She slept with his brother | Talks with Tony

hey tony guys here popping in with another episode of talks with tony gonna hop right on into this here letter hello mr tony gaskins i have been following you for about three years love your video and great advice therefore i would appreciate some advice i have been in a relationship with a boyfriend now for one year but have known him for five years we started off as friends and became intimate but a relationship never formed because he was not ready to commit i left him due to the fact that he was not ready to commit we got back together and he stated he was ready for a relationship the problem comes in because i'm putting in more effort in the relationship i come to his house i plan dates and i spend my money the majority of the time also he has a 13 year old son i've never met we have a bond and i do believe he loves me the one thing that's holding him back in my opinion is before i met him i slept with his brother six years prior to us meeting it was only a one night stand but he is very close to his brother we have all been around each other and he assures me he does not have a problem with it i try to walk away many times but find myself coming back when he calls he is a good person and a family man i do trust him i'm just confused as to what i should do stay or go please help hmm now let me see here all righty put a face with a name sometimes uh because this if gmail sometimes people have gmail you can see they have a picture on their profile now on this situation here as you might assume just right out the gate when you you know hear what you said out loud it sounds like a no-go because of the fact that you knew this person you've been in relationship with him now for one year but you've known him for five years it sounds like y'all in a small town i'm not sure if y'all in a small town but it sounds like it [Music] because that's a little that that that that's a little strange there to sleep with his brother and then meet him and then get with him and y'all hit it off and then y'all sleep together and then you know he's not ready to commit and then he comes back it just listen for this to work it'll have to be a situation this would definitely be an exception to the rule you will have to say to yourself like i'm okay going through the motions with this thing to see if it can work and if i find myself a year down the line and it's not working then i won't hate myself or feel like i've lost so much time you will have to take that approach now i don't know this guy just like none of the men that y'all writing about but one thing that i know about men is men are very territorial men like men struggle in in any man i talk to a lot some men struggle with just the fact that their woman has been with another man period just the fact that like you know some men have dreams of their woman sleeping with their ex-boyfriend and the man maybe never met the ex-boyfriend don't even know what the ex-boyfriend looked like and will wake up from a nightmare about their woman being touched you know so men are just territorial now the one thing about it is this a little different because it's his brother that's always going to be awkward at the family reunion at the family get-togethers that's gonna be awkward y'all have been around each other and the thing is it's kind of like you know you have to really question yourself because it's not like they're the only two men in the world and it's not like this guy's the only guy and your heart keep trying to pull you away like your common sense keeps saying like going about your business like your common sense keeps saying go ahead this just don't make sense like it never makes sense to sleep with somebody and then be in a relationship with their sibling that you're sleeping with that just does not make sense that's gonna be that soul ties you know you still gonna think something or feel something when you see his brother if you're not thinking or feeling nothing or feeling a little way his brother gonna feel away then this guy gonna feel away but what you have to understand about men is a lot of times men don't care about the heart of a woman so him and his brother could have a pact like hey you hit a hey now i'm hitting like hey man i'm just hitting him right you know it ain't nothing i'm never in the mirror but i ain't gonna let her go i'm keep around cause she on the roster you know what i'm saying like she one or three hey but you told me that they were whoo what did they hey but you were lying give a look you said i mean and so brothers men that's how men are they like hey right here hey boom you know and so this could have happened organically like it ain't like his brother passed you to his brother but then when his brother found out and before you slept with this guy before y'all you said we started off as friends and became intimate but a relationship never formed because he was not ready to commit why you think he wasn't ready to commit because this brother and i you said you said now we got back together he stated he was ready for a relationship the problem comes in because i'm putting in more effort in the relationship i come to his house i plan dates i spend my money majority of time that lets you know he's not into you that lets you know he does not want you like that that lets you know you are a for him you're a wham-bound thank you ma'am you're a hit-and-run for him that's what that is i know that's i know it hurt to heal it's even harder for me to say like like like your mom used to tell you hey that's going just whooping off and get you gonna hurt me more than gonna hurt you or my daddy just say i'm like what all right give me that belt then turn around if it's gonna hurt you more than it's gonna hurt me give me that belt telling that lie ain't you a pastor boy so listen but i'm telling you this is hard for me to say that it is hard for me to say that because it just i don't take pride in that that ain't easy thing to say but listen i told