What Childhood Experience Didn't Click until Years Later?

what happened to you when you were young that you didn't understand until years later i'm a redhead but neither of my parents or my brother is a redhead so when we were out in public when i was young a lot of people would ask where my red hair came from one day when i was probably six or so my parents told me to start answering the question with from the mailman which i did constantly cause people always seem to react to it it wasn't till i got to high school that it clicked that the mailman in this scenario had not delivered my red hair in an envelope but that it had come from a much different package i love that your parents encourage you to do this it's something most parents would be mortified about but they clearly thought it was hilarious they sound like funny people i'd get erections and i'd pull my pants down and pee long straight lines i thought they were for peeing long distances when i was six we used to play a lot with pokemon cards at school one recess i left my deck inside the classroom when i came back my chair wizard was missing from it three days later a friend from class came to me and told me he found my chair is it outside in a bush took me 10 years to realize he stole it from me and then got cold feet and gave it back when i was seven and my brother was four a man came up to the backyard where we were playing and asked if we wanted to see the puppy in his van my brother said yes and started to follow him i grabbed my brother's arm and screamed very dramatically new until my parents came out the man waved at my parents and then drove away i felt a little embarrassed for overreacting by screaming no like that looking back there is no way he wasn't a creeper i asked my mom just now if she remembered that and why she didn't report him to the police to let them know there was a potential kidnapper in the neighborhood she said because he didn't actually do anything when i was younger my house was messy and my mum only ever cleaned on special occasions and that was only certain rooms people were allowed in i always thought this was completely normal we had wine boxes holding up our couch and shoved right up our chimney which was covered by a fire screen our kitchen smelled of mold and rotting food the benches and floors were covered in the source of the smell and other unidentifiable objects my clothes used to sit in a washing basket so long after they were washed that they would start to grow fuzz there was one room beside mine which was so over packed with rubbish and toys that i could barely crack the door open it was just filthy overall no one ever saw this though and if they did i can only imagine that my mum would have lost custody of me immediately and i think she knew that i lived like that until i was 12 and i didn't really understand what was happening until recently when watching an episode of hoarders it's kind of messed me up i can't sleep unless my house is spotless and i constantly have panic attacks if i forget to clean something before leaving the house got told that grandma had a black eye because she had walked into a door okay grandma years later i realized that grandpa had given grandma a black eye grandparents are meant to be all warm and nice and friendly in kindergarten i had a best friend named daniel and we played with toy dinosaurs and traded them all the time january comes around and i invite him to my birthday party i was having at my house he never showed up that day and my mom told me that day he wasn't going to be able to make it as well as he wouldn't be able to come to school again little kid me was like okay you'll see him later he died in a car crash on the way to my birthday party frick i hope i'm not late to the party when i was about six seven wish i was looking for bugs in my backyard when i came across a super rare and badass praying mantis naturally i scooped it up and put it in my bug container later on i was looking for more bugs when i found yet another praying mantis lucky day i was super excited and put it in the container with the other praying mantis both of them stood in their dead still and just kind of bobbed around like praying mantis do i came back a few hours later and was appalled by what i found the bigger mantis standing there is still as ever right on top of a praying mantis head and legs i was super spooked was that mantis a killer did the smaller mantis fall apart or explode what happened it really weirded me out for a while i'd say about 10 or so years later i found out that the female mantis eats the male after sex i still don't know if i'm an accomplice to a murderer or a world-class wingman probably both when i was around six seven years old my father used to grow these special tomato plants at the back of our garage hidden away from everything and every time he took me back there i had to be very quiet and not tell the neighbors about them when i was around 16 something clicked one day and i realized my parents were both growing marijuana my mom had a serious drug problem my entire life when i was in high school i recognized the alcohol addiction that was new and developed when i entered high school in college she developed an obvious addiction to painkillers which killed her when i was 19. i was talking to my dad and he told me that her drug problems was the main reason for their divorce and why he fought so hard for custody yet still remain so friendly with my mom to be a prominent figure in my life i was confused because to me my mom's issues didn't start until i entered high school and she discovered alcohol and my dad mentioned that he was talking about her h addiction my entire childhood he didn't realize when he said it that i was