Emotionally Exhausted from a 4-year relationship | Talks with Tony

hey tony gaskins here popping in for another episode of talks with tony now late when the day and i realize you know i i sometimes i get in the space to where i'm free and so i shoot a lot of videos but you know it's too many videos to keep up with and i remember my wife used to tell me that when um she used to watch vloggers and stuff and she's like man some people upload twice a day and she's like just too much to keep up with now i know she's extremely busy you know cause she focus on the household but and i know some of y'all know tony i'm gonna catch it i'm gonna see it but really it's not so it's just really you not because youtube doesn't show you all of them and so you'll literally have to like click on my page click on videos and scroll through and see like go because you won't get a notification for all of them so it's a lot that you miss and you probably don't even realize you missed it and so um try to expect one for me from a video from me at least at night tonight is a little late had soccer practice had a coaching call that i moved back later so throw things off a little bit but try to expect one from me you know each night around 8 pm eastern at the latest 11 p.m eastern if i got to upload it late so just a little head is up on that and i'm gonna be focused on talks with tony the other videos i do is just something the lord put some on my spirit point blank period hi tony first thank you for all the work and dedication you put into helping us i'm just as nervous as i am interested to hear your perspective on my situation okay this is she got a little picture now all right right now let's give him a little while in the water bottle see i'm over here drinking water tonight y'all hey come on man somebody like you ain't that right here yeah child better than faucet water because they say they're hill water bad because spring water a i'm living fine to keep it short you know how short this is to keep it short i've been in a relationship for the past four years i feel like i'm too old for a boyfriend and i feel unsuccessful even saying the word we are 10 years apart he has been married and divorced i have never been married he is a very orderly and conscientious man he is also an excellent father he has worked hard sacrificed and is financially secure i on the other hand have done well in different jobs and i'm working in the field i earned my master's degree in but i'm more creative and optimistic i think he thinks i'm with him for his money and i'm not i'm with him because the joy in our peace when we have it is beautiful and so is the bond he shares with my family of course there are more qualities about him but to him i don't think they matter i am writing you because i feel emotionally drained so much so that i'm seriously considering not finishing my doctorate i should have graduated three years ago here's what happened recently after a road trip and during the first night of our stay he said there's nothing you can offer me except total submission y'all forgetting one of my likes just went out i was stunned because we were walking along with a good vibe after a talk later that night where he asked me but what do you have to offer i was hurt again and said that i wouldn't demean myself by answering the question he ended up saying that what he meant was that he's with me for me because i don't have anything to offer although i'm eclectic and oh a whole bunch in student loans i also work work full-time and teach part-time eclectic nah i'm not this is working on her doctor i'm tell y'all something i'm gonna tell y'all something this isn't working on her doctor hold on let me google this word just so i can see what he collected yeah i got an idea but i just want to know exactly deriving ideas style or taste from a broad and diverse range of sources okay that's what i thought it meant it in my word in the south that mean weird but y'all that mean eclectic what we but we're in weird in a good way though not in a bad way okay and uh i in your picture i could tell you know you look biracial um black and white or hispanic and white or black and hispanic um nah we all mixed with something probably but yours a little more evident not now yeah too you know as they say 200 percent you know african people could have um african-american or what have you could have who are dark-skinned could have a light-skinned baby that's what they say that noah sons was different colors you know ham chef and japheth and all that um but me personally i have not seen it now you let the commenters tell it ah tony in the motherland we have all of the indigenous people who are all the shades uh i was i said on the other video that hazel lies is not common in africa in africans black africans you know why i said that because i went to africa three years in a row i spoke in nairobi kenya and i spoke in johannesburg south africa in both of those places where i was for a week or two i did not see a white person and i did not see a light skinned person and i did not see anybody who looked like me everybody had a unique look they had a different look now on the women's side of things i saw different looks i saw some women who look like that i see here in america but then i saw women that i've never seen the likes of them in america just all around from shade looks you know everything very unique looks i did not see i didn't say it so when i did the video i didn't say that it doesn't exist and say that down your family tree and all your travels are living in africa your whole life that you ain't seen nobody with hazel eyes or gray eyes or black person with green eye we can have all kinds of colors i listen everybody know that that what they said noah kids was okay listen but what