His come up! | Grown-Boy University | Tony Gaskins

hey tony gaskins here popping in with another lesson from grown boy university is your microphone a little closer to me now some of y'all asked me about my new camera this just a new phone it's just my phone i shoot from a phone not not like a real camera but on just the iphone 11 but i want to talk to you because as i'm going through if you miss the videos i'm putting them on youtube in a playlist the playlist is on my page on my main youtube page called grown boy university and i'm just kind of going off the dome on these and so trying to go in order i'm gonna miss some stuff because it's been 15 years since i was a grown boy so i can't remember everything i used to do so i'm gonna miss some stuff but if i miss it just you know it's something you want me to talk about just put it in the comments and i'll mark it down for later versions because uh this grown boy university you might need a full year education on this we might have to be next four years going through 101 102 201 301 uh bachelor masters phd all of that i need to talk to the state about getting accredited there's a real university for this but understand this we talked about his representative we talked about his test and right here i want to touch on when when you being tested and you dealing with him let's say you in the talking phase you in the the light dating phase and it this could go on into that second year you pass year one you go on into the second year what a grown boy is gonna do he's gonna start looking for his come-up he gonna start looking for his come-up and you will be surprised now see a lot of people think that grown boy just mean broke busted and disgusted no it's multi-millionaire grown boys like everybody have money issues nobody has enough money that they can't spend because the more money you got the more imagination you have so literally jeff bezos who created amazon he's single right now he and his wife got a divorce just single right now although he the richest man in the world i think he hit a trillion dollars or something guess what i think i think that man say he want to put people on mars he want to build he want to build a mars he want to build mars to look like the earth you see what i mean he ain't got enough money for that joe so understand this a grown boy could have a great job a grown boy could own his company but was still on his company make 60 000 or more could make 60 million and still want you for some and see this the thing women today more women are climbing the ladder of success because back in the days you know women were more so focused on being a wife being a mother way back in the days but especially in the black race when more men started dying early more men started going to prison more men started becoming less and less available a woman not just going to sit there and twitter her thumbs so what she do she get an education and she go to college get the bachelors then she get the masters then she get the phd and then she go get a career even with the bachelors or without a college degree go get a career and then climb the ladder and you work and then you become the manager and the supervisor then you own it then you start your own so today you know i'm coaching a lot of women who earn great livings and there is an increase of grown boys looking for women who have something going on and sometimes it's money you know sometimes it's money sometimes it's a woman's position her or her connections her alignment so it's kind of like and i try not to say names on here but you know it's kind of like let's say you see a man and he's a rapper and you see a woman and she's a rapper but the man knows that this woman is more commercially viable and that this woman can get a ad with dior or get an ad with balenciaga and he may never get an ad with dior or balenciaga he might not even like her might not even think she that attractive but he will be with her and then cheat on her with who he want to cheat with and he could have money but he using her so that he could be in her photo shoots so that he could be on the red carpet with her so that as she skyrocketed his name is in the same sentence with her because he then married her but he don't even want her because he may see her as a four or a five on the look scale and he may have women in his dm that he sees as a nine or a ten but they are nine or ten on looks but they broke so he'll be taking care of them whereas this woman he may see her as a four or a five but she got money and she got fame so he know oh we could do a collab we gonna be on this red carpet we gonna be invited here invited there and it's gonna be some brands that they don't want to just use her by herself they want to do a couple shoot so i'm going to be in a couple shoot so a lot of grown boys will attach themselves to a woman who look like she going to the top and understand now when i say top i'm not just talking about celebrity i'm meaning the you could be going to the top of your neighborhood meaning you finna get out that two-bedroom and your job gonna allow you you about to have your three-bedroom then you have your full bedroom because your ladder on your job keep going up and you could continue to climb because you getting the education or the certification to keep climbing you could be fitting to go from usher being an usher woman to being assistant pastor because you real close with with the first family and he see that you really making waves in the church and they let you put together events and you miss it in the church and he wants some shine because the devil in him tired of just sitting in the pews not getting no attention so he now he needs some attention so if he become your husband now he helping planning the the christmas bash now he helped him write the plays for on easter sunday now he get to come in and now he coming and sending you down now see listen now see this what garden called me too because i understand this what you've been doing and i understand has to put you here but the reason why i passed to put you there is because pastor don't know me pastor ain't know me because i come from the streets