HOW YOU GOT TRAPPED IN A RELATIONSHIP GOING NOWHERE- The Merry-Go-Round by RC BLAKES

good-evening good-evening good-evening hope everybody's doing great hope everybody's doing great hope everybody is safe and pray that you're doing well I'm so excited to be able to talk to you this evening if you if you don't mind I'd love for you to share this link on your other social media platforms I want to talk about why why is it that many people get trapped in relationships that are going nowhere why is it that many people too many people are getting trapped in relationships that are going absolutely nowhere and I call it I forgot to bring my book in here I meant to bring my book so you could see it in my book the father-daughter talk I call it the merry-go-round and the reason I called it the merry-go-round is because the merry-go-round gives you a fast ride but you end up in the same place every time it brings you on a fast ride it's it's thrilling it's dizzying but it's redundant and every time you're done with that ride it drops you off in the same place you go on a fast ride it's a fast ride going nowhere and how many people do you know how many people do I know how many people do I communicate with on a daily basis who are trapped in relationships that are going absolutely nowhere it's it's clear that it's going nowhere to everybody around you and it's even clearer to you but there's a reason and I'll talk about that at the end of this session there's a reason you refuse to accept the facts you know as truth there's a reason you keep talking yourself out of what is clearly common sense but if you look in Proverbs 7 a passage of Scripture that I read quite a lot when it comes down to these relationships it says with her much fair speech she caused him to yield with the flattering of her lips she forced him he goeth after her straightway as an ox goeth to the slaughter or as a fool to the correction of the stocks until a dart strike through his liver as a bird hasteth to the snare and knoweth not that it is for his life thank you kiss see kiss D kissed by D I'm trying to read it you know I'm talking to you thank you but the thing I want you to zoom in on is that the Bible says with a much Fair speech she caused him to yield it's almost like a wrestlers kind of maneuver where the wrestler pins the person until they're counted out 1 2 3 she caused him to yield all the person taps out and with the flattering of her lips she forced him that's some powerful language but watch this listen to this very carefully it's interesting that a woman could force a man with her words listen let me say it again it's interesting that a woman could force a man with her words and then the Bible finally says like a bird that runs to snare and knows not that it is for his life most people that have gotten caught up trapped in relationships going nowhere have done so not realizing that their lives were on the line most people when you got caught up in this relationship that has gone to where and is going to where you got caught up in it because the sex appeal was great you got caught up in it because you know it looked good on your Instagram profile you got caught up in it for a lot of reasons you never realized that this was for your life maybe not your life literally but it has been a waste of your life it has been a waste of your time it it is it has consumed precious years I love you pasta is that Micah thank you so much it is consumed precious years thank you Purple Hearts somebody said to me the other day sent me an email that they were offended that I speak to people who are kind to me now if you have a problem with that you know I'm not the only one here but I was I was trained to to respond to people who are kind to you this is a social platform it's a community it's interactive that's why they have these things running up here so I can read them and when people are kind to me I respond so if you're offended by that you know oh like I can't even apologize because I can't apologize for being me but let's get into this number one number one how does this start why why why did I get stuck in a relationship going nowhere how did I get on this merry-go-round okay here's where it started it started with love-bombing started these are terms that I've learned you know as I've studied narcissism it started with love bombing love bombing is the act of influencing or at least attempting to influence a person by demonstrations of attention and extreme affection they just love bomb you Thank You Sharon I appreciate you they just love balmy it's like you know you go back to our first text proverbs 7 21 through 23 says through a speech she caused them to yield and through flattery she forced him it's like she just overwhelmed him it's like she just overwhelmed him and that's how that's how many of you got stuck in this maybe you went from a situation where there was no affection there was no attention given and then you run up on this individual this character who loved bombs you who gives you all of the attention who goes overboard with affection and you you don't know because you've never experienced what authentic and genuine and true affection looked like what genuine attention feels like you didn't know that this was false and that this was fake and that this was really just a trap to set you up to tie your soul up so that they could manipulate and control you from the inside out so they it started off with love bombing just the person that they won't even let you breathe you know they won't let you move you get off work they're in the parking lot they blow your phone up all day long with text messages about I love you hearts all over the screen and and the the at your house as soon as you arrive it's just they love bomb and you because you've been starved for attention and see they seek they seek people out that they know are starved for this kind of attention because