Mother in law stole my Christmas gift

[Music] i have been low contact with my mill for a few years my husband is not i don't relay any information to mill i make everything go through my husband the entire family states that mill has a hearing problem but it seems to be just my words that get twisted by her though stories and why i went low contact i'll save for another time my mom passed away years before i met my husband my mom loved the holidays and always had poinsettias around the house at christmas to help keep my mom close to me at christmas i have poinsettias around the house it's because of this that my husband knew the gift he found to give me from low one and low two was perfect it was a tabletop wooden angel that had poinsettias on her dress and was holding garland of poinsettias it was perfect and i loved it as soon as i saw it my phil passed away just before christmas it has been hard on all of us he was a wonderful man since we have the youngest children in the family husband wanted my mill to be there to watch the kids open gifts christmas morning i was fine with this mill would come over early and the rest of the in-laws would be over later in the afternoon we stopped exchanging gifts between the adults years ago and just exchanged between the kids i wanted mill to have a couple things to open since she would be with us when we opened gifts low one and two made her ornaments and glittered pinecones we got her some mints that she liked it was a couple small things like that when i opened the angel from low one and two i loved it i went over to the kitchen table to take it out of the box and really look at it mill happened to be sitting there at the time i asked her if she saw the angel low one and two gave me for christmas i explained why i loved it so much and how it reminded me of my mom the angel even had my mom's hair color i explained how it meant so much to me and that i would probably keep it out all year long as a reminder of my mom i left it on the table i should add that mill saw me unwrap the gift and watched as i hugged my children after opening it anyway i left it sitting on the table because everyone else started arriving it did get a little hectic with gift exchanges between the kids and we ended up outside for a bit my angel disappeared i thought it might have gotten moved to make room at the table and figured it would show up oh it showed up at my mills house i haven't seen it there my husband did mill called a few days after christmas and asked husband to come in for a bit to do some things around her house he then brought her back to our house for dinner because she wanted to see low one and two while we're eating dinner mill gets a big smile on her face and is telling me that she loves her new angel and she wants me to have it when she passes at this point i don't realize that she is talking about my angel that i've been looking all over trying to find she then mentioned how she loves the poinsettias on it that's what got me to look up and see that smug grin on her face i looked at my husband and he gave me the look that we'll talk about it later after mill is back home husband and i discuss it he says when he walked into her house he immediately saw it and did a double take on it husband usually has a very shiny spine when it comes to mill this time he didn't he said she loves it so much and with his father just having passed he doesn't want to take it from her he truly believes that she misheard me and mill thinks it was a gift to her from low one and two what mill watched me unwrap it why would i unwrap it if it was meant for her she really didn't hear anything i said of how it reminded me of my mother husband's idea is to find a duplicate online for me i asked why we couldn't just buy her a different angel and he can go trade her for my angel he doesn't want to be insensitive since she just lost phil and she obviously wanted the angel as i said previously husband usually has a shiny spine but losing his dad is affecting him too and he just doesn't have the shiny right now i would go myself and do it but i don't think i'll get a good reaction from mill she'll probably answer the door and say what the hell are you doing here she's done that to me before when i've gone to her house to help take her to a doctor's appointment now the update i commented in my previous post that i had called husband at work and that we were going to discuss it to come to a resolution we had a good frank conversation about mill and her actions recently we have been giving her more leeway lately because of phil's passing we have realized that was a huge mistake we know that we gave her an inch and she took a mile the ocean my angel and the whole caboodle we will be rectifying this and the first step is my angel we looked at some of the posts i'm sorry he couldn't get to all of them he said you guys were right he not helping the situation at all he said he would make it right my husband completely agreed that i need the angel back he picked it out for me from our children and i should have it i asked if he wanted to give her a different angel he said no mill is not getting anything we will not replace it we will not exchange it for something different he apologized for not taking care of this sooner and admitted he was in shock that it happened at all but that he should have realized how much it was really bothering me he agrees she stole it he knows her best and he wanted to get it corrected so i let him take the lead he decided that he was going to call her and thought it would be the best approach here is the short version of what took place according to husband husband asked her how she got the angel and she said that she got it at christmas he asked if i gave it to her and she said she thought so he asked if she watched me unwrap it and she said yes he then asked about the conversation i had with her she admitted that she heard everything i said about why i loved the angel so much she admitted that she knew it reminded me of my mom she admitted all of it when husband asked why she had the angel at her house she said she didn't know she tried to tell him that i gave it to her but he said he stopped her and told her he didn't want to hear it so she will be returning my angel i will be getting it thursday or friday depending on when she can make it to our side of town my husband told her that she had to deliver it back since she took it i had mentioned to him when we discussed it that i was concerned it wouldn't come back in the same condition he told her that it is to be returned in the same condition she took it she won't drop it off if i'm home without husband she'll wait for him to get home from work she has never twisted words with husband so i'm confident that i will get it in perfect condition if i don't i'll give you all an update on it again now that i've popped my cherry on posting i was thinking about telling you all about some of the history i have with mill and why i'm low contact with her over the next couple weeks i'll do some posts to give everyone an idea of what i've been dealing with in regards