YOU GOT A CLOWN IN A CROWN by RC Blakes

good evening good evening good evening good evening this is r.c blakes and i am so excited to be able to talk to you this evening i pray that um you're having a great day that you've had a great day and that you're winding your evening down well if you're in the united states of america and other parts of the world it's probably mourning for you but i wanted to uh share something with you tonight briefly first of all i want to say thank you um to all of you that supported queenology 2.0 it was just amazing to see so many people from around the world now let me make certain that my signal is good if you're there and my signal is good would you let me know before i before i continue do i need to make some adjustments to my signal am i am i coming through good coming through good i got one thumbs up it's good it's good it's good okay awesome there's something i want to share tonight i've used um the phrase clown in a crown for a number of years and um people have literally drawn um draw you know done artistic pieces drawing painting and recently i got the graphic design that i used for the thumbnail for this message from a dear heart it seems to resonate clown in the crown now let me start off by saying this that's not to diminish manhood because uh there are some great men in this world that live up to the standard of manhood the unfortunate reality is that um and this is what i i i really pray to communicate and hopefully to get over to this generation of women the unfortunate reality is that uh most women or should i say many women are just programmed to respond to clowns and crowns and what is the clown in the crown if this is your first time hearing that phrase a clown in a crown or clown is a man that is without dignity he has no dignity he's a man that uh has no respect um he's a man that does not have a vision you know he doesn't really have a clue where he's going um he doesn't have a clue how he's going to get there um a clown in the crown is also one that lacks judgment he has very poor judgment he makes um he makes a lot of unwise decisions that usually get him caught up in um unnecessary binds and usually ties everybody else up in his unnecessary drama uh he's a man that has no morals you know there's there's um there's no such thing as too low for him to go um he's uninspiring you know in the beginning you know he may he may be attractive and he may have a lot of sex appeal but in the long run he's uninspiring and he's uninspired he's not inspired by anybody he's not motivated by anybody he doesn't he doesn't follow anybody he's not mentored by anybody he's not groomed by anybody um he's a fool the bible would call him a fool and again i say the unfortunate reality today is that we have a generation of women that suffer from female slave conditioning which leads to broken consciousness and women are programmed to be attracted to this guy and the crown you know the clown in the crown he only wears the crown to superficially cover up the fact that there's nothing behind it or beneath it thank you he wears the crown just to cover up the fact that you know this head is really empty there's this is just a facade you know there's nothing really behind this and if if we want to go to to some bible we can look at ii timothy 3 1-7 thank you and it says this know also that in the last days perilous times shall come for men shall be lovers of their own selves covetous bolsters proud blasphemers disobedient to parents unthankful unholy without natural affection truth breakers false accusers incontinent fierce all of these descriptions despisers of those that are good traitors heady high-minded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of god having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof and it says from such turn away for of this sort are they which creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with sins led away with divers lust always learning but never able to come to the knowledge of the truth so it's talking about really this is talking about clowns you know all of those descriptions lovers of themselves disobedient blasphemers without natural affection truth breakers you know won't keep covenant for nothing traitors haiti high-minded lovers of pleasures more than lovers of god and then it says for this sort of they which creep into houses and lead captive silly women which speaks of women who lack a woman who lacks dignity she lacks a self-perspective so she falls prey to this character and the bible says he creeps in they creep into the homes or into the personal space of these kinds of women and they lead them captive female slave conditioning always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth so that's what we're look that's what we're dealing with today we're dealing with clowns and crowns and women because of broken consciousness behaving as silly women because society has conditioned you to that i was just uh before i before i uh came on here i was talking to one of my uh beautiful little spiritual daughters thank you so much i was talking to one of my beautiful little spiritual daughters and she was describing her so-called boyfriend and you know i when i got through i asked i said now if you had if i had called you and i had described a person doing to me what you just described this person is doing to you what would you tell me and she said i would tell you to you know in so many words run get out of this you know shut this down it's toxic it's not good i say well you