i'm saying what i'm saying right here is i'm speaking about the majority of the time you don't see two dark-skinned people make a light-skinned baby you don't see often two people with dark brown eyes have a baby with light brown eyes or blue eyes or green eyes not to say that it is impossible i say it's not often it's not common so y'all understand listen to the key words when y'all be listening to the video instead of just hearing what you want to hear and then running my blood pressure up in the comments arguing about something that is insignificant and then wasting our precious time in the net video because you know i got to address you and then i'm getting messages from people tonight please stop addressing them listen please stop writing me telling me who to address and who not to dress on my video okay because everybody is getting a dress the lost sheep the fountain sheet the the the wolves the high enos the queens the kings you know the the dogs and womanizers i talk to everybody most of the kings and queens but every night then you have other satan sin little demons in there i got to call the demon out too that why jesus jesus ain't just ignore the man he said satan get me behind me you got to call you got to call people with a little spirit of bed the devil differ and the argument of spirit you got to call them out too now this looks like man see y'all in the comments y'all messed up my letter y'all forgive him let me go back now i know that i was past that oh he collected that's where we were she sent me that see that right there he collected that sent me down sent me down the yellow brick road and i'm gonna say now he ended up saying that what he meant was that he's with me for me because i don't have anything to offer although i'm eclectic and owe a whole bunch in student loans i also work full time and teach part-time what really bothers me even more than that even more than what i've already shared is that later on for y'all who knew when i do this this is parentheses when i do this this quotation mark all right what really bothers me even more than what i've already shared is that later on after he says something that disrupts our balance he'll tell me that i'm up and down or a roller coaster if he stopped doing that i might be able to think straight and use the intellect i've been developing all these years to come up with an idea that could make some real money i'm talented i can write speak publicly train folks and coach i just feel so unsuccessful in relationships is blocking my confidence and my clarity all right now you could code you need to take a lot of culture occasionally see you might be missing you you're calling trying to get all these doctorates yeah i ain't got no doctorate blessing highly favored can you help me to understand what's going on when a man asks what do you have to offer is he only referencing the brain the body and the brain i'm writing you because i honestly don't think it's a grown boy situation i see okay oh this this not a grown boy this is not a grown boy situation this here ninja wrote the book title grown boys is you is is does his name start with a k like who is this this this right here you might be dating the grown boy captain this is the grown boy but see the thing is is you is with him for his money swallow get your swallow i am not i am eclectic listen what i said you uh let me say it educated you are with him for his money because that's all he brings to the table you're talking he's a terrific father he's not your daddy so how he fathers they got nothing to do with you so he ain't your daddy listen you got to run so fast when this man said to you there there's nothing you can offer me except total submission uh excuse me you see how fast i got going that right now listen to me listen to him i'm telling you as a man that's the last conversation you ought to have right now that is the last conversation you ought to have that's this the cop that's the kind of man right now y'all will be making what you call sweet love and he'll punch you in your eye and make you take off work for the next two weeks and and then tell you with your black eye he thought that was romantic he was in the moment this the kind of man you got you got the kind of man that will make you cry on your birthday you got the kind of man that will make you cry on your wedding anniversary you got the kind of man that will make you cry but on a through a text message before you get ready to walk down the aisle that is why he owe les methuselah and single because and nahina old now but what that what i'm saying is he way too old to be successful and single because a good man you it a good man don't have no problem finding a woman a good man don't have no problem finding one so when a man single and he is older you got to pump the brakes and everything got to be in line not to say that a good man can't be in his late 40s in his 50s you look like you might well see you want them uh races or you know mixes that don't really age that much so you what you doing you should have been done with your doctor three years ago and see so educated you say your age so i honestly cannot tell if you [Music] 36 28 or 41 and you know these pictures on gmail they're so small so i really can't see you like that but i'm trying to look at you with my good eye yeah and see this is the thing and see the other thing is you light skin you light skin um with long hair coming to your shoulders coming about right here to uh to a man like this he you look like a trophy to a man like this kind of man right here so what he's looking for is a pretty trophy that's gonna shut up and do what he say do now you have a woman next door school girl kind of look when i say meaning like look like the pastor daughter who actually read the bible