r/AmITheA**hole I Reported My Mom For Stealing $43,000 From Me

welcome to our slash am i the butthole where opie reports his mom to the cops for stealing 43 000 from him am i the butthole for reporting my mom for identity fraud i'm a 24 year old guy and my girlfriend put in an application to rent a condo and she found out that my mom borrowed 43 000 using my social insurance i talked with a lawyer and he told me that i could either report my mom for identity fraud pay it off or declare bankruptcy i confront my mom and she begged me not to do it and to just pay off the debts i don't have anywhere near that money so i decided to do what the lawyer recommended the lawyer told me that filling out the police report is not the same as pressing charges but i'm still scared about what might happen to her we used to be very poor and she used my social insurance to pay the bills and provide for me and my brother this feels like i'm betraying her and her and my brother refused to speak to me my relatives have all stopped talking to me am i the butthole here op your mother just straight up stole from a child and not some trivial amount either 43 thousand dollars that is a life-changing life-destroying amount of money going forty-three thousand dollars into debt can easily set you back by like five years at least so no op if she wants to spend the money she can pay off the debt i can't believe that even after she got caught she has the audacity to say that you have to pay it off and then after you refuse to let your mom steal from you she turns your entire family against you also she says that she spent the money on you and your brother keyword says you don't know what she spent the money on and she already lied to you once by omitting the fact that she stole from you so can you really trust her to tell you the truth about how she spent the money no op you get zero out of five buttholes your mom gets four out of five buttholes man down in an edit op clarifies that she didn't actually borrow 43 000. she originally borrowed 10 to 20 000 but over time it grew that large with interest and fees so if it weren't for op's girlfriend accidentally finding out about your debt then theoretically you still wouldn't know about this op what if that debt just kept growing and growing and then by the time that you're 30 it's like a hundred thousand dollars of debt and you find that out when you go try to buy your first house i don't know four out of five buttholes is feeling a little light on this one i think i need to up it to 4.5 out of 5 buttholes am i the butthole for pretending to not know my grandparents just for some background information i'm a 19 year old girl and when i was 4 years old my dad died at his funeral my dad's parents told me my mom and my sister that we are the reason why he died they also kept his life insurance money that was supposed to go to my sister and i since then my grandparents have refused contact with all three of us and the only form of contact i have with them is them sending me and my sister a 50 gift card to walmart twice a year on my birthday and on christmas the last time i received a gift card from them was on my 10th birthday and it was for babies or us i haven't heard from them since they live in florida and i live in new york so i have no chance of seeing them either at least i thought fast forward to three days ago i was in walmart near my house to get a few things from my mom when i walked past the pharmacy i saw my dad's parents i tried to hide in the aisles because i didn't want confrontation but they saw me anyway they started asking me a bunch of questions about my family's financial situation in college and if i'm married yet stuff like that i responded by saying i have no idea who you are they looked angry and shocked by this but they told me who they were i told them that i had no desire to talk to them and i didn't have anything to say to them anyway i started walking away and was just going to leave it alone but then they said you are so disrespectful we are your grandparents and you need to treat us better than that your mom did a terrible job with you after that comment i turned around and went off on them i said you are not my grandparents because you abandoned my sister and i after telling us that we're the reasons for our dad's death and you stole his money from us don't you dare talk about my mother either because she did an amazing job with us without any help from you two i'd be happy with never seeing your sorry faces again i started to walk away again and i heard my grandmother start to cry but i kept walking am i the butthole they're technically my grandparents but they did so many things that are unforgivable op you really kind of summed it up in that last line there should you forgive your grandparents for doing something unforgivable no because it was unforgivable like the crazy thing is it's not hard to earn a child's love if they really wanted you to treat them like grandparents then they should have acted like grandparents not like strangers op you get 0 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving your grandparents oh excuse me actually i noticed during your post that you tried to refrain from calling them grandparents and instead called them your father's parents i agree with you op i'm giving your father's parents four out of five buttholes am i the butthole for kicking my brother's fiance out of my car on her engagement night my brother's engagement dinner was last night i do not like his fiancee for several reasons she's just mean and brutally honest with her comments about my life always trying to belittle me every chance she gets like she belittles my degree in my living situation i try to be civil but i have a temper and sometimes i can be mean back my wife recently passed away from breast cancer we bought a car and it was the first decent car that i've ever owned and my wife and i didn't make a lot of money so it was a challenge to save up for it my wife picked that car so i make sure to keep it maintained regularly my brother's fiance made comments about it calling it a piece of junk and it hurt because it was part of mine and my wife's past when the party was over my brother didn't want to take an uber he wanted me to give them a ride and i said okay but his fiance stood there saying that she wasn't going to ride in that piece of junk on her engagement night i got really annoyed by that comment and my mom who was in the passenger seat did too my brother spent five minutes convincing her and she finally got inside the car but she didn't stop with her constant criticisms about how awful and dirty my car was continuously calling it a piece of junk my brother didn't say anything so i made eye contact with her through the rearview mirror and said that if she called my car a piece of junk one more time she's out i don't