you've been starved for tension like this you get excited about it and you you buy into it and so you kind of go with it and it's like you know it's like a wave that just picks you up and carries you and takes you away and the Bible says in Proverbs 29 and 5 a man that flatter if his neighbor spreadeth watch this I love this I was just reading this today a man that flatter if his neighbor spread it a net for his heat a man that flatter with his neighbor spreadeth a net for his feet now it's interesting that he says that the flatterer spreads a net for the feet of the victim because the visual is that the net e spreads is to entangle the feet of the victim watch this making the victim fall a flatterer a man that flatter it's his neighbor spread with a net for his feet meaning he ties his feet up so that he's immobile he can't he can't run he can't walk he falls and he's stuck in place where he falls interesting when I read that because of the the old familiar saying I fell in love I fell in love Sharon Portia thank you for your knowledge you have helped me through my divorce which I found you early in my life god bless you you're truly a vessel from God this has been my situation for 11 years you always right on time but he says a flatterer that flatters is neighbor spread as a net for his feet now this goes back to my whole position on this falling and love thing when a person love bombs you love bombing is designed to make the victim fall in love as opposed to intentionally and intelligently walking in love or walking into the the purpose of love bombing is to get you so carried away emotionally that you don't have time watch this you don't have time to think it's like it's like a whirlwind it's like you know you you it's moving so fast you can't even you can't even open your eyes you just you just caught up in the love bombing and and before you knew it you fell in love with someone that was sent directly from the devil that's a good word they smother you they don't give you a chance to think they occupy all of your time they just love it on you it's like you know something wrong but then everything seems to be so right you know I've always prayed for somebody to love me like this but there's something strange about it I just it just doesn't feel I just don't know and then here comes another dozen of roses and you like but how can you resist this you don't realize that this person is really just setting you up this is not real this is not authentic and watch this this ain't gonna last look what the Bible says in Romans 16 verses 17 and 18 says I urge you brothers and sisters to keep your eyes on those who cause dissensions and create obstacles or introduce temptations for others to commit sin acting in ways contrary to the doctrine which you have learned now listen to what he says here turn away from them for such people do not serve our Lord Christ but their own appetites and base desires by smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting the innocent and the naive see when you grow up in this thing and you really become wise you're not moved by somebody that's love bombing you you know I don't need you just don't eat you all over the place I just need you to be steady and be consistent and be genuine and be authentic you ain't got nothing to prove to me come on now you ain't got nothing to prove to me I need you to slow down because I get nervous when people start trying to prove things to me and you go to you know overly promoting your I slow down so I can see what you're doing slow down you already sent me a dozen roses this week I don't need two dozen just just calm down let's have a conversation let's have a conversation because they they are love-bombing you're Tiffany god bless you Bishop my approach to living in my singleness has truly been blessed since watching you thank you that's why I'm here so this thing started with love-bombing some of you all in that phase now where they are they somebody use the word they're smothering you it's all good but something ain't right about it have you I've been there where it's all good or something mean right about it they're smothering you to the point that you don't even have time to spin with your own mother or your siblings or your friends you don't even have time to go to your church anymore they all they're always planning something they always is it just it's wonderful but it's is weird at the same time well the purpose of the love bombing is to what overwhelm you make you fall in love because they're trying to play on your your innocence and your naivety okay now so after they love bomb you and you just saw Calgon take me away and you know you all up in the hotel and you all up in this you know having sex and all this kind of stuff say my name you screaming the people's name and all this kind of stuff at night you just head over heels you know you just you gone you you falling in love he spread that net for your feet now you didn't fell in luck and this happens the dudes two women do this to dudes - this is a new generation the sisters out here Thank You Cassandra I appreciate you this is a new generation of sisters out here brother deal they'll blow your mind they will blow your mind out here these sisters have learned all the tricks and they playing them on dudes - love bomb you man have you have you calling her name and by the time they know they got you where they want you then the whole game changes the rolls and stop coming the call has become a little fewer and then they move in to watch this see the love bomb and stuff you have to understand it's about love bombing the love bombing there's nothing there's nothing really significant about the love bombing the love bombing is simply like okay if you were if you didn't know any better listen to this very carefully if you if you didn't know any better and somebody set you down and they were serving you say a