Our BEST Relationship Advice: Dating Boundaries & the 24-Hour Rule | Sadie Rob and Christian Huff

what's up with let's get fam welcome back to the wilderness game podcast welcome back what did you just talk to your friends social channels so christian is my guest on the show today and we are going to be doing a q a brought to you by our dms um yeah actually brought to you by brought to us by you guys brought to you by you and christian he is aware of the fact that he does not need to wear these headphones because he's here but why are you wearing the headphones actually because you said that my hair did not look that good and because i said where i have no no yeah but i think that the headphones make me look more official well that's true except for i kind of debunk you by not wearing them but that's okay you do you do me um alright so let's get to the q and a we will start with the question of the podcast only a little bit different someone asked us what is the best relationship advice that we have ever been given and we had two different answers but um both really good advice so christian yeah what's yours that's a really good question um the best piece for relationship advice that i've been given um i heard it from uh rich wilkerson it was a sermon and he said the bait that you catch them with is the bait that you'll keep them with and that really just rang true for me in the season of life that i was in um you know just thinking about that person that i was gonna spend my life with and you know getting through that process of getting to know somebody and dating and just really um you know there being nothing you know superficial there being nothing that's not truly authentically me and just that idea of whoever i get to know they're going to love me for the things about me that you know are the good the bad the ugly whatever the things that you care about yeah you really cared that you had a christ in a relationship and so you wanted to find someone who loves christ yeah so when we met like i just didn't want there to be anything in our process of getting to know each other where i was like acting a certain way around you and then my friends and doing different things you know so i wanted to try to be like yeah you know that idea of this is who you are yeah just being real the truth will come out especially in relationships like if you're gonna marry someone you're gonna find out who they are and so don't hide who you are like be upfront about that and i actually saw you give that vice advice to one of your friends because they were like oh i want a relationship like you and say like i so want that but they were like dating people that weren't godly women and you were like hey look if you want to have a relationship like me and say you have to date someone like sadie not in the way of like oh you have to be like me but they should be pursuing the lord they should be a positive person be someone you want to hang out with you know i think so many people are like oh well i just like that person because they're attractive so we'll date and then hopefully it works out and i have this godly relationship when you have a godly and a pure and a good and a joy-filled relationship when you as individual people are godly and joyful and pursuing that pursuing that um yeah so that was really good advice um my what about you my best piece of advice was from i have two one was from memo joe my great grandma and she said stop pouting it's stupid and i just thought that was so good because it wasn't like some like well put together saying it was just like you should stop pouting because it's actually just stupid to pout and i think so many times like you can just be annoyed and just kind of be like you know what like i want you to know that i'm annoyed so you just like walk around and it's like why you do that like just stop and i actually thought this to the night because this is funny so i was like whenever uh you told me not to get you a cheeseburger and i didn't get you a cheeseburger and then you wish i did get you a cheeseburger and then i was all sad because i didn't tell you not to give me one i just said maybe not he said maybe not so i didn't get my cheeseburger apparently i should have gotten him a cheeseburger and then i was like all sad i was like well why did you tell me that and all that stuff and then right after you asked me to go start your bath water and honestly i wanted to have an attitude but i did it but i did it i went exactly it was stupid it was stupid i was annoyed because i was like you invite me on your podcast and you just make fun of it that's just because that day there's just little annoyances building up and then you're like you guys are about the water and i wanted to be like really yeah probably no i you were gone you're at your softball game and so thank you and then you called me and you said can you start my bath water after i was taking care of the dog and the baby and everything i was like is that all that you need sir well your friends were in town listen okay that's my point is i could have pouted but it was stupid so uh what did i do i started the bath water right yeah okay good thank you and then another good piece of advice was from my mom and she said never say never always so she's like never say never and also never say always um and why is because you can get really caught up and i like that night i could have been like you never do anything you know you always ask me to do stuff well that's not true you actually do a lot of stuff all the time and you don't always ask me do stuff like you just ask me just one thing which is easy for me to do like and it's so easy for somebody whenever you come in and you like say one thing you have attitude it's like oh you never do this you always do that and like that's