THE NARCISSIST TEST- Look Deep Before You Leap by RC Blakes

good afternoon good afternoon everybody I am so excited to be able to talk to a few of you today I'm RC Blake's if this is your first time here I am RC Blake's and I am a pastor I'm an author I'm a husband I'm a father and I'm a man and I love talking to God's people if whatever you have to do to invite people to come into this conversation please do it share this on your social media platforms there's something I was just thinking about this morning and I jut it down some notes and I wanted to just talk to you about it because there are a lot of us and thank you for coming in thank you thank you for coming in there are a lot of us who are struggling in life because simply because oh my goodness we've allowed the wrong people into our lives and some of us are absolutely completely and totally devastated because we continue to over and over and over again allow the wrong people into our lives I mean it's just it becomes it becomes a habit that we don't know how to break and sometimes people say to me well you know why do you why do you why do you spend so much time talking about narcissists it's because what I'm coming to understand is that in my opinion in my in my humble opinion 75 80 percent of the problems we have relationally and the the emotional trauma that people experience you know relationships so bad that they actually have post-traumatic stress disorders and syndrome is due to the fact that we are at least the nation that breeds narcissists you know I think it's worldwide but I'm certain because I'm in America and from the United States in America we breed narcissists I mean we actually breed them with with our poor parenting with our father wounds not being present and then with our over parenting coddling grown men you know calling them my baby and all of that we actually breed narcissists we take these little girls and we make them feel like you know the whole world revolves around them everything is about the way they look everything is about them having what they want in need giving children everything that we breathe we breed narcissists and then we turn these dysfunctional creations of ours we turn them loose onto the world and we put them into church many times and the church figures out how to package them to make them look like a catch when the reality is it's almost like the illustration I use it's almost like the box of garbage that's wrapped in beautiful Christmas paper and got a beautiful ball on it and you sit it on the side of the road and somebody because of the wrapping picks that box up puts it in a trunk and speed off thinking they got something when they get home they got you know trash fish heads and just garbage because we've learned how to wrap them up but it at the end of the day on the inside they're still full of full of garbage and so it's important for us to talk about this and to discuss this issue relative to narcissists because either you're dealing with this your children will deal with this or somebody you love will deal with this and this has been the problem in in in in our society we don't like to have the conversations that are necessary you know we want everything to be easy like Sunday morning but that's not reality that's just not reality and there's some of you that are watching me right now and some of you that will watch the replay of this who are struggling presently with narcissist and so I was just sitting and I was thinking this morning about how we're supposed to approach the dating process and I don't care if you're 18 years old or 68 when you're dating someone the main agenda in the dating process is the data the information you got to get the information and you're supposed to enter into the dating experience like a private eye you got to be you got to be looking and paying attention to stuff that the other person doesn't even realize you're searching for and they don't even realize that you're picking up on it it's when it's when you carry on in the dating process like some little schoolgirl or some little pubescent you know boy and you all caught up in your emotions and you caught up in your hormones and you turn your common sense off and you shut the Holy Spirit down that you keep getting caught up in the same mess and the same traps over and over again when you start dating like a grown woman or like a grown man you won't keep falling into the same stuff you will you will get the necessary information before it goes too look deep before you leap so if God forbid something happened that you know Lisa and I are no longer married and I'm dating again I don't care find a woman is I don't care track that I am tor you know because you can have a beautiful frame beautiful style but if if your substances is tainted if your content your frame may be beautiful but if your content is demonic it makes the whole thing null and void if I were dating I would be getting the necessary information and it would not take me long to figure out if this thing has potential or if I need to just move on from this and I would probably figure that out within the first by the first date definitely by the second because I would go in with the mind to get the data so now look what the Bible says let's just go to the Bible the Bible says in first Peter 5 and 8 be sober be vigilant because your adversary the devil as a roaring lion walketh about seeking whom he may devour I like that last part the devil walks around seeking whom he may devour now what does that mean that means the devil cannot devour everybody another portion of scripture says my people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge so the devil is seeking a person that lacks knowledge in certain areas and in those areas that devil takes advantage of them this is why the most the thing we complain about the most