and want to do right by god that's the look that you got not like the pastor daughter that's sleeping around at 13. just to pass a daughter that you know you look like the past dog that lead the choir lead the life groups and is the youth pastor and actually living right to represent your family and god the right way that's how you look so and i read people because that's all i do that's all i've been doing my whole life and so that's what i see right there so you look submissive you look insecure even though you are not unattractive it's like you don't act the way that the world says you could act because you got to remember we're in a colorist world so in a colorist america if you of color the lighter you are the better you are in america and some people believe that some people got me twisted i had to block a boy the other day because he taught my oh tony actually prefer light skinned women i don't prefer light-skinned women when i and i say this again for those y'all who not listening when i approached my wife i was a grown boy and i was looking for a one-night stand i wanted to sleep with a woman that looked like her i was not looking for no wife but when i sat down with her i did not want a light-skinned woman because i ain't like their reputation ain't like the attitude because where we from in the south they think they all at because we come from slavery but my wife was humble she was kind she was sweet she was nice she turned out to be a wife i was going looking for a one-night stand so for those y'all who i didn't go out hating myself saying i want to be with light-skinned woman i actually said something that was hurtful to my wife when we got together and we got serious i said man the only thing about you that i really that i'm struggling with is that you like skin i said man i wanted a dark skin white because i didn't want to hear all that noise of what we got to go through down here the way everybody thinking light skin better and i don't want to be reinforcing that because that i don't believe that i i believe we all equal so like fine go get a dark skin girl then she like you know you think that just because some i was born this way i was bullied by darker skinned girls they tried to fight me they thought i was trying to take their boyfriend i didn't even want a boyfriend i couldn't even date i had the bama girl head into the lockers i had to fight just because i'm light-skinned and dark-skinned girls thought that i thought i was better than them and i never thought that and she went off on me and she told me about the plight of being light skinned i was like whoa y'all have issues but then as i talk to clients and someone like skin they say the same thing they say tony i was born like this i ain't asked to be like this i ain't go to the doctor and say make me light skin and this i had to fight darker skinned girls my whole life because they mad because this guy might like me and i don't even like the guy and so we have so much of this ignorance and this what this what right here what it calls too this was the hill she looked like for those y'all for reference she looked a shade or two she looked a shade lighter than my wife or two shades lighter than my wife about a shade but again i'm looking at a little picture but this is the headline and this like uh you know this this will um you know this would be like an african-american last name it's not a hispanic last name uh african-american who is african-american meaning coming from slavery because it's kind of like a you know caucasian last name and with all our last names is caucasian but see this right here this man he he looked at you and he said oh she likes skin so that means she better that means she classy that means she prettier and so that's why he told you you 10 years younger that mean you tend to ronin that mean you young and you dumb in his mind he think he know it all from that one line that he said there's nothing you can offer me except total submission that tells me everything i need to know about this man and i'm gonna tell you like this right here if i was your daddy i kidnapped you if i was your daddy and you told me that i kidnapped you i would not let you stay with him if you want to go to him you'll have to fight me and and if he want to be with you after that one sentence right there he'll have to fight me everyday he'll have to kill me to be with my daughter i wouldn't care that much about my sister because she you know she don't come from me she come from my daddy another man so my that would be my daddy place but if if you were my daughter you hit me now i care about myself but she grown you see what i mean she don't come from me i'm not responsible for her i ain't raised her i can try to look out for but she's gonna do what you want to do now if you my daughter listen here yeah fight me so let's say you 28 he 38 let's say you 32 to 35 and he 45 42-45 because you said you've done well in different jobs and i'm working in the field i earned my master's degree in if you went to school in order you could have got that master's degree by 23 24 and then doctorate let's say that take another two years so let's say 26 so you say three years ago you're supposed to be done you should have graduated three years ago so let's say you thirty and then heat forty we'll just do that for the sake of this here just kind of putting little stuff together um and we know doctors could take different times you know some people this year and a half two years i don't know uh now you say you with him because of the joy in our peace when we have it so you put that as he is beautiful and so is the bond he shares with my family see what you got is one of these men that a lot of these women like to use the n word on no not what the slave master used to call