THE JOURNEY TO SELF-AWARENESS by RC BLAKES

hello oh hello hello hello hello I hope everybody can hear me and I hope that my signal is good I this is your first time here Mrs E Blake's and I'm a pastor I'm an author and I'm a man that has lived a little while and I've learned some things and I like to share the things that I've learned I'm a student of people in life I love people and I love life and I've experienced or it's been my experience should I say that life is constantly teaching us we just simply need to pay attention and I think if more of us became students of our own lives there would be a lot less catastrophe much of what we experience in life as it pertains to things catastrophic and hurtful many times could very well be prevented had we just paid attention so tonight I want to talk about self awareness but before hold on one second before we get into that I want to try to do better with my housekeeping I want all of you to join my mailing list at RC Blake's dot-com that's important because we have so many things 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I don't deserve to be in if you need counseling we've partnered with a group called better help and you in the in the description I will put a link there for those of you and it's beautiful because they do it by phone they do it by email it's it's a wonderful experience for those of you especially during these times so I'll put the link in the description if you need consoling of any kind don't forget to check out my podcast on itunes most of the stuff you hear on YouTube is actually on my itunes platform so if you want to just be able to hear it go to iTunes and subscribe to my subscribe to my my my podcast I suppose you call it but tonight I want to talk about self awareness self awareness I was just pondering this thought the other night and I realized or it came to me that most people are not self aware I'm going to converse with you when I'm done delivering this content most people are not self-aware thank you now let me make this statement your true self is not what you see in the mirror in other words what you're looking at now and you know to BRC blake's is just a physical representation this is called a body it is the physical representative of our si Blake's but this is not our si Blake's because your true self is not what may be captured in a mirror or in a camera lens your true self is immaterial and it must be or you must be he must be she must be sought out in other words you can't just randomly pass by a mirror and get a glimpse of yourself and be aware of yourself if you're really going to be aware self aware it's going to require more than the fleeting experience of passing by a mirror and looking at the house you live in that's what a body is simply the house we live in but the true self is immaterial this is why this is why it is unfruitful to try to develop a relationship thank you with someone who is superficial in other words all they all they see is the outside all they see is the external and they never look deeper to the true to the true person but now watch this what's even worse is when you're trying to develop a relationship with someone else before you've developed a relationship with yourself before you even know who you are you're trying to get to know someone else and this is all I allude to thank you this is all I loo to and I tell you all to not place as much no listen to my wording I'm not saying don't place any emphasis on a relationship with another I would be a hypocrite because I have a wonderful relationship with my wife but doing things in order before I develop that relationship with my wife and she with me we both had very healthy relationships with ourselves as individual with individuals we were both self-aware thank you we were both self-aware and the problem that I'm discovering with the people that I ministered to within my community which is worldwide which is worldwide and the interesting thing is the same problems that we have in in the black community in in in the urban cities of the United States of America of the same problems that European women are having in France the UK Australian women are having Asian women are having it's the same stuff you all are sending me the same stuff and in you know in a lot of cases I'm sending you the same responses it's because there has been no watch this pursuit of self-awareness there's been a lot of self-destruction thank you if you look in job 32 and eight it says but there's a spirit in man listen that is very carefully there's a spirit in man and the inspiration of the Almighty give them understanding but listen to that very carefully now there's a what spirit in man I I started this off by saying your your true self is not what you see in the mirror there's a spirit in you thank you and the inspiration of God gives your spirit understanding the true self gets understanding from the Almighty now as we begin to unpack this now hope you all allow me to just take my time and and minister minister this to you tonight we don't the more we unpack this the more we realize that a lot of you that are emailing me and a lot of you that are having a lot of problems in life if you really stop and listen to what I'm talking about right now you have to come to the point where you draw the conclusion I don't really know who I am I'm not really aware of me and when you are a person okay let me let me okay so job 32:8 says there's a spirit in man and the inspiration of the almighty giveth them understanding a gentleman by the name of CG Jung thank you here's a quote by a gentleman by the name of CG Jung Jae ung thank you very much he says listen listen to this very carefully he says until you make listen to me now this is some great teaching here man I wish I wish that they had taught this kind of stuff in the church when I was younger I wish they had taught this kind of stuff says until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate the problem with a lot of us and the reason life seems to keep turning in the wrong direction and giving unto us unfavorable offerings is because there's something defective in the true self that we're not aware of thank you let me read it again he says until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate could it possibly be that you are the root of most of your problems because you are living your life in tune to the what's the word I'm looking for the external the temporal I my language is failing me you just in tune to those things that you know superficial and you yourself have not gone deeper to become aware of who you really are in the inner parts going back to my first statement your true self is immaterial and must be sought out you see I am very much so self aware now I'm very conscious of who I am as a man I'm conscious of who I am as an individual but that didn't just happen for for a great portion of my life my life was driven by the superficial