How To Break A Soul-Tie

hey it's on the Gaskins here they want to talk to you today about breaking soul times now I did a video about what is the soul time could have went you know a lot deeper on it but didn't want the video to be too long now I want you to understand when it comes to breaking a soul time now this is not technically speaking because what I believe is when you have like down with someone that tie is going to be there forever so when I say breaking what I really mean is breaking the strong hold you always connected to that person because you gave them a piece of your body but what but when you break the strong hold I mean you won't have those stomach aches and those headaches and those sleepless nights in those days where you are skipping meals because you're thinking about that person now on the other side of this at that towards the end on the second half of 10 minutes I will on the second 10 minutes I'll talk about breaking a soul tie if you have a child with a person but when you don't have a child with a person and this is someone that you dated this is someone that you were intimate with and now you're trying to get over them the first thing you have to do is you have to create separation so that means that you cannot text them you cannot be talking to them on the phone you also cannot be seeing them so whatever you have to do to not see them some people try to say that is petty to block someone on social media that's not petty that is necessary because what you're saying is I don't want you in my viewing space I don't want to get on Instagram and have to see you every day because when you look at that person the way the mind works you're gonna start thinking about the conversations the time you had may even think about the intimacy those intimate sessions where the soul type was formed physically and then you're also thinking about the emotional side of things where you had conversation and laughter and good times so it does not matter how the other person feels when you break up like them saying you learn about them feeling some type of way to be blocked on social media you have to get beyond that because this is about you and your healing see what men most men we don't want to be blocked on the text message phone call or social media because we know as men that the way we heal we don't heal but the way we alleviate our pain is by diving into another woman and the way we keep you stuck the way we keep a woman stuck is by having you see us or think about us or hear from us from time to time so that's why you have to create separation especially if you're a woman breaking a soul time from a man and the same thing goes for a man you got to create that separation and then after you do that it's levels to it because you may just be able to unfriend a person block them on social media and then don't text them don't call them and they may not text you may not call you if they text you and they call you then you have to change your number and I know you say well you know that's not fair to everybody else that has my number you know the doctors the whoever I'm dealing with everybody has my number and I might not think to give somebody my new number but if they called me I want to be able to be reached by them and guess what that is the part of the repercussions of a relationship and that's why you got a trick move I proceed with caution when going into a relationship because when you lose love when you lose a relationship it can really cost you that's why you can't be out here casually willy-nilly spreading yourself around so you may have to change your number the other part of breaking this can and creating distance is you're gonna have to separate from mutual friends what I mean is mutual friends who when you see them and you talk to them it's going to make you think about your ex or the person you have the sole tie with now that may just have to be for a season until you get strong so let's say you have a friend and then that friend new your ex from college or high school and then you got with your ex and then y'all found a a we all friends and y'all started hanging out well you may not want to give up your best friend or your close friend or whatever but you may have to create some separation and say listen I'm gonna be unreachable for like 14 days or 30 days or 60 or 90 days because I got aggro and I got a heel and when I talk to you it makes me think about them if you have to do that because you realize that you cannot stop thinking about your ex or the person that you have a soul tie with if you keep talking to this other person then that's what you got to do now at the same time it may be mutual friends but it may also be their family members so their brother their sister their mother their father uncle aunt whoever so their family you got to create distance to be honest with you family knows that when you that when their family member breaks up with somebody family is prepared to have separation family knows that a lot of times a mom or sister will try to pretend that they don't know that that's expected or that that is customary and they'll keep calling you keep calling you keep calling you talking to you and they are doing that for their family member they're not doing that because they care that much of it's hard to get somebody family to like you in the first place so anybody could get cut off that's just the way the human heart work people gonna side with their family so they're gaming you oh I just miss you and I just want to talk to you and all of this but when you talk to their family you thinking about them and now that's strengthening the soul tie it just look at it like a rope and just look at like each little strand of the rope start to pop and it started to pop it's starting to pop and if it keeps popping popping popping popping eventually gonna get down to one little strand that's connected it's gonna pop but when you get that phone call from their family member from that mutual friend from their brothers sister whoever or from them or when you look at them just think just picture those