r/Relationships My Girlfriend Is Making Me Choose Between Her And My Cat

welcome to our slash relationship advice where opi's girlfriend demands that he gets rid of his cat my wife won't stop forcing me to drink her coffee i don't want to hurt her feelings but i can't go on like this my wife lost her job recently while i'm currently working from my home office because i don't get a chance to take breaks she's kind enough to bring me a coffee once in a while nothing fancy just regular fields or coffee this used to only happen once every few hours so in an average day i drink maybe two to three cups of coffee that was fine the problem has come in recent weeks when i sit down on my desk usually at 8am there's a steaming cup of coffee waiting for me great i drank it but almost as soon as i finished my wife will come in and leave me with a fresh cup of coffee every 15 to 20 minutes she'll come into the room and bring me more coffee i like coffee enough in the mornings but i do not need to chug gallons of it throughout the day the mugs she brings me are not small either there are some issues that i don't know how to explain or address if i let the coffee go cold she'll make upset faces and often refuse to speak to me sometimes for hours or even a full day until i ask her for more coffee i will admit that sometimes i deliberately don't drink my morning coffee on purpose so i can get a few hours of peace we've talked about this repeatedly and almost daily at this point every time she comes in with a coffee i'll tell her that i've had enough and i don't want anymore she will often just silently put the coffee down next to me and the process will repeat again i've asked for other drinks water or coke sometimes and she'll sometimes bring those instead but as soon as i but as soon as i finish she'll bring me another coffee now i'm getting regular headaches nausea and sometimes i'll be able to feel my own heartbeat i don't think for a second that all this coffee is good for me i'm sorry op i don't know i don't know why i'm laughing at this story it's just ridiculous so my brain immediately went to two places one option is it sounds like your wife is really bored and wants to be useful and the only thing she can think of is getting you a cup of coffee the second option which i'm sure isn't the case is that she's trying to kill you and that there's tiny little bits of antifreeze in your coffee but maybe that's just because i've been watching too many crime documentaries on netflix my girlfriend's dad discouraged me from proposing because their family isn't thrilled about us having dark babies me and my girlfriend naomi are an interracial couple with her being korean and me being black we've dated for just under five years now and for the past few months i've been planning on proposing i am pretty traditional so i thought it would be a good idea to ask naomi's dad for her blessings before i proposed when i arrived at their house i was greeted by naomi's mother and father who invited me in after a little talking i told them that i was going to propose and wanted their blessing her mother was ecstatic and her father didn't seem displeased and he told me it was okay for me to propose we talked more and the topic of babies was brought up by her mother i told her that i wanted to have kids with her and she got even happier we continued talking and when i told him that i needed to start hitting home her mother said she would send me home with some food and left for the kitchen me and her dad have a small language barrier between us that usually is alleviated by either naomi or our mother so we kinda just sat there in silence he told me this and i'll clean it up but it was difficult to understand as he isn't great at english you're a very nice young man and we like you a lot we'd be happy to have you in our family but we're not too happy about you and her having dark babies i was stunned and kinda just awkwardly laughed we sat there for another two minutes before her mom came out with a wrapped plate when i got home i said nothing about this to naomi i know i need to talk to her about what was said but i don't want to be the one that accuses her family of being racists i know this is probably irrational but the way her father said it put the thought in my head that naomi may not want kids because of how dark i am how do i approach her about this in the least accusatory way possible and then opie posted an update yesterday afternoon i sat my girlfriend down and had a conversation with her about what her dad said to me i tried to leave out any mention of the proposal and told her i was in the neighborhood and decided to pop by it was a terrible lie i know but she bought it i told her what her dad said about us having dark babies and asked if she had any similar feelings about our kids popping out half black she looked at me like i was out of my mind she said she didn't give a flip about the color of her kids as long as i was a dad which was reassuring she was not so happy with her dad she wanted us to take a drive over there and talk with her parents about it that evening we dropped by unannounced and when our mom opened the door to see us she immediately asked naomi to show her the ring naomi was confused and i just about panicked i like an idiot didn't call ahead to her parents that i hadn't proposed i guess her mom thought we were going to surprise her with the engagement and assumed i had already proposed i was speechless they began speaking in korean