standards of the world and my definition of manhood was it was driven by my sexuality sleeping with women that's where I found my identity that's where I found my you know my sense of Worth and breaking a lot of people's lives and wrecking a lot of people and then one day something happened and I started looking deeper and I became aware of who I really was the stuff the behavior I carried on did not even represent who I really was at my core and when I woke up and I realized I when I became self-aware I made the unconscious things conscious in other words I turned the light from the outside and that turned it in word where I could really see my own soul my own spirit and sometimes you don't like what you see but you got to look at it because if we lack self-awareness we sacrifice a number of things we sacrifice self direction if you're not self-aware you're not qualified or you're not capable thank you you're not capable of directing yourself that means what you're going to be driven by the dictates of the world around you second thing we sacrifice is we sacrifice self-control if you're not self-aware not only are you incapable of directing yourself you're also incapable of controlling yourself so you find yourself doing things that don't benefit you in fact might adversely impact you negatively because you're not in control of yourself it's going to be impossible for you to maintain self-esteem if you're not self-aware so your esteem is going to do that if it doesn't just totally take a nosedive and then watch this here is another problem that I was thinking about before I came on when you're not self aware and this is big you will lack the ability to authentically love you will lack the ability to authentically love or to identify authentic love when it is coming back to you so if you're not self aware you will take an obsession and you will call it love and here's a quote by brother by I'm supposing this is a man I don't know if this is a man or lady it's a why in eight and let's just say anis say the wire silent and Rand and the quote says to say I love you listen to this very carefully the quote says to say I love you one must know first how to say the I if you're not if you're not fully aware of the I it's going to be possible for you to connect the love to the you or to the other person thank you to say I love you one must first know one must know first how to say that I you have to be aware of you to authentically be able to say to another person I love you how do you know you love that person until you you are in full control of yourself and you know who you are as an individual let me give you three things tonight I guess we called this the self-awareness journey and number one starts right here I wish you all could invite people to come into this discussion and I'm going to try to take some questions when I'm done so those of you that have questions when I'm done I'm gonna try to take a few of them number one number one the journey to self-awareness the self-awareness journey starts with self awakening self-awakening self-awareness the journey to self-awareness starts with self awakening here's another quote by CG Jung says your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart now listen to the rest of this who looks outside dreams who looks inside awakes oh that's powerful let me read it again let me read it again your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart who looks outside dreams who looks inside awakes see most of you that are watching me right now you've spent your entire life looking outside you're looking in the mirror you you're working on this you're in the gym and I applaud all of that I wish I was disciplined enough to be in the gym I really do thank you thank you but very very few of you on this live right now have taken the time to look within and Jung says when you're looking outside you're only dreaming but when you look inside you wake up now interesting number one is self awakening right and here's here's a thought I had self-awakening self-awakening sounds like something one may do for him or herself but here's here's the reality I believe in most cases awakening self-awakening usually requires an external and objective agent thank you I will we're gonna pray when I'm done let me read that again self awakening usually requires an external and objective agent in other words for us to have a self awakening usually God designs the system where somebody or something outside of us wakes us up because a man doesn't know when he's sleeping somebody has to wake him up and when somebody wakes him up or when the clock wakes him or her up then he awakens and he realizes I will sleep thank you thank you you all remember to give me your questions when I'm done listen to what the Bible says in proverbs 16 and to all the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes but the Lord Way of the heart with the heart are the spirits now watch this what does that mean pastor well here's what that means that means all of us when we are when we are sleep walking we think that what we're doing is right no how horrific the results we somehow believe that the path we're on is right until somebody steps into our lives wakes us up and I believe that's I really do believe with all of my heart that that's one of the divine missions that thank you it's one of the divine missions that is on my life is to wake people up just like just like I was awakened I believe that God has made it a mission of mine to help wake others help you awaken to yourself your full potential in your full power now let me show you what I mean by this when I say self awakening usually we usually requires an external and objective agent somebody that's not going to Dibble dabble somebody that's not going to cut corners somebody that's just gonna give it to you straight in love speaking the truth to you in love but giving you exactly what you need giving you that wake-up call if you look in second samuel 12 1 through 7 there's an account of david now this is after david has fallen back slidden miserably he slept with another man's wife got him got a pregnant tried to you know conspire and get the man to sleep with his own wife and then blame the baby on but the man refused to sleep with his wife and so david had the man killed thank you and so now david has fallen so far he's so unconscious he's so unaware of where he is that god has to send the prophet by the name of Nathan into David's life to wake him up and the Bible says in 2nd Samuel 12 1 through 7 and the Lord sent Nathan unto David and he came unto him and said unto Him there were men in one city to one rich in the other poor the rich man had exceeding many flocks and herds but the poor man had nothing but one little lamb which he had bought and nourished up and it grew up together with him and with his children it did eat of his own house or his own table and drink of his own cup and lay in his bosom and