black people y'all word that y'all love to throw around north oh girl that is girl look at narcissistic definition one two three all right drop down to file a b and you're gonna see this type of narcissist that's what you got so that's everybody favorite word right now what if in a throw that word you hear me so when you got a man that's 10 years older than you i'm gonna tell you this as a man to date a woman that's 10 years younger than you is disgusting only pervert men do that y'all forgive me y'all forgive me god i shouldn't say that oh lord i shouldn't say that i don't mean pervert men because it's it's me and i know personally that's in that situation so i ain't mean that but i and i don't mean that in in in every sense of the word but i'm what i'm saying is this type of man the type of man that will ask you what do you have to offer and all you can offer me is total submission and he 10 years older than you he's a perfect he's a pervert and this the thing you say because of the joy in our peace y'all ain't got no peace y'all ain't got no joy that's just a normal day just of of a good day meaning he can't be a hyena every day i mean he can't be a jerk every second of the day so when he wake up on the right side of the bed and y'all have a normal conversation when he trying to get you to drop your guards and just be cool with you maybe because he just got him one off on his other woman last night you know a little side woman that he got you know his his little movies that he watching nasty movies then he it relax from it cool him down and he come to you and he'd be chill and then when he a little pimped up a little backed up from his movies or from his side woman that's when he you can't offer me nothing but total submission and ruin y'all nice date walking around the lake and he got money y'all supposed to be on a fine dining he walking you round the lake i don't know where y'all was what did you say y'all was doing y'all doing something oh after a road trip and during the first night of our stay okay so he took you on a road trip and y'all like and then he want to ruin the vacation by asking that kind of question by saying that that's a statement there's nothing you can offer me except total submission that right there listen let me tell you what if this man is not the leader of the grown boy brigade then they are his teacher when he come on youtube he ain't watching me he watching them he watching the fake alpha males the red pill the mgtow these idiots who think a woman place is total submission thank you worthless thank you is worthless you hear me what can you offer me what is a woman poster offer you he he like what if a woman is a woman that's what she offer you she's a woman she's the opposite of you idiot what's she supposed to offer you what's she supposed to have be bringing all kind of money to the table like that's not that's not a woman that that ain't that that's not what defines a woman oh how much money she bring to the table what kind of job she bring to the table it's like what a woman in school to get her doctorate and already got her master's and she go to school full-time and she worked full-time and she teach part-time that's a hustler that's an ambitious woman that's a woman who ain't afraid to work a lot of no good woman would be going to school and living off a sugar daddy and sleeping with the man for money to pay for her school that's a lost broken woman right there nah a woman who is and ain't mean say no good i mean in a relationship because she she good inside of the lord but that's the type of woman that he that don't bring nothing to the table a woman just want to ride off a man coattail now when i say you with him for his money i don't mean because you misunderstood that i don't mean that you want his money what i mean is that's the only thing he bring to the table and that and see this a thing you are enamored by that oh yeah oh look it up look it up it's it's close to eclectic they just got to get to the ends get out the ecs be filled with a feeling of love for see here's the thing you looking at him and and you say i'm too old for a boyfriend so and it's like well how old is you cuz three years ago with the doctorate now i understand i know people get their daughters in their 50s and 60s so but you not that old because i'm looking at your picture so maybe you're in your mid to late 30s and you feel like that's too old for a boyfriend which is disrespectful because it's women in their 50s with a boyfriend you said i mean trying to get married so if they hear your age they would be like what girl i'm 20 years older than you and still trying to meet mrs wright mr right so now listen you say and then it's the thing he's been married and divorced why do you think he got a divorce good man good man don't have to worry about divorce if they good man because a good man gonna pick the right woman and then he ain't got to be going through no divorce because he's washing her with love so nine out of ten men that the menthol divorce is a man that was not a man is a man that was a grown boy now that one out of ten because here y'all go ah so you saying every man who got a divorce a note did i say every listen what i just said nine out of ten so this type of man here let me know he was the problem because any man that'll say the only thing you can offer me is total submission that is a sorry no good man that is a worthless man right there that man right now sister you ever when you hear this i'ma title this the way you titled your email loved by god super educated and emotionally exhausted please help all right you need to accept the love of god and run and get away from this man i can't say enough about this because i want to scream i want to slam this computer so i'm just trying to be super