What's the Saddest "It's Okay, I'm Used to It." You've Heard? | People Stories #90

what's the saddest thing to hear it's okay i'm used to it as a response too had a friend who was really lonely and his old friends were awful to him like there was one girl who would just hit him and stuff and emotionally abuse him really bad but he didn't have any other friends so he just stuck with it accidentally hit him lightly or something when he said it's okay i'm used to it and i felt so bad for the poor guy he's fine now though been there done that sometimes i used to miss the abuse at least someone wanted to spend time with me my son talking about how his mother my ex-wife talks to him during our marriage she would take everything out on me whether it was my fault or not too busy at work shout at me her family coming to visit shout at me now we are apart she does the same thing to him he moves between both houses by his own choice last week she told him you might as well leave as you would imagine he was very upset when he got to my place he was making excuses for her and actually said it's okay i'm used to it i have never spoken badly about his mother to any of my children until now i have been talking him since then that she used to do this to me and that it's actually not okay he has spent a lot of time considering what i have been saying he is 20 and has said he is going to have a discussion with her about it i hope she acts like as much of an adult as he is but i don't like the chances of that when i'd go to my friend's house and their parents would just belittle them and make them visibly upset heartbreaker man i give this answer quite often when people find out that i'm in constant pain it's a lie of course you never get used to pain as someone with a chronic condition i feel this crap right here when a kid is left waiting for their parents my dad left me at the airport for six hours when i came home for christmas from the air force every other military guy had family waiting for them at baggage claim never wasted money flying home again like the one time a girl ever asked me out in my life back in high school i told her sorry i just met another girl i really like and we're starting to get serious so i can't right now and her answer was that it's okay i'm used to it no one ever picks me first it was something like that i felt freaking terrible cause usually back then that would have been my line preface my boyfriend has lost his mom both of his uncles and his step-grandfather all separate instances literally last sunday night at midnight my boyfriend woke me up to tell me that one of his really good friends from high school died he was so upset and i was so sad for him i told him how sorry i was for him because i honestly didn't even know what to say his response it's okay i'm used to it in the saddest tone i've ever heard i started crying how freaking heartbreaking when you're volunteering at the homeless shelter and they have to turn someone out on a cold winter night because the facility is maxed out the person with tears says it's okay i'm used to it i had a roommate after college that unfortunately slipped back into a pill problem i came back to the apartment one evening with my mom to find my roommate passed out on the floor and incoherent i was freaking out the entire time but my mom was incredibly calm and knew exactly what to do afterwards she told me i used to have to do that all the time with my dad my mom grew up with an alcoholic father who ended up dying of his disease so she had been through a lot but i really had no idea how bad it had been for her until then i still get a little choked up thinking about her face in that moment this won't be a very popular opinion unless you've really been through it but when people constantly interrupt you especially when it's by people that you love it's one thing when it's a lively and interesting conversation then i get it but even in just normal everyday communication after asking so many people to stop with no avail it gets to the point where you know nobody is really listening or cares what you have to say i'm almost just tired of talking but it's okay i'm used to it this is the one thing that still rattles me to the core even worse is the fact i'll cut in on someone to try to show i'm actively listening but really it's just the same thing i can't stand i'm the sad sack in this story my youngest brother passed away a little over a year ago at the funeral my aunt was introducing me to people and most responses were ohio wow i didn't even know he had a sister after about an hour of this i was introduced to my dad's pastor and he said oh wow i had no idea lex had a sister and i said yeah it's okay i'm used to it and he says oh wow that's so sad like thanks a frick ton people sweet jesus man i'm sorry for what humanity did to you when i was in 10th grade there was this freshman girl who had a pretty nice body in my photography class sometimes when she walked by the back table like three or four of the guys there would slap her butt and she would just keep walking solemnly one day i took her aside so no one was in ear shot and asked her why she just lets them do that to her and she said it's fine i've had to deal with it since i was in middle school from some of them when my boss told me a few weeks ago that i haven't been getting enough quotes to him and maybe this sales job is t for me but you are a really nice guy i could not tell you how many times i've had someone say something negative followed up with but you're a really nice guy on the bright side if many people say it you probably are actually a really nice dude you just keep being nice hope it all works out not quite it's okay i'm used to it but pretty close i'll listen to a friend of mine who has adhd and asperger's talk about his dnd stories and he'll go on for a bit and then suddenly stop and say sorry i'm rambling and you just know he's been