5 Signs You're in a Rebound Relationship and How to Avoid Them

hello angels what is up what is happening guys welcome back to my channel welcome to my channel happy Friday how is everybody feeling today let's get right on into the things you know let's get the ball rolling here firstly I want you guys to subscribe to this channel if you have not if you were new hello how are you my name is aja christina very nice to meet you welcome to the 18 make sure that your post notifications are turned on so that you are notified every single time that I post I see you guys have been loving the consistency Hey as have I so thank you guys so much for all the amazing feedback next I want you guys to follow me on Instagram that'll be right here and also while you're at it make sure that you are signed up for the a list which is my mailing list okay where I have a free guide that I want you guys to download somebody will in the comments the other day that it was better than the ones that they've paid for that was the ultimate compliment thank you so much and if you don't know now you know I have been doing a quality Queen comment of the day and that comment comes from the last video it serves the purpose more of an ego boost there's usually very little to no interest in the individual and breadcrumb errs breadcrumb errs like to keep everything virtual and this comment is going to come from one of my best friends Angie who said we only cook with bread crumbs we don't entertain them oh yeah I felt this on a cellular level on a spiritual level who's with me without further ado we're gonna jump right on into this topic because I know you want to see it let's jump right into this video five signs that you are being rebounded this is very timely also this was asked by one of my subscribers I love this topic so much so this is for you number one they love bomb you they are in love with you for next to no reason because what do I say make it make sense and everything sort of feels like it's too good to be true and let me let you in on a little secret it's because if that's the feeling that you're getting it's because it is you barely know this guy and he's talking about how perfect you are for him and how you are the one and he's never felt like this before you almost feel like a sounding board for him to project his feelings onto honestly if you find yourself in a situation like this run it's like honestly calm down Chris you're not feeling this way about me you're probably just not over your ex these are probably things that you wish you could say to her number two the connection feels chaotic listen let me explain meaning that it's fulfilling yet empty at the same time this guy seems perfect conveniently like everything you may have wanted and also emotionally available and just so ready willing and open to explore where things are gonna go with you and these types of guys usually want to communicate every 10 seconds like for example they're sending you pictures every five seconds it's honestly it's corny Cory you're corny like okay you're talking to this guy for two weeks every five seconds he's babe I just I just went across like this pizzeria and I just I don't know I just kind of wanted to like show you that like alright cuz I know you love pizza so like I just thought like Oh like why don't I just show you this pizzeria like at this point it's irritating like you're irritating me I'm irritated you have to show me every single thing you see because everything reminds you of me you don't even know me well enough to know anything there's a thousand pizza shops around the world you're trying to correlate a random pizza shop with me and and give it some sentimental value try harder it's corny this is not normal to barely know someone but they have all these grandiose gestures and things that they they're doing for you or things that they're trying to say to you and then in addition to that you've already slept with him yeah it almost feels like this guy is over committing to you and what this does is this makes us feel undeserving of it because it's like hmm I mean of course I think I'm pretty and I think I'm awesome but it's like yeah you could fall in love quickly I suppose but it's been seven days I'm scared um I'm uncomfortable I don't understand where your feelings are coming from they feel unwarranted it's feeling suspicious and I don't like it you know and honestly the reason why you're probably thinking this is because well no all you guys do is sleep together there's no death to any of your conversation and be careful because a lot of these guys that are rebounding you all they want to do all days xxxxX pistol okay that's all I want to do all day long because what they're trying to do is pretend to forge a deep connection with you and sex is a distraction it's a tool of theirs to distract them from actually forming a deeper connection with you we as women are more emotional I've said this a thousand times I will say it again until the day that I die so a lot of things can get mixed up where we feel like well he's really a nice person and even though I feel like he's doing a lot like obviously we really connect because we you know already had sex with each other all this stuff and no girl typically wants to go give her body to this guy because of the dude connection that they have it's quite unique it's never been seen before and then have to start over because you miscalculated and sometimes because that happens we stick around longer because why an investment on our behalf was made and the best investment the best the best one was already