are relationships it's because nobody's teaching us nobody's teaching us they're not teaching us about relationships in school very few of us go to churches where they're teaching us about relationships our parents in most cases don't really teach us about relationships and in most cases what they do teach us is by example and that's a poor example so we're left to figure out relationships based on experience and whenever you have to learn the realities of life through experience you always end up bruised battered and bitter because life will beat you up it's far better to learn the tough lessons of life through instruction as opposed to experience but when there's no one to teach you how can they hear without a preacher when there's no one to teach you it means that you're left in the hands of what trial and error and that's where that's where many of you all are now and you you you have you have tried and you have error so much so that now your heart is broken now you got all of this bitterness in you now you have all of this anger in you now you have all of this distrust in you but with all of that going on inside of you you keep falling for the same stuff because you never you you have never stopped to figure out how to actually date he seeks whom he may devour and he may devour those who have not learned the lessons and look what the Bible says in first John four and one but love believe not there it is there it is beloved believe not every spirit but try the spirits whether they are of God he says don't believe everything you see don't believe everything you hear don't believe it because it looks good don't believe it because it sounds good he says try the spirits you're not supposed to accept anybody at face value nobody you know like if you if this is your first time tuning in to me you may like some of the stuff I'm saying right now but you know what you know what a wise person does a wise person takes time and he or she listens intently real carefully a wise person will ask the Holy Spirit now revealed his man's heart to me because I don't want to sit here listening to this man for the next thirty minutes and have the wrong kind of spirit influencing my mind well if that applies in a setting like this how much more should that apply in terms of the relationships you're developing on a daily basis uuugh some of you have never asked the Holy Spirit to show you the heart of the people you're dealing with and so the devil seeks whom he may devour and he may devour those who are not trying the spirits of the people they encounter and the devil comes through these people - what consistently wreck your life you know I'm saying consistently now let me give you I think I have about 6 or 7 points I want to give you things that we start talking about testing the narcissist test these are just a few of the things that you should begin to look for pay attention to observe because these things will if if you have an interaction with a narcissist a bonafide narcissist some of these things will show up three or more these things will show up in that person's behavior from time to time or consistently show up and maybe all of them along with some other things that I've not mentioned or I'm not mentioning today number one the narcissist test when when you're involved in a conversation that is about others when you're involved in a conversation that is about others the narcissist unless it's a negative conversation if it's a positive conversation about others or maybe just you know just a passing conversation about others the narcissist has no comment you'd be talking about how so-and-so did a great job and so-and-so is on the rise and so-and-so is doing this or maybe even talking about yourself and you noticed narcissus has absolutely nothing to say about or in a conversation that is about others about anything to say about or in a conversation about others look at the Bible says in Philippians two and four says look not every man on his own things but every man also on the things of others have any of you ever noticed that that when you when you're talking with this person and you're bringing up other folk they have nothing to say and in the process of the conversation watch this in the process of the conversation they will they will consistently they will always change the conversation back to them you know you can be saying you know my brother Jim got a raise on his job and he's making $80,000 now you know and then they they won't have nothing to say and you keep talking about Jim and how proud you are of him and then the narcissists are break-in and said well you're not make 150 that's nice but I make 115 you know you you need to see the way you should have watched me and how I came up you know how I rose you know he bigger all they have nothing to say nothing to contribute relative to others but but they will always consistently change the conversation back to them they cannot celebrate others now let me read this this is something I wrote this is something or when the soul is broken and under scribing the the soul of the narcissist when the soul is broken and the self-esteem is emptied it is impossible to celebrate others you have to understand that they they are so empty they are so broken that it is it's in Juris to them to have to sit and listen to someone else be celebrated and it's impossible for them to join in on the celebration because they only feel comforted they only feel that false sense of comfort when the focus is turned to them so when you are celebrating someone else in the conversation is about others they actually feel pain because they feel like the success of others is an indication of their own failure they are not whole enough to understand that my success or your success does not infringe on my world at all and so when the soul is broken like broken like that and