was under him as a daughter and there came a travel unto the rich man and he spared to take of his own flock and of his own herd to dress for the wayfaring man that was come unto Him but took the poor man's lamb killed it for the man that was come to him and if its anger was greatly kindled against the man and he said to Nathan as the Lord liveth the man that had done this thing shall surely die and he shall restore the lamb fourfold because he did this thing and because he had no pity and Nathan said to David thou art the man thus saith the Lord God of Israel I had known to thee King he says thou art a man thank you very much he says you're the man I'm giving you a story David but the reality is this story is a wake-up call for you and sometimes God awakens us through outside agents external agents external and objective agents now usually when we have these wake-up calls these sir awakening experiences where God uses people or other means to wake us up thank you there are three responses and I'm certain that they're more number one when we get these wake-up calls to self awakened there's the response to kill the messenger kill the messenger you know like very very rarely but there are times that people come to my channel and they don't like the way I deliver through in one one side they say oh it's just so liberating it's setting me free but you know you could have said that differently you could have said this differently and I and I understand because when people are hurting they're hurting but don't kill the messenger especially if it's a message that you've needed all of your life in the world never gave you don't kill the messenger but we tend to what want to kill the messenger watch this this is why most of you all are a lot of you who have let me just say this for y'all start telling me about oh you know everybody don't have a good parent and I understand that but there many of you all that have great mothers that have done their very best by you and when you got grown you push mama out of your personal business because mama was your built-in wake-up call she was your alarm clock and you did not want to hear it so you killed the messenger you cut your mom out of your entire personal life and as a consequence you've done what made a mess of it thank you so when we have people that God will send that will give us this self awakening we kill the messenger or we justify the present position thank you we try to make it right you know we justified the present position it's like God is trying to wake us up but we keep hitting the snooze button we trying to justify just just five more minutes just five more minutes I deserve to sleep just fine and you just you know it's not that God is not sending that that self awakening call it's that you are trying to justify your present position you're trying to make wrong right instead of saying man I'm wrong it's two left shoes you you going through all of these hoops trying to make this stuff right while God is trying to awaken you because you can't go to the next level until you wake up and they a lot of you that don't want to wake up you don't want to self-awakened and then the third response is that you ignore the call to consciousness you just ignore it and maybe that's the better place to use the illustration of the snooze button you just keep on snoozing you just ignore it you know you just ignore it and then you make statements like this after you know you reap the fruit of your own behavior you make statements like I felt that I knew that you just ignored it and in the tragedy with ignoring the wake-up call is that you'll waste your life thank you you you waste your life and then when when time has passed by and you've you've wasted all of your years sleeping when you could have should have 30 years ago 40 years ago and see some of you right now saying old that's me I'm I'm 40 am 50 years old now I wish I had awakened 28 whoa wake up now it's better to wake up at 50 then wake up at 7 and say I should have woke awaken at 50 God was trying to wake me up God was sending me up mm-hmm so number one on this journey is self awakening number two oh we getting ready to go a little deep here now number two is self-confrontation self awareness starts with self awakening thank you but number two it moves to self-confrontation you gotta confront yourself you gotta confront yourself because at the end of the day you must address the areas in need of adjustment because awakening all awakening does is awakening makes you conscious of the areas in your life that need to be adjusted you don't believe me get about eight hours of sleep good hard sleep and wake up in the morning and go look in that mirror and see what you look like and tell me if you want to go out in the street looking like you gonna look when you get through with those eight hours of sleeping when you wake up you are now aware of your condition now watch this nobody can confront your your condition in the morning you're going to have to confront it how do you confront it you're gonna have to first of all accept it for what it is thank you and then you're going to have to apply yourself to making the adjustments and watch this that's that's just a good illustration good life illustration but you will have to confront yourself daily as you awaken the more you gonna see about yourself I forget man did I did I there was another quote where it talked about [Music] forget who it was by yeah if I remember I'll pull it up but listen to what the Bible says in James chapter 1 verses 21 through 24 says wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness and receive with meekness thean rafted word which is able to save your souls and that term souls mine will and emotions deliver your mind your will and your emotions but be doers of the word and not hearers only deceiving your own selves for If any man be a hearer of the word and not a door doesn't confront himself he is like unto a man beholding here it is his natural face in a glass and for he beholdeth himself and goeth his way and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was how many of you all can wake up in the morning look at yourself and see yourself in the condition you gonna be in and forget that you lookin like that without adjusting anything and go to work it ain't gonna happen because once you sponge you awaken and you see it and you're aware you're gonna confront the issues that need to be addressed you're gonna get you're gonna take a shower you gonna wash your you gonna brush your teeth you don't comb your hair you know you're gonna put some whatever in your eyes or get to read out your eyes you're going to confront your issues that you are made aware of when that's how you know you woke you know that you're woke when you see yourself just said something else to all you woke folks you woke you can see everybody else but you you know that you're woke when you can see yourself and watch this