told to shut up or stop talking so many times that he's now used to having to stop talking because someone got frustrated with him rambling makes me sad that someone would tell this guy to shut up when he's clearly enjoying explaining his wild universes passion like that shouldn't be stifled my friend apologizes every time he tells a story that drags on longer than the i should stop talking point even if people are enjoying it we're always like dude it's cool we're listening keep going only for him to apologize a little later it's kinda sad that his reaction to being excited about something is to apologize because he thinks nobody wants to hear it constantly having different utilities cut off and multiple eviction threats from the landlord and a large possibility of becoming homeless in the near future because whoever you live with would rather stock up on liquor than save for rent and bills that seems almost too specific i was walking into walmart the other day when i saw a woman in her early 60s in a wheelchair trying to push herself uphill against the wind with a basket on her lap i said to her pardon me i don't mean to be rude but would you like a hand and she said oh no that's alright i'm used to it i felt so guilty for how much i take my legs for granted what a trooper she was she might have been more receptive if you had offered her legs instead of a hand someone hurling insults wears hurtful words at a person this is basically what i say because i've had so many hurtful words thrown at me i'm practically immune to it by now yup same here on the bright side being able to say i've been called worse by better and it be 100 accurate is rather satisfying in strange sort of way this kid i had an after-school program was supposed to be picked up by his dad for the weekend talked basically all friday how much fun they were gonna have well monday came and i found out the dad never showed the kid seemed fine though and when i tried to get if he really was okay he said it's okay i should be used to this by now also another kid i babysit her mom is supposed to call on sunday nights but skips many of them any just calls whenever she pleases really and gets mad at the kid for not answering while in school i asked her about it and she said it doesn't bother her cause she's so used to her mom being flaky and not calling at the agreed upon time my gf told me she still has back pain and aches from her father hitting her before when i told her i'm worried and i'm sorry she responds it's okay i'm used to it my heart goddang broke i was just lost for words maybe you should look up some ways you can help her with the pain like physical pain judging by your reaction to that i can tell that you probably already help her with the emotional my mom has some strong letting go issues she had a crappy childhood that resulted in her not letting me go to birthday parties sleepover played date ctc when i was younger cuz she was afraid something was going to happen or that i would somehow embarrass myself for life around the third grade we had a new kid in class and when it came around to birthday parties everyone but me got an invite the new kid noticed this after a while and was offended for me when asked why i wasn't upset just stated that i was used to it even if i had gotten an invite i would not be allowed to go i hope that new kids became your friend what a cool dude eighth grade teacher here i have a student who recently told me that her mum cries every night as she goes through the week's budget trying to work out how much they can afford to eat that week i asked her if she ever went hungry because as her teacher it's my duty to escalate when a child isn't having basic needs met and whether she wanted to see the school counselor about the crying her response to both questions was it's okay i'm used to it it was honestly the most heartbreaking thing i'd ever heard later on i found out that this girl only had half a buttered sandwich each day at school which had to last her through recess and lunch and always went to the library to read during breaks because she wanted to conserve her energy all the teachers thought she was a bookworm in actual fact she longed for friends but hadn't made any because they were all running around in the playground i had a girl in high school apologizing for hitting me with a metal stick a few months before the apology the reflex answer was nvm i'm used to that the look of shame on her face when i said that was some painful crap my mom usually can't attend school events because she's working when she tells me she can't attend something that's my response i used a nanny this really sweet girl in kindergarten or the first grade the girl that sat next to her in class died in a freak accident she had recently within the year or so just lost grandparents animals and a family friend i asked her how she was handling the loss of her friend and she responded i'm okay i'm used to losing people close to me broke my heart i work at toys r us the saddest thing is a child who knows they're not the favorite saying that when they get 1.10 toy and their sibling gets many toys all of which are over that price i was like oh is it your brother's birthday to this little girl who was getting one little doll when her brother was getting nerf guns and video games she looked at me and went mom and grandma buy him everything he wants i'm used to it a story for a similar phrase it's just easier to this way cousin was getting married at her stepdad's ranch house and invited everybody including her father and us they had one of those through the years photo albums on the tv playing throughout the night despite the fact that her father raised her in a loving home till she was 16. there were absolutely no photos of her father anywhere in the video multiple people on both sides noticed she was eventually confronted about it and said that it was put together by her mother and