calm because i want to go off because i'm like i cannot believe you this ambitious you pursuing like this you eclectic and you educated and you working on the doctors and you and you putting up with a man that you have to be putting his diapers on you'll have to be putting his depends on why cause he's 10 years older than you do you know it was a certain day and time was men was becoming fathers at 10 he old enough to be your daddy once you get that that's too old that's too old 10 years that's you too far apart that is too old okay the most you need to be older than you five years the most he double the limit of odor and so that's why he looked down on you because i'm gonna tell you like this right here i'm gonna tell you as a man okay i'm 36. for me to be with a 26 year old that's nasty that's not there are exceptions to the rule let me say this right here there are exceptions to the rule because i actually a lot of people in my circle my daddy my barber my security guard all lay women is way younger than them we not gonna go there to me diagnosing them but they don't have a fascia or issues they don't been through things and they just but see they wasn't looking that's the thing they weren't looking for nobody that was 10 years younger than them or five years or eight years whatever it is they bumped into them so that's why i say it's exception to the rule but on average on average a man who won a woman 10 years he nasty he nasty he's not looking for a woman he looking for a daughter he could sleep with but see his daughter he you finna be his adopted daughter so it ain't incest he's sleeping with his classmate daughter you see what i'm saying so that's what he looking for and the reason why because he a woman his age if he would have said to her there's nothing you can offer me except total submission why you hitting my mouth hey girl nah i'll be wrong if i hit you back oh god pulley oh stinking dirty can't believe you hit me at my mom can't wait for me i'm finna get my own hotel room get your own ride back home a woman his age am i too you're not my two five i can't believe it a woman is eight was he 10 years younger [Music] i'm not going to answer that question that is degrading and i'm not going to demean myself answering that question that's what 10 years younger do that's why he got you that's exactly why he got you my wife two years younger than me two and a half years younger than me i didn't know it though i ain't know it because i ain't asking her age because i just assumed she was my age because first time we met i mean we look like we same age but then when i talked to her i felt like she was my same age she her conversation was so mature that's why i try to tell y'all women mature faster than me now once we got together and things got calm i said okay yeah you turned out young you childish and and not in a negative way but in a joking way she used to do stuff like she like do stuff like grab my underwears and give me a wedgie and give him a big old wedge and then tie the top of the underwears in a knot and do stuff like that and it's like i can't fight her because if i get aggressive with her she get more aggressive than we literally be wrestling and tussling and like one time we playing and i'm playing with it i pick up and i throw and we had a 99 bed so when she hit the mattress she sunk down to the to the railing to the frame and it hurt her bike bruised the bike and we literally was playing and from then i said baby list that's why we can't play no more we cannot be playing wrestling but that's how she like to play but i just attribute that to her being two and a half years younger than me but at the end she showed me some memes from other women posting memes about what they do today husband and it's like i'll be standing up brushing my teeth and i'm just brushing my teeth and she'll come up behind me grab me like hey come on now what are you doing so [Music] it's a million days she made me regret that i'm like i should have went older i said it went leave five years old this how y'all finna be playing cause me i don't like to play around i don't like to play around i don't like to play fight i don't like do i own like that because somebody always end up getting hurt and i learned that from my daddy my mom used to try to play with him and she one year older than my daddy and he said cat stop playing cause i'm playing cause you know when you play somebody i always end up getting hurt and some women don't know when to stop and don't understand a man got a different level of strength so nonetheless that was a little rant just went off from tangent but my wife she real playful and but she stopped playing with me because she know that's not my personality but every now and then i play with him i play with her right and i might i do this right here the cap is on the cap is on i'll do this nothing happened cause the cap is on she will go get a jug of water and come shoo wash my hair line off i'm so i'm like that do not go together that's not equivalent payback that's not the same thing it's like you know what you holding stuff from the past every that facebook message you found when we first started that's what that was for right now that ain't had nothing to do with this me playing with you you're holding grudges and see that's what i had to realize so listen you being this here young that's dangerous for a man like this that's dangerous because he don't want nothing to do with you he don't want you for you y'all ain't plugging my computer real quick before it being cut off he don't want nothing to do with you then what you got to understand he don't want nothing to do with you what he want to do with you is he want to raise you and i'm going to tell you this right here you can show them this video if you