and pastor ain't won't just throw me in but listen to me not at you and all together i'm gonna tell you what's what what need to happen because see i'm all right now listen okay i don't wanna preach too much but ephesian five ephesian five go to it what do i say wise submit unto your husband ask unto the lord that's it that's it that right there that scripture right there you listening to that listen nah nah i'ma tell you i'm not no grown boy like i don't heard people talk about so i'm not gonna make you call me lord like sarah call abraham so i'm gonna let you call me john but that's the thing when they give the christmas play come to me and i'm gonna help you turn that play up because i'm gonna be honest with you what tyler perry doing i got that same talent so i'm gonna have you turn that play up and this was oh this right here whoa this just hit me this just hit me because what the lord said was we got to get the youth so what we're going to do we're going to have a little christie and we're going to have her twerk at the altar whoa it's gonna shake people up but it's gonna be what's gonna grab the youth and we're gonna play walk now i know past ain't gonna like this but we're gonna put this under your name because he ain't gonna get upset you put it under my name that's gonna go off we're going to play what and we're going to have her twerk i i know she only 14 but that's the youth we trying to get the youth listen to me okay i told you i'm not going to make you call me lord so now you see i'm saying this what the grown boy now take that same scenario and put that on your job put that in your classroom you're a school teacher he come in there decorating the classroom he coming in he got stick figures on the wall because he see that you're gonna get to be assistant principal one day he know if you'd assist the principal he saw the american greed episode so he know what they were doing in detroit at school system he know he could become the pencil factory man and he could come to you and be selling pencils to the school because you got the authorization to buy the pencils and yeah it's nepotism but he ain't worried about that because he know they ain't gonna really audit or he don't care if they're gonna audit because you're gonna lose your job see i'm saying he still got his pencils he he on alibaba buying all kind of pencils from china he got all kinds of pencils coming in i listen you got the opportunity you in a position that's what we're going to do because see we trying to be a power couple see we can run this whole city understand what i'm trying to tell you so what i'm gonna do i'm selling pencils now and then after i'm selling pencils next year i'm gonna be selling pound paper preferated okay with the small college rule lines two and i'm gonna tell you what we're gonna do you're gonna go to the superintendent we finna get notebooks and this is all family business you see what i'm saying this is what the wrong boy gonna do he's gonna be coming he's gonna have so many opportunities he's gonna need some from you and a lot of time this what get me with women women say oh well tony he got his own money he got his own money no trust me now it is never enough money for a man it's never enough money for a man a man literally could go broke every day you give me a million dollars and i can spend it in 24 hours you know why because it's a yacht costs more than a million dollars it's a private jet cost more than a million dollar you see what i'm saying ain't no such thing as he need his money and he need your money a grown boy he needs your money you hear me and he gonna play the role you see first he gonna be quiet as a church mouse but when he go to putting you on your back when he go to putting you on your bike now he know he he got you mortized all right what they what they call it deepmatis not helping the top ties all right so now he know he got you like that thing on what the movie aladdin that man he look at you and you go to he doing that to you so now that he know he got you hooked because he boom when you had that release they studied say that the same part of the brain that's activated when you hit that when you hit that line of that cocaine that same part of the brain that's activated from that is the same part of the brain that's activated when you have that release so guess what he finna do he's going to be the plumber he finna have you in there like niagara falls every night and see a grown boy he'll work oh you hear me he'll put in overtime he'll know what you like that peach cobbler you feeling better like niagara falls seven nights a week but it ain't for free it ain't for free he coming with a request and it's gonna start small i remember i tried my wife because i was thinking about being a grown boy when i met my wife i started small oh yeah you think you could help me uh get some work boots and my wife bought me some steel toe boots called working in the warehouse then next i asked hey you think you give me some air force ones now she want no duck she just was a kind-hearted person and he was shoes nah at that time i went thinking business-minded so the lord worked on me because he realized listen this is my daughter you so for me it did something different but you got to look at where i'm at today so see god see the end he stand at the beginning he see the end so that's why it worked out for me so don't don't don't look at it like that now don't don't be going to give money and loaning money and buying stuff talking about oh he might turn out like something like asthma because my wife she also gave me sixteen hundred dollars to publish my first book and we weren't married yet she was my girlfriend she would give him what she could afford to lose but i think she knew i think she knew i was her husband and she knew she felt my spirit and see i wasn't really i wasn't using her for money i wanted to see if she'll buy me a little something because back then it wasn't really a thing it wasn't like it is today the grown boy today shout out we have online dating and stuff back then where you could get online and then you can you know get get all the money from these women from around