Recognize The Red Flags Early!!

hey hey tony gaskins here popping in you know want to talk to you today about red flags this is very very important because every day somebody is losing their life over a relationship you know last night i was watching the um it was snapped i was watching snap with my wife about jody aries and the young lady who took the life for the young man she was dealing with you know sleeping with and it probably was something maybe he cheated on or maybe he wanted to leave her and she wanted to be with that money because he was making good money in the multi-level marketing he was in pre-paid legal i actually used to do pre-paid legal for a few months made 199 dollars in prepaid legal but he was you know said to be one of the top guys doing the speeches and stuff and the young lady you know took his life and the day i woke up and my sister told me about a young lady who her life was taken by her ex-boyfriend that she broke up with you know with these people nine out of 10 times is little signs it's little signs where they fly off the handle they get loud and irate they want to curse you out they they may slap you they may grab you they may push you they may slice your tiles they may bust your window just attitude aggressive just nine out of ten times the person that has that in them because you got to realize you have that in you and you haven't taken anyone's life now you have times where the people never show a sign that they never show a sign but it's not that likely and not many of us have direct hands-on experience with this because you sitting here watching this video so you still living and so you have seen some things you've heard some things but i'm here to tell you especially me being a man and being a man that used to show those signs very well capable of going all the way very well capable of it and and knew it and so in my last relationship i left the relationship because i knew what i was capable of and i knew what we kept getting into that it was so toxic i said this ain't love this ain't love because i'm becoming someone that i'm not i don't want to be here so i left the relationship because i could see where it was gonna go see when you get into all this pushing shoving screaming yelling irate crazy behavior it's gonna end one or two ways prison of the grave prison on the grave somebody going to prison or somebody going to the grave point blank period it might take five years might take 10 years might take 20 years prison or the grave and that's why i try to tell y'all that you know one type of you you shouldn't play with any form of abuse you shouldn't you shouldn't deal with any form of it but see this the thing you can actually have physical and not have verbal because see a lot of times the abuser does one or the other it don't always come together so a person who like to get physical they may be a few words they might not use a whole lot of words they might not be calling you ugly trashy sorry overweight out of body they might not be calling you all that it might just go from [Music] just like that now a person who is verbal using verbal abuse they might they may never throw in physical with that it might be verbal and emotional but see you got to pay attention to it because this is what i try to tell you when that physical come into play [Music] although verbal can be just as bad or worse you still breathing yeah your feelings hurt yeah your feelings hurt yeah you feeling down but you still breathing yeah you might feel like checking yourself out but if you get counseling you get therapy you get some coaching you get your mind strong you still breathing but when that physical come in no matter how strong you are don't don't matter what you're telling yourself that feels going to take you out you see what i mean so whenever that's in the play whenever that's in the play you got to go you got to go and and you got to recognize the precursor the antecedent behavior if it's there it's not always there and that's why you got to look at the character of a person that's why i'm always talking about evaluating the character of a person because see a good tree is going to produce good fruit a bad tree cannot produce good fruit so this person they're gonna have character flaws the person that can get you all the way up out of here they're gonna have character flaws might be a curser might be a drunkard might get high might gamble too much might still might lie might cheat do drops do fraud they're gonna have character flaws and it could be any type of character flaw stealing from the job calling themselves robin hood nope you stealing from job you're your thief your thief you see what i mean you can't let anything slip by you know cheating on the tax again getting 9999 back trying not to get 10k back and hit the red flag list where the irs gonna come dipping the nose in getting 99999 back and wasn't supposed to you're a thief cheating on them taxes so you got to look at character flaws and when you start to do that that's when you start to see what this person is capable of and you gotta recognize the red flags early you got to recognize them early because when it's too late it's too late when it's too late it's too late and you can't play with it because you desperate for a relationship you can't play with it because you done promoted and praised this person but behind closed doors they going upside your head and in the public you didn't posted all these cute pictures of y'all being an amazing couple [Music] and you afraid to leave because you got haters that you feel like is hoping your relationship fail so you hang in there and you stand with this person because you don't want to let your haters win you got family that you don't flaunt their relationship to and they hoping the best for you they rooting for you and you don't want to let them down got to go got to go it does not matter what who you've been told and i learned that from my wife you know she had to go tell all her friends tell all her friends all her parents i'm pregnant and i'm about to get married oh what you of all people the smartest one in the classroom you were supposed to be the doctor you were supposed to be successful she had to tell all the people so now they're looking down on them now they're looking at she didn't feel that light and then two months in the marriage she had to go back to him tell him hey i'm i'm leaving i didn't left jean kell i thought i had a trap i thought i had a trap i thought i was going to be able to do what i want to do and the reason why i thought i was going to be able to do what i want to do because i hadn't gotten to marry me so i'm like oh you trapped oh you try trapped nah we married oh yeah i'm feeling like up i'm finna be all the way a grown boy cause you can't get no divorce cause for one you christian we don't believe in divorces two you're gonna look like even more of a failure they'd be getting a divorce two months into your marriage that you ain't