r/Relationships I Caught My Son In Bed With My Sister!

welcome to our slash relationship advice where op discovers that her boyfriend is a predator i walked in on my son having intercourse with my brother's wife i'm a 44 year old woman and i walked in on my 18 year old son having intercourse with my 34 year old sister-in-law in a cabin and i think they've been doing it for a while my 37 year old brother moved in with us february with his wife and two children my husband and i have a big house on a farm my husband is a farmer and with everyone working from home we thought it would be a good chance to stay together as a family and for my nieces to spend time on the farm i have three children and all of them live with us the oldest is an 18 year old male and the other two are 16 and 13 year old girls on the day my brother arrived i went to buy groceries with my son and he went to the pharmacist to get his gym supplements and i bought the food i saw condoms in my son's plastic bag when we arrived at the house two packs with 36 condoms each so 72 in total i didn't think anything of it because he had gotten a girlfriend and wanted to be safe everything was fine everyone got along with my sister-in-law and my son would go on an early run around the farm everything seemed normal until last month when they left on their run but i was up baking and i never saw them make any rounds around the farm which was weird i asked them about it and they said they decided to hit the road my sister-in-law and son seem to have a very good bond yesterday i was coming back from a friend's house early in the morning the sun wasn't up yet and it was a little dark but i saw that the cabin we have on the farm was open and the light was on i thought maybe one of the employees had forgotten to lock up so i went to close the door and switch off the light and as i got closer i heard people having intercourse and i took a peek and it was my son and sister-in-law i didn't confront them i was so in shock i haven't told anyone what i saw and i don't know what to do should i confront them should i tell my brother should i tell my husband i'm so confused i've been doing a lot of thinking and i'm sure they've been doing it for a while due to the condoms and the morning runs around the farms and then op posted an update as was suggested by many of the comments i decided to tell my husband first and proceed from there my husband lost it he first thought it was a joke we talked about the issue and we decided we should first talk to our son before telling my brother we confronted our son with what i saw and he already knew what was going on as he saw my reddit post and put two and two together he didn't deny anything he confessed he told us that him and his sister-in-law had been having intercourse since february of last year when he was 17. my son said that it started on my sister-in-law's birthday party that he attended they got drunk and had intercourse in a bathroom and they've been meeting at hotels ever since and sneaking off at family gatherings after my son's confession my husband just lost it and told my son to leave the house and go to our condo in town and he didn't want to see him in front of him at this moment when my son was gone my husband stormed into my brother's room and told my brother everything my sister-in-law was not in the house at that moment my brother lost it and packed his stuff took the kids and left he asked where my son had gone and said he wanted to teach him a lesson we didn't tell him and he eventually left my sister-in-law didn't return i think my brother might have called her or my son warned her and she's afraid to come back her things are still in the house in all the screaming and shouting my daughters heard everything and are devastated that their family might be ruined they miss their brother and are afraid that my husband won't ever let him in the house again my husband hates all forms of infidelity to the core and has always drilled this into our two eldest children that they must never cheat on anyone or be in a relationship with someone in a relationship i know i did nothing wrong in this but how will i ever look my brother in the eye again he won't answer my calls or texts and my husband said i should give him time to heal my son left the condo because he's afraid of what my brother would do to him and is now hiding at her friends and he won't tell us which friend no word on sister-in-law also more information my sister-in-law was the one who initiated intercourse the first time my son and her slept together she was the one booking hotel rooms buying my son dinners and lunches and my son was even receiving an allowance from her so first things first this is textbook grooming behavior the sister-in-law started doing this when he was a minor she literally pays him off and gets some gifts yeah this woman is not to be trusted and you should cut all ties with her completely secondly opie i agree with pretty much everything you said in this post i think you handled this pretty well i mean about as well as you could have given the situation also kind of a dark thought the fact that you don't know where the sister-in-law is and your son isn't saying where he is makes me think that they might be shacked up together should i tell my 20 year old sister that her boyfriend has been bullying me my sister has been home since kovitz started under university shut down our mom works as a nurse so she hasn't been home since the pandemic our dad lives in a different state since the divorce my sister brought her boyfriend kyle though which my mom was cool with for a bit of information about me i'm a very short guy five foot two and skinny and i'm what most of you would consider a nerd i'm very close with my sister though because when we were growing up it was pretty much just the two of us because mom always worked and dad wasn't in the picture kyle was nice to me at first but after a few weeks of living with him he started being meaner and meaner to me here's a short list of some of the things he does to me on a regular basis he takes my snacks and meals from the fridge without asking i have food allergies