just answered your own question but society has conditioned the woman to tolerate you know this less than dignified man child the woman in general watch this and and i want you to hear this because i don't want i don't want my conversation to be um thank you i don't want my conversation to be a source of bondage for you or you know a source of guilt or a source of um shame it's supposed to be a source of freedom thank you the woman in general why does this happen this is what i was getting to why does this happen why does the woman so often fall for the clown in the crown thank you it's because of this simple thing listen to this very carefully and you'll save your questions for me till i'm done when i can just freely answer um the woman it's you know you see you're sitting there you saying oh as this is what i'm dealing with my audio has static is everybody getting static through my audio talk to me is everybody getting static through my audio before i continue a little yes static okay well let me go to the lesser source okay is that better it's different is that better is the static stopped okay much better much better okay i don't know maybe it was my mic and just went to the hey yeah yeah yeah okay the woman typically falls for the clown in the crown because the woman embraces the relationship listen to this very carefully no static good nice too now the volume is too low okay i can't i don't have any other moves to make us now sound far away okay what's because i'm coming through the device maybe if i put it up closer to me is now that's the best i'm gonna be able to do for y'all tonight all right can you hear me now there is no mic but the mic that's on the device okay all right fine now fine now okay no problems okay thank you uh-huh all right why does the woman fall for consistently fall for the clown in the crown and when this happens you know there's this this this wave of shame that comes over thank you there's this guilt for having made uh a poor choice well here's the thing you have to understand the woman is usually moving from the heart when a woman embraces a relationship she usually embraces a relationship from what she generally believes in her heart is something that will be productive while the clown in the crown is moving from a calculated place where he is intentionally deceiving the heart of the woman because usually when a woman puts a heart first she turns off her intellect and she turns down the voice of the holy spirit and so it's after the clown in the crown has impacted her thank you that she comes to a place where she realizes oh i've been deceived this is a clown and a crown and because nobody teaches her you know and sometimes sometimes you know not a lot very rarely but sometimes ladies give me a hard way to go because of the way i say certain things but here's the truth for for a truth a necessary truth to penetrate a broken soul sometimes it has to be harsh sometimes i can't say it nicely and politely i have to say it like you know a serious it has to come across harsh to penetrate the layers you see now listen to what the bible says and then i'll get into my i think i have like five uh actually i have six points i want to make and then i'll be done for tonight i won't hold you but the bible says in proverbs 14 7-9 says go from the presence of a foolish man when thou perceiveth not in him the lips of knowledge [Music] the wisdom of the pruning is to understand his way but the folly of fools is deceit fools make a market sin but among the righteous there's favor but listen to what it says go from the presence of a foolish man here's the here's the kicker when thou perceivist not in him the lips of knowledge now what is that saying to me what is that saying to us that's saying to us that we should discern a person we should perceive the level of a person before we open ourselves to a person thank you he says run from the presence of a foolish man when you perceive not in him the lips of knowledge that means i'm what i'm i'm i'm analyzing i'm discerning i'm paying attention to your internal qualities before i ever open my life up to you what is the mistake most women make most women make the mistake of buying uh the first impression and then they usually get home and they have buyers remorse you know how you ladies who are shoppers you buy stuff in the mall when you think you're excited about it and you get it home and that you don't feel like it fits and they got a no return policy well that's how most most of you embrace your relationships you you you buy it you buy the first thing that they sell and then by the time you get it home and unpacked you realize this is exactly what i don't need now let's get into let's get into my main points number one you got your clown in a crown what do you mean pastor okay number one number one he's old and childish number one he's old and childish he's a man that is obviously suffering from arrested development he's so childish he's unknowingly immature and clueless he's so childish that he's embarrassing he's so childish that you wouldn't dare bring him to an office party you wouldn't dare bring him on a date with your your your boss and his or her spouse because he's so childish you don't know what he's going to do or what he won't do you got a clown in the crown any man that you got to deal with and he's behaving like a child you know um you can't even have basic respect for him but you you know you have this this sexual soul tie developed now and you're looking at your age and society got you