not the beautiful you know aspects of you but you can see the areas of you that must get personal attention and you wait and you realize that I'm the only one that can confront this watch this here's here's a quote I don't know who said it but it's a popular nothing changes until you do this is a Friday night conversation man I just I just this was all my heart nothing changes until you do self awareness starts with what did we say self awakening and then it moves to watch this self confrontation nothing changes until you do because self confrontation is the basis of self control now let me let me just elaborate here for a minute this means when we talk about self confrontation what I'm talking about is you're going to have to have you're gonna have to grow and mature to a point that you can have these crucial conversations with yourself in other words watch this youyou can self analyze what's going on in your spirit what you're thinking and you can you can discern if this is good or bad and then you can start talking to yourself you know kind of like this mmm-hmm that ain't right we're not doing this we're not doing that you have to confront yourself you know and the illustration that I would use because self confrontation is the basis of self control thank you if you don't confront yourself you'll never control yourself see like when when God first started when God delivered me from womanizing for those of you that didn't know it I haven't always been a nice little preacher like this I was a mess at a certain point and there was awakening there was a know there was an awakening and spirit of god awaken me by showing me a vision of where he wanted to bring me in life and a lot of what I'm doing now is what God showed me but then God said right behind that he said but I can't bring you there with you living the way you're living I can't trust you with that and that was my awakening and then from that point I had to begin to once I saw my condition and I realized what needed to be adjusted now I had to personally confront myself and so I would confront my thoughts because everything starts with our thoughts with our thoughts but if you don't confront your own thoughts you will always produce behavior that will undermine your destiny nobody can nobody can adjust your thoughts for you nobody can challenge your thoughts for you you must confront your own thoughts because nothing changes until you do self-confrontation is the basis of self-control if you cannot have a crucial and honest conversation with yourself you will never maximize you have to be able to look at yourself and say you're a mess you're a mess you blaming this on it you're trying to create all of these scapegoats but you are a mess and you have to have you have to have this personal self confrontation and the Bible says in 1st Corinthians 11 and 31 for if we would judge ourselves we should not be judged I can confront me watch this I can get me together before the world ever has an opportunity to confront me and see that's that's you know and then number 3 and I'm done number three and I'm done so this journey to self awareness self awakening I hope this is making sense self-confrontation you know if if you would check yourself like you check everybody else oh how or would you be if you got yourself together like you're always getting other folk to yell I'm gonna get them together can you get yourself together is the question you you can't get nobody else together you you're gonna you're gonna soon learn that you came to get your children together those other that these babies not when they get to be grown people you ain't gonna even be able to get them together in fact names got to get completely grown they can become teenagers you paying their bills and feed them and you won't even bear to get them together you can't get nobody together but yourself and the sad reality is that you Ronnie trying to get everybody else together and you ain't confronting you and the quality of your life is not determined by if I'm together the quality of your life is determined by your being together and you get an everybody together that don't matter but the one that really matters you ain't doing nothing whit you got to confront you you got that you got that you got to watch this to be aware of yourself oh this is powerful is to not trust yourself now I may have a few real folk in here some of y'all may be some little fake religious people with all that I'm so tired of hearing all that old fake religious talk yeah walk in the light as he is in the light I'm just like Jesus you just almost ISM but to be aware of yourself is to not trust yourself when you really know you and you wake up thank you very much and you'll see you you ain't gonna trust you so watch this you're gonna be you're gonna scrutinize everything pertaining to you because you know enough about you to know that you ain't to be trusted that's out that's how you know that's how a man like me can travel as much as I do and be away from my wife and have a testimony that I'm a faithful husband and I can say it wide open on public platforms where people can make any kind of comment they want to make from YouTube to Facebook to Instagram I ain't prohibiting nobody from making comments and I can see that with a boldness because long ago I realized okay trust me so I you know what I do because I'm self-aware and I'm walk now watch this and I am self confrontational I challenge every thought that comes through my mind I put bumpers and boundaries around my life to keep me on the street and that it's like it's like bowling for children put bumpers where the ball can go in the gutter when you know yourself you self-aware and you confront yourself you put bumpers on either side so you keep your life steering down the path it needs to go down because to know yourself is not to trust yourself that's why wise people get a whole lot of counsel see like some of you all you ladies that entertain these dudes that you know blow your mind he's so fine he got muscles and all you get the haircut and all of that and you just entertaining this man you ain't brought it yeah but you have a father you have brothers you have a pastor and you have brother-in-law's you ain't brought this do before none of these cats that love you and have your best interests and you just trust in yourself you didn't did this six or seven times already trying to create these old bogus relationships without counsel so you don't know yourself you not woke because when you wake up you not gonna trust yourself thank you thank you and you're gonna put bumpers around you like counselors living your life in a way that is transparent and the people that matter you know can can look at your life because you realize that because you self-aware you keep yourself in a position where you're constantly confronting you and if you judge yourself you're never in a position where the world has to or the world gets