unaware of it and he was incredibly upset that he told me that when i didn't know he hated the idea of hurting my memory of my mom who despite her massive freak-ups i still love she was my mom even looking back now i'm a bit shocked to learn all this but it makes a lot of things make sense when i was little i asked my mom why i was having erections and what they were she said to me don't worry sweetie it happens to your father all the time looking back i am mortified in my adolescence telemarketers frequently called our house my parents instructed my sister and myself to respond to questions like is your mom dad home with cheesies in the shower well one summer day when i was six we got a telemarketer call after i explained i was only a child and could subsequently not conduct business for the household he asked is your mom home i said number she's in the shower what about your dad he's in there too it was not until years later that i realized his sudden embarrassed laughing was caused by me accidentally making this guy think my parents were getting it on in the shower while their poor innocent son was home i lost one of my teeth when i was seven years old and so i was so excited to get money and stuff from the tooth fairy i put the tooth under the pillow and i was ready to get my prize for losing a tooth the next morning i woke up and the tooth was gone but no present i went and told my dad about how i just got scammed from the tooth fairy and he was like oh the tooth fairy had to run fast so she gave me the money to give to you he then pulls out his wallet and gives me the two dollars that the tooth fairy gave him i was so happy but still wondered why the tooth fairy was in such a rush two dollars i got 50 cents dlang cheap butt tooth fairy when i was six and my brother was four we used to walk to our cousin's house which was two houses down one evening we asked our mother if we could go over and she said yes and lets us walk over by ourselves while we're walking this car drives up to us and asks if we knew where the nearest mcdonald's was and if we'd like to come with him i told him we weren't allowed to eat mcdonald's without our mother's permission and turned to get her to ask if we were allowed she was already running outside to get us when the car sped off i was around 15 when i was reminiscing with my family and she brought it up creepy realization when i would stay at my grandmother's house i had a bunch of vhs tapes about dinosaurs and stuff that i wanted to watch sometimes i'd get to watch them but only if my grandpa was home memol always said you'll have to wait until pepper gets back i can't work that vcr she also had all her soaps recorded on tape and many times i saw her record them without my grandpa being home she feigned incompetence so that she didn't have to watch my dinosaur movies and i never realized until i was an adult it is the wise woman who plays the fool memo you sly fox ha i've done something similar to the kids i nanny they have a trampoline and always want me to jump on it with them watching six kids takes enough of my energy so i convinced them that i'm terrified to get on so they'd stop bugging me about it in lower school i remember asking my parents for wife beaters aka sleeveless undershirts because i thought they'd make me look cool my dad pulled me aside and explained to me that i shouldn't say that because there are women out there who have been abused and using that term could make them uncomfortable i looked at mom and said really it's just a name for a shirt i was met with an uncomfortable stare from her it wasn't until a few years later that i was made aware that my dad was not my biological father but a great man my mother met when i was a toddler my biological father was an extremely abusive alcoholic and my mother had to escape with me before i was even a year old frick the other dude dad refers to the man who raised you your dad is awesome my abuse counselor had these two big plastic bins full of wet and dry sand in his office every session he would lock the door and tell me pretend you're at the beach you've got to take your shirt off at the beach so i wouldn't he'd give me a massage which hurt because i was sick and had no muscles to massage it never went any further than that but there was another counselor who would hide x-men trading cards in his pockets and he would have me look for them it's kind of messed up that these guys were abuse counselors and maybe they still are this was 23 years ago i never understood that not everyone had people drop bags of groceries on their steps while the people just rang the bell and drove away dawned on me as an adult that we were poor then i looked back at old pics and noticed all the signs tiny christmas tree in the background disappointed faces on christmas pics no vacation pictures damn it i'm gonna try to avoid having my kids live that way the other part of that is i didn't realize how stressed my mom always was until i got older and realized not everyone's parents freaked out weekly and slammed doors and peeled off in their car leaving their kids alone and scared i specifically remember one incident where my mom brother and i went to the grocery store and while we were walking to the car my mom dropped the gallon of milk and it exploded all over the ground my mom started crying and my brother said don't cry over split milk mom kinda chuckling i didn't understand at all now looking back it hurts me to think how hard my mom was trying to keep everything together she passed away at age 51 when i was 18 she had a rough adulthood i live my life now hoping to become what she wanted me to be she made tons of mistakes but she was there for me on her own and she tried so hard all you teens