telegraphs your level of interest that's why guys often say something like give me a new picture i want one that i just got don't give me one from instagram he wants to know exactly what you want him to think of you when you take that picture even good guys do this even nice guys will ask for a picture and hope that you put a certain amount of effort into it so they can see if the feelings are mutual another things guys do is well the creepiest of them will send to test your boundaries your response to them tells them how warm or loose you are with over sexuality if your response to such a picture shows no secrecy around your idea of sex then they will ramp up that behavior they will ramp up their aggressions overt sexuality expressed by a new guy is almost always a test so choose your response wisely don't focus on trying to seem a certain way or trying not to offend him or look emotional your response to this has to be genuine because how a man behaves in this realm of dating could lead to some trauma if fumbled sex is a serious topic especially around a woman's discomfort toward it the level of expressed sexuality between two people dating should be agreed upon the expression of overt sexuality not just sex should always be consensual so with that said make sure that you're intentional in setting your expectations for him anyway that's all i got for now follow me at kfig24 at instagram also please go check out my new channel i only have 1 000 subscribers which i'm very thankful for but kev hick talks life channel is live and i need y'all to go subscribe i need y'all to go share i need y'all to go like and comment thank you for your time i'll get with y'all later you

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Length: 10min 7sec (607 seconds)

Published: Mon Dec 16 2019