Christian Dating Boundaries No One Talks About!

hey everyone caroline roberts here and welcome back to my youtube channel in today's video we're going to be talking about christian dating boundaries that no one talks about so if you're interested in watching more than definitely stay tuned so the first christian dating boundary that i want to talk about that no one else talks about is focused boundaries when you are dating when you are courting or in a new relationship that is not the time to lose your focus and get distracted a lot of us forget to set up focus boundaries and we just let anything go and then this relationship becomes a distraction and then it becomes an idol and then before you know it something that could have been a blessing ends up taking our focus away from god and god has to take that relationship out of our life so I know this road all too well because I've been there I've done that I have been in relationships where my whole focus was on this person my whole focus was on our future together where I got so distracted you know while dating while courting yet I was still single and I still needed to be my number one focus you know in the Bible it talks about how a single woman is able to be dedicated to the Lord and focus on the Lord but a married woman she is focused on her household and how she can please her husband but a lot of times while we are still single while we are dating we rush into the role of a wife and we're focused on this man as if he is our husband but remember that you are still single until you have there on your finger honey you are still single and God still has something for you to accomplish God still has something for you to do so maybe that means you can't be on the phone every single night until the next morning maybe that means that you need to finish the assignment that God gave you did he tell you to write a book did he tell you to start a business did he tell you that you need to get your degree and finish school are you getting distracted are your grades dropping have you put the project on delay have you put the project and the assignment that God is giving you on the back burner because of this new relationship that you have is distracting your focus and is pulling you away from God just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean that you can't have boundaries focus boundaries and Christian relationships are so important so communicate that to the person that you're in a relationship with I'm so glad we're getting to know each other but maybe we only go on one or two dates a month we don't have to rush it there's no rush let's take our time and get to know each other I still have to focus on school I can't be on the phone all times of the night all times of the day because now I'm spending four or five six hours on the phone with you when I could have been spending that time with God I could have been spending that time doing my devotional I could have been spending that time in prayer writing my book so make sure that you set of focus boundaries in your dating relationship now number two I want to go into status boundaries I want us to talk about status boundaries more as it comes to dating and Christian relationships a lot of times we put someone in a relationship status or we give them a title that they have not earned or that they shouldn't have if this person is your boyfriend or your girlfriend then that's what they are a boyfriend or girlfriend not a fiancee not a husband not a hubby your girlfriend or your boyfriend enjoy every season God makes everything beautiful in its time so enjoy the courting season enjoy the engaging season and you will be able to enjoy marriage and when they make the commitment when they decide to put on that ring when they make the commitment and vow they are going to love you through richer or for poorer in sickness and in health then they deserve the wife or the husband name or title but don't just throw a title on someone because you think one day they're gonna be that it is not that one day yet don't rush put up those boundaries if it's your boyfriend it's your boyfriend if it's your fiance it's your fiance if it's your husband it's your husband so don't put someone in a status or in a category that they haven't earned in your life because you never know what can happen and that's why Spanish boundaries are important and when we don't have status boundaries and we start giving people titles that they didn't earn or deserve then we start to act upon those things we start to act upon those titles so maybe you're calling him husband even though he's not your husband but now you feel like it's okay for him to sleep over now you feel like it's okay to play house now you're running into temptation because you didn't set up those status boundaries so protect yourself guard your heart by setting up status boundaries in your relationship now the last boundary that I want to talk about which it's kind of talked about in Christendom in the Christian community but a lot of people in the world when they hear this you're like seriously like are you for real and yes physical boundaries you can get to know someone without being physical you can get to know someone intimately by having conversation sharing ideas learning about one another sharing your personalities sharing where you came from you don't have to be physical before it's time there are still people in this earth that honor purity that value purity and are waiting until marriage to have sex you don't have to rush or feel pressured into doing anything physical before it's time and I talked a lot about this on my chat I have a video about should Christians be kissing before marriage so if you're interested in watching that video click the link right here or right here physical boundaries are so important because when you don't set up physical boundaries you are putting yourself in a position of temptation and temptation eventually that lust it will lead you to sin and you want to make sure that you have a relationship that honors God those are my three boundaries in Christian dating that people are just not talking about and they're very important so I hope that you found this video helpful if you did leave it a thumbs up and if it's your first time on my channel do not forget to subscribe as always I love you guys so much and I'll see you in the next video until next time bye [Music] you

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Length: 7min 47sec (467 seconds)

Published: Wed Feb 12 2020