Sister in law wears white at the wedding and ends up in the mud

[Music] to start off i'm attending three weddings this year all great friends of mine and all of which i'm extremely excited about this post is about the first wedding of the three which is nine days away sorry if the background is a bit long my friend b got engaged last year she wanted a small elegant wedding and we've been planning it since the day the rock got on her finger she's having 50 guests 10 tables of 4 and 10 more at the top table the location is this beautiful wooded area full of leafy fruit trees owned by her step-grandparents and they very kindly agreed to let her have it and pay for the tables and chairs we are a bridal party of four girls including herself one reason why the wedding is smallies because she and her fiance wanted to put in more money towards their house they both work good jobs and want to start a family soon so they've decided on a large house they also don't want to spend their life savings on one day all of which i totally agreed with her sisters are pitching in to help decorate the place with fairy lights before the wedding the groomsmen offered to turn up the day before and lug around the heavy stuff including arranging the chairs for the ceremony and tables and chairs for the reception dinner i've been with b through the catering renting linens and servia in the cake and the dress fittings and i think we've spent about 5k on the whole wedding so far not accounting for the generous help offered by her friends and family in terms of labor her cousins are helping with wedding favors a little basket show piece of crystal fruit since the wedding is in an orchard and some handmade chocolate from someone her cousin sister met in belgium in all of this bee constantly counts her blessings and thanks everyone she gave us complete freedom over our dress choices and one of the bridesmaids is doing our hair and makeup on the day b is getting a professional to do hers but even that was upon our insistence that she had to look like the star she was we've finalized the caterer the seating the menu and invitations then celente is a picture the sequence of events is numbered for chronology the bridesmaid dresses day of the dress appointment everyone's on time except sil who's not only an hour late but doesn't even apologize to the kind dress consultant for making her wait the rest of us picked out the dress already each one in a different color summer but the same style still makes us wait while she ransacked the shop and pulls out a white short pattern dress consultant says they can dye the pattern dress any color sill wants it white we try to explain that's impossible she walks out two couple of days after the appointment salem elves are saying she's very hurt by how we behaved at the fitting but is willing to let it go and in compensation the bride can pay for her bridesmaid's dress b is almost going to say yes but i put my foot down three week later salem elves the group again wants to add 15 people to the guest list as soon as possible all out of town guests i calculate based on her demands that b would shell out at least another 1500 conservatively and ask her to refuse for all of this brings us to yesterday where sil joins us for a little party at b's house one of the bridesmaids and i thought it would be good to have b relax a little so we got comfy cushions funny movies wine coolers and some snacks bee was pleasantly happy until fsil began making a list of requirements for her out of town guests who b has refused to invite she adds that her guests will be arriving a couple of days early and it would be nice for me and her fiance sill's brother to pick them up at the airport b has been watching her in quiet horror then sil pulls out the icing on the cake you guessed it the white patterned dress bee bursts into tears and goes off to the back porch to have a good cry one of the girls threw still out still leaves threatening bee i need help i've been trying to convince bee that sil shouldn't even be in the bridal party but b is too soft and says this was the only thing her fiance requested because apparently fsil doesn't have many friends gi wonder why fsil has now instigated a family coup by playing the victim to her mother bees fmile who already has a million problems with the wedding and b is a nervous wreck we got wind from a mutual friend of both families that mill is now calling her family's guests and telling them the wedding is off the wedding is in nine days how do i fix this i'd appreciate any help i can get b has had enough to face and i really want this to be a special day for her edit sorry i think i forgot to mention that right after the out-of-town guest's email we went to her future husband who doesn't recognize any of the names on the list he said he'd talk to her but requested b to keep her on in the bridal party and still doesn't have any other friends b doesn't want to let him down as he's basically let her have the run of the wedding in every other aspect okay after getting some advice on reddit i sent b the post link and a little more convincing later we took the matter to her future husband in the intervening time we found out that she had tried to call the baker and change the wedding cake to five plain vanilla sheet cakes as opposed to the beautiful three-tier cake he had designed he told her that any changes had to be made only by the bride she tried convincing him that she was the maid of honor and was taking over these duties but he called me since i was the one coordinating with him the whole time and asked if this was the case i told him that fsil was a saboteur and to ignore all calls from her we took the issue to future husband who for the first time since i've known him in nearly three years flew into an actual rage he drove us to his mother's house where still is staying till the wedding and ripped her a new one they are officially uninvited from the wedding his mother and sil keep sending me and be angry passive aggressive texts and emails but we are blocking them in the last one his mother sent a vitriolic message saying she would make sure that bee was completely alienated from their family and their social circle and make her suffer in loneliness till she left her son jokes on her everyone