so i sometimes go hungry because of this this is food that i get delivered to me on a weekly basis so when i run out i have to wait for another week to get more he deleted my save files on my switch in ps4 he calls me a wussy when we're alone when i'm watching anime in the living room he makes fun of me takes the remote and watches whatever he would hit me on the side of the head when he walks by me yesterday when he took my laptop and i wanted to get it back he punched me in the gut the bruise is still there he told me that if i told my sister he would do something worse he's nice to me when she's around though but she's always in the home office she still has online classes and works from home so she's swamped almost every day the few hours she spends with me a day are the only times when i really feel safe the thing is my sister is super happy right now she gushes about how much of a nice guy he is and how well he treats her she says that she's happy that we get along which is not true and is hoping that he would be a good influence on me i don't want to tell her because i feel like growing up i robbed her of her youth because she had to spend some weekends with me when mom had to work the bruise is still there so there's evidence that he really is abusive i'm having second thoughts about telling her though because i know she'll be very sad about it or worse she might take his side what do you guys think i should do i want him gone but i don't want to cause my sister any pain i don't know how much more of this i can take though covet has been hell op please tell your sister you are not doing your sister any favors by keeping this from her i mean at the moment he's abusive to one person but who's to say that he won't be abusive to her in the future or their kids together and outside of that this guy is abusing a child he should absolutely be kicked to the curb yesterday and then opie posted an update i told my sister and showed her my bruise along with my switch it was a christmas gift from her and showed her he deleted all of my save files i also told her all the mean things he said and does my sister took my side which was a relief and went ballistic at kyle and kicked him out he tried to reason with her but she didn't buy it we told her mom and she says she'll see if she can come home in two weeks some of you guys are wondering why she isn't home i'm high risk because i have asthma so she needs to stay away my sister took time off work in school for now and has been apologizing to me non-stop i feel bad because she thinks i don't know but i know she cries every now and then she's also been going the extra mile taking care of me and spending time with me even if i told her i didn't really need her to but i did tell her that i appreciate it oh and if you're wondering why i told my sister first i feel a lot safer with her than with my parents my mom worked so growing up it was often just the two of us and she always took good care of me i trust and love my sister more than our mom and dad we talked to our dad too and he wants us to tell the police he also said that i should get therapy we'll see what happens i'm happy that kyle is gone but i'm sad that my sister is sad i wonder what i can do to help her oh and thank you to all the people who encouraged me to tell her about it when you said that he might hurt her that was the final push i needed to come forward thank you very much so since i have a pretty big platform and since i have a lot of listeners on the younger side whenever i read a story like this i feel obligated to say something if you're being abused by someone in your life then you really should talk to a trusted adult this guy's behavior is very typical abusing a child and then threatening to do even worse if they tell anyone but no once you tell someone who really cares about you or once you get the authorities involved they can't do anything to you anymore my sister and brother-in-law won't let me kiss my boyfriend i'm a 30 year old woman and i've agreed to carry my 42 year old sister's baby for her as she's unable herself and lacks the financial resources to pay a surrogate i'm happy to do this or at least i was i'm six months along at the moment and i met a lovely man recently and we're in the early stages of a relationship he knows about my situation and is very accepting and considerate before green to carry their baby we had some firm rules placed they asked me to stay away from any sexual contact with men i agreed and i really didn't mind nor do i mind it right now the agreement was no passionate hugging of any kind and i haven't done anything with anyone as was agreed a few days ago i introduced my new boyfriend to my sister and brother-in-law and at first everything was great they invited us to dinner last saturday we had a great meal and a great time together they all seemed to get along that is until he had to leave when my boyfriend said his goodbyes to my sister and brother-in-law he then came over to me and hugged and kissed me quite passionately but not in a vulgar way nor was it for a long period just literally seconds as soon as he left my sister and brother-in-law jumped down my throat talking about how i broke the rules how disgusting and wicked i am i genuinely was shocked i hadn't expected such a blowout or their irrational behaviors or feelings towards me literally just by getting a kiss i decided not to argue or even enter a conversation with them and just walked home i live about a 30 minutes walk away and by the time i got home i had an email waiting for me the email contained our original agreement but now it included a section with no kissing of any kind and they want me to sign the new agreement i don't want to as i've been more than accommodating and considerate of all their original requests i feel like they're now crossing boundaries and acting as if i'm some sort of farm animal they own and control i don't want to create any further animosity between us they've been calling and texting me since then and i have yet to answer i would like to reply back by email so that there can be no confusion and to create some separation any advice on