You Gotta Outwait & Outwit Women

hi I'm coach Corey Wayne this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be why you must outweigh and outwit women if you want to meet date and seduce the type of women you've always wanted or earlier today I was actually talking to two different phone coaching clients of mine and they obviously were struggling with this concept a little bit now the first guy that I was talking to he's very successful very successful business owner he's in his mid-40s and he's one of the girls he's been dating as a girls I think she's 22 years old so she's really young and so he's hanging out hooking up with her sleeping with her and the two of them are both very open about the fact that he's dating and sleeping with other women and she's dating and sleeping with other men and one of the things that she keeps telling him is that he's basically she says you're too old for me you know when I get to be your age you'll be much older and you know if we're gonna start a family and have kids I don't want you dying before me which is understandable and so basically the point being is that she still is sleeping with them even though she says that she says you're too old for me and yet she still sleeps with him so he's doing a lot of things right with her but the problem is is that mentally she's think she's got an idea in her head of what she wants but because my client is doing enough things right with her emotionally her heart has overruled her head well last week when I was talking to him she's been basically backing away because obviously the more he's been dating her the more he's getting into her and the more he wants to be around her and the problem is is that he's too easy he's too available and he's pursuing too much because I talked to hit this particular client once a week and he just pursues too much I always say a good rule of thumb is 70 to 80% of the pursuing you want it to be done by the woman why because if she's chasing you she can't be getting rid of you and that's the best way inhale and I in what I teach is is when a woman contacts you I mean think about it this way why do women spend all the time putting war paint on or makeup or going to getting their nails done or spending two hours getting their hair done or going to the tanning salon or trying on five different [ __ ] outfits before you come and pick her up for the date or you meet her out someplace for the day or when she's sitting there talking to you and she's playing with her hair she's twirling around her fingers or she calls you or she texts you these are all signs that she likes you and she's hoping like when women call you they're hoping that you'll take the initiative and make a date but what most guys do is they sit and they talk in the phone forever until she gets bored and ends the conversation because they're so happy to be talking to her but what they don't realize is they're actually talking her right out of having a day with him why because they told her everything that's going on in their lives so why should she get together for a date when she already knows what they've been doing the past week so what I teach and what I learned when I was figuring this stuff out from the people that taught me was that you use the foot it's just like in sales if you happen to be in the sales business the phone texting email all that stuff is simply to set up a date not to give out information not to have a relationship not to have a phone ship with somebody the bottom line is you have a relationship with someone by actually being with him face-to-face and so what I told my client to do is like last week I told him to back off and do nothing just wait until you hear from her well by Friday I talked to them every Tuesday and three days later he could take anymore he texted her to see if she wanted to meet out for happy hour because that's usually with what he does he'll text her and she'll meet him out well the problem is is that her interest level has been dropping as his interest levels been going up and he's just simply has not been exercising enough self-control to hang back and outweigh her enough and give her the space for her feelings in her interest level to slowly rise instead it's just like putting a cake in the oven and then opening the door before it's done and it just totally deflate not only is a cake deflate but deflates the sexual tension when you do which is basically what he's doing in the relationship and since she's dating other guys in her own age she feels hey I can always call him and hit you know he'll because he's called her for different time or for different occasions over the past weekend he's tried to get her together and do something and she's turned him down without naming a counteroffer and a counteroffers basically when you ask a woman out and you say oh how about Wednesday and she say well I can't Wednesday I'm busy and she doesn't say anything she doesn't give a counter offer a counter offers basically when you say when she says I can't do it Wednesday but how about Thursday I'm free at 7 or whatever women help you when they like you and so these are subtle things that you need to be listening for when you're talking on the phone to a woman or you're trying to set a date or you're texting and so well I've told my client is like you keep doing what you're doing and you're going to get to the point where she'll just stop returning your phone calls and your text and you'll completely blow it or she'll give you the let's just be friends speech and so my other client he's a very successful and he's got three or four different women that he's hanging out and hooking up with but he's got this one gal that he's known for a while and this is known her before since before we I started coaching him so he did a lot of things wrong with her in the beginning and so what he's but he overthinks things and I what you got to do is you simply want a woman contact you is she just your job as a man is just to simply create an opportunity a romantic fun-filled opportunity for sex to happen and in this particular case he's hung out gone gone to dinner a lot of times with this girl but he's afraid that if he invites her over like he does with the other women he's just hanging out and hook it up with the friends with benefits so to speak that she'll say no I was like dude you're giving yourself blue balls and plus she's dating another or seeing another guy or she's seeing other men I should say I was like it's [ __ ] irrelevant when she's not with it's like I always say is my life so drama-free zone and I don't care about the other guy that you're dating or the boyfriend that you're still kind of seeing that you broke up with because my attitude is I don't have any competition you know I always just say things like hey you know I don't care about him he can keep you busy when you're with me I mean the bottom line is if you're doing everything right she's going to eventually blow those other guys off and choose only you anyways and so in this case with a second client of mine I was like dude you're overcomplicating things she's calling and she's texting you and then you're taking her out to dinner and then you're not going anywhere else with that I was like this point you've known this gal for six months or longer it's like all you have to do is just invite her over do the same thing to do with the other girls invite her over to say grab a bottle of wine and come on over we'll run to the store and grab some food to cook with or grab a bottle of wine I'll have some hors d'oeuvres at the house and we'll just hang out and have a good time because they go out together they usually end up getting trash together anyways and then end up having to take a taxi home so like just however come over to your place and she gets a little tipsy and then you guys car full around just like you do with the other woman and it ends up the bedroom the key is you got to treat all women the same in a big mistake guys make is they treat women that they like differently than the ones that they're kind of so so with and so if you treat them all the same if you have kind of the same system then you set it up to where you got two or three different women coming over every week they come over to hang out of your house you hang out you hook up maybe they stay the night maybe they don't and then you just keep dating and having fun until you meet a woman that just totally not your [ __ ] socks off and who feels the same way about you in the meantime you just have a really great time until you meet that one special lady and so it's a dance it's an art just keep that in mind with when a gal contacts you set the date get the [ __ ] off the phone and say I'll perfect I'll see you then make definite plans I'll put some links on this page to some other articles that are really useful that will help you set a definite date so she doesn't break it and so if you 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Channel: Coach Corey Wayne

Views: 639,174

Rating: 4.8672366 out of 5

Keywords: You, Gotta, Outwait, Outwit, Women

Id: 3n8GpAl4AxQ

Length: 10min 34sec (634 seconds)

Published: Tue Dec 06 2011