it wasn't worth arguing over she then had her stepdad walk her down the aisle in front of her father yikes nurses doctors and healthcare workers getting the living snot kicked out of them by violent abusive people in the hospital and the police doing absolutely bugger all about it i did security in an emergency ward and i really was not prepared for how violent it was also i was not prepared for how little the police did it was practically impossible to get them to show up and on the extremely rare occasions they did they never arrested anyone i remember the first day i was filling out an incident report where a nurse got knocked down flat and i'm apologizing to her saying i had been on the phone and can't even get the police to show up and she said that's okay i'm used to it and you better get used to it too wanting to hang out with someone and either they already have plans or you later find out they did something fun with your group of friends and they didn't invite you now i'll usually say it's fine go have fun glad you had fun it's not really fine i've just gotten used to it i know that feeling all too well removed because i felt like i was crap talking my mom who i love very much gist of it was people ask how i go all day without complaining about being hungry friend holy crap i'm sorry man i don't know how it shot crap all over the house and on the walls plummer it's okay i'm used to it literally his job i knew this girl for like 10 years because of girl scouts but didn't become real good friends until high school i'd never had like a sleepover with her outside of girl scouts activities when i slept over i could hear her dad screaming at her brothers for not cleaning up the game room and some other stuff and then screaming at his wife my girl scout leader for whatever the boys did or didn't do i was so scared and my friend just kinda ignored it i was like wow he sounds really upset are your brothers okay and she basically told me it was a normal occurrence in her house i remember walking out to go to the bathroom and one of her brothers who likes to act like a tough butthole was crying crying and cleaning the bathroom i always had a weird feeling about her dad like he liked to act like the good funny suburban christian dad when everyone was around but even when i was young i felt like he was really condescending no one in that family deserved that sort of treatment from him one of them brothers they had adopted a few years prior from china and i felt like he was so unfortunate to have such a crappy dad and a brother who took things out on him because he felt like crap too anyways tl dr saddest thing is when you learn your friends of one or two crappy parents who act like crap and they're so used to being screamed at all the time for me the saddest moments are when they can still have a normal expression while saying it if someone says i'm used to it while crying it kinda means they're not really used to it there was a kid in my class when i was around eight years old that was really unpopular because he was poor and often got bullied after a while he found his place as the guy that does stupid crap and hurts himself to try and fit in there was actually a toughness session but in reality it was just people beating the ever-loving crap out of him while he just stood there without reacting as well as him putting out cigarettes using his arms and hands even let people whip him with long thin branches while not reacting at all just so he could fit in and have friends i remember the teacher finding out and getting so incredibly angry at everyone and started yelling at our entire class in the middle of the class he straight up begged her to stop blaming people as he had finally found what he called friends anyways she told him to pull up his sleeves and there were bloody whip marks bruises and burns all over his arms the guy just looks at her with a smile and says that he's used to it and he's really happy the teacher straights up starts to cry and pull him out of the classroom didn't see him for long after that as he got placed into a foster home and as it turns out he actually was used to it cause he'd been beaten at home for as long as he could remember now that i'm older i realized just how heartbreaking it would be to see a tortured eight-year-old boy act all happy because he managed to get fake friends by being beaten repeatedly nerve damage in my back i've seen quite a few high-level doctors about it just went to see the last one before i knew there was nothing else i could do and know that it would never heal and i would be stuck this way forever it was the first appointment my parents actually went to with me in mid-20s and don't live at home anymore but i guess after a few years they were frustrated i had never gotten any help after a few hours there and a nerve conduction study that lasted almost three hours no change nothing they can do to help my mom and dad were upset when the doctor seeming genuinely sorry said there was nothing they could do having seen lots of doctors before this who all responded the same way over the last two years i responded something like it's okay doctor i figured that's what you'd say just wanted to get a final opinion which sent my parents over the edge i guess they expected something to happen or some magic surgery to exist not to be told by an expert sorry nothing we can do and for me to be so nonchalant about it it sucks but i'm used to it working retailer guy going through my checkout with his severely autistic son who was probably in his 20s and bigger than his dad the sun starts beating on the dad the dad really struggles to stop his son and takes a good few hits i'm like are you okay man and he just looked at me dead behind the eyes yeah i'm used to it poor guy man my step-daughter came home from her boyfriend's house complaining of a headache when i asked a few more questions she finally told me he had hit