actually just not true and it's just very dramatic and being dramatic could actually make you you know more mad and there's no point in that so that was really good nice and and that can create like a false narrative too if you just constantly keep believing that because you might believe it it's like oh he always does that but it's like he doesn't always do that it's not true so that was good good advice um okay next question is from well that question is from rachel so thank you next question is from anna favorite memory with honey so far i was thinking i was gonna say like all of her first moments like her first time coming home her first bath her first time in the sand like her first time to sleep through the night which just recently happened her first that was a great her first time to roll over like it's just so sweet and yeah her first smile yeah it's just so cool to like see you know life through the eyes of a newborn like she's seeing everything fresh and so the firsts are just so cool yeah well she's just not gotten to the point where like she is so aware so she knows like what her hands are and kind of how to move them and she really only knows how to move them into her mouth she loves see her hair she loves her hands and it's so sweet like she knows who we are now and it's so cute like every time she sees me it's just green she smiles with her whole face facial eyes and she can't say anything yet obviously she's just three months but it's so cute because i'll go where's your mama and every time i say it she smiles she's so cute so we have like a million favorite memories with honey like it's just the best thing ever to be a mom and i'm sure it's the best thing to be a dad yeah and it's just the greatest girl bad is the best girl dad love it you're a great girl dad babe yo healthy snacks are just not that good are they i mean they have a bad reputation for a reason sometimes they don't taste good and they're not very fun but monk pack oh we got it it's so good and it is so fun it's just as exciting as me catching that on camera let me tell you about it monk pack keto nut and sea bars contain one gram of sugar or less two to three grams of net carbs and only 150 calories so it's a 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you're talking about physical boundaries which we can talk about other boundaries too i guess there's a lot of different boundaries but physically speaking um we didn't say like we're not gonna do this this and this and we are gonna do the system this like here's the boundary because i do feel like when you have a boundary like you typically just go to the boundary line right like you tutor that yeah and then you just cross it and you feel bad as all this stuff and like we just wanted to not make it such a like there's a line but more just like we have a relationship with god and like we're pursuing god and we're pursuing god's plan for our life and for our relationship and god's plan is purity and god's plan is one man one woman for marriage and um i will say like that wasn't our that wasn't what our past looked like you know but we had an opportunity when we came together for our future different than like people that we did in the past and we both wanted god's plan we wanted to pursue that and so together we made a decision hey we're going to do that and um that looks like purity and that looks like this um and that was that boundary in the sense of like you know just conversations of before i pursue you i'm going to pursue god and then out of that relationship that's gonna cause me to love you the best that i can that's gonna make me be more patient with you and more loving and gracious yeah and if i get those two mixed up then i'll start you know putting you on this pedestal that you can't live up to so i think that was the boundary that we really talked about a lot yeah so the biggest boundary is definitely loving god first and then loving each other and that's still true like i hope that's always our life that we love god first and we love each other and then we love our family and our friends and people you know um and so yeah that was a boundary and i will say like i think so many people think like the purity talk like is just like what you say up front you're just like hey this is what we're gonna do this is that is that but actually it's like such a gradual conversation like we talked about that so many times and we're like we pursue god's plan we want god's plan you know um we prayed a lot together about that and i think that was really beneficial and helpful for us that we were constantly in communication about that the stronger we had feelings for each other the more and lower we were the closer we were to marriage um that was just an important conversation um next question is do you take sermon notes slash what are your favorite sermons right now great question we love sermons sermons are our favorite that's weird yeah in college i took notes every sunday but for some reason i just don't really right now but you did listen to it kind of certainly i listen to sermon like four or five times a week yeah yeah my favorite sermons right now it's a sermon series from matt chandler he went through revelation it was like january to february it was like february like april so it was like 10 sermons just straight up revelation and that's so good it's there's no sermon series is impacting me spiritually the way that that one has i think i've listened to it like two or three times through yeah it was really really really good uh my favorite sermons to listen to is priscilla shire i love her i listened to this message that she preached and just listened to this one clip of it called who's your daddy like so much how many times do i listen to that all the time i can like quote it whenever she says um and every