saying well you know you had a certain age so you got to kind of settle for whatever it is you can get right now and so you you settle for a piece of man then wait on a whole man and so you just got this big old childish man that just doesn't have a clue how to behave like a grown man you you don't even pick up grown man energy from him he feels like a big boy he's just he's just childish you know um and now don't take this out of balance what i'm getting ready to say okay don't take this out of balance because as men you know we do love the the video games especially the sports stuff like with the madden and the basketball which i have a playstation but i haven't actually played it in many years i just just haven't had the time but it does help me to wind down when i do but how many women have grown men in their homes won't get a job won't do nothing around the house and just sitting on the thing playing games all day all through the night got other big grown boys coming in they making all kind of noise breaking up the furniture cheating up the food you got a big child thank you thank you you have a big child thank you a grown man behaves a certain way and there are some of you who are who are settling for just you know a big old man man-child just clueless no no truth no sense of decorum no connection with ethics timing is horrible don't know how to respond or react to you like a grown man should he's old and childish thank you your man should be a man you know your man should not have to run to you for you to solve all of his problems like a child what you may have signed up for is just a an older son the bible says in first corinthians 13 and 11 when i was a child watch this i speak as a child i understood as a child i thought as a child but when i became when i evolved and became a man i put away childish things you should never look at your man and say man you childish god and then you say this and then you move forward and you actually marry this and you think it's going to get better thank you it's not going to get better thank you i'm trying i'm trying to communicate this because i need you all to hear what i'm saying to you a grown man should not behave like a child you have a clown in a crown my sister i know you're afraid of being alone but sometimes you got somebody sleeping in the bed with you and you're still alone because you don't have a grown man whoo okay number two you got your clown in a you got you a clown and a crown you got you a clown in the crowd girl you would got your clown in the crowd you got that clown in that crown girl but tell you now you got a clown in the crowd your clown looking good though your clown's sharp he got his crown polished that clown got his crown polished but he's a clown in a crown number two listen to this very carefully you gotta listen to this very carefully this is some of the stuff i'm gonna teach my my men in in kingology man this is the stuff my daddy taught me he's broke watch this he's a clown in the ground he's broke and materialistic he won all of the latest this and the latest that but he broke he broke but he's materialistic thank you a man that lacks character simultaneously lacks self-esteem and many men feudally attempt to subsidize this lack of self-esteem through materialism now grown man at least works for his material things but a clown wants things and never embraces a comparable work ethic he wants jordans but he doesn't want a job you know he wants gucci but he doesn't want a job he wants louie but he doesn't want a job he's rather searching for a woman that can afford to pay for it he's broke and materialistic at the same time he's broke but he wants to design a lifestyle and the bible says in luke 14 28 for which if you're intending to build a tower sits not down first and counts the cost whether you have sufficient to finish you see a grown man knows how to um strategize his financial choices you know um years ago i could drive anything i wanted to drive you know what i mean and i bought whatever kind of car i wanted to buy then katrina happened and then i i went to a jeep and i rode that jeep man i rode that jeep oh my goodness i guess i rode that jeep for about eight years you know it was paid for hundreds of thousands of miles on it but i rode that jeep because i understood my financial picture thank you though i have taste or i have mercedes bmw bentley taste i realize that my financial position said you do it you'll do better right now operating in a jeep because i'm a grown man and so my material my materialism or should i say my desire for material things does not outrun my understanding of my financials but when you got a clown in the crown a clown in the crown doesn't want a job doesn't want to work but he wants to design a lifestyle but he wants you to pay for it and here's what's sad many of you are paying for it what what why in the world is a man uh that does not have a job why is this man walking around with louboutin tennis shoes he doesn't have a job he's not even in the system and he's walking around with louboutin tennis shoes can barely speak the english language or whatever language you're from and what part of the world are you in and walk around with lupine where you get them from clown in the crown my queen my queen hooked me up because your queen is suffering from broken consciousness and please don't y'all go tell these people that rc blake said cause you have people getting mad with me i'm just turning i'm just talking i don't know about nobody's personal business i