five-course meal but they start at the desert and they overload you with ice cream and pie and all of this kind of stuff that has no nutritional value there's nothing significant about this there's nothing lasting about this they start you don't but they know you don't know any better so they start with the ice cream in the in the end the pie and the cake and the overload you on that and then by the time you look around and you see other people got steaks and chicken and fish and and and and crabs and all this other stuff now you saying you know I I need more than this II I need more than all of this sugar number two number one that they start with love bombing number two it the the situation moves to the avoidance of intimacy you've got all of this you got all of this love bombing but watch this this even and all of this sex change hold it wasn't supposed to have you don't went through all of this and then you wake up one day and you you realize you snap out of the spell for a minute and you realize I've got nothing significant out of this there's really been no intimacy in this so they move from love-bombing you to avoiding in anything intimate emotional what did you say that you said emotionally unavailable you discover that they'll give you their body but you do not have access to their soul or heart and you'll also discover that many times they know how to make love to your body and in order to make you respond physically but they don't know how to make love to your mind they do nothing for your more substantial aspect they will addicted to the love bombing and when you require more than flattery when you when you require more than sex when you put a demand on them for more than roses and candy they will always leave you hanging in that amazing and watch this a person can love bomb you to the point that they can love bomb you all the way to the altar and you can marry this person and then wake up one day and realize you've married someone who has no depth you're married someone who is really a narcissist and just needed to marry you for his or her own purposes and they used you even in marriage number two again is intimacy avoidance so they will addicted to the love bombing and when you require more than that they will leave you hanging it will be like an itch you can't scratch it's like something missing you know something missing I need more than this you know they know how to have sex but they don't know how to make love they know how to have sex but they have no conversation they they they they are totally disconnected from you who you are internally spiritually emotionally intellectually they they do not they do not relate to you now a person that is avoiding intimacy a few things that I listed here they won't engage hard conversations so when you say something like let's talk yourself let's have a talk you know let's talk about your feelings let's talk about my feet well I have to go to work I got to go they will not engage in hard conversations they will never engage in heart conversations whenever you come up with a heart-to-heart conversation they're gonna find a way out of it or they're they're going to make light of the moment and you know they'll let you speak your peace maybe but when it comes down to them they're gonna give you some little cookie cutter answer and they they're gonna slide on out of it letter B they won't have a response to your painful truth when you go to talking about how you feel and how you're hurting they won't be able to provide any empathy and so you sit in there pouring your heart out and this person is so disconnected because they they are avoiding any level of intimacy with you they they come across as though they are completely numb to whatever it is you're expressing they can't handle the truth of your pain they when a person is avoiding intimacy they let a they won't engage heart conversations that a beat they won't have a bounce to your painful truth let us see they won't show interest in your goals you can talk about what you're planning on doing and you can be extremely excited about it and they won't have an interest in yeah they'll look at you oh yeah that's that's that's that's nice and then they'll change the subject to something else because they don't want to go what to an intimate level and then letter D they won't be comfortable in silence that's something that came to me today that watch this listen to this statement very carefully one of the most intimate things you can do is to be in a room with a single individual and just be silent I mean I'm not talking about passive aggression I'm not talking about that where you trying to you know I'm not talking about every time I wear both of y'all happy both of y'all are on cue and you're just in a room in your silent together both of y'all wide awake and you just silence you're comfortable in silence think about how intimate that is you would not be comfortable sitting in a room with a person unless there was a deep intimate connection with that person and just be silent can you imagine going to your job tomorrow and sitting in a room with one of your co-workers and just just silent both of y'all just silent for it for a protracted period of time you you own you you will only be comfortable with silence in a situation where there's a deep intimate connection other than that somebody's gonna try to make what we call small talk they won't be comfortable in silence you know they'll have to turn the radio on or they'll have to say something Crazy's you know talk about stuff that doesn't even matter but they'll always get uncomfortable in silence because they they they are not connecting with you intimately and see now watch this see these are the things these are the things that need to be discovered before was it Iyanla who said look deep before you leap these are the things that need to be discovered before you go too far into our relationship