an opportunity to and then finally so we go from self-awareness but self-awareness rather goes from self awakening there has to be this awakening to self confrontation and then finally to self transformation see when you really become self-aware okay you wake up and then I guess that's the I guess that's the driving illustration of this watch this now you wake up in the morning here's the journey to self-awareness you sleeping all night you just sleeping you snore and you just slop it on the pillow you're doing all of that y'all know what y'all know what we do and so you wake up you woke now you woke you you woke you you've had an awakening and so now you look in the mirror and you're wakening says oh my god this is what you're looking like so now you have to confront your condition thank you watch this now listen to listen to this this might help you you have to confront what you see in that mirror and that's what the Word of God is the Word of God is a mirror and when when a man of God a woman of God really uses it properly it empowers people to see themselves like we see ourselves in the mirror we wake up and now we realize I have to confront this you know these issues the evidence that you woke up and that you confronted the issues you saw when you woke up is the transformation we see when you walk out the door if you ever seen anybody thank you so much have you ever seen anybody come on the street early in the morn you say Lord you might not pass by no mera y'all heard people say that you said about some people and some people actually look like she must not pass by the mirror lord have mercy all that stuff and I has them all up and I was wrong with it she ain't passed by no mirror and then you look at the next woman and you say oh yeh homegirl put it together the evidence that she was woke and that she confronted her condition privately is in it's everything it's made evident in her transformation because when you see her walking from the parking lot like that you know she didn't wake up like that I know that Hollywood got us believing that people wake up in the morning every hair in place and they got they makeup on and the wind is blowing and people and people just kissing in the morning that ain't anything that ain't the way we wake up that ain't the way we wake up be that ain't that ain't the way we wake up that ain't the way the Hollywood ain't got it right that ain't the way y'all know that ain't the way we look when we wake up in the morning we wake up we look in the mirror we aware of what we see we have to confront what we see and then by the time we leave the house we are transformed but you could have never had the transformation without the awakening and without the confrontation so wherever we see transformation we know that somebody was somebody woke up and somebody dealt with the stuff they realized or saw when they woke up the transformation here it is here it is your character is not changed because you are aware your character is alerted when you engage the daily process of renewing your mind that's where the transformation happens see okay now let me help you some of you say oh well bishop our pastor or some of y'all may RC I'm trying to I'm listening to your teaching and I'm trying to overcome this relationship with a narcissist and got some brothers day and I got a narcissistic woman you know I just got a soul tighter well let me tell you now I want y'all to listen to me it's a process and the process involves watch this the transformation will happen as you engage the daily process of renewing your mind why you think I keep coming to you you know and I haven't just started doing this feels okay well you you you keep coming because you know you got a big platform well they always been big and you go back and search out my stuff I was doing this on most of the videos y'all gonna see from like three four years ago was from periscope you know and I just transferred him over to YouTube when they told me to come to YouTube well I realized that a part of my mission is to help people to transform or renew their minds I can't get your life transformative til I get your mind renewed but the Bible says in Romans twelve into and be not conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind you have to commit yourself to the daily process it has to be self transformation see here it is we want God to do the transforming and the reality is God has a part but God's part does not start until we've done our part in what's our part to renew our minds transformation write this down if you're writing transformation is the personal and intentional work of renovating your life that's your job see when you wake up in the morning you wake up you stretch you've had an awakening you go to the mirror you realize what you've got to confront well you know all things being equal if you if you have if you have all of your faculties nobody was gonna come in and brush your teeth this ain't no come in America you know nobody was gonna come in and give you a bath transformation is the personal and the intentional work of renovating your life from your thoughts to your standards to your presentation Thank You self transformation you got to transform your thoughts you have to transform your standards and you got to transform your presentation the way you present yourself to the world see thoughts transforming your thoughts and your standards are internal as internal work presentation is what shows up on the scene when you enter the world your your presentation is the reflection of your standards in your thoughts and see when you when you commit yourself to self transformation watch this you say man I'm uh okay I'm a queen and I've been living like a peasant but I'm about to change that not see what's happening is your thoughts have changed your thoughts have changed now you stand this change so okay I deserve more than this I you know this is not the kind of relationship I'm supposed ohno I'm supposed to have better than this and then your presentation the way you should the way you show up in the world begins to change when your thoughts shift we taught myself transformation and your standards change the way you show up in the world changes the stuff that you used to respond to or to you no longer react or respond to those things because now your presentation is equivalent to your Center your new standards in your thoughts thank you because this is about what self transformation that I'm going to evolve I'm going to participate with the process of evolving into everything that I'm now aware of I've had my awakening I've done my self confrontation now I'm self transforming so I'm gonna do all of my work myself work internally so that by the time I show up in the world y'all see the transformed version I hope this helps somebody tonight father we we thank you and we love you oh how we love you and we appreciate you for your presence there's so many that are on here