y'all i'ma give you the truth in love yeah man i want to the man don't want you because what you just said right here coming to his house that's not really a huge thing but it's just like they let me know he ain't got nothing going on like he really just kind of lost he just lost in the sauce he just living life because when a man actually is playing women he really don't bring women to his house because he knows his other woman could pop up at any time so it let me know that he is just kind of chilling right now and that's how he got time for you it's like he bored he ain't got nothing else to do then you say i plan the dates i spend my money majority of time so it's really like he kind of like your your jack-in-the-box he kind of like your toy story like this your play man this your play boyfriend just just give you somebody to post take pictures with post pictures of or just have you some some male energy in your life because when you planning all the dates and you spending your money that last part you spending your money majority of the time that's one of the biggest red flags in the world that's one of the biggest red flags in the world because a man who like you he don't want you to spend a dime a man who like you don't want you to spend a dime and i'ma tell you when a man is into you he's going to get excited about that relationship and yes he may be cool with you planning to date but he's going to want to alternate like hey you playing that date hey i got something real dope i want us to do like it's going to be amazing when a man is into you he want to surprise you with some dates he want to he want to cater to you he want to be chivalrous like he wants to spend the money all of this right here is a hot mess all this is a mess system because not only is you sleeping with the brother of a one night stand which don't make it in just because one night stand don't make it any less a mess okay that's that's just as bad and so what do you guys have done is they have come together and this other brother he just kind of chilling he like a leaf in the wind he ain't got a whole lot going on in his life he don't have a lot of direction in his life and his brother who you had a one night stand with he feel bad for his brother so he like man hey you know just keep her around so he's not tripping he's not trying to take that role like hey bro you know i hit her man you can't do that man that nasty you can't touch him man i already know been there done that he like no bro go ahead and so you know if they close let me see you say we have we do have a bond and i believe he loves me i do believe he loves me i hate to break it to you because see if a man ain't planning on dates and he got you spending your money and he got you wasting your gas money to come to his house where he loved you at where where does he love you ain't nowhere he loved you but when he got you on your bike ain't no way he loved you in here ain't none of this in here love says come on come on just cuz y'all been knowing each other for five years that don't equate the love now then you say the one thing holding him back in my opinion is before i met him i slept with his brothers six prior six years prior to us meeting all right now that's six years that's some time okay it was only a one night stand but he is very close to his brother this right here this right here say a whole lot this right here said a whole lot this one sentence right here it was only a one night stand sis right there that right there paints the picture of you in his mind you're a jumper in his mind what the boy used to say caper i don't know what none of that mean but he just see you as sex it's it's no possible way for a man in the entire world who is a man who has a grown man inside of him to see a woman as a wife if she had one night stands is i know that's hard i know that it's hard to hear i know that's hard to hear it's so many ladies watching this right now that has on one night stand i mean i have some five one night stands i mean whoa that pole like you hear me thing still giving her chills about that one night stan listen don't tell nobody about that one night stand up between you and god because see some women do stuff like go and brag about a one-night stand yeah i've had one night stands but it's like that was in my past i was 18 years old 21 years old and it's like yeah you know i'm a fun girl i drink coca-cola and i just have fun and some women brag about doing stupid stuff thinking that the man is thinking she cool you don't get cool points for that you get food points for that and that's one thing a lot of women don't understand like man very judgmental men very judgmental way more judgmental than women way more judgmental so you got to realize that that right there you say the one and see your intuition told you your intuition is peeking and letting you know the one thing that's holding him back in my opinion is before i met with him i slept before i met him i slept with his brother six years prior to us meeting your intuition telling you that a woman's intuition unless you cope that a woman's intuition is never wrong you know unless nah if you've been told that you crazy your intuition probably wrong okay if you have not been told that you crazy you know by somebody that know you and love you anytime i uh of you know disgruntled ex call you crazy no somebody that know you in love you said girl listen you got a problem you got a problem you need to get some help if somebody said that to you your intuition is lying your intuition wrong but if you you know sound mind stable mind your intuition ain't lying to you you 100 right because think about that see remember men territorial and you got to think about this like would you want a man who slept with your sister if you got a sister if you have a sister or if you got a sister it's even better if you got a sister picture your sister again long stroke by your man that don't bother you if it don't bother you you're nasty if it don't bother