or a so-called relationship with an individual does this person have the capacity to be intimate with me does this person desire to be intimate and you have to you have to separate your definition of intimacy from sex sex is not intimacy intimacy intimacy when I was married I told my husband I was not happy he said what you want me to do about it I I have been happily divorced now six years thank God I'm single and happy intimacy goes deeper than the love bombings deaths surface stuff intimacy goes deeper and watch this intimacy is consistent the most the person that when when people really develop an intimacy in their relationship it goes deeper Emma Badger hello from Jacksonville Florida thank you so much it goes deeper listen to what the Bible describes as love get the definition of love in the Bible in first Corinthians 13 4 through 7 says love never gives up love cares more for others than for self this is intimacy love doesn't want it love doesn't want what it doesn't have love doesn't strut doesn't have a swelled head doesn't force itself on others isn't always me first doesn't fly off the handle doesn't keep score of the sins of others doesn't revel when others grovel takes pleasure in the flowering of truth puts up with anything trust God always always looks for the best never looks back but keeps going to the end intimacy in other words true love is consistent true love is consistent it's deep watch this it's deep you know it's not surface level it's deep and it's what consistent see the the greatest gift a man can give a woman is consistency okay so now watch this so we move from love bombing to intimacy avoiding the avoidance of intimacy and then number three we move to gas lighting now gas lighting is when they not only the love bomb you they avoid intimacy and then maybe you begin to articulate your feelings about you know where you think the relationship is then they begin to Gaslight you narcissist this is they will deprive you they will abuse you emotionally and then they will thank you Erica into me see Thank You Erica they will deprive you abused you emotionally and then they will make you believe you're imagining it let me say that one more time they will deprive you they will abuse you emotionally and then they will make you believe that you're imagining it that is just your imagination they will they will work to make you believe that something's wrong with you that I'm giving you the best I got there's nobody there's no man in the world that will give you what I'm giving you there's no woman in the world that will love you like I'm loving you and you while when you should be grateful and celebrating what you got you sitting here tripping and and they begin the gas like you they begin to do things to make you believe that you're crazy to make you doubt your own good judgment when you start coming back to your good common sense they will make you believe that they won't they want to make you doubt what you know you see and what you hear they want to make you even doubt what you know you feel or don't feel and see dudes of them we are the Masters of that we are the masters of taking a woman speeding the conversation up you know and when we get through with that situation we can twist that thing around in a way that the woman leaves away from there apologizing to the dude gaslighting you and what is the purpose of gaslighting to confuse you because if I can con fuse if I can confuse you I can use you true this veena thank you so much if I can confuse you I can continue to use you and the relationship has gone nowhere I'm getting what I want out of the relationship I'm you know I'm avoiding intimacy at all costs in most cases when it comes down to dude he's gone is gone avoid marriage he'll keep sleeping with you keep making babies with you you know keep on you know gaslighting you or keep on [ __ ] I say he'll keep on avoiding intimacy and he'll keep on love bombing you and then he'll he'll make you believe that he's not the problem you're the problem when you get yourself together I will marry you okay do it until is right you got to get yourself together you got to get yourself together look what the Bible says it's what it's a spirit of confusion and you caught up in this thing and because you know it's so sad that in most cases not all but in most in most cases when women enter into a relationship with a man that turns sexual she really believe is that this is it this is gonna be my husband I'm gonna be wifey we gonna get the picket fence we gonna get two two-and-a-half kids and a dog and how and and not understanding that this dude entered into this situation with no intention of ever going beyond love-bombing you and keeping you in a state of confusion and avoiding commitment avoiding intimacy at all cost but you thought that this was really going somewhere and I'm gonna tell you why I'm gonna tell you why before I close why it is that you're not stupid you know people Zoey you stupid you stupid you you keep on hanging in there with this you stupid no you're not stupid thank you Tony break it down sir this is actually what's going on a global scale narcissistic systems and folks ain't having it no more true light is coming into the darkness it's not gonna happen no more but you are you caught up in all of this confusion listen to what the Bible says in first Corinthians 14:33 for God is not the author of confusion so you know God in it whenever whenever you find yourself confused you know God's not in it thank you Lisa speaking to my soul keep sharing your wisdom I thank God I found your channel I appreciate you Lisa thank you so much God is not the author of confusion whenever you get whenever you find confusion in the situation laQuan oh thank you so much I appreciate you you know God's not in it and they say okay well you stupid you dumb you an idiot you sticking in there now watch this some of y'all the same