to mill this is a pretty mild one in the potionetta handbook the old trick poisonetta used to contact husband to take her to the doctor wanting him to leave work to take her at the height of all this he was getting calls to leave work about once a week my main concerns with this husband would have to use pto time each time he left work this would cut into his vacation time some of these doctors appointments were planned in advance and she would say she was driving herself then all of a sudden she couldn't i left my job when i was pregnant with low too there were complications and it was better for me not to work i'm now a stay-at-home mom i have made it very clear that i could take her to doctor's appointments if she felt she couldn't drive herself she does not like to take me up on this offer it came to a head when she had an accident she was injured and had to have a suspension brace she had a hard time driving due to it and other injuries it just so happened that my dad was in town to visit us when this happened i'll let everyone know that i can take her to any appointments because my dad can watch low one and two i made it very clear to her that i was available to take her well she decided she had to go to the doctor to have the brace adjusted and that the doctor was the only one that could do it even though bill had been instructed on how instead of calling me she called husband at work she told him that he needed to come and take her to the doctor which is a two-hour round-trip drive time he would have to miss pretty much the entire day he said he would figure something out she told him that he had to take her since bill was too busy with work to take her well husband called me and asked if i could take her i said of course and left to go pick her up and take her to the doctor i get there and she opens the door and says what the duck are you doing here i've mentioned her saying that before this is the incident where it happened i told her i was here to take her to the doctor she told me that she didn't want me she wanted my husband i explained that husband is working and since i'm not i'm here she realized she wasn't going to get her way and went with me i took her to the doctor and he checked it it was fine he didn't do anything to it and sent her home she stopped asking husband to take her to the doctor because she found out that it would be me that came each time today my angel is supposed to be returned to me today instead husband got a call at work from poisonetta that she needs to go to the doctor because her ear hurts she doesn't want to drive because it's raining it's sprinkling husband tried to call me but my phone was on silent and i missed the call he left work to go get her to take her to the doctor he dropped her off and told her he'd wait in his car for her this is her primary doctor which happens to have his office less than a mile from our house husband called me again this time i heard my phone vibrate so i got the kids in the car and we headed to the doctor's office we waited out there for almost two hours for her to come out i pulled up to get her and her face dropped she asked where husband was and i told her that he was back at work i explained again that each time he leaves he has to use time that can cut into his vacation time i explained that if she needs help with something during the day to call me he doesn't go with me when i take the kids to their doctor's appointments unless he feels that he needs to be there for something which is rare poisonetta needed a prescription filled for her ear so we went to the pharmacy i went to a drive-through to get her something to eat low one stayed quiet most of the time and lotus left the duration of the trip the entire time there was no mention of the angel at all i got her home i helped carry in her food and stood by the door i was as sweet as could be she said goodbye and i said i just needed my angel she didn't say anything after that but i have my angel it's in great condition i think this is best outcome with her having to go to the doctor best thing today is i got my angel back i promised more history on what i've gone through over the years with poisonetta i thought i would let you all know the very first story time my eyes were opened i listed it as no advice wanted since this happened years ago and isn't part of anything currently happening if any of you think otherwise please let me know i get busy with the kids and can't always respond to everyone personally but i do read all the messages as you all know my mom is no longer with us i met my husband after my mom had passed we didn't start meeting each other's families until we became serious i was very excited to meet his mom i was very naive and gullible at this time i really thought all moms were like my mom since i had never met her just know before at first poisonetta was very welcoming she told me that she was so glad that her son had found someone like me i thought i was going to have a new friend to talk to go shopping with ask advice etc she had me full big time i was spending time with her sometimes husband was there sometimes he wasn't she was really integrated into our lives she was even there when we picked out our wedding bands then i found out i was pregnant i was ecstatic i have pcos and it was difficult getting pregnant it also meant that i had a higher chance of having a miscarriage especially in the first trimester husband and i discussed when we should tell anyone else i was so excited and i wanted to tell just the immediate family our parents and siblings i told him that we just needed to tell them not to tell anyone else and we should be good we set up a family dinner with husbands family we let them know they were all very excited for us it was a great dinner we explained why we didn't want anyone else to know at this time and they said they understood and wouldn't let anyone else know the next day i got a call from poisonetta she wanted to tell her sisters about the baby i explained that when we are ready for everyone to know i will let her tell them i went over the reasons why we didn't want everyone to know i explained that if i did miss carrie i didn't want to explain to everyone under the sun what happened but we did want our immediate family to be excited with us right now i thought everything was good so poisonetta turned around and called husband she laid into him about the conversation that we just had she went on to tell him that i said that she was going to cause me to have a miscarriage if she talked about the baby that this is her grandbaby and she should be able to tell anyone she wants and if i think talking about a baby will cause a miscarriage then i don't know how things work he believed her we had little arguments before but this was the first time we really thought i'm talking silent treatments neither one of us giving in yelling it was bad i should add that i found out i was pregnant a month before the wedding i even considered calling off the wedding his mom had never done anything like this it was the first time she twisted my words to cause trouble