leave it don't show them the video if you stand if you stand no but see this a thing with the way you sound in this whole message and you'd have been with him four years you said i've been in a relationship for the past four years sister if you in school getting a doctorate that let me know you of age if he 10 years older than you that let me know he's of age if y'all been together four years then let me know he don't want you he does not want to marry you it don't take a man that age to know he want to marry you it don't take him that long that's too long if he wanted to marry you y'all have been married two years ago you wasting all your time and if this man ain't paying for your doctorate then he bring nothing to the table he worth nothing because he talked down to you i can understand if you taking this little verbal lessons to get that doctorate paid for i could understand cause he ain't putting hands on you i can understand he just get out the mile sideways every now and then he paying for that dark but look at home but you paying no bill hold up while you pay no doubt right that's how i be doing his old butt listen if i was one hold on play but you 10 years older than me then right here good quality snatch you over there struggling with e.d some people somebody asked what's e-d-e-rex out there huh you know that's scratching with eddie yo y'all popping out dentures drinking ensure right now alone you too old i'm a prize you see i'm saying i could be no woman with no man 10 years older than me and see y'all be getting these men older than y'all and let the man punk you because you looking for a daddy you're looking for a daddy you're looking for male security you got to understand your prize you got to understand that man got to be on your love you got to understand that man got to be respecting you that man got to be talking to you with sins that man got to becoming correct listen to me to keep this short like you said they keep it short leave them this a route this a rap somebody says tony when you gonna have one that's the tony i i'm yet to hear one when you supposed to work it out listen if you post work it out you ain't in my inbox cause you don't need to come to me if you already know what to do you don't need to come to me if y'all on the up and up and y'all just having a few bumpy rolls when you come to me you coming to me for that gavel order in the court read the verdict the verdict has concluded that the plaintiff should going by her business you heard the order peace peace in the court quiet quiet i will hold you in contempt the court just the court of love listen it's a route the reason why it's a rap because one he's 10 years older than you men age faster than women men age worse than women so when you 60 he gonna be 70 that's two different lifestyles when you 70 he gonna be 80 that's two different lifestyles yes it don't work for some people but you wanna you in a winning position you're in a position where you get to be picky you get to be picky because you got your master working on your doctorate you work full-time and you teach part-time and you will collect it so you get to be picky you owe a whole bunch of student loans sister that's sad you don't get these people all this money ain't gay tony gaston academy a dollar well where we over here in tony guys academy teaching you entrepreneurship with purpose life coach certification social media mastery birth your book here we over here in tony gaster academy earning high five figures six figures seven figures of natural gifts and you over here paying the school house all this money and and worried about money stressing about money like what you said i'm talented i can write you ain't got to go to school for that then speak publicly you don't learn that in school train folks and coach why ain't on my mentor.life i just feel so unsuccessful in relationships it's blocking my confidence and my clarity that's because you letting the man define you and you letting the relationship define you if you gonna be about your business be about your business be about your business see listen sister you you ain't come out the womb and ask lord make me look like this make me look like that's just genetics that say hey you finna be this kind of hair this kind of skin tone this kind of skin texture this kind of smile let me see it's great smile got a straight smile uh i can't see you too close but it ain't nothing wrong with you you know it ain't uh let me see this one let's show me no ain't nothing wrong with you you ain't you ain't hurting for no man you wouldn't be hurting for no man because it's men that'll say oh okay that's my type right though it it mean look the male version of you and they'll like you some men looking for a woman looks similar to that mama and they bump into oh i like the way she looked and so ain't nothing wrong with you nah the thing is is you have an innocent look about you you kind of have like you have a smart look by you like the straight a kid um refraining from words like nerd and things like that so not calling you that but you know have a look on that in that arena of just look smart you know not sassy and fast and manish look like you know the woman next door just mind her business go to church work on the usher board and so listen it's men out here they'll see you and they'll say oh okay let me let me see if she's single you don't have to be and you're ambitious and you eclectic so you don't have to be settling you don't have to settle for a man that you won't have to be give him his go and get his blue pill for him in a little bit uh oh yeah you blue pill i know you say you want to have a fun night tonight so i figured i'd bring you a peel early oh thank you for that hey girl i'm gonna break your bike tonight and you sitting over