care if i drop her off in the middle of nowhere my brother's fiance went quiet for a few minutes then she commented on the necklace that was hanging from the rear-view mirror calling it ugly asking why i'd hang cheap ugly stuff to make this piece of junk even uglier i effing had it that necklace belonged to my wife for christ's sake i got mad so i stopped the car and told her to shut the f up and get the f out my brother asked if i was serious while my mom was trying to get me to continue driving i repeatedly told her to get out but she didn't so i got out walked over and opened the door for her to step out she started crying and my brother called me nuts for acting out like that i told both of them to get out and they did i drove off and my mom didn't stop yelling saying that i can't leave them on the street they just got engaged she told me to turn around and pick them up but i screamed at her to stay the f out of it or she'll join them she told the family what i did and my dad was pissed saying that it was disgraceful to do this to my brother and his fiancee and i should be ashamed of myself for making a scene on their engagement night he said that i need serious help for my anger and i should have just sucked it up until i got home i just walked out of my dad mid-argument i'm sure my brother doesn't want to see me for letting him down on such a special night in his life but his fiance was being disrespectful so was i the butthole opie i feel like your brother is mad at you now but i predict that in about two years or so you're gonna be having a beer with your brother and he's gonna be like man and once i got married she just turned into a total b word how did i not see any of the signs op you get a solid zero out of five buttholes on this one she was being extremely disrespectful and she was being disrespectful while you were doing her a favor she gets three out of five buttholes your brother gets two out of five buttholes and your parents get one out of five buttholes honestly though op as bad as this was for you i mostly feel sorry for your brother can you imagine being married to someone who's this rude and disrespectful man i can't even imagine having to beg my wife to do something in front of my parents and my brother and she just refuses and then when she finally does she just criticizes it constantly oh my god that's embarrassing and extremely disrespectful op i really hope that your brother can see the light before it's too late am i the butthole for calling my husband delusional for expecting me to rehire the babysitter after she read our daughter's journal my husband and i work long shifts we have three kids and for years we've been hiring babysitters of different kinds to help the kids my oldest child is my 14 year old daughter lauren she's been going through a rough phase after her best friend passed away from leukemia in december it hugely impacted her she received therapy for two months and is doing better now but grief has no timeline and she misses her besties so much i do all i can to be available and lend a comforting shoulder we got her a new journal to write down her thoughts and feelings and she's been doing a lot better since she had it we were looking for a babysitter and my husband suggested his friend's 17 year old daughter i knew her so i said yes right away she worked for us for a few weeks and she would sometimes tease lauren about her being uptight never smiling and giving her the nickname grinch i told her to stop it but she said that she was just messing with her trying to get her to cheer up no biggie days ago while i was working lauren called me and was crying saying that i needed to come home i freaked out and when i got there i saw the babysitter sitting with the kids and lauren was upstairs she said the babysitter took her journal and started reading it out loud in front of the kids while recording herself i was extremely pissed off i asked the babysitter and she said that she was just messing with lauren and showing her that it was okay to speak emotions out loud instead of bottling them up she really thought that she was helping lauren overcome her fear of expressing herself i yelled at her saying that this wasn't her place and that she caused more trouble than ever she apologized and swore that she deleted the video but i told her that she could no longer work for us and she had to leave she broke down crying and apologizing to me and lauren but i refuse to let her keep her job and i know that lauren doesn't want her to be around anymore my husband came home and he was upset that i fired the babysitter reminding me that this was his friend's daughter and i shouldn't have fired her he argued that i handled this the wrong way and that i should have been the adult in this situation instead of yelling and kicking her out i explained what she did to lauren but he said i agree with you on this she should have known better but she didn't kids her age make mistakes what's done is done she's apologized so we should give her another chance he kept going on about how this impacted his friendship of 14 years also we're now without a babysitter and he has a trip this week so i have no choice but to let her come back but i said no she will never step foot in this house again he called me unreasonable as if i'm acting like i get to decide everything and that he doesn't get to have an opinion he said this is his house too i ended up calling him delusional for expecting me to re-hire her after the stunt she pulled on lauren and i will not let that happen because my daughter has to feel comfortable in her own home he got very upset for what i said and has stopped speaking to me am i the butthole all right op let's tackle the babysitter first what that babysitter did was a major violation of trust just at its basic level reading someone else's diary is extremely rude reading a child's diary in front of other people while recording it is extra bad not only did she fundamentally disrespect you lauren and your household but also like you said op your daughter has the right to feel comfortable in her own home how is lauren ever supposed to feel comfortable or safe in her own home again when this person is watching over her i'm giving the babysitter 2.5 out of 5 buttholes now opie let's move on to your husband your husband got upset that this impacted his friendship of 14 years well what about his daughter of 14 years shouldn't she take precedence over some friend i'm gonna be straight with you op your husband is not being a father in this moment what kind of father chooses his friend over his victimized daughter and then he has the nerve to come at you op and get mad at you because he didn't get to have a say in this decision i mean yeah don't get me wrong marriage is about compromise and couples should make decisions together but some things just aren't