in fh's family loves bee first off the wedding was awesome simply beautiful had twilight in an orchard decorated with soft fairy lights and the photographer and videographer did amazing work on capturing the codic moments the reception was even more fun and we were a small crowd but did we party i should tell you guys that the things i'm mentioning below are not yet privy to my friend b bridesmaid one kira bridesmaid 2 sophie and i took care of certain things that cropped up and she's already left on her honeymoon so we have no intention of telling her until she comes back update starts after dear husband banned his mother and sister from the wedding b received a few phone calls mostly from his mother's tennis club friends they started going on about how b was already ruining the family and she should at least let milan still attend the wedding one of them went so far as to tell b once the honeymoon phase was over dear husband would lose interest in her be cried i block numbers fast forward to two days before the wedding once mill and sil had realized that bee wasn't budging and dear husband was nc they started on us bridesmaids now sophie is a lawyer apparently still called her about 50 times during a client meeting and pissed her off to no extent she came to me and said that if this was going to be the case she would much rather drop out of the wedding i sent out a text with mill and sill's numbers and asked both of them to block it then the email torrent started how they were being systematically removed from their son's life by a gold digging and that as women we would understand that they never meant to ruin the wedding i must confess i softened up a little but the reference to my friend as a gold digger really pissed me off again all the mls were ignored day of the wedding we were all getting ready at b step grandparents cottage which sits right at the boundary of the venue the venue is an orchard that belongs to them and they volunteered to have the wedding there and paid for the furniture rentals so it was just us four girls and when the doorbell rang i ran down to get it caught i thought it was the beautician coming up to doobie's hair in makeup it was still she was standing with two bags and tried to push her way in when i opened the door i almost fell over but managed to hold her out i reminded her that not only was she out of the bridal party she was not invited to the wedding she made a big fuss about how she was willing to ignore our hurtful behavior the nerve and that she was only there because she didn't want the wedding party to be uneven we now had four groomsmen but only three bridesmaids after cell got chucked out i told her we didn't care about like that and she should get out before i called security we didn't have any but it just seemed like a good thing to say she huffed and puffed and tried to blow him down but left after a few minutes so we are all back to getting dressed i pulled sophie and kira aside and tell them to keep an out of sil now that i know she's nearby just as we guessed we spotted her again her mom's sub was parked right across the road from the entrance to the compound and we could see milan still sitting inside and guess what the bee had changed into the white dress sophie is very level-headed unlike my short-tempered self she told me to simply ignore it everyone's dressed and ready guests have arrived they are seated with some champagne and we position b just inside the back door of the cottage path from their leads directly to the wedding clearing the doorbell rang again i stammered out some excuse about asking the caretaker to call me if there was some issue with guest parking and rush out to the front of the house sure enough it's mill and cylin white mill sees me and snaps hissing at me about how she's destroy me i tell her okay you guys can't sit in the back at the wedding if so changes into a non-white dress mel refuses insisting that it's a family party and her daughter should get equal importance as the bride at this exact moment one of the groomsmen let's call him brian is crossing the entrance he takes one look and realizes what's going on he forcibly escorts mill and sill out of the property threatening to call the cops luckily the ceremony went on with no issues we head to the reception area it's like a minutes walk from the wedding area just a little further into the cleaning everyone's having fun sofie and i are trying to organize some photo calls between glasses of champagne when we notice kira's missing we rush around the place and finally to the front of the house where the greatest scene of my life meets my eyes turns out kira and one of the groomsmen snuck off for a little makiyot session after the ceremony he and they caught silent mile entering the gates again probably thought they could get in since the front of the compound was deserted kira is a little more like me than sophie so she tripped sill into the mud white dress mattered with mud it might have been rude but i laughed right there sophie hurried over and dragged kyra back kinda a little snippy before firmly instructing mill and still to leave before she a lawyer called the police and filed a case of breaking and entering i think this kinda got to them because they actually drive off and the rest was just a huge fun party my then friend quinn had joined a sorority and after being proposed to follow in college graduation she had invited me her biological sister friend and about a dozen sorority sisters to her bachelorette party most of us were bridesmaids clanned by fran the party was at a cabin upstairs with wine tasting and floating down the local river in inner tubes being the main activities we arrived at the cabin and the fun began one particularly entitled bridesmaid wanted the master bedroom instead of you know maybe the bride getting it but quinn was a dormer to her sorority sisters so she let the bridesmaid have it and took a shed room with fran on day one we were an hour late to the inner tubing due to excessive prep time required by some and had to wait further as one of the cars full of girls just had to stop at taco bell cool only problem was we had a reservation because tubing down the river takes a certain amount of time and we had to make it to the end of the route before