little tweets those little strands just laying right back down laying right back down and form and strong and just locking right back in there so that's what you're doing Yury strengthening this whole time when you are looking at them talking to them or looking and talking to someone that makes you think about them and that's what you got to understand now sometimes you say well what if we live in the same neighborhood I've heard that what if we live in the same apartment complex what if we work on the same job you have to do everything possible so if you live in the same neighborhood you got to come home a different way you got to make sure that you put blinders on when you passing by their house if you live in the same apartment complex that's not the only apartment complex in the world so you took a gamble on love you took a gamble on relationship okay get your finance together first and last month's rent moved to you another apartment if the relationship was that intense and that dramatic that when you see this person it gives you a stomachache you got a move okay go to your job get a transfer so the thing about it is a lot we don't want to inconvenience ourselves after a relationship ends but your heart is on the line your future is on the line if you tied up in this relationship with this whole time you are emotionally bonded to this person to where you can't even process the thought of having a new relationship you're hindering yourself so and you blocking your blessings so you have to do whatever it takes and go to whatever measure or extreme to rid yourself of this person in your life so if you got to change your number if you got to get a transfer on the job if you got to move to a new apartment if you got a drive home a different way if you got to move to a new department in the workplace in your corporate job you got to work in accounting and get out of quality assurance whatever you have to do you got to do it because your heart is on the line and you deserve love you deserve to be happy you deserve to be able to have a family even if it's a blended family with the love of your life but if you keep re strengthening retightening that soul time you won't be able to move on to your next because you still attached to your ex now on the other side of this what I want you to think about is if you have children if you have children with somebody that is a clear indication that you have a soul time with that person now symptoms of soul tides and this mean making this up but using somebody else term symptoms of a soul tie is like when you have a dream about a person when you have a stomach ache at the thought of them when you get sick and you got to miss a meal when you could feel them when you can feel the intimacy like you get a tingle in your area and just thinking about and processing those intimate sessions and you can feel that when you have a so ty you may get easily bothered or anger or triggered at the thought of them a conversation about them when the bond has not been broken when it's still strong that's are those are some of the symptoms you will feel now when you have a child with this person you got a look at your child every day if you have custody if you don't have custody of your child and you when you look at your child on your weekend or your week or whatever month that's gonna remind you of your ex so what you have to do is you have to remove refrigerator rights and what I mean by that old friend of mine said that refrigerator rights what I mean is some especially women a lot of women keep a relationship with their child's father so where he could just come over knock on the door come on in he come sit on the couch kick his old feet up put him on a coffee table grab the remote flipping channels while the kids in the bedroom getting their clothes on and packing their bag you in the bedroom getting them ready to go he's heating up sitting on the couch flipping the channel he gets up he goes to the refrigerator give them something to drink out of the refrigerator maybe you make them a sandwich you're doing the most if that's the case you doing the most when you're trying to break a soul tie because you won't real love and you realize that this relationship has ran its course and it's not gonna work out and if he loves you it definitely is not gonna work out if a man leaves a woman now if a woman leaves a man a lot of times women leave a man to send him a message so he could grow up but if you love a man because of something he did and he's not getting coaching or counseling and he's not trying to grow read books he you don't feel any changed and it's not gonna work out you gotta identify when the relationship has ran its course and you have to come to peace with that have some resolve about yourself and come me too moving on with your life and the way this should look is if it's if y'all are cordial it should be he pulls up or she pulls up invert this information if you need to and your ex pulls up into the driveway or the complex or whatever sends you a text hey I'm here you got the kids ready you walk them out and you get them in the car hey how you doing you know here's the backpack lunchbox the letter from the teacher update on how he or she is doing is in in their backpack you know y'all have a great one just like that and you back in the house just like that no coming in your house that's sitting down because what you have to do is you got to start preparing for your next so if you move on and you got a new partner picture that picture you'll put your new partner being at your house with his or her feet up on the coffee table flipping through the channels and then here come your ex coming in the house plopping down right beside them let me hold a remote real quick flipping the channels then getting up going you're s going to refrigerate you all signed a drink and then coming back with a water or beer soda for your new part that's very awkward and that's not going to happen so you have to be prepared you got to treat it like that to where your ex should not know your business your extra feel like your ex