what to write would be great so how do i reply back to their email without being rude or how do i deal with them in general down in the comments i think fightmax master hit the nail on the head no is a complete sentence alternatively say i signed your agreement in the first place you don't get to change it end of story not up for negotiation if you want to tear up the original agreement let me know i am not signing an updated one i will live my life by the terms we agreed you aren't creating animosity they're being insane bear in mind they didn't say we're not comfortable with that or could you please not however unreasonable that is they went straight from zero to a hundred they've also admitted you haven't broken the rules by trying to update the rules say no and keep your distance if they get sucky about it they clearly don't care about being rude to you so don't worry yourself too much about them interpreting what you write as being rude either they sound like the sort of people who even when faced with the kindest and gentlest no the world has ever seen they'd still flip out and think it's rude so don't exhaust yourself looking for the perfect language don't negotiate with emotional terrorists i'm a 24 year old woman and my 28 year old boyfriend of 10 years has become incredibly secretive of his phone laptop social media and car me and my boyfriend haven't really had any secrets until very recently since we began trusting each other we had the passwords to each other's phones and social media accounts and were very transparent about things that most people keep secret about two months ago he started not wanting me to go to his car without notice beforehand i brushed this off as him not wanting me to see his dirty car a few weeks later i tried to borrow his laptop which he's normally okay with and he was livid he told me i was invading his privacy which i felt terrible about and apologized a little while later he was driving us to the store and he got a text i picked up his phone so i could read it out to him he snapped on me the second i grabbed his phone i again felt really bad and apologized this week i was thinking about this stuff and my irrational side got the best of me and i considered that he could be cheating on me so i logged onto his instagram on my phone i looked through it and saw nothing really out of the ordinary except that he was following a lot of adult video stars and fitness models but i couldn't give an f if he gets off to their instagrams i instantly felt awful about this so i told him what i did and he told me he was going to change all of his passwords i asked him why he isn't okay with sharing his secrets with me anymore and he told me he just didn't want to anymore he very obviously was getting upset by the question so i decided not to probe it any further is this normal behavior for a long-term relationship and then opie posted an update so i found out he was cheating on me with an underage girl yesterday morning i confronted him and asked him flat out if he was cheating on me he admitted that he had received oral from another woman he said he blocked her on everything but she kept creating instagram accounts to contact him i asked him why he did this and he said he was ashamed and was looking for the right time to say something something in my gut told me he was lying so i snuck into his room and stole his phone while he showered he forgot to take my thumb print out of his phone i looked at his most recent texts and a few hours before he attacks an unnamed number i told my girlfriend i was cheating on her we might not be able to see each other for a while if you need me message me on instagram i've never been so hurt by anything in my life i felt my heart drop as i read the text i looked at past texts and saw pictures of his member and her body and him saying that she looked better than me i moved on to his instagram and like a lot of people said he had a second one he used to dm women i found a conversation with the girl he'd been talking to that started in august of 2019 and which suggested he had been screwing her since october 2019 for at least one year of our relationship he was unfaithful i checked the girl's profile to see if she was better looking than me and saw in her bio the name of a high school near us and class of 2023 my stomach turned and i had to stop myself from throwing up he was screwing a 15 year old girl at that point i'd seen enough and decided to leave the apartment i screenshotted everything and sent it to myself i went to my friend's place where i showed her everything i felt so disgusted and guilty and quick side note here doing the math op was 14 years old and her boyfriend was 18 when they initially got together a bunch of people that commented on my first post spoke about how he groomed me and i just now am realizing how right they were if i hadn't let our relationship continue and told the other younger girls what he did it might have stopped him from doing it to other girls i refuse to look back at his instagram because i don't want to know how many young girls i helped him abuse in some way i feel so gross for defending him that evening we began the process of reporting him and hopefully he'll be thrown under the jail very soon i'm gonna try to do what i can to write the wrongs i did with this and i'm planning to get an sti test and some therapy to get past this and raise my self-esteem again thanks for those of you who tried to help me op i'm glad you're going through the steps to report this guy because if you weren't that was going to be my first suggestion that's statutory abuse and the type of images he had on his phone are so awful that i can't even say the name of them on youtube you need to dump this guy call the cops and not blame yourself for falling victim to this guy that was our slash relationship advice and if you like this content then check out my patreon where i publish extra videos also hit that subscribe button because i put out new reddit videos every single day

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Length: 17min 43sec (1063 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 06 2020