3 THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO TO STAY EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY by RC Blakes

I mean this you know this this maybe a bit crude but I mean I don't know the little way to say it I want to talk about booty calls [Music] hello this is RC Blake's and I am excited Lisa and I are excited to come to London England with Queen ology I can't believe we're on our way to London England and we'd love to have you there clean ology is a women's empowerment movement by my wife Lisa and I we've traveled all across the United States of America we call this to intimate experience where we deal with you know 150 to maybe 225 in terms of numbers is multicultural fellowship it's a time of eating it's a time of qat it's a time of snapping selfies and then of course Saturday morning we we wake up and we are in like 4 or 5 hours of intensive study with the five tenets of queen ology and I'm so excited to come to London England and I'd love to have you there register today [Music] [Music] man RC Blake's here and happy New Year to you happy New Year to you I'm sitting on my driveway I guess that's a one of my my old man habits sitting on my driveway and I was just sitting here and thinking about this being a brand new year and not only a brand new year but it's also a brand new decade and really just thinking about you and thinking about all that God has for you all that God has for you in this new year there's a new decade of your life and the three things I want to share with you rather quickly that that I have discovered work for me in terms of I have my head down because I'm searching for a scripture that worked for me in terms of helping me to maintain emotional balance in a very confused world and the world is very confused most of the people you will meet are confused and if you're searching for a climate in terms of society in the world that will aid you in your emotional stability or your emotional well-being you're in for a horrific awakening the world is toxic and it's becoming more and more and more toxic from families families of toxic churches of toxic workplaces toxic schools or toxic politics clearly toxic there are very few think about that and this is really just kind of like a revelation to me now where are the safe places you know when when I was a kid when I was younger you know the safe place would be school no longer you can get killed at school now doesn't matter you know what socio-economic position you hold Church certainly used to be a safe place not anymore the man that's supposed to be leading you may very well molest you you know hurt you children sleep with your wife maybe even he may even sleep with your husband families used to be a safe place no more so where are the safe places I believe that all of these external positions of emotional security and stability are diminishing as times get darker as the times get darker and if you watch me fin a length of time you know that I'm a Christian period you know that's just point-blank in the story for me I'm a Christian Jesus does it for me of course I don't push my faith on others people ask me and I share my faith but I believe as the times get darker God is revealing himself and he's bringing us back to the only true foundation for human security stability and happiness and that is a place that is within the spirit of the man or the woman it's the place where God impacts a person's life from the inside out so rather than being like blind men searching for you know searching for something in the dark that we can never seem to find we go within and we learn to find the quality of life we deserve from a place within us and not from a place that's outside of us I was talking in the church on yesterday well let me let me just get to my point there are three things I want to share with you that I think if you put these three things into practice these are three things you are never to do I think that it can in fact I know that it will drain a lot of the tension and the drama out of your everyday life and it'll bring you to a place of stability and calm you see and the first thing is as you as you move through life and as you go about your your your your your a new year the beginnings of your new decade never compare yourself never compare yourself now what are what are what are or what is one of the major signs of broken consciousness in queen' ology I talk about broken consciousness and even in the new book that I've just finished it's in the editing process now called King ology Queen ology speaks to developing the consciousness of a queen the study of a queen king ology is the return to classical manhood and when we look at the man and the woman and why the man and the woman are so far beneath the standard that God created them for it boils down to this thing called broken consciousness where society intentionally diminishes your self perspective to the point you can never live up to your full true potential and when one is suffering from broken consciousness be it man or woman they are always searching for the standard outside of themselves so they find themselves constantly comparing themselves to other people women have a tendency to compare their bodies to the body type of other women men tend to compare their wallets to the size of other men's wallets you know never really happy never really content with the things that God has blessed you with not even really being grateful for what God is a lot at you but always comparing yourself with other people and if you were to be honest right now you would admit that a lot of your internal struggles in terms of how you beat yourself up and how you diminish your value in your own eyes has to do with how you compare yourself to what the world says or what you deemed to be a standard outside of you you're looking at other people and what other folk have and you're comparing yourself by that you know rather than being grateful for who you are and what you have listen to what the Bible says Oh where's this at I think this is 2nd Corinthians chapter 10 verse 12 says for we dare not make ourselves of the number or company or come dare not make ourselves of the number