should be sitting out there thinking like hmm it must move on you must got somebody in there and then the kids getting the car they interviewing the kids mom got a new boyfriend girlfriend but you didn't talk to your kids answer listen if your mom or your daddy ask you do I have a boyfriend or girlfriend you tell him or her mama don't talk to us about that you already talked to your kids because you already know you ass gonna be interviewing the kids trying to find out what's going on in your life because you to counsel the frigerator rights and you didn't let him or her know you can not come in I'll meet you outside if the relationship was very very toxic then you need to bring in a middleman or a mediator and what I mean by this is this maybe your mom it may be your sister your brother it may be your best friend your next-door neighbor anybody to where when your ex come to the door knock on the door somebody else answering the door or somebody else walking the kid is out when it's time for pickup somebody else picking up the kids or getting out the car to go to their door to get the kids and you sitting in the car that's if it was abusive really really toxic and you got to go to those drastic measures to where your mom or a family member that you trust with your kids is playing that role even if you've got to break them off a little you know ten fifteen twenty dollars but you have to do that so what this should look like when you have children is it should look like a business transaction it went from personal to business it was personal when y'all were together now that you not together it is business so now it's hi and bye hey how you doing doing great anything outside of that so who you who you doing these days what you up to you dating um yeah do you need anything on with your child did you have a question you want to talk to your child well here you go your child no no no hello I'm asking you I had a question for you oh yeah but that's neither here nor there none of your business really so let's focus on the task at hand and you straightforward just like that you're yelling you mean cursing but you set boundaries and you let him I heard no we're not talking about us anymore we didn't went down that road and ran those tires flat and it still did not work we're not talking about us we're talking about the children what they need for Christmas what they need for their birth stay for school this what the teacher said this what the coach said that's what we're talking about nothing more than that nothing extra not know oh I really miss you and oh I wish we could have worked all that is tactics to strengthen that soul time see everybody knows especially men we know what a soul tie heals even if we don't know that term B and we utilize that and we do things I remember as a man you know men and a half I'll tell their mama eight give up a call her call to see how she go on see how she's doing good talk to her because we know that when our mom calls you or our sister calls you our brother call you that poom your heart gonna be triggered and you and you gonna be thinking about it and then now you getting you just getting ready to step out on a date and now you step on it I don't know dating your date messed up because now all of that love all those emotions all those feelings they've been triggered and so everybody know what a soul tie else and everybody know how to break a soul time so really this common sense but it's not common because we don't understand the severity of it because you believe that you could look at a person story on Instagram every day and still get over them absolutely not you believe you still could be texting with somebody lovey-dovey like y'all still together even though y'all far far apart and your ex in a whole nother relationship and you thinking just because y'all still texting and talking that y'all gonna end up back together no no what it is is your ex want to keep you stuck just in case they don't grow and they need to come running back you still standing still but they're going out looking for love they're going out looking for a partner looking for somebody to be with and if it hits if it arm takes off if they hit it off with somebody guess what don't drop you like a bad habit gonna drop you like a bad habit you've been strung along ten and call it in all this for nothing's and all these wishful conversations about y'all could work and maybe one day all of that right there just to string you along just to keep you stuck and then BOOM as soon as your ex find somebody they want to be with now you blocked now you're not getting the phone calls now you sitting there like what you mean to tell me I set and watch that video on breaking soul time and deliberately ignored that man thinking that I don't want to be Petty and I don't want to be too harsh and then I didn't got drugged alone for another year and then now you're gonna drop me and treat me like the plague and and I don't hear from you I can't reach you that's exactly what's gonna happen it happened every single day I know I'm in the trenches I'm coaching relationships I know how this plays out so listen to them create distance create that separation you made it this far put be blessed in the comments because you really really you own something today you're really growing and if you when you see the blessed try in the comments I try to respond to y'all looking forward to our next live chat on Sunday 9:00 p.m. and if you are not a member you can click the link in the description of the video to become a member to be able to chat with me on Sundays at 9 p.m. Eastern on our live chat I hope this helped you I hope this makes sense to you and if you're not in this space you don't need it please share it with a friend or family member who you see struggling dearly with breaking or are we calling it breaking a soul time breaking that bondage from their ex or exes sometimes it's multiple it is Tony guys and thank you so much we'll talk soon

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Length: 22min 3sec (1323 seconds)

Published: Wed Dec 11 2019