What's It Like to Be in Love With a Sociopath?

have you ever been romantically involved with a sociopath aspd diagnosed if so is it actually a traumatizing experience what is it like i am not nor have i ever been in a romantic relationship with my brother i misread the post my twin brother things happened when we were little i wouldn't have linked up then but i most certainly do now as twins we have viviously got two of everything he destroy his take mine and then say i destroyed mine to get his thing because it was better somehow he hugged the family cat so hard it panted when he let go every time once he mysteriously found the cat with a broken leg and decided not to tell my mom he was just constantly trying to cause chaos pinning everyone in the house against each other he would start argument seemingly for the fun of it and he'd always find a way to slip into the background while we screamed at each other his worst offense was when he cut himself on the leg with a razor and told my mom dad had made him do it my parents nearly got divorced because of him then they did for other reasons he told me a while later he lied about it all he liked doing that freaking things up and only telling me i was branded as a liar for most of my childhood and no one really trusted anything i said because of him so he took all the more delight in confiding in me because he knew what it would do he lives with my dad now and i haven't spoken to him in four years but i have a fun story if people ask who the evil twin is i guess your edit made me laugh thanks he was a classic into animal torture and stuff like that the way he got to talk endlessly about animal torture was by pretending he felt bad for it and looking for sympathy i can't believe i did x and why i feel so bad he kept mentioning it so much he thought it was funny when me or the baby had pain at one point he told me that it was so long ago that by now i should also think it was funny that he had gotten my blood and pieces of my flesh on him he said that me having empathy was proof that i was mentally ill because empathy doesn't exist you just learn in your teens that there's consequences for being bad to other people he also said that nobody cares about women they're like steak in the supermarket and that when he saw a woman in the streets he thought about violating them he is incredibly charismatic and the police said that i made a false report he is still harassing me through the legal system yes he admitted his diagnosis proudly at least to me he was very troubled i was only with him eight months but those eight months were the worst of my life he seemed happy to discover i didn't have stable housing asked if he'd like to move in i said no so he started causing problems with the people i was crashing with i didn't realize this till later that he was the one that got me kicked out once i had no choice but to stay with him hotels or the streets he laughed and said he is breaking his lease maybe if i did what he said faster it'd be able to stay but that i could sleep in his basement he would do weird crap like that making me wait outside of bars his job his friend's houses was a big thing he'd make me do especially if the weather was poor when he drank it was even worse id sleep in the bathroom if he was on liquor to get away from him if i didn't head strangle me when he blacked out he's wanted for killing a girl in another country now no clue where he is but he'll randomly get contacted by him it's been yours but he still contacts me all he says is i love you once he got into my email and changed my name to i love you i know 100 it's him i've seen and been through a lot of fricked up crap in my life it is what it is but that man takes the freaking cake for the most awful experience in my entire life there are people i meet or see on tv that have the same exact look in their eyes or voice pattern at him despite looking nothing like him i avoid those people like the plague or grand to turn the tv off it's like they over enunciate certain points of words yet have a monotone voice the letter t especially like they're parroting a human not actually one one thing he always did was watch youtube videos and practice in the mirror on how to look happy sad concerned it was insane everyone thought he was the greatest guy on earth his mother tried to warn me that he'd kill me fricked up please consult a professional if you believe you or an ex-loved one etc has aspd diagnosing a serious mental illness yourself is not healthy and further pushes misinformation and stigmas it seems a lot of people think narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder are the same thing as well yes i dated a narcissistic sociopath it was terrible and left permanent scars it took time but i realize now that everything was a lie well his name was correct but what he thought felt did his plans and his history i know none of those things he is a complete stranger and i never knew him at all i'm doing fine now although once in a while i stop and shake my head because i feel so goddamn dumb my ex is a walking illusion he was whatever he needed to be at the moment to real in his victim even after i filed for divorce it wasn't until i heard the pathological lizard he'd told his new girlfriend that i realized it there wasn't any diagnosis but i was casually with a guy who was sending up some pretty serious red flags and it suddenly clipped that he was a sociopath no empathy would absolutely lie to people's faces huge plans that went nowhere nothing was ever his fault rules before other people when i drifted away from him or hung out with someone else he would start putting lots of effort in again and of course there was the cheating lying