about compromise sometimes you set hard deal breakers and the other person just can't compromise with you if one spouse wants to cheat and the other spouse doesn't want to cheat then you don't compromise by saying well sometimes i get to cheat no that is a clear cut and dry deal breaker and there is no compromise to be had you've got a similar situation here op this babysitter has violated both your and your daughter's trust in a way that you can't get over so you're setting a clear boundary and your husband expects you to just compromise actually it's not even compromised he expects you to just accept the apology and hire your back so it's not a compromise it's him getting his way 100 look i don't even know why i'm arguing about this at the end of the day this is very simple your husband chose one of his friends over his own flesh and blood daughter and that's just not what a man does i'm giving your husband 3.5 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes am i the butthole for leaving a family gathering and insisting my mother-in-law apologize over m m's i'm a 34 year old woman and my 31 year old wife and i have two wonderful kids four-year-old twins a boy and a girl they were conceived with my wife's eggs a known sperm donor and i carried and birthed them both kids practically ended up being clones of my wife so it's pretty clear to everyone who contributed the genetic material my in-laws had everyone together at their house earlier this month we're all vaccinated and the weather was nice so we had a barbecue my kids were outside playing with their cousins so i was chatting in the kitchen with my sister-in-law and mother-in-law at one point my two kids run inside from playing and ask if they can have some m m's they see on the counter i tell them no we're going to be eating in 15 minutes you can have them after dinner they run back outside and my mother-in-law excuses herself to go outside a little later we get the call that food is ready so we go outside and i see my kids each have a little cup full of m m's that they're eating i tell my kids that they knew they weren't supposed to be eating those and i took away the cups my mother-in-law came over and said that she gave them the m m's and they can have them to which i replied no they can't it's dinner time you were there when i told them no my mother-in-law said they can have some chocolate it's fine and she tried to take the cups from my hands we go back and forth with no yes no for a minute which prompted my wife to start walking over to us just in time to hear my mother-in-law say in front of the kids i'm saying it's okay they aren't even your kids they're your wife so just give them the chocolate my wife said absolutely not we're leaving i put the m ms on the nearest table grab both of my kids who were now softly crying and started to pack our stuff the whole event erupted in chaos with my father-in-law screaming about the disrespect of us leaving the grandmother crying my wife's siblings arguing with her father and my mother-in-law crying that her only daughter is abandoning me it was a mess after a couple of hours at home the kids seemed okay but my mother-in-law saying that i'm not their mom really scared them my wife spent about four hours on rotating phone calls with all of her family from her father screaming at her to her mother crying over how we took her grandkids away over m m's and made her out to be a bad grandma her brother trying to get in the drama and her grandmother depressed saying that she would die without seeing her great-grandkids again my wife's message to all of them was that her mother needed to apologize to me and our kids for what she said we made it clear that we would have no problem spending time with my wife's grandma and my brother-in-law's family but we wouldn't bring the kids around the mother-in-law until she apologized as you can guess the apology hasn't happened but the phone calls of guilt trips yelling and crying haven't let up i feel like an apology isn't even a big deal and at this point my mother-in-law is making the choice to not see her grandkids i want to hold firm but i know how hard this is on my wife even if i really don't think that it's my fault am i the butthole for insisting on an apology alright so the father from the last story the guy who got upset because his friend's daughter the babysitter got fired he should pay close attention to op's spouse in this story because that's how a real parent how a real partner acts in situations like these i just gotta say kudos op your wife sounds wonderful her own mother insulted her wife's authority and then insulted her and she immediately had your back so just major kudos to her she did exactly what she should have done that situation opie i'm with you on this one what your mother-in-law did was awful and you absolutely 100 should insist on getting an apology from your mother-in-law she completely disrespected your marriage your parenthood and your entire family and on top of that she undermined your authority as a parent if you don't stand firm and waiting for an apology then you can expect your mother-in-law to never respect your wishes as a parent for the rest of your life and like so what if she doesn't she's being super toxic she's literally choosing her own pride over her grandkids if i had a grandkid and my what would it be my daughter-in-law got upset at me over something i did and my daughter-in-law said you can never ever see your grandkids again until you apologize i don't care what it is i will apolo i'll make a youtube video about how very very sorry i am and publish it to my millions of subscribers and say look everyone i'm wrong i'm bad i'm the bad person i'm the bad guy i'm very very sorry please let me see my grandkids again because they're my grandkids but she's gonna be like no i'd rather be right than see my daughter see my daughter and my grandkids it's not just the grandkids because the daughter's not in the situation either man imagine having such a huge ego that you're literally willing to cut your daughter and your grandkids out of your life just because you don't want to say i'm sorry like what's the what's the big deal man stop being a toxic little turd mother-in-law and just apologize opie you get zero out of five buttholes your wife gets like negative buttholes she gets like negative two out of five buttholes because she exhibited absolutely perfect behavior there is nothing she could have done better than what she already did your mother-in-law gets four out of five buttholes that was our slash in my the butthole and if you like this content check out my patreon where i publish extra episodes also hit that subscribe button because i put out new reddit videos every single day

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Length: 19min 51sec (1191 seconds)

Published: Fri Jun 11 2021