or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves but they measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves among themselves are not wise it's never wise for me to compare myself by you why is that it's because all of us are flawed and though we take social media we use Instagram to create this imagery that my life is perfect Lisa and I got it going on you know you need to be like us look at me look at us we're always showing you people that to people typically are always showing you false positives to be quite honest with you sometimes those people to smile in for those pictures and shooting at one another once the camera shoot is over because we want to paint this picture for the world and you begin to compare yourself by that false standard you're not wise the only true standard that you have to compare yourself by is the Lord and you measure the peace of Jesus Christ that's in your heart that's how you determine quality of life that's really what success is prosperity transcends money its prosperity you can't you can't say okay a person is prosperous because of the cartage right or a person is prosperous because of the address they have or a person is prosperous because they sign this you know contract for this amount of money prosperity goes deeper than that prosperity is you know am i living out my purpose is my life a blessing to others and does my life please God am i fulfilled in what I do if I have all of that other stuff and I don't have peace with God I don't have a sense of fulfillment and I do not and I'm not and I am not living a life that is a blessing to others I'm not prosperous but when I when I look at the world and what the world says I should be reaching for you know I compare myself by you and if I don't have that I'm not happy and if I don't have you got this and if I don't you know my best friend got a husband if I don't get a husband in 2020 I'm gonna lose my mind almost I said when you're gonna get a husband man you can't control that you can't control that what you should be controlling is living your life on purpose finding peace within yourself training yourself to be happy by yourself because if you can't be happy by yourself it's probably you know not far-fetched to say you probably won't be happy with someone else because if you can't be happy doing what you want to do when you want to do it without having to answer to someone else or consider someone else what makes you think having another person to answer to another person to consider another person to give you their opinion about what you should shouldn't be doing is gonna make you happy here think about that you never thought about it like that did you if you if you call in all the shots and you run in your life the way you want to run it without anybody else interfering and you're not happy with that what makes you believe you're going to be happier when someone else has a you know a vote so number one don't compare yourselves the the second thing I would say to you is don't complain don't complain you know because the reason I say don't complain is because your situation could be so much worse you you think that it's just you know it you think that your life is as bad as it could ever be and the reality is your life could be so much worse and if you really saw how low life can go you would come back to your reality and you would really become thankful and grateful and praise God that you have it as well as you do that's one of the disadvantages I perceive with with my own kids in fact and with other people's kids who kids who are born into homes where they have everything they need you know and we as parents sometimes foolishly give them almost everything they want then benefit them because they have a false gauge on reality and so what they call you know suffering is really privileged they're actually privileged and they think is just the word they think is just the worst thing in the world and I'm in the worst position in the world and you bring them to a place where people are really suffering they don't even know how to relate it's like a movie to them they can't even you know they can't even fathom it they can't even put it together in their minds that here's reality because they're so far removed so don't complain don't complain because even even the articulation of negative words creates an energy that perpetuates exacerbates and magnifies the negativity that you are formulating in your words in other words if I sit here and begin the complain about you know begin to nitpick my life and begin to complain about something that's really irrelevant even if it's not irrelevant even if it is something significant and I begin the complaint about it what happens is the energy I give to it makes it worse and so rather than feeding the cancer of negativity I deprive it of energy right I deprive it of energy and the Bible says in Proverbs 18:21 death and life are in the power of the tone and they that love it shall eat the fruit there what does he mean by they don't love it show you the fruit there if you love to speak negative if you love to speak death you're gonna get the fruit of death if you love to speak life you're gonna get I can't personally I can't tolerate a person that's always negative I don't care what the situation is I cannot tolerate a person that's always negative it makes my skin itch to be around a person that is always negative because for my emotional survival I have to stay positive I have to be positive not only for me but for those that follow me I have to be positive I have to always search for the the silver lining I cannot be a person that ever becomes you know poor me oh me oh my you know all is lost when I become that dude man it's over so I have to what I have to keep my I have to keep the the complaining out of my mouth out of my spirit because I've one thing I've learned about life is if you just live it it doesn't matter if it feels good or not if you just live it and live through it gets better it gets better complaining as a waste of time it's a waste of energy and this year 2020 you should commit yourself it's just not entertaining not not you know tolerating complaining out of yourself or anyone