there ready got your lingerie on and he you said i'm saying you don't have to settle and you're wasting your time so it's like listen you you're supposed to be done you supposed to be done with your doctorate three years ago cut his butt loose and gonna finish it in the next year go and finish what you got to finish you already got the student loan you might as well gone finish this student loan run online and get that doctor and get some doctorate money too now a lot of y'all be getting doctors and still be getting paid like a ged so make sure you get this doctor you go get you a doctorate job okay and get doctorate paid and listen when you leave him this the type of man here you could ghost you ain't got not in the literal sense you can say hey i just don't think it's gonna work so i think we should go our separate way click don't ever answer again he show up unannounced hey text him on the phone hey please leave my place um and if you don't i will call the police thank you he still knocked up ah yes can you send an officer over i have an unwanted visitor who keeps standing at my door knocking yes he is 48 62. no he's not a threat i don't think he has a gun but yes please i'm gonna [Applause] just like that right though we let it show up again because he gonna talk to the police out of that man this ain't nothing i'm just trying to have a conversation y'all know how this here you mayor because see this this type of man here that's why the bond he shares with your family see your family you come off to them as a hopeless romantic so they just trying to have anybody gonna do okay please just take her because she relationships define her she thinks she ain't nothing without a man she feel like she's too old to have a boyfriend she feel unsuccessful to even say the word boyfriend so please hey with just okay so they ain't trying to read him they trying to read through him they're not reading into his behavior okay his mpd uh for those y'all who y'all haven't taught me that what the mpd is narcissistic person disorder they ain't trying to read into his mpd as y'all are calling i'ma just go ahead and get out there before y'all cause i know that's what's coming in the comments oh like all right laughs he just can't be an immature man he just can't be an ignorant man he just can't be a childish man who ain't had no father figure he got to be a narcissist okay all right so they're not reading into that on him they just ready to get you married off because they see you attach your self-worth to a man and that's the wrong thing to do you got to understand you a whole woman you got to understand your whole prize you got to understand what you bring to the table you got to understand that you fearful and wonderfully made you got to know who you are you got to look yourself in the mirror put your chin up you need to write yourself an affirmations book you could write you need to speak to yourself you is strong you are smart you is beautiful you is confident you need to put that movie on to help and see how far we then came and you need to uplift yourself you need to coach yourself you need to train yourself and then when you get out that mural coaching and training and talking to yourself then going out and conquer the world without this hill raggedy bomb who putting you down making you look up to him and the thing about it is what let me know he didn't stole the last little bit of self-worth until this email and put it back in until this video and put it back in is you ain't leaving you ain't leaving can you help me understand what's going on used with an idiot who think he god's gift to women and obviously it's not absolutely crazy this the type of man here will run you crazy he don't have to put a hand on you he will have you in an insane asylum he will have insurance on you and be uh collecting and cashing a disability check off of you and how you in an insane asylum eating the dead cockroaches out the corner and putting lunafoil on your head talking about the ufos trying to steal your brain power this type of man right here will have you in that place do you hear me this right here is not god's gift to women this is satan's gift to women to ruin the minds of women he come in contact with because he done lost his mind and he think he's somebody special and he think just because he had a little bit of success and made a little bit of money than did all right for himself that he all of a sudden a high value man then what these boys out here talking about high value man that what they think this here just cause you don't have some success you don't know how to talk to no woman you low value man if you don't know how to appreciate a wonderful who a woman is just because her name is whoa man just because she got a brain between her ears just because god breathed breath into her lungs that's all she need to bring to the table is the fact that god made her and then everything else is a plus it ain't got to be because and every because it ain't like she don't want to work it ain't like she don't want to get an education it ain't like she don't want to do better for herself and her life what else do you want a woman to have that's high character that's morals that's values that's ambition and then you got humility but worse than humility you got low self-esteem no you can't go from humility you you know humility means to be humble some people say humble i don't know why y'all these letters off that's the h right though that's a humble all right humble all right god bless you okay we finna be humble today so humble humility get what they say she was humiliated so it's a fine line between humility and humiliated it's okay i don't see the thing else what let me know your wife material because most women who the world whose society has put