the self-esteem is emptied it is impossible to celebrate others you need to pay attention to that when you're dating someone just begin to you know begin to acknowledge and celebrate others and see how long they tolerate that you know see how long they indulge you with that see if they indulge you at all because there's no room in their souls to accommodate others they are so self consumed listen to this very carefully now this is going to help a lot of you they are so self consumed there's no room in them to accommodate others and I've noticed this even as a pastor you know in in churches it's very very interesting you know the misconception is that churches for perfect people that's a lie churches we're broken people come hopefully to improve because I've noticed in church that you'll have Brother sewing sold you know over here thank you Amy I can't celebrate brother so-and-so over there and brother songs over here when brother so-and-so verdad is being celebrated I promoted brother so-and-so over here will do everything he can to pull him down and to turn the attention and the focus back to him these are grown very grown great people but they are little they're broken little children fighting for the attention in the room look what the Bible says in first Corinthians 13 and for love endures and I think this is the amplified version with patience and serenity love is kind and thoughtful and is not jealous or envious love does not watch this love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant so what's going on with the narcissist when the narcissist has no comment when the conversation is about others and the good of others is that their broken soul prohibits them from from being able to love so for those of you that feel like you can manage a narcissist and you can change a narcissist good luck good luck good luck that's all I can tell you because you know I can't talk you out of it you know make up your mind you're grown you make up your mind you want to do what you want to do it is what it is good luck but they fundamentally lack the capacity to be able to demonstrate the characteristics of love they got a break they're extremely proud the extremely arrogant they're jealous and they're envious and so they cannot participate in the celebration of others now watch this that means they're not gonna be able to participate in the celebration of you now if you want to perceive it in a relationship with somebody that cannot fundamentally broken to the point they cannot celebrate others if if you can live with a partner or a spouse that cannot and will not celebrate you more power to you but for most of us that's a fundamental need we need our we need our main squeeze to be able to celebrate us more so than anybody else in the world my greatest cheerleader is my wife her greatest cheerleader is sitting before you because that's fundamental to a healthy relationship number two the narcissus test maybe I should have put four dating on here the narcissus test for dating no comment when the conversation is about others number two you will see there watch this this one is this one is important you will see their facial expression change when you are being celebrated now they may be able to play it off when other people are being celebrated but when you are being celebrated when when the focus is not just about others but now the focus is about you and your advancement and your accomplishments if you if you pay attention if you look carefully if you look intentionally you will notice their facial expression will change it's because there's a spirit in them and that spirit will manifest thank you Kela thank you so much that spirit will manifest Amy thank you so much that spirit will manifest whenever you are on the rise because if there's anybody in the world in the world that they feel like they have to be better than is you and what what I call this when you see that facial expression change they can't hide it they cannot hide it they cannot hide it I mean you may just make up something and just say you know I'm getting ready to XYZ and just look at their face you'd be able to see just try to smile too they can't hide it I called this malignant resentment I called this malignant resentment they will never be able to hide their disdain for your advancement because ideally they want this relationship to be one-sided them on the top you on the bottom they want you looking up to them this is why when you're dealing with a narcissistic man he will never be able to support your advancement as a woman never never ever ever ever this is why you need to know these things before you go so deep into a relationship with a man that is fundamentally incapable of supporting you fundamentally incapable thank you sky of supporting you it's called I call it malignant resentment Thank You Stacy and some of you all are dealing with that now and in your love feelings get hurt when you telling them about your raise or you tell them about you getting ready to graduate they have nothing to say and then all of a sudden I watch this you sit at lunch and you have the conversation about I'm getting ready to graduate I'm getting ready to March and then they get quiet to you that you didn't know enough to pay attention to their facial expression but when you first said it that demonic spirit and their manifested and then what they did was they just got quiet looking all crazy and everything it just got quiet and then 20 minutes or so later they pick a fight about something that's not even relevant and it all goes back to the fact that they hate the fact that you're advancing and it was show on their face every time some of y'all need tragedy if you look in Genesis chapter 4 there's a perfect example of this malignant resentment I'm talking about between the two brothers Cain and Abel in in Genesis 4 3 through 