ain't got no issues with nobody i just still remind my own business i'm just saying you got a man that's broke and materialistic it's a clown in the crown don't want a job and but but want all of these labels it's not a grown man it's not a grown man thank you number three number three he communicates listen to this now listen to this y'all listen to this please listen to this and i'm gonna take all your questions when i'm done he communicates sexual thoughts and desires constantly he's communicating sexual his sexual thoughts and his sexual desires and his sexual needs to you but he he has no conversation about a real future he can talk about sex but he don't want to talk about marriage you got your clown in the crown because a true king come on now true king he does he doesn't want a um side chick you know just one new girlfriend a true king desires a queen he searches for queen he'll search the whole realm for a queen because kings want queens they don't just need they don't just want no sex buddy they don't just want no hook up a true king not just a man not just a clown with a crown but a king with a crown who has the mentality to match is searching for his queen he's not looking to make you a 10-year girlfriend a 15-year girlfriend thank you he is searching for the queen that is supposed to reign alongside him so he can communicate about sex or he can talk all day about what he what he want to do now i'm imagining this i want you to do this and i'm going to do that and i can't wait for you to get home and he been talking this trash he's been talking this trash for the last five six seven years and has nothing to say about what the future is where are we going from here are we just gonna meet here every night and just have sex roll around in this bed and keep you repenting all week long because you know you're a christian you're saved and you know the bible don't condone you're sleeping around no bed with a man that you're not married to and you constantly grieved in your spirit he talking all of this sexual stuff getting you all emotional getting you all sexual but he never talks future kings talk future kings talk future you see when when lisa and i were dating and um i got to the point where i said okay i don't think i'm gonna get mad i don't think i want to be married i said to lisa i don't think i want to be married as best you move on and then when i finally came to myself and i went back to her i didn't i wasn't asking her to come back to me to be my girlfriend any longer i said i won't i want i want i want to marry you and i was a single pastor and i told the church and said this is going to be my wife and i think it was like i don't know it may have been two months later we were married because a king he's not just communing he's not just communicating sexual needs and thoughts he he has conversation about your future if you have a man that has nothing to say about y'all's future here's a quote uh huh didn't i didn't write down who said it but the quote goes like this a boy spends his life searching for different women listen to this very carefully i thought it was powerful a boy spends his life searching for different women to go to bed with every night a real man spends his life searching for the one to wake up to every morning a boy spends his life and give me some thumbs if y'all feeling what i'm saying if you like what i'm saying give me some thumbs up on this a boy spends his life searching for different women to go to bed with every night a real man spends his life searching for the one to wake up to every morning see like lisa and i now we we started out as young whippersnappers you know we were not 20s now in our 50s we got grandchildren you know and i still enjoy waking up to that woman you see now watch this the sexual thoughts thank you that the clown and the crown is constantly communicating are designed to jam the signal of your intelligence and to create a pseudo sense of commitment through lust see he feels like he doesn't want he doesn't want to talk future because he doesn't want to commit he does not have the inner capacity to actually commit so what he wants to do is he wants to keep you preoccupied with the sex you know nobody can have sex like a clown in a crown and that sex becomes the the glue to the soul tie you know your body becomes addicted to this this situation and he does all this so stuff that that's not normal and all of that is intentional that's to jam the signal of your intelligence and your spirit so so as to keep you locked into a false sense of commitment through the spirit of lust and every time you come down off your little sexual high and you think about it again and you look at this man you ask yourself now why am i why am i still here with this man you know oh your mama told you girl you deserve better than this this man is playing you listen to what the bible says in proverbs 20 verses 6 and 7 and this is the amplified version it says many a man many a man proclaims his own lord and goodness but who can find a faithful and trustworthy man the righteous man who walks in integrity and lives life in accord with his godly beliefs how blessed happy and spiritually secure are his children after him who who have his example to follow but he says many many men proclaim their their own goodness about how great they are but who can really find a good man or a faithful man or a man that actually lives up to the hype because he keeps you tied up with all of this sexual stuff to make you feel like there's a relationship