etc etc luckily for me i had recognized it early and i realized i needed to be careful about how i went about detaching myself from him so here is what i did and hopefully it can help someone i never actually broke things off with him or told him we were done obviously this only works if you're casual but maybe some variation could work so an example would be that when he asked me for something i knew he wanted it right then so whenever he contacted me to ask for something i'd say sure that sounds great i get off of work in three hours and i'll come right over with whatever he wanted after that he'd say no never mind i'd act like i was disappointed about it so he thought he had successfully punished me he thought i was still on the hook i'd do this over and over until he stopped thinking of me as someone he could get things from it took a while and a lot of acting upset when he would berate me or snap at me i specifically remember sitting in his room while he yelled at me about where i put my purse down thinking okay remember v this is very upsetting looks sad but it did work without him going to any extremes and we lived in the same building so it was hard to just avoid him altogether obviously your mileage may vary i dated a guy who wanted total control 24 stroke 7. i got sick a lot and had a lot of medical tests because they couldn't figure out what was wrong i got really boring and too sick to go anywhere so he broke it off yep by far the hardest experience of my life was with him for nearly a year six years ago still working on recovery today tried to separate me from my friends and family made me feel responsible for him emotionally and financially one of the first things he did after about a week of dating was convinced me to pay for his 400 phone bill so he could have his phone switched back on and stay in contact with me that was only the beginning i lost all self-worth by the end i felt completely crazy it's insane what prolonged exposure to gaslighting will do to a person i ended up dropping out of uni because he would sabotage me at every turn i'll never forget when i was working on a major project and he would keep walking past me calling me a freaking bee and spitting on my piece i was the only one working and supporting two people on a crap hospitality wage is hard enough then add in about a 300 a week weed addiction if he didn't have it he would lose his crap throw things smash things etc it was safer for me to keep him high and in turn i smoked a crap load to escape the reality of the situation i finally got out when i found that he had had prostitutes in the house and in my bed i finally open up to my friends what had been happening and they got me out of there it was fricked up but i try to see it in a positive light i've learned and gained massive self-esteem since this happened and i find i can easily detect sociopathic and narcissistic personalities not people now i still get super triggered by things especially males yelling or showing aggression i still get annoyed at myself for breaking down in these situations but each time it happens i feel myself healed just that little bit i see it as a wound reopening but then the scar tissue builds up making me stronger each time sorry for such a long rant seeing this question hit me and feels good to get a bit of the stuff off my chest i don't imagine that it's common for sociopaths to get diagnosed as such they tend to live in denial they don't think they have issues worth exploring yes i dated one and it was the most traumatic experience of my life by the time it was over multiple years i had no idea who he was that's what it's like i was a married to one it was traumatizing we had a child and he cheated while i was pregnant with a woman i specifically said i don't trust her please avoid being alone with her when she joined my group other friends basically invited her in he was verbally and mentally abusive he told me no one would want me because i was a young single mom so i may as well come home and just let him cheat with whoever he felt like cheating with i moved across the country to escape his insanity the best way i learned to deal with him is to ignore him and not give a crap it messed with his ego big time he really doesn't know how to deal with someone who actually gives zero shots about him he would try to tell me about whatever was going on in his life and i'd say why are you telling me this i don't care don't speak to me unless it's about our son he kidnapped my child during a visit because our divorce was final in our home state nothing could be done it took me two years of fighting to win full soul custody of my son who is now grown and doesn't have much to do with his dad there is of course a lot more to the story psychological warfare and such he tried to make me think i was going crazy when i started to become suspicious he tried to torture me for 18 years i haven't spoken to him in five years and i feel free he has been told if he so much as tries to speak to me at events for my son graduation college graduation military basic training graduation that i will walk away i have nothing to say to the man and he has nothing to say to me my son learned on his own what type of person his dad is and is remarkably well adjusted and full of empathy minus the kidnapping i am dealing with the same exact scenario i'm sorry you dealt with this but i am happy your son saw his father's true colors and you have escaped them traumatic i'm in therapy but i'm scared of people now i don't know if i want to get married or have kids i beat myself up for it because there were so many signs he was a sociopath but i still wanted him even after a few years we first broke up i ended up catching