but from context i assume her mom was asking if i was too cheap to buy her an engagement ring and naomi looked at me and started hugging and kissing me my secret was out and i told her i'd already asked her parents for their blessing she was a few seconds from crying but sucked it up so we could speak to her dad like i said in my original post my future father-in-law isn't great in english so he and naomi spoke in korean according to naomi she asked him why he told me that and he said that he was worried about their extended family not viewing our babies as korean and being rude to them or me for being black i guess this didn't come across well in english because he was just concerned for me and our kids he didn't care that our babies would have dark skin this was a huge relief her father isn't the racist their extended families are but like after them who cares what they think i'm just so glad that our future kids are gonna have grandparents that are gonna love them the only downside is now naomi's expecting my proposal so i've really gotta knock her socks off thanks so much for the help i'm a 22 year old guy and my 21 year old vegan girlfriend wants me to get rid of my cat i've been dating my girlfriend for seven months she's amazing and we're super compatible in a lot of ways she's an outspoken vegan and she made it clear at the start of our relationship that it was important to her that any potential partner had similar cruelty-free values me already being a pescetarian had little difficulty transitioning to a fully plant-based diet my girlfriend was proud of me for going cruelty-free and everything seemed well we became the vegan couple on our college campus then there's my cat mittens i've had her for three years and i adore her she's such a sweet and cuddly cats however my girlfriend was always a little apprehensive around her and she blamed it on not growing up around cats after a while we sort of made a tacit agreement to mostly hang out at her apartment instead of mine so mittens never really came up again in conversation fast forward through all the quarantine stuff my girlfriend and i have spent a lot of time together during this pandemic and we started talking about taking our relationship to the next level we began seriously looking at either buying a new apartment together or having one of us move in with the other however after a lot of talking and planning my girlfriend sat me down and dropped a bombshell on me she said that with this next phase of the relationship she didn't see a future with me unless i was willing to give away mittens she said that she believed owning a cat is unconscionable for vegans because they hunt mice and eat mead and because the very act of owning a pet is violation of vegan principles i was stunned i told her i was absolutely not willing to give up mittens and my cat had no choice but to eat meat so i was reducing harm as much as possible by buying reputable brands of cat food plenty of vegans own cats and think along those same lines my girlfriend got mad and said how much flesh does your cat eat how many animals died to make all that food would you be okay with that being human flesh i got mad and told my girlfriend that i would have really appreciated her telling me about her cat opinions before we got serious she went on and on about cats killing animals i ended the conversation there i got so angry that i left my girlfriend's apartment and i snuggled with mittens when i got home although the mood soured a bit when my girlfriend sent me a link to a reddit thread advocating for the extinction of domestic cats sigh i think it goes without saying that i'm not going to get rid of my cat however it pains me to think that an otherwise wonderful relationship could be ending because of a difference in ideology i don't even really understand where my girlfriend is coming from because like i said a lot of vegans own cats now granted cat ownership can be a controversial topic in vegan circles and i probably wouldn't have gotten a cat if i had been vegan at the time but i have mittens now and she deserves to eat yes i've researched vegan cat food but mittens has some digestive issues and my vets strongly cautions against it i've talked to some of my vegan and vegetarian friends and they all think my girlfriend has lost her mind some have suggested that it's not about mittens and my girlfriend just wants an excuse to end it they probably don't understand why i haven't broken up yet but i care about my girlfriends so much i'd hate for this bizarre curveball to be the end of a beautiful thing i want to try and work something out where do i even go from here i will not compromise on mittens and i don't think my girlfriend will compromise either down in the comments i like this post from chaka hanukkah see if the local shelter will allow you to surrender your girlfriend and then opie posted an update i would like to preempt this post by saying as many users point out that my girlfriend's extreme views on domestic cats are not representative of the vegan or vegetarian community as a whole i do think that sometimes new vegans can be a little overzealous in reality most of us are just doing the best we can to not hurt animals i didn't expect to generate a big debate in the comments so we broke up obviously i would never ever give up my cat mittens many users said the situation was about control not veganism and looking back i do see a pattern of control on my girlfriend's part i was blind to it i