day i look in the mirror and i tell myself girl who's your daddy and you know what i tell myself i say he is the first and the last he's the beginning in the end he's the keeper of creation and the creator of all he always was always is always will be unmoved unchanged undefeated and never undone he was bruised with bright healing i can keep going but i'll stop the shower but yeah that is personal shower but i i i say that to say i uh maybe not take notes like i write it down but i like get it in my heart and i listen to it over and over and over again until like i i know it and i learn it because like those words really matter to me and like you know you can listen to a sermon all day long but until you apply the teaching um it won't have an effect on your life and that really means a lot to me that message because there are times like i doubt myself but i don't doubt god and so i want to look in the mirror and remind myself like okay it doesn't really matter who i am my god is the first and the last he's the beginning and the end he's the keeper christian the creator of all and so like hearing the words she gave me really blessed me you know um so yeah i think that that means a lot and there's a sermon from hurricane identity in christ i really like and then another sermon from passion that she preached that was um on the armor of god so yeah i really like that i love christine kane too and i mean really you can name anyone and yeah matt and louie are my two they're my two go-to yeah louis we love louie um so many great ones though i mean i could go on a list of all the people that we love and listen to but right now matt chandler louis priscilla shower chris and kane um oh gosh i could name so many of it start there start there we'll start there um okay is there such a thing as the right person wrong time yeah for real i didn't think about it christian's the right person for me but had we met when my sister met christian three years before we met two years before yeah something like that about two years before we met it would have been the wrong time wrong time we would not have been ready for each other but if i met you then i would have been i would have found this the right time i'm not really sweet do you really think you would what i i think i i mean you probably looked at me and said well he probably just matured a lot more but i've been like yo i'll get there i'm saying it probably would have been a different perspective of capability of who is this guy i look at you you're amazing um what are you reading in scripture right now jeremiah and jeremiah so i'm almost finished with jeremiah and then i usually read a few psalms a day and then i'm back and forth just flipping to the new testament but with jeremiah just the idea it's just so cool just to see how much he prophesied and i'm pretty sure in the new testament jesus quoted jeremiah more than any anyone really wrong i'm pretty sure that's cool i'm almost positive that check but that's really cool but no it's just it's just so cool to see how gracious god was with the israelites and just those people um and just constantly how disobedient they were but then when they would be when they would be obedient it was like a little glimpse and then god would be gracious and be disobedient and he'd be angry so it's just this like thing of just just reminding us of just how much god desires us to be obedient what was really cool because christian was telling me about that was that yesterday that that's what you're reading that's what god's teaching you and i was like that's so cool because i've been thinking about that like with honey like god has really like taught me about grace because like like it's just amazing to think that god sees me in a greater way even than i see honey because the grace and the love i have for her is like so unmeasured like she could literally cry for three hours and spit up all over me and i would be so stressed out on my mind and be like oh my gosh this is so hard and all this stuff and then she like larry stops and she like smiles and goes and i'm like i love you so much and like forget the three hours that just happened like there's just so much grace yeah and i just think about like wow like god loves me like that like the minute i turn to him and i'm like dad or like god i need you like god i love you god i'm sorry like it's just so cool to think that he loves me like that and he meets me with that kind of grace that you know i meet my daughter with and hopefully will for the years to come in an imperfect way but god's perfect and so for christian to say about in jeremiah that god just had so much grace on his people even though like they were so bad you know and you think like gosh like god like yes you put it yes he punished him yes he did things but like constantly whenever they turned back to him he was there you know and i just think that's really cool um god definitely when you're a parent you you just like think about god in a new way and i just told god that i was like thank you for like describing yourself to us as a father and us as your children because now that i understand that love that is the coolest thing ever let's be real we've all had our good hair days right and then we've also had our bad hair days am i right definitely right well function of beauty is gonna help us out to not have so many bad hair days but 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and that was a little bit crazy especially with the newborn um and i'm also working on my sermon for the end of this month and all that so right now in scripture i'm kind of everywhere i'm all over reading like more so verses at a time which used to i like to read um like books at a time and right now i'm kind of like focusing on this first focusing on that verse for specific things