the world thinking you their husband or their boyfriend or whatever so back then it was more so a love language today new yeah ain't no love like today today he trying to come up you hit me and he wants some comeuppance and you will think that you're a queen you'll think oh i'm doing good let me go buy this let me go buy that i could do this i could do that you got the man on yachts yeah the yacht cost four hundred dollars but at 400 but to him that's forty thousand dollars worth of gift that's four hundred thousand dollar worth of gifts because that yacht cost that so yeah four hours and yeah it cost you 400 but you just bought this grown boy for another year you you paid off another year of him being in your life because he finna get all this yacht life in he's gonna be here he invited his cousins he invited his brother he invited homeboy he telling you that's his sister i mean that's his cousin and she his ex-girlfriend and she know what lip read so now that she know what the lit reads she coming on that just keep keying with you with you and then when you go to sleep he got around there he got around that uh oh i'm gonna go out here and just get some of this good breeze and just inhale this ocean water because they say it's good for your brain and i just got so many visions so many dreams i'm just gonna go let the lord work on me and y'all like down that yacht oh y'all on that on cruise ship and he right over there in that one room and you think that's his cousin old classmate that they're working with him and they just you know platonic friends see the grown boy gonna set you up he gonna set you up and he's gonna get you comfortable and you're gonna think he the one you're gonna thank you and lord you're gonna thank all of this here and all he doing he's setting you up for that bit for that bit and that's how he gonna come to you he gonna come to you and everything's going good y'all dane he ain't showing no attitude you know the little testing and recognizing them and then he's just gonna come to you and he know your soft spot see he taking his time to learn your soft spots he see how you move he see every time you had a light that you keep a stack of wands in your console to get his man a dollar at the light he don't even like that he jealous of that why are you giving them people money they you know what he doing that money i use i served and you know you know i come from the streets now i just served him he taking that dollar he going to get him a little thing of boom and yeah he added up that man made more than you making a day you got to get at him see that's his nasty spirit or he might be on the flip side he might be okay with it because he taking note oh all right okay cj this homily man fired all up i'm around here landing good fine oh wood gonna be 500 for me that's going to be 5 000 for me cuz all this around here putting in all this tongue like a good top string and doing all this work oh yeah she finna whoo you mean and see grown boy that's how they'll get you and so this is what he gonna do he's gonna get you comfortable he see that you give to charity he see you pay your tithes he see you guild to the homeless on the side of the road now he know you got a giving heart and what are you going to do he going he's not going to watch it he's going to watch he might watch your whole year he see somebody came to you with a business idea who not putting you on your bike who not being your plumber your plumber man okay getting you who flowing so he see that he gonna let it happen you gonna put his two cents in though yeah with that right there you know because you already know i come from the streets so like basically with this right here i'm gonna tell you how to do this right here and see the grown boy he know everything he know er it is nothing he do not know and he will be wrong as two left shoes and how are you thinking he got a phd so this one see listen all right list them all okay you hit one chat all right list number nine okay this what he gonna do on this right here what you want to do right here and this is how you talk he's not saying nothing but he just saying a whole lot of nothing and so you like uh huh yeah yeah i hear you yeah uh yeah okay all right what i'm gonna do what i'm doing okay okay all right now listen this is what you're gonna do nah [Music] you know what it's just all right what i'm trying to do right now just break this down break this down because you know i come from the street so i just it's so much i know i don't want to give you everything at one time because it's going to confuse you and i'm on your side so basically what i'm trying to say with this right here investment the max you want to do is five thousand off trust me trust me on that the max you want to do a 500 if i tell you how much money i lost on investment like this trust me max you wanna do a five thousand dollar how much you got there oh you're gonna say fifty thousand oh oh fifth up whoo hey come here let me pat you on the bike hey good job good job now anyway i'm at yet because i'm i'm more so at like around the quarter million tight dollar investment so but being this you at fifth thousand congratulations that good see the growing boy he gonna he's gonna always try to make you feel a little small now you're gonna try to make you feel dumb try to make you feel ignorant try to make you need him okay hey hey good job good job hey so what we gonna do right here because see if i'm coming into this situation i don't want to come into a situation with a woman who bad with her money because me the way i work and see the way god made me because i know you love god so i'm gonna just let you know the way god made me see the way god made me is i'm good with my money that's one thing about me if you if if you don't know nothing about me one thing about me is i'm good with my money and i cannot i cannot i don't want to try to get confused between standards and preferences but i cannot be with no woman who not good with her money so the match you want to do right here five thousand how you feel about that oh you have a little push oh all right hey all right get out of the way all right you know all