i called her on speakerphone so husband could hear i cried and asked her why she would say i said i told her this and at first she said that i did i told her that i did not say that and went over the conversation again finally she said something like well i had to say something to get one of you to tell me i could tell people i felt so bad for my husband i think his heart broke a little that day we both realized that his mom caused it all just to get away after that she got updates when we wanted the public to know she didn't get to know anything early i think of everything she has pulled over the years this one still haunts me the most it was the first time my eyes were open to what she was capable of doing i remember it so well because it was the first time she twisted my word and she twisted them in a big way for those of you following the story this happened a few days ago and i'm still in shock i've been trying to wrap my head around it and i keep looking for the trick she stopped by the house to drop off a couple things of filter husband while she was there she says i'm sorry for taking your angel it was just so pretty and i needed something to replace my jesus i just looked at her for a minute and told her it wasn't hers to take and it wasn't meant to be a replacement for something she gave away she gave the jesus statue to low to just after phil passed i told her to keep it but she dropped it off with husband after that a day or so after the apology pettel's husband that she hopes that we can just move past this now that i have the angel back husband and i have been discussing this because she wants to do dinner with us sometime i have big concerns about this but this is the first time she has ever apologized to me husband wants to see the best in his mom and really wants to think that his dad passing and that she apologize means that she is trying to turn a new leaf he still has his guard up but he wants to see what happens with a dinner keep in mind dinamines at our house did she apologize just so we will give in a little more like we did when phil passed does she have something else up her sleeve and is just wanting to catch us off guard am i inviting more trouble into the house if we have her for dinner it's obvious that she was completely aware that she knew she was stealing the angel especially since she apologized for it i have all these different questions and scenarios running through my head i don't think i'll ever know if our motives are sincere unless we have dinner what do you all think if i do agree to this dinner do you have any suggestions regarding it with poison etta recently apologizing and hoping we can move past stealing my angel i thought i would give you a little more of our history together i'm hoping this will give more insight on poison etta i put no advice wanted since this happened a few years ago if you think it could have anything to do with what is currently happening please let me know i don't speak with poison poisonette very often and when i do i'm cordial but try not to provide too much information that could be twisted i stopped providing information to her after this incident which i felt crossed the line low one became sick when he was about three to four months old we took him to the doctor and found out he had bronchiolitis he had to have an inhaler prescribed and the doctor went over what to watch for since he was so young we had to keep a close eye on him the doctor told us to watch for fever and any trouble breathing she went over that they always have an emergency doctor on call after hours if we feel we need to call or we can always take low one to the emergency room if we feel the need this is all normal instructions from a doctor for this illness dear husband doesn't usually come with me to the kid's doctor's appointments he was so worried about low one in this instance that he took the morning off and went with me to the doctor no one knew that he had come with me after we got out of the doctor's office poisonetta happened to call me to find out how low one was doing i told her what the doctor had said i never mentioned that dh was with me i got off the phone and we went to get the prescriptions and get anything else we would need at home for the next few days while i was running into the store poisonetta was busy calling extended family telling them her story of what i said dh received a call from a family member wanting to know what was happening because poisonetta had called them stating that low one was very sick and having trouble breathing but that i was not taking him to the doctor until he stopped breathing yes you read that right poisonette told family that i was not going to take my sick baby to the doctor until after he stopped breathing what the duck i came out of the store and got in the car dh had stayed in the car with low one because i didn't want to take him in the store to hear him explaining to family what was going on with low one i asked what that was about because he seemed mad and he told me what had happened i was furious i was glad that the h was just as furious as me he heard the conversation and knew i never said anything close to this he then called poisonetta since he was driving it was on speakerphone the conversation went something like this pen hi dh how is low one feeling dh mom what have you been telling people about what the doctor said just what your wife told me why dh why would family member tell me that you said my wife wasn't taking low one to the doctor until after he stopped breathing pen well that is what your wife told me dh no she didn't i'm with her i heard what she told you and she never said anything like that how can you think we would let low one stop breathing before doing anything and i saw we because you're saying this about both of us not just my wife because we are both caring follow one pair well i must have misheard her i have been having more trouble with my ears lately dh that is not an excuse if you thought you heard that you should have asked her to repeat it or tell her what you heard and asked if it was correct if i had thought i heard that we weren't taking low one to the doctor until after he stopped breathing i would have a problem with that i would be asking more questions and explain how worried i was with that direction well i said i must have misheard dh don't think for a minute that i think you believe this you need to call anyone you spoke with back and correct the information now that is probably not word for word since i'm going off my memory but you get the gist of what happened i can say i was super proud of my husband he was furious with his mom and i loved how his shiny spine was super shiny that day after this happened dh and i agreed that i would go low contact with his mom i would not speak with her on the phone unless absolutely necessary and i would limit interacting with her all information that we wanted to know goes through dh i do not provide any information especially about the kids to her [Music] so you

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Published: Fri Jan 01 2021