that would be that would be in your immediate circle don't compare don't complain and then finally the third thing don't compete don't compete you're not in competition with anybody you know you don't you don't you don't need in you don't need to be feel like you have to outdo someone else the only person that I'm in competition with is the best version of me that I see in my own head outside I'm competing with no one them and when you're not in competition with anyone what happens is you're no longer jealous of anybody you're not you're no longer intimidated by anybody so don't don't compare don't complain don't compete you're not in competition with anyone you know so when someone comes into your world that is highly achieved and whatever whatever you can celebrate them because you're not in competition that that is the thing that distinguishes Queens from silly women silly women are always in competition with Queens while Queens are in competition with no one Queens are just manifesting and actualizing the best version of themselves silly women are always looking comparing themselves complaining about their situation and competing with everybody in fact about it the people that you're trying to compete with are ideally the people you should be learning from let me see if I can find this this scripture I want to share with you give me one second don't compare don't complain okay here it is in proverbs 28 and 11 it says the rich man is wise in his own conceit but the poor that hath understanding searched him out oh the poor man searches out the rich man the poor man is not in competition with the rich man he's not jealous of the rich man a wise man that is you know he's not comparing himself to the rich man he searches him out because he doesn't need to try to compare or complain or compete with this man he needs to learn from this man so a lot of times the people you're trying to compete with are the people who are really supposed to mentor you but people cannot mentor you when you're in competition so I have mentors in my life now who a world beyond me in terms of their achievements in their success and you know like I have one mentor who's a national bestseller no I'm not a national bestseller in terms of writing not yet I will be because he's teaching me he's teaching me and I'm learning and I'm not in competition with this man I mean I'm in I'm in student mode I don't need to compete with him he doesn't have what I have I don't have what he has if I take his principles and apply them to my life and my gift I can do what he did or maybe even greater because I'm not in competition not in competition and so these things keep me grounded I don't compare don't complain I don't compete I celebrate I observe I learn I'm grateful and this is the thing these are the things that keep me grounded keep me sound in my mind you know because again as I said I'm gonna open this the world around me is crazy and it's getting crazier and crazier so I have to find that place of rest stability and calm within me because I'm living in a storm and so these things I believe if you practice this this year I believe that these things will prove to bring about a balance in your life that some of you some of you've never had before Lisa not gonna be praying for you as you go about your life this year and my poor has that God will just give you rest in peace that's my prayer fact let me pray for you now before I leave you father I thank you I thank you for this time thank you for bringing us into this year into this new decade and now god I ask you to take the words that I have spoken and allow these words to be come alive in the hearts of every person that might watch this message I thank you for rest in peace like they've never experienced before though the peace that only the Holy Spirit brings give them any and encounter with you in Jesus's name Amen well this is January the 6th 2020 and I want you to know that we are on our way to London England those of you in Europe I need you to spread the word we are on our way to London England March 27th and 28th Lisa and I and the team will be there Queen ology London and we'd love to have you to be a part of Queen ology London I need you to help me actually you know that's not my London is not my stomping ground I'm uh I'm a southern u.s. boy and but I know God is leading me to bring this message to London and if you're if you're there and if you've been a part of our international family if you're anywhere in Europe that you can make it I would love Lisa and I would love to embrace you you know just have that Friday night to fellowship with you to sit down and eat to have Q&A to sign books to take pictures and then that Saturday morning the 28th you know we'll dig in for about four hours in terms of queen ology and the tenants of queen ology it's going to be a blessing and I would love to have you the link to register is in the description we'd love to have you email us and let us know that you're there that you're coming some of you have you know registered but email us and let us know that you're coming we'd love to see you in March don't forget about the queen ology crews that is happening in July of 2020 worth cruising the Western Caribbean and my book King ology will be out if we get enough men will have sessions for Queen ology as well as sessions for King ology one one mother said I want to bring my son and I said to her well if he's the only male other than myself on the on the ship or with our group I'll spend some time just with him but king ology or queen ology meets king ology that's the vision going forward so I love you I think God for you don't forget to stop by Amazon pick up my books all of my online programs in fact queen ology the online program is available transcending the father wound the online program is available and wisdom for women in ministry the online program is available all of this is at RSC Blake's calm I love you god bless you you're on top and you're going higher so guess what I will see you at the top god bless you until next time have a great year god bless you [Music] [Music] you you

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Published: Mon Jan 06 2020