right you know better than me so now manipulation by guilt now you no no no no no okay i'ma listen to you i'm gonna listen to you because i've been working on this and i've been really just spending a lot of time in the world just with now i'm putting the proper voice on cuz i had to block a lady asking me why you ghetto vernacular and it's like who said that ghetto vernacular that's the way that i talk so you trying to call me ghetto i got plenty of sense yeah because the way it's approach a person talk a certain way don't mean a yellow okay got plenty of sense and blessed and highly favored so but you know i'm using proper voice so you know i've been spending a lot of time in a word just really just getting deeper with the word submission and just understanding submission and just like sub and then like miss and what i've gathered is just like the miss is like misses like m-i-s-s it's like sub-miss and so it's like me as a miss i need to sub to you [Music] and so he the lord gave you some right now whoa lord i gave you something that's what i'm talking about and see this oh um what i just realized it i want you to have my daughter because you understand see what it what wrong what's gonna do he gonna make you feel small then he going to reward you for thinking small gonna make you feel good for your ignorance because you playing into his hand and in this moment you being just dumb as a box of rocks but he finna let you be that box of rocks you hear me and he finna eat like some cornflakes at that box of rocks and he gonna make you feel good about being dumb okay by making a stupid decision because you submitting to a man who ain't worth submitting to and so he's gonna get you to get that five cause he see you got you're gonna have 45 more to work with but he know you put in money every month so you're going to scratch it out get a look a few more months and that's how you're going to come to you you're going to come you're going to come home one day come over to his place or you coming back to your place because the grown boy he gonna start trying to stay at your place so he out of room mate because he really ain't he cheat he and he want to live off you so he gonna start trying to stay at your place and you're gonna come in and he gonna be depressed get ready for it now he gonna be depressed now this one thing that we as men grown boy and grown men sometimes every night then we get a little depressed to get what we want to get for me me personally being a man men men have ruined mental health for me mental health is very serious and you can't take mental health lightly you gotta take mental health serious but the way men have just milked that thing and just misused it it just make it hard for me as a man to take me and serious a man really nobody got to be dead for me to believe he depressed there's a man coming to me oh he depressed [Music] okay well well brother what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna get her bible okay this bib ali basically instructions before leaving earth that's what it mean and you know just read this you know read there's two chapters a day and then obama gonna change your life that's pretty much the extent of it to me all the soft story how broke he is with all the money going on okay all right you know oh you still fornicating oh oh okay so you need some money lord you fornicating you living in sin don't bring me nothing but growing boy that's what he gonna hit you with you coming in [Music] even at like and see what he gonna do he gonna get a good fur in his brows he got to get it good and work and so and you don't give him no attention right away because you looking at him you like do i say something do he need a moment so you kind of confused so as he doing it he's trying to make sure you see him [Music] he trying to make sure you see him stress and then here you go hey what's what's up with you everything okay everything you got a headache everything all right do you need me to cook something more i just it's it's like as a man like you got to be strong as a man that's the way i would raise it's like i don't mean to get animated i don't mean to get animated nothing like that but it's like wolves raised me and like people don't understand like as a man how hard it is and then like you look over here and this man right here he's scamming credit cards no one's saying you look over here this man here he's selling drugs you look over here this man here he gambling all he do is just win dice games all day and then it's like and all three of them they all cheating on a woman and i look at that i'm like man i'm not trying to cheat like i ain't trying to be like y'all like i'm trying to be better than y'all and it's just like it's just stressful and they're like ain't like i ain't crying right now like so don't even feel like that because see one thing about it see one thing about me because you know i'm from screech it's like i don't want you to think i'm less than a man you know what i'm saying because i want you to understand that i can carry you but it's like right now it's like it's so much on me and it's like i got all these business ideas i got all these business ideas and like like what i really think about doing it's like the soul of our feet is not really made to be in shoes you all thought about just think about it think about that because when god created us we were baptized you see what i'm saying so it's like what i want what i'm ready to do right now is i want to create these two and they ain't got no soul it's just the shoe around your foot but your foot is on the ground you see what i'm saying you and then you over here you kind of like [Music] so like oh okay so now you love him because remember this your plumber he been having you whoo you feeling good you are who and he just remember he racking up racking up points with you so you feeling so good you really think he got some here and so you kind of like you know what i've been dealing with plantar fasciitis and that might be a solution and it's just like oh my goodness just like hearing you talk it's like i'm hearing your genius and it's like i understand you're from the streets but