6 it says and in the course of time came brought to the Lord an offering of the fruit of the ground but Abel brought an offering of the finest firstborn of his flock in the fat portions and the Lord had respect or regard for Abel and for his offering but for Cain and his offering had no respect so Cain became watch this extremely angry indignant and he looked annoyed he looked annoyed and hostile and the Lord said to Cain why are you so angry and why do you look annoyed they cannot hide it when that demon spirit is in these jokers man they cannot hide it they cannot hide it I promise you they cannot hide it they will not participate in the celebration of others and they are so disgusted with your personal advancement that it was show on their face because the only position they wants you in is in a subjugated position to them and even if you are advancing and if they're taking advantage of your advancement they don't want you talking about it just bring the money let me use the money like I want to use it but don't talk about it because I have to feel superior to you and every time you make another accomplishment while I'm sitting on my behind it's like an injury to my soul these people are very very dangerous and just like this boy here had this stuff in him and God says what's wrong with you why are you looking so annoyed simply holding thank you sweetheart thank you so much you don't know you don't know how far these people will go you don't know how far these people will go and that's for those of you all that want to you know test your strength at changing these people I'm not gonna say as a man of God I'm not gonna say they can't be changed now my psychologists and therapists friends that said all no Reb ain't nothing in heaven club they can't be changed and I understand why they say that I really do understand why they say that but as a man of God Kestrel thank you so much as a man of God I'm not gonna say that but I will say this you can't change them I do know this I can't change them I do notice they mama couldn't change them if they can be changed the only one that can change them is God and you know what for God to do that you got to get out the way you need to pick your little grip up pick your little feelings up your little heart up and move on down the road and lead them in the hands of God and move on with your life while you still got it because you don't know what these people what these people are capable of now that's just my opinion my glasses are not working well thank you storming number three I got about seven I guess y'all gonna see I'm quarantine ain't got nothin but time on my in time I'm talkin y'all on the saturday afternoon number seven they gradually watch this these are the this this is the narcissist test they gradually number three they gradually disapprove of all of the most important people in your life they move into your life and you begin to develop this relationship and they may fool you for a little while because you're not really paying attention if you were paying attention the Holy Spirit would you would add a witness in your spirit long ago that this is the demon spirit here and so they they then they then they begin to after they after they get into your life like that then they begin Thank You Kemp thank you so much thank you but Ella it is god bless you thank you so much then they begin to gradual they disapprove of all of the most important people in your life this is this always happens is that a me again thank you so much this always happens you start dating this person and you get so infatuated so carried away with this person and then don't let them don't let them get you to the bed and and put all of that you know freakish sex on you and blow your mind completely not even a masters at sex they are masters at sex and blow your mind completely to the point you just lost all emotional and psychological control and once they get you in that soul tie mold what happens is now they they begin to make their move in terms of untying untying you from all of the relationships that are vital to your future and all of the relationships that would protect you from harm so they'll gradually begin to disapprove of your mama your mama come on now you got something against my mama then they begin to disapprove of your daddy then they begin to disapprove of your brothers and your sisters then they start disapproving of all your friends they don't like the church you go to let's find a church together not in there not a member of nobody's Church but they're gonna take you out of your church well you have a pastor that knows you and a pastor that's concerned about you you can talk to they're gonna take you out of there and let's find a church together you ain't got none what the plan is is the blow of all of the bridges that lead back to your support system Thank You Jeanette that's the plan to blow up all of the bridges to gradually blow up all of the bridges that lead back to your support system so when I get you out here and what is called social isolation I'm gonna isolate you from everybody that would recognize me or resist me in your life I'm going to get you separated from all of them so now I can do to you what I want to do to you the way I want to do it without anybody interfering and I'm gonna make you destroy the relationships so that you feel a sense of guilt about even trying to repair it that you feel like I can't go back because I'm the one that broke it up if you look in Genesis 3 the first narcissist in my opinion Lucifer Satan the father of narcissists the one that said to himself one day I'm gonna set my throne above gods and I'm gonna be like the Most High what a fool what a fool in Genesis 3 we see him at work in within the framework of mankind in the beginning and listen to what it says in Genesis 3 2 through 6 and the woman