tonight and those that will watch god that need a special touch from you some dear gotta sing in their hearts I'm not so religious and God I know it's not a requirement of yours that there would be father my prayer tonight is that you would touch them each of them supernaturally by your power and by his Spirit and God let a supernatural presence of God rest in that room where they are give them the wisdom and give them the sense of peace dear God that all as well as they listen to my voice father make them to know that all as well some are trouble God some are praying for others even earlier God I saw a certain individual mentioned something about praying father whatever that need is I thank you because I know that you are a deliverer I know that you are a healer I know that your way maker God I know you to be these things I know these things personally father touch them and make them to know you like I know you I thank you for it now father in Jesus's name thank you for supernatural encounter tonight in Jesus's name Amen amen now I don't I don't know how I can manage this there's so many strolling here pastor I'm transforming but please help me with the thoughts that tried to take over my mind this battle is not easy certainly it's not easy absolutely it's not easy but the Bible says the Apostle Paul says pulling down every thing every thought and bringing it into captivity into the I'm misquoting it but basically Paul's saying pull down every thought that works against the divine objective in your life and it's a daily it's a daily struggle and it is a warfare you know we all have these thoughts because we're we're body soul and spirit and our flesh nature is always gonna be that your flesh is gonna always desire things that your spirit now realizes you don't need you see and so it's now your job that's the internal work that you have to do to just continuously pull it down and it gets better it gets better yeah taking off the old man putting on the new man you know hallelujah any questions any questions if you do I I don't know if I can manage all of them but need prayer for fear of abandonment I have a good man but fear he'll leave any minute now what's important right there is that you have a real transparent and honest conversation with your man because you don't want your insecurities to misrepresent your heart because when you have those kinds of fears what happens is you can give off an energy that while you while your fears abandonment you can give off an energy of rejection that while while you're trying to process abandonment and you're afraid he may leave you at any moment you're giving him energy that says I reject you and so this is going to require that you have a real if he's a good man and if he's worthy of this kind of intimacy transparency you're gonna have to really sit down and make him understand your fears and why you have them why there's a reason you have this fear of abandonment maybe it's some past experience or whatever if you trust him speak on your favorite codependency in maintaining confidence yes so it's gonna be important that you you really communicate what you're dealing with so that he can understand and hopefully help you with it but don't be in a position where you don't communicate your heart and your man is just kind of left in the wind two imaginations me prayer my daughter is recovering from narcissistic abuse doesn't know her worth I give her the tools and share videos but it's not resonating what more can I do all you can do is pray and support all you can do is pray and support how do you get rid of a soul tie I wrote a whole book on that in fact about it I got a whole playlist on breaking soul ties I would encourage you to go and listen to it because that's not we don't have enough time right now for me to actually teach it so I want you to go in and look at the videos if you've not done that just look at the videos if you desire to do so you can buy the book and then email me because I can't really you know that's not something I give you a 30-second answer how can I learn to respect men well I don't know if I think yeah I think first of all we have to start with why don't you respect men you know and then the next thing we got to deal with is what kind of men are you talking about some men don't deserve respect respect is something that has to be earned fact about it see there's a lot okay let me let me give it to you like this there's a lot of respect in you on this platform asking me a man how can I respect men what does what is that that's respect for me respect has to be earned now if if you're in the presence of men that are doing what's necessary men that a consistent men that are safe you know men that are you know all the stuff that a man should be and there's a sense of disrespect then you have to go internally and you have to ask yourself now why do I have this aggression or whatever this is towards men but in general you know a man has to earn respect and when a man earns respect it's like it naturally you know people that earn respect it naturally flows to them but in general I think you and I probably need to have a email conversation so I can kind of get a little deeper with what what you're actually asking what you want to do if they were told that they have the Jezebel spirit unbeknownst to the person as a Christian they feel broken in on the way of that spirit within within them what should that individual do to rid themselves of that spirit and fast and not fully understanding I'm not fully understanding what should one do if they were told that they have the Jezebel spirit unbeknownst to the person as a Christian they feel broken and unaware of that spirit within them well I'm I think if a person has I think of a person has a Jezebel spirit one of the one of the strongholds of that spirit is that that spirit is rebellious and it rejects instruction or rebuke so I'm trying to understand if I don't know if this is you or somebody else are they concerned because somebody told me I got a Jezebel spirit because if my point is if they're concerned about somebody saying you have a Jezebel spirit it may be an indication that they may not really have a Jezebel spirit because the Jezebel spirit is very rebellious and what is it retaliatory it retaliates you have a tendency to make up were sometimes it doesn't just doesn't just receive that and say oh I got adjustable spirit how do I know know when a person really has a Jezebel spirit it's it's very volatile and that spirit fights it's not going to go home concerned about what so and so to me I have a Jezebel spirit what am I to do you know sometimes church folk and I'm not making any judgments because I don't know who this is but sometimes church folk throw things out there like that not understanding that it can create a whole lot of stress for an individual who may not have a full grasp of the language or the rhetoric and then sometimes people throw