it's like you have so much genius in you and i just wish more men not saying that i want to be with anybody else because i only want to be with you and i just love everything about you but i'm just saying like i just wish more men like my girlfriends husbands and boyfriends would think like you and so now he is shocked he's shocked but what he realizing not is that that tongue work he been putting in that p column them back massages he feel like doing them back massages balling back massage and all that he he realized now it's working so he like is it his eyebrows you see what i'm saying so it's like everything in me it's just kind of like it's like you look at this computer it's like you look at this beautiful steve y'all made it but it's like what is this plastic oh yeah like me personally like the way my mind think because i'm gonna help you understand where my mind the way my mind think these right here buttons they would be rubber so that when you press it it bounce back and it make it easier to press and then what's going to happen is the joints in your finger you not getting carpal tunnel because it you see what i'm saying but but because he white cause he got you know support his mama supporter and his social support his girlfriend support him like i watched the documentary his girlfriend supported him and it's like us as black men when he got the kind of support so she's like i'm just rest today just like and then here you go so like you know i hear you and i really think that that's like revolutionary because that's where we come from and that's actually why they say [Music] she put her foot in that meal i i really don't know how to say how you all say it but you know how y'all say whoa she put her foot in that meal like that you know how you say that it's like that's why they say that because they were barefoot and now i get it and so now here you is you reasoning with a grown boy and i want you to take this and i want you to think about this in every scenario and i want you to look at what you bought for your grown boy for christmas what you bought for his birthday what you bought for your half anniversary what you bought for his half birthday your grown boy got to celebrate holiday he never celebrated he just heard about it and he said you know i just want us to start selling bringing half birthdays because we got to celebrate each other every day and then on your half birthday what you getting and he said you know what i just it's your half birthday and it's like it's like i thought about that thing and it was like money like what is money now he's sitting there looking at what you know about him that that knife three hundred dollar watching about him that my core watching about him and he up there trying to you know i'm just like what is money so like i'm gonna use what god gave me you already know what's on my because that right now that gets you in your zone i already know that so the night is your night candlelight brian mcknight it's your night midnight bike road and then me and you cuz this this right here bigger than money now your birthday i mean on his half birthday two days before his half birthday he finna lead the computer screen up you can't you see that computer screen up new power jordan sitting on there and you what you doing on computer he came tight well what i was doing is just like yeah they always talk about like you gotta visualize and so you got to manifest because you know what i'm saying you know the girl who she ain't like her how she plagiarized everybody and she made a little book and then she was talking about manifestation i ain't gonna do like that but me i really manifest and it's like these right here jordan's like because see i'm trying to tell you something you know i'm from the streets but see one thing i was doing when i was in the streets is i was listening to the secret and that's what it says so every time a new drop of the jordan's finna come out i manifest cuz i don't know how it's gonna happen i don't know how he's gonna have i don't know who just gonna book me for some temporary work or what's gonna happen but it's like me you already know me how i work hard i'm gonna beat up and i'm gonna be down there to the temp office cause i'm gonna go get that i got to go get it so now you thinking you paying yourself on the bike he don't even know who he's dealing with he don't even know who he got cuz i know his last girlfriend didn't pay attention to little signs like that but i pick up on stuff like that so first thing that morning i'm calling out of work i'm going right down to the foot locker i'm gonna be outside 5 a.m let me call let me call crystal see if she gonna come hey hey girl hey listen to me because he he he coming back real quick but hey listen i want to see if you can take off work wins to see if you could want to go down the foot locker at um hold on yeah i'll be back i'll be out i'm using the bathroom almost done yeah just to see like because what you what you was gonna get uh mark for hit for uh his half birthday because what i was saying girl we got to do better it's just why we losing these men to these other races any other religions so i was what i was going to do i'm going to call out work i'm going to get up that fold i'm going to make some eggs and bacon and then i'm going to go down the footlocker i'm going to tell them i'm going to work but i'm going to be at footlocker at 5am to get the new jordans that's coming out because see this what he this what he did girl he was visualizing yes i got that kind of man he visualized do you hear me he visualizes i forgot i was doing the proper voice on this one so this young lady she from both sides of the track she she's been around everybody yes he visualized and he did not know that i pick up on that kind of stuff see i pick up on it his last the last ho he was with she didn't catch that stuff and that's why he with me so i'm gonna get down there 5 a.m you gonna come all right girl oh best friend i do you my best friend all right girl all right we'll talk about that so now you thinking this is what the wrong boy doing to you you're thinking he was visualizing them jordans and see