Why You Should ONLY Date Providers (NO EXCEPTIONS!)

and yes money has money comes with its own set of issues too but that just boils down to you you know each individual because I would much rather cry in a Bentley than anything else I'm just saying like I don't know I don't know about you welcome back to my channel and welcome to my channel for all my new subscribers hello hi my name is aja very nice to meet you I want to jump right into this video guys I really really do but you guys know the drill if you're new here you don't say you'll learn today to follow me on instagram which will be right here and also do not forget to subscribe to this channel pause stop subscribe if you have not already because we have a goal we are so close to 100k guys less than 9k away it's absolutely insane I am flabbergasted okay lesson friend to this video so I want to state as a disclaimer this video is going to be straight backs it's gonna be a little you know a little hard to swallow a tough pill to swallow but you guys already know my method that I am into more of the tough love sort of thing and that's only because I like to get to the root of issues and actually transform people's lives and as well as my own and you're not going to you know be able to do that coddling people's feelings to death so that's on that if you consider yourself to be a very sensitive person and you're easily offended then please click off of this video great glad we got that established men will test you don't even get offended by it it's just what they do so if they can get away with doing the lease and getting the maximum return which is of course sleeping with you they're going to do that men value what they invest in men tell you what they invest money in so if you sleep with them they did the absolute least to even get you know get with you they took you out on one dinner date and pressed you and things just flowed so well that like you guys reviving in that why you you can't help the chemistry you had no you have to be able to maintain your composure and not put yourself in a situation where you're in his lair in his territory where he can get what it is that he wants because then right after that son I mean the dust has cells for him there's no reason to proceed you just you literally put yourself from you know letter A all the way to Z now because that was easy he barely had to put in any work while they're playing with your emotions they got to invest little to nothing into you while they get to play with you and now you're attached to this person because it is a form of attachment right and now you're upset excuse the lighting guys like honestly seriously because I did get a brand new camera because I have been filming on my phone and I actually have always owned a camera but it was just so much easier for me to always fell on my phone and yada yada yada so you guys are gonna see a huge quality difference in my videos once I get this camera set up because I really want to make this a lot more professional and not rely on using my phone anymore that's what I was saying okay I get so many countless countless countless messages even a lot of them in my consults where girls are saying you know how do I get him to start doing more for me because I started out so low maintenance and now that I'm demanding more and I want to do more things he doesn't want to do it and I really hate to be the bearer of bad news but of course I would love to tell you oh do this do that he'll do it but it really is not that simple if you always require minimal to low effort why should he after getting all the benefits from you all of a sudden reroute his direction to try and impress you already he already got what he wanted he's already been getting what he wants what he wanted or he's he's already getting what he wants so when you kind of put that demand on a guy all of a sudden it makes him feel like you're switching up on him which in a weird way you kind of are because you suppress what it is that you actually really wanted and desired and what you actually really required and you settled for less and now you want to come out your shell and you want to be you and you want to experience different things and have nice experiences this person doesn't feel like he needs to rise to the occasion he doesn't feel like he needs to and in his defense right why should you pay for something that you've always been getting for free why should you pay full price for something that you've always been getting discounted do you understand what I'm saying so it's very hard near impossible I want to even go as far as saying arguably to all of a sudden reroute and that person rises to the occasion the issue is when you start putting these demands down you know and I say demands loosely like you're not like being bossy and mean when you try to have new experiences and try to you know up thinking you know the game a little bit he doesn't want to rise to the occasion and it's bothering you now that's why you don't start out low maintenance be yourself be yourself why because who you are is going to come out anyway and this is another thing I want to add be careful of being so impressed by someone's minimal effort and this is the issue the more successful the guy the easier it is for him to impress someone right arguably so if you have someone that has impressed you in a way that no one else ever has their minimal could be very much okay for you because you're not used to that level of minimal because it seems like a lot that is where things get dangerous especially specifically when it comes to dating affluent men that's where the issue lies because they're minimal is to the average person sometimes a lot or can be perceived as a lot especially when it's a brand new experience for you each guy's version of minimal effort will be different and of course that depends on multi factors so you should date a provider because if you are traditional in this sense of relationships it's just this cut-and-dry men protect profess provide women are nurturers men are supposed to be providers this goes back to the caveman days right where women were choosing you know men based off of how strong they were which mattered because they had to hunt animals and bring food to the table and then the woman's job was to prepare whatever was brought to the table am I making sense and then also woman were selecting men based off of how physically you know strong they looked as well because then that made them want to produce offspring with them because then it would carry on that man's genes so if a man back in that caveman days was strong and and very and they felt protected you know the woman felt very protected and you know they were able to she felt like he would be a good candidate to have offspring with and to provide you know for her and you know their future family his appearance and ability to bring you know food to the table and hunt and gather solidified her decision in how well she felt like that person could provide for her and her future offspring you should date a provider also because arguably in society everyday life women have more stress than men okay you have to you have children sometimes you have to take care of the kids you have to keep up with your appearance you have to deal with the you know your body changing from carrying a human being for nine months and then after you know kind of getting back into shape and feeling good about yourself all these things you know cooking taking the kids to school being a mother is a very sacrificing job I'm not even a mother and I understand that concept simply as a woman it's a sacrificing job while trying to maintain your own life which arguably you don't even have your own life sometimes some people it really is a choice and just maintaining you know you know just a life that's desirable and fill all the while maintaining being desirable for your husband so you don't need the stress the last thing you