stuff like that out intentionally too controlling the manipulate do you believe that God speaks to you about whom you should marry or is it really our choice I've been married for 10 years and I'm not sure if he's the one I should have been married to I believe I believe both sides of it I believe that God will confirm if we ask him but I also believe that we have to make a choice I believe that we have to be wise enough to know ourselves to know who fits into our future and then I believe that the Holy Spirit will give us confirmation as it relates to if this person is right for you you know but some people say well God gonna take a person and he gonna do he's gonna just bring them out there and put them well I still I still believe that and everybody got different beliefs on this so you know I still believe you got it you got to do the choosing I think you have to do the investigation the discerning and all of that kind of thing and Holy Spirit will do the confirming and sometimes we do create marriages out of our flesh the Bible says whom God has joined together let no man put asunder sometimes we do create marriages out of our flesh and then when we grow up and we grow into our you know begin to evolve we realize that maybe we made a choice that wasn't so great for our future let's see growing up in an abusive family I find it hard to deal with my emotions make connections sometimes or express love seeing that it is hard to trust due to the constant abuse how can I confront this you confront this by confronting this thank you boo Bokke you confront this by confronting it since your challenge is interpersonal you have to put yourself into interpersonal situations and you have to begin to work those muscles and you have to begin to teach yourself how to trust people to certain extents and you have to learn how to be disappointed by people without being broken by the fact that people disappointed you that's all a part of your healing process you know but you can't hide out in a cave you have to put yourself out there and you have to risk yourself you have to incremental e you have to take calculated risk in terms of relationships and just allow yourself to grow in to heal and allow people to prove themselves to you and then develop a circle trustworthy circle my ex and I was together for 10 years I ended the relationship because of a broken foundation he's trying to get back together I said let's start off as friends first and see where it goes he's rejecting the idea thoughts well anybody that does not respect your process if if a person doesn't respect your process starting out they're probably not going to respect you moving forward and if this is what you say you need see that's intimacy intimacy is that TD jakes put it this way he said intimacy is into me see in other words the only way to see into me is to look beyond yourself and to look into me and to see what I need if if this individual is not mature enough to see that this may be what you need to move forward that's that's me that's big that's that's just big you know that's big that's a lack of consideration and I mean I don't I don't know the person so I'm not judging and I'm not trying to castigate a person that's not here to defend himself and I mean there's nothing to defend because I don't know him but I'm just you know I don't I don't even know who I'm talking to in terms of you but it may be it may it may hint of manipulation when people want you to move fast and they don't want you to take your time little you know that's the coastal use car salesman thing you got to do it now you got to do it no I won't let me take my time I'll reject that no no no no so you know you got a you you got you got it you got to see that for what it is and you got to take that seriously because see is your job regards your heart it's your job to guard your heart should a woman stay in a marriage with someone who ignores their child from a previous marriage and ignores the child and is emotionally abusive but not physically abusive despite counseling um it's not mine to say if a person should or should not stay in a marriage but I will say this much anybody that abuses children on any level has to be taken very seriously and the well-being of the child I think becomes paramount the well-being of the child becomes paramount because children are defenseless you know I'm saying children are defenseless and you can't you can't you can't love me without loving my children and if you love my children it's gonna show up in the way you you handled and deal with my children so I'll let you take it from there and and you know kind of figure that out please pray for me I have three boys 14 19 25 cuz when I have been married 20 years I get the cuckoo for cocoa puffs looking by everyone in my home when I'm reading my Bible I don't worry about that be they called me cuckoo for cocoa puffs even on here don't do strange weird the weird dude on there with the Bible talking the Bible again don't worry about that be worried about that they're gonna be all right life is going to bring all of them to a place where they have to have an encounter with God I prophesied that and they're gonna come back better for it what type of a spirit does one possess when the majority of the persons that he surrounds himself with feel that they need to tell that person what to do hmm I don't know that's interesting I don't know that's interesting the majority of persons around him feel they need to tell that person what to do that's um that's interesting I don't know how to answer that it's an interesting dynamic dope it's a very interesting dynamic that everybody round you feel like they tell you what to do I don't know you you might need to analyze that I don't know that's a codependent situation I don't know what that could be pastime co-parenting with a narcissist narcissistic or narcissism the blame for everything I'm tired of the constant pain he causes me daughter in advice um is advice I will give you find a place called peace find a place called peace yes you may email me Monique and email me it past the RFC Blake's at gmail.com and put in BO all caps Monique from YouTube put in all caps and probably put attention Lisa so Lisa kidding make sure I get it can you speak to the reason why some men don't take care or recognize the children according to the scripture they have been taught they haven't been taught what we're dealing with generations of parallel parenting also from them you may you may humbly add because we're this is a learning platform we're all learning you but they haven't been taught that's why nobody's teaching and that's what I'm beginning to try to do they have not had the they have not had the paternal examples before them and nobody is teaching it nobody's teaching manhood nobody's teaching fatherhood nobody's teaching what it means to be a husband so this generation of men to a great extent they just haven't been taught