on a pedestal because of their complexion because of their hair texture because it's a lot of women who do the opposite of you who the world has spit in their face who the world has made feel bad and that's why some of y'all had to fight than women because the world beat up on her for being darker skinned with a different texture of hair so some of them not all of them but those of you who had to fight the light skin who had to fight the dark skin the darker complected is because of what she been fighting so everybody fighting the battle but when the world take and say oh you special you were smart you was important so for you to have that privilege in the world and you're not even accepting it that let me know that you humble that let me know that you don't see yourself like that then let me know that you got some insecurities when the world take and put you on a pedestal and you take yourself off the pedal and say i ain't no better than nobody else ain't no better than nobody else and then you let a grown boy talk down to you listen you got to run tonight you gotta disappear you can send him a full page letter you can send them a text message you can leave more voicemail send them a voice memo do what you got to do but they need to be the last lady all together and i hope by the time i'm reading this because you sent this in some time ago y'all got to get my own be leaning back i'm going to chill my bike go to her and then y'all go with all the suggestions for the back braces i need the chairs i need the ointment i need yeah y'all listen come on come on come on i ain't asked for no medical advice all right come on come on now let's keep the comments focus on this right here not the stuff i forgot to say not when i forgot to say exception to the rule not when i forgot to say most or majority of let's keep let's keep the comments to strengthen and uplift and empower this health system and understand that's such a listen you're beautiful in the sight of the lord inside and out he loves you fearfully and wonderfully made he got better for you than this he'll bomb that you're with so listen go about your business a man could have money and still be a bomb a man could have money and still be a no good man a man could have money and success and still be a grown boy a grown boy is a adolescent male in an adult body who hates women and thinks that a woman is a object and his thing is what do you bring to the table what can you do for me like what he want is a business merger he wants you to be able to say well i own my own clinic and i make seven figures i am the chairman of the board of small business commerce i am the vp of the rotary i am the cfo of the local zoo that's what he want he wants you to be able to run down a business resume because it's like if you are already a man and you got success what else do you need from a woman other than love and respect a woman who gonna talk to you like she got some sense a woman who gonna love you be there for you support you you support her like what else do you need what else do you need he thought what can you offer me he wants you to say well i well i know how to cook three meals a day i know how to make beds like you're staying in the ritz carlton i know how to massage pressure points i know how to massage temples i know how to sing on a microphone karaoke like my middle name is beyonce i know how to work in a bed lady in the streets freaking the sheet like he wants you to come say what kind of slave of a woman can you be for me what kind of business can you bring to me what kind of money can you make me this the type of man here that you cut off and you never speak to again and you'll be determined to be the woman to teach him a lesson you'll be the one that read him from left to right top to bottom so that the next one so that when he read that tears come to his eyes that he could look himself in the mirror and hear and see how pitiful of a man he is at his age that he gonna look a woman in the face that ain't dead nothing wrong to him ain't cheated on him ain't dog him i don't sniff his booty for four years and then he say there's nothing you can offer me except total submission if the lord gave me the permission i'll be knocking the men out but i can't the lord say tony no they ain't how we finna handle the thing if if i was the president these kind of men have to do time in the penitentiary it's of this age because we all with this man we all with this man at 20 we all with this man at 18 25 at the oldest dead man only methuselah 10 years older than you and you and you ain't no spring chicken because you supposed to have a doctor three years ago so you ain't no spring chicken nine nine year old is dirt but still you didn't been here longer no so heaped it man yeah and no no okay here y'all go tonight i'm very offended because this man could be in his late 40s early 50s and you're calling that oldest dirt oldest matthews i am so offended i am 65 years old i listen to you every day this is going to be the last day i'll listen to you because you have called this oh listen dang saying about the age old the reason why i'm calling him oh is because of his nasty attitude with his age that right they'll make him 90 a worthless 90 year old man so understand this right here y'all got to understand the heart of the message and the caveats and nuances all right i need to get my shirt back on hey god bless you this tony gaskin lead is man today let it be the last day going about your bid bidding leaders man he got too much ego to chase you he got too much ego to try to hurt you he did man he'll he thank you the best thing since sliced bread leave it but leave them god bless you

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 59min 57sec (3597 seconds)

Published: Thu Jan 14 2021