and his own real there's really no relationship it's just sex make you feel like there's a commitment but there's no conversation about about the future in fact about it you bring he won't even go and visit he won't even go to a wedding with you he ain't going nowhere around any any kind of thing that demonstrates commitment because commitment is the farthest thing from the clown's mind number four he has big dreams and no plan i'm going to do this i'm gonna do this and all and i tell you when i get to where i'm going i'm gonna buy you oh i'm gonna buy you the baddest bins on the lot when i get through doing i'm about to make seven figures a year oh man no plan what's your plan how you gonna do it i'm working that out i'm working at the i'm working that out me and my boys we we working on that we're working you've been working on it now for the last four years i've been waiting on that benz didn't change for the last four years you ain't when you're going to do something with it have you you you filed in it what what what you what you found the papers you got your bank got your bank accounts open uh uh i'm i'm i'm i'm about to get on it now i'm about to get by to get on and i'm about to get on it now big dream no player see the thing that you have to understand is this listen to me please listen to me please listen to me see while you while you all caught up in the heat of the moment and all that and the man got all your hormones raging and everything and you talk about the clock and you talk about you wanna you want a man and you carried away now with a whole lot of stuff that that could be self-deceptive here's the reality what attracts you to a man and what gets you even to the altar is not going to fulfill you for the rest of your life when you leave that alt and those papers aside and you got your ring you got your pictures you got your gown zipped up in the bag so you can give to your daughter one day and all that and now you really looking at the man if that brother does not have a vision he will soon lose your respect as great as the sex may be if he don't have no vision and you you can't see this brother actually moving in the direction of a preferred future that he communicated to you you're gonna lose respect for him you're going to view them as less than a man because see what you require now is not what you're going to require then when y'all get married and start having children and all of this kind of stuff now you you y'all may be cool with you know 70 000 a year you know 50 000 a year y'all may be cool living in an apartment and all of that but once you move to the next level now you're gonna start your taste is gonna elevate your requirements for your children certainly are gonna elevate and you're gonna have to have a man not only with big dreams but realistic plans and a man that's what fulfilling his dreams see potential is not enough you you don't you don't need to you don't need to marry a man just based on his potential you need to marry a man based on his fruitfulness what is he producing see but you got to come back to your intellect to be able to do this so you caught up in your hormones now you caught up in your emotions you you just you know you you out there you gone your eyes rolled all back in the back of your head you you gone this brother is blown your mind you to mess around and got in the bed with this man he has blown your mind so your brain ain't working right now but listen to what the bible says thank you in proverbs 13 and 4 the soul and this is the amplified or the appetite of the lazy person craves and gets nothing for lethargy overcomes ambition saying anytime you see a person with big dreams and no plans usually laziness is in there he says a the lazy person craves everything and gets nothing for lethargy overcomes ambition but the soul or the appetite of the diligent one who works willingly is rich and abundantly supplied it would be far better for you to [Music] commit yourself to a man that's producing a hundred thousand dollar potential or producing a hundred thousand dollars worth of fruit than a marrow man with a million dollar or ten million dollar potential and doing nothing one of the marks of the clown in the crown is that he has big dreams and no plans you know i was sitting down my wife and i were talking and see this is see i'm telling you this is what drives a dude this is what drives a real man when my wife and i got married i told her i said i'm gonna be able to i'm gonna do this for you i'm gonna do that for you now mind you when my wife first married me uh first uh started dating me seriously my credit was bad i have all my bills all out of whack not you know stuff bill stuffed all in the drawers and all of this not paying the bills money to come not paying the bills all that wasn't making a whole lot of money anyway and we got married doing just a little better but i said i'm gonna i'm gonna do this for you i'm gonna do that for you and she could believe me because i didn't only have dreams i had strategies and watch this and it was my strategies my plans that really turned her on because now she saw where she could help me in my plans and my plans were for the advancement of the family and so now in our 50s the thing that drives her is that i continue to give her more to work on because my my vision is so grand my vision is so great you know she's never bored and she's never sitting there looking at me like what are you doing yeah no never did i've been hearing that for the last 25 years please keep that