girlfriends that's telling you that they got their own situations on you just don't know about it listen to what James 3 and 16 says for we're envying and strife is there's confusion and every evil work now listen to this statement very carefully the impact of gas lighting is to make you doubt your own judgment and when you doubt your own judgement you begin to rely on their judgement without question when I don't think I'm thinking so well and and you're the one that you're the one that made me see that I'm not thinking so well now what I do is I am slow to accept my own judgment and now I'm relying on you to give me my answers now watch this this is after they've separated you from your family your friends your counselors your leaders and they've isolated you and so now if gaslighted use it up to the point that you you're so paranoid you feel like something's wrong with you and so you now doubt your judgment so now you you lean solely on their opinion of what is right you lean on their opinion you know of what is because the impact of gaslighting is to make you doubt your own judgment to watch this gaslighting is really designed to put you in a puppet like state where they can manage your life and you just you know and then number four okay let me see so we went from love-bombing intimacy avoidance gaslighting and then what happens is watch this they'll abruptly and all of this watch this all of this is mind control somebody write that mind control all of this is mind control and for the brothers that would be honest you can testify Thank You Christine I appreciate you we were taught in the barber shops of the United States of America we were taught in the barber shops how to control the mind of a woman yes we were we were taught and and from from little boys from adolescent from adolescent age we were sent out into the streets of the United States of America to see how many women we could control and a part of that control brings me to number four you get a woman watch this and again brothers let me tell you this has been reversed engineered and the sisters are now doing it to the brothers yes they are you get a woman strung out where she's so in love you love bhama come on now you just you just give her everything she have imagined you avoid intimacy avoid commitment when when she gets a little antsy about it you make make her think that she's something wrong with her she's crazy Thank You Esther for even thinking this way you gasps lightly you make her feel like you know she's thinking the wrong way that she's seeing things the wrong way and then brings me to number four and finally the driver to this maneuver is you break up with her or you act like it's not working out you know you you trippin so hard you tripping so hard you know you you you you I just don't know I just don't know it is just it's just not right it's just not right and I don't see it working I don't see it working so I think it's best you go your way I go my way now they'll tell you that number four is bread crumbing they'll tell you it ain't working you go your way I'm going mine every time you get discouraged and you want out they will constantly give you hope inch by inch until you've gotten even more dizzy in other words they'll say it's over and then you say okay you know I'm gonna have to bite the bullet I'm gonna accept this and then they started dropping breadcrumbs for you they'll drop a text now now you just told me that you don't you don't want me no more you know we're not working it's over but now I'm looking on my cell phone there's a text from you or you know I'm looking in my email there there's a message from you about nothing really important what they're doing is bread crumbing is the practice of giving someone just enough attention for them to believe watch this there's a chance at a relationship while remaining mostly distant and emotionally unavailable it's kind of it's similar to ghosting but there's there's a little more interaction in terms of the person just dropping stuff they'll they'll comment on your social media and they know that they know where your heart is and so they'll keep dropping those breadcrumbs so you keep following them and you keep eating on those bread crumbs and and that's the way they they lead you that's the way they lead you for as long of a period as you remain sleep but when you wake up and when you choose to get off of the ride and see some of you are dealing with that now where you got somebody that's just constantly giving you just enough to make you think okay it's gonna work this time it's gonna work this time well it's gonna happen this time it's gonna happen this time and you keep falling for it and your friends say something wrong with your head so you stupid now you probably do need a counselor therapist to help you work your way through this because this is a lot of confusion right here because the impact watch this the impact of bread crumbing when a person just gives you just a little bit just a little bit and then they pull back Thank You sim god bless you Pastor your videos are giving me wisdom and clarity on narcissism well watch this thank you the impact of bread crumbing is that it creates what I call an approval trap you see the person that rejects you is the person that you want to ultimately accept you and to affirm you and to approve of you not you don't you know you may have 25 other people who want to affirm you and accept you and approve of you but you don't want their approval you want the approval of the person that rejected you and continues to reject you so now you're caught up in an approval trap where you're spending the rest of your life searching for the approval of the person that broke you you want the person that broke you to come back and fix you and it becomes an approval trap that you know you're searching for this but it's a it's a waste of time because they're never going to