said unto the serpent we may eat of the fruit there in this conversation Thank You Kela they're having this conversation about the the tree that God told him not to touch Thank You Michelle god bless you I appreciate you all they having this conversation about the tree that God told him clearly not to touch and listen listen to how to listen out this devil manipulates them he says and the woman said unto the serpent we may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden God had said ye shall not eat of it neither shall ye touch it lest she die and the serpent said unto the woman ye shall not surely die oh he's contradicting he's disapproving of the most important relationship in Adam and Eve's life and that is the relationship with God you shall not surely die let's see how he goes on for God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof then your eyes shall be open to it what is he saying God want to keep you blind God wants to keep you blind and ye shall be as gods he whole you down knowing good and evil and when the woman saw that the tree was good for food and that it was pleasant to the eyes and a tree to be desired to make one wise she took of the fruit thereof and did eat and gave also unto her husband with her and he did eat so we see how this this spirit gradually disapproves of all of the most important people in your life until it gets you to a place that you blow up the bridges and so what what did he do here he got into ease mind Eve got into Adams of mind they blew up the bridge and some of you all in this mood right now were you dealing with people that have you thinking strange things about the people that birth here fed you educated you financed you protected you have done nothing but love you all your life now you got a demonic spirit a soul tie in your ear got you second-guessing your mother and your father you have a demonic spirit in your ear has got you second-guessing your best of friends you just met this individual two months ago and now all of a sudden this person has you at a place where you look inside eyed at the people you've known for the last thirty five years when you when you're behind was dragging the ground these are the people that picked you up for Cara thank you so much when you needed someone to defend you these people put them up and now you got some almost said some a person in your life that is talking you against the people you're gonna need to kick this demon out of your life when you come to your senses so they gradually you got to watch anybody when people start talking against the people that have been the foundation of your life it's time for you watch this not to turn your focus of you know towards the people they're talking against it's time for you to turn your focus towards them and to you know I'm dessert I'm discerning you now you know I'm discerning you that's you know the devil seeks whom he may devour okay here's a big one right here number four number four the narcissist test they always make you feel less excited about your accomplishments they have a way in other words of diminishing the moment they have a way of miniaturizing the moment you can be you know you can be in in in in the greatest of spirit and you can be on a high you know just accomplished Thank You Janet just accomplished something that has never been accomplished before in your family and they have they have the narcissus has a strange way as a spirit that they have and it's always passive-aggressive they have a strange way of making you feel less excited maybe even making you feel bad when you should feel great this is what humiliation the narcissist specializes in humiliating you and sometimes they're using the right words but it's the wrong spirit and you can feel that spirit resonating in you you know while they are taking you know a massive moment and they're just miniaturizing and making it so small you know through here Mille Asian you know you you okay you you you you graduated from college you know and you you know yeah you had great GPA and all that kind of thing and everybody out celebrating and everybody just laughing and celebrating in the narcissist sitting across the table may be you may be the man you're dating a woman you're dating or it may be one of your relatives cuz sometimes your siblings yeah narcissus in your family too you know maybe even your parents sometimes and while you significant about your GPA and and how fast you got through one of these jokers will break out and say something like yeah yeah well they should offer a course in housecleaning hahaha you you could have used the course in housecleaning if you was as smart about housecleaning as you earn them books and what happens is it drains all of the air out of the moment for you and the rest of that day you can't focus on nothing but this person just insulted me on a on a day and at a time that I'm supposed to be on a high this person just pulled me down and drained all of well that's that's intentional because humiliation is a tactic that the narcissist uses to keep you what subjugated keep you whenever you start rising they're gonna do something to push you down to keep you down so that they can always feel like they're superior to you I hope that was a good illustration there's a biblical example of it in second Samuel 6 in 2nd Samuel 6 thank you ashiya thank you so much thank you Amy again thank you Amica thank you so much I'm gonna get me somebody to help me with this in terms of taking my names down I can recognize you guys at the end but in second Samuel six twenty and twenty one says then David returned showing you how to narcissus uses humiliation to drain the the air out of your moment then David returned to bless his household David's bringing the Ark of the Covenant back into Jerusalem and the Bible says David returned to bless his household and Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David and said how glorious she's humiliating him now he celebrated he's high he's up in the air he's just thankful he's praising God and his wife comes out and says how glorious was the king of Israel today who uncovered himself today in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants as one of the vain fellows shamelessly David was praising God so strongly that he all his robe came loose Thank You Tracy and now his wife is making little of him saying how she you know shamelessly uncovered himself and David said unto Michal it was before the Lord which chose me before your father and before all his house to appoint me ruler over the people of the Lord over Israel therefore will I play before the Lord and he goes on to say I'm gonna get even worse than this but she was using what humiliation to drain the moment but David was wiser and and David came back she was using that passive aggression david was using that aggression aggression and said you know I was dancing because God showed me but over your Paul and your brothers and made me King that's right that's how you came back at all you see and and when when a person is using this on you that's pretty much how you have to deal with it you have to come straight at them you cannot internalize that junk because it's intended to break your spirit you have to come straight out of make them know you see them call it like it is and then keep on celebrating your moment alright let's see something here number five they will constantly contradict your view of reality you know you sit in there and you're having this conversation about what you know you heard on the radio just a moment ago and you say you know I heard such-and-such on the rim was on our way here and the nurses the narcissists will say no I didn't say that they didn't say that they said this but I know I heard him saying no no they didn't say that and and you find on many many many occasions them contradicting your view of reality Thank You Sonia you'll find them contradicting your view of reality about the smallest of things but always contradicting you as if something's wrong with your memory and this is called gas lighting this is intended to make you feel crazy to make you feel like you've lost your mind you know like you can kind of see well anything that alone but we we are experiencing gas lighting almost on a daily basis now you know through the news and everything else you can see people that you know they're saying one thing doing one thing and they come tell you and I am what I'm doing I'm doing this and see some of y'all live with that and that's intended to what make you think you losing your mind make you not trust your sense of reality and make you begin you begin to depend on their perspective of what's right what's real what you know because you don't you no longer trust your perspective of what's am I making sense here and so they will constantly contradict your view of reality constantly constantly you thinking one thing they telling you you're wrong it's not that way it's this way you scratching your head you just you know you're not aware of what's going on but there's there's a game being played they're playing with your mind you don't realize that you caught up in spiritual in psychological warfare and all of this is intended to make you not trust your truth because they want to give you a set of alternative facts number six they disappear okay no here's a good one they disappear suddenly without a word just because we've been dating for six weeks eight weeks and then all of a sudden boom they're gone you know they're not calling they they don't answer no calls they've blocked you on social media you don't know what happened this is called ghosting they've gone ghost on you is that Jerry thank you Jerry I appreciate you so much this is called ghosting they've gone ghost on you and when a person just drops out of your life like that well what is that what is the psychological or emotional intent of that if I just drop out of your life you know we've been building this relationship and then all of a sudden I'm just I just drop out of your life and you can't find me no explanation well that's intended to rupture your self-esteem and its intended watch this the rejection of it see it's it's a form of rejection coupled with abandonment and what happens is the rejection with the rejection and the abandonment there is created within you a soul time now that you need the approve full of the very person that has rejected you you need the approval of that person because it was that person that rejected me that has abandoned me that has injured my self-esteem and the only way watch this the only way I can feel whole again is for that person to come back into my life and to give me closure by saying I'm sorry for walking out I love you and I receive you well they're never going to be enough they are never going to give you that because they wanted to do exactly what they did and that was to what break your soul to the point that you would be addicted to their approval which they will never give you so now you're like a drug addict running behind the dealer who will never sell him another drug now I can puppet you like I want when a person just drops out of your life like that they are they are they are repositioning you emotionally into a place where they take the reins over your life emotionally and you'll find yourself being steered by another person so when somebody walks out of your life you suppose the number one change the lock and lock the door and go in your room and cry if you have to cry but don't be running behind nobody never run behind of anybody you got to run behind does not mean you well let me say that one more time this is a life lesson anybody that you have to run behind does not mean you