supposed to be in because you're still in college and your parents can't bring you over here from jamaica to get pregnant and married why before you finish your college degree and get a job so i'm thinking to myself you trap sight my bear oscar lavista oscar luego i look up gone you hear me gone going with the wind and so i say that to say i learned my wife taught me right then you got to be willing to leave no matter what you didn't invest it no matter what you okay you gotta go stay in the shelter all right bye shelter it is shelter it is you got to change your locks on your door you got to put a restraining order you got to call the police every day do what you got to do because people losing their whole entire life you hear me my little sister woke up i woke up to that about from from a little sister by the about a young lady who life was taken in and had three kids can't can't rewind that can't rewind that but what you got to do is you can't let that stuff right there be in vain you got to take a lesson from it okay wow her ex took her life she got three kids i'm dealing with this crazy man right okay to keep flying off a handle you know what the day the last day the day the last day don't let somebody else losing be taken for granted don't let them die in vain you got to get that lesson save your life because it's real out here it's real out here listen to me and even with old jody aries now when they first saw the picture i saw killer in her eyes i saw killing eyes because i just read people you know i just read people and i don't see plenty of women like that i just read them i i see you all the way but everybody don't have that same gift now so i'm pretty sure it was some precursors in there just showing little cycle ability little cycle where you at what you doing i tapped your phone i heard you i saw your text i heard your voicemail i saw what you said no you're not you're not at home you're at the casino i'm parked right behind your car guarantee a little stuff like that but see when you play with it when you play with it and and you allow this person to keep coming around and see what happens is what happens is you start to enjoy the crazy you start to enjoy the crazy you start to low key light the crazy start that crazy start to turn you on a little bit because you like oh this person really really care and you feel like you ain't never been cared about you feel like you ain't never really been loved oh this person really really care uh huh yeah no you slap crazy you slap crazy you letting that turn you on you slap crazy you need to go get you need to go to my mentor.life right now today and get coaching you slap crazy you letting that turn you on come on now come on you got to get it together you got to get it together you got to get yourself together you you dealing with this tom foolery you dealing with this food that you putting up with keep flying off the handle keep keep showing you psychoability come on now don't play with it don't play with it cause one day you ain't gonna be able to wake up from it you hit me people capable of stuff every human capable of this male and female every human capable of taking you all the way out so when you recognize be be fortunate that there's some red flags to recognize but when you recognize the red flag that psychoability stalking you following you tapping your phone tracking in your car overly questioning you flying off the handle any physicality you got to go you got to go listen to what i'm telling you don't play with it all right so what you're going to see you're going to see overly questioning you all right you're going to see tracking you you're gonna see they're gonna scream might yell might try to tangle up okay get physical a little push little slap anything slicing tires busting windows fighting somebody over you if they fight somebody over you got to go got they capable of it they capable of it listen to him all right yelling at you cursing at you calling you out your name they capable of it you could recognize it you could speak to it you could shut it down you get one you want to give it one chance like if it's verbal you want to give it one chance because some people just don't know how to talk to people they just ain't learned just saying just don't know no better because they whoever raised them talk to them like a piece of trash so that's just how they talk to people you check them let them know finito the last time you talked to me like that they coming at you like that again oh got to go got to go see you bye bye we got we got 11 kids all right we're we'll finish start a football team and you and and your child support gonna be buying equipment you see what i'm saying y'all come up with too many excuses oh i don't want to leave for the kids you rather be dead for them i don't want to leave because the kid oh they're harmless no they're not no they're not if they didn't got physical before they didn't show you that psycho ability didn't show that crazy not harmless just waiting on on the right day that they that the devil tickle they fancy and it won't be no coming back from it don't play with it because you don't want to be lonely don't play with it because you fear the other side don't play with it because you fearing the unknown don't play with it cause you got kids your kids rather have you single and struggling until you're not struggling anymore then how you dead and gone or how you locked up because you had to defend yourself but you still got due time listen to me get this all away in your spirit nah hey i can't i ain't got that long day um because i'll be harping on the same thing but i got an appointment i got to get to and i got to get this trash out for the um trash man come so do me a favor just for 15 minutes listen to this listen to this three more times get this in your spirit you want an hour a day you wanted an hour today listen to the three more times get this in your spirit and write down the red flags sit down today in your journal you need to have a notebook for these videos okay don't just be listening to these videos because they ain't gonna help you if you ain't got no notebook when you finish the video stop it or you can let it play again and write down your red flags that you watching for that's going to be a signal for you that you got to go all right hey this tony gaston god bless you remember this month 20 off the life coach certification so for you life coaches look i'm trying to help you the best i can it's really more than 20 off because the course really is 1500 so right now it's 800 i got to do the math on that percentage but um you don't need a coupon code it's on tonygassinacademy.com and we only got a few days left in a month now so i want to hear it from you if you're already taking it make sure you go ahead and join mymentor.life so you can start meeting clients hey tony guys and god bless you we'll talk soon

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Published: Mon Jul 20 2020