give you that person that breaks you is not the one that's gonna come back and heal you healed you so now here's the reason why so we went from go of it again we went from love bombing to intimacy avoidance to gas lighting to bread crumbing now let me also add this a person does not necessarily have to be a narcissist to apply these tactics because all of this stuff that I just outlined for you though these are the tactics of a narcissistic abuser in a in a romantic relationship many times these are the very things that men are taught by other generations of men as it pertains to how to manipulate and control the minds of women this is why you see so many women under the spell of men it never it always amazed me that so-called pimps or able to talk women into selling their bodies and bringing them the money well this is the stuff right here is because they get in your soul they get your soul they get and they get a ain't they drop an anchor in your soul and you your life become so confused you don't know which way which way to go this is how a PhD woman can be manipulated easily by GED man he knows these particular tactics now here's the reason why because some of you're like why am i why am i stuck in this why my trap why my car how did I get here okay let me give it to you let me tell you why your investment your emotional your sexual your financial investment into this relationship glues you it has adhered to you to false hope and has committed you to the cycle that this cycle that becomes perpetual so you get caught up over and over again so he brings you he brings you through the love-bombing he brings you through the intimacy of varnas no commitment gasps likes you bread crumbs you and then all of a sudden he comes back again and says okay I forgive you and then he loved bombs you again and you say oh I got it he is God has touched his heart you tell your gave my heart to Jesus now God has touched his heart and then he'll he'll he'll Gaslight y'all rather he'll he'll take it he'll love bomb you then he'll avoid intimacy again and he'll Gaslight you again and he'll breadcrumb you again and then what happens is every time he brings you through this cycle it gets deeper and deeper into your soul the Bible says Hope deferred makes the heart sick when a person is wishing and hoping for something for so long and they never get it they become sick on the inside Thank You D blue pastor one of the first videos I watched helped me realize I was in a narcissistic relationship it was a light tower for me in that dark time blessings and thank you God bless you so he bring East our stop cycle all over again he starts the cycle over now why why do you why do you keep falling for this if you're looking Matthew chapter 6 in verse 21 it says as for where your treasure is there will your there will your heart be also and I just said your investment glues you to the folks - false hope and the cycle of this situation it becomes perpetual when your treasure is there will your heart be also in other words wherever you have made an investment your heart follows and because you have invested so much in this situation your heart is followed and you don't know your soul doesn't know how to pull your heart out of the situation because you have left so much of an investment in this and you're like well I gotta make this work because I can't believe thank you Josephine wisdom wisdom wisdom now it's time to make decisions it sure is well where your treasure is there will your heart be also it's hard for you to come out of it because you've invested so much and you've gotten nothing that you've got none of the returns that you anticipated so you're not crazy you're not stupid you're human now here's what has to happen you have to accept watch this you have to accept you have to accept the facts and you if you find yourself in a situation like this here's what you got to do you got to accept the facts for what they are I have been hoodwinked I have been been bamboozled I have been run amuck and now what I have to do is I have to cut my losses and I have to move forward with my life and the only way to do this is that you have to understand that this person presently your soul is sick and this person presently has handlebars on your soul the only way to break free is to separate yourself from this individual no contact period doesn't we don't need a long counseling session you have to make the decision that I am NOT going to give this person access to me anymore now watch this you're gonna think well that's gonna hurt Thank You Latasha left the toxic relationship yesterday after five years today was so rough but I stayed busy and I'm going to keep praying moving forward you got to you have to accept it for what it is you have to realize this is going to hurt it's going it is going to hurt but did I ask you to do this choose your pain choose your pain would you rather the temporary pain of separating from a person that should have never even had a convo should have had access to you to have a conversation would you rather that pain which is temporary or what you rather the lifelong pain of having wasted your life with a person that never deserved to even be in your presence you got to choose your penny you were hurt either way you got either hurt now watch this you're either gonna hurt now by choosing to pull away from this person and allowing your heart to break so your soul can heal or you're going to ignore what you need to do what is prudent and you're gonna stick with this thing and you're gonna keep wishing upon a star and you're gonna wake up maybe you're fought it now maybe you're 50 now you you don't want to wake up at 70 years old and realize that you let all of your years maybe you're 20 you that all of your life pass by on a miracle round going fast going fast and going nowhere always stop it in the same place and if you sit down long enough it starts up