well they are a manipulator they are a controller think you Quan I think it is thank you so much they are manipulator they are a controller they are a demonic spirit sent by the devil to break your soul disappear without any word you know you don't know and see here the question you have what I do what I do here's the neck what's wrong with me what's wrong with me all of this is the build what a sense of guilt shame emptying you self-esteem every time you ask that question every time you dial that phone trying to run them down riding by their house they peeping out the window looking at you knocking at the door your self-esteem is being drained and when they get yourself a steam empty they can do whatever they want to do with you they can bring you to Lowe's you never dream you would go to this is the game baby in the father-daughter talk my book the father-daughter talk I write about the game how they become everything you know the number one they hook you with this calculated conversation they they know exactly what you like they they paint this picture through conversation that they everything you you know and then they overdose you with time they give you all the time and the attention and then they once they get you hooked then their voice at all cost and a part of this avoid and commitment at all cost is that they drop out drop in and out of your life so as to set the precedent that you become accustomed to them moving in and out and then they start using language like you know well you know we just friends they usually tell you that kind of stuff after they got you in the bed well you know we we just friends we just friends we we've seen where it's going and then they pull me out just vanish you sitting there you you feeling wait what would I do what I do what I do baby Negro walk out the door change the lock and lock the door go on in your bathroom lay in a tub for three days and cry and eat cookies in ice cream if you have to engage 15 pounds but do not go out that door running behind somebody that's walked away from you anybody that's walked away from you and I supposed to go into your future do not retrieve somebody that the Lord has kicked out of your life sometimes you not strong enough to do what you need to do for yourself and the Lord Himself steps into your life and he kicks people out of your life let them go but you don't have nobody in a position where they disappear look at the Bible says in proverbs 25 and 19 they disappear without a word in 20 and proverbs 25 and 19 it says confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble wow I've been only almost hour it's like a broken tooth and the foot out of John is painful to put your confidence in somebody that's proven to be what unfaithful now let me shut this down number seven they swing in and out of your life you know they're gone we done and then the next thing you know you know you don't call them you're trying to go no contact and all that kind of thing next thing you know they popping in on you you did the mnu what's up well the last conversation we had was we've done you know you don't want nothing to do with me not in your DM was a you know are they sending your text message you know thinking about you yeah thinking about you all right ah I'm Anita I think I got it right thank you so much they thinking about y'all right they think about how they can as I mentioned in the father-daughter talk didn't do their monkey bars you know when I was a child we had two monkey balls and the monkey bars you could swing you know and you could you could either swing forward or you could act like you swinging forward and actually go back and grab the one well a lot of times in these in these relationships they're doing the monkey bars on you it's swinging in and out of your life you know just and see the reason they keep swinging in and out of your life is because you keep leaving that door the day you get strong enough and the day you develop enough self-love to shut that change that lock and lock that door and and don't have anybody disrespecting you you know you just you just go stood me and not now you you back here again you're trying to swing back into my life they call it hoovering you know you you you popping up around Matt and all this kind of stuff what you popping up here for you know you're coming to my church sitting at the back of my church looking all crazy because you see me sitting next to brother mister is mr. right you sitting there looking crazy when the last experience I had with you was you just left out um you walked out of my life with no explanation and now I'm supposed to entertain you trying to swing back into my life I tell you how might a i'ma call the police thank you for Leisha i'ma call the police and I will put a restraining order on you that's how I entertain you I'm gonna entertain you with a restraining order and sad to say brothers sometimes you got to put a restraining order on some of these women than these women off the rocker sometimes you got to put a restraining order on them cuz they jump on you what you can't you can't fight about you can't fight her back oh you can do it just cover your face up getting fighting a woman back so you got to call them you gotta let them people come handler but they you know they feel like they have a right you just like like you proper there's something you like your pet you know I'm gonna drop you off by the neighbors while I'm gonna take a little vacation and when I come back I'm gonna come pick you up on on your leash no you're not no you're not you're not gonna do that you're not gonna swing in and out of my life no no you either India for the long haul or you're not and when I discover that you're unstable I'm not gonna love anybody so much that I fail to love myself that's a t-shirt right there I'm not gonna love anybody so much that