herpes he never cared about me and only cared about himself he used me i get really mad at myself when i think about it even typing this out my anxiety is slightly hitting me i learned that i was in love with the idea of being in love and that my self-esteem was so low it's probably going to be a long time before i trust people again one of my biggest fears is falling into that again even worse not leaving i'm thankful that i have family and friends so that helps me i don't feel alone i feel love all the time reading this was a stab in the heart gosh that sounds like absolute heck praying that you have a steady recovery don't beat yourself up so much over it after several relationships with toxic people i learned and quote often that once you see someone through rose-colored glasses all the red flags just look like flags was married to one for four years definitely would not repeat the level of delusion is unreal and trying to get him to understand someone else's pain trying to get him to see how his actions were fricked up was like trying to force a colorblind person to differentiate red and green his vast lack of empathy was unyielding not even his therapist could make progress and requested to meet with me for help in getting through to him he truly lives in a fictional world where he can do no wrong and it's freaking terrifying i moved a thousand miles away first chance i got my first boyfriend told me on our first date that he was a sociopath and i don't feel anything but i sure know i like you and because i was 16 and naive i completely fell for it eq being manipulated into freaking telling him i struggled with my relationship with food and body image only to be told i was fabby afterwards and all the exhausting mind games even through all of that and more i still utterly adored him and repressed all of my instinctual feelings that were telling me to leave something i still feel dumb about i honestly think i was just a toy for him to manipulate and hurt something he made sure to tell me about after our relationship ended the way his face would change from loving to like someone i didn't know was kind of terrifying really it all fricked me up pretty badly and i still find it hard to trust people comma the way his face would change from loving to like someone i didn't know was kind of terrifying really that's his mask slipping i was with a man who was never diagnosed so i can't say for certain but even being with someone who had the potential to be was traumatizing i also had a therapist who said he most likely had antisocial personality disorder and i told her very little about him he had me under his control for almost 10 years i had no friends in college because he made me believe he was my entire world he made me feel physically inept so that there were things i was unable to do with later partners he told me he loved me even though it was something he could not feel because he knew it was something that would make me even more easy to manipulate he slept with countless women when we were together and then led me to honestly believe it was my fault if i even spoke to other men we got in a fight he got me to let him read my journals and then was mad that he made me so depressed i got pregnant and he asked if he was really the father my relationship with my fiance ended because he made me believe i was still in love with him i felt bad about myself for a long time because i'll let him treat me so poorly and get away with so much but the more i read and researched i knew it was not me i grew as a person and worked on everything holding me down and now he means nothing to me i don't hate him want him or wish to go back in time i feel nothing and it is the most liberating thing i have ever experienced i wish the best for you i can't imagine what trauma you experienced hopefully you will find your soulmate who treats you as a human being okay i have never been romantic relationship with a sociopath i am not here to share a story per se i was reading through the comments and most of these characteristics of a sociopath mentioned in them i exhibit nearly all of them when i was young i felt to torture small insects i don't feel empathy and love to me doesn't isn't a feeling but a set of actions but i haven't caused such problems as given in the comments even though i feel kinda angry if my friend talks to anyone else but i keep it with myself and nowadays i don't feel angry a lot i have also made people fight each other when i was younger i never find myself having any sort of emotions and social gatherings everyone else would be like it's so fun and i never felt that kind of emotion but i don't feel like i would commit a crime cause i live on principles and recently i feel like i have started developing genuine feeling and concern for others these comments really made me see through myself and now i have a very serious problem i am genuine worried if i would grow into a serious problematic individual my friend really tries very hard to make me go to social gatherings and enjoy my life like others i have told her a million times i display some of the common sociopathic symptoms and she just tends to take it as a joke and honestly most changes in me is due to her but now i am concerned if i would harm her cause if i ever get angry on her my mind starts making plans not to hurt physically but to hurt her emotionally and stuff and i have been able to stop myself from executing that i don't want to hurt her so does anyone here know what i can do all these comments are to be honest freaking me out i have a bit of sanity left i guess and i don't want to do anything crazy is there any sort of diagnosis for this so that i can get treated i'd really suggest