well see we're in 2029 so now it ain't even jordan not it's gucci shoes find these shoes it's dior shoes you hit me like you guys stepping it gamer they won't eat balenciaga shoe i mean big old shoes shoes just like this on their foot shoes just like this i mean just big old just like how kanye making his shoes now put some shoe screens on it and it cost seven hundred dollars all right which one are you gonna bought your man some designer shoes you're grown boy you see what i'm saying you buying this wrong what y'all they need man y'all any made you buying all kind of shoes that man don't need a shoe but he made a big deal about them shoes playing on you and you thought he would visualize them shoes and really he was setting you up so now you paying yourself on the back who he only know who he messing with yeah he do yeah he do he got him a duck he knows exactly what he messed up because remember he from the streets and he really wanted him from the screen he really ain't in the street he just know that women like a bad boy so now that he trying to live the lame life he keep alluding to him being tough him being a shooter him coming from the streets him having a tough side him having a temple yeah ain't he got no temple but he acted like he got a temple because he know women like bad boys you see i'm saying the grown boy is very astute he has studied the woman he understands your biology your chemistry your anatomy he understands your psychology he understands all this about you so he know how to play the game and this what you got to realize so you have to have a hard fast rule when you dealing with a man because you don't know if he'll grown boy or not don't buy no don't give him no money cause he right now because see what i was telling you on here when he was with them shoes that he finna make them sold his shoes and it's like what i'ma do like a lot of people talk about heartless and they used to call me hartley because you know i'm from the street but it's like d right here shoe i'm going to call them soulless [Music] hey you get that you you because it's like i got a soul but ain't got no soul cause he now you know soul like soul s-o-u-l and then you know the other soul s-o-l-e you see it's like bill gates who but it's like bill gates had melinda gates and that's what i'm trying to tell you with like we don't be having no support so you like so here you are you like so okay i get it like any like the type of woman that i am it's like if my man has a vision your vision is my vision like your eyes are my eyes like we're so close we can share contact lenses like i'm the type of person that if you got salt dust in your contacts i want that contact out your eye and i'm putting on that contact because i want you to know that i feel your pain it's like i've never been a man in this world but i feel your pain so it's like i'm i'm in the investment stage just what i'm trying to do so it's like you tell me what you need from me you tell me what you need from me and normally i require proposal for all of this but it's like [Music] i'm hoping for another kind of proposal from you so this is my promise ring but no i'm just joking i don't want to force anything on you but you just tell me what you need from me and then here he is all right now what i'm telling y'all is true stories these true stories now not the shoes with no soul nah he made that up on his video but these true stories honor coach countless women who didn't gain thousands of dollars two men two grown boys who and some of the grown boy got good jobs got good job but he just want to spend yo money he got a job he want to spend your money now this particular gentleman he work at the temp office but at the same gentleman he also got a good job too don we just alternate men so what he finna hit you with because remember he he them became your investment advisor what you should not be doing because that's not your husband you need to be talking to a professor now but no you made him your investment advisor so now he know your business so i just want to know like what do you need from me well it's just like it's like the way i do business because it's like i'm from the street so it's like the way i do business is like [Music] it's like it's just the way i do business but see what it is is i just need 45 000 i mean what's 45 i really i could do it myself but it's like i'm already putting in so much and it's just like me being the brain and the intellectual property it's kind of like i just want to give up 85 for 45 000 because it's like almost double but it's minus five so it's kind of like instead of 90 i'm gonna get 85 so it's like for forty five thousand so basically what you think about that so nine so nine [Music] he remember you had fifty thousand to invest and you gave five thousand he taught you to give five thousand he knew what he had of his lead so now he need fortify he finna clean you out here to clean you out because ain't ncu 45 [Music] i wasn't spending that i was expecting like 10 but it's like i heard a man say like the level of the vision requires a new level of investment and i believe it was pastor that said that but anyways what it said to me is that i have to give from my lack and so i'm gonna need some time to think about this [Music] you know what actually um it is well within my spirit it is fine with my spirit and i feel like it's god because all i have left to invest is 45 000. and that's the exact number that you said and how would you know that that's all i have to invest see he didn't put that temple wood on you last night broke your bike you don't forgot that he your investment advisor and he the one told you what to do with your savings account now i'm using that number but literally you could have two thousand dollars in save you can have a thousand and say he want 995 of it now what a grown book see and what the grown boy gonna do he's gonna tell you he got llc he he's gonna invest this way he finna invest 125 to start the llc he finished get the llc he can have you wire from your bank account to his bank account and he find a ball you hit me heath in the ball he's shopping on his ex girlfriend he's sending their