I fail to love myself I'm not gonna let my love for you make me hate me and the way some of y'all are rolling right now your so-called love for this person is making you hate you then your love for them is making you hate you you are your own worst enemy right now because you keep opening the door but see you addicted to a few things you're addicted number one to all that ungodly illegal sex in the world and told you that role is told you that anything wrong with y'all having all of this sex like this here that you know that's antiquated man listen the world is in trouble right now because we've disobeyed the laws of God relative to diet relative to relationship sexual relationships relative to finances some things are just don't change babe some things are just ground rules for living right and living well and if you want to live well you got to live right and you're addicted to all of that illegal sex all of that all of that perversion this individual because narcissus usually introduce you to perversion and the perversion is the glue that holds that so tied together that you when you would break free you can't even break free because you you you body is thinning your mind is feigning you just are your soul is confused you'll sold his own luck you've got chains on your brain and the sad thing is they bring you through all of these changes and in a lot of cases waste up all of your life never marry you and see once they break you to this extent you accept anything so they say well I got I got another woman around the corner you accept anything you accept anything now you accept anything because your soul is sick and that's not the will of God for you that's not the will of God for you I think it's Sarina I think that's it thank you so much it's not the will of God for you and I believe that the Lord had me to just get on here this afternoon to say that to you man hmm that you got to start testing these relationships you're not supposed to fall in love you're not supposed to fall in love you're supposed to walk in walk into love this fall in it anytime you fall that's an accident that is this your stuntman or something you know people not just going around falling anytime you enter time you fall you're subject to injury or possibly death so you don't want to fall in love you want to walk in love and you need the the light of wisdom to shining on this situation right and so I wanted to just come and share that with you today I would love for you guys just share this all over your Facebook pages you know I don't know where you can share YouTube at I should have searched that out but I know you can share it on Facebook but to copy the link and just share it if you would so many people need to hear this and just know that I'm praying for you in fact about it let me pray for you now father let your spirit rest upon your people the spirit of wisdom and counsel and guidance in God I command every stronghold to be broken off of their minds and off of their lives and these spirits their God that are manipulating and controlling we break their hold in the name of Jesus and I command freedom and liberty to flow to them now in Jesus's name Amen well I love you all I love you so much and you may hear from me again tomorrow a-and if you if you're looking for a online worship experience tomorrow morning at 8:30 Central I will be coming broadcasting our church services we've been doing our church services over social media you can go to new home Family Worship Center on Facebook or you can subscribe to new home Family Worship Center on YouTube we have a YouTube channel and send them every Sunday morning at 8:30 our service comes on where I'm delivering a word and it's it's a full-blown church service on Facebook and then that you get a chance to see all four of the new home Family Worship Center pastors you see myself at 8:30 you see pastor Bolden at 9:30 my brother pastor Samuel Blake said 10:30 and past the Nakia McKay at 11:30 it's a whole four-hour block that new home occupies and you you'd be able to see one church to the next one trait and that's what we're doing until this pandemic is over so I invite you to join us tomorrow if you want to see the pastoral side of rse Blake's in fact about it we're getting ready to launch our official cyber church and I'll put a link in the description if you're interested in that that's for those of you who do not have churches or are not in Orleans or Houston but are you know at a distance and want to be a part of the ministry officially I'll put a link in the description that you can follow and we'll send you all of the information relative to when we're launching and all of that kind of thing and it'll be soon I'm actually recording the new member sessions for cyber Church now and don't forget that my I did actually and this is a great time to mention that I did online program for soul ties and it's at my website now RC Blake's comm we have the online program for soul ties many of you have the book soul ties breaking the ties that bind well the online program is there not I did that since we've been on this little respite and it's it's available now at our RC Blake's calm well I love you all I want you to have a great great afternoon and I look forward to talking to you really really really soon and I can't wait for all of this stuff to be over so I can get back into the world and be able to see you once again and just know that know that you're loved and know that someone is praying for you alright and that's it I'm done the children out there riding bikes I'm done I love you god bless you

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

Views: 208,356

Rating: 4.9350348 out of 5

Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Christian, Narcissist, RC Blakes

Id: GMDR1Ep7INM

Length: 62min 22sec (3742 seconds)

Published: Sun Apr 26 2020