that i'm talking about but the virus has kind of been like on my heart for the most lately is when jesus says i am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the father except through me and i just think that that's so powerful and one of the things i'm kind of writing about talking about is that so many times in our life like to get us where we're going we think okay i need to do it my way i'm gonna create my truth and i'm gonna live my life and that's the outcome i want but that's actually not the outcome that outcome never gets is what we want and never gets is where we're going and so when we replace all those minds actually jesus is the way he is the truth he is the life that's who i'm going to follow um to get to the father that's actually that's the true life i want to live that's a true way i want to go and that's really the truth that i believe so that's been like the scripture that's kind of been a thread throughout everything i've been working on and reading right now um okay how do i let people who are not healthy for me to be around go without hurting them um so this is kind of a hard question because situations are so different um i would say you don't have to make some like big deal about it right like you don't have to like come to them be like you are hurting me you're terrible and i'm leaving bye like don't do that that's just not necessary like take it up with the lord be like god this is really hurting i don't want to hurt them but like i need a boundary and then just create boundaries with that person you know if they want to go to lunch you're busy today i'm sorry but like hope you have a great day like you can be really kind um but also you can be clear clear is kind um you know you can say i'm not gonna be able to go today hey i need to take a step back for a little bit um or you can be honest and you can say this is hurting me um and i the way that this relationship is is just not very healthy for me and i'm going to take a step back you can do that um i would just encourage you like before you do that before you have a conversation with a person like have a conversation with god and really be at peace with what you're gonna say because if you don't you'll go into it and it'll just be like an argument and a fight and you'll not be heard and your words will be jumbled and you just won't get anywhere yeah i was gonna yeah you don't want to like just blow up and tell them why they're the worst person no that never works ever yeah no that doesn't work um but yeah let me like i said i think being honest is definitely the best way to go about it and even because even you know being honest with them in that way that can even maybe elevate them you know to be better than what they're being you know like you kind of call them to a higher purpose and you kind of you know for some people that might even wake them up and say you know what i'm not being the best friend so thanks for telling me that i needed to hear that so sometimes being honest yeah truly does and that's how i say like it's so like circumstantial like it's so like the person like it's somebody that like needs to be in your life it's a family or close friend like the conversation's necessary like go to them and say you know i'm going to need um to talk about this because it's really hurting me the way that you're speaking to me the way that you're treating me that's worth the conversation um but if it's somebody that's like not does not need to be in your life anyways i think that's when you don't have to blow up you just kind of take a step back okay um okay how do you be a good sister in a friend to a roommate who is constantly driving you crazy good question that is a good question um i like you okay i don't know how to be a sister i do know how to be a bro and a friend and a yeah and a friend yeah um my i'm a pretty confrontational person so my way might not be the most constructive um i would just bluntly just say you're driving me crazy yeah i don't know that's like the best device everybody i don't really get cis like girly like well boys are different like guys could literally be like hey bro you're banging away and the guy's like oh okay but like if a girl did that then they're gonna cry and be like oh my gosh i'm so sorry that's so like awkward i can't believe you said that to me so yeah probably don't do that um but if you are getting annoyed with the person again i would say confront them talk to them and you know maybe you're annoyed because they don't pick up we'll say hey like it would really mean a lot to me if you would pick up after yourself um or maybe you're annoyed because they come home super late hey like i know that you live your life and all of mine but it would really mean a lot to me if you let me know when you're coming home so i don't have to stay up with the door like whatever it is like it's even like that last question just being honest you just have to be honest and again like kind is clear um i don't know where that came from claire's kind kind of clear but my friend has a t-shirt that says that so that's why i always say that but anyways um well that's even like because if you just let those things fester and you're not honest then you're gonna get more you're gonna just blow up and then that's not good for anybody so i think those are the things not constructive and you'll help them become a roommate for someone else or a future spouse like a future spouse i'm glad for the times that my roommate said something to me that was um you know good for me to hear because i think i'm a better wife for it there you go that's right um like one thing it's funny um whenever i live with some girls and asphalt were like my best friends ever none of them ever took the lint out of the dryer and i was like why do you not take them out of