made your top card was pulled number three they are bitter over their axe but they insist that they're over it you can tell that they're not so they do things like they post you all the time their Instagram and you're kind of just like this is endearing but I don't know something just isn't right um I appreciate you wanting to show me off because normally what's the story guys guys normally refrain from posting us there we're used to the guys that are oh so secretive and they don't put their business on social media yadda yadda yadda or whatever so this guy he's pulling a new card he's like I'm gonna post yeah and not only am I gonna post you click it it posts you almost every day and then they want to cover it up with the six use of well I mean like what like I'm not trying to hide you like I honestly like I really like you and I've never felt this way before so like why wouldn't I like to show you off like normally guys like when they want to play games like what they normally do is like they don't want to like post girls and like I'm honestly like nothing like that so I don't see no problem with like posting my girl okay okay let me just let me really reel it in let me bring it home I'm seeing this guy once and he legitimately I noticed the first day we met first of all he posted me on his Instagram I didn't like him at that time yet and that's what happens ladies it sneaks up on you be careful beware be cautious and I did find it strange but I just I guess ignored it per se because to be honest I don't tell that many people about my channel especially people that I date I have to figure out some new ways to kind of really implement what it is that I do cuz this is a this is my life this is a part of my life and I shouldn't feel like I have to hide it I gotta work on some things I acknowledge that I digress so he posts me I didn't think anything of it I was like okay I don't really like you that much anyway so you can know what I do you could post me he's like you follow my girl like on Instagram or whatever and I was like hey okay like anything anything of it like I'm probably never gonna see you again so I thought and then I found that a couple of times here and there when we would hang out he would always just be filming a yonder and my leg would be in it my arm would be in it my hair would be in it it's kind of just like what are you proving here what are you proving Peter and wash their facial expressions as they're posting it Oh what what do you mean wash their face what yes watch their facial expressions when they're posting it if they have this vindictive look on their face like when they're posting you know what it is then you know what it is sweetie they are doing this to get back at someone and breaking news it's their ex they're hoping that someone that they mutually follow that was friends with both of them will see it screenshot it Jen literally send it to their act so that their ex can be jealous or whatever the case is like that same guy had the nerve to tell me yeah like my ex's family was like following me and I was like no like I'm not with that ish like I just gotta like block them like for the drama and I was like at that time I still didn't care cuz I what it was it was a bad situation for me I was in a bad place cuz saying out loud it's embarrassing it's what it is happening number four they always compare you to their ex oh yeah you're you're you're already better than my ex you know my ex would never want to just dine in like all she wants to do is just like go out all the time and stuff like that and it's kind of like no one feels comfortable discussing their ex with a brand new person it's kind of just like where's this coming from it's deeper than this or they are so fixated on their ex that they're constantly bringing up memories of their ex to you oh my god it's so funny I was just thinking the other day that me and my ex like honestly like not even that's really matters but you know we're in like the same place and it's kind of funny because like her and I had like our first date here so it's like kind of weird because it's like you're here now and like I don't know like even though I've moved on like completely like it's just like kind of weird it's weird you're weird William you're weird and yes I am an alliteration Queen I think we get that by now Lea these guys are anyway these are honestly sort of gaslighting little things oh but I'm completely over her I'm I'm not emotionally broken yes this line was actually used on me I'm not emotionally broken I am completely ready to move on you know to the next thing because I'm grown and like you know breakups happen like who would be mad over a breakup you you would be mad over a breakup you're mad you're still mad big mad it's written all over your face then they want to end it with the but like honestly that doesn't even matter because like honestly I just want to focus on you babe like I'm here with you right now like I don't want to like waste the time talk about the past I all about the future with you babe gimme a break and pay attention to the emotion body language is a thing it's a real thing pay attention to the emotion that he has when he's talking about his ex guy that I was referencing before when I asked him because clearly I knew something was bothering him baby there was a shark in the watch her I was like oh like what happened I could be your ex forever he's like oh she was I can't even she was crazy like she was so crazy that's uh it's a lot of emotion that I kind of sense there there was a lot said in the body language but it wasn't