going to counseling a counselor has seen similar patients and is able to give you the guidance and tools necessary to help get a handle on the situation i also want to tell you that i dated a man who was a sociopath and he is truly one of the kindest people i've met and treated me very very well he saw a counselor frequently and i know that helped best of luck pal i was with a boyfriend for a year someone i know who is a therapist and was acting as my therapist but knew me and my ex well told me that he was a sociopath i don't believe he was ever diagnosed but that was good enough for me i was 19. he was a year older than me he has a way of talking in circles until i found myself agreeing to things i didn't agree with but not really sure what had just happened gave me whiplash he gaslighted me constantly and made me feel like i was crazy i'd end up apologizing for things i never did the worst was when he tricked me into getting engaged at him i'm not really sure how it happened because the memory is kind of a blur but at the end of the conversation he was like so we are engaged now and i was like hang on what i had no desire to marry him i was too young and i'd already begun to hate him at that point but before i had the opportunity to figure out what was going on and how the heck we had just gotten engaged he announced our engagements to 200 people people were congratulating me and i just felt so hollow and broken inside he ended up moving and that's the only way i got free of him i tried breaking up with him a few times before then but somehow he always made it seem like i had to stay the day he moved i blocked him on everything and swore i'd never talked to him again i still have trauma and i'm triggered surprisingly frequently considering it's been over two years but yeah that's what it's like dating a sociopath this is an interesting question but this post should be tagged as serious so it doesn't get joke responses i will say i do remember a post on our relationship advice made by someone with abd if i recall correctly he pretty much said he was incapable of feeling love for his fiance and he was just with her because his family expected him to get married this was many months ago though so i could be remembering it wrong actually it may have been our amith [ __ ] maybe dig around some search results of those subs and you may at least find some relevant posts to read through i remember one from our amethysal but from a father's perspective he was asking if he would be the butthole if he told his daughter's fiance that she's a sociopath to spare the fiance i had another ex who i truly think was asked at one point he stated that he cannot bond with anyone he had impulsivity he was into brutal freaking he was a kleptomaniac he routinely sharp-lifted from thrift stores and the grocery store he was very interested in scamming people a notable example would be when he purchased an item at a pawn shop took it back claiming that it was broken so that they discounted the price and then had another friend buy at a discount he expressed disgust towards various friends when they acted emotional he clearly thought that he was smarter than all of his friends at one point he said it's fun to interact with kids and figure out ways you can get them to do what you want he was referring to getting kids to do chores but in retrospect he was very interested in controlling and manipulating people in general full stop he stated that he still hated his little brother for taking attention away from him during childhood he was 26 and still upset over his brother being born when he was six he would get extremely upset when anyone disagreed with him on things like planning out camping trips or the meaning of song lyrics he broke the rules of his probation all day every day when i told him that i disliked certain extreme carnal acts because they were painful he stated but i like them as if he really thought that should make it okay to do them he had no respect for any of his friends and made fun of them all behind their backs he was chronically lazy both at work and at home and couldn't be depended on by anyone it's crazy because despite all this he really made me feel happy and alive and sometimes i still miss him so i guess he had sociopathic charm too i found this out recently about someone i dated from their ex the relationship was abusive he gaslighted me all the time put me down called me names loved bringing in racially charged crap into bed revealed in it whenever we had any kind of a toefl he'd shut me out and ignore me for days until i dropped it in fact that's how he ended the relationship by disappearing after two years just gone one day never heard from him again presumably it was because i hung out with a male friend i was younger then but it certainly did a number on me his ex contacted me later and revealed that he had mentioned to her before that he had aspd though from what i understand they're rarely that self-aware anyway turns out he was also a white supremacist who believed in the teared value of the races probably the scariest part was discovering this piece of fiction he had written a couple years ago about owning a 13-year-old girl starving her keeping her on a leash just general terrifying disgusting bulls the premise was a story about a man and his dog how he abuses and neglects the dog but the dog still sits around to get fed it gets quite graphic and at the end of it it's revealed to readers via a cop character that the emaciated dog is actually a small child yep need to work on my radar if you are new to the channel you can subscribe i publish new videos every day until then check another video 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