her really hard in the back of the head had a big goose egg and scab i was horrified and asked why she was even still with him after that she just said it's okay i'm used to it wish i could do something to help with her self-esteem but no matter what i tell her or how much i care about her she needs to figure out how to love herself you're a good parent when i was 15 or 16 my friends told this really really big girl that i liked her as a joke it was crappy but she believed them i flagged her down after gym class to tell her truth and when i did she goes yeah it's okay people don't ever have feelings for me i'm used to pranks like this i remember punching my friend that did that in the chest like six or seven times during study hall the next period it was heartbreaking i was dating this girl who had been through a string of crappy relationships we were arguing one day and she tells me to just hit she's yelling it emotions are riding high she says it'll just make you feel better so go ahead and slug me i'm used to it i told her i wouldn't because it wouldn't solve anything i would only strike a significant other if that's what they're into when i was 19 and 18 my current partner i was squatting in an abandoned flea infested decaying house while i scrapped by on food stamps and working eight hours a week because my job was cutting everyone a friend offered to let me move in with them for a while but didn't want me to bring my best friend and last member of my family my cat i tried to take him to an animal rescue place but the attendant decided my cat was too aggressive after he manhandled him pretty hard as i sat in my partner's car and held my cat's crate close to my heart he lamented to me how unfair this all was and how he knew my cat meant everything to me and how our only option seemed to be to take him to the shelter that told me point blank that if i took my cat there they would kill him i looked at him full of despair at the thought that i had failed my little buddy who had been my constant companion through death and abandonment and homelessness and honestly stated it's okay i'm used to it to me it was tuesday to him he was witnessing the saddest thing he had ever seen happening to someone he was quickly falling in love with and he began to cry i was so surprised by his reaction because why would anyone cry over me or my problems the good news is my friend changed their mind and i got to keep him and when i eventually moved in with my partner he let me take him even though he's deathly allergic to cats and we found ways to work around it for a number of years until my cat eventually passed away due to natural causes i miss my little buddy my constant companion every day but i'm so thankful i got the time with him that i did i know many people hate on cats and say they're horrible but that cat was everything to me the adorable little rascal and he loved me in a way that i believe few people in this world get to experience from an animal the first time i injected chemo directly into a child's head they said this to me crazy thing to hear and do to get chemo directly into the spinal fluid in the brain a special access port is sometimes installed under the skin and through the skull the child is awake for the procedure typically it's more or less painless i'm that guy who always seems to be on the edge of friend groups or at least i used to i was at one who always got talked over by other people or people wouldn't realize i was talking at all i was just used to being that guy the one who was just kind of there got to college and found a group of friends that i really do interact with and it's amazing how different that is your parents and family telling you shut up stop talking or i'm not interested that was a good 90 of my childhood if i ever wanted to discuss anything i was interested in my wife getting repeatedly stuck with a needle while the nurses struggled to find a vein we've been to the air four times this week she's battling lyme disease and a pile of co-infections basically whenever nobody bothers to learn how to say someone's name properly especially if it's unusual or exotic for the area it's a basic unit of respect and acknowledging someone as a person learning to say their name correctly i have a really unusual first and last name and a lot of people who have known me for years co-workers etc still don't say it correctly despite multiple corrections so i'm super conscientious of making sure i pronounce other people's names correctly even if they use phonemes that don't quite match up to english often the response i get is a very surprise and grateful no one ever tries which is pretty similar to i'm used to it i have a happy one instead to counterbalance such heartbreaking stories i often go walking in the forest and dogs run up to me and want to jump up i don't have the heart to say no because they look so happy to see me the owners are always so embarrassed as i'll get a little muddy but i always tell them i work with animals so i'm used to it met some great dogs this way disappointment like going to job interviews and it always going what you think was good but never getting the job it's okay i'm used to it we were at a pep rally a couple of friends and me sitting on the actual chairs the pep rally was packed because it was a special one for halloween and one of my ex's invite her friend mind you we are still really good friends our relationship just didn't work out anyways since the gym was packed her friend ended up not sitting near us and when i glanced over at who my ex was texting it was our friend he said it's okay i'm used to it so i got up and traded seats with him hope he enjoyed the show if you are new to the channel you can subscribe i publish new videos every day until then check another video [Music] bye for now

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Length: 24min 34sec (1474 seconds)

Published: Sun Nov 15 2020