guess i called my girlfriend and said i was not willing to give up mittens under any circumstances and given the recent issues we'd had in our incompatible views i thought it was best that we parted ways i said she deserved a partner that shared her values she then asked if we were breaking up and i said yes there was some anger on her end but otherwise the situation actually went better than i expected so yeah that's really it down in the comments thuber says you chose the right [ __ ] sir i'm a 29 year old female and i keep finding long hairs in my bathroom which is strange because my husband is bald and i have a short pixie crop hairstyle this started a few weeks ago while cleaning the bathroom i found a number of long hair strands over my bathroom wall by the shower this struck me as very odd because not only does my husband not have hair i also wear a very cropped short hairstyle so it's impossible for the strands i found to belong to either me or my husband confused i washed them away but i couldn't stop thinking about it i decided to not mention it but kept looking out for them there seems to be a pattern that there's hairs appearing when i'm either at work or out for a longer time period i feel like i'm going crazy and feel like i shouldn't just immediately go to my husband cheating on me with a longer-haired woman i asked my husband about it and he just shrugged which makes me more paranoid as surely there's something that's strange so why is he so blase about it i'm starting to think he's playing it down to stop me from finding the truth it happened again two days ago and i asked my husband again he dismissed it but this time admitted it's strange but told me the only explanation is that they must be my hairs they're not and after saying so now he'll just ignore me if i bring it up i don't want to assume my husband is cheating on me and accuse him of such over something so ridiculous but i'm driving myself into the ground trying to work out how the hairs have gotten there without my husband dismissing it as nothing during lockdown we haven't had any visitors that i know of so i can rule out his sister and then op posted an update i ultimately decided against getting a secret camera set up because ironically enough i didn't want to betray my partner's trust though part of me wanted to get one to squash any worries of someone living in my walls as some people suggested i did though plan to leave work early which is something i've never done before my boss allowed me to leave after a half day upon returning home nothing seemed to miss i was expecting another car on the driver parked outside on the street there was no other car i didn't recognize quietly letting myself in i was immediately confused in the hallway there was a pair of shoes i didn't recognize and not only that they looked like men's shoes i was standing in the hallway trying to work out what to do if i should sneak around or make my presence known before i could decide my husband walked out of the kitchen with two cups of tea by my husband's face it was obvious he was surprised to see me playing along with naivete i asked my husband how he could have known i was coming home early to make me tea expecting my husband to lie he surprised me by sitting me down and explaining everything at the beginning of lockdown his friend someone i'm not at all close with because i've only met once was evicted lost his job and had been couch surfing so on some days over the past couple of weeks this guy had been traveling to our house and with the knowledge of my husband using our bathroom to freshen up to attend interviews he was also borrowing shirts and suits from my husband as it turns out my husband's friend has long hair and a beard so it turns out my husband isn't cheating on me but was hiding the fact that his long-haired friend was coming over to use our shower after a shower i ended up meeting dave and he turned out to be a very nice person just down on his luck i wish him the best for his socially distant interview and he went on his way i asked my husband why he didn't just tell me as i wouldn't have had a problem with it turns out he was worried about my reaction and me not liking his friend or approving of the situation he also told me dave was very embarrassed about the whole situation and didn't want people to know what he was having to do i told my husband i was starting to believe he was cheating and he was shocked having not even considered those implications while attempting to cover for his friend i told him this whole thing was ridiculous and he even suggested his friend live with us until he gets back on his feet funnily enough my worst case scenario that was mentioned in the replies was a homeless man or woman living in my walls and sneakily using the shower and though this seems to be half the case i'm glad this was just an unwelcome stranger and not someone that was living in my walls opie while reading this story i was developing like five different theories in my head about what could have caused this but this explanation was actually not on my list i'm really glad that this curveball ending happened to also be a happy ending that was our slash relationship advice and if you like this video then check out my podcast where i publish the exact same content also hit that subscribe button because i put out new reddit videos every single day

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Length: 15min 51sec (951 seconds)

Published: Sun Aug 16 2020