you you're nasty if whoever watching this if that don't bother you you nasty i want to let you know if ain't nobody told you you nasty and you need to get some help okay ratna you need to be clicking out this video getting on my mentor.like now you hear me you need to be on my mentor that like now if that don't bother you listen i'm gonna tell you right here tell you right now like man we territorial you i was a grown boy when i met my wife but i was trying to listen i had on that interrogation like who you slept with who around here is left with man i'm not going to be walking around looking crazy you just slept with this man that man that man that man hey i needed to know you mean every guy i talked to when we was i hey y'all hey man i had to ask her how many she didn't sleep with me i need no man i'm not gonna be walking around here looking crazy and this man over here laughing at me because he didn't hit my chick and is it hypocritical yes is it a double standard yes do women allow the double standard yes that's that's what y'all got to change y'all got to start you got to get to the point where you tell a man listen no y'all with the double stab don't ask me who i slept with who you didn't slept with okay you want to put it on a lot of the tests to prove that's who that's all you gonna slept with okay you don't want to do all that all right start asking me that question then my pass is my pass how many women say that this minute maybe one maybe five out of five thousand most women gonna sit there and answer that question going to sit down and answer that question and so you know that right there let me know he don't want to be here he don't want to be in that relationship he don't want no parts that relationship so you say i'm just confused as to what i should do listen marriage ain't confusing marriage ain't confusing and that's what i try to tell you people say tony when you gonna tell somebody to work it out listen if you write me it's it's nine out of 10 times you write me it's you need to go about your business because love love is undeniable like love is clarity love is peace like when you in a situation you know you're supposed to be in you don't need my opinion you're not gonna ask the opinion of some random man on youtube when you asking somebody an opinion from youtube that you met through youtube [Music] you need to go about your business every now and then one of y'all i'm gonna have to say hey work that on out work that on out but in a situation like this listen your heart know what you need to do you gonna be see he may be cool with it and because y'all just keep playing around keep playing around he might just run out of options see no other woman is giving him no action no play he really meet nobody he may marry you you will be hearing about this right here you sleeping with his brother 10 years from now he'll be waking you up about your sleep with your little dildo what are you doing what are you doing then here he go just how big it was what you did with it that what you did show me what you did yeah so what you did with my brother you want him more than me he better than me did he do everything i do show what he did here yeah show me what he did you see what i'm saying 10 years from now that's how you'll be getting woke up why could he just fade wet nah i'm gonna hit myself a water bottle that's it that's it y'all dildo because and yeah y'all gonna have y'all wanted though because he finna be slaughterhouse with you he finna be wearing you out he's gonna just be doing everything with you because he really deep down don't respect you for two reasons one because you had a one night stand that say a whole lot about a person because when you have one night stand and listen i'd have been there i'd have been there but you know what i could tell you about myself i was nasty i was absolutely nasty okay supposed to have all kinds of diseases today the lord spared me and that's why i'm on here working that's why i work as hard as i work to shed light because the lord spared me the lord spared me listen so i know i was nasty i was lost i was hurting i was confused everything that you was on that one night stand so guess what on the outside looking in people going to judge you i know some of y'all want to watch your one night stand away and you want to delete you you know pass and you want to you know tell yourself that don't mean nothing you can't judge nobody about that everybody who told stepped on gonna have a comment about this right here they tearing that thumb down he's on my one night stand nobody respect you hey i'm just here to tell you see i my wife didn't know any of that about me we didn't talk about that you know we ain't talking about my past you know and i ain't asking about her past until we really got on in there but she never really my wife she very emotionally intelligent she never really came at me with insecurities like tell me about your past was she better than me did she do more than me have you ever been with somebody have you ever done this before she never really like came at me like that she just focused on herself and what she bring to the table and who she is and she left it like that so sometimes people you know they'll ask me what tony well how your wife except you how your wife did this list my wife didn't know about none of that see nobody know that i came and i showed her renewed man i showed her my representative and then when she found out i was faking she left me then we got back together six months later she left me again so she gave me one chance in dayton she gave me one chance in in marriage after that i ain't need no more chances when she left me in marriage for going back to the streets that wasn't for cheating or nothing like that that was for selling drugs but when she left me for that man i got rid of that i got optimum street i was right back you know on the straightened arrow you hear me i was at the foot of the cross and she had to leave me since and so don't compare apples