take notice of how your parents act when they think you're not looking you might be surprised to find they are very stressed and working super hard to make you happy often times with only frustration to show for it i was cleaning chickens with my grandparents when i was a kid probably about 10 years old i was pulling out the insides and i found what i thought were two eggs that were growing inside the chicken i got all excited and showed my grandma and told my mom about it when she picked me up i noticed that they both had smirks that seemed odd when i told them about it years later i thought back about that time and realized that it was a rooster and those were his balls in the mail and i always wanted to pee out my butt like my mom did one day i finally did it i was later informed that it was diarrhea clearly you couldn't see the crap two things when i was in first grade i got to go to a special pay class called motor skills every few weeks it was fun i loved it years later i realized that i got selected for this class because i was clumsy around the same time my sister went to vacation bible school and made a napkin holder with the words believe jesus saves for many years i thought that was an admonition to save napkins religion went in one ear and out the other for me when i was about 10 my friend told me i needed to go into the hot tub and put my wiener up against the jet because it would feel really good we had no idea what was going on and ended up concluding that we had invented the feeling deeming it having a spermitation wasn't till years later that i realized i was just whacking it with the help of a high reynolds number female here one of my most embarrassing moments though not at the time was doing this when i was in my neighbor's pool with a bunch of people around but my mom saw and yelled at me to stop so naturally i responded but it feels good in front of all these people i had grown up with thanks for reminding me of this horrifying moment when i was little i'd go see my grandparents and my grandpa would be in the basement building something or fixing something and i'd go down to see what was up i'd say grandpa what are you doing and he'd look at me and say i'm building layovers to catch medullus it was years before i figured out that was a roundabout way of saying none of your business my grandpa would just say baking a cake if you asked him what he was doing he was never baking a cake defending my mom from my dad since he slapped her butt cheek in the laundry room when i was like six and supposed to be away with my grandparents i was the hero the cockbloking hero carjacked with my cousin i was 12 she was 16 gun pointed at my head and everything at the court hearing they were caught my lawyer person lady asked if i was aware that the four men who carjacked my cousin and i had intention to kidnap us as the police found duct tape and rope in their getaway car and they fessed up to it that was a heavy bomb dropped on me while i was testifying against them but i never really understood how lucky i was until i was older my mom used to always go through periods where she would mostly hide in her room yelling like she was in agony and other times she seemed totally fine like a few days on a few days off i always assumed she was depressed as i have depression too turns out when my brothers and i went to her hometown for her funeral recently i learned she was a drug addict i had absolutely no idea my younger brother and i were playing in the bathroom we used to make potions mixing different soaps together and stuff usual weird kid stuff one of the soaps we found was a bit different it smelled like strawberry candy and when dead my brother tasted it said it was delicious we figured we had hit the kid jackpot edible soap we cheerily shared almost the whole bottle before my mom walked in and took it away from us kinda laughing but trying to remain stern while doing so fast forward a few years to my first visit to the stag shop and i realized my brother and i had eaten almost a whole bottle of strawberry-flavored personal lubricant i was about five six years old in a colder store defunct discount sears wannabe store in new england my mom and i were on the second floor and i was a couple of steps behind her i thought i saw her go down the escalator so i did too to catch up i couldn't find her i looked around for a while fruitlessly i was eventually approached by a lady who looked to be about 40 in a brown leather jacket she asked if i was lost she said she was a police officer and that my mom was outside she led me toward the front entrance as my mom called for me from the second floor i went to my mom unless i remembered some details incorrectly i think i was about to get kidnapped this fact occurred to me when i was about 20. i just thought how nobody in this thread actually got kidnapped then i realized it would be irrelevant to the question and they probably wouldn't be able to tell anyone didn't really happen to me but when i was 14 i suddenly realized that those two giraffes at the zoo when i was seven that i shouted about to everyone else weren't giving each other piggybacks oh crap that made me smile that's great my mom had this woman who harris stalked her when i was really little i always just thought of her as they mean lady but it wasn't until i was older that my parents explained to me just how crazy she was she would show up to places we went and would watch us call my parents all time leave threatening letters etc part of the reason why we moved from mexico to the us was because my parents were afraid for my safety part of the reason why we moved from mexico to the us was because my parents were afraid for my safety spoiler alert you may not have run far enough