said in so many words he's sure everything's okay no everything was not okay he was a disaster he is not over his ex who knows if he will be when he will be he's on his own timing bless his heart this is a sidebar when guys are in love with girls they do not get over it think about when you love an individual you don't just get over them instantaneously whether you were forced to break up with them or you had irreconcilable differences or not you don't just get over that people that I love I still love that love never just dissipates it turns into a different type of love where you may not have those strong you know romantic feelings anymore but it there's still a love there and especially if it's a fresh you know sort of situation you're gonna be doing anything you possibly can to think that you're trying to get over someone else gettin under someone else and guys don't really make that sort of connection a lot of the times because they're used to hopping under something else in general so they don't even think that they're moving that much differently when they're actually hopping under someone else to get over someone if that makes sense lastly number five this suddenly lose interest can't keep up the charade can you well this is probably because you don't have much in common anyway come on be honest with me can tell me I'm not gonna tell anyone it's our little secret you don't even like him anyway and you don't even have that much in common honestly I'm not gonna lie to you like I'm guilty of this myself like I get out like I was just like you know like I don't know I kind of just like I don't want to sound a lot of moan a little bit I thought I felt like that see the thing is I know this is right guys but like I can talk to you right I can trust you I thought that I kind of like this guy but like I all of a sudden as strongly as I felt before like I kind of don't feel the same so it's like like what do I do I don't even really know anyway it's like she can you like not tell that so we're gonna go back to the story here yeah you don't have much in common between Netflix thing and chilling and it's not gonna be groundbreaking news that there is no deep connection there's no substance to you guys connection there's no substantial conversation every five seconds the conversation is wow you're so hot honestly I'm so lucky like hmm wow you're just like smokin you're just wow you're just you're just you're just annoying cuz all you're doing right now is complimenting me and I'm not an idiot and it's insulting to my in Philly and Bay oh my god I think that's correct it's insulting to my intelligence that you think that complimenting me every five seconds is going to confuse me and make me feel like oh my god he really likes me he's so sweet he's saying how hot I am oh all the time big whoop I know I'm high come on and guys also I want to note this that our rebounding you they sort of treat the relationship like it's it's an old relationship they don't do new things because they're not trying to start something new whether they are conscious of it or not what they're actually trying to do is get into the routine of what it was that they were used to from the ex so staying at home all day and wanting to stay in because you're not really a going-out type of guy you like never go out and you never drink okay you don't like going out that's not what I heard that's not what I'm noticing okay all right the lies they tell so this sort of dynamic of suddenly losing interest is gonna be a very hot and cold dynamic this is exactly what happened to me very hot and cold mind you you have still been on the fence you haven't really let your emotional guard down because it all feels very what is this that's how it feels really yeah so one day cuz they text you every single day consistently 8 a.m. you know their schedule by now they call you for their lunch break you know what they're doing at every given time it's just information that they offer and they kind of want to solidify this trust with you like I tell you wherever I go I tell you all the things that I do you have no reason to not trust me I'm just an upfront guy and then one day you don't get that good morning text so you wait you wait and you get the text at 3:00 p.m. oh god babe I'm like so like tired today like first of all how are you not at work secondly why you actually sound like you're still in bed what really happened here another drunken episode right what whatever it is it'll make sense and I like to make it make sense so the good morning texts have begin to stop you don't know this yet but I can promise you this this will stop once they mess up and they fall off the train it's very difficult for them to get it get back on they can't keep up with the show anymore it's cancelled they blame it on tiredness due to personal stuff and said that they're sorry for not elaborating on it more they just didn't want to be so negative how is it that all of a sudden you went from being extremely and borderline uncomfortably reassuring and transparent and all of a sudden you're uncomfortable on your own I really actually explaining to me what's going on with you want a deeper level you have no problem being fake deep all that time but now you you don't really actually know how to open up kind of seems like you're emotionally broken all the weird jokes stop you know those jokes honestly I think our babies would be so cute like you were just the prettiest thing I've ever seen like your face is perfect like honestly look at us together we will look so good together because what this does is it