to yourself and see some of y'all that's what that's the way you talk to your little man now man please keep it to yourself you can tell me that for five years i don't see nothing well number five number five now this one is important to me and this is some wisdom right here i want you all to listen very carefully you you got your clown in the crown you got your clown in the crown number five he has children but he never discusses them i want you to pause and think about that he has children not by you necessarily but he never discusses his kids a man that has children that he never talks about is unknowingly giving you an x-ray of his heart a man that has children you know enough to know he has children and he never talks about his children to you is giving you an x-ray of his heart see a man that does not commit to his children is either morally bankrupt has the emotional maturity of a child or is just trying to have sex with you he ain't talking about his children either he don't plan on y'all really being going nowhere and only in it for us just just you know just to have some sex or he's just that emotionally immature that you know or he's morally bankrupt because any well-adjusted man that has any significant relationship or spends a significant amount of time with anybody at some point is going to talk about his children if a man is not committed to his seed what makes you think he's going to be committed to you listen to what the bible says in matthew 12 34 it says o generation of vipers how can you being evil speak good things out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh whatever's in a man's heart comes out of his mouth and if you're with this man all the time talking to him all the time and he never has anything said by his children oh man that's you you need to investigate that something wrong now and then that's sure enough a clown in the crown now because a a real man about his children he ain't gonna cut no corners about that and the bible says in first timothy five and 8 but if any provide not for his own especially for those of his own house he is denied faith and is worse than an unbeliever if a man is not attentive towards his children he does not make his children a priority ain't nowhere to go number six and then i'm done i've been only 45 minutes uh you got your clown in the crown when he's when this when this cat is just judgmental and condescending he's just constantly judgmental of he's judgmental of your weight he's judgmental of your dress code he's judgmental of your uh his everything your family he's judgmental of everything concerning you and he and he speaks down to you and let me speak from my context since i'm a pastor and i come out of the church scene you find a lot of these religious narcissists that you you try to develop a relationship with and they take the bible and they beat you over the head with it and when they get through they make you feel like you're that small and the reality is that the condescondin uh condescending and the judgmental spirit are to intentionally erode your self-esteem so that they can bring you to a point that is smoke so small he can manage you the way he desires to manage you through guilt that's a that's a clown in the crown you're never supposed to submit yourself to a man that's constantly constantly judging you and talking down or looking down on you never that's a clown when a man looks down on you and saw and talks down to you maybe he has a little more education or whatever that don't mean nothing whole lot of clowns got phds looking down on you and talking down and judging everything you do you're supposed to become indignant about that and you suppose in no uncertain terms tell him get on you know and the bible says listen to this very carefully and i'm done the bible says in titus 1 15 unto the pure all things are pure but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure but even their mind and conscience is defiled you find a person is constantly negative and judgmental and condescending their heart is polluted when he's coming from when he's coming from a pure place in a godly place and a healthy place and a good place he's going to always highlight the good in you he sees he's not going to be judging you and beating you down and talking down to you and intentionally trying to make you small so that he can manage you he's going to he's going to build you up because when my heart is right i see the right in you and i speak life into you any man that can't speak life unto you why why why are you with him because a man that is worthy is never judgmental and he's certainly not condescending he's respectful that's a part of that thing the bible calls honor the bible says a man should honor his wife see part of that is being respectful esteeming her putting her in a lofty place where she where he deals with her a certain kind of way he's not going to talk to her you know outside of certain parameters he's going to deal with her very respectfully and if a man does not approach you like that he's a clown and and he does not deserve your presence so that's just a little father-daughter talk i suppose and um i want to pray for you if i may father let this let this word let the revelation of it let the truth of it let it saturate their hearts tonight and god i thank you for bringing about healing and change even through these words father let these words soak into the hearts of everyone listening and god i thank you for bringing about healing and change and empowerment thank you