girlfriend fendi he's in the home fandy he and you like well you know i would want to be active in the investment and just kind of see how the money is being spent and he oh whoa whoa now hold on oxy remember what we talked about ephesians 5 you got to submit unto the man as unto the lord and i want to ask you this when the last time god didn't teleport us up to heaven to be in the meeting on what he about to do in somebody's life they had god work so when you submit unto me as unto the lord i can't even bring you into this realm because the realm that i'm in is so anointed and so high level that you cannot come in this so listen to what i'm telling you you gotta trust me on this so now this is what the wrong boy coming to do still kill and destroy and every grown boy is gonna come to a point it might be year two it might be year three he want an investment some men will marry you if he know you got you a bag put up he will marry you to get to that bank so listen to me it got to be equal in the game y'all got to be married he got to be investing he need to go get his own money he put up 50 you put up 50 this your husband you see what i'm saying because he got to get the husbandry before he get anything from you before he get a dime from he got to get the husbandry then you on the board he on the board your name on the llc you your name on the account and you get to watch everything that being spent you know what i'm saying nice now you ain't gonna be able to monitor everything because some grown boys they're gonna have at home boys sending them fake invoices they're going to be sending the money to their homeboy and then homeboy gonna be giving him the money minus ten percent or your investment oh yeah these real stories you i seen american greed the lady was um eddie murphy xy got 10 million dollars [Music] and it could have been uh reaping what to sold because i don't know if eddie murphy is attractive but the lady is attracted to lady so i don't know if she was with him for the right reasons i don't know but i know sometimes when you get money ill gotten gained he'll find a way to disappear so she let a grown boy be over her fans but leo if he she let him manage that 10 million in the wind money we're going money well yeah i want american greed oh i could say that i could talk about that that public knowledge it's all american greed money gone i bought in my house that what bought them all kind of bentleys and then one day he just hadn't seduced her like a grown boy seduce you so you gotta understand what a grown boy he might come in as a platonic friend might not even be putting no wood on you he might come in as a brother best friend might come in with all this knowledge like he know it all listen to me never ever ever ever ever in your life give a man more money than you can afford to lose and when you give a man money that you feel you can afford to lose make sure you got a second or third opinion on somebody who love you on if you ought to get that money because somebody who loves you your mama daddy brother sister they gonna tell you the truth they're gonna tell you the truth and not not ten times gonna be no nine nine ten times the answer gonna be there any time i go to my wife about something hey you think i'll remember nope nope i'm like you need to hit the whole idea i know so i just say all right okay because people other people can see what you can't see they can see what you can't see because see you looking at it through the lenses of that affection that relationship that love what you got going on you got to have you a hard fast rule that listen you understand the maturity continuum the last minutes where i got to get serious and focus on in i've been serious the whole time now but this way i got to just give you the lesson i can't be you know doing all the scenarios and stuff but i try to use them scenarios to try to help you understand something and you just got to put it in different scenarios because it could happen in any scenario what you got to understand is the maturity continuum where you go from dependent to independent to interdependent so when you're with a man both of y'all was dependent when you were living off your mom and dad [Music] when you got a roommate you still a dependent because you kind of interdependent but you still depending on somebody else to pay they have for the rent if they don't pay the half of the rent and you'll get evicted if they don't pay the half of the rent you're not independent so this man need to be independent he needs to have a job [Music] some kind of employment that is legal money he needs to have a place to stay that he is paying for if he wants to stay cause his mama hit roma sick and he want to be close to him all right go on stay over there but you still didn't have your own place to stay cause i can't buy that i can't buy that oh she's sick she on the way out and so i just want to stand here no no cause you come over you come over every day you get sleep in your own bed and then wake on up come on over here and if you really give me some money spend your eight dollars an hour and have your nurse have your nurse over there ain't gonna cost too much but if it's a real situation you'll be able to tell it if it's a real situation he really stand with them you know mama or grandma whoever because they they need his help you don't know if it's real when you look within you'll be able to tell but he need to have his own place to stay he need to have a job he need to have his own transportation now if you somewhere where y'all ride the metro or subway whatever y'all call them thing we don't got all that where i'll stay but along he go for his transportation okay and long he got a job he got some money coming in he got a place to stay okay now if you live somewhere in new york california sometimes y'all might need a roommate because stuff costs so much that's it's exceptions to the rule but you still need to know he could foot his bill he bringing something to the table and then when y'all get together he need to be courting you he courting you he paying for the dates he paying for the gas money he paying for the trampoline y'all on the