Why do men push you away then beg you back?

hey tony guys here now listen don't give me no lip now i'm still in the bed i work from the bed today you know i just feel a little tired being out there in that sun for them seven days and came right home went down to miami you know to the fight and you know that was a drive down there four five hours four five hours so uh i'm feeling a little tired today but i coached two clients today did a little bit of work sent out an email letting people know it's the last day to sign up for the growth group the growth group is on tonygaskinsacademy.com where it's just a group coaching experience that i'm going to be doing hopefully for the rest of my life for the rest of my brand and it'll just build it'll just build and the more people it get the bigger it get and we'll break it up based on the first letter of your last name if we have to you know if it get big and we got to say hey people who last name start with a through g we having a call on tuesday h through m we having a call on wednesday and if we get big enough to where we could you know have us a little seminar with 50 people or 100 people annual conference then that's what we'll do so go to tonygastonacademy.com you could join the growth group and if you don't have a life coach or what it would cost at work with a coach every month is too much then you could join the growth group for that now i want to pop in and do this here video because i i received this question a lot and i try to do the q and a's on instagram but it's a little draining because i i answer the questions kind of short and direct and i'm talking to the person who asked it but sometimes a lot of people don't understand it and then i get all these replies from people uh what does this mean what did that mean listen listen i ain't doing no one-on-one coaching this this is a q a where i'm answering the question for everybody but one of the questions i see a lot of times is you know why does a guy push you to the edge push you to the edge make you break up with him and then he want to be with you you know what's the issue why does this happen and with that i always have to remind you is this what you have to understand with me and the way we do things and i'm giving this here game away to further help level the playing field but see now what you have to understand with men is what's happening is a man we always want as humans we want the path of least resistance nobody's nobody comes and say hey i want my journey to being a ceo to being an entrepreneur i want my journey to be as hard as it possibly can be nobody says that so when a man goes into a relationship no man says hey i want my pathway to you know getting my wife or being married i want it to be as hard and as strict as it possibly can be no man says that instead what the man wants is and when i say man yes i'm speaking of grown boys too but just go for just men and they go for humans in general too you know it this it really is a human thing too you know what you got to realize and understand it's a human thing too because it's like this right here my wife don't cook every day my wife don't cook every day my wife don't clean every day it's some women in the world that they cook and they clean every day it's on women who cook every day and you know why they cook every day because their husband ain't gonna have no less than them cooking every day they husband's gonna be like listen i need a home-cooked meal get in there and cook me a meal so guess what she gonna get in there and cook him a meal because that's what her man requires that's what her man require see me i don't require that so if my wife don't cook i'm not gonna get on and be like hey you ain't cooking no dinner around here making a living around here trying to earn me your money and you didn't cut no down and so what she doing right now she she went to get a facial or something and um she on the way home and you know what i just did and i told y'all about this now me personally i go broke to live i go broke to live i just bought us some flights to the maldives to the maldives i just bought those flights i ain't bought the hotel yet and we ain't got nowhere to stay yet but i know we going over there um when we going at the end of july so listen i got to work i got to work with some overtime i'm gonna have to be out here on the corner selling some oranges selling some mangoes i'm gonna be having a moment some lawns and cuz listen but i got lil so she i get her facial she on the way home that's what i'm doing i'm booking up some flights she on the way home i said baby i want some sushi her mama cooked today her mama cooked for us and she brought home the food for us it was some steak with some great onion gravy with some broccoli and with some seasoned potatoes sliced up that thing was good i ate that now but i'm still hungry so i said bear with a little bit of sushi so she say order i pick it up i'm not down my wife's throat oh you need to be cooking you need to cook it's tuesday you ain't cooking all the tools but some men gonna do that so guess what my wife she has a life to where she helped run our business but she ain't running it right now you know it's a whole lot of emails still got to be answered if you email in you ain't got no answer gotta wait till my wife get in there okay and so she ain't work and but she get paid on friday that because i don't require more because it's my wife that's not no i'm not a drill sergeant she's not my slave she ain't my worker that's my wife we got kids she got that privilege if she's a worker that's going to be different i'm going to talk to a little different right now i've got to get going but that's my wife so what you have to understand this is human nature so if my wife say hey i can get paid on friday and i ain't got to sit down and answer emails every single day that's exactly what she gonna do if i'm pitching a fit and i'm getting mad every day about the emails not being answered then she gonna answer the emails you see what i'm saying so i'm i'm painting this picture so you understand it ain't just men it's humans if you go into work late tomorrow and you get that 8 30. nobody say nothing to you guess what you coming in 8 30 the next day you post be there at 8 o'clock you're coming in at 8 30 next day anytime you get hung up in a little bit you finish show up 8 30 if nothing happening now you show up 8 30 you get an unexcused tardy to work and your job has a policy you get three of those you get rolled up you get another one then you get suspended without pay you get another one you get terminated guess what you showing up at eight so this is what you got to understand by the relationship and when you're dealing with old man a man is going to test you and he gonna try you and he gonna push you all the way to the point of break up and then whatever you dealt with up until the point of breakup that's what he going when he begs you back now he knows or assumes what he can get away with until you ready to throw in the towel so that's what you have to understand so when you get to that place this is what you gotta understand my wife i came in late she said uh but this ain't gonna fly so that let me know i can't say i'm going to the club or i'm going here there i'm gonna be home at midnight and then come back at uh what time you know what i need to open this little piece of mail y'all forgive me because i have to do it right while i'm thinking about it because i got off here and forgot and okay now what do i