now father thank you for the healing thank you for the manifestation of the healing healing the soul healing the heart healing the spirit thank you now father in jesus name amen well i love you all and i've enjoyed my time with you are there any questions just for a few minutes just for a few minutes i'm tired i had a long weekend thank you for waking me up i thank god for your words i truly feel like a queen thank you thank you pastor blake for your word wisdom through jesus christ god bless you any questions let's see talks so good thank you for always praying for us at the end of these talks god bless you i thank you it's my it's my honor and my privilege it's my honor and privilege love you pastor remind me of my dad absolutely no sugar coating that's the way to that's the way we got the dip got to give it out babe uh okay all right there's my wife did you miss the queenology 2.0 conference you can get all of the amazing content that's true listen those of you that missed the conference um can you do a video on being equally yolk i can i may need you to remind me of that um of course all of this stuff can be reversed um blanc love all of it can be reversed um if you did you were not able to make the conference and we thank god for women from all over the world we had six continents and i think like last count i had was like 27 countries that were represented on the platform for queenology 2.0 well guess what the conference material everything we covered all six sessions is presently on rcblakes.com as an online program you can go and get it tonight everything we dealt with over the weekend you can go and get it tonight now if you attended the conference and you um registered you should check your email because you already have access to that that's something that i just decided to give to uh those that supported my first cyber conference so don't go and buy it check your email because there's a code for those of you that attended the conference and actually registered and you have access to it but for those of you say well i wasn't well the online program gives you access to it whenever you want wherever you want you know for the rest of your life it's called queenology 2.0 so you have two now you have the queenology online program and then you have queenology 2.0 queenology 2.0 is the one is the content from uh the weekend what should i work on when guys complain that i am too alpha and independent ask them to give you some specifics because sometimes um um sometimes that that may be men that are inferior and just can't handle you but i i do get it a lot of women today are to alpha and many times you're too alpha because life has demanded it the absence of of men um has created this um climate that it becomes necessary but i'm a firm believer that the man that is enough man for you is not someone that you're gonna have to necessarily diminish yourself for which you never should uh he's a he's a man that's gonna be able to not only you know express that to you but he's also going to be able to help you to walk through it you know i have alpha female for wife literally and i mean it's a constant thing you know it's it's it's all it's ongoing but you got to be man enough to deal with that and so if a man runs from that he wasn't man enough to deal with it but if a man stays listen to what he's saying uh don't become defensive you know what i'm saying um and and just make the adjustments and he'll be patient enough to walk it out with you can you talk about getting married in your 50s uh i yeah i can talk about it um if i were to be trying to get married now uh okay and i'm assuming this is from the perspective of of a woman i would not um i would not give too much time to a man that did not i would have to get that information up front um relative to what what are his plans i would not be trying to date nobody for you know three four five years and all that kind of thing um they would have to have their money right you know what i'm saying um in your 50s you you're not going to be investing in nobody anybody come to you come out they love you and all that but then they then they shoot me get rich quick schemes actually want you to invest no no no investing no investing they're gonna have to have their own money they're gonna have to have a mind that they wanna get married you know what i'm saying and we're gonna have to be on the same page that um i know you're not gonna be a frustration to my life because i ain't i i i don't have time for that right now at this age i don't have time to be bothered we're gonna either be happy together or we ain't gonna be together because i don't have time so i mean that's just some of the stuff come to mind come to my mind i almost think i'm ready to date again it's been three years of healing after almost 20 years of covert narcissism and narcissistic abuse but because that situation i don't have a career and uh i feel equality man i don't see the rest of it though um i i don't see the rest of it what should i do if they find out they have married okay what should what should one do if they find out they have married a clown one that not only is condescending towards the wife but talks bad about her to anyone who will listen including their family well that's not a relationship that's not even a marriage you know you know i'm just not i'm just not the i'm not i'm not i'm just not the i'm a pastor i'm a bishop and all that but i'm not the most i'm not one of these legalistic religious people and i just personally i would have to