subway he's swiping his metro card for you you see what i'm saying if that's what y'all call it and so he courting you and you can offer to pay your half if you want to there's nothing wrong with that and it but he should not let you he should say hey thank you for that that mean a lot but i got this this on me he need to be in that type of position then y'all do not need to move in together until you get married a lot of men want to make like they serious with you because they really need help with rent so they want to get in and they want to get in on your name so if they don't pay the rent you gonna feel forced to pay the rent because you don't want an eviction on your credit so boom he got you and so he want to move in like he want to be closer but really he want to be able to spend his money on the charger that he rebuild on the charger he building he need to get his delete muffler he need what all this stuff they call he need to get his strobe lights he needed to get his interior done he needed to get him some 20 fold 26s then he want to work on his truck then he want to do his old school so he needs somebody to go half on that rent so every month he could put 500 to a thousand dollars in his little hobbies and he and what he doing is that putting a little wood on you they're putting a little wood on you need a little peach cobbler just to keep you satisfied then before you know it he got laid off this man went to staples oh yeah i'm not a real star now this man went to staples and bought pink slips that staple sale for small businesses he didn't went in there bought pink slips he then wrote on one of them signed it with a fake sentence to pull that off and got the carbon copy come home got the pink slip dipping pinch little he at the hall you come in this just it's just and you like what's that what you got [Music] it's the same thing that i was just telling you about they try to keep us down so here i was at the job i showed up they didn't fire me for doing somebody else work talk about you post just do your work because everybody got to sign up for their own work i did my work they weren't doing their work i'm trying to get out of there so i can get back home with you because i want to cook for you tonight and then so i did his work and then they gonna fire me and that's what i'm talking about what it's like when soul has come out it's a route when soul is hit the market and your feet touching the ground and that's gonna be my slogan your feet on solid ground because i'm trying to get on solid and they keep holding me down and so you oh my goodness it's all right it's okay like we live together fortunately i earn enough to cover the rent you know i'm serious about my credit you know i'm at a 8 20 now i'm trying to get 850 so i would never miss a credit card payment and it's like you know what i just got this new card and i'm gonna let you just use this card i'm gonna make you an authorized user it's gonna boost your credit and you can use this card and then every month i'll pay off the full statement balance because that's how we keep our credit high and we're going to build our credit and i'm going to get you from the low 500s up to the 800s with me [Music] this is how he look he like he's trying not to smile oh for oh for real oh it's like ain't crying right now cause it's like you know already know i'm from the streets but it's like because and i yeah you can't cry it's like you got to be a wolf because you round wool you got to be a wolf but i ain't crying right now but it like it's just a woman like you so nine this is how he didn't got you high men and women you do a poll how many women living with a boyfriend how many women living with their boyfriend and he lost his job do a poll start polling people how men and women y'all let me get a little bit of oil hot men and women living with their boyfriend and he lost his job living with their boyfriend he working on a car he put all his time and money into a car live with a boyfriend he on the video game four five hours a day live with their boyfriend and he paid half of the rent every night then but they don't know how he get the money where the money comes from living with a man who get a check might get a social security check might be retired for those of y'all who in the retirement age a man want to move in with my mom and he get a check i'm like no you ain't got no you got nothing i told my mother i'm paying for that i'm paying for your house it ain't gonna be now man living in now if he ain't your husband cause i'm not with it because see sometimes it's who you know people want me and certain men want to get close to my sister because they know she my sister and they might see me in some form and then or they might know some of the things i'm into some of the things i'm connected with and they want to get in so they want to get in close and act like they want to love all her kids so they get and see oh he want to meet i don't want to meet him i don't know ain't no he do me i don't want to meet him ain't nothing i can do film because he ain't doing that for herself i don't know no thank you see you got to pay attention to the grown boys it might be for a connection it might be i've seen the pastor divorce his wife and go get with a woman because that woman is the heir to a mega church so divorcing wife for no good reason wife ain't cheating on wife ain't no i talked to her white and she didn't cheat on her didn't do nothing she said tony i this caught me out off guard it was a normal marriage nothing you know boom thousand left to go get with a woman who preach and speak around the world and you know go go have a mega church one day you a man could get with you for money he could get with you for a position he could get with you for a connection and that's what you got to keep all of your stuff to yourself until he's your husband and he's proven when you about three four five years in he's still thorough he's still solid he's still building and growing now you could talk about doing some business together hey there's tony guys i got to go god bless you

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Published: Wed Sep 16 2020