subconsciously makes us feel like wow this guy's in it for the long haul like he kind of makes jokes saying like you know like what would our babies look like and we're not used to guys all the time saying these types of things so it's kind of endearing to us because it's feeding our ego but at the same time it is borderline creepy because it's like hey it's only been you know it's less than a month year I don't know whatever the times man is it's still creepy and so you sort of assume that he must be in it for the long haul yes he's kind of creepy but hey maybe he really is just kind of corny and wants a long lasting relationship who knows so you stick around like honestly who even jokes about something like that I'm sorry like are you like a 33 year old desperate woman who thinks her eggs are gonna freeze up and you need to have babies immediately like what is really going on here but all in all everything gets cold they start distancing themselves from you communication gets less and less they start bread crumbing only answering to your Instagram stories sending you means keeping the conversation very artificial now let me get this straight you went from wanting to show me off to all your family and you can't wait for your mom to meet me too you just have a lot going on and you didn't know your schedule is gonna be this busy you you didn't check in with your assistant and you know you forgot that you were always this busy because you were just so taken aback by my beauty and my sudden entry into your life that you didn't realize that well the rest of the year's planned for me already I'm not really sure you know what I have to do I can definitely try and squeeze you in but I'm just like so busy babe like you think I don't want to see you of course I want to see you I want to see you everyday you know like I work and then they know the right thing to say they blame it on family and friends so that you feel like wait if it's your family I'm not gonna ask you to like you know dump your family to like hang out with me I'm not gonna do that I'm not gonna ask you to like did your friends who you've known longer than me like hang out they know you're not gonna pry or you're less likely to pry when they say that or sometimes while they're distancing themselves from you they'll pull the you know I just figured like you like needed some space cuz like you kind of didn't see like you were like really like that into it so like I just kind of wanted to like give you like space because I felt like you know like I don't know if I came off like a little strong in the beginning so like I kind of just wanted to like let you breathe and stuff like that and plus like it's like I'm like hooking up with girls like at the local pub like outside in my car like I'm not doing those things specifically they cannot simply keep up the charade any longer so of course the balls gonna drop and now when it's time to really get to the meat and potatoes and the deep reason for your sudden adoration of me that came on strong just as hot and heavy as he came in he left just a swift and these types of relationships barely honestly my relationships these types of situations are very confusing and this is what happened to me it was just like wait what was the point of that like I liked you what was what happened what like what was that and you sort of start to obsess more about what it wasn't and what it meant as opposed to sometimes the reality is some people just suck because they're hurt hurt people hurt people and it is what they're doing in that time of what they're supposed to be doing which is healing they're going the Vengeance route they're going the numbing route they're drinking every five seconds or try to hook up with this girl hook up with that girl post this girl - and this is what they are doing because they are not actually over their ex their rebounding you and here's how you can avoid these types of things you don't accept any of those things you know when something feels completely off to you and I always tell you guys this lean into your intuition pay attention to what your intuition is telling you pay attention to that there's a reason why it feels uncomfortable there's a reason why everything feels too much and there's a reason why boom he can't keep up the charade any longer and he muddles it in with I'm just going through a lot of you know personal things I don't know I'm just like on my man period became out because that's a thing okay sure I'll give you your time what do you need a week how long does this cycle last next thing you know this cycle is lasting all month and essentially they ghost that's what they do they end up ghosting because you were there to fill a void once they realize oh crap it's actually not working they gotta move on to the next hot and heavy thing because now they are at an emotional stop it's like oh my god this is not as exciting anymore oh my god my posts are not actually going to my ex I'm not hearing any feedback from how jealous my ex is over the new girl that I posted you see where I'm going with this it's just not working so you have to give it up so angels in conclusion do not ever let a guy rebound you don't ever and you know you know now you know when it's happening because if you don't know better you can't do better and if you know better you got to do better you better do better what being said angels do not forget that I love you and God loves you and I'll see you guys in my next video mmm

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Length: 23min 14sec (1394 seconds)

Published: Fri May 08 2020