and oranges here now because she my wife ain't know about that but about my past like that and so but in this right here he happens to know and when a man know the little bit i did find out about my wife pass that thing bothered me too like i said i was grown boy that thing bothered me even though i have a grown man the devil will come try to plant a little seed try to wake me up out my sleep that's how i know this stuff cause i'm a man i'm here to tell you i'm here to tell you now what i did the little description doesn't that really was an exaggeration i know it's me and that did that i know it just knowing me i ain't never did it but i just me knowing me and i know it's a man that had that conversation with they want me and some of the women watching this and i had a man really interrogate them like that so listen i'm telling you like this right here you could go for it if you want to but like i said you're going to be getting woke up about to sleep like i say he might wake up one day and just say i can't do this i can't do this because every time i close my eyes i just see my brother you and my brother i ain't gonna build a door y'all go to get married he's like look my brother gonna be my best man you looking at me are you looking at him you want to kiss me when the man say kiss the bride or you want my brother to kiss you like you gonna be hearing about that and they very close so the other flip side of this what i was saying to you what what i got sidetracked beside tracking myself is these men these two men what i assume my opinion is that they just conspired to say look bro it's cool like man boom right that was so long ago yeah one night but you know how i do but uh i'm in and out hey why can't we really all the way remember but hey man go ahead handle that you know do you hey you can have that and you go marry will go boy i just banged that night now you ain't gonna marry will oh okay you know man hey you have fun with it man just use until you get tired and then when you meet you somebody else going about your business you know what i'm saying just drop a like hey ain't dropping nothing like hey i hit that in one night you know what i'm saying what you dropping that's how men talk that's that i know that pain for the heel but y'all all you know y'all be asking oh hi man thanks what it is what did that then i'll be and i try to tell you i say listen you can't handle the truth you can't handle the truth the truth so ugly the truth so ugly yes and i'ma tell you right here [Music] your next out next time he get you out you know tell a lie don't keep his word showing disinterest this get distant the next time he get you out just ride that on out just let that out ride that on out just let that be your exit just go on about your beautiful got to go i'll see you later gotta go hey i'm gonna tell you there's a lot going in on this list to this again if you miss some of these points some of the things that i hit on you know that one night stand it didn't ruin you it ruined you it ruined your chances with this guy him knowing about that one night stand and the fact that it's his brother person that he know he has seen his meat leg see what i mean next man he ain't seeing his meat let he know what his brother meat looked like they used to take baths together jim's saying they closed so and that's what brothers do you know brothers and even just me who best friends you know all me and my homeboy who's out there some of y'all ladies and some of y'all women know about this if you got brothers or if you was on the receiving end but men get together and they just you know men pass women around some men same night in the same in the same room you know what we call running the train um some you know my football team you know that's this man that's why they that's why the typical man says bros before hos that's how men view women and if you take and put yourself in the way of being viewed like that like if you give a man just a sniff of a reason to see you in the wrong light he will never give you the benefit of the doubt so if he know you have one night stands cause see the bad part people said what's so wrong about a one-night stand well on a one-night stand you could catch hiv on a one-night stand you could catch genital wars a one-night stand you can catch herpes syphilis on a one-night stand you can get pregnant so to give your body to somebody in a one-night stand and risk your life that's what people don't understand like when you lie down with somebody you may get up and never be the same so a one night stand says a whole lot it says a whole lot and that's why i try to tell y'all this society will try to convince you and tell you that sex is casual and it is not it is not i did it i know i was out there that's why i ain't judging you i'm just enlightening you because you can't see yourself i'm just letting you know from the outside looking in i wish somebody would have let me know you see what i mean so hey if i was you i'd be hey you know it's been a cool run we didn't know each other five years we've been together a year you know i just don't see this going anywhere because it's already been six years i mean it's been five years so you know it was great knowing you but i don't want to put you in that predicament of you know have to be with me knowing that me and your brother had a little short stint so you know i wish you the best and that you meet your wife very soon and here's the thing he gonna beg you to stay he's gonna keep coming back you know why because men hate rejection men hate rejection men hate failure men hate being let go and so a man who do not want you will beg you to stay just because you telling him you finna move on and then when you stay he's then gonna let you go because now he know you wanted to go this time i know man listen they're gonna be mad with me hey i hate to tell the truth like that but hey god bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 28min 19sec (1699 seconds)

Published: Mon Jan 18 2021