do you believe in our sisters can change I believe in that with God all things are possible of course I believe that too I wouldn't be a man of faith if I didn't believe it of course all of my mental health professionals they they say not you know the psychologists the counselors the therapists say you know narcissus can't change but I'm a man of faith you know and have I seen one change not yet not yet not yet not personally but I believe that they can but that's that's interesting as well because it would mean that they would have to be broken to a place by God that they cry out for God to change them so I wouldn't advise anybody to go and try to take that responsibility on your shoulders can you can you do more topics on friendships please well I will definitely try to slip that in at some point they use women like Chiclets shoot okay I'm in a relationship sixteen years and he refuses to get married makes excuses all the time every time I leave he promises to do so but never does now I've come to my senses and I want to leave for good well it's time you use your standards have been your standards have not been met it's time you know how many years you say was it 16 oh yes it's time yes run run run all right my babies I love you all I've enjoyed this tonight I would like to buy several five of dog talk books and give them to the young women my church but I don't want to step on anyone's feet we have a co-ed Singles Ministry your thought I don't know cuz I don't know the politics of your church and I don't I don't want to you know create a problem there I think pray about it maybe maybe even get the permission of leadership say you know you'd like to do this maybe take one and give to the person that you would get the permission from and tell them to peruse it so that they don't feel like you are you know overstepping and you know involve them and see what they say you know what to do left relationship he was trying to rush me how to say how does they encourage not to look back well I think the way you stay encouraged not to look back is to think about what's back there yeah think about what's back there and what the Lord delivers you from and when you flesh and all of that and you know all your emotions go to surge and use your brain in your spirit and remember why you left pastor do you offer paid intimate zoom discussions that are interactive how do we register you know I don't do that people have suggested that I do it to create a means of a more intimate and personal but as for me it's just it's a matter of timing you know what I mean I gotta figure out how to time something like that how to fit that into my schedule but it is something that I'm pondering because I have to create a means whereby people can have more access to me but of course I couldn't just put that out there because I'd be I'd need eighty eighty six hours in a day but teaira reach out to Lisa and just let her know that you're the person from YouTube and maybe we can arrange something okay have you or can you do a topic on codependency as it relates to the narcissistic relationships we tend to get into I think I did one on codependency maybe a couple if you look through my my playlists on a narcissist I think you might find one they're trying to understand why God brought a man into my life that made me a priority and treated me with affection they didn't have him walk away from the relationship advise on how to move on well sometimes well sometimes men people can be be great actors and sometimes people wake up one day and they realize that maybe they're in over their heads and that maybe this is even out of there and sometimes we we take it personally when people walk away but sometimes they just they realize that they don't have what it takes to go into the future with us and it is hurtful it is hurtful and it's kind of like well it's much like grieving a death you know you have to just you have to go through the process and you have to you know you have all of these questions I think for the most part you have to get to the point where you're moving away from meeting this person to answer certain questions for you why this or why that and you just accept it for what it is and and you move forward fact about it this Sunday in my cyber service that we hold think we hold on YouTube and Facebook we have a new home Family Worship Center YouTube page and channel and new home Family Worship Center Facebook page and every Sunday that's where I do my sermons and we're talking this Sunday about breaking through your break down and one of the things I mentioned in there is that you have to accept what God allows if God has allowed this person to leave out of your life accept it and feel it you know but move forward just keep moving forward keep moving forward that's the main thing don't don't stop living your life because this person is gone okay here's is the state here is a quote that I'm using in that particular message I forget who it's by don't abandon yourself because someone else abandoned you and that's usually what happens because someone else abandoned me now I abandoned myself I give up on life I lose all of my hope I lose my vision don't abandon yourself because someone else abandoned you and that's that's the biggest piece of advice I can give you biggest piece of advice I can give you all right I got to go y'all can you please talk about entanglement one day entanglement I would love to do the same at my church cited for the cyber conference yes I need you all to go and register for queen ology 2.0 I think we have I think I need about I don't know seats a more than half gone I need I need y'all to go and registers happening in less than two weeks two weeks I want you there RC Blake's calm don't forget if you need counseling there's a link in the description better help counseling go into Mac go to my website sign up for my mailing list yeah check out my podcast on iTunes what else Lee check out all my books Amazon all of that stuff it's all there I love you all Lisa wants you all to know if you're looking for parallel and all that kind of spleen ology apparel you can go to our se Blake's store calm that's where all of the apparel is you can you can also buy books there that means it comes through my office but all of my books are on Amazon as well so go you know you all always support me and I'm so grateful for it I thank you for it and all of you that sold into my life tonight thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you and I appreciate you all for hanging around I didn't know that you all would actually hang around for Q&A that's awesome that's awesome it makes me look like I've been talking a long time but that's all which I have but that's awesome I love you all thank you so much and I'll talk to you real soon all right god bless you good night now

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Length: 81min 0sec (4860 seconds)

Published: Fri Jul 17 2020