dark as in the raft company guide would be waiting for us at the end point and if we didn't make it there before nightfall he would leave and call the cops to find us because tubing on the river at night is dangerous as duck so they were nice enough to let us keep our reservation and the tubing began we ended up joining all our tubes together with rope which created a giant tube glob traveling down the river at a slower rate than individual tubes would for a couple hours we happily drink and float but the sun started to get a little bit low in the sky and we reached a fork in the river that the guide had told us was about halfway through the route oh everyone's starting to make vaguely concerned noises so i take matters into my own hands i put my legs through the tube and start running along the bottom of the river thankfully shallow enough for me to touch in most places with my tube encircling my chest pulling the other tubes along fran tries to help but can't touch the bottom not one of the bridesmaids offers to help i do this for two hours i run along the bottom of a river pulling these 12 lazy for two hours and in that time they continue to lay on their tubes occasionally spouting encouragement and eventually ignoring me as i pull them along as quickly as i can i ask them to help except fran and the bride as the sun starts to set and i'm met with excuses of i can't touch most were about my height and didn't even try to move or i am too drunk or silence from the others there was also refusal to break up the tube glob by this time sunset was fading to dusk and everyone was panicking from the comfort of their tube i was getting tired and still pulling them along occasionally stepping on sharp rocks or dumped trash yay tetanus vaccine as i ran along the river bottom the bridesmaids started complaining they were cold i wanted to slap them but was too busy trying to survive this bachelorette party as the last sliver of sun was visible on the horizon and darkness was almost enveloping us we finally saw the lights of the guides van as we touched sweet sweetland again he told us we barely made it fran and quinn thanked me the bridesmaids complained they were hungry when we got back none of them knew how to turn on a grill so i grilled hot dogs for them all because i needed something in my stomach after running a freaking underwater marathon with a weighted vest of while muttering to myself that i'm doing this for the bright besides quinn and her seas no thanks were given for the food many of the bridesmaids failed to show up to any other pre-wedding events or help with any of the prep one bridesmaid that showed up to the bridesmaid dress shopping trip through fits in the bridal shop about wanting a very buddhical style and specific color of bridesmaids dress that the bride did not want at all one bridesmaid wanted the bride to pay for her dress and shoes not expensive and the girl wasn't strapped for cash the wedding was much the same fran quinn the freaking bride the parents and i did the vast majority of set up and clean up the marriage lasted about six months before divorce someone cheated it wasn't the groom okay so backstory my fiance's parents are divorced and have been for over two decades his father phil remarried almost 20 years ago him and his new wife sm have a wonderful daughter who is one of my bridesmaids since his early twenties phil has one super close friend bf their families grew up together the children treated each other more like siblings than family friends phil's parents treated bf like another son etc about 10 years ago phil cheated on sm with his best friend's wife bf wife causing a huge rift between the two families to the point where they haven't seen each other since the exception being my fiance they were like a second family to him so he has kept in touch we see them once a month or so and even has their youngest son as his best man so naturally we have invited the entire family to our wedding in september we did inform phil and sm that we were going to invite the family all of them over a year ago sm wasn't happy but she seemed to understand we assured her they would be seated as far apart as possible and with 130 people invited avoiding them should be easy fast forward to two weeks ago four and a half months before our wedding sm tells us that if bf and bf wife are coming she isn't her daughter husband and brother will still be in attendance no ceremony no photos no reception nothing we were shocked sm always likes to brag how instrumental she was in raising my fiance from the time he was 10 and claiming that family is super important my fiance and i are of the mints at that if sm does this it will never be forgotten we do not want to tell bf wife she can't come but the rest of her family can that's not fair at all are we being unreasonable to ask her to suck it up and be civil for one day i keep flipping between being mad and disappointed with her should i maybe be understanding note because it wasn't clear phil and sm had joined custody only weekends and every other wednesday mill was still totally in the picture as for the situation i sat down with sm and clearly explained our situation that unlike her and phil my fiance never cut ties and still continues to see them often she was unaware of this that their family home hosted his bachelor party one of his best men is their son and they have a large home perfect for hosting and that he still refers to them as aunt and uncle because they were that close until his late teens when all this happened i also let her know that if she still doesn't want to go i need to know sooner rather than later because we have set things up to include her as much as his biological mother meaning head table corsage family speech etc this perked her up a bit i think she was incorrectly assuming she would be shunned as the sm and dealing with that and the presence of bf wife would be too much all she asks now is to know if bf wife is coming so she can mentally prepare and maybe medicate not sure if that's a joke of not anyways we ended our little talk discussing going shopping for her mother of the groom dress thanks again [Music] do [Music] you

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Length: 20min 4sec (1204 seconds)

Published: Fri Dec 11 2020