dad used to have a shop in the basement where he would work on things in the evening he used to smoke while he was down there and i wasn't allowed to be in the shop because smoke is bad for kids i used to sneak down covered style sometimes and he'd catch me and shoot me out all while laughing and smiling the smoke smelled different than regular smoke but i was little and didn't think much of it years later when i first knowingly smelled pot i instantly recognized the smell dad used to smoke pot in the basement every night this really reminds me of something too it wasn't someone we knew i think just a stranger on the street but one day i asked one of my parents what weird kind of cigarette that person was smoking and they said it was a herbal cigarette it was several years later well after i'd been taught about weed that i suddenly put two and two together i was about four and my cousin like a sister though had just gotten married i was very close to her since she used to babysit me all the time when the couple visited us for the first time for a weekend i wanted to sleep with them in their bed of course i wasn't allowed and nobody would tell me why now i understand why the bastard was banging my sister edit clarity i refer to my cousin as sister i enjoyed steamed beans particularly the ones that had a little juice in them when you pop it out of the shell so i said i like them young and wet and my family had a laugh over that i just figured out what it means a decade later 22 btw my parents took me to some cot race track because racing is awesome the white cart was in front so i yelled white power people got mad and we had to leave i guess they wanted the red car to win when i was six years old one of my friends in kindergarten wanted to suck my dong a boy my age now that i look back at it it seems kind of weird and now you're into girl's a-holes your freudian mystery a friend and i would sometimes hang out at the cemetery when we were younger not for any morbid reasons or anything mainly just because it was a quiet place we could both easily reach and it was remote enough to be a good place to smoke pot one day when we were out there we saw my dad on the other side of it he wasn't doing anything really and after he left we went over to check the grave near where he was to see if that had anything to do with it there weren't any new graves and the ones that were there were way too old to be anyone he knew so we just wrote it off as i got older i realized what was going on he was probably getting high there too exhale of relief even i didn't realize it till the last sentence when i was little my family and i would go up to pennsylvania during the summer we had a trailer in this resort place that only allowed mobile homes i remember one night waking up scared shitless because the trailer was rocking i knocked on my parents bedroom door they said it was okay that sometimes the raccoons like to shake the trailer that satisfied my young mind not until later on that i thought of it and realized that it was my parents getting it on i was at a friend's house when i was about 10 years old we were laughing and giggling about something i don't remember what i laughed so hard i peed in my pants i was so embarrassed i just wanted to change my pants and forget about it she wanted to tell her mom i begged her not to she did anyway i was mortified just sitting on her bedroom floor her mom came to the door and said it's okay sweetie i peed my pants at a job interview today i believed her and it made me feel better to think that a grown-up had gone through the same thing a few years later it dawned on me that she only said what she did to make me feel less embarrassed she was a stay-at-home mom she didn't pee at a job interview i had recurring dreams of crying in the tub while someone threw water in my face from a very young age i told my mom about it in my teenage years and she told me that i had been raped by my babysitter's older son while being given a bath when i was two sad story but i feel pretty disconnected from that whole experience it just feels like a bad dream edit thank you for all the support and questions do your research on child care providers and don't be afraid to seek help if you or someone you know has been a victim of sexual abuse take care edit too there seems to be a lot of people who think my mom isn't but for telling me but i already clarified that it was information that i pressed her for comma she was pretty torn about telling me she started by saying it wasn't a dream and i pressed her for more info and she told me everything she asked how i felt afterward and even offered to take me to my therapist again there was no bluntness about it but she tried to make it a clinical and straightforward as she could that traumatic event wasn't just hard for me but her as well and so talking about it between the two of us as adults was actually relieving to both of us i was raped when i was five and unless i try to focus on the details which i try to avoid at all cost it feels like a bad dream to me too thank god for fuzzy kid memories when i was young i lost a tooth in an italian hoagie or sub grinder big sandwich depending where you are from and ended up swallowing my tooth i told my parents about it frantic that i wouldn't get my one dollar reward from the tooth fairy my dad told me that i should draw a picture of my tooth and maybe the tooth fairy would let that suffice so i drew the tooth and i woke up to a drawing of a one dollar dollar bill i was confused angry laughing in frustration and i didn't understand at the time is that my dad is awesome if you 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Length: 23min 57sec (1437 seconds)

Published: Tue Sep 08 2020