make some personal choices for myself for the quality of my life and i'll leave it at that i'll leave it at that i would have to make some personal choices thank you so much for my life for the quality of my life you know because this is the quality of my life we're talking about there's not nobody else um you know who's sitting on the outside judging this is the quality of my life i would have to make some personal choices for the quality of my life and i'll leave it at that been off and on in a toxic relationship for 10 years he wants to marry but he's not the one for me verbal abuse and emotionally immature told him i don't want him anymore but he won't go um hopefully you don't have him in your house and just kind of eliminate him from your life and if you have to get the people to uh help you with that get the people you know but don't let nobody pressure you into something you know you don't don't don't want or need how do you move on when you find out that the man who you were planning to be with is a pastor but dealing with other women and found out uh he likes men my god how do you move i think you just move on i think the circumstances um provide everything you need to move on it ain't nothing it ain't no you know in a situation like that it ain't any it ain't it ain't no uh exit you know 12-step plan you you i think you said he messing with other women and dudes oh no you got to move you just got to go period it's kind of like the house fire you you know you know if the house catch on fire i got to go through the window if i got to try to break through the walls i just got to go i got to go and and that that that one ain't you just got to go and be thankful that you you got the opportunity to get out before you got caught up too deep pastor besides her relationship with god what is the most important area a single woman should work on in her life to prepare for marriage um to prepare for marriage uh probably emotional intelligence you know in other words learning how to manage her own emotions and how to communicate them effectively to the people that she's uh embracing or that's in her circle and learning how to deal properly with the emotions of others because i think apart from god thank you so much um the biggest challenge in a marriage is is dealing with the emotional ebbs and flows you know what i'm saying you know lisa's on here i think she's on here she can testify to this you know being able to deal with one another's emotions because at one point he gonna be up here she gonna be down there and you know so as a wise wife and then quiet as it's kept we don't talk about this a lot men have as many emotional shifts and changes as women the difference between a man may have more the difference between a man and a woman is that the man's ex the man implodes it's an explosion internally while the woman explodes in most cases and so wise wife has to have the kind of emotional intelligence to be able to discern where he's at and know how to speak life into him to help him to return to himself and you know and i guess next to that i would talk about i would think you'd probably be working on financial well-being you know your own personal financial strategy i was dating for a few months and when i called him last night another woman uh oh a few months and when i called him last night another woman okay according to this man it was just a friend and apologize should i accept apologies just ignore and walk away um i don't want to answer that on a public platform because i don't want to indict the brother because i don't have the information you know what i mean um i think i would have just some more discussion with him um who is this person you know just have have some more discussion with him because he may very well be telling the truth you know i mean it's easy for us to sit and say well he probably lying because that could very well be the truth but what he's saying could be the truth and so just make certain i think i would have further discussion with him and i would seek understanding and then i think from that point your spirit will guide you you know what i mean your spirit will guide you and you will know what you need to do from your spirit thank you thank you thank you thank you all right my babies i love you all and thank you so much for supporting queenology amazing amazing i'm going to put uh the link for those of you that did not attend the conference you cannot miss it next time um i'm gonna put the link for the online program in the description as well as the link for better help for those of you that may need counseling professional counseling of any kind better help is the group that we've partnered with and we suggest to you i love you i'm tired but i just had to come and deliver this to you tonight and thank you for thank you for showing up thank you for being here uh y'all gave me 597 thumbs that ain't that even half of y'all that's that's in here i should have at least a thousand likes on this i know i'm gonna get my automatic thumbs down they they faithful my thumbs down people are faithful i need my thumbs up people to be even more faithful i love y'all and i'll talk to you real real real soon god bless you and have a great night

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

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Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Christian, Narcissist, RC BLAKES

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Length: 62min 24sec (3744 seconds)

Published: Mon Jul 27 2020