again the cycle starts again and you always end up in the same place have you noticed you keep ending up in the same place Thank You Donna you keep ending up in the same place can you say pastor bishop RC whatever y'all call me what can I do and you want me to give you this long laundry less BAE BAE it ain't nothing else to talk about until you make up your mind Thank You Martha thank you Pastor for standing in your truth and blessing us with your wisdom thank you so much it ain't nothing to talk about until you make up your mind that watch this I deserve better than this see if you can't say that for yourself is not enough for me to see it for you if if you call me and we talked every day you would just be wasting my time and yours Denisha 20 years in a narcissistic relationship I was tired but afraid to leave three weeks free Thank You Jesus keep it that way till you wake up and you say I deserve better than this I know it's gonna hurt but I'm willing to go through the pain and grow yourself beyond this dysfunction ain't nothing really to talk about so I was just led to share this with you all today and my prayers that something I said has really resonated penetrated impacted you I want to pray for you then I'm gonna let you go father God I thank you for just the word of thank you for the revelation of truth and I thank you for everyone that's on this live now and those that were watch to replay now father God I thank you for stopping this merry-go-round and giving each and every one of them - get off god reach your hand and then stop this merry-go-round and give each and every one of them an opportunity to get off it's the power of choice now God now god I thank you for giving us wisdom and helping us to choose wisely in God I pray now that you will give them the supernatural strength in Jesus's name giving them the supernatural strength to make the choice that will serve their future in Jesus's name Amen oh my god listen Thank You Robyn thank you pretty puppy thank you so much I appreciate you all giving them now God the strength to make the choice that will serve their future Amanda thank you so much you got it you have to consider your future you have to make choices for your future now watch this you know I'm gonna leave you with this it's not about your feelings it's about your future you've been making choices based on your feelings and I'm challenging you to make choices about your future ki-jong thank you thank you so much pastor definitely appreciate your wisdom I appreciate you more thank you so much it's not about your feelings this is about your future are you gonna continue to make choices based on your feelings or are you gonna make choices based on your future I love you all listen go to my website RC Blake's calm and if you're struggling with this go to my website and go to online programs and I have an online program for soul times yeah I have an online program for soul times go and get it the cost of it is $49 you'll have lifetime access to it you can go and move at your own pace inside of the group you can email me and I'll rabbit yeah you can email mints and it's inside of inside of the inside of the group on its own man it's in my online programs soul ties breaking the ties that bind my new book king ology has arrived those of you that purchased the book through RC Blake's store.com I've signed them all of them are on the way they're all in the mail on the way to you very soon the physical book will be on Amazon as well so I'm excited about that finished a book on narcissism it's in the editing process I don't know what I'm gonna release it I have to finish promoting King ology first but I love you all I thank God for you don't forget to go by my website and sign up for my email group sign up for my email group I'm really building that database and let me tell you why that database is so important number one of course it allows me to communicate with those that are really connected me you know instantly but secondly with the the nature of social media platforms we don't know when something somebody said well this ain't gonna be no more is over well that were the case how would I be able to because I don't know who's on the other side of the screen I don't know I don't know who's on the other side of the screen how would I be able to say to my people okay well YouTube is not here anymore Facebook is not here or Instagram is no longer here but here's where you can find me you come to my website you got to be on my database if you if you're not on my database it's like you and I are you know we've never been introduced it's like you're looking at me through you know some scope and I'm way over there I don't know you I need you to be on my database so if if something were to happen I'd have a means of saying to all of my people here's where we can stay connected because I've you this is my community and as long as you just don't other side of the screen and you're never in my database there's no real connection if there's not this and I don't want to run the risk of that Thank You Lou I appreciate you so I love you all I thank God for you I appreciate you I've got a lot more things to talk about but I'll talk about that later so much going on I'm excited about have a great night thank you for your support and just know that somebody loves you and praying for you you can reach out to Lisa and I pastor RC Blake's at gmail.com what else am I forgetting I know I'm forgetting something I know I'm forgetting something well if it's if it's really important I may just fire this thing up again to come tell you what it was god bless you I love you have a great night now

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

Views: 137,542

Rating: 4.9255242 out of 5

Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Christian, Narcissist, RC BLAKES

Id: lUU6oSMRFdY

Length: 56min 8sec (3368 seconds)

Published: Mon Jun 08 2020