the jar and none of them even knew you were supposed to do that so that's just funny but like i was like getting kind of like annoyed because it kept building up but like they didn't even know you were supposed to do it so as soon as i told you i was like oh which job okay i don't know why they didn't know that but it was kind of funny but like again you don't know where someone's coming from so you should just say it [Music] anyone else does not really like going to the post office well you're not alone and don't worry with stamps.com you actually don't have to go to the post office anymore and you can do everything you need to on stamps.com let me tell you a little bit about it you can mail and ship anything anytime anywhere from your 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for me already that was the community um so whoever's incoming incoming college freshman to find a church i think just find people who are your age that are attending the same church um and find people who are your age that are actually on fire for god that are not you know leaving that high school stage but still kind of quasi want to go to church but not yeah why are you i'm i that's a good word i love that i just realized that from the start i never told you like in that camera and even looking at the tv yeah the whole time yeah yeah okay um back to my answer yeah you should have told me that before we started bro um i know so what i was saying was find a community of people that are your age that are actively pursuing a relationship with god maybe not where your sorority sisters or fraternity brothers are going but finding the place where people actually want to pursue god we have a monitor over here and we can see yourself and i think christian thought you were supposed to look in that clearly i've been looking for 25 minutes oh yes okay that was a really good answer i was not laughing about that i was truly laughing about the fact that i just noticed that okay how do you handle conflict in relationships be honest all the things be honest yeah and just i would say my friend has this like a 24-hour rule like don't let it go 24 hours without saying it and i think that is important like if i need to dress up with christian like i should not wait until two days from now to address it it doesn't matter if you're tired it doesn't matter yeah it is my retired or busy like you you say it because there have been times where one of us will say something and it's like why didn't you tell me that two days ago or three weeks ago yeah what was the day the other day you were like actually this kind of upset me and i was like that was like two months ago what are you talking about so yeah if things upset you the moment just talk about it let's see don't don't wait and then you hear some key words like actually yeah that actually really upset me well in my mind in my mind i'm like oh i'll get over it but you really should just say it even if it's small because then yeah two months go by and he says something like speaking of that i see speaking of that i'm not proud of that uh that's why i said that it's gonna get better and that's humble and i really appreciate that thank you sadie is the most humble person are you being serious but yeah i'm not joking i knew i knew you weren't drinking myself sarcastic no i was being serious you're the most humble person that's so sweet thank you you've said that before and that always means a lot that's the sweet you're so humble too thank you um i think humility is one of like the things that in our life that everyone like should definitely pay more attention to like i think you know a lot of people read the bible and like see all these other attributes like we need to be joyful when you have peace we need to be confident but like i think being humble is like really at the root of a lot of things humbling contrite heart yeah like to be humble ourselves to resolve the god and to humble ourselves and not be prideful to learn and to become better like i think it's really essential to becoming new a new creation um so thanks for saying that that's the highest compliment you could give me um okay fun questions does pizza go on pineapple which i believe they meant to say does pineapple go on pizza or maybe the fun question is that you put pizza on a pineapple okay if you're asking a pineapple sugar on pizza yes 100 yes i love pineapple on pizza well pineapple and pizza is for the for like the person who's like wanting to be healthy but also being like i kind of want pizza i've never thought i was trying to be that pizza as healthy but thank you no i'm saying pineapples i'm not saying yeah i'm saying pineapple i know but they're like in the can i'm sure well maybe that's it fruits fruit well it's actually kind of honey because i always mean to order hawaiian pizza and one time i was so mad i hadn't eaten meat in like a month and i was very excited to get back to eating me um what was it i guess i was fasting we saw that that netflix stuff oh yeah okay and we were like let's like not do me and so then we did it and like 30 days go by and i'm like oh my gosh i can't wait to get a hawaiian pizza and i accidentally said pineapple pizza and so we get the pizza and it does have me on it it's just cheese and pineapple you were very desperate i don't recommend that that's not very good okay and lastly this is a question that you all been waiting for if you miss out on buying a ticket to the ellis sister conference is there any way that you can get one we actually a lot of dms about this and i'm here to tell you even though it sold out we actually can provide tickets we are opening up 50 more seats so we have 50 tickets going on sale right now as we speak and you guys listening to the podcast are the 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