want okay all right oh okay inspire june 30. okay yeah let me go ahead and do that get on here y'all forget i needed to open that right while i was thinking about it because i don't forgot your tag renewal and so now let's tim and i so when my wife checked me for coming in late that let me know okay can't get away with that we got into a disagreement i went to raise my voice she shut me down don't yell at me don't talk to me like that that let me know i can't raise my voice so two months three months into dating i'm questioning her where you at who you at where you at what you want to show me the camera whatever i'm asking all these questions she said you know what i think we need to take a break i'm like huh she broke up with me that let me know i can't be insecure i can't be jealous i can't be controlling so in the first round of dating she let me know i can't come in the house late i can't yell at her get loud with her i can't be questioning her like she my daughter she checked me and then she broke up with me so when i got her back when we got back together six months later i knew what i couldn't get away with but but look at the message that is sent to me what it let me know is if i can't yell everybody yell everybody get in the argument and want to yell if i can't yell at this woman how am i going to get away with cheating on her if i can't go out to the club and come back in at three o'clock in the morning five o'clock in the morning i'm going to get my little piece of behind from somewhere i'm not because i can't stay out all night because i can't even come in late so if i can't yell if i can't question him and control her if i can't go out and stay out to the time i want to be out i definitely am not going to get away with cheating on them putting hands on them doing nothing to her they want to hear all i get away with is cool calm and collected conversation giving my word and keeping my word being honest trustworthy reliable lovable being kind nice not controlling which what are those things those things are a decent human being so all my wife will accept is me being a decent human being and treating her like she is a decent human being she's not gonna accept any grown boy behavior any savagery any nastiness any disrespect so when she broke up with me three months in after checking me on a few things and then breaking up with me it let me know she ain't fooling up with it and that's what she went back to her ex because he bagged her back she went back to her ex i went back to my ex i went back to my ex and my wife my ex let me do her worse than i did her in the first two years we was together my wife went back to her ex and her ex tried her like a baser and she broke up with him in two months and then she was single for four months and then me and her reconnected and whoever she was talking to at that time they got cut off and i had went back to my ex and when i bumped back into my wife and i realized that she was gonna give me she would allow me a second chance i broke up with my ex because i never wanted her to begin with i was just with her it was a thing of convenience it was just to have somebody so that i wouldn't be alone i called and said we done how many times have that happened that happened all the time to women to where you put up with a man and you let him dog you out mistreat you do all of this to you and then he break up with you and he go get with somebody else and then he'll come back to you you take him back he dog you out some more and he break up with you again i did that that's how i know the game i was a grown boy i did the worst of the worst that's how i know the game and that's why i give away the game so you don't have to go through this because all that do is it break down society it break down our women it break down our household and break down our family and then our children are being raised by broken women and broken men and so when i got my wife back i knew what i couldn't get away with and so by me operating and living inside of what i could do that made our relationship pure and healthy and that's why we've been married over 14 years now and we're 100 happy and when my wife out getting a facial i'm at the house booking flight to the maldives because i'm in love and i want to fly on that plane for them 30 hours looking on her face rubbing her feet and i want to get over there for them for five nights we gonna be there and i wanna be over there spending that good time you hear me because i'm in love so that's what i want you to understand like a man the reason why he push you push break do all this till you cheat on you do it everything that he trying to do because he want to see how much you'll put up with so that's why you got to shut it down when he yell at you you got to shut that down when he lied to you the first time you got to shut it down when he cursed at you when he go out and he don't show up he don't call he don't come in at night you got to shut it down because the earlier you walk away the faster you break up with him in the beginning the faster you walk away to where he don't know if you gonna or not he just know you said you know what we need to take a break you know what we done and you going about your business the faster you cut him off in the beginning the less he could get away with and the more he gonna do and the more he gonna do for you to be with you and to do right and to be right because now you show him you ain't gonna put up but when you let a man knock you down and drag you out when you finally leave him five years in and you'd have been cheated on ten times five times three times how many times he didn't put hands on you he did everything now you show him that he could come back and as long as he bring you up for air right before he drowned you you gonna be fine because you let him strain you all the way out you got to show him up front from the goat what ain't gonna fly and then he know how not to try you so that's why when women say tony why does a man do all this wrong and then when you break up with him that's when he all wants you back and he begging and pleading and crying and snot not the nose and all it is and it's because he a man want to test you and push you all the way to your edge so he know how far he can go and what all he can get away with so that for the rest of his life he knows how much he can do and when he got to shut it down and turn it off before you before you lose your wits about you and before you go off so that's why you get that treatment and that's why he try to act right after you break up with him after you go on about your business and so you have to look and see what have you put up with and if what you've put up with is too much if it's cheating beating if it's all of that right there it's not worth going back if you cut him off early to where you only had to put up with a little bit of little nonsense little petty stuff before you walked away then it's worth a second chance because you don't send him a message that's so real that's so raw that's so direct that he like okay i got to come all the way correct this woman ain't with no games that's what you got to understand hey this is tony gaskin god bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

Views: 54,640

Rating: 4.9479828 out of 5

Keywords: Why do men push women away, Why does he want you back, Why do men leave and come back

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Length: 17min 5sec (1025 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 09 2021