actually need is the stress of paying bills taking care of the kids who's gonna pick them up after you get off of work you're running late from work you're working overtime less you cannot be your best with all of these other pressures no matter how genuinely hard you try no matter how hard you try you cannot be your best with juggling all of these things besides the basics of life in society you need to be provided for that you can effortlessly be the best person you can be be the best mom that you can be be the best hands-on mom that you can be can take pride in your appearance have your you know a healthy lifestyle and you want to be able to effortlessly do this because you don't have to worry about the stress of meeting a guy halfway helping him do his job he's not helping you do your job what's happening here and then also this because of these everyday normal stresses that are a part of life woman age faster than men do I didn't make this up so with that being said the last thing that you really do need to be worrying about is meeting him halfway as you juggle a million other things and taking care of the both of you guys kids love has highs and lows right it's not always going to be a honeymoon phase that's obvious to any mature situation there will be a time where you guys have to do different things to spice things up let's say you just want to take a spontaneous vacation somewhere you know go out of the country oh but if you're working and not by choice I'm saying if you're working and it's not by your choice and you have all these stress all the stress on you and you have to worry about okay like I don't have anyone to watch the kids and they're supposed to be in daycare here and I don't wanna you know I want to make sure that I'm using up as much daycare days as possible because I do have to you know come out of pocket for it and I just I can't go on vacation because I don't like my body I don't like how I look I mean what am I even gonna wear like all of these things you're going to start taking into account and you can't even do something as simple as going to vacation go on a weekend getaway with your husband because that's when it starts to highlight all the flaws when you can't just at the you know drop of a dime decide to do something to just give yourself a little break okay you should be able to you know enroll your children in the best school if that's what you desire support their you know activities if they want to get into sports and and or dance or both all of these things you don't want to struggle to have to be able to do that and then you just rip the kids dream from them because or their activity or hobby from them because mommy and daddy can't afford it anymore you know like that's just hurtful to a kid and it's in it and it will have an impact on the dynamic of you and your relationship you know why I just changed the angle for the lighting the number one of the number one reasons why couples get divorced is over finances oh yeah it's a real thing so this is why I also speak about being intentional about the life that you want to create for yourself especially when it comes to bringing life onto this earth you don't want to have to stress and struggle over you know something that's supposed to be a joyous experience and yes money has money comes with its own set of issues too but that just boils down to you you know each individual because I would much rather cry in a Bentley than anything else I'm just saying like I don't know I don't know about you everyone likes nice things why can't you have it why do you not think that you deserve it you are worthy of these things you deserve to have these things if it is a desire of yours everyone's desire is different okay one girl could be perfectly content with you know having you know a simple farmhouse and having a lot of land and she likes that simple lifestyle another girl can be content with just having a decent sized home that's an arbitrary thing as well and just you know being comfortable she doesn't necessarily want to be you know super wealthy or anything like that she doesn't mind you know not driving super luxury cars and then you have other people who like myself and I want when I was like I love the best of the best of everything that's what genuinely fuels me and genuinely makes me happy for myself not even for other people I like these things because I like these things for Asia do you understand and I think if there's a stigma around people that enjoy nice things as well or that enjoy luxury things there seems to be this negative stigma basically that people that enjoy that type of lifestyle you know tend to be very insecure and they have to have all these things to sort of mask or cover up some sort of deep insecurity within themselves and that's not always the case is it the case sometimes well duh of course why because everything is circumstantial a lot of things are arbitrary however that's not the case for a lot of people right so whatever your definition may be of being provided for don't stop until you get that do not settle do not try to dim your light down so you can make someone feel comfortable because when you try to jump out of your shell and you try to just be you and you want the things that you want you're always going to feel unsatisfied because this person he won't rise to the occasion so don't put yourself in a predicament where someone is incapable of doing these things for you or simply incapable because they just don't want to because they didn't have to do in the beginning okay and then you dig yourself a hole because this person simply just doesn't want to do what you want and give you what it is that you desire and you've already invested so much so I just wanted to drop this video by you ladies okay as a thought provoking video I want you guys to actually think about especially my young ladies out there and you and you don't have children yet or anything like that if you were in a relationship where you feel stuck because you want certain things and you're frustrated because the person you want to give you these things just doesn't want to do it or finds an excuse to not do it all the time it sucks but you have to understand that they're not they're just not if you presented a window for them to rise to the occasion and they have countless times decided not to show up that's an answer and it's not easy but you guys know I always say you got to force yourself because you're never going to feel like leaving you're not going to wake up one day and say huh yes today's the day where I leave you in the dust oh yes no it's not gonna happen you're never gonna feel like it and there is freedom and understanding that you will never feel like it think about what it is that I'm saying there is freedom and understanding that she will never feel like leaving that toxic situation that you will never feel like leaving that guy and you like him so much or you love him so much and you've spent so many years with him you spent so many months with him you're so attached you're there's never going to be a right time okay it's going to get more toxic you're gonna we have more reasons to leave and still find by new ones to stay and that's what it will turn into so if someone is not meeting that simple basic criteria of what it is that a man should do if you are traditional in a relationship sense such as myself then there will be no relationship that's what it is at the end of the day that's how I think that's how I'm going to be for eternity and that's on that so in conclusion my love's I hope that you guys have enjoyed this video thanks for sticking by me and like this like horrible lighting like this is practically shadow lighting above me but it's fine do not forget that I love you and God loves you and I see beautiful angels in my next video

Channel: Asha Christina

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Length: 18min 39sec (1119 seconds)

Published: Tue Aug 27 2019